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The Art of the Hook-Up: Your Ethical Guide to a Successful Sex Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07SZCH4V2/

Disclaimer: it was written by a friend of mine, so I'm not unbiased �� but it was written to deliberately counter the shitty PUA one-size-fits-all advice that we see so much of, and actually gives some practical skills.

Awkward questions first: Do any of these apply to you?

• painful intercourse (dyspareunia), with tightness and pain that may be burning or stinging
  penetration being difficult or impossible
• long-term sexual pain with or without a known cause
• pain during tampon insertion
• pain during a gynecological examination
• generalized muscle spasm or breathing cessation during attempted intercourse

If so do some reading on vaginismus. My SO silently suffered from those types of issues for a long time until we addressed the underlying problems. She also didn't like sex at all in the beginning but has grown to the point where she initiates sex.

With that out of the way, there's nothing wrong with some good oral and manual stimulation as long as everyone leaves satisfied. pick up some lube for better hand jobs. Also if you don't have one pick up a clit vibrator for yourself. This is the one my SO loves.

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Every once in a while, I have experienced an intense beater's remorse immediately following orgasm, though yours doesn't seem to be quite the same, as it doesn't sound like it's masturbation induced.

I can only think of two things: 1) I believe this is not uncommon for rape victims to experience, or 2) I have heard of people suffering from depression going through similar experiences, though not all necessarily sexually related.

I would strongly encourage a quick trip to your doctor and see if they have any ideas.

Once they're implanted you can feel them vibrate when they come into contact with an electromagnetic field. So for example, if your finger gets close enough to a live wire, you can feel it. If you get close to the power supply on your phone or computer or such, you'll feel it. It's essentially implanting a psuedo sixth sense. Outside of just being really neat, it's something that fits very much into my love of transhumanism, which is the source of a lot of my interest in body modification in the first place.

You can pick up things with them, but a coin is unlikely. The magnet isn't going to be strong enough to do that, but picking up paperclips, bottle caps, and screws (also very practical in that case) are all possible if you get a strong enough magnet.

Here is a gawker article on it. I'd link a couple of others, but I think this one has a little less geeked out bias involved. Though keep in mind the strength of the magnets being used nowdays is a bit stronger than the one this guy got implanted and they should last a bit longer before losing strength. Either way, the type of folks who would be interested in getting this done in the first place, are unlikely to mind having to get it removed and re-implanted every few years if they want to keep it.

Edit: Oh, and as I'm sure you can tell from the article, they don't show. They are a subdermal implant.

There are tons of good adult visual novels, if you're willing to call them "games." The most popular English-native one is probably Katawa Shoujo. I think most reviewers agree that it's very well-written and surprisingly tasteful.

You sound like a fairly typical person, truly.

If you read and want to explore and think through how you feel about expressing yourself, this is a really lovely self introspection and communication book. It will likely help you think through the disconnect as well.

https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

this set of bikini trimming razors on Amazon is <em>incredible</em> for this! I was expecting a larger, typical razor sized head but they’re so small I wasn’t sure it would work, but oh boy did it. I was left so smooth and not super irritated like with others I’ve tried!

Best quote of the whole article: From Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends and Influence People: Principle #6 –Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

Interesting article, but it would have been nice to be warned that it was paid advertising from the get-go. The Pure app has nearly 4000 1star reviews.

Chin strap ons! This is just an example, no idea if it's good or not, but might help you find one that's awesome: https://www.amazon.com/Accomodator-Oral-Strap-Chin-Dildo/dp/B00IF2SYHQ

This way, she gets to lick you as she fucks you! I would also HIGHLY recommend y'all try fisting, it's what we sapphic leaning women have been doing for millennia and if you typically orgasm from penetration, it can be pretty goddamned satisfying!

I'm incredibly sorry that your fiance was gaslit by the medical community like that for so long. I would recommend the book The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability. so understand what's possible after a big diagnosis.

It's a very inclusive book, written by a medical doctor, a sex educator, and a disability activist.

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and

Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski.

I haven't read it, but my sex coaching curriculum included Great Sex by Michael Castlemen as a guide for straight men.

Pipedream Fetish Fantasy Series Vibrating Double Delight Strap-On, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00C2H0L9E/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_2BBTR83KM6WEBN8Y2TBW

Highly recommend^ although it does not provide direct stimulation to the clit, has powerful vibration with independent controls.

This is a good summary of the issues:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/expert-answers/antidepressants/faq-20058104

> Antidepressants with the lowest rate of sexual side effects include: > > * Bupropion (Wellbutrin XL, Wellbutrin SR, Aplenzin, Forfivo XL) > * Mirtazapine (Remeron) > * Vilazodone (Viibryd) > * Vortioxetine (Trintellix)

Another option, more of a bandaid than a real fix, is to go on Viagra / Cialis. There's growing evidence that these meds work on women as well.

Really, none at all? Why don't you take two seconds to Google before you go shooting your mouth off, OK?

Does science frighten you or something?

So I recently figured I enjoyed strong g spot stimulation, I find this has strong stimulation https://www.paloqueth.com/collections/vibrator/products/waterproof-vibrator-g-spot-vibrator and so does the and so does the
jopen vanity vs4.5 which is now difficult to find this link is not available but you can see it https://www.amazon.com/Jopen-Vanity-Rechargeable-Purple-Vibrator/dp/B01D2HO6L6/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

Commented on my own comment. To be serious I bought this product and it helped my wife squirt. We have also bought a Hitachi magic wand which has also worked.

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It's about Christian sex-shaming, but you might find that you resonate with the author of Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free.

I am definitely a gusher with the right stimulation, and these little waterproof blankets saved my world. It’s easy to just put one down and toss it in the wash if you end up gushing.

And my sweet love, please do not be embarrassed or ashamed about how your good body expresses it’s arousal. I totally understand the fear of making a mess, but you gushing is sooooo sexy!

I can see your point, and there may be different ways how to approach/interpret your situation.

Here is a book you might find useful, I sure did His Porn, Her Pain, Confronting America’s PornPanic with Honest Talk about Sex by Marty Klein

I'm assuming gender and sexuality orientation here but you might appreciate She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Haven't read it myself, but my husband read it before I met him. He swears by it, and I can...attest to the results.

As you mention your good chemistry and emotional attachment, while having sexual performance issues, this came to my mind immediately:

&quot;Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships&quot; by David Schnarch

I strongly recommend to actually read it through, as it can provide an unique introspective experience, and may actually help you to solve the aforementioned issues, as well as those yet to come.

The best thing is that your age is the start slow. There's a dilator kit that can get on Amazon.com

Everybody's built a bit different.

MYAID Femmax Vaginal Dilators/Trainers (Pink) - Set of 4 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EUZYON0/

Taking a few online classes might help, they're fairly private and give you a little bit of insight of technique.

The, kama sutra is also a fun read.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S2ZPBXN/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_PEMTFFKFPW47XSMH80CA.

If you aren't looking for a vibrator that has a dildo component, my girlfriends have all really loved the vibrating bullets for clit stimulation.

This inexpensive one for $20 has been the favorite of 4 different girlfriends I've had over the years - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0016C28II/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_3hkaGbJ35XP73?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

In case one head's batteries run out mid masturbation, just unplug it and plug it into the one right next to it to finish out strong without having to stop, get out of bed, find batteries, replace the batteries, etc.

OK - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00486U8N6/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1 It's been a while I don't remember the chapter or page.

Hey, I truly empathize! I used to not orgasm with partners, and now I can soak through towels within 5 mins of good sex. I bought these matters pads and nothing ever hits the mattress! My partners get me gushing, and I can't control it either! It's a glorious time when you have supportive and sensual, hot partners who knows they're making your body lose control. Fuck, I love making my girlfriend squirt! She worships my WAP, and I worship hers.

You've got a great partner who is encouraging you to let go. DO IT. LET IT GO ALL THE WAY. Your sexual pleasure and freedom is a blessing to your partner and especially yourself. Delight in your natural body. Protect the sheets and get busy!

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This is the one I use and I’ve got no complaints ¯_(ツ)_/¯ haven’t seen any negative feedback either but I’m not really on the lookout for it either, you know?good luck finding in your search though!

This is the one I use and love. I've had no issues with it and it is more than capable of getting the job done without breaking the bank.

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Well, according to the album 66 Must-Have Sensual Classics, The Saber Dance is up there with the best of music to get jiggy to.

Yes of course: https://www.amazon.com/Shibari-20X-Multi-Speed-Wireless-Purple/dp/B010GLYPSK It’s actually $30 now, I bought it on sale for $20. But still a really great buy and you can see that from the reviews :)