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Could try installing f.lux; makes the light from your computer monitor not as harsh. Been using it for a while now and whenever I disable it (briefly) I'm amazed at how glaring and uncomfortable a computer monitor's default lighting is. Have it on both my work and home cpu's.

I've also seen people wear special glasses that are supposed to help against headaches/migraines due to fluorescent lighting. The linked glasses were the first to show up on a Google search; you could probably find more...stylish glasses if you wanted. Haven't tried these myself so can't vouch for them (Edit: Whoops, didn't check the price on those glasses. Could hopefully find some cheaper ones...).

The Blinds by Adam Sternbergh. Well-written, twisty novel about a refuge for government informants. It's a small town, not a jail, and they can leave whenever they like ... but they can't come back. And they've had their memories wiped, so who knows who's out there waiting for them?

I spent most of the weekend reading The Sparrow and Children of God, two amazing SF first-contact novels by Mary Doria Russell. They were written in the 90s and definitely have that feel, but I'm old enough to be nostalgic for that. Really good exploration of miscommunications and the predicament of having to make decisions without sufficient information. Both books deal with loneliness, both romantic loneliness and the solitary feeling when no one can truly understand your experiences.

It can, but it might be easy to go too tight. If it turns purple and gets really cold, its too tight. You just want it to partially occlude the exterior ventral vein (the backside of the penis that faces down and back when flacid), so blood enters the penis faster than it leaves, which causes the increase in strength of erection.

Amazon has basic sets for about 15 bucks so you can try different sizes and see what works best.

Also do a bit of reading on them, because there are some things you do not want to do with them, like fall asleep with them on, as you don't want to use them for more than 20-30min without taking a break with them, especially if you are using one that is on the tighter side.

follow up for what I'm doing today. I haven't been to a gym for years now. So I'd done it for a few years going a few times a week successfully. But having since moved and tried another gym I didn't like (so not motivated to keep going back; the other one I felt more at peace of not being scrutinized passively as much). I just do some workouts of my own at home. Since I'd done many of the machines in the prior gym in my life, I kind of "simulated" some similar exercises at home.

A couple of things that could also work for you at home:

Push up wrist supports: (example)

Abdominal roller: (example)

I am really sorry for your troubles man but I have a little suggestion. Maybe you could try meetup.com to meet people and also, why live alone? you could find a roommate through facebook or something. I too, like you cannot make any friends on my own and am extremely alone but having a roommate and going to meetups helps with the pain. Also for whatever its worth you can always share your thoughts with me because Im in a similar situation.

I constantly lose perspective. It comes naturally with isolation, being in my own teeny tiny bubble, breathing only my stale exhalations.

So reading this guy touched a chord with me.

https://twitter.com/Chris_arnade
https://www.theguardian.com/business/2016/jun/08/mcdonalds-community-centers-us-physical-social-networks

I feel abandoned on the earth, with no sense of belonging or connection. I often look at pictures of women being affectionate toward their man, and it's just heart blackening to me, knowing that it hasn't been nor could ever be part of my life.

https://www.shutterstock.com/video/clip-19503766-young-couple-laughing-on-bed-bedroom

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It's impossible for me to conceive of being wanted, or valued, at all, as in the above. It is like belonging to lesser species. That is what they do. The normal people. The people that attract others to them, develop relationships. The 99% of humans who have existed. How come it is so difficult? Almost every human being on the planet does it. Not me, though. I live a uniquely isolated life and the lack of affection in my life has ruined me for good. A part of me wants to know empathy before I go, a part of me just wants to go.

Here are some suggestions. Start doing pushups every day, or every other day. Every other day, stretches. of course you can add other exercises than pushups as you see fit. Try to stick only one major meal a day. The other 'meals', just a drink of one of those diet mixes. (or alternately those workout drink whey or protein mixes). Green Tea-Fat Burner gel pills (link) to take during meal and/or before going to sleep. For 'intermittent dieting' there is no meals after 7pm and would also include no meals or eating before 12pm. Keep a track of calories, or at least an estimate where you try to keep below 1500-2000 calories a day.

Also if you, like me, don't like typical cardio, aerobics, or whatever those nuts and cooperate fads push these days, I'd suggest picking up a tennis racquet, and you can practice "shadow' swinging. If you like it, it can become a regular habit, swinging up to hundreds of reps a day, along with associated footwork (which adds more "cardio"). (you need to have enough spare room to do this, as well as decent height ceiling, or you'r e definitely going to have occasional contact mishaps unless that's ok where you're at ). This yt channel teaches the fundamentals well imo (link). gl, and hope you feel better.

Here are some suggestions. Start doing pushups every day, or every other day. Try to stick only one major meal a day. The other 'meals', just a drink of a one of those diet mixes. (or alternately those workout drink whey or protein mixes). Green Tea-Fat Burner gel pills (link) to take during meal and/or before going to sleep. No meals after 7pm. Intermittent dieting would include no meals or eating before 12pm. Keep a track of calories, or at least an estimate where you try to keep below 1500-2000 calories a day.

Also if you don't cardio, aerobics, or whatever those nuts and coporate fads push these days, I'd suggest picking up a tennis racquet, and you can practice "shadow' swinging. If you like it, it can become a regular habit, swinging up to hundreds of reps a day, along with associated footwork. (you need to have enough spare room to do this, as well as decent height ceiling, or you'r e definitely going to have occasional contact mishaps unless that's ok where you're at ). This yt channel teaches the fundamentals well imo (link)

I'm into organising Files as much as I can, But mostly enjoy renaming them. Into my preferred style. Especially Music. I use Antrenamer that I find great for bulk renaming. Works on windows & in linux under wine.

https://antp.be/software/renamer

I use dupeguru for searching out duplicate files. https://dupeguru.voltaicideas.net

And i used to use a cataloguing app that I cant remember the name of now, That scanned HD/CD/DVD/USB/SD any media. after that you would be able to search the content of any drive that had been scanned whether it was attached or not...which is useful when you know you have a file but cant remember where it's stored....

Apparently its the 'hugging face' emoji. I always read it as patty-cake emoji.

Yes, thst is called infatuation and obsession.

“Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go”
by Susan Forward with Craig Buck
This book helped me. May it help you.
https://www.amazon.com/Obsessive-Love-When-Hurts-Much/dp/0553381423

to empathize on a particular point of your thread topic, I have been trying for several years trying to get back to my "normal" slim weight form I lost since I was 25, where in highschool I was a skinny twig. I've thought/dreamt of fantastical unrealistic ideas such as isolating and trying to live in the wilds on berries, or on a desert island like the movie "Castaway". Or that self-starving stunt by Chris Angel when he confined himself into a tube for like almost a month. I tried fasting for a week or so, and it had the stomach burning like crazy. Christian Bale did it between his body mass "chameleon" changes, but he admits all he did was self-starve/fast and drink cups of wine instead of eating. So I don't know, maybe those "green tea" fat burning pills help. Sometimes it "seems" to lose a pound a day taking it regularly, maybe for a while. "intermittent fasting" seems to help until giving up on it again after a couple of months of tallying and counting/estimating calories of every morsel eaten on a spreadsheet. I've been at a max about 75lbs over my desired "fat-free" weight, and as close as 20lbs away at some point of the past years, but still a blubber layer "spare tire" over my tummy and hidden abs I worked so much on and wishing my face can finally be fat-free again and cheek-boned like it was in my teens. Yes, I can empathize it's extremely discouraging to relapse compounded from feeling "bloated" again. Now I'm back to the usual 48lbs over again, and the "fight" continues year after year..

There's no law against daydreaming about love and sex. But you also need to know how to differentiate between fantasy and reality. We all fantasize about sex, or being President of the world, flying, being a superhero, etc. There's nothing wrong with it, just as long as you understand your limitations and what's realistic.

After being alone my entire life, I think when you get to my age a man is pretty set in his ways. I've never shared a bed with anyone, not even once, so I have no idea what it would be like to sleep with another person beside me all night. I'm a light sleeper as it as, and the idea having to share a bed with someone at this stage in my life seems troublesome; I don't think I would ever to be well rested if I had someone in my bed. Even with sex, there as a book called "Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty" by Mark Manson", and the author brought up an interesting point about how if you go too long in life just masturbating, you're going to have a difficult time actually being inside a woman, due to the nature of the sensitivity your penis is used to from jacking off compared to a vagina. Without going into much more detail, it essentially says if you've been only jerking most of your life, both you and your female partner aren't going to enjoy sex very much.

>...his female therapist said that virginity causes men to lose interest in stuff like schools, studying and friends...

For real? That's news to me.

I'm a 38-year-old NEET virgin. But I did kiss a girl once...in high school. But it was a fluke. Just a one time rare occurrence.

I need to say something useful.

Your post reminded me of a book. It's called Man Out: Men on the Sidelines of American Life.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0815732740/