AllahWilling,
Expect to see more articles like this. It's a natural outgrowth of Muslim activists being subsumed into the leftist movement. Linda Sarsour has actively excluded all pro-life feminist groups from her women's march. Not surprising considering the largest donor for her march is Planned Parenthood. If you're not staunchly pro-abortion, you can not be considered a supporter of women's rights apparently. Not my words, but hers. You can be a staunch opponent of domestic violence, a firm believer in equality in the workplace, and lobby for parity in wages but that means nothing if you're not 100% pro-abortion.
NY Times article about the march had this quote I found telling: >“This is what we conservative women live with all the time, this idea that we somehow aren’t really women and we just reflect internalized misogyny,” she said. Of the march, she added: “I don’t think they represent women. I think they are a wholly owned subsidiary of the abortion movement.”
In many ways, this whole jumbled movement reminds me of Madkhalis. You either toe the party line 100% or you're off the manhaj and there's nothing we can work together on.
As to the article posted, I agree, it's appalling. I did a double take at her reasoning. Abort a fetus so that you can speed through your Islamic education and receive ijazat in classical texts now instead of in a few years? Ma lakum, kayfa tahkumun!
Best,
TheMuslimShrink
Here's a book you might enjoy, it's about a girl in a similar situation.
If you've been studying for two years, I bet your parents are more aware of your interest than you might realize. You may have to have a series of conversations and do some "myth busting" before you can tell the whole truth, but keep trying to lay that groundwork with them.
I don’t wear headscarves anymore but a wonderful way I’ve seen people hang theirs is on a tiered hanger or a scarf hanger! You could just simply fold the rectangle hijabs in half and that would hopefully cut down on ironing.
My mother in law alternatively just rolls up her headscarves and stands them up in her drawers so she can see all of them. She also has some where she just stacks the rolls horizontal on top of one another.
Assalam Alaikum-
I would suggest finding a tube undercap that isn’t too tight. I recall a user on this subreddit even cut out “ear holes” and sewed on additional fabric to give her ears more room on her undercaps.
I personally don’t use undercaps and instead use a velvet wig headband, which hold back hair and also holds my scarf in place. They can be used in addition to an undercap if your scarf is transparent or a slippery fabric like chiffon. Here is the amazon link to the ones I use
As for my baby hairs I use a very light hairspray along my hairline but depending on your hair texture maybe a gel would be a better hold.
I change my hair part frequently so tension isn’t always on one spot of my head. Using a bun clip can also help if you’re having tension issues with a tied up bun. I keep my hair down or in a loose style when at home to relieve the tension.
I also do keratin treatments for my split ends and scalp massages after taking my scarf off for the day which helps with hair growth and circulation.
May Allah make it easy and comfortable for you to practice hijab. Amen.
I am making overalls cool again.
Well, I'm wearing overalls anyway. Baggy overalls are all over Amazon this fall and they are AWESOME with hijab. Especially because I'm so short that I can buy capri length and have them be long enough. Win.
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You can buy thin bun hair nets that ballet dancers use and then a couple of Bobby pins to keep it secure https://www.amazon.com/Deoot-Reusable-Invisible-Elastic-Ballet/dp/B07DGBM3Z5/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=hair+net+for+buns&qid=1614325403&sr=8-5#
Waalaikumsalaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. You've already received a few great answers on the outer practice of prayer. If you would like some guidance and instruction on what should be happening internally and why that is important, I highly recommend reading this book by Imam Al-Ghazali.
Gloves with PVC dots. The dots help to create fiction between the finger and the mushaf page. If you have a dollar store in your area you can try to find it in the gardening/gloves section. It works good enough for me but your mileage may vary.
https://www.amazon.com/Pack-Protective-Coating-Polyester-Comfortable/dp/B07HN34DD9
You look so pretty mashallah!!
Tips for wearing hijab as beginner: 1. Use an undercap. You can find these online at various stores. I get mine from:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01J9UOKJI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_WKF987QW42JJ25T5W929
You don’t have to buy hijab pins to keep your hijab in place! You can start off with safety pins and secure your hijab under your chin. No one will see it and it won’t budge! If you get to the point in your hijab journey where you would like try out different styles you can find a variety of hijab pins on amazon!!
Always keep your hair in a bun!! Sometimes having a hijab on for a long time can cause stress to your scalp, and because of that many hijabis have hair loss. It can be easily avoided by massaging your scalp when you take it off, hair care and keeping your hair out or in a braid at home!!
Hope this helps you inshallah :)))
I love winter because I can wear sweater dresses with pants and still be cute and comfortable. I also wear tunic length shirts like the kinds you can get from Artizara-- with a belt they look very elegant and modest.
Casually, I have a long plaid button up and some viscose tunics. Not very feminine, but they're easy to wear when I don't want to put in an effort.
Pantwise, I wear mostly loose fitting jeans. It's difficult because I'm petite so they bunch up near my ankles... I should really get them tailored some day. I really want to try wearing legged pants-- they look so comfy and the patterns are so interesting. But I need some courage ( and money lol).
During the summer I'll wear maxi-dresses and skirts, but I have a little difficulty being totally comfortable. The dresses and skirts I have are a bit more bohemian/hippie, but I'm a bit more goth so it feels odd wearing a white lacey skirt. But I love by black maxi dress and black jersey skirt-- they're so versatile and all it takes is a pretty scarf and jean jacket to tie it all together.
Outerwear-wise: I just bought a long black cardigan off of Amazon and I'm in love. It actually fits my arms and has a high neck so I can easily wear any top under it. I also have a few different coats-- a black knee length trench coat which is good for rain, a green peacoat for colder weather, and a puffy marshmallow coat for the winter. What I really want is a long grey coat( kinda like this but better constructed) because the green clashes with my more colorful scarves.
I've spent so long at the whim of my mother's more... questionable fashion rules (the 90's never ended) so I'm eager to grow into my personal style.
I'm also a non-Muslim who wears modest swimwear. I actually got mine off of Amazon from the company Ababalaya.
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They have lots of styles but this is the kind I have enjoyed the most: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B076LW5C8S/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Long sleeved scrub top that covers the butt: I think Ali Express may be the website you need, there are others there for sure.
https://www.camscanner.com/share/show?device_id=IP_bbd389c5b39162cae551a9252747ff92_lite&sid=6AB102CEC7F0476FML9A67hB&pid=dsi&style=1 Here is a pic of the dua. Idk if the link would work tho. But May Allah help you with the exam Ameen and pray for my result too
Dad's are always hard to shop for. My dad is simple and wants nothing. What's you're budget btw?
My dad likes tea alot, so I got him one of those self heating mugs, like this. He uses it.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08LB8HLNW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_PMCPCE3BR8KBN3K2Y8G7
I think just think very practical. What have you noticed that troubles him or inconveniences him and buy something that solves that problem.
Salaam sis. I just wanted to drop in to say that it truly does get better. Your heart and mind are both already in the right place, aH. Leave it to Allah and remain living your life with sabr.
I got out of something similar recently, and at first I was hurting and not understanding why I did what I did (initiate the breakup).. but aH Allah truly gives you the strength to move on. I feel more positive and content with myself now that I know I'm out of a wrong relationship. I'm at a stage where I now entirely understand that Allah swt. did not find this relationship to be what's best for me. I really recommend adapting this outlook on the breakup situation that happened in your life.
I started reading this book by Yasmin Mogahed, called "Reclaim Your Heart", and aH it has been of immense help and has given me the extra guidance I needed to understand that Allah knows whats best for us. I'll paste the Amazon link for you in case you want to check it out!
Here you go! not magnets or sharp pins either:
These wont snag at your hijab and stay all day. just slide them and adjust it.
I have done more casual maxi skirts and done nicer fancy looking skirts and most of the time i just wear the fancy looking ones. They are just as comfortable and no one ever seems to notice if im over dressed. Ive also gotten quite a few casual dresses that I wear from Amazon.
It’s easier then braiding, all you have to do is put the strings used to tie the khimar on the inside when you put it on and tie it behind your head or under your chin. Here are some that you just put on and that’s it. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B071Y27XNH/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1
May you be rewarded sis for your every effort in pleasing Allah! Ameen :) Would you be able to buy hijab caps? Like this one. It keeps baby hair underneath it most of the time personally and then I wear a scarf wrapped pretty much twice around, which covers my neck and the back of my neck. I also use the first part of the scarf (like the part that I'm not wrapping around to go across part of my upper body too. Do you have scarves already? I'd be happy to do a short video chat with you to talk you through it, if it helps?
I used vintage patterns (any pattern from the 1950s to current) before and I found out that many of them need many alterations to fit today's folks. Historical patterns are pretty cool and I find them more forgiving than current patterns because many people back then upcycled their clothes. My first historical pattern was Sense & Sensibility's Regency Dress. It was easy to fit because the bodice is the only fitted part of a regency dress. They were easy to modernize or dress up. I had to buy a plus size sleeve supplement for S&S pattern. It's was worth the money because sleeve fit can make or break a dress.
https://www.amazon.com/1804-1812-Regency-Gown-Pattern/dp/B001HGT3B8
Instant hijabs have good coverage and don’t slide on my head too much. I also tend to get under caps that aren’t as smooth of a material. I have also used velvet wig bands under my caps to hold them in place and they do a good job, though it’s an extra step.
Instant hijab-
Velvet wig grip-
I’m not sure if these will help, but I wanted to suggest :)
Only linking this Amazon item to show you what they look like. These pins are “classic” in that I strongly associate them with the hijab. https://www.amazon.ae/Multicolor-Color-Safety-Pins-Hijab/dp/B07MVKRCLC
As-salamu Alaikum sister, first and foremost make dua. Ask Allah for every little thing you want.
Just remember not to stress because hair is just hair it'll grow back insha'allah.
I have the same dress (scrunched sleeves, seams on the skirt) but in a floral pattern. The brand is called
"a. new day" by target. I can't find it anymore but I found the other version on amazon. https://www.amazon.com/New-Day-Womens-Sleeve-Tiered/dp/B08LXKY7SL
Wa alaykum salam, for the shirt maybe get one of these so that it's longer? Or you could maybe ask for a larger size of uniform if that's possible
Why not get a frosted window film? It lets light in but blurs the window so no one can make out your dorm room. Easy to install and peel off too.
I have a basket on top of my dresser for undercaps and scrunchies. But if you want a more organized method, get one of those drawer organizers for socks. You can roll them up and it will look very organized! I use the ones with the bigger sections for my hijabs.
I have a similar one but not exactly the same. The material here looks like but the one I have is of cotton
CWEN COLLECTION Women Ninja Canvas Cap Tube Style Poly Cotton Head Band Under Scarf Stole Cotton Free Size https://www.amazon.in/dp/B088J6F9Z4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_V9JA7HJ5Y973H28FJH7E?psc=1
See if it’s available in your country
Assalamualikum dear sister! This is so wonderful and I think it’s amazing that you are taking this step♥️ I started to wear hijab full time a few years ago and it was truly the best decision I made.
I know you might have seen these scarves everywhere but it’s because they’re so comfortable and they really don’t move! I think this is the perfect “starter” hijab set like you are looking for! Also they’re neutral colors that you can match with most outfits. I recommended these to another friend and she also loved them :) I fact I still wear scarves like these daily because sometimes chiffon can be hard to manage!
Here is the link:
I think the one piece shrug sleeves are best, like these: https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B013WPTZ1O/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_0XTQM6FC56TAE4VVQXD5
I wear them while working out (with a loose mens exercise t-shirt) and it's nice bc I don't have to worry about them slipping down even if I'm moving around a lot or accidentally showing skin if I lift my arms and the t-shirt sleeve lifts. Also, I really hate being sweaty or hot lol and I get better ventilation this way than with a long sleeved exercise shirt.
i’ve seen these layering shirts that could be used as a shirt extender for extra coverage at the back. i don’t know if this helps
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Adjustable-Layering-Half-Length-Splitting-Extender/dp/B08TBG69RQ
Where are you based? Tbh I have this little tube that has a mascara type brush, kind of similar to this
I havent actually used it since moving to my new place (therefore dont have it here), and dont know the name off the top of my head sorry! Hope you have a safe flight :)
headspun is a new poetry book written by a bengali american muslim named mashnun munir where he talks about his own islamic journey.
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https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09NRBY5VN/ref=dbs\_a\_def\_rwt\_bibl\_vppi\_i0
I use my ex-husband's sword rack🤣 (it fits about 8 swords, so about 16 scarves/hijabs or more fit beautifully on it!)
It's marvelous! I've never seen anything so perfect to store my pashminas & hijabs.
I just bought one on Amazon. :) It's nice and soft and was like $15.
Ababalaya Women's Elegant Modest Muslim Islamic Ramadan Soft Lightweight Jersey Hijab Long Scarf https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0772QND2Q/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_QWYW39QJ03Y8062XGD9M?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This one is a little long but it has a raw edge that you could trim with a steady hand and a little patience.
How about two part system? An abaya or similar with an instant hijab? Maybe not ideal but could be a good compromise.
Or something like this? It might not be ideal but could be a good starting point. I’ve seen better versions of this style before, but I can’t find them now. I looked up “hoodie hijab” for reference. 🙃
I have never once even heard that it's disrespectful/bad/appropriation for non-Muslims to cover. You're doing the right thing. If you're just going once, I'd advise hopping on Amazon. I got this one:
And it's really easy to wear and has good coverage.
The ones I use are made for nails, they look like this. You can probably get them for cheaper from another seller, I just clicked the first one I saw.
Salam sister I was having the same problem. Part of the issue here is that you’re using a cotton underscarf, not a silk/satin one.
Here’s what I’ve done: Not wearing scarves at home and letting my hair breathe Deep conditioning my hair once a week and oiling/moisturising it (Shea butter, coconut oil, natural occurring oils, castor oil) Put your hair in a LOW bun and tie it very loosely with a scrunchie. This will reduce tension on your roots. Protective styles are good too Avoiding putting any fabric directly on the edges
And sometimes, I don’t even wear an underscarf. The fact of the matter is, our hair needs to breathe. But if you must wear an underscarf, you can get one from Amazon here: Satin Bonnet Silk Lined Sleep Cap... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B094477632?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I live in a cold/snowy climate and here is what I use
You can register on proz.com if you haven't already, that's where I found my translation jobs, or they found me. There's a course on udemy.com called the Complete 2021 Web Development Bootcamp, I think this would be a good start. It teaches you all the basics. I don't know how much it is at the moment, but there are regular sales (all two weeks?) when you can buy courses for 12.99$. If you register, they email you when the sales start. May Allah help you in all that is good. I hope the IOU accepts GCSES, they have a great team of teachers and administrators.
Concerning working, have you ever thought to work as a freelance translator? They always search people and mostly don't care about degrees. The pay isn't too much, but it still is something, maybe enough to pay for your education. Or you could learn programming. There are a lot of courses online, for example on udemy.com or codeacademy.com and if you're good, you can find a lot of jobs, even without a degree. Or you could also study at the IOU (International Open University, former Islamic Online University). They offer a Bachelors Degree in Arabic, Psychology, Education, Computer Sciences, and Bachelor and Masters in Islamic Studies. The tuition is very affordable, but even if it is still too much, they will help you out.
I think this review puts it well:
"...This tale of Chesler's time in Afghanistan comprises the first part of the book. It is very hard for a 21st century reader to understand how she could move to an entirely foreign country, in a place that does not have a strong history of women's liberation, without, maybe, realizing it. Or, at least, looking into it. This is definitely an example of an impulsive college student mistake, albeit a big one, and there's only so much sympathy one can give to that. The bigger thing to realize, though, is that Chesler was only in Afghanistan for ten weeks. Her impulsiveness did not cost her years of her life. Knowing how short this "captivity" was, it's hard to take it as seriously as presented..."
http://www.librarything.com/work/13909824/reviews/113648818
It's interesting (I'm an autobiography junkie), but it's the kind of thing that is an uncommon scenario that ends up being used to fuel a lot of very broad stereotyping and confirmation bias for xenophobic and/or anti-muslim folks. (Similar, the film/book Not Without My Daughter which I heard about sooooooo many times when marrying someone who happened to be muslim because apparently every man is like that and everywhere is Iran. If they'd read this book, I'm sure I'd be hearing hyperbolic warnings based on that too.)
I have this piece and was happy with the length and fit and it has a flap over the chest that lifts just enough to nurse and still be covered.
Socks, deodorant, thick blanket.
Basic food ingredients are useful (flour, rice, cooking oil etc.). Baby formula.
Modest swimwear too. I know even settled/permanent residents have trouble finding full coverage swimwear for their daughters. Here is one suggestion.
This is what I use:
UV Sun Protection Compression Arm Sleeves - Tattoo Cover Up - Cooling Athletic Sports Sleeve for Football, Golf & Volleyball https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S3XNSQY/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_GPC4N23TH2G7J9KSJQJP?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Wa alaykum sis!
For my hijabs i hang them in this :
And as for under scarves I organize them with my satin and silk sleeping scarves and bonnets in one of the drawers of the storage carts i use to organize my underwear and socks. They usually look like this :
Hope this helps!
Have you seen those ladders people hang blankets on? I use one of those to hang my most frequently worn scarves. My husband also uses it to hang his macawis lol.
It’s nice because I don’t have to hang them back up on their hangers in my closet but they still stay neat and don’t get wrinkled and are ready to go the next day.
I got mine from IKEA, but this one is from Amazon and will do the job. (:
jazakum Allahu khayran, im glad i could help! for the straight pins, they come in a standard size as for the pins for under the chin, any size would be good. for me i use pins the size of a safety. i’ll just put in a image just so you can get an idea of it. they come in various designs and colour to coordinate with your outifit too!
if not you can just go for hijab magnets!
Korean Italy Towels were a huge game changer for me. They do a great job exfoliating my skin as you can see the dead skin rolling off. I usually wait 5-10 minutes in the shower until my skin is soft and then use of of these washcloths to take the dead skin off. It really helps with ingrown hairs and leaves my skin sooooo smooth. And the cloths last forever! It’s so satisfying when I scrub with the cloth and I see the dead skin just sloughing off my body. I love how did soft I feel after, and my husband loves it, too. I don’t use oils on my body because I don’t like the greasy feeling, but if I do use a moisturizer, I like Aveeno or if I’m feeling fancy, body lotion with Shea butter.
Ugh I want the answer to this too!! From what I know acrylics and nail polish (including “halal” nail polish) violate prayer. I personally like to just grow out my nails, file and shape them, push back or trim my cuticles, and use cuticle oil/hand cream. It looks really pretty especially when you wear rings. When I first started manicuring my hands it was overwhelming and seemed like an expensive time consuming process, but in reality it’s actually pretty easy. I recommend using a cuticle remover solution, cuticle scissors if you’re comfortable or just push them back, and use a cheap nail file (less than a dollar at most drugstores) Here’s a link that might help:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9B5TMW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_3PDW24BT5PX4KMJCNJ99
So what I do is keep my natural nails groomed, but if I do want to jazz them up a little you can get press ons, or make your own, and put them on your nails using self adhesive tabs. I'll link the ones I use from Amazon, but they're so convenient to use esp when wanting to maintain prayers, just pop them off before making wudhu and make sure your nails are dry when applying them back on, and they look as good as acrylics. Actually got this idea from tiktok so shout-out to that! link
I wear those athletic multi use things as my under scarf, I'll add a link so you know what I'm talking about. I also just try to find scarves that are light colors and light materials which helps a lot.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M236XZ5/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_V2TM71H0HV3GGV5ZH2WH
There is a really really good translation by Ali Ünal that has extensive footnotes. It’s a little expensive but you can get it on Amazon.This is the link. if you want I can send you the pdf version
Salam,
I just want to throw a good book recommendation that looks at it from an academic's perspective (who also happens to be Muslim, so you know it won't be biased against Muslims). See link below:
https://www.amazon.com/Slavery-Islam-Jonathan-C-Brown/dp/1786076357
This is what I wear all the time to keep my holes open. They do not cause problems at all when sleeping or when wearing a hijab. They are not beautiful but I do like them. I only have one pair of earlobe piercing though so this may not be a good idea for a second set. I have basically been wearing them almost all of the time for around 4 years now.
Walaikum Salaam!
It’s not quite the same thing, but there are editions of the Quran designed for studying. Like the surahs themselves are accompanied by explanatory texts with context, translation notes, etc. The explanations are very in-depth and you could definitely spend a week or more studying each surah.
I hope what you are looking for specifically exists somewhere and another person can point you to it!
In every Asian household you'll see something called a Lota/Bodna which is very useful.
It looks something like this
Everyone's journey is different, when it comes to learning. Perhaps I'll explain some of my journey and you can see what's useful to you.
As a kid, I was taught the Alif Baa Taa Arabic alphabet but not what the words meant. Perhaps that feels familiar?
The first time I read in English, I had an English book and an Arabic Quran. I would read a few sentences in one language, and then the other. It took a little longer but gave a better feel for what was said and helped me to start picking up often repeated words here and there.
(I didn't know about Quran.com at the time, but that is a good suggestion. They have many translations. I like the Sahih International one. Apparently, It was written by three revert women from North America who studied in the Middle East. So the language is very accessible to modern English readers.)
After that, I found a PDF of a word-for-word translation. It helped me to pick up more words. After a few times through, I can now usually understand what is being said when I hear a recitation. Not perfectly, but getting there, InshaAllah.
I also found the Al Quran app. Android link. It has word-for-word and full sentence translations and also has a tafsir feature. Usually, I just read the translation or Arabic but, sometimes, you will come across a verse that seems confusing. That's when it's useful to have a tafsir on hand to add some context and explanation for the revelation.
So, I don't have too much advice re: depression as I think it is often something so personal and it takes time and effort to start to heal; however, I just wanted to share a book recommendation on dealing with PCOS. This book (plus a healthy eating overhaul) has been instrumental to my PCOS recovery. Note that it does take time but it is so worth it. I'm 6 months into it now and I feel so much healthier. https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/1626343012/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Sorry to hear of your Ms. What about wrap around ice packs for your body. https://www.amazon.com/Koo-Care-Flexible-Elastic-Straps-Therapy/dp/B01GWLOHIG/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=body+ice+packs&qid=1602285616&sr=8-5#immersive-view_1602285685786
Maybe that paired with thin fabrics like the other sister mentioned.
I bought this adhan alarm clock for a relatively good price and it isn’t an eyesore! It was a little time consuming to set up because I had to read the manual but easy to do. The volume plays really loudly which is amazing and there’s an option to silence it completely or adjust it to your liking. And it plays the adhan in full which I love. I’ve also completely missed salah before until I bought this because of not getting the notification on my phone and this way you can’t miss it if you’re at home! A really good purchase and I’d recommend it to anyone. Only downside is not being able to change the person calling the adhan, but I personally don’t mind at all if it reminds me to go pray 🤷🏻♀️
Edit: I just noticed it went up in price compared to when I bought it and it was just $20. May want to wait a bit for price to go down if you’re interested in purchasing
I just received this in the mail, it’s true to size and comfortable fabric and of course modest.
Bearsland Women’s Maternity Long Sleeve Soft Nursing Breastfeeding Dresses Pockets https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GNGSFMW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_W4DpFbER3H9N8
For hijab, I would maybe look outside the standard websites (unless there are sales). Perhaps just get some fabric in a lightweight material. Even a yard of fabric for example, can be cut to give you 2+ hijabs. Some of my hijabs are just scarves I purchased from Target.
As for the abaya, that'll be harder to get in the range you're looking for. For most of my life, I've just worn maxi dresses and then either had a shawl over the upper half of my body or a lightweight cardigan. This combination tends to be much more cost efficient than buying an abaya.
It's also easier to adjust for the season since you can put on a heavier cardigan or jacket in the cooler months. A good source for cheap but durable maxi dresses are shops like Dots, Discovery, Marshall's, etc.
I've also bought comfortable abayas from the following Amazon link:
Super durable, great quality, open front: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07CMQ7KMS
Casual, jersey knit, well made (I have both the red and the green): https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B078SRGWHM
Amazon has great option. Just search pull on hijabs.
Something like below will give her more coverage and it’s easy to put on.
Middle Eastern Mall Lycra Hijab 1 Piece Amira Easy Pull-on Instant Headscarf https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GCSTG27/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_kqiWEb66GVDWH
SAFIYA - Hijab instant scarf for muslim women https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MJYNCDC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_juiWEbDQ95C30
well he's a story about how america is "sorry" http://www.nbcnews.com/id/39456324/ns/health-sexual_health/t/us-apologizes-guatemala-std-experiments/#.XZV7DkZKhPY
but there's alot history about what america did to latin america. there was even instances of the govt hiring white supremacist paramilitary mercenaries CMA to fight in latin america
One recent book that was published is on how bananas led to the genocide of Guatemalans at the hands of people supported by the US govt and other violence in latin America
Bananas: How the United Fruit Company Shaped the World
edit: Sorry forgot to add links
I use these drawer organisers - fold and roll the hijabs to store. I don’t have as many hijabs as you yet because I’m new to wearing the hijab but if you have heaps you could use this and stack another one on top of your drawer is tall enough!
Learning arabic isn't the only way to learn about Islam. So many books are translated to english these days that you could learn endlessly and still have more to read. There are tons of great online courses, podcasts, and other resources that teach tons of great subjects. That said, learning arabic for me was a way to help motivate me and for me to get closer to the Quran, basically, it just worked for me.
> Arabic is really not taught where I live
If you still want to learn arabic then I would recommend buying one of the books off amazon and finding a sister you trust and ask her to go through the book with you (offer to pay her if you have the means). Learning at the masjid can often be ineffective because they may not be trained teachers. Just invite your tutor to your place, a library, their place, etc. Exams can be stressful, I totally get that so work through the book but at your own pace. If you're just starting out practice by reading 1 page of Quran everyday, even if it takes 10-20 minutes, I promise you'll speed up later.
I've used both of the books listed below, one at uni and one at community college. They both are really good and used extensively.
1) Al-Kitab
if you really can't afford them but are really interested I'd be willing to ship you a used one (or find a way to get you copy that you're comfortable with, like through the mods or something)
hope this helps and may Allah make your learning easy for you
I have a hanging drawer thing like https://www.amazon.com/SimpleHouseware-Shelves-Hanging-Closet-Organizer/dp/B01DJJ8HGM/ref=sr_1_31?s=storageorganization&ie=UTF8&qid=1520542821&sr=1-31&keywords=hanging+drawer
Each shelf carries scarves from the same color family. It lives in my kids bedroom ;)
I wear abaya and shela in my daily life so I usually hang the ironed matching (polyester) shela on the same hanger as the abaya. However, I do get tempted to investigate wearing scarves instead of shelas as I have very fine hair and the polyester shelas do a lot of slipping and sliding and I use an unfashionable number of (visible) pins to keep it in place!
I would say it depends on style you are going for to a degree. I would suggest Target or any Gap brands (Gap, banana republic, Old Navy, Athleta). Likely Old Navy will be the loosest fit. My wife is slowly getting clothes from there because it is decent quality and can have a good fit for her. It also depends on how tight is tight and how loose is loose enough.
Layering can also help, so if you have a long sleeve tee that may be on the tighter end, you could pair it up with a cardigan or something.
You could also wear button down shirts, that normally have a curved bottom back/front that will CYA (cover your assets). While they can be tucked in, and men normally do it for work (women as well), they can left untucked for a more casual style that covers more. Athleta even has a CYA section on their site.
My wife has a few button downs or blouse/style shirts, like this. Also some like knee-ish length dresses will have long sleeves and you can rock some tights or something under like this with tights under or something.
But yea, does sorta depend on the style goals. There are options, it just takes some time to find em I guess.
You could inquire on.... r/femalefashionadvice I guess too.
This! The Under Armor one is great and is very breathable. I just keep the part that goes over my face below my chin and drape a loose scarf over the same thing. Before that, I used to tie down my hair in a thin bandana and wrap a scarf around. That also worked pretty well.
Yes! I really recommend Yahya Emerick's The Meaning of the Qur'an in Today's English: Study Edition. http://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Holy-Quran-Todays-English/dp/1450549535/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1451188997&sr=8-2&keywords=yahya+emerick
Also, lectures by Nouman Ali Khan
I switch between two. When I want something thicker, I go for Cantu's shea butter leave in. It feels like it moisturizes my hair, helps it keep its curls, but doesn't feel gunky. If I want something lighter, I use my own concoction. I mix 3-4 pumps of MOA's conditioner with some warm water and argon oil into a little spray bottle. It leaves the most beautiful finish!
Etosell Women Full Cover Inner Hijab Cotton Caps Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00SH4T8HC/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_Fk55ub0GYT0QY
I wear these under a loose scarf. It gets windy where I live and it's nice to not worry about anything happening.