This is living in an upward spiral. You guys should read "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People."

Without a lifestyle of integrity, NoFap wouldn't be possible in the first place. It would be almost impossible to stay in your parent's basement, talking to no-one, while successfully doing 90 days of NoFap. There is a reason why social status, confidence, and NoFap seem to go hand in hand.

You have a lot of potential. The lower you fall, the higher you can rise. Stop PMO. Get some job first, then invent a great but simple business idea. School is overrated, being smart is more important (this comes from a millionaire to-be, joining university for 5 years was the biggest waste of time in my life). Start small, improve yourself and the business in small but steady steps. You can be incredibly successful, you'll see. Read "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Where you end up is not determined by where you are now, but in which direction you are going.

Improving yourself is the key. Stopping PMO will give you an edge on most of your competitors. If you have some money through your work, get professional training against your stuttering. All problems are shallow if you have a forward-going attitude.

It's been mentioned here before and I'll mention it again. The chapter on "The Mystery of Sex Transmutation" in Napoleon Hill's great book "Think and Grow Rich" is INCREDIBLY powerful and sums up a lot of underlying issues we're all dealing with. You can find it for free online. I read the chapter at least once a day to ingrain the concepts into my very being.

This is a great line from the chapter: "...the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to ever be seeking a means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort, it will find a less positive, less productive outlet. Fortunate, indeed, are those individuals who have discovered how to give their sexual emotion an outlet through some form of creative effort, for they have, by that discover, lifted themselves to the level of 'genius performance'."

So much gold in that one chapter alone.

I guess I didn't state that clearly, but for now those 15 books are just all the books I got myself to read in the future. I only finished one of them so far, but that's mostly because I'm fairly busy and I mainly read them to pass the time on the train and in minor breaks where I can't do anything more useful.

The one I finished, two thirds of which were read in the last 23 days, is "Rich Dad Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki. I can really recommend that one especially if you're bad with money. It even has some lessons that can be applied to NoFap like finding and using opportunities in life.

The one I'm reading right now is "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" by Mark Manson, and I already see how useful this not giving a fuck mindset is. This one's even more useful for NoFap as it's about getting your priorities straight and saving the fucks you give for important things like friends, family, or in my case NoFap.

I've also got some stuff from /r/stoicism on there which I won't list as this post is already long enough, though other self improvement books that I'm especially looking forward to read are the following:

• "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
• "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey
• "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill
• "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, which someone else already mentioned.
• "The Slight Edge" by Jeff Olson
• "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
• "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg

Most of them are ones that I picked up after I found them on NoFap, but some of those you might not have heard of by now.

For anyone wondering a method to track your progress through this challenge, there's an Android app called dataDex where you can filter the Pokemons by generation (this one would be red/blue, or yellow - 151 Pokemons) and every day it passes, you would check-mark one by one, until you finally have Mew in your collection!

Gotta catch 'em all, let's do this!

It's an app. A client for Reddit. I don't know if it's there for iPhones but you can search it on Play store and disable NSFW forever.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ml.docilealligator.infinityforreddit

Take it a step further....go here: (http://www.random.org/passwords/) and create a password. Now go here: (http://www.futureme.org/) and tell it to e-mail you the password 3 months down the line. Create the settings you want within k9, then logout. Most likely you aren't going to remember this password so you won't be able to change your settings. Basically, even if you want to look at porn..you just wont be able to. Word of caution, though..make sure your settings are properly set, you wouldn't want to block reddit or youtube on accident.

It's great, but the comments are cancer, as expected of 9GAG.

Typical current day weak-ass culture, where the young dudes expect shit to come for free to them.

The comments there: yeah but you need money

WELL THEN GET MONEY.

Stop fapping, put your dick back into your pants and start reading 10 self improvement books like Think and Grow Rich (best one ever). Then make plans for success and work fucking hard every single day.

Or, just masturbate each day, be fine with your life, be forgotten and die.

Your choice.

I can understand you and these are the books that will guide you through this...

READ EM BOOKS:

1) No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover

2) Models by Mark Manson

3) The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them

First 2 books will put you in the correct mindset to change and fix your inner problems, The last book will give you EVERYTHING you need to know about dating (it's my Bible), I know a guy who is a pro and everything he ever told me is written in this book so it's golden.

After you read the last book you will have answers and tools to solve your problem with women, I wish you success and may you find your Success with thy ladies soon! ;)

Habit cycle is cue-action-reward. Giving yourself a reward for good behaviour reinforces it and makes it more likely to become habitual.

'The Power of Habit' is a great book to read here.

http://charlesduhigg.com/how-habits-work/

Greek philosophers talked a lot about pleasure and self-control (enkrateia). I am Greek myself and I would advise you to read Nicomachean Ethics by Aristotle. He talks about pleasure and the need to abstain from needless body ηδονή (pleasure). He also talks about how repetition leads to greatness and self-fulfillment and how people should reach pleasure by constantly living with virtue. Good book.

Ejaculation isn't the problem at all. Porn definitely is. No doubt about it. But there are benefits of semen retention.

Napoleon Hill talks about it in Chapter 11 of Think and Grow Rich - http://www.sacred-texts.com/nth/tgr/tgr16.htm

Here's Chapter 44 in David Deida's "Way of the Superior Man"

"As you live your life with more and more true purpose, you won’t accumulate so much tension during the day. Then, you will discover that ejaculation, for the most part, actually depletes and weakens you.

It feels great for a few moments, but the price you pay for the genital sneeze of ejaculation is a much higher level of mediocrity in your daily life. You will find that you just don’t have the extra gusto necessary to live your life with utter impeccability. Excess ejaculations pave the road to living a good life, but not a great life.

In a subtle way, excess ejaculations will diminish your courage to take risks, professionally and spiritually. You will settle for doing enough to get by, to be comfortable, but you will find that you would rather watch TV than write your novel, meditate, or make that important phone call.

You will have enough motivation to live a decent life, but ejaculations drain you of the “cutting through” energy that is necessary to pierce your own wall of lethargy and slice through the obstructions that arise in the world.”

"A teacher, who has trained and directed the efforts of more than 30,000 sales people, made the astounding discovery that highly sexed men are the most efficient salesmen. The explanation is, that the factor of personality known as "personal magnetism" is nothing more nor less than sex energy. Highly sexed people always have a plentiful supply of magnetism. Through cultivation and understanding, this vital force may be drawn upon and used to great advantage in the relationships between people. This energy may be communicated to others through the following media:

1. The hand-shake. The touch of the hand indicates, instantly, the presence of magnetism, or the lack of it.

2. The tone of voice. Magnetism, or sex energy, is the factor with which the voice may be colored, or made musical and charming.

3. Posture and carriage of the body. Highly sexed people move briskly, and with grace and ease.

4. The vibrations of thought. Highly sexed people mix the emotion of sex with their thoughts, or may do so at will, and in that way, may influence those around them.

5. Body adornment. People who are highly sexed are usually very careful about their personal appearance. They usually select clothing of a style becoming to their personality, physique, complexion, etc.

When employing salesmen, the more capable sales manager looks for the quality of personal magnetism as the first requirement of a salesman. People who lack sex energy will never become enthusiastic nor inspire others with enthusiasm, and enthusiasm is one of the most important requisites in salesmanship, no matter what one is selling." - Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich, Chapter on Sexual Transmutation

IDK if this will help but it helped me.

I'm an introvert, always have been, always will be. It doesn't mean that I have zero social skills or that I don't like being around people. It means that I need me time between being with people. I need that time to rest. Otherwise I'll end up drained pretty fast.

Problem is, nobody teaches you how to live like an introvert. Everywhere you look, and everything you are told leads to this : you should be out and about and spend time with people and enjoy it.

But it doesn't work like that for introverts. Yes, you can and should be out and about and enjoy life. But you need to rest. You need to withdraw. And that is perfectly normal . And once you are charged, you can go back out.

In my late teens and early twenties I used to feel so alone and depressed I just fled. Fled into PMO, video games, books (man I've read SO many books...). And through my reading I learned the single most important truth I needed to learn : before loving someone else, love yourself first.

First I accepted the person I used to be. Then I worked on improving / evolving into the man I wanted to become.

It takes time (4 years, still counting). You have to put your mind to it. You will sweat. You will suffer. You will bleed. You will know terror. You will doubt yourself. You will cry.

But looking back, I have gained so much. I am never truly alone. I have me. I have my mind. I have my skills. I am more complete than I was, and it enabled me to truly bond with those closest to me.

Still, it is not over. It will never be over, until the day you die.

NoFap will get me to the next level. Every single day of the challenge fills me with eagerness. It is so much fun !

Man is a rope stretched between the animal and the Superman--a rope over an abyss.

Hope it helps. Stay strong brother.

looks like neither of them were the original source

http://www.ask.com/answers/110454641/did-bruce-lee-really-say-do-not-pray-for-an-easy-life-pray-for-the-strength-to-endure-a-difficult-one-i-remember-jfk-saying-that

good quote anyway

Looked on Amazon, found it.

>March 7, 2017

I think you read the year a little to quickly, welcome in the future bro ��

I highly recommend his Man's Search for Meaning. It's eye opening, tragic and deeply interesting.

He coined the term logotherapy which is based on Kierkegaard's will to meaning as opposed to Adler's inspiration of Nietzche's will to power and Freud's will to pleasure.

I think I prioritize freedom slightly above meaning but it's right up there to what makes life worth living.

I need to read more books by this man.

If you use a password based blocker use the Lastpass Password Generator and create a password which fits maximum capacity of the blocker i.e. 15 characters, then change the password and email it to your self using Future Me then clear your clipboard. This will make it much harder for you to unblock the blocker and relapse.

I just want everyone to know I am the original writer of this. It climbed to the top about a month ago and got around 600 upvotes.

And I've been implementing the idea using an app called Viridi . It lets you grow virtual plants that grow at a slow pace (takes about a month to fully grow plants).

Anyways.. keep going strong. Ive been struggling more than I thought but I'm trying to get back on the train. Glad to see that although this is reposted, it's still getting upvotes.

Thank you to all of the Fapstronauts whose inspiring stories motivated Daniel Romero to volunteer for us to port this over to iOS. This "NoFap Emergency" panic button app was coded by Jack Fischer, originally for the web (as seen on NoFap's sidebar) and then for Android.

Wow, if I had the mindset at age 15 to be conscious of this addiction and trying to quit.. I would be at such a different place in life. Kudos to you, you've got a great future in front of you if you don't give up!

If you are watching porn block it now. Block your access to it altogether (disable NSFW on reddit), use a host list (I recommend Steven Black) with an adblocker. Disable instagram, tiktok and such social media where there are triggering NSFW content.

Think about the enviroment, circumstances and how you feel before the urge to masturbate comes up. In my case it was boredom which I learned to tackle and it's much easier now.

You can also reduce the time you spend in front of screens one way or another, that I found to help tremendously. Also, begin a meditation practice right now. Start small and work your way up, doing it every single day. Consistency is key here, as if you miss a day especially in the beginning it's much harder to restart. You'll mind will be calm, focused and you have more control over it.

Try working out, exercise, martial arts whatever you see fit. It's going to decrease the urges and you'll feel much better about yourself. Good luck!

Hey, don't beat yourself up man. It doesn't do you any good. I'm in my late 20s, 5'7" tall, and I got my first serious girlfriend last year. I dated a few girls here and there, but nothing serious until last year. I recently broke up with her, and we just lasted 6 months, but still, I was proud of my accomplishment. She was cool, but I knew we weren't going to last because of some differences that we weren't going to agree on.

Height doesn't matter too much. At our height, we generally have to go for shorter girls. It's all good, my ex was 5 inches shorter than me. And it's not so bad if you date a girl who's a few inches taller than you anyway.

Try reading the book Models by Mark Manson. It helped me out and made me more confident.

I know it's tough and it hurts your self esteem when you've been single for a long time, but don't let it get to you. Don't let your relationship status define your life. There is more to life than girls. You will get one when the time is right. Believe me. Stay strong, stay motivated, and keep your head up! We believe in you!

Yeah i think a lot of people having a problem with porn also have a problem with screen addiction in general.

I spend way to much time on the computer. youtube has been a terrible timewaster the last couple of years.

A weird, but quite effective way of battling this, is turning off colors on your monitor.

you can get a free program i use: http://arcanesanctum.net/negativescreen/

one of it's settings is grayscale. really not very fun to look at lol.

Will power is a skill, and there are things that can build it and things that can erode it.

Things that build it: striving to be productive and improve your life. Specifically:

• Cold showers

• Reading

• NoFap

• Limiting time on computers

• Exercising

• Socializing

• Meditating (Read Mindfulness in Plain English)

Things that erode it: catering to your impulses for what are ultimately 'dead-end' pleasures or mere distractions from life. Specifically things like (excessive-- perhaps these can be done healthily in moderation, but I do not think so):

• Drugs

• Alcohol

• Gaming

• Selfish thought patterns

Well, meditation comes in a lot of different shapes and sizes, and each religion will have its own rituals surrounding it.

However, when I (and I think most people on here) talk about meditation, I specifically mean Buddhist insight meditation (vipassana) more commonly known as mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness is very different from prayer and does not at all mean being 'alone with one's thoughts'. If anything it means the opposite. It means emptying yourself of your thoughts and observing the universe without preconceptions (i.e. thoughts/concepts/addressing higher beings etc.).

Anyway, don't take my word for it. You might want to check out r/meditation or read Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante Gunaratana.

I don't know whether you've actually put an effort into trying meditation, but the book really helps you with any struggles you might encounter, and it gives you the very bare version of mindful meditation without any rituals/difficult practices surrounding it. It's really just a good read, too.

That's such a great description of it! I wonder if it's in fact a mild (and/or chronic) version of DP-DR: linki here I've felt like this for YEARS. Since early twenties. Constantly. Every hour of every day. With varying degrees of intensity tho.

Like the other commenter stated, this can be done by customizing the "hosts" file, which all computers have, and preferentially use before making requests to the DNS server to resolve domain names into IP addresses.

This is also a popular method for adblocking.

What I'm about to say is an opinion, I'm hoping it helps you work past the tunnel that you have dug yourself into. Have you tried writing down the things you want most in life for the future. Don't think about NoFap goals per say but just your lifes goals. I mean if currently you are trying to keep at bay from the suicidal thoughts etc, I'm sure you are actively searching for a therapist in this aspect, but perhaps a goal could be staying alive and working at it day by day. As you make progress moving ahead extend that timeframe. I think everyone is so caught up with their failures and they ruminate over their thoughts so much they become their worse critic. In all my report posts I have attuned my success to a book called Learned Optimism. I use the strategy of disputation to stop the bad thoughts and help me find a solution at all times. hope this helps mate. Stay safe.

Just FYI:

>>The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.

>This is actually a quotation from a character named Socrates in Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book that Changes Lives, by Dan Millman.

Source: https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Socrates#Misattributed

Napolean hill also wrote a chapter on sex transmutation in his book "Think and Grow Rich". It's time we learn from the great people of our past and dominate modern day as human struggles appear to be very similar.

The luck can be explained with a chapter out of Napoleon Hill's classic book Think and Grow Rich called "The mystery of sex transmutation". He literally says in the book that when you abstain from masturbating, you can channel that energy and be in direct contact with god. I believe it, and I'm surprised more people dont talk about this when its a worldwide bestseller

Slowing down your response time in conversations may be a sign of your impulse control getting better. Perhaps because you are no longer giving into the urge to fap, you are also no longer giving into urges to say the first thing that comes to your mind...if this is indeed what is happening to you, then this is a beautiful thing! This means you are living a more mindful, conscious existence!

If you like the sound of that, read "Wherever You Go, There You Are."

Good Job btw!

Well done, and you should be proud of yourself! One word of warning - my first streak was 200 days plus, but I still relapsed. This is not saying that you will, but be wary. What I learned from my relapse is that although enthusiasm, willpower, and faith in superpowers will get you a long way, you only complete your journey once you start to work on the root causes. The things that made you become an addict to begin with. Have a look on here for books or approaches that people recommend - it could be "Think and Grow Rich" or "Heal the Shame that Binds You" or any others - you have to find the one that resonates best with you. Those are two that helped me, but there is no one way that is best for everyone. But well done, you've shown that you have the willpower and the mental toolbox to succeed, and best of luck with the next step!

I cannot recommend meditation enough for overcoming depression/anxiety. Just 10 minutes a day can give you some pretty good benefits. I recommend reading Mindfulness in Plain English, it'll teach you all you need to know. Godspeed!

I read the book Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill. I liked the chapter on transmutation of sex energy. He said it's a super power for action. I like what you're talking about here. Taking action and you've got the drive to do it. Fapping is such a drain on that energy. People get lost in the whole "super power" term. They've got these tiny closed minds. What the hell is behind the words? I've tried to post the message without using the word super power so dinks don't get distracted. But anyway I totally get what you're saying and it's bad ass. The energy spunked away from porn and fapping is for real. I just can't make it through the damn first two or three weeks. The withdrawals kick my ass. Ticks me off. Looking forward to being where you're at.

Hey man, nice list. Defining a basic set of habits to implement is definitely a good idea. I am on your line with the meditation, reading, calisthenics and diet. However I feel like the nefarious habits such as drinking and coffee drinking can be curtailed, but do not necessarily need to be eliminated. For instance I feel binge drinking is a horrible waste of time, energy and money. But I definitely do enjoy a couple beers with my mates on weekends. Drinking liters of coffee like its water is definitely a crutch, but having a nice espresso before a workout is a pleasure I would not want to relinquish. I feel like learning moderation would be a lot more useful for most of us. While with PMO I see no moderation possible, I feel like learning self control of pleasures can bring a lot when looking at coffee and alcohol (unless you are a recovering alcoholic)

As far as books are concerned I loved Eckhart Tolle's 'The Power of Now', Napoleon Hill's 'Think and Grow Rich', and Dale Carnegie's 'How to make Friends and influence People'. I feel like those helped me overcome a lot of my anxiety and develop healthy habits in dealing with people while respecting myself and my creativity. I am now reading Konstantin Stanislavsky's 'My life in Art' and learning a lot from it, about rejecting the molds in which we have grown and reaching our own true nature. He mostly wrote it for actors, but everyone can benefit from his insight.

Man, i haven't programmed for like a year, but this can actually help people. so i got motivated :)

I wrote an application in Java that is similar to his first version. Bare in mind, its a 2 hour application, so i didn't "foolproof" it 100%. Let me know if something is up.

Anyway, you can write your own quotes in my application, a couple of things you should read:

1. You can write the quotes in a text file that will automatically be created (on desktop regardless of OS) if its not there.

2. you must ONLY separate your quotes by comma in the file.

3. Application will go to full screen, and stay there, you wont be able to switch to anything else until 3 minutes pass.

4. while in full screen, pressing any mouse or key will simply give you another quote from the file.

5. tested on Win7 - x86.

ok, enough talking, see for your self. hope you like it :)

Check out the recent NoFap survey results here

One of the questions pertained to the religious nature of Fapstronauts, the result was that the majority of us are atheists.

ProCon Latte Content Filter for Firefox

It's the Adblock for content. Once you've tweaked the lists, you're all set. It's really good for just being a free blocker.

Yes, these entities are taking advantage of the environment, but they are not causing it.

Looking at causes helps a ton:

https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/SexualRecoveryInstitute/narcissism-sexual-addiction

Hey! that's awesome, It's not however the first project about that (the more the merrier). It would be great to merge some of this hosts too:

https://github.com/Sinfonietta/hostfiles/blob/master/pornography-hosts

and https://github.com/StevenBlack/hosts

I'm really unsure if fantasizing is beneficial for me or not. I am a strong believer in visualizing how I want my future self to be, and part of that is visualizing myself being with an amazing woman in my life. It helps motivate me to continue on my journey.

However, as Napoleon Hill points out in "Think and Grow Rich", you need to take action to bring these desires into reality, and that's where fantasizing can be different from visualizing. When I fantasize, I do it from a perspective of feeling that it would not be possible in reality, whereas my visualizations are meant to spur me into action, so I can make them my reality.

Just don't let your fantasizing occupy too much time - then it will quickly turn into sexual frustration.

Hey dude,

I think its good to remember that the moments where you feel you've hit rock bottom are the most formative. These moments of weakness are going to make you stronger. I understand losing someone you hold very dear. I had a fantastic girlfriend until we broke up and she graduated. Part of the reason we broke up was due to my twisted mind on PMO. I felt like rock bottom for a bit too.

My advice to you is to start a routine of habits that will make sure you will never be tempted to do PMO if you follow these habits. I also recommend that you read. My two favorite books of this summer are A Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl and the Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. I guarantee that if you read these books, you'll begin to turn it around.

Good luck dude, let me or anyone on this sub know if you need anything.

Great stuff! I had flashbacks from reading "The Power Of Now" when I read your post (my favorite book).

Our destructive ego loves to give us reasons to be unhappy about the present. The isness of what's here is never enough. It's quite liberating when we realize, often through meditation or a moment of bliss after heavy suffering, that there is another way to live, and that the first step is to simply become consciously aware; to observe the mind.

Love this post; excellent work OP! A personal different approach I do to divert thoughts is to turn your attention to the present moment.

1) Stop what you are doing completely,

2) Take a big smile because you are fucking awesome!

3) Take a deep breath in through your nose - feel how the air feels a little cooler,

4) Breathe out through your mouth and notice it's slightly warmer,

5) Repeat for 10 times, counting each out breath

While doing this just concentrate of anything and everything right there in front of you. Why does this work? Because thoughts & emotions cease to exist in the absolute present moment!

Hope this helps, it has helped me so so much for me; this technique is from doing Headspace meditation as well as reading The Power Of Now :D

Im 20 and a virgin. Just keep abstaining bud. I've got a good streak going and life keeps getting better. I'm getting closer and closer to having a big breakthrough in my life, I can feel it.

Work out 3-4 times a week, bulk up, cut sodas, candy, sugar and all that shit out of your diet. Start a daily meditation program. Find some hobbies. Read some books. Read Models by Mark Manson.

I don't worry so much that I'm a virgin anymore. There are moments when I'm horny as shit and reminded of this reality but I realize that this is just part of my journey and that I will be ok. I'm more concerned about overcoming my anxiety when it comes to initiating with women. I know I'm on the right track because I'm getting better at initiating conversations and talking to people. Just work on your shit without dwelling too much on all that other bullshit.

Here are some for a start 1) The subtle art of not giving a fuck - Mark Manson 2) The Slight Edge - Jeff Olson 3) The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle 4) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey 5) How to Make Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie 6) The Will Power Instinct - Kelly McGonigal

Just started going Keto yesterday and feels so good already. Love meat, healthy fat and veggies. Energy is consistent all day long, coinciding with my blood sugar normalizing. Thoughts are clean, life is good.

Thanks for posting, sounds like you've enabled yourself to have a killer 50 day report. After one relapse at day 23, I'm really looking forward to my second and final run. I've taken up boxing/sparring, photography, stopped gaming, been reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, cut out alcohol, been working 7 days a week banking cash, an of course, i'm feeling like I could get used to this.

Thanks for the reinforcement of giving me someone to keep up with! Gonna focus more on eye contact as the effects of my relapse fully wear off- it's time to talk to some beautiful texas women with confidence... :D

Dude okay so there is a lot to unpack here.

First if you're so steadfast in not fornicating (side note: don't use this word, it's just odd) until marriage what you should do is apply this discipline to NoFap. That part seems like will be easy.

Re: chicks. Relax. No one is gonna make you fuck them. Frankly you're getting too ahead of yourself. Second you should talk to them. You should develop healthy relationships with women. This is important to a young mans growth.

Lastly I think that you may want to read a book or two re: forming relationships with women. I'm just guessing but it feels like to me that you have sorta adolescent views of women. Which is fine. And I don't mean this to be rude. I just think ya need to get a better sense for what healthy social interactions mean as an adult. I can recommend Models by Mark Manson. A very good read. You'd benefit from it.

Overall good luck. But try not to assume you'd just be able to fuck a girl you talk to. And also try not to use "oh I'd get horny due to talking to chicks and need to blow a load". You should be talking to chicks regardless it's part of being a healthy man. And it's not some excuse to then be horny and have to relapse.

It may come off as harsh. I promise I'm trying to help but I just felt ya needed to hear this.

You're exercising your willpower! In The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg talks about some studies that show that willpower is a muscle that can be exercised and strengthened. So in effect, by using your willpower to deny yourself cookies, you are also strengthening your willpower to resist other urges. :)

I've lost about 40 pounds (currently 161) and once I lose another 6 I'm going to bulk back up to 165. My routine seems to have gotten a bit stagnant so I'm going to try this 6 week thing out. Also, if you're watching RSD stuff I'm guessing you're on /r/seduction so I'm going to strongly recommend you read Models by Mark Manson, even if you aren't, read it regardless.

I beg to differ. Try to read up on it a little bit, it might really help you. Mindfulness in Plain English is a good start.

Don't be too hard on yourself, and don't meditate because you want quick results. From your post it sounds like you fail to realize that change must come from within, by truly believing in it (and this isn't some vague bullshit, this is neuroscience). It won't magically come to you by quitting porn or sitting down and closing your eyes for 20 minutes a day.

Some books which I am reading while doing nofap...hope you might find some of them useful.....

The Power Of Habit The Slight Edge Think and Grow Rich The Willpower Instinct No More Mr Nice Guy The MultiOrgasmic Man Fight Club Chuck Planhuk Convict Conditioning 1 & 2 The Way Of The Superior Man The Alchemist

This is one of the best pieces of advice I've seen. For anyone interested in getting on the path, I recommend the book "Wherever You Go, There You Are", by Jon Kabat-Zinn. It is an extremely basic and easy book, but it resonates incredibly well with the true meaning of mindfulness.

Life is not controllable, indeed. But your own person is, and this is enormously important. Fapping isn't an addiction sometimes, it's just the human is a weakling :)

You may be familiar with The Art of War?

> So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss.

> If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose.

> If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.

The theory of meditation is incredibly easy, but very hard in practice. You don't need a book for it.

Set aside 5-15 minutes for meditation. I started with 5, I did 15 for the first time this morning.

I usually just sit in my computer chair, but somewhere you can be "relaxed and alert." Basically somewhere you can sit/lay and relax without the danger of falling asleep.

Create the intent for your meditation. Here's a rip from Search Inside Yourself where they explain intent a little bit when it comes to meditation: >The process starts with an intention. Start by creating an intention, a reason for wanting to abide in mindfulness. Perhaps it is to reduce stress. Perhaps it is to increase your own well-being. Maybe you want to cultivate your emotional intelligence for fun and profit. Or maybe you just want to create the conditions for world peace, or something.

Concentrate on your breathing. Breath in through your nose and diaphragm -- basically when you breath you should feel your stomach expand.

If you feel your attention diverted somewhere -- you're thinking about work, a song is going through your head (that's the hardest to get rid of for me), that your nervous about something coming up.. observe the thought and let it go without judgment. Don't stress over the fact you were distracted -- just let the thought go and continue breathing.

It's a lot less complicated than I'm probably making it sound, but basically the point of meditation is to stop the chatter in your head. The easiest way to do that (for me, at least) is to concentrate on my breathing.

I use this app called "rewire", it counts your streaks, makes graphs and even remembers your record and sets it as a goal. Really good app. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.rstudioz.habits&hl=de

You can setup rasberry pi to be addblocker for your network. I used pihole https://pi-hole.net/

Then later i found out some DNS list of porn sites and just added them similarly like in here

https://mangolassi.it/topic/16905/add-porn-blocking-to-your-pi-hole

I just recently started too, but there are two things I have done that have really helped me. :)

One of them, I agree with exercise. I normally hate exercise, and so I was looking for something where I didn't have to think things through and could just do it. Currently, I am doing couch to 25k. The app I use (Simple C25k) is really simple. All you do is select a week, walk, listen for the beep, switch to jogging, then listen to the beep, switch to walking. The system builds you up.

Second, I used to rush to porn when I was bored or something and I needed a way to delay that. I use a hosts file that blocks all the porn sites, so it won't matter how I try to access them.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/5b56h7/nsfw_massive_porn_list_for_hosts_file/

That list combines all of them that have been released. :) I would caution against adding random host file edits that you don't understand, cause it could cause bad things to happen. But, that one is safe if he doesn't modify it. A hosts file updater you can use is hostsman. You can even create a local text file on your computer and hostsman can read that and update yours hosts file when you update using it when that changes.

http://www.abelhadigital.com/hostsman

Obviously that doesn't work for everyone, and once you understand how to edit hosts files, you can obviously bypass it when you are feeling weak. :/ But, if you simply can pull yourself together when you get hit in the face from a porn site you go to being blocked, I think it is useful. Also, it makes you really have to work harder to mess up your progress.

Just stop watching porn, stop beating your meat, and start developing habits that are actually good for you and will benefit you. Install blockers on your device if you need them, there are blockers in this link (Blockers) if you need them and do whatever you can to put porn out of your way. Then you shall do exercise frequently, as that will diminish urges and help your brain focus. Take cold showers as that almost always kills urges and helps you lose brain fog and gain concentration. Take walks outside and try to socialize, do things that don't leave you lonely often. Start thinking about your future and your current life and how you can improve it, and stop thinking about those fetishes and pornographic thoughts. Don't think "I need to get rid of porn", instead think "I don't watch porn" and go along with your life. Keep yourself busy, and remember that failure will happen.

Stay safe out there.

This is known as "emotional incest". HUGE bullshit inside the family needs a "poor baby" to distract what's going on. Porn use is shameful to the "useless one" and helps keep the role alive.

Here's some structure on it: https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/Counselcare/the-bowen-family-systems-theory

I just downloaded Headspace on my phone. It has a thing you listen to that basically guides you through it. It goes on for a week, I've only done the first one so far.

This is going to sound a bit crazy, but I truly believe that urges are a way of the universe/God/whatever "testing" us to see if we really have the resolve to be successful. If and when we past this test, we are rewarded with greater energy levels and increased charisma, along with plenty of other positive changes.

This idea started to form after reading parts of Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich", where he talks about the ether that surrounds us, and how it responds to negative thoughts with negative energy, but if we foster positive energy in our lives and keep positive thoughts, the ether will supply us with positive energy to assist us.

Yeah, these ideas (especially as I'm reading them) sound pretty bat-shit crazy, but every time I get going on a good streak, and keep my thoughts positive and pure, good things start happening. I'm not going to let my logical/critical half over-think this! Just go with the flow :D

Yeah mine is usually 2 weeks but I think today was just that like what they say about day 7 and testosterone spike or something?

But I deserve these benefits kind of. I'm a healthy mf lol. Ever since I read the book Salt Sugar Fat, I've permanently changed. No other book has really had a change as big as that book, except Think and Grow Rich but I haven't really taken the steps for that book for it to fully work.

I recommend everyone read "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg. It explains why some habits are hard to break as they're so ingrained that we barely even see the 'cue' (trigger) that then leads to the 'process' and finally 'reward'. Once you begin to break apart your less desirable habits and look at the individual components it becomes easier to rewire your brain for your greatest good :)

I really didnt mean he take another pill, i just notice you westerners have this weird obsession with medicating yourself with drugs and what not. You dont need to get angry because I dissaprove of the use of drugs, thats just my view. Philosophy is very therapuatic and helped me internalize and understand many of my problems and how I had to fix/let go off them.

Check of Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, it's a hard read, but hopefully it can change yourlife, because it changed mine for sure!

In his all-time classic book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill tells the story of R. U. Harby.

Harby’s uncle had gold fever, so he staked his claim and started digging. After a lot of hard work, the uncle found a vein of ore, so he covered up his find and returned home to raise the money for the machinery that he would need to bring the ore to the surface.

They raised the money and Darby travelled with his uncle back to the site to make their fortune.

Things started well and before long, they had enough to clear their debts. They were excited, everything from here on would be profit and things were looking good.

Then the supply of gold stopped. The vein of ore had disappeared.

They kept on digging, but found nothing.

After a while, they quit in frustration and sold their machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars.

After they went home in disappointment, the astute junk man called in a mining engineer who checked the mine and calculated that there was a vein of gold just three feet from where Darby and his uncle had stopped digging.

The junk man went on to make millions from the mine.

Darby returned home, paid back everyone who had lent him money and was determined to learn from his mistake in giving up too soon.

He went on to become a phenomenally successful insurance salesman, more than recouping what he would have made from the gold mine.

He learned the lesson that you need to persevere through difficulties and stay focused if you are to become successful.

Whenever you feel like giving up on your dream, remember that you may be just three feet from gold!

Napoleon Hill mentions something similar in "Think and Grow Rich." When I first read that book several years ago I thought "yeah right, that's some old-school pseudo science." Now I realize he's right :)

The ones I'd recommend most are The Power of Now and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Then Napoleon Hill's stuff. Check out Grow Rich With Peace Of Mind, he wrote that a few decades later than the first version with everything he's learned until then. Then Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden provides really good insights into what makes for healthy self esteem although after reading Eckhart Tolle it's not as necessary anymore. The Power of Habit is really good, too. And the last thing I totally recommend is How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Besides that check out this book thread here: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/241735

RSD has tons of free videos on self improvement and you can learn a lot from their forum as well. It's actually where I got a lot of the books from that I've read, which have all delivered lots of useful knowledge so far.

I have a very similar story to yours. I'm 21, so a similar age as well. Honestly, this is going to fucking suck. REALLY bad. Ive gone into the depths of depression because I just couldn't shake this addiction, then after 5 days when i'm starting to feel better, I just relapse again. This is a bitch.

Here's the thing though man, once you find out about NOFAP, there's no going back... you literally wont be able to PMO every day even if you force yourself. So you might as well just fucking figure this out now, because the longer you hold off, the more opportunity and happiness will pass you by.

I understand its pretty easy for me to type this on my computer, and actual application of it is almost impossible...

What has worked for me, is relapsing until I literally want to kill myself (almost did it a few days ago), and now i've grown to literally FUCKING HATE PMO... I dont desire to do it anymore because IT FUCKING MAKES ME WANT TO DIE. If that doesn't lite a fire under your ass, then you might as well die.

Start slow, get a good 5 day streak going, get on the computer less and less each day, same thing with the phone.. Go to barnes and noble/borders and get a new book (Think and Grow Rich is a good one), read that each and every night before bed instead of going online. Get a gym membership, go buy a guitar, invest in yourself man. Its ok to spend a significant amount of money on hobbies, clothes, friends, going out while you're doing this... Its going to be hard man, but possible. Good luck out there bro.

If you like The Art of War you should also read Hagakure and The Book of Five Rings.

EDIT: Yesterday I read the chapter about emptyness and fullness. Basically what is says is that you should let the enemy come to you so that they are exhausted (empty) and you are full (energized). I apply this to NoFap this way;

When I first started I managed to make it to 28 days (the goal was 30 days), my downfall was that I used girls and getting laid as a motivator. It worked very well in the short term, but long term I exhausted myself and the succumbed to "the enemy" because I chased after "the enemy" (the urges, not women) and thus I became empty.

This time around I'm aiming for 90 days and whenever I see a beautiful girl in the gym or NSFW link on reddit and an urge or thought arises I will directly "cut" that thought down and just try to be "blank" for a moment, then I go on with my business. This takes much less energy, especially when it comes to controlling the subconscious.

I'm still going to the gym, I'm still doing my diet, everything is going great. I know I'm on the right path, so why should I rush to empty myself? Let the enemy come to me and I can cut "him" down easily. Or something.

If you're into books I rev commend you Models by Mark Manson and more importantly The Slight Edge by j. Olson. The second one is about self improvement, and has caused me to question a lot of things I do, and is the most important book I've read so far. The second one should help you with your struggle about women, without all the childish pick up bullshit. These book recommendations also go out to OP. Hit me up if you can't afford to buy these books.

An excellent book on this is The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg.

The book also lays out these four elements, but tells various people's stories (success and devastation) throughout the book - from completely turning your life around to crippling gambling debts.

While it doesn't lay out the case of masturbation in any of the stories (imo because the book is a popular read, and many people would not see kindly to that theme, or not take it seriously), there is one reference, p. 266: "Class action lawsuits in the United States, Australia, and Canada have been filed against drug manufacturers, alleging that pharmaceuticals caused patients to compulsively bet, eat, shop, and masturbate by targeting the circuitry involved in the habit loop."

The book is a really good read, give you ideas on how to tackle urges and overcome them (like OP's suggestion) and provides you with Belief! :)

Maybe instead of fapping, one could pick up the book and read, then feel happy/satisfied about doing something productive, and 'automatically' then become productive when a sexual urge sets in...?

You know what, my nofap journey started way before I found reddit. I read somewhere that losing semen makes you weak and fragile. You lose health and all. They I gradually started making it. Not just fapping, I also stopped thinking about sex and women as the only way to contentment. I read Think and Grow Rich. There's a chapter on Sex Transmutation. Very handy.

I found that when you channel the sexual energy, you can do anything you want with it. You can make a public speech like a pro, you can start your own company, you can become irresistible to people, you become master at marketing, selling and you learn things faster than other.

In fact, stop fapping for a year and you can stop worrying about needing to read all those marketing books if you are in the field of marketing. You can stop learning to paint before you actually paint like a pro. The confidence level is just so high, anything you do becomes noticible and people simply want you to be a part of their lives. Things change almost automatically.

Self improvement happens automatically. Health improves on its own. You regain your vigour. Your thoughts are clear. You actually beging to understand how to fall in love and you discover that love and sex are very different things. Sex can be a part of love, but can not be love as whole. only part.

I am in love. and we're talking about falling in love with creativity. Creating that art, making that music, starting that company, convincing investors. It all starts with nofap. Yeah.

Brilliant, well said! We are brainwashed almost from birth by fairytales, TV, movies, and the media in general that the ultimate thing we need to be happy is to fall in love and get married. But the cold hard truth is that most relationships fail and most people are unhappy. How to explain this paradox?

Real, permanent happiness doesn't come from other people or external circumstances, it comes from understanding what's going on in your own mind and learning how to become a master of your own thoughts and emotions. This can be achieved by daily meditation and introspection. Mindfulness meditation is so effective that it is now being incorporated by modern psychology into therapies for depression.

This philosophy comes originally from Buddhism, but a very similar philosophy was developed by the ancient Greeks (Stoicism). Those who are interested might want to read "A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy":

http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Good-Life-Ancient-Stoic/dp/0195374614

this is the first step in believing you can be what you want. You will soon realize you don't have to abide by "being stuck in a shitty job the rest of your life to pay the bills" mindset, and you can create your dream life. Just as many here have recommended, I would say you should consider reading "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. I've been reading it and it considerably changes your mindset about life.

You're on the first step of your journey my friend, keep with it, and create the life you always dreamed of.

Much Love,

jrrappa

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig. Amazing read, intensely philosophical but accessible. Will change the way you look at your life and may make you want to take a cross country motorcycle trip. Win-win.

You're right on the money. One thing I believe the TED presentation etc. skipped is how we get to the point that we even want porn to begin with. And I believe it is exactly that - not the sexual urge but the feeling of emptiness most people today carry. Porn simply fits that state exactly, being a never-ending world to immerse yourself in and then you can get consumed. So absolutely, for me the no. 1 thing I'll trigger is the core problem, the inner pain/conflict and emptiness. I highly recommend both this book: 'Loving What Is' by Byron Katie, and also 'The Power Of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. Both have changed my life in ways I cannot begin to say. Peace and good luck friend.

This is bit off topic, but I recommend reading Models by Mark Manson (you can get it on kindle for $10). The book has some incredible wisdom that I found useful, and it reveals a lot of misconceptions in the entire PUA community, like the fact that many guys attribute their success to certain things that may have nothing to do with their success at all. They may think their lines, routines or whatever were the reasons for their 'success', when in fact the women may have been simply rebounding and in need of someone to temporarily comfort them.

The author also talks about eliminating this relative scale from 1 to 10 in terms of how hot a woman is. He basically uses a binary system instead: 1 or 0. 1 is "Yes I'm interested" and 0 is "Not interested". The whole 'out of your league' mentality is based on a scarcity mindset, suggesting that you are somehow less than the other. By suggesting a woman is a 10, it triggers this idea that "she is too attractive for me".

But what if your attraction to her is the very reason she is worth approaching? After all, she is a "1", not a "0". Using this system says NOTHING about whether she is out of one's league or not.

Here's something I like to tell myself, "If you feel attracted, then be willing to go for what you want, and do not settle for anything less, otherwise you're being dishonest with yourself!"

Moreover, the book explains how women are really drawn to a man's level of attractiveness, which is not the same as good looks. This has to do with honesty, one's self-identity, willingness to be vulnerable (which is a really a sign of courage), etc. In other words, it's got a lot to do with being a real man (like responsibly getting your life in order, improving the way you dress, improving your communication skills, etc).

BTW, the author also talks about the importance of avoiding porn! I hope this is helpful to anyone reading this.

True! I used to do the same thing. Ignore meditation telling myself that it's not for me and I realized a year later that in fact meditation is the most important thing.
If you've got a smart phone you can download this app called calm. It is a helpful app which explains the process of meditation and mindfulness you can also keep track of your routine.

This is the link on play store. I guess it's also available on the app store. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.calm.android

> Don't use the computer near bedtime (leave at least a 2 hr gap)

Or if you choose to as I like some twitch to fall asleep. Install Flux on your computer as it filters out the nasty blue light that prevents melatonin generation.

Seriously. Everyone should install Flux. It's life changing (or restoring) and free.

hey, man! I don't think eating just 500 kcal is healthy, plus you probably won't have any energy at all. You shouldn't edit how much you eat but what you eat. Try the slow-carb diet instead http://gizmodo.com/5709913/4+hour-body-+-the-slow+carb-diet Of course that's just my opinion. Good luck!

>1. How can I block my own access to porn? I need to block it through my iphone and laptop.

http://download.cnet.com/K9-Web-Protection/3000-27064_4-10487710.html

>I know I'm unlikely to be able to make it impossible to view porn, I just need to make it difficult enough so that I've come to my senses before I've gotten past all the self-made obstacles.

Just have to dig down for self-control. realize the triggers and change your reactions (Get out of the house, take a walk, go for a jog, go to gym lift weights)

>2. How much should I tell my wife? She's coming home from work today wanting to talk about my usage of porn. She doesn't know how bad it is. I don't think I can tell her everything (i.e. what I've seen), so how much should I tell her? She trusts me, and although I want to be honest I'm scared of her looking down on me, thinking less of me as a man etc.

TBH I would hold off on this. See if you can work this addiction out your self. SHe should see an upswing in your interest and then you can tell her. I say give her small pieces at a time.

>3. What the fuck do I do? What did you do that worked? I need to spend less time on the laptop, because despite my best intentions it always leads to masturbation. 9gag goes from the trending page to the girl page to the nsfw page to porn. I need to block access and remove temptation. I work from home, so I need to put measures into place to stop myself falling into the traps.

see answer to 1). I have a SO too the benefits of /r/nofap will make the self-control worth it (I KNOW IT). Your wife, marriage and manhood are worth it

Thanks a lot!

Edit: More info on the sample

The DnB song in question is "Still Waters" by Dave Owen

Life is a journey, not the destination. Find something that you find interesting and exciting and start researching it. Go out and meet other people that are doing cool things you find interesting. meetup.com is a good start.

Yes...drugs take over your ATTACHMENT AND REWARD systems. The emotional starvation leading to an opportunistic invasion of PMO as a drug of choice (it could have been alcohol or cocaine or food) came from SOMEWHERE.

Starving it is exactly right. At the same time, we need to process what happened, accept that a PMO addiction involves your entire family....and walk a road of recovery.

https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/SexualRecoveryInstitute/narcissism-sexual-addiction

Many guys are addicted, and it's often about women who have an emotional history of being inside families with low emotionally availability. These women then select men for that trait. It allows them to avoid the issues they had before they chose the guy, and to shame and blame him as a way of doing that. Addicts will absolutely accept that guilt-mongering position. They likely were trained to believe women are victims, so it fits.

Here's the profile of the addiction. Hope that helps. https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/SexualRecoveryInstitute/narcissism-sexual-addiction

I'm a freelancer, so I know that feeling. First of all, I'd say to get rid of any porn you have on your computer. Secondly, install a porn blocker like K9 (it sounds childish, perhaps, but I find that it stops me just clicking without thinking; once you get rid of the autopilot, a lot of the desire goes away). Thirdly, and most importantly, use a randomly generated text string as the password. You can find them here: http://www.random.org/strings/

The important thing is that you don't use your regular password, so you can't just type it in to get around the blocker without thinking: it has to be long enough that you can't remember it passively. After that, you can either keep the password written down somewhere (if you trust yourself not to use it), or save a backup copy somewhere and then get rid of the original. Get creative. Email it to someone you know, and then delete the email from your sent folder (make sure they know to keep it safe). Write the password on a piece of paper, fold it up, put it in a ziplock bag, then freeze it (like http://www.studentbeans.com/student-money/a/freeze-your-credit-card-in-ice1835.html). Do whatever it takes to keep yourself away from temptation.

As for meeting people, I find that taking an evening class -- especially in something like a language -- is a really good way to go about it. Once a week, it forces you out of the house for a few hours in the company of new strangers, and the advantage of a language is that the teacher will FORCE you to talk to them; it might only be 'Hi, my name is X, I work as Y, I live in Z', but it's a huge help, especially if you have any social anxiety. Plus, most beginners' classes seem to be starting right now, so the timing is pretty perfect.

Good luck!

Suggest you listen to this radio program. There a lot of non-Jews involved in the industry - and streaming porn has probably done the most to screw up a generation of young men: https://www.audible.com/socialshare?id=5bf7b538-40f4-4d91-93b4-f2c0053d6143&source_code=CHLGBWS0603160001

It's quite an interesting program, BTW.

Hello there, I have not read it all but I will explain my opinion here because I have this condition, too.

Brother, problem with us is that we try to please others and we believe that our brain is damaged. Day 188 for me and I see just minor improvement in conversations.

I know its hard. We created block that is holding us back. 3 years ago when I still was drinking I noticed that I could converse like a boss, but only when I was drunk. Our brain is fine, but we believe that we cannot converse, and our subconscious, will make it happen. We need to persuade ourselves that we are great conversationalists, but this is not possible in short time. Once you will believe to it your converse skills will be as good as others people if not better.

Unless you will deeply believe it you will be freezing. Personally when I talk I fake it and other feel it. Last week I decided to keep my mouth shut, and only speak when I feel like it. I see different approach of other people to me and to others. When they speak with me they are numb, but when they speak with others they are normal. So there is problem inside me. And I´m fine about it, I won´t fake anything again, I have always spoke little and I don´t care.

Otherwise If you want it change you need to practice, and once you will believe that you are good......

Sorry for repetition :-D

EDIT: You mentioned here you were happiest kid ever. What different have you done before?

EDIT 2: http://brainscale.net/dual-n-back

I don´t know if it works, but hopefully yes. Gonna try it myself. It was in one reply to my comment by another kind user. I dont know if it works but it says it has these benefits:

easier to get a hold of a discussion

better verbal fluency

faster reading with better understanding

better concentration and focus

better dream recall

improvements in piano playing

a bit of science, would suggest otherwise. this study is worthy of your consideration:

https://www.webmd.com/prostate-cancer/news/20040406/frequent-ejaculation-prostate

Just an alternative thought to “sailors” and “seed”.

A bunch!

• Use an internet filter. Get restrictions to adult content on your phone. I don't think it's possible to do this otherwise, so if you're resisting that, stop making excuses.
• Find someone you can talk to about it, daily. And any time you're tempted, reach out to that person. Simple thing, but powerful.
• Try to change your relationship with the urges. They'll never go away, but you don't have to respond to them the same way. With practice, I was able to watch the urges come and go without responding to them. It's always temporary. The Headspace meditation app has a series on anxiety, and you can use a lot of those same principles in dealing with the urges. Here's an article from their blog describing it, but the meditation practice is what will make the difference.

Check out the top posts in /r/mindfulness and /r/meditation.

Also try this site: https://www.headspace.com/

Has a free trial. The guided meditations will give you an idea of what you're supposed to do.

Sam Harris' guided meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OboD7JrT0NE

Firstly, remember that watching P will just continue the cycle of anxiety. I would try and take a broad approach to NoFap: firstly, exercise regularly; next, limit your screen time; check in here regularly; take up another hobby or skill; read and or meditate; I also listen to this noise: https://mynoise.net/NoiseMachines/singingBowlsDroneGenerator.php

I’ve been experimenting with apps like Freedom to help me in times of urges when using my phone. It’s not the most perfect solution but I hope it can work for you when you’re like me and need to have your phone with you at all times.

Try changing the DNS in your home router. Do so also on your phone:

>208.67.222.123

>208.67.220.123

These come from OpenDNS, owned by Cisco.

Here's more info.

Haha, I just checked out this subreddit on a whim, it's weird in here. But I do have an answer for you.

Setup either your computer, or better your router to use https://www.opendns.com/ servers. Then you make an account and your home IP Address. You can then block all sorts of categories of sites.

Since you set it up, it's not impossible to get around, but it might be enough to help you keep off the sites. You can do this for free. If you do it on the router level, it'll block them for everything in the house (that dhcp's DNS servers). Phones, computers, even game systems. As an added benefit, it'll also block bullshit virus spewing sites too.

https://www.opendns.com/home-internet-security/parental-controls/opendns-home/

The cold is horrible I hated it and turned it back to warm but then I have it too hot. I hear alot about Instagram being a trigger. Best switch to facebook only since It's not as exposing usually and delete insta. I think I'm going to try match.com still don't know wtf I'm doing though lol.

You can use StayFocusd extension for chrome to limit your time on certain websites,it is really great. Also timeStats to track where you spend most of your time online (and how much).. It helps to be aware of your online habits so you are more inclined to waste less time.

I have a block installed, this is a good one: https://getcoldturkey.com/

I just stop the problem at the source. If I cannot access P, then I cannot watch it, haha.

This journey is a tough one. But you are strong. Stay strong and beat this!

Good luck.