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1) planning everything, even the little things. I use a tracker with reminders to do chores, learn a language and exercise. For everything else I use google calendar. For some reason, having a daily plan allows me to do a lot more than I otherwise do. There's some satisfaction in seeing a list of tasks shrink.
2) evaluating my free time. This mainly involved video games and my internet browsing experience. Basically, if I felt that something I was doing involved a lot of "filler time" or something that I wasn't really enjoying, I just stopped doing it. Now I never play video games that make me angry or involve a lot of walking or travelling from point A to point B and I stopped watching youtube personalities and youtube drama (shit like H3H3). Now I spend less time playing games and browsing the internet, but I enjoy that time considerably more.
Discovered this app 2 days ago. An free, open sourced Habit tracker. Relatively new with 50-100 downloads only but 4.9 rating.
Simple, elegant, functional design. Detailed statistics and widgets. No excessive permissions. Developer is active.
Linkme: Loop: Habit Tracker by Alinson S Xavier
Edit- Heres correct link
Loop: Habit Tracker
Edit 12:50pm EST- A new review mentions developer posted it on r/androiddev (developer is /u/iSoron)
Just a few thoughts on this:
You might want to hop over to /r/theXeffect/ and put your goals on cards. I use an app called Loop - Habit Tracker to keep track of my daily goals.
Also, these are my daily goals in case you or someone else needs inspiration:
Loop - Habit Tracker
It's a simple little app to help you track your progress at adopting a new habit. The app successfully got me in the habit of cleaning my apartment on a regular basis.
Edit: it's also worth mentioning that this app requires no permissions, and has no ads.
Little side-tip related to habit building: get an app like Loop - Habit Tracker. I've found it to be really helpful in building habits, and it helps getting past little slip ups as well.
I am still working on it so I can't really answer your question. Now, you have your own milestones and you'll probably want to have as many non-zero days as possible but my objectives are a bit more specific (be productive for x hours/days, wake up before 8 AM, etc) and to keep track of everything, I needed another app - loop habit tracker. I don't know if you'll need it but it offers a bit more granularity in case you don't want to limit yourself to four broad categories.
Check out Loop Habit Tracker. It has a great widget, material interface, etc. The thing I like best is its percent system. Keep going to keep it at 100%, or if you break then try and get it back up to 100%.
I would download Loop - Habit Tracker and set a daily habit entitled "Didn't check Reddit ��" or something like that (or more likely an inverse habit of when I do, with a focus to avoid building the habit).
It's called Loop - Habit Tracker, best minimalistic and straightforward app I have ever used to track stuff, plenty of interesting stats and great widgets too
Loop Habit tracker - It's great because it's very minimalistic in design which is great for the multiple cards I have and also has great stats.
Oh yeah that Loop Habit Tracker is the best. Simple, but has enough statistics etc and does not send your data to whoever, no special requirements needed.
My app, Loop Habit Tracker, currently has 120k downloads and 4.74 score. I think the best way to improve your ratings is to listen to your users. Listen to their feedback with an open mind, and don't take things personally: they are rating the app, not you.
Also, it's better to have a very simple app with few functions that work really well, rather than a bloated app that tries to do everything but ends up being unreliable and confusing to use. You don't need to implement every single feature that your competitors have. Focus on the 20% that 80% of the users need, and do it well. For more about this point, I recommend the book Getting Real, by 37signals.
I'm using a bare bones, open source app. Come up with a habit you want, optionally in the form of a question, give it a desired schedule, and track it with a simple binary answer.
The habit at the top of my list is itself to record my progress in the app by 7 every night (and a reminder sounds if I do not), because it is so important.
Jokin mikä on itseäni auttanut on habit trackeri, itse käytän [link]
Laitoin alkuun tavoitteeksi ihan normihommaa niinkuin pyykkien pesu, siivous (ihan kuinka pieni tahansa), ja liikkuminen (laittaa edes vaatteet päälle ja menee hetkeksi ulos seisomaan). Sitten laittaa checkboxin että teki jotain, niin on konkreettinen merkki siitä ettei ihan joutilainen ollut. Siitä sitten hiljakseen laajentaa.
+1! I use it on a daily basis
Not to mention, it is open source, so no worries for th permissions ;)
Here is the link [link] on the Google Play Store
And for good measure, on F-Droid [link]
Accurate self-reflection is the biggest part of self-esteem to me.
I recommend journaling, so that you can see how you feel at different times and create a more accurate representation of your feelings. I also use an app called Loop - Habit Tracker so that I can make sure I'm doing the things I want to be doing.
I use Loop (for Android). It has reminders, so you don't have to actively remember using it and a nice graphical overview for how consistent you have been.
Maybe we can use this thread for app recommendations.
Here's mine (Android): [link]
You can tell it to abstain either every day or, if you're on LowFap, to abstain for example 29 out of 30 days. Then if you use that one "Fap day" it will still count as a streak.
It gives a great graphical presentation of progress over time, which I find very helpful. It also shows your best streaks. And your best/weakest weekdays over time, which might help with identifying patterns.
I use it to track both LowFap and pornfree and it made it really obvious how P is the real issue, which is motivating as well.
You can try Loop - Habit Tracker. Just add a nofap habit and mark your progress at the end of each day. You can setup notifications, too. [link]
Your best bet would be - [link]
Loop - Habit Tracker. It's essentially what you want, it has a tracker and everything, and very minimal interface. Just set your habit as, "Did Not Drink," and you're set.
Best part is, no ads, and is free.
I use Habits for daily things. It's very simple and minimalistic - for some use cases probably too simple, but check it out. Open-source and free too.
Is there a guide on how to use this app? I found something in /r/lifeRPG but it's pretty basic. I don't even know how to tweak the exp gained, whether 1 gem is good enough reward (or what they even do).
Can you do stuff like, rewarding you for completing a pomodoro session on a task?
Edit: I tried the app, I found it to be pretty meh because of the amount of setup it requires. I found something else that does the work for me. One of them is loop which claims to be open source and ad-free and so far looks great, and there's also productivity challenge timer but that's a different beast (combines pomodoro timer with achievements or something and punishes you if you get "lazy"). I'll try both and see which one I'll stick with. I'm like /u/frrunkis and I feel that I'm being too soft on me.
I love me Loop - Habit Tracker! It has 1x1 checkbox widgets that allow you to check off habits as done for the day/week/whenever with one touch. At one point, one of my homescreen panes was populated with almost nothing but checkboxes, haha; they're fun to interact with!
I used to try to use Todoist to manage my habits for a few months or so, and realized that it was overwhelming to have so many small tasks per day. Combine that with the trouble of getting the flexible due dates just right, and I decided to use a separate app for most of my habits.
I personally use Loop Habit Traker on Android, but there are plenty of others that are the same. A perk of using something like that is you can see the history of your habits, too.
I still keep habits that need to be planned for (laundry, going to the gym, etc.) as Todoist tasks in addition to the other app. And sometimes, when I'm planning my day, I'll take some habits from the habit tracker and make one-time tasks for them in Todoist. Depends on how organized I'm feeling.
Have a look at the app I developed, Loop Habit Tracker. You can create a habit such as "take shower", set the frequency to " 1 time in 2 days", then create a reminder at a certain time of the day. Every day, at that time, the app will check if you have taken a shower in the last two days, and, if not, show you a notification. It also has widgets, and some other features.
>I know a bit of Python and JS, but I'm more comfortable with Python.
So, how much webdev experience do you have? None?
Any answer to your question depends highly on your current experience.
And yeah, there are some Android Apps that are similar to what you describe.
<strong>Loop - Habit Tracker</strong> for example.
I use this app on my android phone to track simple habits like: 1. going for walk. 2. Push up after shower. Even If i do one i see as goal accomplished for the day. That makes me do it daily and i do more than needed. The simplicity of it is astounding
So I've been looking for a habit tracker app that's actually useful. I've tried about all of them and have settled for Loop - Habit Tracker, which is free and open source.
A few comments about your app:
having to register an account to check the app is a deal breaker IMO. If I had stumbled upon your app in the Play Store instead of through this post where you're soliciting feedback, I would have uninstalled immediately.
I know you said that you wanted to get the app started fast, but you'll need a lot more features to justify charging for it. It sounds rather harsh but except for the point system, which I think is a great idea, there's no reason for me to ditch Loop - Habit Tracker, as it has many more features, it's free and open source and just looks better IMO.
features that I would like to see added: graphs, ability to set habits as something other than daily, reminders, backup, export and import data, better UI and UI options (themes, night mode, habit colors, maybe a color coding system that mirrors success/the point system, etc.), a reward system for completing habits would be nice too (something Loop is missing)
one of the reasons I settled on Loop is because it added Tasker support in the latest beta version. A habit tracking app without Tasker support means that you have no other choice than manually inputting data. With Tasker, you can convert "real life" actions to habit data automatically. It potentially means that I would never have to open the app to track my habits.
If you're able to go with zero alcohol for two months straight with no problem starting immediately (or more generally at any moment's notice), then I would very highly doubt that you are an alcoholic.
Try ditching it, just as an exercise to yourself. I would suggest getting a habit app; it has REALLY helped me in various ways with daily habits of things to do or things to avoid. If you have an Android, I like Loop - Habit Tracker.
I found an open source habit tracker, which works excellently and is totally free and not subscription based like other habit trackers. Loop Habit Tracker in the Google Play Store.
I use habits app and have items like brush my teeth at night, sleep early. Read before sleep. For past month I usually most of them done and it has made quite an impact on my life. The app is really simple and easy to use.
Some resource to stay motivated:
I just checked and apparently you can set tasks to repeat daily, so they'll reset the next day. I use Loop - habit tracker for my daily repetitive tasks .
I have LoopHabbitTracker installed on my phone, the notification to perform habits sent to my watch. I check them off If I've done them. Very handy.
I recommend the andoid app "Loop - Habit Tracker."
Lightweight, open source, ad-free, and super easy to use. It's helped me and my friend a lot in managing our screwed up lives. It reminds you of tasks at specified times, and you check off whether you've done it, delay it until later (you specify how long inside the program) or dismiss. If you dismiss, it will pester you the next day until you've finally done the task, then it will wait for the next interval to expire. For example, if I don't trim my beard in a week, it will begin bugging me every day about it, until I do it, then it will wait a week to bug me again.
It generates exportable charts to keep track of the strength of your habits, so you know how well you're doing. I use mine for everything from am/pm medication reminders, once weekly beard trimming and other hygiene stuff, twice weekly watering plants, tracking my alcohol consumption, changing bed sheets, replacing my bath towel, it tells me to go outside (and tracks how much I don't, because I dismiss that one a lot =/). It's a great tool and it can be transformative. It's tiny and works fine on the 7 year old phone I gave my friend when I got a hand-me-down from my sister.
One of the best designed, lightest, and most life-changing apps I've ever used. You just have to OBEY.
I believe in you! Wanted to mention that I find if I change my inner monologue from "I've got to do the thing" to "I want to do the thing" really helps.
Check out Loop - Habit Tracker it really helps me and I can see the days I miss taking meds and correlate them to my diary entries. Which surprisingly aren't great days usually.
I just switched from Android and I'm heartbroken that my favorite habit-tracking app loop - habit tracker is not available. Looking for a replacement that will let me:
Do you mean something like Loop Habit Tracker? I use it to track anything from when I brush my teeth to if I workout or meditate, or go to bed on time.
Really helped me incorporate more and more good habits into my daily routine. Very simple app, nice interface, and actually useful widgets that don't just exist to force ads onto your phone's home screen.
I like using habit tracking apps and the simplicity of the don't-break-the-chain type things. The one I use now is "Loop Habit Tracker" (github, play store) because it's simple enough to do what it does and easy enough to see at a glance how things are going. And basically when there's a new habit I want to develop I add it to the list and set a notification schedule to "nag" me until it becomes more automatic so I don't forget. Even after I don't need to be reminded any more the don't-break-the-chain motivates me.
> Also, some goals don't really make sense in a "goal / milestone" context. E.g. I can make a goal for anal sex, but it won't be very helpful, reliable or accurate when it eventually does happen since this isn't something that I have a clear roadmap to.
The risk there is that you're reinforcing some sort of covert contract. I don't like tracking things that are outside my control and have a fairly sharp razor for that. I only track what's under my control and things that I'm making an effort to improve (or monitoring to avoiding regressing on). I see it more as a tool focused on my behavior and not an almanac to track the weather or some woman's cervical mucus viscosity or whatever. So for example I track "didn't avoid initiating" which focuses on my behavior and not the outcome.
They're widgets from this app! If I accomplish the task then i tap them and they become solid. My streaks are tracked in the app proper.
Loop - Habits Tracker
There is another one called 7 Weeks that Seems good as well, though I admire the well made simple UI of loops.
Aand it's two hours past my bedtime :) Damn Bojack Horseman. Great show. Goodnight!
Apart from the regular phone alarm app, if you are also on Android, I'd suggest you install Loop - Habit Tracker for Android
I use it as a reminder for almost everything I am currently cultivating a habit for. It is very good, trust me. If you need anything else let me know.
Just recalled another thought. The Dalai Lama recommends repeated sitting for just 5 minutes throughout the day. Like sitting for 5 minutes morning, noon and night. I'm using this app: [link] I just create 3 habits called sitting 1, 2 and 3. Hope this helps.
How has it developed in a year?
I checked out CNQR. Across the mind/body/life sections, you get 23 articles and 9 tasks for free. If you pay, you get 9 more resources. That's basically it. There's a levelling system, but it's an end in itself. A higher level confers no advantage to anything. There's a handful of comments on certain articles, but that's as far as the community goes.
Don't get me wrong. It's polished and if I had to pick between quality and quantity, I want the former. But it plays like an early access game with 1/5th the content of a finished product. The minimalist interface almost seems designed to increase the number of clicks required to navigate the website, as if disguising the lack of content. It feels a little deceiving.
Now, you might say. CNQR isn't supposed to do everything. That's true. But the way it is, I might as well download Loop Habit Tracker, bookmark a few good blogs in my browser and be done with the concept of having a "life game".
> If necessary, set yourself a reminder on your phone every day until it becomes a habit.
/u/Kingkhai23: if you have an Android, use a free habit app like Loop - Habit Tracker which has a handy 1x1 checkmark widget that can easily reinforce a daily habit (and in a fun way!) of setting your wallet in the same place.
I can imagine it being a bit tricky to try to be held accountable by others who don't know what they're accounting for. Personally, my journey was solo. It took me a very long time to ditch the habit myself—years really, but over time you make your way towards decreasing frequency. Try first just setting a goal of a rough target limit per week, and go from there. The most important thing is that you do not be too harsh on yourself ~~if~~ when you relapse. Just acknowledge that it's a long-term journey, enjoy the challenge day by day, and don't beat yourself up!
I seem to have conquered it, and that was undeniably with the active help of Loop - Habit Tracker. This app's daily tracking of a new habit to establish is incredible, with its convenient 1x1 widget for whether you did/did not do any given action per day. If you don't have an Android, probably any habit-tracking app for iOS will do. Prayer for discipline to the rule set you create for yourself would be good, and that's what I'll pray about for you. Eventually you will want to weed out and actively avoid nearly any trigger, which can seem milder than is worth the effort.
But it's worth the effort. Every moment of it.
There is no region lock, or anything like that. It should work, but the Google Play Store is not very reliable. If you have already joined the beta, please try this URL.
I like it but the problem is that it only tracks CONTRIBUTIONS. So even if you do a bunch of coding work but are not ready to check in, you get no "credit". So I always felt stressed out and not motivated because I wasn't sure I would get enough done to commit code to github that day.
But I really like their calendar visual. There's an android app that I use called Loop that has a history/calendar visual that is similar. The key is that you control when you want to mark a given day. That aspect really helps me.
Loop has been a fantastic app to help me track my habits. I add one at a time as my habit strength increases each month. Now that I'm working Mon-Fri with commute, I needed a way to adapt to a proper sleep schedule. Currently on a 15 day streak for getting 8hrs of sleep!
Next step, packing lunches...
Regarding apps, I find Loop Habit tracker to be a great open source alternative to the one you listed, and no premium upgrades required to break the 5 habits limit.
Honestly, I don't know. Most of the times i can't get past even 2 days without relapsing. But some times, for some reason, i make it through and get to months before i finally slip.
And I can't really tell why. Now obviously in the end i'm still not, mentally and physically, where i should be, otherwise my long streaks would last, but at the same time there's something that i must be doing right to be able to get over that hump, as you said.
I think the most crucial bit that i can advise on is: never give up, keep trying different things to find out what works for you, and stay focused.
For example in this streak i'm using this app to keep track of habits that I want to be consistent with (like getting up early, meditating, posting regularly, being grateful) and that really helped me to get focused.
And if i'll relapse again, then I'll get up and try to tweak my approach once more, until I get it right.
It's a trial and error thing, and in order for it to work, you must never give up
Note: It would help to link to the app, like this: Loop - Habit Tracker.
I installed this recently, decided that I hated it, and then realized that it didn't meet my minimum requirement for installing apps. The last time this app was updated was June 22, 2016. That is officially an abandoned app, as far as I'm concerned. I'm glad I didn't like it.
I don't know about "proper". I started by giving myself a 30 day challenge where I would take 100% cold showers every day. I get in the shower and then turn the cold water on over me, rinse my whole body, turn off the water, soap lather, then take my time rinsing off. I make sure to maintain calm but deep breathing. I've noticed differences in overall vitality, alertness and since the new habit pushed me out of my comfort zone, I was more confident to tackle other new habits (like working out and stretching daily). I tracked my progress with Loop Habit Tracker. The fact that I could see my progress through graphs helped a ton and helped me hold myself accountable. It has been a great change in my life. Today I'm on day 101 and now I don't think I want to go back to regular showers.
There are apps that do that already, but there's nothing wrong with competition and different feature sets.
Loop habit tracker has a really good rating, and does a lot of what OP's website appears (at first glance) to do.
I prefer Loop - Habit Tracker for android.
HabitBull looks like a good alternative for iOS and there are a lot more but I prefer Loop - Habit Tracker because it's very simple.
Loop Habit Tracker is what I use for recurring reminders (like meditations or recording my weight), while Google Reminders works best for once off events. Loop also lets me see what I've done in the past visually and build habits, though that may not be of much use to you.
This doesn't apply to a specific habit
It applies to everything. Identify a habit and build the "muscle" of working in that area.
Get a habit tracker. If you have an Android phone use this.
Pick something like "Do 5 push-ups everyday"
Pick a habit that you know you can do, something reasonable. Stick to that 1 and only habit past where you are bored of doing it. Stick with it until that circle is full. Then move up to "Hit the gym twice a week". Then move up to "Count calories" and so on and so forth.
The ability to build momentum for change over time is an undertaught skill but is vital in growing as a human being and making deep change in ourselves. Fleeting willpower isn't strong enough to change who we are, but constant small deliberate change is.
Counseling is one thing. The havoc you're wreaking upon your body is another. You gotta find a way to taper off the drinks and drugs. I personally love Loop - Habit Tracker (if you have an Android), which has helped me keep track of so many different habits to build and knock off, including not engaging in a certain activity every day. They are really empowering!
Can you check out a habit app like the one above? Do you exercise? How's your diet? If it's crap, there are places for that. /r/EatCheapAndHealthy is one, /r/MealPrepSunday is another. I do not know if /r/addiction will help, but there must be a place for you to find people in a similar boat to sympathize with.
The more crap you can flush out of your system, the more effectively you'll be able to look on your past in as healthy a way as possible (which is tough as it is; I'm so sorry about your difficult past, but at least the chaos is now far away from you, which is critical).
Chest pains? That's terrifying. Use a habit app, like Loop - Habit Tracker for Android. It's more addicting when it comes to tracking how well you abstain from a given activity every day (in this case, eating fast food).
At the very worst, at least think more about your wallet. The only time you should ever eat out is either if you have a coupon or with friends. Maybe /r/EatCheapAndHealthy can help you out in cutting down the cravings. Remember, fast food is designed to make you keep coming back. Find food to make at home that resembles it, and go gradually healthier and healthier from there.
Habit Loop is great for tracking habits! [link]
I see [link] is not working. If we need a dedicated Kaizen web app I would be interested in developing it, maybe with soms other Kaizen warriors from #programming.
Absolutely! It takes some time to kick in though, potentially 1-3 weeks, I think (can't remember; read up more about it). Order it and when it arrives, use a daily habit app to remind yourself to take it daily until it does. You might even use it to just start with little tasks to help garner motivation in general. If you have an Android, I really dig Loop - Habit Tracker. It's very viscerally satisfying to press your customized 1x1 widget checkmarks and stamp one task after another as done for the day, no matter how small.
Are you on Android or iOS?
I'm experimenting with Loop - Habit Tracker on Android. It's Open Source, simple, both free and ad-free.
So far I like it.
Here's the link: [link]
I think everyone is more concerned with the app I am using than me crushing my goals lol
To clear the doubt here's the play store link:
Yeah. I went to the dentist yesterday and the outlook is grim.
I got an app called Loop. It's a checklist to help me remember to do all of the basic stuff each day. Brush teeth, shower, take meds, etc.
It's definitely helpful, I'm hoping that I can remember to use it long term.
If you decide to start a new habit, make sure you track it so that you can see how far you've come (which can reinforce the new habit even more!). There's a ton of apps that help you do this. Here's an example open source one.
Estou usando Loop - Habit Tracker pra traçar alguns mínis hábitos, arrumar a cama, 1 podcast em Inglês por dia e por ai vai. E quase o que você faz, isso ajuda bastante mas eu tento me sabotar há alguns dias, preciso me policiar mais pra fazer tudo isso.
Obrigado pelo conselho.
I have an android app called Loop Habit Tracker on my phone and it really helps. I set it up so that I would get a sticky notification in the morning that won't go away until I take my medication and check it off.
Scheduling pharmacy visits on your calendar as soon as you get the scripts will help. Do you use your phone a lot, or do you prefer a physical calendar?
The only way to find out is to try a slightly higher dose, I think. You should talk to your doctor about it :)
Interesting idea - reminds me of "habit" apps (such as this - [link] ) though yours has some sort of reward program ($) but then...
How would one prove the task was accomplished? Where does the app get the money to pay you?
I use Habits to handle recurring tasks. It also has a cool calendar view to track how often something happens (I use it to track how often my daughter is short of breath and needs albuterol, so when we see the doctor we can tell them "she needed it 3 times last month" or something like that). I also use it to track giving her vitamins/medication, etc.
Its also free with no ads or iap, which is a major plus.
Loop Habit Tracker user here, I especially like the widgets. Having one button on my android home screen to press for each habit is awesome.
Dang. I'm sorry you're going through this. That's really rough, to say the least. I think I would reach out to his mom. And you don't have to be very concerned about saying anything in particular. This stuff is not going to go away for her, ever, so I'm sure any sympathy about it would be much appreciated.
Otherwise, here's an exercise: don't say a word about him to your friends for an entire day. Talk about their lives instead, or current events. Get a habit-tracking app. You may break many times, but try to keep the streak going longer and longer for the number of days in a row that you say nothing regarding him (though contact with your therapist and his family is fine, on those days). If you have an Android, I've found Loop - Habit Tracker to be incredibly powerful, especially the visceral touching of marking a habit as completed (anything that required streaks like going to school and such). Maybe this can help reclaim your life. He would want you to do so, anyways, no?
Your Reddit post is fine and perfect.
I use the default timer on my phone and the free and open-source Loop Habit Tracker to keep track of my meditation habit.
It's not as convenient as one specifically geared for the task that you seek, but you could use Loop - Habit Tracker and set a separate habit for each instance per day (for example: Med × 1, Med × 2, Med × 3). It has really cool 1x1 optional check-mark widgets per habit and habits can be configured to reset daily.
Otherwise it sounds like this app needs to be built, or at least I don't know of anything that can do this.
Loop is fantastic and open source. One of the easiest and fastest way of setting up. Also you can setup notifications to keep you in top of your habits.
Loop Habit Tracker. [link]
I'm not sure it allows notes in the sense you have in mind. But it is open source and comes with no bullshit.
Try using Loop - Habit Tracker with a daily notification. This free (and open source) app is fantastic in how clean and focused it is for exactly this task.
I have the same feeling using your app.
What feature your app has that Habbit Loop does not have? https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.isoron.uhabits
Well, I have premium subscription of Todoist so the following points are for premium version of Todoist :
Now you can mix above mention labels and projects to create filters by which you can target specific tasks, for example, tasks that has to be done in morning, which are less intensive & will take 10 min
I have 4-5 Projects
Hey man, first of all I want to say that I am really impressed with the self-awareness you have demonstrated just by making this post at all. You are clearly a conscientious person, and your head is in the right place -- even of your heart isn't always there with it.
I truly believe I would have been very close to radicalization had the shape of the internet been what it is now back when I was your age, so your situation definitely resonates with me (as I imagine it probably does with many others around here).
There are a few ways you could go about handling this, and I'm sure you will hear a lot of different advice on the matter. Most of it (including mine) might sound too simplified, tone-deaf, or even downright impossible. I know the standard chorus of advice is usually easy one-liners like "hit the gym" or "just work on yourself". This advice is good, but I know it can seem like an impossible mountain to climb when you get innundated with it -- especially if you are dealing with low self-esteem. So please take everything I'm saying with yourself in mind. You are the only person who knows where you are at emotionally, so take the steps that feel appropriate. Most importantly, forgive yourself if you face a setback or have a moment of weakness or failure.
Okay, preamble done; time for the advice.
The most important thing you can do, and it is going to be the hardest part of all, is to stop trying with women altogether. Having never had any success, the pressure you are putting on yourself to become successful is the thing that is most in your way right now. The good news is that, being only 19, you have a lot going for you!
Here are some things to keep in mind, to help put you at ease about your situation, and take your mind off women:
Okay, so that's what you "shouldn't" do. But what should you actually do?
Well, this is difficult to answer without knowing much about your situation, but I'll make some generalized assumption and you can correct me if I'm wrong.
The most important thing you need to do is to build your self confidence up. This is easier said than done, but start by taking a deep look at how you feel about yourself. What areas create the most self-loathing? Are you unhappy with your appearance? Do you play too many video games? Are you getting bad grades? Do you have any ambitions or goals you are ignoring? Do you feel like a boring person with no interests? This is going to take some honesty, and I suggest you write it all down somewhere private.
Once you identify the areas you feel need the most attention and improvement, pick one thing that you want to focus on. It should be something that you can break down into very small, actionable steps. Your goal here is to build (or break) a habit around this thing. Track your progress. This will help you see that you are improving, even if you have a setback or a bad day (I like the app Loop - Habit Tracker as a tool for this).
I cannot stress this part enough, so I'll say it again: start with baby steps. I recently built a gym habit for myself (still in progress), and my first step was just making sure I set foot in the gym twice a week. Nothing more than that. I started out just running on the treadmill for 20 minutes and then leaving, because I was too intimidated to do anything more, but that first step was important to building myself to a point where I can feel comfortable actually lifting weights. Check out /r/getdisciplined for more great advice.
I know that none of this has been about women, but I really don't think that should be your focus at all for now. If you can start improving yourself (in ways that you care about -- fuck what anyone else thinks), then you'll plant the seeds of confidence that will eventually grow. Dating comes later.
I feel I should also suggest that if you really are concerned about your mental well-being, I would strongly urge you to seek a good therapist. I know it is expensive, but if you are a student, your school might offer counselling services. Or maybe a parent might be willing to contribute? It's not an easy thing to get into when resources are limited, but it can be an extremely valuable investment in yourself that I would not brush off.
Sorry that this became such a novel. I could go on and on and on, but I will stop this here. Please feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions or just need to talk a bit. And good luck!
I use Loop Habits app and its been a blessing
I've been using Loop - habit tracker and it's working great.
I really enjoy Habits for habit tracking. Simple, free, and customizable.
I have recently released a fully open-source alternative to these apps, called Loop Habit Tracker. Here are some screenshots. It's already available from Google Play or F-Droid. All your data stays in your phone; it does not even require Internet permission.
Sorry if I'm hijacking, but since this is iOS only and we're in /r/NonZeroDay, imo it's fair to promote something for us Android guys who want a similar app.
Android has an absolutely fantastic habit tracker app called <strong>Loop</strong>. It is free and also open source.
The dev is /u/iSoron.
edit: added github link
Als sehr nützlich empfinde ich Loop Habit Tracker (auf F-Droid, auf Google Play). Die App hilft einem dabei, Gewohnheiten aufzubauen. Man kann verschiedene Gewohnheiten (z. B. Fahrradfahren) eintragen, und festlegen, wie oft man diesen jeweils nachgehen möchte (z. B. zweimal pro Woche). Mit der App erfasst man den Erfolg, kann sich Statistiken anzeigen lassen, und wird an anstehende Tätigkeiten erinnert. Sehr zu empfehlen.
I am a fan of Loop habit tracker
Its open source and the developer listens to the suggestions of the users.
I hope you have an Android because this app is exactly what you're looking for
I use this. It's a good android alternate (needs a material design makeover tbh).
Check out Loop Habit Tracker. Its an open source alternative with widgets.
Loop Habit Tracker can be used for that purpose ( [link] )
I like Loop Habit Tracker. Very simple, easy to use interface with some interesting stats.
this app is godsend, it is open source, lite and has graphical analysis of your streaks
I'm a big fan of loop habit tracker. Has a great widget and lots of stats, is open source and free.
I have been in a similar situation and I've been able to lessen it (but it seems to come in waves). In my case, the culprit is pent up frustrations, mostly subconsciously. There's three things I thought of of tackling it.
The first two are meant to alleviate the "symptoms": I've developed a daily meditation habit and I should also find a physical outlet to get rid of frustration. (The former I've been able to do using two free Android apps, namely Insight Timer and Loop Habit Tracker. As for the latter, I do do 10 minutes of exercises daily, but I'm not sure if they are the kind that get rid of frustration.)
The third is to find the underlying cause(s), to really self-investigate. Be honest with yourself and see if you are acting against your conscience in some way, or if you have cognitive dissonance about something. And then try to resolve it. Jordan Peterson's videos have helped me in doing that, but I think it's an iterative process that's going to take a while.
Loop Habit Tracker is what I like. I tried Nomie and it wasn't clean enough for me.
This is the app - It's pretty good for home screen widgets
You guys may like this one too [link]
It has home page widget clickables
Heres correct link
Loop: Habit Tracker
I know this is unsolicited, but as a former HabitBull user, I switched to Loop a few months ago and it's way better. [link]
Something went wrong and he lost the "s" at the end it seems: [link]
It's just an app.
Eu tenho depressão e tdah. No momento estou bem deprê (postei mais sobre isso em outra thread), mas uns meses atrás tive uma melhora significativa, através de:
Remédios (venlafaxina e venvanse)
Psicólogo (terapia cognitivo comportamental focada em mudar meus hábitos)
Exercício físico (bicicleta e hidroginástica, ou ao menos caminhada), de preferência no sol
Cultivar bons hábitos diariamente, anotando eles à medida que acontecem (por exemplo "me exercitei hoje"), para facilitar que uma rotina se estabeleça. /r/theXeffect subreddit relacionado.
Deixar de usar o computador em casa. A triste situação é que tenho dependência ao uso online do PC e retirar ele por umas semanas ajudou pra caramba. Peguei o laptop e guardei na mochila -- se eu quisesse usar o computador, teria que levar ele fora de casa. Quando eu sentia abstinência eu ia ler um livro, caminhar, qualquer coisa.
A ideia é focar no presente, o amanhã você se preocupa amanhã. Se hoje você realizar tarefas produtivas, o seu dia já vai estar melhor (comigo é assim, pelo menos). Eu comecei a manter uma agenda com tudo que eu tinha que fazer, e a cada item completado eu vou riscando. O psicólogo foi importante nessa parte. Hábitos recorrentes eu passei a acompanhar com o loop habit tracker, foi bom para sentir exatamente como eu estou progredindo (ou não). Não basta pensamento positivo, tem que ser realista. Nessa época mudei hábitos alimentares e perdi 30 kg também (115 kg -> 85 kg).
Se você conseguir realizar seus objetivos hoje, amanhã você vai ter mais chance de conseguir fazer suas tarefas, e assim por diante. E aos poucos pode virar costume. Mas claro, nem todo dia vai ser um bom dia. Mas o perigo é achar que só porque você não conseguiu ontem, você precisa deixar de realizar seus objetivos de hoje. Não, esqueça o ontem, hoje é outro dia.
O legal desse ponto de vista é que ele não deposita a esperança de melhora nos remédios, ou em um fator externo que está além do seu alcance. E sabe, remédios psiquiátricos muitas vezes são limitados e o psiquiatra vai testando na tentativa e erro mesmo, o remédio que funciona com um paciente pode não funcionar com outro. E aliás, seu médico tentou que outros remédios além da fluoxetina?
Agora sim, remédios são importantes (e eu piorei nos últimos meses quando deixei de tomar eles... e deixei de ir ao psicólogo :|), mas quem precisa cuidar da sua saúde mental é você, no dia-a-dia.
tldr: remédios sozinhos não bastam, é bom unir eles à terapia e mudança no estilo de vida.
Loop - habit tracker it's open source if you want to check the insides.
I use Loop Habit Tracker -- ad-free, open source, with actionable notifications (no timeline support but that's never bothered me).
Loop Habit Tracker is an all purpose tracker which doesn't have any specific links to sobriety, but could definitely work for them.
I like this one. Shows me the progress of my goals and it's very simple in use.
Loop Habit Tracker is a really cool and simple app for exactly this purpose.
I use it every day. It's free and open source and also availabe through F-droid. The source code can be found here
Looking at reviews, this might be a good option for you: [link]
On Android, I can really recommend Loop.
This is something I've been working on the for the past year. I've always wanted to do a bunch of projects, but never could muster up the willpower when I had the time. So, I started to "procrastinate" by reading about being productive. Many of those books I feel aren't written for INTP's I feel, but there are some things that have really helped me.
I commit to 3 very small actions a day Every day earlier on when I find myself day dreaming about projects, I name a really small thing I can do to get further in them. Do I want to program? Write a line of code. Start exercising? Walk to my mailbox. Electronics? Continuity test a jumper cable. Seriously, make it so small that even you would feel too lazy to not do it. Once you start, it feels easier to keep going. My mailbox walks usually turn into miles, one line of code turns into completing a CodeWars.com challenge, etc.,
Track the habits I want in this app I've used so many apps before that tried to gamify things, had many bells and whistles for setting up meticulus habits, etc, but they all have failed. This one seems to be working because it's stupid simple. Do it, click the checkmark, move on. It keeps track of frequency like Github keeps track of code commits (sorry to the non-programmers reading this).
Set music to activities I love listening to music, maybe too much. I have some albums/playlists that I only listen to during certain activities to the point where it feels weird just to listen to them alone. Riding my bike? Pain of Salvation's Be. Reading schematics? Ark's Porcelain Jesus
Sorry for the wall of text. Learning how to do projects is my current project, and I'm just excited about it.
> Loop habit tracker?
Habits app I'm talking about - [link]
For this reason I don't rely on the tracker anymore, instead I use the habits app on my phone. It's pretty cool!
I use this for developing habits.
I am not associated with the developer or anything
This is a link to the play store app, so you know what it looks like [link]
[link] <- loop habit tracker, dunno if it's on iOS as well
Hi! Ik heb enigszins ervaring met een paar van de dingen die je omschrijft.
Zoals je zelf ook al aangeeft, gedragsverandering is moeilijk, en als je er echt mee aan de slag wilt zou ik je zeker aanraden iemand te zoeken om je te helpen.
Het klinkt idioot, maar een psycholoog kan door alleen te luisteren al heel veel betekenen en het kan heel fijn zijn eens alles met iemand op een rijtje te zetten die verder geen enkele voorkennis over je heeft en die er gewoon een tijdlang een uur per week alleen voor jou is ;-)
Ik denk dat dit zeker niet te miniem is om mee naar de huisarts te gaan, moet je eens voorstellen dat de persoon waarnaar je doorverwezen wordt jou goed kan helpen: dan wordt jou leven veel fijner - maar functioneer je ook beter op werk!
However, huisartsen zijn niet altijd heel goed in problemen die niet puur lichamelijk zijn - maar je huisarts heeft misschien wel een netwerk van lokale hulpverleners :) Je hebt trouwens geen verwijzing van een huisarts meer nodig - dus je kan ook met google een psycholoog vinden die je aanspreekt en direct een afspraak maken.
Dan nog een aantal tips:
Tot slot, een paar linkjes naar boeken/artikelen die mij hebben geholpen - maar nothing beats real life practice:
TLDR: Denk aan je toekomstige zelf, en zoek iemand om je bij die muren vandaan te krijgen ;-)
"Loop - Habit Tracker"
Or if you have an Android phone, just use this app [link]
It's free and open source.
/u/JoeFCaputo0113 and /u/Qipeki both named great apps that I use daily. I also use Loop - Habit Tracker: [link]
This is a good one too, although much simpler than Fabulous.
Oops, sorry I forgot to respond earlier! I use this one. :)
I use Loop - Habit Tracker on Android to keep track of a bunch of habits I'm trying to build, including NoFap
I use Loops to track habits. It's minimalistic and shows you graphs of your progress.
You should try it.
I got the name mixed up. It's loop habit tracker.
Have a look at loop for android... [link]
I'm bad at adding stuff as well. I use Loop on Android to help get into the groove of it.
Loop - Habit Tracker is what I use.
Has a number of widgets, one of them a calendar style monthly tracker. Free, no ads, open source, sensible permissions.
Sorry I mixed up the name. It's Loop Habit Tracker.
Loop. Nothing too complicated. I've just found being more aware of it makes me more likely to do it.
Check this out, I really like it myself and use it everyday.
Only know this app.
Not a Website though.
"Normal behavior" doesn't mean "right behavior." Do it! Download Loop - Habit Tracker or something similar. It sure helps me.
Not sure if it's on IOS but here's the Google play link for it
Hey I used to also use Keep for habits tracking before know this other app --> [link] it's kinda the same but with historical information
Dang, this sucks. My gosh, the compounding of those deaths is terrible. Remember that they're entirely separate matters so don't let them collectively overwhelm you.
I think you made the right decision. You need to take a bit of time off and recover.
Make a short checklist of things to keep yourself busy. I use Loop - Habit Tracker for Android to keep me motivated to do certain basic things daily (exercise, a multivitamin, and whatnot). The worst thing you can do is lounge around in your bed or bedroom for too long at a time.
You may feel like these activities are just distractions. That is what I thought, but they are not actually distractions. They are actually the bulk of your life to be independent and regain yourself without needing her constant presence.
> I tried to be decent about it but I had to be true with myself that it still caused me great pain to hear from her but not be able to be with her.
Dang, I was recently in this exact same pit of pain :( Revisit the sidebar of this subreddit if you'd like, and check the "20 Reasons for No Contact" link. It was very helpful to me.
> Should I have bucked up and been a friend to her? At work should I have just left it at the door, even though that is where I met her? Should I have stayed at her house, where I would have paid less to live?
These questions are irrelevant. What matters is what you do now, which are to protect yourself and rediscover your strong identity in yourself entirely separate from what she thinks.
> She seems to be handling it better but she does have a new SO. That might be why, obviously?
Yes, of course. He's a rebound. It might not last. Sometimes it does. But that should not be of concern to you and ideally you'd be happy for her.
> With me sticking to NC this time am I really on the way to recovery?
Recovery is not a straight line. It's a zigzag like a stock chart, with horrible drops (relapses). The key to me was actually communicating with her (and rather suddenly coming to realize that she did not actually deserve to be on the pedestal that my heart had put her on), but I required many, many, many pockets of mostly successful NC to get to that point.
So, you initiated the breakup, right? What had happened? And how long were you together?
Loop (a habit tracker)
After a crazy Saturday spent on the lash at my mother's 60th birthday party, I was feeling quite fragile over the weekend and only bacon samwiches and cups of tae could ease THE FEAR. My stomach is still tender and I'm ashamed of the fact that whilst it was in the comfort of my grandmother's house, I still drank so much beer that I threw up at 5am on Sunday morning.
I've noticed over the last number of months that I've been drinking more than usual and I know that one of the main causes is down to physical pain and wanting to dull or numb it with alcohol. Mental health is also a factor- I had a few weeks of crippling depression that I was struggling with but I'm coming out of it as Christmas approaches and things are stablising stress-wise enough to be managable.
I'll be attending my first group therapy session tomorrow afternoon and whilst nervous due to it being a big step out of my comfort zone, I'm not going to let fear rule me anymore.
Been really thinking about what I want to do with my life next year as I'll be 30 years old in April. I'm thinking of putting together a Fuck It List of things I'd like to achieve in 2018 but for now, I'm starting out small. January is traditionally a very fraught month filled with anxiety and depression so in a bid to combat this, I've decided to stick with group therapy and hope to fit in a morning yoga class once a week.
I also installed Loop Habit Tracker on my phone in a bid to kick myself up the ass and track my drinking habits. There will too much temptation for me to outright quit drinking this month what with socialization and parties and what not but I plan to go for a dry January at least. It's a small start and I feel cautiously optimistic that I can make it work.
Lastly, I've decided that in January, once I get enough money saved up and can secure the services of a hairdresser friend, I'm going to get a dramatic haircut. Been growing it out for nearly a decade and I'm just completely DONE with long hair. I'd like a style like this but dyed electric blue but I don't know it it would suit me. At best, I think I'll just slowly go shorter and shorter until it gets to that length so it's not much of a shock but IDK...
Currently, my hair is nearly at my waist so it would be a drastic chop.
It's called Loop.
I use this app to do the same thing. It comes with a tasker plugin ton, but I haven't had a need for it yet.
Set up the recurring-task-to-take-care-of as a habit in Loop - Habit Tracker. The 1x1 checkmark widgets rock!
An MMO? I mean, you're already anonymous here so you might as well name the game to maybe find a support group with other addicts or something, you know? But no biggie. I'm kind of amazed that your family never noticed or said anything. Anyway, that's not as important as what you need to do now.
Make a list. You need tasks to replace the time that the game once consumed. Withdrawal is partly due to letting the hole sit with nothing filling it. As an Android user, I've recently been using Loop - Habit Tracker to track new daily habits to establish. For example:
Pray, meditate, volunteer; get back in touch with a Power bigger than you, and certainly bigger than the game or its developers.
Don't be embarrassed about your situation. Reach out to your friends-turned-acquaintances. "I am so sorry I went AWOL; I crashed and became a beyond-hardcore gamer but am now returning to improving my life. How have you been these months?", in your own words. Try reconnecting. Being shameless and real about where you are is some of the greatest stuff in life.
I hope at least some of this helps. I'm going through life changes too and am happy to be an accountability partner or just an open ear. Or eyes, in this case, lol.
Some ammo for your fight - rTribe, concrete tips for quitting, Your Brain on Porn, Fortify, Habit Tracker & Porn free radio weekly podcast.
Loop - Habit Tracker has been incredible for me.
You should try Loop Habit Tracker
To add onto this the Loop Habit Tracker app can track other things that can help you stay healthy.
That's awesome. Some ammo for your fight - rTribe, concrete tips for quitting, Your Brain on Porn, Fortify, Habit Tracker & Porn free radio weekly podcast. I strongly recommend concrete tips & pornfree radio.
This one might be worth a try? It's free and without ads :)
I use this app on Android, it's great.
OP try "Loop - Habit Tracker"
Maybe give Loop a shot.
It's a minimalistic habit tracker that's free and doesn't require a specific goal or anything.
Might want to use a mobile app, if you find that easier. I recommend Loop.
My apologies, here's the link.