(copy and pasted my answer from another question much like your own, I feel like this was good enough to say again)
Here's what helped me when I asked that question.
I think that may help. If you need further help on the subject, I would consider seeing a therapist who is knowledgeable in trans related issues. Also, if you don't want to go quite that far may I sugest a book that is currently helping me sort this stuff out. I'll post the link to the Amazon site, but you can get it other places. It's called "You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery" by Dara Hoffman-Fox. They are a non-binary gender therapist working out of Colorado and also doing YouTube videos on the subject. I highly recommend watching a few. Again they were a big help.
Amazon link to book-https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1510723056/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I LOVE these! I can't tuck to save my life but these hold everything in place. I wear them all day at work with no complaints (6'1" thin body type as well)
I sometimes find massaging the perineum can help when things aren't flowing as well as they should.
Also maybe try some kegal exercises?
Sounds like you will be out away from the facilities. My wife has been eyeing the standing pee cups for her longer hikes.
Disposable Urination Device Portable Lightweight Urinal Funnel Outside Standing Pee Cup Waterproof Paper Standing Urinary Funnel for Camping, Hiking. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B089NB1W41/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_EQCEB6JCBVSCTM13FQND
It just takes a little getting use to it and yes everything except the twig and berries is fair game.
this one has been very effective for me and was a good value
https://www.amazon.com/Kibiy-Electric-Epilator-Rechargeable-Cordless/dp/B07XR86YH3
I recommend these from Amazon. After a year and a half on HRT, I still wear these all the time. The removable inserts are rigid foam, so they hide the nipples and give a nice shape. So freaking comfortable!
Soft Not stiff amazon DailyShoes Women's Classic Flats Comfortable Upper Round Flat Slip-On Loafer Sneaker Shoes-Ideal for Casual Occasions, Black Suede, 11 B(M) US https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0718V1QDD?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf
Underworks does sell binders on Amazon in addition to on their own website. I can't speak on any others. The Ultimate Chest Binder one works even for larger chests.
I have the Braun Epil 7
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B06WP5C49K/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
It's pretty amazing. It has a guided light to light up missed hairs. A pubic hair trimmer. Different heads to manage different areas. A swivel head for easy glide over your skin. I do believe it is waterproof.
That's how I am. I can't say it's any one thing that's got me burnt out. It's really a cake job most days as long as I'm not doing bariatric runs. It's just the job itself. The thought of the place just makes me sick. Not to mention upper management has taken a hostile stance towards us employees. It just makes it so difficult to even get through the day.
Why don't you try taking a programming course online? Codecademy is free and /r/learnprogramming is super helpful. I enjoy coding but it's too stressful to consider for a job lol
I'm going in for my test in 15 minutes! Wish me luck! :3
I know you can't change how this feature works, besides what tossaby said, but apple is a company that cares a lot about being friendly to LGBT, right? I think they would respond if you explained why this is a problem for you.
If you wanted you could fill out their official feedback form thing:
https://www.apple.com/feedback/itunesapp.html
I'd also fill it out myself if you'd rather not, and didn't mind my doing so. Since this is a problem for a bunch of people, I'd feel better if they heard about it. This way seems like the best way to let them know, and to get them to change the software.
Sorry if that's a weird response to get, but I follow software development as a small hobby, so this is what my natural response was.
Heh! Tattoo artist did it to make it look 3D, I'll edit this with an uploaded photo, need to get onto my phone though
Edit: Triforce
Someone let me know if that links working, I had to copy it out by hand from phone, and when I check the link nothing shows up and I don't know why.
Other than that, this certainly won't be my last LoZ tattoo xD
I've just found someone by posting on craigslist and roomster. I was upfront about my trans status and about the sort of people I prefer to live with in the posts, then chatted with the people who responded first on the phone and then in person. My landlord also does background checks, so that's another layer of security. It can't hurt to ask around at local queer organizations for people looking to share housing. You can search meetup.com for queer meetups or ask your local PFLAG chapter about the resources in your area. Any colleges in your area likely have queer organizations too, and many of them are likely open to non-student participation (although that may be more or less comfortable depending on your age). Good luck!
Perhaps try epilation instead, lasts longer if you'd like a longer length of time. Also, if you're suffering from razor bumps, ingrown hairs, and general irritation, this stuff has literally saved my life: https://www.amazon.com/Tend-Skin-Solution-Unsightly-Ingrown/dp/B001ECQ7G4/ref=sxts_sxwds-bia-wc-rsf-lq2a1_0?cv_ct_cx=tend+skin&dchild=1&keywords=tend+skin&pd_rd_i=B001ECQ7G4&pd_rd_r=3c63d941-b091-45c6-98bd-7a1db539ef00&pd_rd_w=...
I have the book Trans Studies which might be a good starting point. I haven't finished it yet, but I especially enjoyed the essay "I'll call him Mahood instead, I prefer that, I'm queer: Samuel Beckett's Spatial Aesthetic of Name Change", by Lucas Crawford. The essay helped me think about names, and what it means for me to change my name. The author uses Samuel Beckett's "The Unnamable" as a way to think about how names do more than just label people, but can also influence and change them. For example:
>Beckett makes a deceptively simple point: we can never reach the location of our names. Our bodies cannot ever be, in the end, a word. The translation of body to language is never simple, complete, or without remainder. Names, in this sense, are not trajectories or destinations but are, instead, decoys that disrupt our linear path to self "ownership" or discovery. As the text continues a page later, "perhaps it's by trying to be Worm that I'll finally succeed in being Mahood, I hadn't thought of that" (Beckett 1997, 387). For Beckett, then, names -- in effecting more than what they intend or appear to name -- exceed themselves in the sense that their performativity moves the object (intended to be merely labeled) into new territory.
Thinking about this made me realize that changing my name was about more than just having a more feminine name to avoid misgendering, but also about meaningfully moving my sense of self away from the old, and into the new. It gives me space to create a new self, a clean break from who I used to be, and provides something to aspire to.
I genuinely think you can just order it on amazon, I wasn't aware you need a prescription.
Yes, there are several different options depending on what you want and your budget. I got the Braun Silk-épil 9 9579 The research I did beforehand said that it's the best on the market and after using it several times I definitely don't doubt that. It's one of the pricier ones ($110-140 on Amazon) but quite worth it. It came with several different attachments and an exfoliator that also works really well. If you're looking for something cheaper there are a few but I'd recommend waiting to get something that's going to last.
> Braun
I have had a bunch over the years that are plug-in only, they all looked like this:
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_kRtu3QFUkWc/S8zvD1174dI/AAAAAAAADTw/BX4MEXmhbuU/s1600/braun.jpg
Every now and then Braun changes the colors they make them in so in the last 16 years I have had 3- one was green, blue and pink. I think they also make them in white, purple and a few other colors.
This is what the power adapter looks like: https://jet.com/product/detail/f73a19b3cbb5406b92ffaa91c29f9421?jcmp=pla:ggl:NJ_cons_Cwin_Health__Beauty_a3:Health__Beauty_Personal_Care_Razors_a3:na:PLA_786357240_41412365192_pla-291758273899:na:na:na:2&code=PLA15&gclid=CNy1zvuxjtMCFduEsw...
This place gives a bunch of model #s that they claim use this particular adapter. Braun even offered a car-12v adapter for them for a while.
Not sure if you're replying to the wrong thread. I clearly used the words "idea" and "concept" to simplify a hypothetical explanation for someone, not pretend to cite a research study.
On another note, there's also been a lot of research into why people make new reddit accounts for the sole purpose of making a single stupid comment, instead of having the guts to do it on their main one.
/r/asktransgender is a sub that has more subscribers, so you might get more replies there. However, honestly, the best answer most people ~~people~~ are going to be able to ~~say~~ give is to talk to an OBGYN to get this figured out.
If it is Vaginismus like others are saying, don't be afraid to ask the sex advice subs for tips. Whether or not you're trans, you are wanting to use your genitals which is what those subs are for. You are using a throwaway account too. Here is a segment copy and pasted from WebMD that you might want to try.
>The approach is called progressive desensitization, and the idea is to get comfortable with insertion.
First, do Kegel exercises by squeezing the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when urinating:
Squeeze the muscles.
Hold for 2 to 10 seconds.
Relax the muscles.
Do about 20 Kegels at a time. You can do them as many times a day as you want to.
After a few days, insert one finger, up to about the first knuckle joint, inside the vagina while doing the exercises. It's a good idea to clip your fingernails first and use a lubricating jelly. Or do the exercises in a bathtub, where water is a natural lubricant.
Start with one finger and work your way up to three. You'll feel the vagina's muscles contracting around your finger, and you can always take your finger out if you're not comfortable.
If your HRT regimen is just Estradiol and an antiandrogen like Spironolactone, you may experience a reduction in libido or even a complete elimination of the desire to have sex. You are also likely to experience a reduction in erections or the complete inability to "get hard." These two things are separate phenomena - you might have a reduction in libido but still get erections, or no reduction in libido and no erections. Everyone's body is different!
If you want more libido, Progesterone the best way to get that without raising your Testosterone. If you want more/better erections, Viagra or similar would be the solution. Talk to your doctor about which options would be best for you in terms of what you want sexually.
That all said, you certainly do not need an erection to enjoy sex and orgasm!
As mentioned elsewhere in this thread, vibrators are wonderful. I highly recommend getting a Magic Wand Rechargeable. Keep in mind that if your T is suppressed, your experience of sexual pleasure and orgasm will be Progesterone-driven and feel very different. Take your time to explore and try new things until you find what works for you!
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/cross-dresser Why don’t you take a look at the definition of cross dresser? I don’t know why people take it as an insult whenever it’s literally the term for only dressing as the other sex part of the time. If you can’t stand to be be in the form of your assigned sex and it makes you dysphoric and self destructive at the mere thought of it, you are transgender.
Here’s the definition of trans. https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/trans?q=Trans
If you wanted to make the argument that cross dressers are only trans half of the time because if they stay in their assigned gender -part of the time- you could do it but it’s still not a solid argument. Cross dresser is not an insult it’s not derogatory in any way, now if someone went off and said “transvestite” or “trap” there’s where the line is drawn because those terms are derogatory and unacceptable.
I came out to my dad as a 40 year old transgender woman as well. He immediately excepted me but then unfortunately turned to the church for information. It took a minute to D program what the Catholics told him. I found this book to give him and he felt that it was very helpful to understand what I was going through.
Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Trans (But Were Afraid to Ask)
Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Trans (But Were Afraid to Ask) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1785928260/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_6HNQCZ963SRQJ46NJQ5F
They have a pretty comprehensive rule set, so hate speech and a bunch of other stuff are pretty much completely banned. Plus, they seem to act on these rules pretty consistently. However, if there's a block system, I'm not sure how to access it.
I don't recommend buying gaffs they don't really hide anything just change the profile of the bump. Try Some of these and tuck, it dosen't feel as bad as most forms of tucking and it'll keep it completely flat down there.
>my dad won't let me buy any female clothes
But why. Maybe ask him for a clear definition so you know what you can buy.
Are pink striped socks okay if the packaging says “Men’s”, are pink hoodies okay?
What’s a night out lmao. I have a purse, a tricorder bag from the OG Star Trek. (It was less pricy when I bought it last year — by about twenty dollars.) It’s held up pretty well, and holds what I need it to (keys, cards, notebook, book/kindle, mask, hand lotion, lip balm, vape juice or cigs, lighter, spare change, spare candy, spare studs in case I lose my helix or lip piercing, earbuds.)
It’s black, it’s simple enough when I’m dressed for work, casually for the weekend, or dressed up that one time when I wasn’t too terrified to go out.
I also cant tuck, too painful. I found these awhile back and they have been life changing for me, I have several pairs now and wear them almost 24/7
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M8GWC85?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Balconette bras seem to be good for people with small or shallow breasts, this one specifically is pretty popular.
If you mean you have no breasts, this video shows how to get good cleavage with some tape and a bra. Otherwise you could get breast forms off amazon and put them in any regular bra.
Here's what helped me when I asked that question.
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I think that may help. If you need further help on the subject, I would consider seeing a therapist who is knowledgeable in trans related issues. Also, if you don't want to go quite that far may I sugest a book that is currently helping me sort this stuff out. I'll post the link to the Amazon site, but you can get it other places. It's called "You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery" by Dara Hoffman. They are a non-binary gender therapist working out of Colorado and also doing YouTube videos on the subject. I highly recommend watching a few. Again they were a big help.
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Amazon link to book- https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1510723056/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
These have been my preference for the last couple years. I don’t really tuck anymore but when I did/do, two pairs keeps everything in place pretty well if one won’t cut it for you sometimes. Amazon Brand - Mae Women's Soft Microfiber Cheeky Underwear with Lace, 3 Pack https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0758M24G8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_XvwpFbDJXM3TJ
Baby name lists and apps are great! I personally used this one on Android. It uses a tinder style swipe system. It was specifically nice because it allowed me to get feedback from my partner on names she liked too!
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ru.drivepixels.babyname
I think harnesses that are hollow would be good? Maybe not so much as the one I linked, but something similar. I also like that it vibrates.
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This one also looks nice...but I don't think it's hollow :/
Same. We grabbed "Unleash the Power of the Female Brain" by Daniel Amen (https://www.amazon.com/Unleash-Power-Female-Brain-Supercharging-ebook/dp/B008ZPG8EE) from the library yesterday to comb through it for ideas on how to impact hormone levels (assuming the same relative hormonal impact between biological males/females when eating the same foods, which could be totally bogus, but it's a start). We're not the biggest fan of Amen because we're big believers in open source medicine & some of his stuff is a little quack-ish, but nobody's smart enough to be 100% wrong ;)
In any case, we're trying not to change our diet until the blood work for that very reason. And we're growing increasingly curious about whether or not we can tap into the lymphatic system through well-directed deep intention, but have no idea where to even start with that.
What about this one? https://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Heart-Struggle-Acceptance-Transgender/dp/1573447889
It's got stories of adult children as well as adolescents. My mom said it was really helpful for her.
This actually sounds like a somewhat normal trans experience, which is to say many people experience it differently and there isn't a single narrative. I found these books helpful early in my transition:
http://www.transgresspress.org/letters-for-my-sisters.html https://www.amazon.com/Trans-Bodies-Selves-Transgender-Community/dp/0199325359
It'd be a very good idea for you both to see therapists. Although you are in a relationship together, your journeys are very different. You are going to have different challenges and a professional opinion often gives you perspective. Take care to find someone who is trans friendly or perhaps a specialist on these issues as insensitive therapy can be very damaging. To be honest there isn't a lot of support for the partner who wants to stay. I wish there was more.
Losing you if your partner transitions could be a very real barrier. But you have to take care of yourself. Communication is the only thing that is going to help here. Make sure your partner knows what it is you need from them. It easy to be too focused on your female persona. It is also easy to feel neglected when they are dressing and you feel you are chaperoning. Your partner may not even be aware it is happening and my need friendly reminders so they can adjust their behavior.
In the end though, the treatment for every trans person is different and individualized. It is very possible they'll want hormones and many surgeries. They may want some or none of that. It is also likely to change as time goes on and they have more experiences.
It is great to hear you're so supportive of your partner. You are in a relationship though, and you should not be doing all the work regardless of your partner's gender expression. Equality of work is a negotiation between you and your partner, but you need to explicitly have that conversation.
I have all the same hair issues with zero experience but I saw an at home laser tool mentioned on here that is on sale at amazon. Looks like it might be very worth a shot. http://www.amazon.com/Tria-Hair-Removal-Laser-4X/dp/B00DLJ7N2U
I'm in NJ too but I don't know any trans-friendly eyebrow places - haven't started presenting yet. Though, I do use a trimmer on my brows just to keep them in check. A barber could easily do that for you too but trimmers are only around $40 or so for a decent one.
norelco trimmer I use is similar to this one. It works well for managing length. I pluck my own for shaping.