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Hot or Not?
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17 reviews of this app found across Reddit:
Legitimately, I grew up convinced I was super ugly. I had a lot of hard things going on at home so I wasn't overly focused on it, but I'd never even been on a date before I was 21. When I was 20, to make a long story short, a neighbor of mine took a photo of mine and put it up on hotornot.com. I didn't know that is what he was using it for at the time. A week later, he showed back up with a massive grin and insisted I needed to see the results. I was horrified. I didn't think I could handle the blow of coming back a 4/10. I braced myself... and I was a 9.8/10 with more than a thousand votes. I absolutely could not believe it. I ran back to my apartment and grabbed a less flattering picture, and after another week I was a 9.6/10 with the new photo.
It was hard to accept that I might not be ugly, but I slowly started paying more attention to how people treated me and I came to this realization that I was extremely adept at turning positive things into negative. I'd walk into a restaurant and see women turn to look at me, and I assumed it was because I looked weird, or my hair must be all messed up, or I had mustard on my shirt. The more I cautiously experimented with it, the more I realized that I was actually attractive and I was the one who came off as cold, aloof, and disinterested. When I took the time to engage with women, all of the sudden they were extremely overt in coming on to me.
So legitimately, if you do get looked at that often and you've internalized that it means something bad, I'd recommend setting aside your assumptions and self-doubt, and actually testing it.
It took me years to really accept it, but I certainly like liking myself a lot more than hating myself (or at least the way I look).
This already happened. It was called hotornot.comI used to be on that site. They did exactly what you are talking about. I dunno if the hookup/dating site is still around.
I don't remember liking it tho. There are more unattractive than attractive guys out there. They tend to be quite generous when rating other unattractive guys. This lead to a lot of high scores.
Okay, many years ago I got a 9.9 on Hotornot.com. I am not that attractive. I'm referring to people in general telling you if you're attractive or not, who have never seen you in three dimensions.
I don't give a shit about Zuckerberg and I can't stand facebook.
But, hotornot.com was created in 2000. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hot_or_Not
Years before they had their idea. It's literally where they got their idea.
Also, Myspace had already been around for the social media aspect and there were plenty of chat clients.
They did not have a unique idea.
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We met 15 years ago on hotornot.com. I was actually still in high school and me and my gal pals were just flipping through for fun. I came across the guy I knew I wanted to be with and contacted him. We went on a date and haven't been apart since. Sometimes you immediately find your soul mate, sometimes love takes its sweet time finding you.
I can kind of see where the judge is coming from, however there's one thing that I think makes no sense.
How did she, a 14 year old girl, communicate with this guy unless she was misrepresenting her age on the app.
Either Zack would've had to misrepresent himself as under 18, or she more likely would've had to misrepresent herself as 18.
>If you are between the ages of 13 – 17, we are afraid you cannot chat or share photos with anyone above 17 years. If you are 18 years old or over, we do not allow you to start new conversations or share photos with anyone younger.
As he is 19, legally an adult, there's pretty much no reason the judge should be able to say he can't use the app. Even if he disagrees with it. That might come back to bite the judge if he's declared impartial (I'm not a lawyer though)
He's probably gonna go to jail or end up on a list for a long time and have to wear an anklet, even if he had no idea she was 14.
From a legal standpoint it "might" be possible for her to get charged with using a false identity, or to get sued for misrepresentation by the dude.
A key issue would seem to be how do you get 3D scan and how do people look at them? Hotornot presumably had a massive database of 2D results though.
https://mashable.com/feature/hotornot-history-20-year-anniversary
Just to let you know rating is frowned upon by the app store. Somewhere in the TOS for Apple, it says your app can not rate people and I think it uses HotorNot.com as an example.
She's not lying or blind. You have body dysmorphic disorder so strongly that you are irrationally convinced that only your view of yourself is "objective" (its not) and thus you are essentially in this moment gaslighting your partner by assuming she's either lying or stupid to hold a personal and very subjective opinion.
Go talk to a therapist about your body dysmorphia. I'm 36, chubby, bald, no idea what "eye area is abysmal is" that sounds like some incel canthal tilt shit you need to unlearn but like I used to get 4-5 on hotornot.com wayyyyyy back in the day.
I discovered, there are women out there who love my body type. I am a big bear. I'm not attractive to everyone, but to women who want a big broad shouldered dude with a "dad bod" apparently I'm quite attractive. I had a hard time believing it until I ended up married with a wife who fucked me a few times a day for 8 years and who talked more about how hot she found me behind my back than she did in front of my face because of my own issues with body dysmorphia I had to go figure out and deal with.
Nah you're insecure and your insecurities are warping your perception of yourself and now her. Literally, this is actual therapist territory and you should go see one.
Well based on hotornot.com from decades ago I am a 2.5/10 and my lack of any sort of matches on 3 different dating sites suggests in the time since then maybe more like a 1.5/10
I was scared shitless when I got booked as a twink. Guys were fapping to me in booking and making lewd gestures and I knew if I was transferred to genpop I would be raped. It didn't help that I was well into the 9's on the hotness scale (according to hotornot.com) either. The receipts: https://imgur.com/qgA9n9p
I got bailed out about 4 hours before transfer to genpop. Scariest shit I've ever been through. The charges were later dropped because I was basically arrested for being gay.
I was 19 at the time.
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Yes, I met my dream guy when I was 19, he was 18. I was seeing a guy at UF in a long distance relationship and came to meet him, and I spent the night and he introduced me to his friends the next day. They invite us to a sex party and he really wanted me to go with him so I said yes.
At the party, which was 5 gorgeous college age guys, I meet Dream Guy, the host's boyfriend. He was the exact height, twunk build, and happy cool guy persona I had envisioned for my "one". He was objectively (hotornot.com rated) in the 9's just like me. The orgy starts in their bedroom, works its way to the apartment complex pool (people were watching through the blinds!) and then the sauna and back to the apartment. In the hot tub and sauna, Dream Guy goes down on me forever and is being really cute and romantic with me and focusing everything on me.
Back in the apartment I'm getting plowed along with the Dream Guy on the bed but he's staring at me the whole time, making this hardcore eye contact. After the sex I go to the living room with my partner to crash but Dream Guy sneaks out to the living room and grabs me, looks into my eyes with this radiant smile and says "I really like you... do you like me?" And I said "yeah I do... and.... if you really like me so much... why don't you come with me when I leave here tomorrow?"
I couldn't believe I had said those words. Or that he said yes.
I stayed up all night long afraid he'd change his mind. I couldn't sleep. I just pretended to sleep next to my partner.
The next day he hadn't changed his mind, we dumped our partners, and we ran off together to Orlando. He told me he loved me the day after that, and I said it back.
I probably have a hundred or more crazy stories of how much fun we had together circuit raving. Wildest relationship I ever had.
I cant wait to meet my next dream guy!
A nice problem to have is still a problem that you have. You are not being a 'dumb bitch,' nor do you have to gratefully accept it. The problem that you have isn't that you're pretty, it's that you get more attention than you want, and the type of attention you get is superficial.
This is an annoyance, but what you can do is make sure that you have the traits you think you have so after they get to know you they still like you. Are you nice? Are you funny? People will gravitate towards you because you have what they wish they had, but that will fade away. Your introspection tells me you're a person of substance, but do you do what it takes to develop that? Do you read a classic book every now and then? Do you play an instrument? Be that person that you want people to see you as.
Then you get to use the one true advantage you have...start picking the company you want to be in. If people are overly obsessed with your looks, thank them politely and then move on. Find the people that interest you, and you'll be more likely to have them as company.
As a side note, when I was younger, as a guy, I was pretty good looking. Almost a 9 according to HotorNot.com. I got used to people being nice to me when they first met me, dates weren't too hard to get and I had opportunities offered that were surprising. Then I gained some weight after injuries and while I still had opportunities because of my background, I couldn't get dates and things got a bit less friendly. Let me promise if you don't want the attention, then all you need to do is gain a few pounds and it will go away.
I've considered dating websites before, (In fact, I was on HotorNot on ye olde 2004 dialup iternette.), but the horror stories keep me away from the mainstream sites.
And I've never seen Meetup.com. I'll check it out