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If you're a fan of history, these are the books I referenced. All round, a great peek at what the world was like in the 8th century, seen through the lens of Muslim travelers. But there may be some triggers, so be careful.

Thank you for sharing this, also a better solution would be to block Adult content internet wise and not per device. If you get tempted you can rush to your laptop and watch it there. Take a look at OpenDns Family Shield 🛡 You can set it on your router or set it on every device you use. May Allah make it easier for all of us.

What the brother MarriageOnly said is pretty much all that needs to be said.

Except if I may add a few not to make you feel overwhelmed but for knowledge and awareness sake so you can attain stronger eemaan. If this friend is a non Muslim...

We are forbidden to take the disbelievers as close intimate friends/allies. Allah and his messenger have warned us in Quran and Hadith to not take dibelievers as allies. One proof is

It is confirmed that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "Do not keep company except with a believing person." [Abu Daawood].

However if this person sends you a message I think you should be straight forward and tell them look we can't maintain this relationship. Invite them to Islam and maybe leave them with some good sources. If they accept Alhamdulillah if they don't then there is nothing you can do as Allah guides whom he wills.

If they are Muslim then well cutting it off completely is the right thing to do. In fact it might not be hard since you are not attached to the point where you message each other everyday. Alhamdulillah.

Also I'll leave you with a few duas although I don't know of any dua to ask for good company I say these often رَبَّنَا آمَنَّا فَاكْتُبْنَا مَعَ الشَّاهِدِينَ Our Lord! We believe; write us down among the witnesses. Surah Al-Ma'ida - 5:83

When entering/exiting a town وَقُلْ رَبِّ أَدْخِلْنِي مُدْخَلَ صِدْقٍ وَأَخْرِجْنِي مُخْرَجَ صِدْقٍ وَاجْعَلْ لِي مِنْ لَدُنْكَ سُلْطَانًا نَصِيرًا And say, "My Lord, cause me to enter a sound entrance and to exit a sound exit and grant me from Yourself a supporting authority." Surah Al-Isra - 17:80 https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.arshan.dhikrdua

Btw download that app alsoit has lots of duas :) I hope you benefit Insha Allah

Before you buy a course for 200$ look for coupons.

https://www.groupon.com/coupons/stores/udemy.com

http://www.retailmenot.com/view/udemy.com

Or just google "Udemy coupon". You will always find a coupon and if not then wait until you find one that works. Don't spend 200$-300$

Here is the EasyPeasy book, its helped a lot of brothers and with its help, I've been completely P clean Alhamdulilah. In general I would advise against changing your routine too much, because that might make it harder in the long run, but deleting or restricting your Instagram/social media definitely helps. You can also try this blocker for your internet, to restrict your access to sites. May Allah make your journey easy!

That's a great idea. In addition to Quran, I've started reading Leadership Lessons from the Life of Rasoolullah. I'm just 2 chapters in, but it's very educational so far.

It's freely available on both Amazon and the Play Store.

What books would you recommend?

Here is what I used, I paid for it tho but it's worth it https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=cz.mobilesoft.appblock&hl=en

For me the best feature is the Strict Mode, for 30 days, you can't turn off the settings that you've made there and you will not be able to uninstall the app, so you have no choice but to do other stuff rather than spending hours on the phone. :)

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Right now, made Tawbah, pray, contemplate, and ask for guidance again. :)

I've been on a 90 day streak before so I may know what I am talking about.

Motivation will die down. It's up to you to implement discipline. If motivation is your launch factor - the first 10M in a 100M sprint, discipline will carry through the other 90M.

You also need to develop a system, rather than chase a goal. Chasing goals is good, but developing a system to achieve that goal is even better. Try and develop an adaptable system that allows you to stay away from PMO.

Lastly, being optimistic is encouraged in Islam. Optimism can be viewed as trust in Allah - you trust Allah to do whatever is best for you, though you may not realise it yet. Yes, PMO is a nasty habit, but you should view this as a challenge to grow. If you can beat PMO, you'll strengthen your resolve, so if a calamity (God forbid) were to befall you, you could call upon an inner strength you were previously unaware of. http://www.soundvision.com/article/optimism-why-positive-thinking-matters

Never give up hope. Once you give up hope, you've given up. Period. Read Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning". One of the key tenets of this book is that hope can and will carry you through the darkest of times (it gives the example of people stuck in the concentration camps during WW2 - even when they had nothing at all, they were still able to pull through - they held on to something they truly loved and believed they would see that thing again, no matter what).

You can do it! Have patience, try your best, and it will happen.

Wa alaikumusalm brother. I was addicted to pmo for more than a decade and this is the longest streak I ever had after so many small streaks. From my experience I can say "A habit cannot be eradicated instead it should be replaced" ( a quote from the book The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, if you have time you should read it, it will give you real idea how habits controlling us). Replace your bad habit with something good, like exercise, Quran, reading beneficial books etc.

Don't ever think you cannot do it, its the biggest trap of shaithan. When you relapse get up make tauba and start again, this is a long journey.

May Allah give all of us strength in fighting this filth Ameen

You might get sick of hearing this, but you're young and if you fight it now it's a slightly easier battle. Personally I had PMO issues for just under a decade.

As far as advice goes the most effective method is fasting. Especially because you're at a age where you're testosterone is being produced rapidly. (It is more effective in summer imo)

Work out. You're young so don't do weights and bench presses. I'd suggest calisthenics. You can buy a pull up bar (no screws) (there's obviously other ones you can buy). If you're new to it start with a routine of pull ups and push ups. The reason I suggest this is your at a age where you body will find a way to burn energy one way or another, Even if you're not "athletic".

Hold on to your Salah. The spiritual benefits I am not able to summarize, but from a habitual point of view it creates a routine. And before you pray you can't be in a state of major impurity. Hence there'll be times where you thinking of PMO but you might not because you'll think "ah I'll need to do ghusal anyway because it's magrib soon" which will deter you from PMO.

May Allah (swt) make this a test easy for you. insha'Allah the more you fight against it the more you'll be rewarded.

If you want to do something productive, go to coursera.org. There are lots of free courses on many different subjects, by international experts.

If you need human interaction, you will find groups with your interests on meetup.com, what ever those interests may be.

As for gaming... I agree that it's an activity that leads to a lot of solitude and disconnects one from people. I've replaced it with occasional board gaming evenings with friends. There's a huge plethora of game types out there with are much more social and stimulating that sitting alone in front of a computer for hours on end. I'm not a fan on Dungeons and Dragons, but if you enjoy RPGs and have some friends who do, that may be a fun alternative social activity.

It's better to be in good company than to be alone. It's better to be alone than in bad company.

I recommend you recite Ayatul Kursi before and while you're in bed and make Tasbeeh until you fall asleep.

Practical tips:

1- Start going to sleep on time consistently

2- Stop using all electronic devices at least 30-60 minutes before going to sleep. If you really need to use your phone/laptop, I recommend you install f.lux on your laptop which minimizes the emission of blue light which supresses the release of melatonin; the hormone that makes you feel sleepy.

3- Before the lockdown and quarantine, I would go to the gym and get a late night workout in. This helped get me out of the house and helped keep me in shape.

As an alternative (if you don't have access to a gym or can't leave your house) I recommend walking around the house, doing some push-ups, and taking a shower.

Do you get urges from porn in general or is it a specific website you visit. If the latter, try installing a website blocker to prevent yourself from getting these thoughts. If on pc try cold turkey. May Allah SWT make it easy for you.

I think that is outside the scope of the group

You could install that app https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.dareleftaa

And ask them what you want

Last time I had to use it , it took them two days to reply, I remember that you do not need an account to use it

Don't you find weird that 43% of gay men have over 500 partners?
Source: http://www.amazon.com/Homosexualities-Study-Diversity-Among-Women/dp/0671251503

For people who are supposed to feel love like straight people, it's strange...

just like the myth that says that homosexuality is innate in man

What helped me stay away from my urges was installing a website blocker. I use this one, and it can "essentially" permanently block any haram websites. Give it a go. May Allah SWT end our sinful habits. Ameen.

What helped me was to install a website blocker. Download it and add all the haram websites you visit when your urges overwhelm you, and then set the time duration to "as long as possible" which blocks those websites for 16 years. You can also add more to the list while the timer is running. May Allah SWT make it easy for you.

yes there is a way if you use Android. Use the app Infinity for Reddit and there you will get an option to disable NSFW forever. Here's the link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ml.docilealligator.infinityforreddit

https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/dhikr-dua/id1561598617

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.alifewithallah.app

This app has helped me immensely to keep up to soeed with my daily Dhikr which has been clearly proscribed in the Sunnah.

If you want a good life and a happy one stick to the Dhikr which is authentic and recommended by our beloved prophet AS and by Allah you will find peace and happiness.

If you do this daily with commitment, it will be very difficult to relapse. The deen has laid down the path to protect ourselves from these nasty habits but we are quick to look elsewhere may Allah grant us the correct understanding.

If you PMO or actually just commit sins heedlessly, you will indeed look ugly. That is because of lack of noor in one's face.

Solution is study the Quran and keep on praying. Be consistent. It definitely works, but may take months to see any change. But if you are consistent on small deeds, you will definitely have a good outcome cause Allah loves such people with consistent, although small good deeds.

And if you can get it, read the diseases of hearts and its cures by Ibn Taymiyyah.

Here you go Nakhtim

I have a few friends who are in a female group on the app Relay that have been working together every day to stop this habit, here's a link to download:

iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/tribe-stop-fighting-alone/id1569873335

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=app.jointribe

السَّـــــــلاَمُ عَلَيــْــكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكـَـاتُه. Habibi, make a firm intention and repent to Allah. You are better than this. Go for some walks and try some community work.

Do not leave yourself alone and may I suggest something which may help your Internet use.

You can change the settings of your router to point to a custom DNS. DNS is what tells your devices how to find a website so you can load it.

You can Google how to change DNS settings on your router and use the family protection DNS settings on the following page. I wrote them below anyway.

https://adguard.com/en/adguard-dns/overview.html

"Family protection" DNS servers:

94.140.14.15 94.140.15.16

This will physically block all haraam websites no matter what device you use. The websites will give you a page error if u try to navigate to them and it forces safesearch on all devices.

Once you changed DNS settings, change your router password to a really long complicated password, write it down and give it to someone you can trust so you don't have access to reverse what you changed.

The best tip I can give is to spend time on something else. There must be some new skills you want to pickup, or a subject you want to study.

I spent an afternoon creating this crap little app to help me count Tasbih. On top of that it's also an afternoon dedicated to something, as opposed to relapsing. I also picked up some low-level editing skills to make some Islamic videos, just to fill free time. Now I'm hoping to spend the next few days making a simple little game with the Godot Engine.

Spend time remembering Allah SWT and distract yourself from the haram.

You can have a barbeque for like-minded people like I once suggested brothers have a "Muslim convert barbecue" and it turned out to be really nice. You can also check out meetup.com and join the hiking groups, wild plant, wild mushrooms walks, things that have no fitnah and bring you to ponder over the creation of Allah. Also, participate in everything the masjid does like a cleanup day, classes and prayers. These are all easy ways to meet people.

If you live in a big city you can start a Muslim group on meetup.com for brothers to get together and ponder over how to benefit from ayaats from the Quran as you all take turns reading it English. You can also start a boxing class or tea drinking time between Maghrib and Ishah in the Masjid and lots of other stuff. If you don't ask the answer is always no.

As you make more connections remember that contentment is not something to search for it's a decision to not need the dunya so much. It is definitely a good idea to make more connections and remember it takes time to build quality connections so don't force it, just do it consistently and naturally.

(This snippet is from the book" MASTURBATION A DISASTROUS PROBLEM FACED BY THE YOUTH" by MAULANA ABDULLAH ISMAIL MADRASAH ARABIA ISLAMIA AZAADVILLE – SOUTH AFRICA)

{ The complete book can be downloaded for free from this site https://archive.org/details/MasturbationByShaykhAbdullahIsmail }

Excellent! I'm glad to hear it!
I hope much of the 'other things' that are 'non spiritual' include work on your self-esteem and how you cope with stress and unpleasant feelings (Sadness, disappointment, anger).
The guy who created No-Fap, Mark Queppet, did a short podcast series on this last year that was an ABSOLUTE game changer for me. Here's the link, start from the bottom.

https://www.buzzsprout.com/198193
I myself was missing a few things related to self-esteem that he talked about, even though I prayed 5 times a day, didn't do drugs, didn't drink, swore off women, etc. Basically you can be perfect and still not overcome PMO until you handle your mental aspects, which you seem to be doing. Take a listen to a couple of those podcast episodes, insha'Allah they help you understand things in addition to what your therapist suggests!
Best wishes!

Salam alaykum guys!

To guy who needs this and brothers that are commenting. Listen to this podcast from the creator of NoFap.
https://www.buzzsprout.com/198193

Start from the bottom. Wish you the best, inshallah! AKHI JUST LISTEN TO IT - ALLAH IS NOT GOING TO COME DOWN AND FIX YOUR PROBLEMS - PRAYERS WILL ONLY HELP YOU SEE THE TOOLS HES GIVING YOU TO FIX THIS YOURSELF. Start from the bottom.

Salam.

Salam alaykum,

Before you can love others you must love yourself, my dude.

I'm plugging in Mark Queppet's (The creater of NoFap) podcast series on how to quit porn.

Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/198193

Start from the bottom! JUST GIVE IT A FREAKING LISTEN!

Salam!

Salam alaykum guys!

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To guy who needs this and brothers that are commenting. Listen to this podcast from the creator of NoFap.
https://www.buzzsprout.com/198193

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Start from the bottom. Wish you the best, inshallah!

Salam.

Even if Ramadan had ended, it's never too late to change. Obviously the change accelerates in Ramadan, but you can do it even now. Don't have the mindset...oh I've messed up too many times. Allah will not get tired of forgiving you/giving you more chances until you yourself get tired of asking him.

I'd say Open DNS is a good software. Edit: https://www.opendns.com/home-internet-security/parental-controls/opendns-familyshield/

Assalamualaikum!

First of all, congrats on praying 5 times a day! It really is a wonderful thing to be able to follow this pillar of our religion strongly over a long period of time :D

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There is an app called ColdTurkey, I've used it and it's really useful for blocking sites and keeping you in check. It's free to use the blocking features and works on both windows and mac.

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If you are using a mac specifically, then there is a free app called selfcontrol that will block any website on your mac for any period of 24 hours or less.

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If you're looking for someone to talk to or just chill, send me a message and we can talk on discord/telegram/whatever you like haha

I'm using App Block for my phone, well, obviously it blocks any apps you add to your list or it can set time limits per day. It can also extend to being a website blocker. Honestly, it helped me for the past month as I blocked most of my browsing/soc med apps past 8:30 PM, that way I can no longer browse or stay late at night. :D

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Here's the link if you want: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=cz.mobilesoft.appblock&hl=en

Can't you use it without telling them that you have been addicted to porn? I mean, you can maybe find some alternate reasons like you are using it to somehow control your internet addiction? I think it will not be a good idea to tell them about porn addiction.

Also, there are apps that cost around 2 dollars which blocks nsfw sites, and the apps you have (depending on your preference) you can check this one I'm using https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=cz.mobilesoft.appblock

It is just a simple app I created for myself, includes 96 reasons not to sin, all of them extracted from the book "Spiritual disease and its cure" by Ibn al Qayyim.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=developers.sapa.wannasin

Asalamu Aleykum, I know its frustrating, one thing that helped me is to imagine the girl in the video to be your sister, niece, daughter or anyother female family member.Then you will see how disgusting porn is and really that girl thats being used like that IS someone's daughter, sister...etc and for the most part they are victims of human trafficking. Once you see it that way you will be disgusted with yourself when the thought of porn comes to your mind. say to yourself "that could be my sister" and actually think about that statement.

Also, if you don't have already get this app helped me alot, https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=stop.masturbation.stop.m

Hope that helps, stay strong inshallah we'll overcome this addiction.

Apps like this can help you to avoid procrastinating sleep and also avoid PMO at night. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=tomka.lockmyphone https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.teqtic.lockmeout

There are other app variants which block particular apps for a set time which you might find more useful

In dopamine terms that's true, as is the fact that plasticity is competitive hence why the novelty of p appeals to us . However, m is connected to the very idea that we need a release. The reality is, we can feel released through healthier alternatives eg exercise. If we consider the model offered by Charles Duhigg in The Power of Habit, the cue is porn, the routine is fapping and the reward is O. The Strongest incentive to pmo is no doubt O because its the reward. You can't O automatically with p alone. With m-ing and fantasy you still can without p. However, P is just a super-stimulus so it only serves for excitement/arousal purposes of MO.

Everyone here is listing a library worth of books, however, I would like to suggest just one that had an extraordinary impact on me and many others, and that is "The Autobiography of Malcolm X" ( http://al-rasid.com/shared_uploads/The.Autobiography.of.MalcolmX.pdf )

The famous Muslim leader Malcolm X (I'm sure you've heard of him before) once struggled with cocaine addiction as well as engaging in other sins. The transformation he went through is inspirational as well as remarkable.

Thank you and may Allah help you.

Yep Sahih International. You can read it online or if you want it on hard copy you can find it pretty cheap or free at most mosques. This is the one I use: https://www.amazon.com/Saheeh-International-Translation-Muntada-Islami/dp/B008K2F33E/ref=sr_1_8?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1502281727&sr=1-8&refinements=p_27%3ASAHEEH+INTERNATIONAL

I've the same problem as you and I started read books about this issue, you may want to read this one: Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked it will open your mind on a lot of things.

I was definitely thinking of going to the gym and have talked to my parents about it, I just need to get a driver's license first.

The thief analogy made a lot of sense, and yes I also had experiences with sexual thought that are almost exactly like yours. I need to keep a gaurd up and that will be something I will try to battle, hopefully with adhkar.

The app I use is azkari. It has a bunch of specific Dua for certain occasions and also has a sibha program. (prayer beads). https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.dot.azkari

Well of course brother here it is, its about Doua's of the prophet , plz dont have high expectations I'm amateur developper :) https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ad3iya_nabawiya.b4a.sidebar