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Isn't this the same website that literally blamed male domestic violence victims for their own abuse? https://archive.is/T56WV
I guess that explains why so few men visit their site
I'll just note that pussy has 2 differing etymologies, in addition calling an "effeminate man" a pussy has been in english since around the late 1500's. It was also in the 18th century common as a term of endearment to women.
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?allowed_in_frame=0&search=pussy&searchmode=none
And dick's genital component is also fairly recent, and ironically comes from british army slang.
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=dick
I personally think people get a bit too much in arms over words. Take both dick and pussy as examples, they may be one word but contextually they have different meanings. There are LOTS of nouns in English that people aren't complaining about. I find it curious we're so focused on these two since they also describe body parts. Ceci n'est pas une pipe and all that.
/word etymology nerd out
Here's an archive link for those who don't want to give any clicks or ad revenue to "Dr. NerdLove." https://archive.is/5hApk
Edit: also, in the interest of making sure our fellow subscribers are well informed, here is the user metrics for doctornerdlove.com
http://www.alexa.com/siteinfo/doctornerdlove.com
Something things to note: his audience is overwhelmingly female, and visited by men at substantially below average rates.
Are you sure it's not the advent of zero tolerance policies, gender stereotyping, lower social capital, and access to grants?
Edit: TED talk on video games
This guy clearly has an agenda of his own. A sample of 93 men from a financial advisor in New Jersey is not a comprehensive study and is no more than anecdote lacking in acedemic rigor. It should also be noted that Chris Whalen (the CPA who's study is cited in the video) has published a book: Foxhole Father: The Field Guide for Fathers. Here how his book is described: > Men, you don't need to change your natural (masculine) way of processing information and emotions to be an excellent parent. Your innate masculine sensibilities are all you need. There is never a need to feminize yourself. Foxhole Father teaches men how to apply this to specific parenting situations.
Both Chris Whalen (who, self-admittedly has never served in the military) and the maker of this video clearly believe that masculinity is fine as it is and that men don't need to change. They seem to advocate that women pose a threat to the male way of life and that people pushing for equality are actually pushing to discriminate against men. These are ideas that I cannot and will not support.
Even the creator of the video admits he doesn't work in the corporate world, yet he feels confident enough to expound on it's decay due to (spooky) diversity efforts.
Here's a link to Chris Whalen's blogpost masquerading as a scientific study into why men leave corporate America. It even has a graph!
The other replies already addressed the perspiration issue, so I'll take a stab at the cologne one. The actual difference between expensive and cheap stuff is largely how long it will last and how much of the more distinct parts of the fragrance you'll smell. Here's an article explaining it. If you're not sure of what to get, I would check out some websites and go through their best sellers for product descriptions. Write down a few of them that sound good and head to a mall or department store that sells perfume. Try a few of the ones from your list and pick the one you like the most. Don't overdo it - less is more if you're buying decent stuff.
Well, it's not quite ready, but here it is anyway.
Is Child Circumcision Ethical?
I've been researching circumcision and foreskin restoration for almost a year, and been restoring for a few months. AMA.
> I guess that explains why so few men visit their site
Just for grins, I checked out The Art of Manliness too. The demographic differences are quite striking.
I saw this article recently which mentioned that it was only in limited release at 5 college campuses.
10-50K installs goes a lot farther when you scale it to a handful of locations.
According to the source even the control sample died in the same time frame. However there was still damage to the living sperm subjected to the wifi. In other words, the reporters drew conclusions that the scientists couldn't.
>Result(s)
Donor sperm samples, mostly normozoospermic, exposed ex vivo during 4 hours to a wireless internet-connected laptop showed a significant decrease in progressive sperm motility and an increase in sperm DNA fragmentation. Levels of dead sperm showed no significant differences between the two groups.
In general, and i'm assuming here, it comes from people who percieve the other side as being chauvinistic. Some women will fight against every slight against women, real or imagined, yet have no problem with men being treated poorly in various situations, sometimes going so far as to say that they "deserve it." These women often call themselves Feminists.
Some men behave similarly, and if they give themselves any label, they call themselves MRA's.
In both cases, the more rational (or contrarily irrational) people look at these poor behaviors and occasionally throw out the baby with the bathwater.
It's very sad, given that if you look at it, we really are allies in this whole thing, as Tony Porter explains quite poignantly.
Related TED Talk
This is a great talk, can't wait to watch the rest of them, I've always grown up around people who considered me to be "not a real man" because I've been "weak" or "sensitive"
Some of the statistics in this video may be skewed though, I've heard otherwise from other subreddits. Especially given the very nature of this talk, I'd go as far as to say a number of domestic violence cases against men go unreported because the man has to be "tough" and deal with it.
Check out their "info" page.
> Description: Grammar Nazis are not wanted!
That made me laugh.
This article is designed for women, but it has a lot of good tips.
I'm not sure why discovery health cares about hair, but this one makes sense too.
My biggest tip is regular trims. I have a bad habit of putting mine off, but then once I do get a trim, I'm amazed at how much of a difference it makes in how my hair falls and looks.
You should read The Game by Neil Strauss, it talks a lot about the PUA community. Some of the ideologies in there are generally considered twisted and immoral, so take everything in there with a grain of salt. After all, it's a book about life with pick-up artists, not a self-help book or anything of the sort. The red pill ideologies (at least as expressed on the sub) coincide a lot with the more extreme stuff in the book so you should have some idea of where they come from.
As to what's an acceptable level of defence of XY rights, I don't think that question is related to the red pill. Redpill ideology is pretty self-centered, it focuses on an individual going through a transformation without respect to other persons. Less extreme PUA ideologies might provide some food for thought, but I don't think any of them would be considered part of the red pill. In any case, you might want to read Models by Mark Manson or No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. They talk a lot about claiming what you deserve as a person in your relationships with others, without advocating anything blatantly immoral. Especially the latter might help you understand where some people began a transformation that caused them to overcompensate and end up in the extreme ideologies concerning women.
> male sexuality was a danger I needed to protect myself from.
This, but not just male sexuality, I think all sexuality is made into a monster which children and teens must be protected from, including their own. See Dilemmas of Desire by Deborah L Tolman (read on Google Books).
The stories of 'sluts', 'temptresses' and and other women who are sexual, and therefore not 'good' is as big a part of it IMO.
It really depends on what sort of food he likes. I guess Italian is pretty easy; you could go with a standard like spaghetti and meat balls. It's really hard to mess up. If you're feeling confident, give something like baked ziti or lasagna a try. They are definitely comfort foods.
Another good thing to consider is what YOU'RE good at cooking. Personally, I like to cook nice tuna steaks for my SO. They're fast and really easy, you just have to keep an eye on them. Do you have anything that you're particularly good at making? A specialty is always nice, as you'll have some confidence in it.
I've always had good luck with All Recipes, if you just want to pick something at random.
As for other things for the night. Videogames and sex are always fun. I also really like to play nice music and hang out together while cooking. Get him in the kitchen with you (but don't force him to help unless he wants to) and just chat. Play some nice jazz, classical or something else that blends into the background nicely.
The main thing to remember is to make it fun. Don't stress out, if you burn something just laugh about it. It's more about the experience than it is about the food and, if he's a decent guy, he'll just be happy you tried to make something for him.
Good luck!
This article is pretty awfully glib about the whole thing, and anyone who's thinking about things reasonably would agree it's terrible. That observation ain't red pill at all.
It would maybe be a bit red pilly if you tried to misrepresent this magazine as if it were representative of some really significant portion of culture, or if you were overstating the popularity or prominence of this publication, along the way to some argument about how violence against men is just a big joke to feminists.
http://www.alexa.com/siteinfo/elitereaders.com
Elitereaders.com is a relatively unknown clickbait tabloid site, which apparently gets more traffic from the Phillipines than it does from the US. They're saying pretty gross stuff, but they're saying it to a pretty small audience, composed(i'm gonna say) mainly of people whose opinions aren't very influential. I'm gonna try and keep some perspective and serenity about that.
More mainstream news outlets have covered this story in a somewhat more neutral manner: http://www.people.com/article/women-chops-husband-penis-off-twice
If everybody listened to the DSM and used it in the way you're doing so here, we would all be under strict psychiatric supervision. The DSM is culturally western (published by the American Psychiatric Association - Americans are really fucked up about sex and gender) and we are repressed as hell. All sex stuff that isn't on the straight and narrow is considered "abnormal", but even the DSM is changing its views on gender identity. (I'm a psychology grad student.)
Ugh, I've read this whole thread and I just want to hug you.
Check out Genderfork. And watch RuPaul's Drag Race. Lots of it.
You are NOT alone. I'm overweight and desperate to look androgynous too because I identify as non-binary and I want to be able to slip into masculine and feminine presentations with equal ease. I used to get upset when I looked at people like Rain Dove and Samira Wiley, wishing that was me and then I realized that there's NOTHING stopping me from changing my body except my mindset. There are plenty of places to find help and community, even on Reddit. Join r/loseit, download MFP, and learn to cook (that will also make future partners super happy). Do some nerdy HIIT everyday.
You can make a change. I believe in you.
rookie. I use a stic welder I handcrafted from a series of chopped up microwave ovens. the instructions there use two, which'll give you the basic idea. My current model has 49 transformers.
And be clear you're NOT saying she isn't the right match for him -- just that it's a little too soon for them to be that serious. That DOESN'T mean they have to see other people, or completely abandon the idea of marriage.
An important question is this: Have they lived together for at least 2 years?? If not, then I would at LEAST suggest they live together for one full year before getting married (and two years would be better).
They can and should combine households, and even put each other's names on each other's checking accounts if they like (I've done this twice before somewhat early on, in what I hoped and expected would be LTR's that would lead to marriage -- and the 2nd one did).
In short, IMHO, they should seriously live as if they were married for a while, before they actually get married.
I know, LOTS of people don't do this. I do think it's best, particularly for people under 25.
Number 3 is the issue. What's the point of any of this if you aren't having fun? The goal of a relationship isn't to be able to check off a box, but to find someone you can have fun with.
If you aren't at the point where you can have with other people, you should reassess how you view yourself. If you don't think you're fun, cool, or a catch, why should anyone else?
Also: Models by Mark Manson. Read it.
People from r/seduction try to explain this (I like to say it is How To Win Friends and Influence People with a attraction and ocnfiendence twist) people like you read it and say this and still they refuse to listen and dream up some mad caricature they've heard from someone else.
Also your other point is anther great one people fail to appreciate.
By saying men just manipulate women into sex don't care about them for anything else (I don't actually mind this I and other both male and female have had sex with people they have no other interest in) etc is actually a bit sexist.
It completely ignores female agency and the idea that as you say women enjoy sex and want to have sex. You can't seduce a woman unless she wants to be seduced etc.
Alternatively The Art of Deception is a good read and so is The Art of War. Get him to read both and he will be unstoppable. Especially for an immature 21 year old. I say we give him both and then just watch and see what happens.
Yeah, TED is short by design, though, and certainly some talks are more resounding than others.
I think you'll find this to be one a bit more complete, universal and satisfying.
> share some of your father's advice?
I can't remember specifics right now, just whenever I was butting heads with somebody at work or something. Years ago.
> Any other ideas that ring true in your life
Take care of your body so you don't turn into an old man before your time. Watch your diet, lift with your legs not your back, brush your teeth, don't smoke, stay out of the sun, turn the volume down, get some exercise.
Since most men will spend the majority of their adult lives working to make money, it matters what you do with it. Read this, not for any specific investment advice, but to understand how being unhappy in your job can make you blow money to feel happy, which can trap you in debt and keep you working longer.
- I'm glad you're going ahead with this. You're going to have a ton of fun.
- I met Sailor Bubba at Anime Central back in the day. He was awesome -- and manly.
- I'm surprised no one has explicitly stated here that doing crazy, potentially-embarrassing stuff to impress a woman is a longstanding manly tradition. You'll be great!
I was thinking to use Craigslist to find girls who just want hook-ups. I'm sure 90% of those ads are fake, but from what I hear, the site works wonders.
But in your best-case-scenario life, you meet a cute girl doing something you both enjoy. And don't give up on dating sites: at least you know what all the girls there are looking for.
Some time back I used the county to county data to analyze Friend of the Court child custody recommendations in Michigan:
https://www.scribd.com/doc/6169001/Analysis-of-Friend-of-the-Court-Custody-Recommendations
Basically, on a county by county basis, they're all over the place. If you measure by race, assuming everyone of every race is treated equally in each county (haha), there are sharp disparities, with African American fathers about 3/5s as likely as White non Hispanic fathers to get custody of their children.
What I also didn't mention, but what is evident to someone aware of political geography, father custody appears to be associated with more Republican counties, and mother custody with more Democratic counties.
Ah crap. I told a R-Joke. 9,421 readers here in OneY * 1 / 20 = 471.05 rapists who will read my joke. That means I am now responsible for the 471.05 OneYers going out over the next 24 hours and the terrible abuse they commit.
Oh the horror.
...either that or I have solved the world energy crisis. By attaching a short skirt to a rape joke, the author of that article and her supporters will be spinning in circles trying to claim that it is both responsible and not responsible at the same time.
Sorry for the days-old reply, but I remember learning in a first year psychology course that there is evidence that a circumcised male has a lower pain threshold/stronger pain response. It's difficult to find a non-biased non-academic source, so here's a scientific article
As far as effect on older males, the following article says >A total of 123 men were circumcised as adults. Indications for circumcision included phimosis in 64% of cases, balanitis in 17%, condyloma in 10%, redundant foreskin in 9% and elective in 7%. The response rate was 44% among potential responders. Mean age of responders was 42 years at circumcision and 46 years at survey. Adult circumcision appears to result in worsened erectile function (p = 0.01), decreased penile sensitivity (p = 0.08), no change in sexual activity (p = 0.22) and improved satisfaction (p = 0.04). Of the men 50% reported benefits and 38% reported harm. Overall, 62% of men were satisfied with having been circumcised.
There may be some kind of bias since many of the men elected for circumcision due to medical problems.
Have you looked at all appropriate legislation at both federal and state level? I did a quick search at thomas.gov and there was nothing about spousal consent. This site (eHow I know, not the most reliable source): http://www.ehow.com/about_5847677_vasectomy-laws.html is saying that as of Jan 2010 no states require marital consent.
This really is an issue of the Doctor's own policies. As others have mentioned, try a new doctor. Since there's no law requiring marital consent, there probably isn't a law forbidding it as well.
Whenever I feel a little down, or in a slump, or in a sticky situation, I alway return to reading this book:
A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy*.
It always resets my outlook on life, reminds me that we're just hairless cavemen, apes who have their fight/flight response triggered by stupid, inane situations in daily life (managers, car accidents, sports games, dating, etc), and that ultimately it just doesn't matter. It puts me in my place in the universe and reminds me to appreciate the little things in life, like the fact that I can communicate with people in similar situations half-way around the world by moving my fingers a little.
/r/stoicism can give you access to similar material, but I find that book provides a very clear-cut and easy-to-follow outline of the philosophy.
*=affiliate link
I've gone through a lot of that myself. This is one of the best, most accurate and concise quotes on love that I've come across:
> “Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her.”
> ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
You're trying to put your finger on love as if it's something that can be quantified. "Do I really love her? Do I love her enough?" You're trying to conjure up a feeling to settle that question. Well, you're not going to find it that way. Love is something that you do and have done to you. Sometimes the feeling is there, sometimes it's not, but you've chosen each other and you can choose to stay together and if you stay, just make sure you keeping loving each other. If you think of love as some cosmic glue that's going to keep you together, you're setting yourself up for failure, because love is more like a screw that you keep having to turn to keep two pieces of wood together.
Thomas' Calculus 12th Edition by George Thomas
Elementary Statistics by Mario Triola
Trade paperbacks of Vertigo's take on The Losers
Shadowrun, 4th Edition
Recently finished:
GURPS: BioTech (bathroom book)
Runner's Companion (a friend of mine keeps promising he'll run a game)
Planning to start reading again, and finish this time: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.
I used to when waiting for fares as a taxi driver. After my dispatcher dropped dead one night, I never picked it back up.
Some notes, a few forms of ID incl. drivers license, loose change, debit card, taxi business cards, and one of those multi-tool "wallet ninja" stamped steel things. It was less than £1 (~$1.50) and was surprisingly worth it, mainly for the bottle opener and saw blade.
None of this is happening in a vacuum, and actions have reactions. You're behind the curve. There's already a book about it. http://www.amazon.com/Men-Strike-Boycotting-Marriage-Fatherhood/dp/1594037620
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=wail%20on
EDIT: I guess you could wail on them after you wail on them, if you really regret it.
She's your lover, not your therapist. Read The Way of the Superior Man: https://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Challenges-Anniversary/dp/1622038320/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=way+of+the+superior+man&qid=1645424999&sprefix=way+of+the+sup%2Caps%2C66&sr=8-1
If you're making Italian food, stuffed mushrooms would make an awesome side. They're super easy to make and very tasty. Plus, they would fit well into a romantic dinner.
>So do we have to drop everything and come to the defence of damsels in distress, or can we acknowledge that assholes will be assholes to anyone all the time every day, so we might as well just move on?
I do this thing where I feel that abusing people is bad regardless of their gender, and disapprove of it strongly wherever I encounter it. In fact, I wrote a comment on that in this subreddit recently.
Some sort of vigorous exercise at least 3x/week. A real, shirt-drenched-in-sweat workout. Ideally some flexibility work that often as well, although I get lazy about it. If neither of those include a meditative/mindfulness component, then that, too (my mind chatters too much for sitting meditation, so recently it's been archery).
I use a moisturizer I make myself from coconut oil, shea butter, glycerine, water and fragrance, but Gold Bond Ultimate is cheap and good. I only use it when the relative humidity is actually low or I can feel my skin is dry. Aftershave I just pick by scent.
As mentioned, hydration is essential. Good nutrition is also important- you cut out bad shit when you're dieting, but make sure you're getting enough of all the good shit. cronometer.com is a diet tracker that shows your nutrient intake. I don't use it daily, but check in regularly.
I guess the through-line here is that the best way to look healthy is to actually be healthy.
I bring a bottle of Glenlivet & gin & tonic for my booze hound sisters. If you can find a bottle of pure cranberry or raspberry wine I highly recommend it; not that crummy grape blends. They are more like nice after dinner dessert wines to be slowly sipped in very small quantities.
I'm also thinking about making a cranberry cake loaf.
Buy some shirt-stays. They are elastic bands with a clip on both ends. One end clips to the shirt, and the other end clips to your socks. Other styles connect to a strap around your thigh. I used these for my many years n the military.
This will keep your shirt tucked in and your socks up, a double win.
If your boxers are bunching then they might be too baggy, and/or your pants too tight. Try boxer-briefs or midway-briefs for a while. Those are the ones that are snug fit, kinda like spandex, with an extra pouch in the front.
I'm waiting for either that evidence or an apology.
I may have said something like this (I've said it before):
>Hitler did make some civil achievements (like the autobahn) but that in no way makes up for the indescribably horrific treatment he dealt to the Jews.
Saying that is not sympathizing with Hitler. It's recognizing that even the most horrific of imaginable monsters can bribe you into putting up with them if they offer some benefit. To sharpen that point, I'll remind you that Hitler was elected to office by (albeit very probably corrupt) popular vote.
for instance, there's the saying about Mussolini
>Italian dictator Benito Mussolini made the trains run on time.
I'm waiting for either that evidence or an apology.
I may have said something like this (I've said it before):
>Hitler did make some civil achievements (like the autobahn) but that in no way makes up for the indescribably horrific treatment he dealt to the Jews.
Saying that is not sympathizing with Hitler. It's recognizing that even the most horrific of imaginable monsters can bribe you into putting up with them if they offer some benefit. To sharpen that point, I'll remind you that Hitler was elected to office by (albeit very probably corrupt) popular vote.
for instance, there's the saying about Mussolini
>Italian dictator Benito Mussolini made the trains run on time.
I can see that there is some communication barrier here. I will just leave you with the evidence and allow you to make up your own mind about this (as I am still trying to do):
http://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(07)60312-2/fulltext#article_upsell
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0140673607603134
Sorry, you will have to c/p the first link.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Unspeakable-Mutilations-Circumcised-Men-Speak-ebook/dp/B00L5FPF2C
The book is currently £2.11 on kindle, or free with kindle unlimited. 4.5/5 rating
The Hobbit, first time. Just finished Time Travelers Never Die, which was actually quite good. I was happy when the first self-interacting loop occurred (correctly).
One could argue that the phrase does not have gender specific connotations because the original context is not based around the "masculine" man, but the "human" man: https://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/05/magazine/05FOB-onlanguage-t.html?_r=1
Nobody told me that when I turned 30 I would have to start shaving my ears or look like a half transformed werewolf.
I could have used some warning.
Get a trimmer:
I haven't read any of the five that made the list, but I absolutely recommend Fight Club and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. They're both very good for anyone - man or woman - to read.
Models by Mark Manson is (in my opinion) the definitive book on the new school PUA community. Most of the book focuses on improving yourself, with only the end 1/3 on logistics, dating, etc.
Anyone who has negative ideas about the PUA community should read it before they get up in arms about it.
Physical training is good, but more important is mental training. I highly recommend looking to Buddhist inspired meditation practices. "Search Inside Yourself" is based on a class at Google and came out recently. It also deals with emotional intelligence. I have a lot more to say but if you look into this subject you'll figure it all out yourself.
Fitting for this subreddit (which I have just discovered!) I am reading The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt and am finding it incredibly inspirational. He was an unquestionably admirable man with great gumption and integrity.
Neither.
Do yourself a favor and buy a pair of these, then tell me if they aren't the most comfortable underwear ever.
https://www.amazon.com/MJ-Soffe-Mens-Running-Short/dp/B003AU5W1O?th=1
Bonus - they get better the more you wear and wash them.
Well, your mind doesn't exist until it experiences thought, so you can retrain those desires by allowing certain thoughts to thrive and debunking the ones that make you unhappy. That is the basis of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. If you are interested, this is a very good introduction to that technique.
I have Ex Officios for when I go hiking and/or traveling. But these are like wearing a cloud; super soft and barely feel they're there. Great support too!
I really loved Iron John by Robert Bly. It's a book that tries get at old wisdom of what it means to be man through myths and mythology.
My therapist from a few years ago, who was a woman, gave it to me.
It's hard to put it into words what it's about as the book is mostly allegory and metaphor. But I still recommend it.
this post's is literally a feminist doing exactly what you want.
I mean seriously "a young feminists compassionate view of men" is the title. this isn't even something that is all that rare.
oh and you might enjoy this book
This book delves a lot into cultural symbolism, so the abstract nature of it may be a barrier for some men.
However, this one book did more for me about getting in deep, deep touch with what it means to be a man than all other materials I've read on the subject. (Not dramatizing; that's factual.)
https://www.amazon.com/Iron-John-Book-About-Men/dp/0306813769
Shyness: A Bold New Approach is absolutely sensational. A+ recommendation.
Sales is relative to this. If you're young and you've no job or have a part-time job, try searching for something in sales. It'll pull you directly out of your comfort zone. Though it's relative, it's more like a third cousin reattached. Regardless, it's a training of sorts that assists in developing an affinity with strangers. This, to me, assists in conquering shyness. Car sales works best, but big-box retail (Lowes, Home Depot, which are more target oriented as opposed to Walmart, Target, et cetera work best).
As for what else helped me? I keep a picture of Biggie Smalls in my wallet. Have you seen Faith Evans or Kimberly Jones (AKA Lil Kim?)
My God. That man was motivation.
The only reason why I asked about the blood sugar is because my Fasting Glucose always came back normal but my GP randomly threw on a A1C test when I first asked for a T level test and it was 6.0 (pre-diabetic) which was surprising for me since I have always been generally healhty and in shape. At this time I was about 20-25 pounds overweight but I wouldnt think thats enough to trigger pre-diabetes. I have kept my sugar inline ever since. A1C is always below 6. It may be unrelated to the while T issue stuff but im keeping an eye on how my glucose reacts if my T levels go back to normal.
I do highly encourage you to get back into working out. If you can go for strength training and lift weights and minimize cardio and go on a low carb high protein diet go for it. Great Guide for Strength Training
Also recommend Beach Body Products like P90X and Body Beast.
Il def keep you informed. Il go for some more blood work probably around the end of December or early Jan as these things take time I suppose. Feel free to PM me as well im on reddit often.
Hey, you might find value in this book: Running on Empty, the author also did a podcast episode recently so you can get an idea of what the book is about by listening to it. I also highly recommend therapy so you have a safe place to explore these things without having to worry about the other person.
>It all gets VERY confusing on the outside...
I don't think the sources you're getting your information from help, if your posting history is any indication. Mensrights, kotaku- and tumblrinaction are all basically crank communities when it comes to feminism. You might as well browse creationist sites for information on evolution.
> And they're all part of Feminism as a political entity... >
Feminism isn't monolithic, but mainstream feminism isn't trans exclusionary or female supremacist. You can find cooks in any movement as large as feminism.
>A good title for you guys to look at is Why Britain Hates Men - Swayne O'Pye is a dissident former feminist... Shows the effects...
I've already read Farrell's work and lots of online articles etcetera, I doubt there'll be any new arguments: If they were any good, they'd probably be mainstream.
If you want a recommendation, Michael Kimmel is an excellent male feminist and professor of male studies who's written several books on men from a feminist point of view: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Kimmel He's also written at least one introductory book on feminism for a male audience, the Guy's guide to feminism: http://www.amazon.com/Guys-Guide-Feminism-Michael-Kaufman/dp/1580053629
Pizzey was there at the start in 1971 - set up the first DV shelters in Chiswick. http://www.amazon.co.uk/This-Way-Revolution-A-Memoir/dp/0720613604 She was subject to letterbombs etc...
Are Marilyn french, Andrea Dworkin and Cath Mackinnon viewed as part of Feminism nowadays? Cos they were when all this was pushed in...
As a member of the general public - all i would have to go on was the public face.
It would appear that Steinem feminism has an issue with me existing - but Sommers feminism hasn't. They were both protesting int he 60s...
There are far more cities with paramilitary police units than cities with riots. It's a function of the drug war and civil asset forfeiture.
Balko's Rise of the Warrior Cop is a good overview.
I highly recommend 30 Lessons for Living by Karl Pillemer. It helped me a lot when I was thinking about similar types of questions.
Here is a .pdf of a summary, barely more than a table of contents but it gives you an idea of what is in the book.
If you aren't already reading Feeling Good: the New Mood Therapy, it is the bible of cognitive-behavioral therapy, the most common and maybe most effective therapy for the broadest range of psychological ills. It's what many therapists will give you on day 1, and get you to work through as you go through therapy. It's worth it's weight in gold.
The basis is that your thoughts determine your emotions. The things you tell yourself constantly (most of which you don't even notice), lead to the way you feel. And unhealthy attitudes come from distorted thinking. So there are about 12 common ways people bend the truth when they think, or talk to themselves in their minds. If you analyze the things you are telling yourself, and diligently seek out any of those cognitive distortions and correct them, and do that for long enough, you will change your deep-seated beliefs, and your emotions will follow. It really works well, if you really do it and do it right. You can't cut corners.
There are a lot of little tricks in there for all kinds of problems in life - conquering procrastination, self-esteem, and relationship issues. That last one was extremely helpful to me.
I tried a bunch and settled on these. The low rise ones fit better for me and seem to ride up less. I adjusted to them from boxers right away, and they look great.
I am married and settled now, but when I was young, this (sex with strangers) happened. I was picked up in a bookstore one day because i was shopping out of the back of Danse Macabre. I am male. It was a good day.
I admire your abuse of the English language.
If you don't like being a hairy monster, I don't have any issue with you doing something about it. This is a perfectly reasonable tool to use.
I really like Ted Baker boxer briefs.
I also really like the Calvin Klein slim fit boxers. They are nowhere near as baggy as regular boxers, don't ride up when you put your trousers on and they fit almost as well as boxer briefs without hugging the skin.
I don't like the Calvin Klein boxer briefs, they tend to chafe.
Here's a couple of links
The Ted Baker stuff is kind of expensive for men's underwear but it goes on sale at Nordstrom's for $9-$13 a pair.
Well, I'd recommend reading this book, for starters. The pharmaceutical industry is out of control. You might have been scammed.
Best shaver ever is the Panasonic ES-LA93-K. I bought this in Afghanistan and it has served me well ever since. The battery lasts two weeks, it is a wet/dry razor, has a built-in cleaning mode as well as a cleaning base and the wall charger can be used either in the base or directly in the razor itself. This is a razor that you can use in your bathroom (or shower) at home and just as easily throw in your carry on bag for a trip to wherever you need to go. One thing that I have found to work very well is get in the shower, lather up with facial wash and then shave, cleaning out the razor under the shower head upon completion. This razor times your shave, has replaceable blades and charges quickly.
There is more to say about this razor, but you can just read it here:
http://www.amazon.com/Panasonic-ES-LA93-K-Multi-Flex-Dual-Motor-Rechargeable/dp/B002N5MHLK
Totally get something like THIS.
My dad always had leather coin holders like this, and I thought they were kinda dorky when I was a kid -- but I've used one for the last 10+ years, and love it. I get a surprising number of positive comments about it too.
This. Read the reviews, they don't lie. It does everything, without razor burn or itching.
I have a goal for each week to read one book, at least, that's not for my course.
This week I've just finished Flirting with Danger and I've also started The New Machiavelli, which I got by chance (as the only Wells work I know is The Time Machine) because at my Uni every Thursday there are tons of books that go for £1 each.
>"heterophobic" (god, that word is laughable)
Its a feminist coined word.
Heterophobia: Sexual Harassment and the Future of Feminism (American Intellectual Culture)
http://www.amazon.com/Heterophobia-Harassment-Feminism-American-Intellectual/dp/0847689883
>Also could you please explain to me how I'm imposing anything upon anyone?
You imposed a hateful caricature of heterosexual masculinity on the OP.
>Twisted his words?
Yep, he never said average men have no feelings as you are claiming.
I use this one now, used the older model for a while. Good battery life, easy to clean, easy to charge, cuts well.
If you really enjoy going down on girls, as I do, I highly recommend picking up this book, She Comes First. It taught me a ton about women's sexuality and what makes a damn fine lover particularly with regards to oral.
Get this. Shave random hair patches every week or so. Live a happy and successful life.
First, go out and buy a bottle of really good non-stinging aftershave. I like this stuff. You'll also need an electric razor, a mirror, shaving cream, and some razors, I prefer Old Spice disposables which are cheap and good.
Use an electric razor to get rid of almost all your hair, as short as it will go. Now, FEEL the stubble of your head and note which way the grain runs (Very important).
Lather up with LOTS of Shaving Cream. For your first time I recommend shaving WITH the grain, and go SLOWLY. Later, you can shave against the grain.
Clean off, and shower but use water much less hot than normal- your scalp will be sensitive, especially if you made any nicks.
Get a hat, you will be amazed how much cooler your head feels.
Decide on your shaving schedule, I like everyday, but you can do it on even days, or every day divisible by 3, etc.
Now go out and rock that confident new look!
Seconding terrycarlin's idea for a knife/tool of some sort - I've been stalking this knife on Amazon for a while. It looks badass, and is exactly $30.
I use a Wahl Peanut and it's great. Beard trimmers that plug in instead of having rechargeable batteries are much better, so much more power. I don't really see the point of the rechargeable ones, there is always an outlet in the bathroom, I don't need to wander around while trimming my beard.
probably depression. People think of depression as "feeling sad" but its really frequently more like "not feeling anything at all".
Also see http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Talk-About-Overcoming/dp/0684835398
Politically successful, yes. That's why I said popularly successful.
I don't think we're going to see a female president until the US public gets over its view of women.
Ever read Macho Presidential Style? It essentially argues that the American public wants a president who appears strong and has "macho" sensibilities. It tends to spark discussions about what it would take for a woman to gain the popularity of a man in the presidential race, and I had no idea until I saw the fervor over Palin. And then I began to think, "Maybe a woman president will have to be a femme fatale..."
Who knows. All I know is that a lot of people seemed to complain about Clinton in the early race, and the complaints pretty much amounted to "she reminds me of my mother."
Zeasorb-AF. Just dab a bit on your balls and they'll stay dry. It's basically antifungal baby powder, so it'll also keep your balls fresh and less smelly at the end of the day. It's just as good as gold bond and has no sting when you use it.
Have you considered buying him a book on mathematics? I know they can be expensive but there are some interesting ones out there.
For example, the bible of the mathematics.
If he is having problems with razor bumps, I'd recommend Bump Stopper cream. I used to get bad razor bumps (still do), but this stuff has worked wonders.
I used to carry around a coin container. I don't think it's referred to as a coin purse because google turns up nothing like it. Basically it was a football-shaped piece of rubber with a slit down the middle. If you squeezed it length wize it opened up and you could get your coins out. The closest I can find is this thing, which might be better, certainly looks nicer.
Warren Ellis' Crooked Little Vein is pretty damn good. I recommend it to anyone who's into cracked out mysteries and detective stories.
Horseradish spread, spicy mustard, peppered turkey, ham (less ham than peppered turkey), lettuce (spinach works great), slice or two of tomato, on sourdough.
Simple ass sandwich I made once because that's all I had, so damned good.
This book of mythology ties primal emotions and archetypes to the way men experience life today. It reveals layers to a man's soul.
Huh, tricky question. The advantage to a Mach 3 (and other razors of that ilk) is that the multiple blades essentially do multiple passes with each stroke, so they might actually get closer than a safety razor would if you're only going past once or twice. The downside to all the blades is that they get blocked incredibly easily because they're so close together.
Have you tried something else, like Magic Powder, which is a powder that you mix into a paste and apply to the face to kill the hair? It was designed to stop black men from getting razor bumps, but is apparently pretty good even on sensitive skin.