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The umbrella terms to know are man, woman, and nonbinary. All genders are equally important, but if you keep these three in mind when discussing people, you're inclusive of everyone.

If someone uses a label under the nonbinary umbrella like agender, androgyne, bigender, demiboy, demigirl, genderfluid, genderqueer, neutrois, pangender, etc please respect that and don't just call them nonbinary.

Cis Ally guide and Trans Bodies, Trans Selves are great resources to read.

If you have any more questions at any point, you're free to ask them on this subreddit.

I strongly recommend getting this book.

In terms of connecting with others like yourself, you're welcome to hang out in the following subreddits.

r/gaytransguys

r/GayBroTeens

r/AskGayMen

r/GayMen

r/FTMMen

r/ftm

r/transteens

r/TransyTalk

r/asktransgender

r/LGBTeens

Your Gender Identity Guide could be helpful. Take your time thinking about it. In the mean time, you can just say you're a gnc bisexual/pansexual.

Here's some subreddits you can hang out in.

r/MtF

r/NonBinaryTalk

r/TransyTalk

r/asktransgender

The sink doesn't even need to take up space

This book is the best I have read about why different people seem to have completely different morals: https://www.amazon.com/Righteous-Mind-Divided-Politics-Religion/dp/0307455777?asin=0307455777&revisionId=&format=4&depth=1

I am not sure if I will ever completely understand though actually.

I haven't heard of that one before.

I did some research. "Sapphere" is a brand name. (https://www.amazon.de/-/en/Sapphere-Queer-Pride-Flag-Sleeves/dp/B082GGCZWG) It's not a sexuality or gender identity. It's just the name of the company that makes and sells this particular flag.

And this particular flag is a queer pride flag. It's not the LGBT+ rainbow flag. It's not the Progress Pride flag. It's a flag for queer people (which doesn't include me, for example - because I might be a gay man but I'm not queer).

So, if queer is your thing, this might be your flag. But it's not everyone's flag.

I really don't like defending my gender identity here (and going by some of your responses, it looks like if I did I'd get frustrated with you rather quickly) so I'm going to link to a book that will answer most of your questions and concerns that I think you should read: Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality by Anne Fausto-Sterling.

It's a great way to learn about the history of sex and gender science, the differences between the two, how they are related and not related, and where the different concepts come from in the body.

There's no one way to have lesbian sex. Not even all lesbians have sex (such as homoromantic asexuals). You don't have to follow any stereotypes to be a valid lesbian. Here's a helpful guide.

In the most literal sense, one's a woman and one's a man. All butch cis women are attracted to women, but not all trans men are attracted to men. All butch cis women like to present masc, but not all trans men like to present masc. Pretty much the only guaranteed thing they have in common is being AFAB.

I think Jammidodger and this book could be very helpful for understanding trans perspectives.

I suggest reading up on queer theory because it helos explain a lot of this (https://www.amazon.com/Queer-Graphic-Dr-Meg-John-Barker/dp/1785780719) this book is a fantastic resource. But here is a general example of how this works:

Cisnormative society tells us we have three things

1. A body, decided at birth.
2. An identity, based on thar body.
3. An expression, based on that identity.

This is far too simplistic, and puts people in boxes. It connects things based on societies idea's rather than truth.

Queer theory argues that instead we have: 1. A body. 2. Possibly an identity. 3. An expression.

It disconnects the three. Being a transwomen is based purely on identity, nothing else. The idea of "transitioning" is itself obsolete in modern queer theory because it suggests that a male/female binary exists.

I am very tired and may have explained this poorly, but for real check out that book. It's fantastic

I know, this is a year old post, but I looked his name up to read more about him for context. He was on Good Morning America this morning talking about his newest book, "Love That Story: Observations from a Gorgeously Queer Life."

I bought his first book, Over The Top, earlier last year, but I haven't had a chance to read it, yet. I'll be cracking it open in the next couple weeks on my vacation.

He is definitely interesting and comes of as a person who is very comfortable in his skin, honest, candid, and engaging. I look forward to reading his books, I really enjoy reading about colorful, vibrant people.

I don't think about it at all, but also if I knew that's what someone was going for, I'd mostly roll my eyes. You don't get to decide you're an ally, that's something you earn. If your goal is to announce support, you're going to have to do it a lot more loudly than something so innocuous.

Consider this level of loud

(1) There’s a book on the voices of bi men called: “Recognize: The Voices of Bisexual Men”

https://www.google.com/amp/s/robynochs.com/2014/09/08/recognize-the-voices-of-bisexual-men/amp/

(2) I love “Bi Any Other Name”. It has tons of stories of bisexual people. Both men and women:

https://www.amazon.com/Bi-Any-Other-Name-Bisexual/dp/1555831745

(3) For resources, Google “Bisexual Resource Center”

You never have to bottom for anyone. Ever. Not even your girlfriend. If you're a top, you're a top.

It may be worth considering an open relationship so you can both still have sexual releases through topping.

If an open relationship isn't appealing to either of you, you can always have outercourse and reserve penetration for toys. (The cool thing is some toys even allow both partners to penetrate it at once.) Some examples of outercourse include frottage/scissoring, mutual masturbation, docking, tea bagging, intercrural, handjobs, footjobs, bagpiping, and intergluteal.

Of course, there are also many ways to engage in BDSM that don't involve penile interactions at all.

I think this book is helpful for sex in general.

You are most likely a lesbian struggling with compulsory sexuality. I find the below source invaluable to questioning lesbians:

https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf

I’m tired right now but here: Link about prejudice against asexuality Link to reddit post about asexual struggles

He can try dilator and plugs to help his body adjust. Taking it slow and generous lube application and reapplication can helps too. If he's still uncomfortable after this, you may want to look into other ways of topping or using a smaller toy on him instead.

Ahh, gotcha! A great book I read (part of) recently is Life Isn’t Binary. More for you than your child, probably.

It sounds like you’re doing everything right. My wife recently went through a transition in gender identity and I tried to give small compliments (I love that outfit, your eyes look pretty today) that didn’t draw too much attention to the changes. And just treating them normally otherwise. Lots of listening.

Your kids are lucky to have parents like you!!

Queens English Dictionary!!!!

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Queens-English-Dictionary-Colloquial-Expressions/dp/1529110408/ref=asc_df_1529110408/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=499289607994&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13147072074629556743&hvpone=&hvptw...