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I'm so sorry your family & best friend can't be there for you while you go through this experience.

This pamphlet on supporting yourself through your abortion might be helpful for your: DIY Doula Zine.

You might also enjoy the book Untold Stories. It's about all sorts of reproductive life experiences, from infertility to abortion and more, and shows how they are all different sides of the same coin. Although your friend can't see that, it's so true. If only your pregnancy could somehow change her situation - but it can't, and you both deserve support and compassion for what you are going through. I hope someday she can see that, or that you can find more friends who will be able to support you fully.

Sending you strength and support!

Go to the doctor!

From the description of the tissue you’re passing, it sounds like it could possibly be a molar pregnancy. Those can turn into cancer, so they’re very serious.

It’s unlikely that it’s that, but passing any tissue so long after an abortion is a big red flag. Definitely get checked out!

Use a VPN to change your IP address and make it impossible for websites to have that data on you. It's probably all based on your IP. You can get a free VPN for your browser on your computer. Hotspot Shield is one but any will work.

Also, ad block. That may solve the problem first actually. Both are free and super easy to install on your browser.

You may want both, because websites you're still logged in to (for example, Amazon or Facebook) will have data on you even if you change your IP. That's where the adblock comes in. Then anything the adblock misses may be caught by the VPN so they don't know who you are. Good luck! Let me know if you have any questions. I'm by no means an expert but I care about privacy and ads slightly more than some people.

I know one size does not fit all for this subject. I’m sorry your options so far don’t feel right.

Another possibility is this book; https://www.peaceafterabortion.com

Or this one: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Choice-Emotional-Recovery-Abortion/dp/0684831961/ref=nodl_?dplnkId=c47ba4ea-48df-416e-87c4-a840a35d7080

Might come closer? A lot out there is written through religious lens and can feel like propaganda.

Sometimes talk therapy can also feel helpful. I’m glad you’re trying that too.

The miscarriage comparison is closer than might first appear. Many people who choose abortion really don’t feel they had a much of a choice either. Things are seldom that black and white. Pregnancy loss can feel complicated whether assisted with medical treatment or not.

I’m sorry you’re hurting. Hopefully you can process more as time goes on. ❤️

Buckle Bunnies Fund is an abortion fund exclusively for people in Texas and may be able to help you. You can request funds through this form.

I'm not a lawyer and, even if I knew your state, I couldn't advise you on the level of risk you're taking.

I can say that tools like Tor and NordVPN can help block your IP and make online activity harder to track; obviously not if you're just using the same Reddit account through those tools.

Your post has spurred some great activists I know to start working on better resources to help people in situations like yours. I hope that helps to know.

This might be a helpful source for you.

https://exhaleprovoice.org/self-care/

Personally I would rocemmnd mindfullness meditation , it can really help with anxiety. https://www.headspace.com/register?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=917256451&utm_content=51529951892&utm_term=227077126703&mindfulness%20headspace&gclid=Cj0KCQiA-8PjBRCWARIsADc18TIucA0KdGDf9zLTqRlu_obZ73mg5oO8...

For the car sickness, try anything with ginger (gingerale, ginger tea, ginger cookies, gin gins, put ginger in your water, etc). Acupressure bands like Sea Bands can help. Pepto, tums, other over the counter medicine. Zofran if you have a prescription.

Start regulating your hormones by taking inositol supplements. Take 2 when you wake up every day for 2 months. It helps to get cycles going again. Here are the ones I take: Myo-Inositol & D-Chiro Inositol Blend | 30-Day Supply | Most Beneficial 40:1 Ratio | Hormonal Balance & Healthy Ovarian Function Support for Women | Vitamin B8 | Made in USA (120 Capsules) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HX2DMY8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_59766XY949MQKH51KEPM?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Consider taking myo-inositol two pills once a day. It helped regulate my cycles. Warning, if you are not trying to get pregnant make sure to be on birth control. Product is available online on Amazon. Here is the exact one I take, I had the same issue as well. After a few months, i weened myself off and I have more regular cycles now. Best of luck!

Myo-Inositol & D-Chiro Inositol Blend | 30-Day Supply | Most Beneficial 40:1 Ratio | Hormonal Balance & Healthy Ovarian Function Support for Women | Vitamin B8 | Made in USA (120 Capsules) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HX2DMY8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_G6TYPFYCS81Y682XXGHC?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

I couldn’t imagine being around so many babies while in the early stages of healing. You’re so much stronger than you think!

I bought The Healing Choice from Amazon (The Healing Choice: Your Guide to Emotional Recovery After an Abortion https://www.amazon.com/dp/0684831961/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_LLTCDbHJZVZN2) and it’s been immensely helpful. I also like this workbook, which is totally free! I’m not a religious person at all so if you aren’t either, you can rest assured that I am not providing anything biased. That being said, if you DO want a religious aspect, these workbooks are open-ended enough to leave room for spiritual healing - religion or no religion.

I wouldn’t say it’s super common, but it’s definitely not abnormal. I felt, and still occasionally feel, the same way. It sucks that it’s a time-sensitive thing, I wish I had had months to make the decision! Your feelings are valid. I like to think that I made the decision as a mother, and as mothers we have to make uncomfortable choices for the sake of our children - potential, current, and future. I had to sacrifice bringing that potential person into the world so I could have more time to cultivate a better life, and be more prepared, for my future children. You can think of it that way if it’s helpful for you.

I’ve also been using some workbooks to help me work through my emotions. This one is free and has been super helpful. I also picked up this book off Amazon and have been enjoying it. I don’t relate to everything in it, but it has some helpful exercises.

It’s okay to grieve, it’s okay to regret, it’s okay to have mixed feelings. But now we have to make the choice to heal. You’ve got this 💜

I’m glad it helped! And if you are generally anxious about pregnancy risks, I would recommend buying a pack of pregnancy tests and taking one once a month. This $8 purchase (or something similar) will get you through 2 years https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007VT30C8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_UajLFb7PBDPZZ

No; I actually think it's rather common. I remember reading in Peter Korn's book <em>Lovejoy: A Year in the Life of an Abortion Clinic</em> and the counselor discussing this phenomenon- of women who were frustrated that she wouldn't just tell them "You should have this abortion." but instead would keep probing to get them to make the decision.

Obviously, an unwanted, forced abortion is a horrific thing that nobody should go through, but I understand how someone who feels deeply torn or ambivalent/undecided would be comforted of the idea of being forced- now, you get the same results but it's no longer your "fault", you don't have to feel guilty or potentially agonize about whether you made the right or wrong decision- it's just . . . done.

So I think the feeling is a normal one.

Seems like I've seen them at Target, here's the link on Amazon, can place TP or a cosmetic sponge in them for greater leak protection (but don't go getting toxic shock!) https://smile.amazon.com/Softcup-14-Disposable-Menstrual-Discs/dp/B000X29GY6

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N1UOMJ9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_04MwEb2QM7PAQ

There is many brands of plan b on amazon for reasonable prices with same day if you’re quick. No ones gonna give you a handout 🤷‍♀️

Sure thing! This one is excellent and free. If you find you need further help, I'm working through this book right now and love it. But, if the free one works for you, no need to spend any more money on the book! I personally needed a lot of help, but everyone is different. Good luck!

I really liked this article; it's terrible how much shame and almost a sort of secrecy there is about miscarriage in our society, and how it tends to make us uncomfortable so that we'd rather people just not talk about it- if we even acknowledge that pregnancy loss (particularly before a certain point in development) might be emotionally painful and difficult to "get over".

On the other hand, it could be portrayed as a foreigner not fully understanding a particular practice and exporting a version of it for his or her own use. I've long had Helen Hardacre's &quot;Marketing the Menacing Fetus in Japan&quot; on my reading list, and the implication there seems to be that there's at least some concept of appeasing vengeful spirits involved.

4 tablets should be fine. That's what I had. I also had different directions and took all the misoprostol at once. I think I got the same kit and I think it had an instruction packet in it too.

You also don't have to worry about the antibiotics as long as you pay attention and watch for an infection.

It took me about 2 - 3 weeks to feel normal. I actually had a vacation at Virginia beach 3 days after and I spent a week just sitting on the beach sleeping and it was awful. But if you stop bleeding and it's been like 2-3 weeks, you should be fine.

If you bleed a lot and feel crappy, make sure you take iron. It really really helps you feel functional again.

http://www.amazon.com/Salus-Haus-Floradix-Iron-Tablets-count/dp/B00CQ7W6KW?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;redirect=true&amp;ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s00

this is the iron I use because it is easily absorbed by your body. It costs more, but works really well.

You can get through this and you will be okay. <3

and remember, if you need to go to a doctor or hospital, you can just say you miscarried and they don't know the difference.