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~~Habits!~~ "Loop - Habit Tracker"! I use it to control I do my Spanish lessons on Duolingo each day, that I workout every other day, that I take my pills, that I remember to see everything as an opportunity. It's a great simple app, and the dark mode is beautiful.
And it's free with no ads!!
Loop - Habit Tracker
Try checking out some of the subs that revolve with getting yourself on track such as r/productivity or something. It's good to habitualize daily events even. I personally have little reminders for simple things like brushing teeth. There is an app called "Habit" and there is a little moticum of happiness from checking off a box for each event.
As far as for outward appearance when around everyone else, for me what helps is I tell myself little things as I'm getting ready like "Look good, feel good" or "Smell good, look good, feel good" stupid stuff, if anything I'll get a chuckle out of myself. The mirror can work wonders, focus on things you like about yourself.
Also I have a tendency to not want to bother other people or disrupt their lives with what's going on with me, I'll bottle it in which, is unhealthy, find someone you can talk to and talk. Most important would be to receive professional help, I have yet to do that step minus my initial diagnosis.
EDIT: I'm really happy with all the positivity around this comment, also I made a mistake the app is called "Loop - Habit Tracker"
1) planning everything, even the little things. I use a tracker with reminders to do chores, learn a language and exercise. For everything else I use google calendar. For some reason, having a daily plan allows me to do a lot more than I otherwise do. There's some satisfaction in seeing a list of tasks shrink.
2) evaluating my free time. This mainly involved video games and my internet browsing experience. Basically, if I felt that something I was doing involved a lot of "filler time" or something that I wasn't really enjoying, I just stopped doing it. Now I never play video games that make me angry or involve a lot of walking or travelling from point A to point B and I stopped watching youtube personalities and youtube drama (shit like H3H3). Now I spend less time playing games and browsing the internet, but I enjoy that time considerably more.
Discovered this app 2 days ago. An free, open sourced Habit tracker. Relatively new with 50-100 downloads only but 4.9 rating.
Simple, elegant, functional design. Detailed statistics and widgets. No excessive permissions. Developer is active.
Linkme: Loop: Habit Tracker by Alinson S Xavier
Edit- Heres correct link
Loop: Habit Tracker
Edit 12:50pm EST- A new review mentions developer posted it on r/androiddev (developer is /u/iSoron)
Just a few thoughts on this:
You might want to hop over to /r/theXeffect/ and put your goals on cards. I use an app called Loop - Habit Tracker to keep track of my daily goals.
Also, these are my daily goals in case you or someone else needs inspiration:
It's a simple little app to help you track your progress at adopting a new habit. The app successfully got me in the habit of cleaning my apartment on a regular basis.
Edit: it's also worth mentioning that this app requires no permissions, and has no ads.
I was wrong about the name!! It's just translates to "Vaner" in Danish which means "Habits" so I thought that was its name - it's named "Loop - Habit Tracker" by Álison s Xavier!
And NO ads for free!!
Little side-tip related to habit building: get an app like Loop - Habit Tracker. I've found it to be really helpful in building habits, and it helps getting past little slip ups as well.
I am still working on it so I can't really answer your question. Now, you have your own milestones and you'll probably want to have as many non-zero days as possible but my objectives are a bit more specific (be productive for x hours/days, wake up before 8 AM, etc) and to keep track of everything, I needed another app - loop habit tracker. I don't know if you'll need it but it offers a bit more granularity in case you don't want to limit yourself to four broad categories.
It's called Loop - Habit Tracker, best minimalistic and straightforward app I have ever used to track stuff, plenty of interesting stats and great widgets too
I would download Loop - Habit Tracker and set a daily habit entitled "Didn't check Reddit ��" or something like that (or more likely an inverse habit of when I do, with a focus to avoid building the habit).
Check out Loop Habit Tracker. It has a great widget, material interface, etc. The thing I like best is its percent system. Keep going to keep it at 100%, or if you break then try and get it back up to 100%.
Loop habit tracker
Daylio - daily journal and mood tracker
Both are simple, free, and very well made apps that don't do any annoying things like so many apps do. Highly recommend both.
Use a habit tracker app. Just put a widget on the home screen of your phone. You will see the unchecked box of your habit all day long and you will find a pleasure when you do it.
It really changes a lot when you can actually see when you did and did not do your habit. You REALLY overestimate how much you are doing something until you see the data in front of you.
I have been using one for almost a year (for the oldest habit, witch is sports).
I like the Loop habit tracker because it shows a rating that rises and falls slowly as you keep or fall off the habit. It works quite well as a visualizer of how well you're doing and you get an itch to check off every day.
You don't really have to spend much time on your habits. Just do a little bit every day, enough to scratch at it. The effect builds over time. Though it may be good to occasionally make a bigger push.
Loop - Habit Tracker is pretty good.
It can do what you asked, just specify when you want a habit to repeat, and as per their FAQ
> How can I specify that a habit should be performed on certain days of the week?
> You don't need to specify this. The app will figure it out by itself. You just need to specify how many times would you like to repeat the habit in a certain interval of time. For example, if you want to repeat a certain habit every Monday and Friday, simply specify that you want to repeat the habit 2 times per week, and then start practicing your habit. If, during your first week, you indeed perform your habit on Monday and Friday, the app will automatically add a checkmark on the following Saturday and Sunday. As long as you keep your routine, the checkmarks should appear automatically on the correct days.
> Why are some checkmarks gray?
> The color gray indicates that the checkmark was automatically added by the app, and not manually by the user. This happens with non-daily habits. For example, if you have a habit that should be repeated only one time every week, and you perform it on a certain Monday, the app will automatically add gray checkmarks on Tuesday, Wednesday an so on.
Loop Habit tracker - It's great because it's very minimalistic in design which is great for the multiple cards I have and also has great stats.
Oh yeah that Loop Habit Tracker is the best. Simple, but has enough statistics etc and does not send your data to whoever, no special requirements needed.
I'm using a bare bones, open source app. Come up with a habit you want, optionally in the form of a question, give it a desired schedule, and track it with a simple binary answer.
The habit at the top of my list is itself to record my progress in the app by 7 every night (and a reminder sounds if I do not), because it is so important.
My app, Loop Habit Tracker, currently has 120k downloads and 4.74 score. I think the best way to improve your ratings is to listen to your users. Listen to their feedback with an open mind, and don't take things personally: they are rating the app, not you.
Also, it's better to have a very simple app with few functions that work really well, rather than a bloated app that tries to do everything but ends up being unreliable and confusing to use. You don't need to implement every single feature that your competitors have. Focus on the 20% that 80% of the users need, and do it well. For more about this point, I recommend the book Getting Real, by 37signals.
Loop. C'est une appli open source qui permet de checker tous les jours les choses que tu as faites ou non.
Petits conseils :
Tiens moi au courant, je kiffe voir les données !
I think this one
If this is the one they meant then I 100% recommend it, it's a great app. Have been using it for like two or three years now for all kinds of stuff. Don't know if it's on Iphones.
Autobot removed my post - so I guess it's better here:
I know there are many apps. But they all seem terrible to me. Runtastic (Adidas) & Runkeeper (Asics) both really want to build a social media platform & I really don't want another social media platform.
I want to:
Track distance, speed & time of my runs
Track (and be reminded of) my protein & creatine intake
Track my weight
Plot those results on a graph of some kind.
Is there anything like this?
I'm currently using Loop - Habit Tracker. It's not for fitness, but it does allow me to track instances of an event. IE that I drank protein/creatine or that I ran on a given day. But it doesn't allow me to track distance/speed of that run, nor my weight. It also plots the results on a graph so that I can see my habit strengths over time. It's good enough & free (without ads) so I'm not complaining. But it seems that my needs are pretty average. Surely someone out there is doing it without roping the user into a completely unnecessary social media platform.
+1! I use it on a daily basis
Not to mention, it is open source, so no worries for th permissions ;)
Here is the link [link] on the Google Play Store
And for good measure, on F-Droid [link]
Jokin mikä on itseäni auttanut on habit trackeri, itse käytän [link]
Laitoin alkuun tavoitteeksi ihan normihommaa niinkuin pyykkien pesu, siivous (ihan kuinka pieni tahansa), ja liikkuminen (laittaa edes vaatteet päälle ja menee hetkeksi ulos seisomaan). Sitten laittaa checkboxin että teki jotain, niin on konkreettinen merkki siitä ettei ihan joutilainen ollut. Siitä sitten hiljakseen laajentaa.
I use the Android app Loop - Habits (free & open-source, no ads). When its notifications pop up on the Pebble, they can be dismissed, snoozed, or checked off. Works pretty well for me.
Loop Habit Tracker is simple and has a nice visualization of how you did on your specific habits (history of ticked days, best streaks, frequency and 'strength' of habit). Plus you can set custom reminders. Maybe that helps?
Here's the one I use, I was wrong, it's not callde "habits" it's called "Loop"
I originally started using it to track my habits but now I don't even check my progress haha, I just use it for the reminders.
Yes. I started using one since my BP days and have noticed quite a difference. I use an app to track habits , you can find it here https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.isoron.uhabits
If Habitica does not work for you (I found that I could not stick with it) I instead went with 'Loop - Habit Tracker' where you can set up reminders, how many times a week you want to do something and so on.
I second this, Loop is free, open source, no ads, can be found on playstore an F-droid as well, you can set habits you want to track and check if you completed for every day. Quite good app in my opinion.
You can also check Habitbull, wich is a similar app.
It´s for android Loop - Habit Tracker
Edit: Here a good list with a good Habit Tracker in App Store
Not the OP but I've been using Loop - Habit Tracker for ages - it's a pretty minimalist app with some nice features including reminders, backup, and data export.
Sure. I've never shared a play store link so hopefully it'll work. Turns out it's called Loop so that might be why you couldn't find it, but the app shows up as Habits on my screen. My bad.
Accurate self-reflection is the biggest part of self-esteem to me.
I recommend journaling, so that you can see how you feel at different times and create a more accurate representation of your feelings. I also use an app called Loop - Habit Tracker so that I can make sure I'm doing the things I want to be doing.
I use Habits for daily things. It's very simple and minimalistic - for some use cases probably too simple, but check it out. Open-source and free too.
You can try Loop - Habit Tracker. Just add a nofap habit and mark your progress at the end of each day. You can setup notifications, too. [link]
I use Loop (for Android). It has reminders, so you don't have to actively remember using it and a nice graphical overview for how consistent you have been.
>I know a bit of Python and JS, but I'm more comfortable with Python.
So, how much webdev experience do you have? None?
Any answer to your question depends highly on your current experience.
And yeah, there are some Android Apps that are similar to what you describe.
<strong>Loop - Habit Tracker</strong> for example.
I used to try to use Todoist to manage my habits for a few months or so, and realized that it was overwhelming to have so many small tasks per day. Combine that with the trouble of getting the flexible due dates just right, and I decided to use a separate app for most of my habits.
I personally use Loop Habit Traker on Android, but there are plenty of others that are the same. A perk of using something like that is you can see the history of your habits, too.
I still keep habits that need to be planned for (laundry, going to the gym, etc.) as Todoist tasks in addition to the other app. And sometimes, when I'm planning my day, I'll take some habits from the habit tracker and make one-time tasks for them in Todoist. Depends on how organized I'm feeling.
I love me Loop - Habit Tracker! It has 1x1 checkbox widgets that allow you to check off habits as done for the day/week/whenever with one touch. At one point, one of my homescreen panes was populated with almost nothing but checkboxes, haha; they're fun to interact with!
Your best bet would be - [link]
Loop - Habit Tracker. It's essentially what you want, it has a tracker and everything, and very minimal interface. Just set your habit as, "Did Not Drink," and you're set.
Best part is, no ads, and is free.
Maybe we can use this thread for app recommendations.
Here's mine (Android): [link]
You can tell it to abstain either every day or, if you're on LowFap, to abstain for example 29 out of 30 days. Then if you use that one "Fap day" it will still count as a streak.
It gives a great graphical presentation of progress over time, which I find very helpful. It also shows your best streaks. And your best/weakest weekdays over time, which might help with identifying patterns.
I use it to track both LowFap and pornfree and it made it really obvious how P is the real issue, which is motivating as well.
Is there a guide on how to use this app? I found something in /r/lifeRPG but it's pretty basic. I don't even know how to tweak the exp gained, whether 1 gem is good enough reward (or what they even do).
Can you do stuff like, rewarding you for completing a pomodoro session on a task?
Edit: I tried the app, I found it to be pretty meh because of the amount of setup it requires. I found something else that does the work for me. One of them is loop which claims to be open source and ad-free and so far looks great, and there's also productivity challenge timer but that's a different beast (combines pomodoro timer with achievements or something and punishes you if you get "lazy"). I'll try both and see which one I'll stick with. I'm like /u/frrunkis and I feel that I'm being too soft on me.
Have a look at the app I developed, Loop Habit Tracker. You can create a habit such as "take shower", set the frequency to " 1 time in 2 days", then create a reminder at a certain time of the day. Every day, at that time, the app will check if you have taken a shower in the last two days, and, if not, show you a notification. It also has widgets, and some other features.
Loop Habit Tracker or one of the recent apps posted by dev here Minihabits might be of interest to you.
I use Habits, the notification stays till I go and click it and I don't click it till I'm doing whatever it is I set as a reminder. If it's something visual I use Google Keep with a set daily reminder time, and same thing it stays in my notifications and I don't click that I'm done till I'm actually doing the task or whatever and in this case I take a picture which also saves a time I took the picture at the bottom. I still sometimes question whether I did whatever it was or not, but it's better than nothing.
I use this one on my android:
Can't comment on ios apps
I could recommend an app, the name is Loop
You just need to put few duties crucial to do during the day and give it a check up
After few weeks, you can realize which are your weak days are how constant are you.
Hope it can help you!
It's not a money app, but I love the Loop-Habit Tracker. I put on there what I want to keep track of and use the Home screen widgets to mark them. It's awesome.
This app does require your own initiation, maybe Youper or Wysa is something for you.
It is an AI that helps you monitor everything and set goals. Both are kind of the same.
Also, Vent is pretty cool. It's kind of like facebook but just ranting and support.
I had same thoughts about the price so I did some research and found Loop Habit Tracker which gives you similar stats than on OP's picture.
For reminders and tracking using a phone, Loop (habit tracker) app is very useful. IIRC, one of the redditors on this sub created it.
I just switched from Android and I'm heartbroken that my favorite habit-tracking app loop - habit tracker is not available. Looking for a replacement that will let me:
I use habits app and have items like brush my teeth at night, sleep early. Read before sleep. For past month I usually most of them done and it has made quite an impact on my life. The app is really simple and easy to use.
I use this app on my android phone to track simple habits like: 1. going for walk. 2. Push up after shower. Even If i do one i see as goal accomplished for the day. That makes me do it daily and i do more than needed. The simplicity of it is astounding
I like using habit tracking apps and the simplicity of the don't-break-the-chain type things. The one I use now is "Loop Habit Tracker" (github, play store) because it's simple enough to do what it does and easy enough to see at a glance how things are going. And basically when there's a new habit I want to develop I add it to the list and set a notification schedule to "nag" me until it becomes more automatic so I don't forget. Even after I don't need to be reminded any more the don't-break-the-chain motivates me.
> Also, some goals don't really make sense in a "goal / milestone" context. E.g. I can make a goal for anal sex, but it won't be very helpful, reliable or accurate when it eventually does happen since this isn't something that I have a clear roadmap to.
The risk there is that you're reinforcing some sort of covert contract. I don't like tracking things that are outside my control and have a fairly sharp razor for that. I only track what's under my control and things that I'm making an effort to improve (or monitoring to avoiding regressing on). I see it more as a tool focused on my behavior and not an almanac to track the weather or some woman's cervical mucus viscosity or whatever. So for example I track "didn't avoid initiating" which focuses on my behavior and not the outcome.
Apart from the regular phone alarm app, if you are also on Android, I'd suggest you install Loop - Habit Tracker for Android
I use it as a reminder for almost everything I am currently cultivating a habit for. It is very good, trust me. If you need anything else let me know.
I just checked and apparently you can set tasks to repeat daily, so they'll reset the next day. I use Loop - habit tracker for my daily repetitive tasks .
Loop - Habits Tracker
There is another one called 7 Weeks that Seems good as well, though I admire the well made simple UI of loops.
Aand it's two hours past my bedtime :) Damn Bojack Horseman. Great show. Goodnight!
Really helped me incorporate more and more good habits into my daily routine. Very simple app, nice interface, and actually useful widgets that don't just exist to force ads onto your phone's home screen.
I believe in you! Wanted to mention that I find if I change my inner monologue from "I've got to do the thing" to "I want to do the thing" really helps.
Check out Loop - Habit Tracker it really helps me and I can see the days I miss taking meds and correlate them to my diary entries. Which surprisingly aren't great days usually.
Some resource to stay motivated:
I recommend the andoid app "Loop - Habit Tracker."
Lightweight, open source, ad-free, and super easy to use. It's helped me and my friend a lot in managing our screwed up lives. It reminds you of tasks at specified times, and you check off whether you've done it, delay it until later (you specify how long inside the program) or dismiss. If you dismiss, it will pester you the next day until you've finally done the task, then it will wait for the next interval to expire. For example, if I don't trim my beard in a week, it will begin bugging me every day about it, until I do it, then it will wait a week to bug me again.
It generates exportable charts to keep track of the strength of your habits, so you know how well you're doing. I use mine for everything from am/pm medication reminders, once weekly beard trimming and other hygiene stuff, twice weekly watering plants, tracking my alcohol consumption, changing bed sheets, replacing my bath towel, it tells me to go outside (and tracks how much I don't, because I dismiss that one a lot =/). It's a great tool and it can be transformative. It's tiny and works fine on the 7 year old phone I gave my friend when I got a hand-me-down from my sister.
One of the best designed, lightest, and most life-changing apps I've ever used. You just have to OBEY.
If you're able to go with zero alcohol for two months straight with no problem starting immediately (or more generally at any moment's notice), then I would very highly doubt that you are an alcoholic.
Try ditching it, just as an exercise to yourself. I would suggest getting a habit app; it has REALLY helped me in various ways with daily habits of things to do or things to avoid. If you have an Android, I like Loop - Habit Tracker.
So I've been looking for a habit tracker app that's actually useful. I've tried about all of them and have settled for Loop - Habit Tracker, which is free and open source.
A few comments about your app:
having to register an account to check the app is a deal breaker IMO. If I had stumbled upon your app in the Play Store instead of through this post where you're soliciting feedback, I would have uninstalled immediately.
I know you said that you wanted to get the app started fast, but you'll need a lot more features to justify charging for it. It sounds rather harsh but except for the point system, which I think is a great idea, there's no reason for me to ditch Loop - Habit Tracker, as it has many more features, it's free and open source and just looks better IMO.
features that I would like to see added: graphs, ability to set habits as something other than daily, reminders, backup, export and import data, better UI and UI options (themes, night mode, habit colors, maybe a color coding system that mirrors success/the point system, etc.), a reward system for completing habits would be nice too (something Loop is missing)
one of the reasons I settled on Loop is because it added Tasker support in the latest beta version. A habit tracking app without Tasker support means that you have no other choice than manually inputting data. With Tasker, you can convert "real life" actions to habit data automatically. It potentially means that I would never have to open the app to track my habits.
I have LoopHabbitTracker installed on my phone, the notification to perform habits sent to my watch. I check them off If I've done them. Very handy.
Do you mean something like Loop Habit Tracker? I use it to track anything from when I brush my teeth to if I workout or meditate, or go to bed on time.
They're widgets from this app! If I accomplish the task then i tap them and they become solid. My streaks are tracked in the app proper.
I found an open source habit tracker, which works excellently and is totally free and not subscription based like other habit trackers. Loop Habit Tracker in the Google Play Store.
I use Loop Habit Tracker for the purpose you describe. You can use notifications of you want or disable them and simply use one of the widgets.
Doesn't look like there's real integration, but I did find this on GitHub, which involves having a computer somewhere run this command every few hours. Not sure if that's a solution that would work for you. It looks pretty buggy and there's still a lot of features planned but not implemented, but it might work for you?
Personally I use Looper and spend a minute every day checking off the things that I need to for that day. I've thought it would be cool to have it automatically, but it really doesn't take that long and I enjoy the feeling of accomplishment being able to check it off myself.
Depends on the app, I guess. I too don't remember having trouble with Whatsapp, but for the life of me, I could not get this one to work reliably on MIUI: [link]
Most of the time the reminders didn't even work. Sometimes the notifications showed up but got lost when I closed the drawer. It was a painful experience, all around.
Yesterday I flashed a custom ROM and now everything works smoothly, without any additional tinkering or workarounds.
Das macht die App selber, ich hack nur ab, ob ich es gemacht habe oder nicht. Und wenn ich es halt mache, geht die Stärke hoch, und wenn ich es skippe, geht die runter.
Das steht in deren Beschreibung:
>Habit PunkteUm dir deine Schwächen zu zeigen, hat Loop einen Algorithmus, um deine starken Angewohnheiten zu erkennen. Jede Wiederholung verstärkt diese und jedes Aussetzen schwächt sie. Aber ein paar Verfehlungen nach langem Durchhalten machen natürlich nicht gleich alles zu nichte.
Ist diese hier, falls es dich interessiert: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.isoron.uhabits
EDIT: Habe gerade eine neue Gewohnheit hinzugefügt und anscheinend pro Hacken gehen 5% hoch. Ich weiß nicht wie viel es runter geht, wenn ich einen Tag skippe.
Sure, I'd love to expand on this. I suggest brainstorming a list of hobbies you're interested in any order. Next, rank them by interest in order to prioritize. It's exciting you want to make changes in your life, but you don't want to overwhelm yourself. Slowly add these hobbies or goals in your daily routine to build habits. Some general advice to give you direction, Pick a hobby that 1) Makes you money, 2) Keeps you Fit, and 3) that let's you be Creative.
For example, 1) Programming / Web Design / Design Software / Video Editing / Marketing , 2) Team Sport / Gym. 3) Playing Guitar / Drawing / Material Crafting. Picking 1 for each "area". There's a ton of courses to guide you on most subjects. Create a lesson plan and goals you want to reach. This should be more than enough o get your started. List of Lynda Subjects to give you an idea (Your local library may provide you free access).
Also, I use some apps to keep myself organized. 1) Digital Notebook for organizing notes. 2) I use an app called "Loop" as a habit tracker and to keep myself accountable.
I use Loop https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.isoron.uhabits&hl=en
It's not just for sobriety, you can track any habits with it.
Also an app called Boosted (search "pub:Boosted Productivity" on the Play Store, sharing is glitching on me) that does that sort of thing.
A different approach is Loop Habit Tracker
This app is really useful to me. On android, you can make widgets that act as checkboxes for predefined habits. I use it to remind me to do things I need to do every day.
(The widgets are slightly buggy on Android Pie, at least with the Total Launcher. App works fine, the widgets occasionally turn invisible, but still work if you tap where they should be)
Also, for general reminders, Google Keep is amazing, since I can access it from both my laptop and phone.
I use Loop - Habit Tracker and just check every day off to track streaks etc.
Dedicated apps that track money not wasted etc. are likely nice, but I don't need them currently.
If you're looking for something simple, Loop is a really nice habit tracker. You can even measure your habit strength across days, weeks, and months (it also has a yearly option). It has really simple and effective UI, plus you can set reminders.
Loop Habit Tracker (Track your habits and long-term goals):
And no, it's not my app or anything like that. (I am no dev)
Well, I have premium subscription of Todoist so the following points are for premium version of Todoist :
Now you can mix above mention labels and projects to create filters by which you can target specific tasks, for example, tasks that has to be done in morning, which are less intensive & will take 10 min
I have 4-5 Projects
I have the same feeling using your app.
What feature your app has that Habbit Loop does not have? https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.isoron.uhabits
Try using Loop - Habit Tracker with a daily notification. This free (and open source) app is fantastic in how clean and focused it is for exactly this task.
Loop Habit Tracker. [link]
I'm not sure it allows notes in the sense you have in mind. But it is open source and comes with no bullshit.
Loop is fantastic and open source. One of the easiest and fastest way of setting up. Also you can setup notifications to keep you in top of your habits.
It's not as convenient as one specifically geared for the task that you seek, but you could use Loop - Habit Tracker and set a separate habit for each instance per day (for example: Med × 1, Med × 2, Med × 3). It has really cool 1x1 optional check-mark widgets per habit and habits can be configured to reset daily.
Otherwise it sounds like this app needs to be built, or at least I don't know of anything that can do this.
I use the default timer on my phone and the free and open-source Loop Habit Tracker to keep track of my meditation habit.
Dang. I'm sorry you're going through this. That's really rough, to say the least. I think I would reach out to his mom. And you don't have to be very concerned about saying anything in particular. This stuff is not going to go away for her, ever, so I'm sure any sympathy about it would be much appreciated.
Otherwise, here's an exercise: don't say a word about him to your friends for an entire day. Talk about their lives instead, or current events. Get a habit-tracking app. You may break many times, but try to keep the streak going longer and longer for the number of days in a row that you say nothing regarding him (though contact with your therapist and his family is fine, on those days). If you have an Android, I've found Loop - Habit Tracker to be incredibly powerful, especially the visceral touching of marking a habit as completed (anything that required streaks like going to school and such). Maybe this can help reclaim your life. He would want you to do so, anyways, no?
Your Reddit post is fine and perfect.
Loop Habit Tracker user here, I especially like the widgets. Having one button on my android home screen to press for each habit is awesome.
I use Habits to handle recurring tasks. It also has a cool calendar view to track how often something happens (I use it to track how often my daughter is short of breath and needs albuterol, so when we see the doctor we can tell them "she needed it 3 times last month" or something like that). I also use it to track giving her vitamins/medication, etc.
Its also free with no ads or iap, which is a major plus.
Interesting idea - reminds me of "habit" apps (such as this - [link] ) though yours has some sort of reward program ($) but then...
How would one prove the task was accomplished? Where does the app get the money to pay you?
I have an android app called Loop Habit Tracker on my phone and it really helps. I set it up so that I would get a sticky notification in the morning that won't go away until I take my medication and check it off.
Scheduling pharmacy visits on your calendar as soon as you get the scripts will help. Do you use your phone a lot, or do you prefer a physical calendar?
The only way to find out is to try a slightly higher dose, I think. You should talk to your doctor about it :)
Estou usando Loop - Habit Tracker pra traçar alguns mínis hábitos, arrumar a cama, 1 podcast em Inglês por dia e por ai vai. E quase o que você faz, isso ajuda bastante mas eu tento me sabotar há alguns dias, preciso me policiar mais pra fazer tudo isso.
Obrigado pelo conselho.
If you decide to start a new habit, make sure you track it so that you can see how far you've come (which can reinforce the new habit even more!). There's a ton of apps that help you do this. Here's an example open source one.
Yeah. I went to the dentist yesterday and the outlook is grim.
I got an app called Loop. It's a checklist to help me remember to do all of the basic stuff each day. Brush teeth, shower, take meds, etc.
It's definitely helpful, I'm hoping that I can remember to use it long term.
I think everyone is more concerned with the app I am using than me crushing my goals lol
To clear the doubt here's the play store link:
Are you on Android or iOS?
I'm experimenting with Loop - Habit Tracker on Android. It's Open Source, simple, both free and ad-free.
So far I like it.
Here's the link: [link]
Absolutely! It takes some time to kick in though, potentially 1-3 weeks, I think (can't remember; read up more about it). Order it and when it arrives, use a daily habit app to remind yourself to take it daily until it does. You might even use it to just start with little tasks to help garner motivation in general. If you have an Android, I really dig Loop - Habit Tracker. It's very viscerally satisfying to press your customized 1x1 widget checkmarks and stamp one task after another as done for the day, no matter how small.
Hey man, first of all I want to say that I am really impressed with the self-awareness you have demonstrated just by making this post at all. You are clearly a conscientious person, and your head is in the right place -- even of your heart isn't always there with it.
I truly believe I would have been very close to radicalization had the shape of the internet been what it is now back when I was your age, so your situation definitely resonates with me (as I imagine it probably does with many others around here).
There are a few ways you could go about handling this, and I'm sure you will hear a lot of different advice on the matter. Most of it (including mine) might sound too simplified, tone-deaf, or even downright impossible. I know the standard chorus of advice is usually easy one-liners like "hit the gym" or "just work on yourself". This advice is good, but I know it can seem like an impossible mountain to climb when you get innundated with it -- especially if you are dealing with low self-esteem. So please take everything I'm saying with yourself in mind. You are the only person who knows where you are at emotionally, so take the steps that feel appropriate. Most importantly, forgive yourself if you face a setback or have a moment of weakness or failure.
Okay, preamble done; time for the advice.
The most important thing you can do, and it is going to be the hardest part of all, is to stop trying with women altogether. Having never had any success, the pressure you are putting on yourself to become successful is the thing that is most in your way right now. The good news is that, being only 19, you have a lot going for you!
Here are some things to keep in mind, to help put you at ease about your situation, and take your mind off women:
Okay, so that's what you "shouldn't" do. But what should you actually do?
Well, this is difficult to answer without knowing much about your situation, but I'll make some generalized assumption and you can correct me if I'm wrong.
The most important thing you need to do is to build your self confidence up. This is easier said than done, but start by taking a deep look at how you feel about yourself. What areas create the most self-loathing? Are you unhappy with your appearance? Do you play too many video games? Are you getting bad grades? Do you have any ambitions or goals you are ignoring? Do you feel like a boring person with no interests? This is going to take some honesty, and I suggest you write it all down somewhere private.
Once you identify the areas you feel need the most attention and improvement, pick one thing that you want to focus on. It should be something that you can break down into very small, actionable steps. Your goal here is to build (or break) a habit around this thing. Track your progress. This will help you see that you are improving, even if you have a setback or a bad day (I like the app Loop - Habit Tracker as a tool for this).
I cannot stress this part enough, so I'll say it again: start with baby steps. I recently built a gym habit for myself (still in progress), and my first step was just making sure I set foot in the gym twice a week. Nothing more than that. I started out just running on the treadmill for 20 minutes and then leaving, because I was too intimidated to do anything more, but that first step was important to building myself to a point where I can feel comfortable actually lifting weights. Check out /r/getdisciplined for more great advice.
I know that none of this has been about women, but I really don't think that should be your focus at all for now. If you can start improving yourself (in ways that you care about -- fuck what anyone else thinks), then you'll plant the seeds of confidence that will eventually grow. Dating comes later.
I feel I should also suggest that if you really are concerned about your mental well-being, I would strongly urge you to seek a good therapist. I know it is expensive, but if you are a student, your school might offer counselling services. Or maybe a parent might be willing to contribute? It's not an easy thing to get into when resources are limited, but it can be an extremely valuable investment in yourself that I would not brush off.
Sorry that this became such a novel. I could go on and on and on, but I will stop this here. Please feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions or just need to talk a bit. And good luck!
I use Loop Habits app and its been a blessing
I've been using Loop - habit tracker and it's working great.
I really enjoy Habits for habit tracking. Simple, free, and customizable.
I have recently released a fully open-source alternative to these apps, called Loop Habit Tracker. Here are some screenshots. It's already available from Google Play or F-Droid. All your data stays in your phone; it does not even require Internet permission.
Productive -> Loop habit tracker (Hint: use the widgets for daily habits and put them on your phone's desktop)
Do.list -> Todoist - free version will be totally fine, I've been using it for a few years already. (Extra hint: log in on their website, go into settings -> Integrations and activate 2-way sync with google calendar. You can find this setting using the browser version only. Set your reminders (I use 1 hour before the event) in google calendar, set your phone's calendar to google account if it's not already set, and you will have free notifications for all events you use Todoist for. If you need more help on this, let me know and I'll guide you through this).
Timelines -> aTimeLogger
LifeCycle -> Smarter Time
Fabulous -> Already on Android: Fabulous
No Zero Days -> Already on Android: No Zero Days
NoMo -> Sobriety Counter
Lifesum -> Already on Android: Lifesum
Pillow -> Sleep as Android
There, now all you gotta do is start working on these new habits! Good luck!
Sorry if I'm hijacking, but since this is iOS only and we're in /r/NonZeroDay, imo it's fair to promote something for us Android guys who want a similar app.
Android has an absolutely fantastic habit tracker app called <strong>Loop</strong>. It is free and also open source.
The dev is /u/iSoron.
edit: added github link
I have already made a reply above, so I'll just copy it here for you as well:
Als sehr nützlich empfinde ich Loop Habit Tracker (auf F-Droid, auf Google Play). Die App hilft einem dabei, Gewohnheiten aufzubauen. Man kann verschiedene Gewohnheiten (z. B. Fahrradfahren) eintragen, und festlegen, wie oft man diesen jeweils nachgehen möchte (z. B. zweimal pro Woche). Mit der App erfasst man den Erfolg, kann sich Statistiken anzeigen lassen, und wird an anstehende Tätigkeiten erinnert. Sehr zu empfehlen.
I am a fan of Loop habit tracker
Its open source and the developer listens to the suggestions of the users.
What about Loop?
I want to offer some ideas I've implemented which has helped me in a huge way in dealing with my own stress. This is probably the more difficult path, but ultimately the path that has reaped the most results for me and has actually addressed problems, as opposed to just being woo-woo happy place nonsense.
I would say that's pretty much the basis of it. You have accumulated many habits that create stress (as a pathological response to dealing with it, ironically) and interplay with each other. These habits are likely a large portion of your stressors. So you have to create new habits (solutions). Stressors and habits also include your place of work, as it is a habit you're required to perform by virtue of being part of a capitalist society. By identifying these stressors, you may find you have to make some big changes, but you may also find its more manageable than you thought, and you simply need to adjust some things.
Example habit: For example with your constant worrying (which I am very guilty of), I recommend setting aside 10 minutes a day to meditate, at a time that is convenient and easy to repeat, with the Waking Up app by Sam Harris: [link]. I can feel my mindset slowly changing and a general non-reactivity emerging with consistent practice. I've had some very cathartic emotional releases via meditation and unexpected consciousness shifts. One being that I observed my negative and positive emotions and thoughts and watched them just go away, and then come back, and then go away again, no judgement. Like how sounds appear and disappear in the world. The opposite of worrying. Even 10 minutes of the day to have that experience is priceless in my opinion.
You need to create a reward system for yourself that will provide you a small shot of dopamine for you each time you do a habit that brings you closer to the solutions you have written. That does NOT involve 'hey I did this thing so now I can do x unhealthy thing that feels good'. So I suggest (which I have been using, and has worked so well for me that I'm still surprised) the Don't Break the Chain method: [link]. It involves the following:
You may have a few false starts, but you'll likely find that after putting an X on that calendar each day and watching them build up and up is so satisfying that you want to keep going, because each time you write an X on that calendar is a vote for who you are, and who you are is clearly better than yesterday, and here is a visual reminder that hey, you are doing great. You can share this progress with your boyfriend too for an extra dopamine and oxytocin hit (curse my current singledom)!
I want to stress the importance of moving slowly with the above. You have absolutely created habits which are perpetuating your stress and you need to replace them with healthy ones, but, you need to take it one step at a time.
What happens is over time, your routine morphs into something completely different. In one week, it won't be a big difference. In a few months, you'll notice the difference is profound, and you'll barely notice it changed. Stress comes from too much change too soon and uncertainty. Hence, you need to move slowly.
My last major thing, is that you need to create space where you can do nothing. This will seem hard at first, but when you have created habits, and you are ticking them off every day, you won't feel guilty about taking the time out. The weekend where you're sleeping is the perfect example of time you can take to do nothing, and an example of how mindset is so powerful. When you have habits that resolve stuff you need to get done, and you ruthlessly cut out the stuff that isn't necessary, that day you sleep can become a day you relax and get perspective. These days are crucial to your mental health. Again, you couldn't sprint for an entire day? Couldn't sprint for a whole week either.
I hope this helps you!
I hope you have an Android because this app is exactly what you're looking for
I use this. It's a good android alternate (needs a material design makeover tbh).
Yep, the name is "Loop Habit Tracker" it's for android
Check out Loop Habit Tracker. Its an open source alternative with widgets.
Loop Habit Tracker can be used for that purpose ( [link] )
I like Loop Habit Tracker. Very simple, easy to use interface with some interesting stats.
this app is godsend, it is open source, lite and has graphical analysis of your streaks
I'm a big fan of loop habit tracker. Has a great widget and lots of stats, is open source and free.
Download for Android: [link]
On Android it's called Loop - Habit Tracker.
Thanks will check it out
I have been in a similar situation and I've been able to lessen it (but it seems to come in waves). In my case, the culprit is pent up frustrations, mostly subconsciously. There's three things I thought of of tackling it.
The first two are meant to alleviate the "symptoms": I've developed a daily meditation habit and I should also find a physical outlet to get rid of frustration. (The former I've been able to do using two free Android apps, namely Insight Timer and Loop Habit Tracker. As for the latter, I do do 10 minutes of exercises daily, but I'm not sure if they are the kind that get rid of frustration.)
The third is to find the underlying cause(s), to really self-investigate. Be honest with yourself and see if you are acting against your conscience in some way, or if you have cognitive dissonance about something. And then try to resolve it. Jordan Peterson's videos have helped me in doing that, but I think it's an iterative process that's going to take a while.
Hi! First of all, thanks for being honest and sharing your struggles, as I know it takes a lot of effort, but being vulnerable and telling others is what has helped me the most in my recovery. Also, there is the subreddit r/pornfreewomen where you can find other women and talk with them if you feel more comfortable.
Anyway, these are some of the tools that I use to help my recovery and my life in general...
Anyway, these might be all the things that I do to stay active with my recovery and don't relapse, but they also help myself, my mentality( which is more positive now that when I used to watch porn every day) and my life in general. Hope you find something that helps you as well!! Stay Strong!!
Also, my english is not the best as I'm not a native speaker, so sorry :/
If you're on Android, I use [link]
Works great for me. Simple, open source and moderately attractive.
Loop Habit Tracker is what I like. I tried Nomie and it wasn't clean enough for me.
This is the app - It's pretty good for home screen widgets
You guys may like this one too [link]
It has home page widget clickables
Heres correct link
Loop: Habit Tracker
Hi! We are fighting the same battle. It's a big step to share your problems with others, so thank you! This community and telling others aboutt my struggle is what helped me the most in my (still going) recovery.
As you can see, lots of these tools are not just to stop looking at porn, but they help me improve my life, and relationships with others and myself. Porn is a tool we use to scape, to deal with problems we are not aware of or we can't deal. If we just quit porn and don't replace it with anything, it will just find its way back to our life.
Anyway, keep fighting, it is a difficult battle, but you, and everybody can do this!! We are in this together! Best of luck!
Try this FOSS app
I know this is unsolicited, but as a former HabitBull user, I switched to Loop a few months ago and it's way better. [link]
Something went wrong and he lost the "s" at the end it seems: [link]
It's just an app.
Eu tenho depressão e tdah. No momento estou bem deprê (postei mais sobre isso em outra thread), mas uns meses atrás tive uma melhora significativa, através de:
Remédios (venlafaxina e venvanse)
Psicólogo (terapia cognitivo comportamental focada em mudar meus hábitos)
Exercício físico (bicicleta e hidroginástica, ou ao menos caminhada), de preferência no sol
Cultivar bons hábitos diariamente, anotando eles à medida que acontecem (por exemplo "me exercitei hoje"), para facilitar que uma rotina se estabeleça. /r/theXeffect subreddit relacionado.
Deixar de usar o computador em casa. A triste situação é que tenho dependência ao uso online do PC e retirar ele por umas semanas ajudou pra caramba. Peguei o laptop e guardei na mochila -- se eu quisesse usar o computador, teria que levar ele fora de casa. Quando eu sentia abstinência eu ia ler um livro, caminhar, qualquer coisa.
A ideia é focar no presente, o amanhã você se preocupa amanhã. Se hoje você realizar tarefas produtivas, o seu dia já vai estar melhor (comigo é assim, pelo menos). Eu comecei a manter uma agenda com tudo que eu tinha que fazer, e a cada item completado eu vou riscando. O psicólogo foi importante nessa parte. Hábitos recorrentes eu passei a acompanhar com o loop habit tracker, foi bom para sentir exatamente como eu estou progredindo (ou não). Não basta pensamento positivo, tem que ser realista. Nessa época mudei hábitos alimentares e perdi 30 kg também (115 kg -> 85 kg).
Se você conseguir realizar seus objetivos hoje, amanhã você vai ter mais chance de conseguir fazer suas tarefas, e assim por diante. E aos poucos pode virar costume. Mas claro, nem todo dia vai ser um bom dia. Mas o perigo é achar que só porque você não conseguiu ontem, você precisa deixar de realizar seus objetivos de hoje. Não, esqueça o ontem, hoje é outro dia.
O legal desse ponto de vista é que ele não deposita a esperança de melhora nos remédios, ou em um fator externo que está além do seu alcance. E sabe, remédios psiquiátricos muitas vezes são limitados e o psiquiatra vai testando na tentativa e erro mesmo, o remédio que funciona com um paciente pode não funcionar com outro. E aliás, seu médico tentou que outros remédios além da fluoxetina?
Agora sim, remédios são importantes (e eu piorei nos últimos meses quando deixei de tomar eles... e deixei de ir ao psicólogo :|), mas quem precisa cuidar da sua saúde mental é você, no dia-a-dia.
tldr: remédios sozinhos não bastam, é bom unir eles à terapia e mudança no estilo de vida.
Loop - habit tracker it's open source if you want to check the insides.
This seems like something that should go in a habit tracker...
I'm personally a big fan of Loop
I currently use Loop
Also, for those ads that bother you, Blokada or AdClear. Download one of these and you'll start enjoying your Android experience a lot more.
As for some extra apps I can recommend, you can check:
Jefit for working out,
Readera for reading e-books (in all e-book formats and also PDF),
1Money for tracking your expenses,
Duolingo for learning languages.
There's also Youtube Vanced for non-root devices, which will let you listen to Youtube while having it minimized as well. You won't find it on the Google Play store, but it can easily be found using Google.
I hope this helps!
Some things for you to try:
NAC supplements take 600mg twice a day. There is some evidence this dose helps with compulsive disorders, and I have been taking it myself.
Rubber finger cots for sensory blocking. I put them on during times I'm most lilely to pull, e.g. when doing my makeup.
Hypnosis? Download a hypnosis audio track to listen to. I haven't tried it because hypnosis creeps me out, but it might be worth a go.
Habit tracker app to keep track of your progress. You can mark days you've gone without pulling and see your best streaks, highscores, etc.
Do you pull from the scalp or from the face (eyelashes/brows?). Other users have suggested putting Vaseline on the eyebrows/lashes to make it too slippery to pull them out.
Hope this helps.
I use Loop Habit Tracker -- ad-free, open source, with actionable notifications (no timeline support but that's never bothered me).
Loop Habit Tracker is an all purpose tracker which doesn't have any specific links to sobriety, but could definitely work for them.
I like this one. Shows me the progress of my goals and it's very simple in use.
Loop Habit Tracker is a really cool and simple app for exactly this purpose.
I use it every day. It's free and open source and also availabe through F-droid. The source code can be found here
Looking at reviews, this might be a good option for you: [link]
On Android, I can really recommend Loop.
This is something I've been working on the for the past year. I've always wanted to do a bunch of projects, but never could muster up the willpower when I had the time. So, I started to "procrastinate" by reading about being productive. Many of those books I feel aren't written for INTP's I feel, but there are some things that have really helped me.
I commit to 3 very small actions a day Every day earlier on when I find myself day dreaming about projects, I name a really small thing I can do to get further in them. Do I want to program? Write a line of code. Start exercising? Walk to my mailbox. Electronics? Continuity test a jumper cable. Seriously, make it so small that even you would feel too lazy to not do it. Once you start, it feels easier to keep going. My mailbox walks usually turn into miles, one line of code turns into completing a CodeWars.com challenge, etc.,
Track the habits I want in this app I've used so many apps before that tried to gamify things, had many bells and whistles for setting up meticulus habits, etc, but they all have failed. This one seems to be working because it's stupid simple. Do it, click the checkmark, move on. It keeps track of frequency like Github keeps track of code commits (sorry to the non-programmers reading this).
Set music to activities I love listening to music, maybe too much. I have some albums/playlists that I only listen to during certain activities to the point where it feels weird just to listen to them alone. Riding my bike? Pain of Salvation's Be. Reading schematics? Ark's Porcelain Jesus
Sorry for the wall of text. Learning how to do projects is my current project, and I'm just excited about it.
> Loop habit tracker?
You can look into this app called "Loop"
Track all your habits
I think he's talking about this one : [link]
I use it too, it's really useful.
Looks like the name was updated since I downloaded it. Now called, Loop - Habit Tracker
Try Loop Habit Tracker. It's totally free, simple and perfect for things like medication reminders and other daily or weekly tasks.
Loop Habit Tracker
I use this one: Loop - Habit Tracker [link]
Don't use much, but it's a good one, open source, simple elegant
This is what I use.
Goals from last month
Successful February, on to March!
This might be what you’re looking for.
Loop Habit Tracker (Android): [link]
This is by u/letmetrythis
Do.list -> Todoist - free version will be totally fine, I've been using it for a few years already. (Extra hint: log in on their website, go into settings -> Integrations and activate 2-way sync with google calendar. You can find this setting using the browser version only. Set your reminders (I use 1 hour before the event) in google calendar, set your phone's calendar to google account if it's not already set, and you will have free notifications for all events you use Todoist for. If you need more help on this, let me know and I'll guide you through this).
Whoops, sorry, wrong name. Its called Loop. [link]
Habits app I'm talking about - [link]
For this reason I don't rely on the tracker anymore, instead I use the habits app on my phone. It's pretty cool!
I use this for developing habits.
I am not associated with the developer or anything
This is a link to the play store app, so you know what it looks like [link]
[link] <- loop habit tracker, dunno if it's on iOS as well
Hi! Ik heb enigszins ervaring met een paar van de dingen die je omschrijft.
Zoals je zelf ook al aangeeft, gedragsverandering is moeilijk, en als je er echt mee aan de slag wilt zou ik je zeker aanraden iemand te zoeken om je te helpen.
Het klinkt idioot, maar een psycholoog kan door alleen te luisteren al heel veel betekenen en het kan heel fijn zijn eens alles met iemand op een rijtje te zetten die verder geen enkele voorkennis over je heeft en die er gewoon een tijdlang een uur per week alleen voor jou is ;-)
Ik denk dat dit zeker niet te miniem is om mee naar de huisarts te gaan, moet je eens voorstellen dat de persoon waarnaar je doorverwezen wordt jou goed kan helpen: dan wordt jou leven veel fijner - maar functioneer je ook beter op werk!
However, huisartsen zijn niet altijd heel goed in problemen die niet puur lichamelijk zijn - maar je huisarts heeft misschien wel een netwerk van lokale hulpverleners :) Je hebt trouwens geen verwijzing van een huisarts meer nodig - dus je kan ook met google een psycholoog vinden die je aanspreekt en direct een afspraak maken.
Dan nog een aantal tips:
Tot slot, een paar linkjes naar boeken/artikelen die mij hebben geholpen - maar nothing beats real life practice:
TLDR: Denk aan je toekomstige zelf, en zoek iemand om je bij die muren vandaan te krijgen ;-)
"Loop - Habit Tracker"
Or if you have an Android phone, just use this app [link]
It's free and open source.
/u/JoeFCaputo0113 and /u/Qipeki both named great apps that I use daily. I also use Loop - Habit Tracker: [link]
This is a good one too, although much simpler than Fabulous.
Oops, sorry I forgot to respond earlier! I use this one. :)
I use Loop - Habit Tracker on Android to keep track of a bunch of habits I'm trying to build, including NoFap
I use Loops to track habits. It's minimalistic and shows you graphs of your progress.
You should try it.
I got the name mixed up. It's loop habit tracker.
I've been using Loop Habit Tracker for those same things for the past year, the interface is nice and it just works.
on android you have:
Loop - Habit Tracker available for Android..
I have spend months on finding a decent habit tracking app, and this was the first time when I was jealous from iOS developers because there are many good looking and good working apps for iOS but not many for android.
so in the end I was able to conclude:
Loop - Habit - overall best app.
HabitHub - if you want more options to record, like counts.
everyday - if you can spend monthly subscription, then go for it.
RemindMe! 5 days
Loop Habit Tracker maybe.
Looks nice. Before I try this, how is it different from habits? [link]
Have you tried this [link] ?
Put "write 100 words" into HabitLoop. Check it off each day.
Oh sorry, here [link] I don't just just it for NoFap though.
This app might help you if you are using an android phone.
There is. I just forget the name. Lemme try n see if I can find it
E: Not the one I was thinking of but
Use this open-source app to help you create habits.
Have a look at loop for android... [link]
I'm bad at adding stuff as well. I use Loop on Android to help get into the groove of it.
Loop - Habit Tracker is what I use.
Has a number of widgets, one of them a calendar style monthly tracker. Free, no ads, open source, sensible permissions.
Sorry I mixed up the name. It's Loop Habit Tracker.
Loop. Nothing too complicated. I've just found being more aware of it makes me more likely to do it.
Check this out, I really like it myself and use it everyday.
Only know this app.
Not a Website though.
"Normal behavior" doesn't mean "right behavior." Do it! Download Loop - Habit Tracker or something similar. It sure helps me.
Not sure if it's on IOS but here's the Google play link for it
Hey I used to also use Keep for habits tracking before know this other app --> [link] it's kinda the same but with historical information
Dang, this sucks. My gosh, the compounding of those deaths is terrible. Remember that they're entirely separate matters so don't let them collectively overwhelm you.
I think you made the right decision. You need to take a bit of time off and recover.
Make a short checklist of things to keep yourself busy. I use Loop - Habit Tracker for Android to keep me motivated to do certain basic things daily (exercise, a multivitamin, and whatnot). The worst thing you can do is lounge around in your bed or bedroom for too long at a time.
You may feel like these activities are just distractions. That is what I thought, but they are not actually distractions. They are actually the bulk of your life to be independent and regain yourself without needing her constant presence.
> I tried to be decent about it but I had to be true with myself that it still caused me great pain to hear from her but not be able to be with her.
Dang, I was recently in this exact same pit of pain :( Revisit the sidebar of this subreddit if you'd like, and check the "20 Reasons for No Contact" link. It was very helpful to me.
> Should I have bucked up and been a friend to her? At work should I have just left it at the door, even though that is where I met her? Should I have stayed at her house, where I would have paid less to live?
These questions are irrelevant. What matters is what you do now, which are to protect yourself and rediscover your strong identity in yourself entirely separate from what she thinks.
> She seems to be handling it better but she does have a new SO. That might be why, obviously?
Yes, of course. He's a rebound. It might not last. Sometimes it does. But that should not be of concern to you and ideally you'd be happy for her.
> With me sticking to NC this time am I really on the way to recovery?
Recovery is not a straight line. It's a zigzag like a stock chart, with horrible drops (relapses). The key to me was actually communicating with her (and rather suddenly coming to realize that she did not actually deserve to be on the pedestal that my heart had put her on), but I required many, many, many pockets of mostly successful NC to get to that point.
So, you initiated the breakup, right? What had happened? And how long were you together?
Loop (a habit tracker)
After a crazy Saturday spent on the lash at my mother's 60th birthday party, I was feeling quite fragile over the weekend and only bacon samwiches and cups of tae could ease THE FEAR. My stomach is still tender and I'm ashamed of the fact that whilst it was in the comfort of my grandmother's house, I still drank so much beer that I threw up at 5am on Sunday morning.
I've noticed over the last number of months that I've been drinking more than usual and I know that one of the main causes is down to physical pain and wanting to dull or numb it with alcohol. Mental health is also a factor- I had a few weeks of crippling depression that I was struggling with but I'm coming out of it as Christmas approaches and things are stablising stress-wise enough to be managable.
I'll be attending my first group therapy session tomorrow afternoon and whilst nervous due to it being a big step out of my comfort zone, I'm not going to let fear rule me anymore.
Been really thinking about what I want to do with my life next year as I'll be 30 years old in April. I'm thinking of putting together a Fuck It List of things I'd like to achieve in 2018 but for now, I'm starting out small. January is traditionally a very fraught month filled with anxiety and depression so in a bid to combat this, I've decided to stick with group therapy and hope to fit in a morning yoga class once a week.
I also installed Loop Habit Tracker on my phone in a bid to kick myself up the ass and track my drinking habits. There will too much temptation for me to outright quit drinking this month what with socialization and parties and what not but I plan to go for a dry January at least. It's a small start and I feel cautiously optimistic that I can make it work.
Lastly, I've decided that in January, once I get enough money saved up and can secure the services of a hairdresser friend, I'm going to get a dramatic haircut. Been growing it out for nearly a decade and I'm just completely DONE with long hair. I'd like a style like this but dyed electric blue but I don't know it it would suit me. At best, I think I'll just slowly go shorter and shorter until it gets to that length so it's not much of a shock but IDK...
Currently, my hair is nearly at my waist so it would be a drastic chop.
It's called Loop.
I can imagine it being a bit tricky to try to be held accountable by others who don't know what they're accounting for. Personally, my journey was solo. It took me a very long time to ditch the habit myself—years really, but over time you make your way towards decreasing frequency. Try first just setting a goal of a rough target limit per week, and go from there. The most important thing is that you do not be too harsh on yourself ~~if~~ when you relapse. Just acknowledge that it's a long-term journey, enjoy the challenge day by day, and don't beat yourself up!
I seem to have conquered it, and that was undeniably with the active help of Loop - Habit Tracker. This app's daily tracking of a new habit to establish is incredible, with its convenient 1x1 widget for whether you did/did not do any given action per day. If you don't have an Android, probably any habit-tracking app for iOS will do. Prayer for discipline to the rule set you create for yourself would be good, and that's what I'll pray about for you. Eventually you will want to weed out and actively avoid nearly any trigger, which can seem milder than is worth the effort.
But it's worth the effort. Every moment of it.
Just recalled another thought. The Dalai Lama recommends repeated sitting for just 5 minutes throughout the day. Like sitting for 5 minutes morning, noon and night. I'm using this app: [link] I just create 3 habits called sitting 1, 2 and 3. Hope this helps.
Chest pains? That's terrifying. Use a habit app, like Loop - Habit Tracker for Android. It's more addicting when it comes to tracking how well you abstain from a given activity every day (in this case, eating fast food).
At the very worst, at least think more about your wallet. The only time you should ever eat out is either if you have a coupon or with friends. Maybe /r/EatCheapAndHealthy can help you out in cutting down the cravings. Remember, fast food is designed to make you keep coming back. Find food to make at home that resembles it, and go gradually healthier and healthier from there.
I use this app to do the same thing. It comes with a tasker plugin ton, but I haven't had a need for it yet.
Counseling is one thing. The havoc you're wreaking upon your body is another. You gotta find a way to taper off the drinks and drugs. I personally love Loop - Habit Tracker (if you have an Android), which has helped me keep track of so many different habits to build and knock off, including not engaging in a certain activity every day. They are really empowering!
Can you check out a habit app like the one above? Do you exercise? How's your diet? If it's crap, there are places for that. /r/EatCheapAndHealthy is one, /r/MealPrepSunday is another. I do not know if /r/addiction will help, but there must be a place for you to find people in a similar boat to sympathize with.
The more crap you can flush out of your system, the more effectively you'll be able to look on your past in as healthy a way as possible (which is tough as it is; I'm so sorry about your difficult past, but at least the chaos is now far away from you, which is critical).
> If necessary, set yourself a reminder on your phone every day until it becomes a habit.
/u/Kingkhai23: if you have an Android, use a free habit app like Loop - Habit Tracker which has a handy 1x1 checkmark widget that can easily reinforce a daily habit (and in a fun way!) of setting your wallet in the same place.
Set up the recurring-task-to-take-care-of as a habit in Loop - Habit Tracker. The 1x1 checkmark widgets rock!
This doesn't apply to a specific habit
It applies to everything. Identify a habit and build the "muscle" of working in that area.
Get a habit tracker. If you have an Android phone use this.
Pick something like "Do 5 push-ups everyday"
Pick a habit that you know you can do, something reasonable. Stick to that 1 and only habit past where you are bored of doing it. Stick with it until that circle is full. Then move up to "Hit the gym twice a week". Then move up to "Count calories" and so on and so forth.
The ability to build momentum for change over time is an undertaught skill but is vital in growing as a human being and making deep change in ourselves. Fleeting willpower isn't strong enough to change who we are, but constant small deliberate change is.
Loop Habit Tracker is what I use for recurring reminders (like meditations or recording my weight), while Google Reminders works best for once off events. Loop also lets me see what I've done in the past visually and build habits, though that may not be of much use to you.
I prefer Loop - Habit Tracker for android.
HabitBull looks like a good alternative for iOS and there are a lot more but I prefer Loop - Habit Tracker because it's very simple.
There are apps that do that already, but there's nothing wrong with competition and different feature sets.
Loop habit tracker has a really good rating, and does a lot of what OP's website appears (at first glance) to do.
An MMO? I mean, you're already anonymous here so you might as well name the game to maybe find a support group with other addicts or something, you know? But no biggie. I'm kind of amazed that your family never noticed or said anything. Anyway, that's not as important as what you need to do now.
Make a list. You need tasks to replace the time that the game once consumed. Withdrawal is partly due to letting the hole sit with nothing filling it. As an Android user, I've recently been using Loop - Habit Tracker to track new daily habits to establish. For example:
Pray, meditate, volunteer; get back in touch with a Power bigger than you, and certainly bigger than the game or its developers.
Don't be embarrassed about your situation. Reach out to your friends-turned-acquaintances. "I am so sorry I went AWOL; I crashed and became a beyond-hardcore gamer but am now returning to improving my life. How have you been these months?", in your own words. Try reconnecting. Being shameless and real about where you are is some of the greatest stuff in life.
I hope at least some of this helps. I'm going through life changes too and am happy to be an accountability partner or just an open ear. Or eyes, in this case, lol.
I don't know about "proper". I started by giving myself a 30 day challenge where I would take 100% cold showers every day. I get in the shower and then turn the cold water on over me, rinse my whole body, turn off the water, soap lather, then take my time rinsing off. I make sure to maintain calm but deep breathing. I've noticed differences in overall vitality, alertness and since the new habit pushed me out of my comfort zone, I was more confident to tackle other new habits (like working out and stretching daily). I tracked my progress with Loop Habit Tracker. The fact that I could see my progress through graphs helped a ton and helped me hold myself accountable. It has been a great change in my life. Today I'm on day 101 and now I don't think I want to go back to regular showers.
Some ammo for your fight - rTribe, concrete tips for quitting, Your Brain on Porn, Fortify, Habit Tracker & Porn free radio weekly podcast.
Loop - Habit Tracker has been incredible for me.
You should try Loop Habit Tracker
Note: It would help to link to the app, like this: Loop - Habit Tracker.
I installed this recently, decided that I hated it, and then realized that it didn't meet my minimum requirement for installing apps. The last time this app was updated was June 22, 2016. That is officially an abandoned app, as far as I'm concerned. I'm glad I didn't like it.
To add onto this the Loop Habit Tracker app can track other things that can help you stay healthy.
That's awesome. Some ammo for your fight - rTribe, concrete tips for quitting, Your Brain on Porn, Fortify, Habit Tracker & Porn free radio weekly podcast. I strongly recommend concrete tips & pornfree radio.
This one might be worth a try? It's free and without ads :)
I use this app on Android, it's great.
OP try "Loop - Habit Tracker"
How has it developed in a year?
I checked out CNQR. Across the mind/body/life sections, you get 23 articles and 9 tasks for free. If you pay, you get 9 more resources. That's basically it. There's a levelling system, but it's an end in itself. A higher level confers no advantage to anything. There's a handful of comments on certain articles, but that's as far as the community goes.
Don't get me wrong. It's polished and if I had to pick between quality and quantity, I want the former. But it plays like an early access game with 1/5th the content of a finished product. The minimalist interface almost seems designed to increase the number of clicks required to navigate the website, as if disguising the lack of content. It feels a little deceiving.
Now, you might say. CNQR isn't supposed to do everything. That's true. But the way it is, I might as well download Loop Habit Tracker, bookmark a few good blogs in my browser and be done with the concept of having a "life game".
Maybe give Loop a shot.
It's a minimalistic habit tracker that's free and doesn't require a specific goal or anything.
Might want to use a mobile app, if you find that easier. I recommend Loop.
Honestly, I don't know. Most of the times i can't get past even 2 days without relapsing. But some times, for some reason, i make it through and get to months before i finally slip.
And I can't really tell why. Now obviously in the end i'm still not, mentally and physically, where i should be, otherwise my long streaks would last, but at the same time there's something that i must be doing right to be able to get over that hump, as you said.
I think the most crucial bit that i can advise on is: never give up, keep trying different things to find out what works for you, and stay focused.
For example in this streak i'm using this app to keep track of habits that I want to be consistent with (like getting up early, meditating, posting regularly, being grateful) and that really helped me to get focused.
And if i'll relapse again, then I'll get up and try to tweak my approach once more, until I get it right.
It's a trial and error thing, and in order for it to work, you must never give up
Regarding apps, I find Loop Habit tracker to be a great open source alternative to the one you listed, and no premium upgrades required to break the 5 habits limit.
Loop has been a fantastic app to help me track my habits. I add one at a time as my habit strength increases each month. Now that I'm working Mon-Fri with commute, I needed a way to adapt to a proper sleep schedule. Currently on a 15 day streak for getting 8hrs of sleep!
Next step, packing lunches...
I like it but the problem is that it only tracks CONTRIBUTIONS. So even if you do a bunch of coding work but are not ready to check in, you get no "credit". So I always felt stressed out and not motivated because I wasn't sure I would get enough done to commit code to github that day.
But I really like their calendar visual. There's an android app that I use called Loop that has a history/calendar visual that is similar. The key is that you control when you want to mark a given day. That aspect really helps me.
My apologies, here's the link.
Habit Loop is great for tracking habits! [link]
I see [link] is not working. If we need a dedicated Kaizen web app I would be interested in developing it, maybe with soms other Kaizen warriors from #programming.
There is no region lock, or anything like that. It should work, but the Google Play Store is not very reliable. If you have already joined the beta, please try this URL.