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Just stop watching porn, stop beating your meat, and start developing habits that are actually good for you and will benefit you. Install blockers on your device if you need them, there are blockers in this link (Blockers) if you need them and do whatever you can to put porn out of your way. Then you shall do exercise frequently, as that will diminish urges and help your brain focus. Take cold showers as that almost always kills urges and helps you lose brain fog and gain concentration. Take walks outside and try to socialize, do things that don't leave you lonely often. Start thinking about your future and your current life and how you can improve it, and stop thinking about those fetishes and pornographic thoughts. Don't think "I need to get rid of porn", instead think "I don't watch porn" and go along with your life. Keep yourself busy, and remember that failure will happen.

Stay safe out there.

Thank you! The emphasis on willpower does little to motivate those who are low on it, aside from making them feel defeated before they've even bugun. Creating small nudges to shape your environment is much more effective and practical IMO in changing behavior.

I also use app blockers. In particular, I use focusme for desktop u/minecraft_god_2008 would highly recommend checking this out and specifically having someone else assign a password for the block. you can then go to them if you want the app unblocked, but I found that when I did this, I never once asked my SO for the password (except one to research something that contained a blocked phrase, that's it!) I totally kicked my video game addiction within a week or two, and now I almost never think about games. It's paid but it was totally worth it (you can get it for a big discount if using the student plan)

Other nudges or tips

• Write out a list of activities of things you can do. Refer to it often, print it out and maybe redirect your new tab to it
• Have the pieces to do those activities ready. E.g. if you want to read more, download a bunch of books onto a kindle, or buy the books you want to read. Have a few options so that you aren't waiting to be in the mood for one. If it's a hobby, get the items needed for that hobby
• Turn off your phone on days that you don't need it. Put it out of sight. Try to spend at least one day a week not looking at screens. It's a lot easier to go all or nothing IMO (at least for a day) than to have it in small amounts.
• I always recommend routinery - it's an app that helps you create a routine and then will auto progress to the next item when you finish the first. It's been awesome for helping me exercise every day, but you can use it to do whatever you want to start your day well. e.g. plan out what you want to do, write out your top priority for the day, do a relaxing activity etc

Hey! Congratulations! I'm taking my last semester in the autumn, so I feel you! Fortunately, I'm majoring in economics and it has a solution with two parts.

1. Make not doing your work more costly. At the end of last semester, I used FocusMe to completely block social media for the first half of the day. I would try to sign into Reddit and the program would immediately close the tab. I got a lot of work done and even managed to recover some grades. In one class, I went from 69%-83%, which managed to get me a low A (it was a hard class).

2. Make doing what you need to do less costly. Set up your browser so that every time you open it, the tabs you are required to use automatically pop up by setting them as home pages. Set out your study materials before you even go to bed (assuming you study in the morning). This can become part of a nightly routine that sets you up for success.

There's more, but that should be a strong start, hopefully. If you want to get more work done, then make getting work done the path of least resistance. That might not be "discipline" as it is popularly portrayed. But if getting work done is the aim, then it will suffice.

I think blockers are useful, and I have some that you can probably use (Blockers) and will hopefully help you to prevent porn encounters.

Get software that monitors you and keeps you productive. I have it on a schedule so it is running already when I wake up. My morning routine has some 10 minutes or so for my blocked sites in case I want to indulge or clear out notifications, but after that I am forced to work...

This is my favorite and most difficult to bypass version: https://focusme.com

It's not a stupid idea. Sometimes small differences in accessibility can make a big difference in outcome.

Simple example IRL here. We used to always keep a tub of ice cream in the house, in the freezer portion of our fridge in the kitchen. It was easy and accessible and so it got eaten fast. Also, since it was a tub, it was easy to (knowingly or unknowingly) eat far more than a "serving" (which for ice cream is laughably small). I sometimes would even walk by and just grab a spoonful.

We switched to things like Klondike bars. They are in the deep freeze in the basement. And they are discrete units. So it requires a specific decision to go downstairs and take one, knowing what you are doing and what it contains. Even though it's only 30 seconds to get one, this has cut down my ice cream consumption by probably 50-75%.

That said, it depends on your level of discipline. You don't want to buy a second laptop and then just end up with both on the desk and you still distracted on top of being out a few hundred dollars.

So, knowing yourself, do you think it will really work?

Also, before you do this, look into software blocking tools. There are several designed for this specific purpose, like this one: https://focusme.com/

Years ago I knew someone who had his Internet connection wired through a coupler on his desk. When he found himself wasting too much time online, he'd physically disconnect himself from the Internet...

I totally agree, my teacher back in school told me the same: 15 mins break and you feel refreshed. I leave the workspace for the break and take a short walk in the fresh air- that helps a lot.

Read here why breaks are so important: Take A Break - You Deserve It!

I know where are you coming from . This had become normal in friend circle too but they all are doing fine .

I am assuming you have tried almost everything but you have failed miserably .

Patanjali says in the very first YogSutra - अथ योगानुशासनम्. Discipline is the key for yoga .

Yoga Vasitha says - All past karmas can be overcome or suppressed by पुरुषार्थ alone .

What to do ? 1 . Download Stay Focused app for mobile . Purchase unlimited subscription . Initiate Strict mode . Block all websites and keywords you can . Block whole mobile usage for some day .Block soft porn apps like alt balaji etc .

1. Download focusme for laptop and computer and repeat above procedure .

https://focusme.com/

3 . I do not trust you that you are into Yoga , Pranayam or mediation . Had you been in , you would have been out by now . Anyways . I want you to do art of living's yes+ / happiness program . They will teach you Sudarshan Kriya

4 . Practice the sudarshan kriya for next 42 days . I tell you this with enormous responsibility that you will be out 50% from addiction. Practice it for next 6 months you will be out completely . I GUARANTEE THIS .

5 . After 6 months , start cutting tamasic and rajasi food gradually . Start with - onion , garlic and meat .

Contact me if you still dont get it .

Patanjali says -

प्रच्छर्दनविधारणाभ्यां वा प्राणस्य .

Read - https://www.artofliving.org/yoga/patanjali-yogasutra/knowledge-sheet-32 .

https://www.artofliving.org/in-en/yoga/patanjali-yogasutra/knowledge-sheet-85

Try FocusMe app - FocusMe – Official | The Best Website Blocker & Focus App

It works well for Windows, Mac, and Android. Currently has 4.9/5 reviews from Trustpilot. You can try it first and just ask when you have any questions. :)

Hi, apologies as we have only just seen your post. That sounds like a bug, but it might have been fixed by now anyway - we are happy to look into it for you! Can you please reach out to our support team? https://focusme.com/support/

Thanks!

I’m not a porn addict and normally just lurk here enjoying you folks supporting each other. I do have ADHD though and I have huge trouble with impulsive behaviors. One thing that worked for me is FocusMe. https://focusme.com

It’s so comprehensive that when I looked at the tools I had a “holy shit” moment and made a note to be careful because I could lock myself out of my computer forever if I wasn’t careful. It gives you the option to do whatever restriction you decide is needed with a password that changes on a regular basis and is also given to someone else. It’s incredible. Highly recommend.

> it doesn't have to be something that is 100% secured. it just has to be something that is a huge huge pain in the ass to remove

So malware basically. I'm struggling with this too, especially when my gaming PC and my work PC are the same.

You could try something like this: https://focusme.com/

I've come to realise that stuff like that doesn't work. I can just uninstall it. When I'm not in the mood for it, I'll just ignore it or work around it. I've got a bunch of other devices I can just go and be unproductive with instead.

Try the Pomodoro Technique. You know when you should be working, it's really the case of just working when you know you should be, and getting the reward later in the day of games or whatever, and then getting used to that by forcing yourself to do it until you're just sort of doing it without having to go "ugh, I don't feel like doing this."

I ususally don't think "ugh, I have to brush my teeth again" I just sort of do it automatically right before I go to bed. Unfortunately that's one of the few things I actually do habitually but I think it all works on the same principle. It's just some things are harder so it takes more time and effort.

https://www.menshealth.com/fitness/a32314733/arnold-schwarzenegger-daily-workout-over-70/

I use FocusMe occasionally if I'm having a lot of trouble with self-control. It locks down your PC (or phone) in specific ways, like blocking Facebook or limiting your time on it. I've also used Coldturkey. But it's an inelegant solution. Unless you're millennial Jesus you're going to fail a lot because these devices are designed by some of the smartest people to be attractive.

I think you're on the right track with setting boundaries for playtime. I've gotten a lot farther with defining how and when to use my devices rather than just uninstalling things and hoping for the best. And if you fail at your goals just pick back up and don't beat yourself up. It's counter-productive.

K9 Web Protection is free and I’ve used it for the past 3 years! It’s helped me find freedom from temptation! I recommend this if you’d prefer a free option. Like I said, it’s worked for me.

I’ve also heard good things about Covenant Eyes but it costs a monthly fee ($12 I think). This one is cool though because it sends an accountability partner your browsing history on a regular basis.

Recently, I’ve come across Focus Me as I was trying to find an app to help with productivity. It also costs money ($4 a month with annual purchase) but can block specific sites or keywords and is very user friendly.

If procrastinations a problem, theres programs to block certain sites during certain times of the day. you can look at a few here.

it might help, might not. I find them useful

There are a few options I see on their website. There is a subscription or just buy it once.

Subscription is $30 a year or $7 a month.

Buy it once it's $99.

Here's a link if you want to check it out. Focus Me

Yes! I'm using a program called "FocusMe". I set it up so that it blocks all of reddit (and Facebook and some other sites) except for r/nosurf and r/stopgaming. However, I do have two 10-minute "free access" breaks per day, where I can visit any website. After the time is done, it automatically shuts down that tab.

It's helping me a lot. I did the free trial and then ended up buying it. https://focusme.com