I ended up using a harness from a strap on since it had cloth behind it: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001ER28EY/ (NSFW LINK)
I basically flipped it around and took off the additional straps. I can pull it in until it's comfortable and then spread my legs further to apply more pressure :)
Look at site that list the market exchange rate, which is the actual rates banks get. It’s not what they give you.
Banks make their profit on the difference between the market rate and the rate they give you and the market rate is constantly changing. The closer you can get to the market rate the less money you will pay. When you speak to the bank they will tell you what it will cost, say US$20k, but when you look at the market rate you’ll see it’s only $19k. It’s always going to cost you something, but a different service may be able to get you closer to $19k. The fee is going to be tiny in comparison.
You know you’re a minor in Thailand before 20? And you need parental consent.
Assuming there are no underlying medical issues (ie have you seen a doctor?), you likely just need a set of dilators like this: https://smile.amazon.com/Naughty-Kitty-Kat-Dilator-Kit/dp/B081G8MJ84/
This is the kit Dr. Laura Berman recommends...
Yes! Absolute life (butt?) saver for my experience. Would recommend a foam one not an inflatable. https://www.amazon.com/Donut-Pillow-Orthopedic-Hemorrhoid-Pregnancy/dp/B07MXNFBMK/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=donut+pad&qid=1598068208&sr=8-5
Sounds like you’re well prepared... your gf is lucky to have you!!! I’ve been using surgilube based on my surgeons recommendation. I bought a 4 pack on Amazon and have gone through about a half a tube a week or so
Surgilube Surgical Lubricant Sterile Bacteriostatic Jelly - 4.25 Ounces Each (Value Pack of 4) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00JLIFY44/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ZQC55H358SESJE4BAVY1
I've been using Surgilube. It works great and is very easy to clean up.
I use this and quite like it. I’m in the US but it appears to be available in the UK also
I got this one for my partner before surgery just in case--she used it, but not super often. Would generally sit on it for a little bit, change positions, move it out of the way, sit on it again, etc. I think she would have used it more if her surgery hadn't been right before lockdowns started (March 5th was her surgery date)--she's been working at home since, and spent the better part of a month working from bed/laying on the couch, but if she'd gone back to the office she would've brought it. I think there's no harm in buying one even if you aren't certain you'll use it, just because it's easier to stock up ahead of time. Good luck!!
Everything made by Good Clean Love has my recommendation. I've mainly used their lube and Biophresh probiotics. I've also heard good things about Biom probiotics from cis friends but haven't used it myself.
The surgical bra I came home with was fine for a couple days but it was so bulky. The doctor office recommended a front zip one on Amazon and they’ve been a lot more comfortable. Women's Zip Front Sports Bra... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07G47YM8T?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I think about 6 weeks, 1 week or so after I started taking the probiotics. Does not seem to outwardly smell now, although if I get my nose close to the tip of a dilator right aftwards then that's not a nice smell, but have to be real close! When it was at its worst I was not for inviting anyone into my house due to the stench! This is what I am using. Might be snake oil, who knows. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07SS4NBWK
Here's a deluxe option:
It works as both a lighted dilation hand mirror and as a makeup mirror! It's bright and dimmable.
Note that the 5x side is *not* lighted.
I get that. Makeup is a lit of trial and error but once you get used to it, it can be so much fun just trying stuff out. I recommend Alexandra Anele and Wayne Goss on YouTube. Both of them are incredibly in-depth in their tutorials and have a lot of very beginner friendly videos.
Here's for example one by Alexandra that does a modern version of the Marilyn look: Click
As for practice I recommend the following: first get a makeup remover ao you can remove and start over as often as you like. Personally I really like micellair water for this. Garnier and Simple have very new ce affordable ones.
For eyeliner in particular I recommend starting with a very thin eyeliner brush (like this one ), make it damp then use eyeshadow to draw on the liner shape. It's much easier this way and if you make a mistake it's easier to correct with a simple q-tip. Once you have the shape right, just trace over it with the actual eyeliner or leave as is; eyeshadow eyeliner can look very nice on its own.
I lived in these for the first 2 months or so
I highly recommend getting something that doesn't have a seam in the crotch area. Seams will be very uncomfortable until the stitches heal
When I briefly used patches I got medical adhesive remover, it works immediately and thoroughly. I used a cottonelle wipe afterword to wipe it off.
Oh wow this is gonna be so much better than Astroglide!
That product is good too, but if you're looking for lube it's this one.
1.) Be sure to clean the outside of your vagina every day with mild soap and water. Clean thoroughly between the folds of your labia too. Cleanliness is very important.
2.) Take a cranberry supplement. Studies have shown that cranberry juices have an ingredient that helps prevents bacteria from attaching to the inner lining of your bladder. Since it's not realistic to drink a ton of glasses of cranberry juice every day, take a cranberry pill. I use these AZO cranberry pills from Amazon. One pill at breakfast, and one pill at dinner.
I used disposable catheters, disposable syringes and home-made saline for the first few weeks for maximum hygiene and ease of insertion - having lubricant built into the catheter packet.
Later I moved to - and still use something like this:
It's labelled as an enema kit, but seems to work for me. I did try another style with the larger size nozzle but found insertion tricky while I was still sizing up.
Regardless of what you use, keep it clean!
Good luck. X
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This type of pillow was actually better for me while at work instead of the bbl or boppy pillow because it was more discreet and soft.
Amazon for 15.99
I just had trachea shave with Dr. Courey in February and I’ve been using this silicone gel and massaging the scar in little circular motions twice a day. It seems to be helping!
Hi honey, it does get better but your miseries are perfectly understandable. The issue you face at this time will primarily be felt at the Introitus to the vagina. This is where there is scarring present from the join to the vulva floor. There is also some pain in reaching full depth.
The pain at the Introitus is perfectly understandable and at around the period you are at now, the brain will be sending massive and constant messages to close the 'wound'. This is what the brain believes is the correct way to treat a wound. Dilation opposes this and is trying to 'teach' the brain that your Vagina is not a wound and a fully functional organ in the body.
This takes time (2-3 months) and all this is complicated as you increase your dilator size to your preferred maximum.
Do not be surprised if all this takes many months ( we are all different ) so time varies. But rest assured it will.
You can always downsize the dilator, for a warm up. Or you can massage you entrance with your fingers and plenty of lube first. The scar tissue at Introitus can be compared to windscreen wipers on a car, as they wipe of lube on dilator. To overcome lack of lubricant, a couple of hints. Manually insert more lube past the scar tissue, or you can purchase off the web a product called ' a lube shooter' which you can insert into your vagina and 'shoot' in more lube. I will leave a link below.
Heard about it in the r/transvoice sub, lots of folks in there use it to track progress with voice training.
I came across a the document as a single pdf and it looks like some of the problems with it (the document, not the content) have been fixed.
this is a nice result, with no apparent scarring. she was clearly pretty young at the time. but it doesn't really look cis, it just looks like a nice neopussy. i just went out of my way to upload this for u, i hope it helps: https://www.docdroid.net/k5SZP47/classification-of-the-anatomical-variation-in-female-external-genitalia-pdf
I took off four days for zero depth. Surgery on a Monday, and teleworked from my hospital bed on Friday. Still teleworking from bed. If I had to go to an office and sit all day, I'd've probably needed a month, because sitting is surprisingly rough.
Get a donut pillow. Bring it to the hospital with you. I got this one, and it's worked like a champ. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KF9P5FZ
Lighted Makeup Mirror with 3 Colors Dimmable Lighting, COSMIRROR Round Makeup Vanity Mirror with 62 LED Lights, 1x/5x Magnification, Cordless Rechargeable Handheld Light Up Mirror (White) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TK9W48P/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_RA3760RXWV5893JWT5D8?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
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I found a great one that lights up helped me so much definitely worth the money Please cheek this one out Lighted Makeup Mirror with 3... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TK9W48P?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I can't tell tbh. I was slim and had been weight cycling in an attempt to get fat redistribution. I was told to gain a little weight for the surgery and had butt implants so that most of the fat could go to my hips. The surgeon transferred 700cc of fat to each side.
Before the surgery I was slim with a chest noticeably bigger than my hips. I gained 3kg for the surgery and had lipo of belly, waist, full back and upper arms. My chest and hip measurements are now the same.
I went from a top hourglass shape to hourglass.
I now get people comment about my bum, it's huge. 2 examples, last week buying a coffee and sandwich I noticed a group of women at a table obviously looking at me and talking, then one said "her bums huge, I wish mine looked like that". Possibly intentionally loud enough for me to hear because I was getting uncomfortable.... I thought they had clocked me.
On the tube occasionally I'll get creepy guys take a photo of my bum.
To give you an idea of what's possible
Add implants for more butt projection and size. I have 330ml implants. That's not my photo.
It is a good idea to have a hand-sprayer in your shower/bathtub at home. Most any hand sprayer will work (One was a seasonal item from Aldi, of all places) but I have a really specific recommendation for the style of diverter valve:
This sort of diverter valve (instead of the one which usually comes with the hand sprayer) allows you to keep your existing showerhead, and to run your existing showerhead and the hand sprayer at the same time, if you so desire. It threads between the existing shower head and the pipe nipple connecting the shower head to the plumbing in the wall. This diverter valve can turn so that the hose points downward and either left or right of your existing showerhead--whatever works best in your bathtub.
You should sleep on your back. These two pillows helped me a lot -
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Gel Lumbar Support Pillow for Bed Relief Lower Back Pain, Cooling Memory Foam Back Pillow for Sleeping, Waist Sleep Cushion for Side, Back Sleepers, Wedge Bolster Pillow Bed Rest [US. Patent Design] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B099DZZJCW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_S5B52V38MNXN05HGMB84?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
And put a normal pillow under your knees
I used one like this:
It worked well. It was firmer and I didn't have to worry about it shifting oddly. I just kept pressure from being applied to my surgical site.
There's another good app for this though it doesn't support BT keyboards, https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.anaisbetts.sirene&hl=en&gl=US, the advantage of this app is that it also shows what you typed on the screen, so put a PopSocket on your phone, type what you want, then hold the phone and flip it around.
Most phones are simply not loud enough to be heard in e.g. the line at Starbucks, but nobody has a problem reading big text
I brought an entire backpack of stuff with me the the hospital, my laptop, clothes, etc. I only used my cellphone charger of all that crap.
/u/i_am_xs Here's what I recommend packing:
Cellphone charger & cable that is at least 6' long. Pro tip: Tie your cellphone cable to your bed so that when you unplug it it doesn't fall off and you need to call the nurse to help you get it back.
Cellphone adjustable arm like this https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B07S9JXQP2/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 Get whatever clamp style makes sense. I didn't pack this with me but I wish I had.
Whatever clothes you have on your back. Maybe a fresh change for your ride home.
Whatever sitting accoutrement you'll need to survive the ride home when you are discharged.
You are going to be in pain in the hospital. Moving around is going to suck. Walking is going to suck. Sleeping anywhere but on your back (not on your side) is going to suck. I had a 3 hour drive home on my 3rd day post op, and it fucking sucked. If you have anything like that here's what I recommend: 2x memory foam sleeping pillows + a donut pillow. Lean back, and bring a box or something to put on the floor of your front seat to put your legs up on. Make sure you're in a car that has a front seat that can lean back pretty far. Bring a comfortable blanket. Take all the pain killers the nurses will let you have. Put your feet on something that can support you when the car has to brake.
This is what you want… Astroglide Original Real Pleasure Plus Lasts Longer Personal Liquid Lube Lubricant and Moisturizer https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00THH9STQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_8YFAA41ESAH62DFBWV2M
Someone posted about her experience using the scar away silicone sheets- and how her scars were almost completely gone. (damage control)
I am now about 4 weeks post-op with McGinn. These 595cc are an upsize from the original 445cc. I’m wearing this anywhere from 8-12 hours per day, with one or two hourlong breaks. A similar strap was originally given to me at my post-op appointment by McGinn and her team. I bought a slightly different one from Amazon, and this is actually two layered on top of each other.
So far this technique is working great, and I’ve been measuring the distance from my nipple straight down to the inframammary fold since discharge. That space was originally 8cm, and is now 10cm. I also think this strategy might be safer than doing exercises (like pushing down hard on the implants, which I did for the last one), because it maintains the same ratio of pocket stretch between the actual underlying implant pocket and the surrounding skin.
I’ve also been taking collagen pills and lotioning the breasts before I go to bed, just for kicks. Could hurt, right? xoxo
Sounds very tight - wondering if lube isn't getting in and pushed at the front at the tip of the dilator. I got myself a lube injector which I found helps - used it during the bleeding phase so that it would help lessen - it made it easier, but again I didnt ha e the pain.
Check this out if you dont already have one: https://www.amazon.com/Launchers-Precision-Mess-Free-Lubricant-Applicator/dp/B07QQ4V3X8/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=lube+injector&qid=1625710686&sr=8-2
I use the legs of my bed desk to hold the dilator in. Usually have the laptop on the desk (you'll need the weight to hold it) and the keyboard across my thighs, since it's offset. If I really need a lot of pressure I use my outside leg to hold the back leg of the desk.
My surgeon showed me in person so I didn't look for videos but there may be some online. I was reading up on it after surgery and there are a lot of surgeon's websites with articles on taping.
This is the tape:
KY liquibeads. They’re an ovule that you insert that dissolves and lasts fairly well over time. You’ll get a little bit leaking out maybe but they work well and I’ve used them for situations like you describe. They are silicone based so be careful not to use toys or anything else with silicone in it.
Super trio topical. This allowed me to get most of my surgery prep done with little to no pain. The link below is for amazon. I am not promoting amazon, it was just the first link I found and most places in the world can access it: Super Trio
Note: put some on and cover with plastic wrap for ~10 min for best effect.
Have you thought about getting breast forms and a pocket bra? I bought some on Amazon a few months ago to see what I would like. They are silicone and feel pretty real. While they are measured in grams instead of ccs they have a conversion chart to translate the forms sizes to cup size, with your underbust measurements.
Maybe you could get a couple sets to try on, and even wear around to get a feel for them? Since they are returnable, you wouldn't be out a bunch of money.
If you think that would work for you, here is a link to the brand I purchased.
I hope this will help.
I just recently had an abdominoplasty as well as ba.
For the abdominoplasty scar and any ba scar you may have I'd recommend silicone tape. This is what I use
For your belly button I'd recommend a scar gel cream. I use biocorneum scar gel https://biocorneum.com/
I just bought one of these for exactly the same reason. I'm only 3 months post op so I'm swollen af so a conventional razor just isn't manueverable enough. I did fine with this, although it took maybe half an hour the first time just because I had to get comfortable with it.
I am just reusing a boppie nursing pillow we had, but it is really helping. I am 11 days post op and sitting on it in the airport right now. I am still only comfortable laying on my back even during the day.
It is pretty large, something to keep in mind depending on her travel plans.
Hey, it's normal. You're totally fine! It's probably the female equivalent of dickcheese. Everyone gets it. You're not alone. I get some underneath my clitoral hood around the clit.
Douche once a week with saline.
here's a fantastic doucher
here's some bulk saline
I got two packages of <strong>separatec underwear</strong> during recovery, and found it it much more comfortable than regular underwear for a long time. It has a separate pouch so your dick and balls are separated, which is good for recovery because it keeps everything drier and reduces risk of fungal infections, and also just keeps everything well supported.
Also it looks pretty good, so tbh it basically just replaced my old underwear. I'm not entirely sure when I would have been able to back to regular briefs comfortably, I didn't try until about 6 months after surgery and by then it was fine.
I'm now almost 2 years post-stage 1 and still don't like boxers anymore. I'm fully healed of course, but now I find that boxers tend to pinch.
Bleeding continued to be an issue for me until about a month after surgery, but it was worst in the first two weeks. And I had a fistula that took about 3 months to heal.
You should feel a lot better very soon. By one month after surgery, I was able to take a 2 hour plane flight home with only moderate discomfort. I continued to be in moderate discomfort for a few months after that, but that was nothing compared to the first two weeks. And using a <strong>medical donut pillow</strong> helped a lot.
Ooh Sliquid Sassy is nice! Yea I waited until I thought all the internal post-op skin cell turnover was more or less finished half a year after surgery.
I used water in the beginning, but I think it may have contributed to the BV i got around month 3-5. I switched to saline because it's totally inert and if you get it thru a prescription or online, it's sterile.
Sometimes I do add some white vinegar to the saline in the douche bottle. Some acid is good.
I don't understand why they suggest adding soap, because soap is basic, and neovaginas are notoriously basic to begin with (which is what contributes to an increased change of getting BV).
Definitely avoid those femenine washes at the drug store. They're the devil haha
Also this doucher is amazinggg.
Congrats! Omg I remember how excited and nervous I was and I’m finally 10 months post can’t wait to hit my 1 year.
From my experience, I will say I took things with me such as a coloring book and drawing things but I never used it because I was so tired so I really took the time to relax and watch tv at the hospital, at the time there was no covid and my boyfriend stayed with me and we would chat and he kept me company.
I will say though, getting home is a different scenario, I recommend definitely getting pads and thicker one at first, you may want to see if the hospital gives you some of theirs because it really helped. I also purchased these underwear that were the same as I was given at the hospital that really helped when I was home because I could cut them off and they stretched. They were also comfortable to wear while I was healing the first 2 months. Link: https://www.amazon.com/Postpartum-Disposable-Underwear-Recovery-Breathable/dp/B086GBGDS5/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=disposable+underwear+women+postpartum&qid=1599829104&sprefix=disposable+underwear&sr=8-12.
Also definitely get a donut pillow, it will help on your way home from the hospital.
I also think having one of those hand held showers helped when I would shower after I was healed enough to clean myself down there because it really helps clean off any gunk left behind from when you start to dilating.
Definitely take your stool softeners, I didn’t go #2 for a few weeks but when I did it was a little difficult and you don’t want to push or strain obviously.
Geeze there’s so many things but these are a few I def wish I knew beforehand.
Some practical tips:
Get one of those old fashioned refillable ice packs (for example ), it makes sticking to the icing schedule a lot easier and can shape to your body. See if the hotel has an ice machine for handy refilling.
Ask the surgeon and nurses for guidance about comfort care kinds of things: bouts of nausea, indigestion, constipation, heartburn, muscle cramps during bedrest, etc are all common, so ask about what treatments you can safely give her yourself and what to call for guidance about.
Set up a spreadsheet or notebook or some other system to help track the timing and dosage of mediations, especially the total dose of each drug in the last 12 or 24 hours.
Paper towels, so called "puppy pads", and other cleanup stuff are helpful, as can be medical exam gloves.
Absolutely schedule some relief shifts or visits from her friends. You will need the chance to take care of yourself while knowing someone else will be there if an emergency happens. The burden is a bit like having a baby at home, even the chance to take a walk or a nap can be a big deal. Friends can keep her entertained for a bit while you relax. If anyone wants to bring some homemade food that can be a welcome relief from the takeout y'all will probably be eating.
Find a close friend or therapist you can lean on for your on emotional issues during that week, even if it's just by text or email.
Finally, it is surgery and recovery on the most intimate parts of her body. Expect both of you to have complicated feelings about boundaries, shame, pride, your relationship, etc. Maybe plan on dealing with those feelings later.
> She makes it sound very basic...but she always tries to make things sound easier than they are.
What she needs from you is very basic, but in this case the basic things can be hard.
I tried a LOT of different types of lube, and my absolute favorite is still Slippery Stuff Gel (not the regular liquid.) It doesn't contain glycerin, so it never gets sticky (or promote yeast infections), and it's pretty affordable for a high-quality lube -- you can find 32oz quantities on Amazon for around $25-ish. I've been using it for dilating for a year and a half, and it's also awesome for sex, too!
It's more than an inch, mine is at least 2" - you really need to seriously take care of it, go buy https://www.amazon.com/bioCorneum-plus-Advanced-Scar-Supervision/dp/B00AV14GTE and put it on twice a day after the incision is healed (i.e. once it's sealed and isn't open), and also go hard on sunscreen
I didn't give any fucks about it and I live in California, and now my zombie chic look might be permanent (though faded)
> Did you check out any other apps before making your own? If so, any chance of listing them and giving a brief review.
Related: I used "Tell Me", it's very similar and worked well.
It only needs Storage permission if you want to save your own phrases to play on command. It's also available in Europe. No ads.
Awesome, we’ll get there :)
I also had some granulation but overall I expect it to work out. Not going to worry about it until I’m approaching 6 months - so May.
Check out this book - might be a worthwhile read!