I share your frustration. HIV incubated quietly for a decade before the bodies started to pile up. When the next lethal megavirus emerges (and it will), PreP won't save us. The condom-free crew will have already infected millions of our neighbors and partners. We can only hope that it won't be as deadly as the AIDS complex.
I worry about the deaths, but I also worry about the future of our rights and our place within modern society. We are currently at the "fool me once" stage of global sexual disease transmission. If the next virus is as lethal as HIV and the gay community is the leading carrier again, I am worried that the world will be less forgiving.
I'm not opposed to casual sex, by the way. Have had around 50 partners. I just consider it a personal duty to protect our community's reputation by refraining from unsafe sex. All sex without a condom is unsafe outside of an exclusive relationship.
My reasoning and instincts come from this book, which discusses the cultural response to the spread of HIV/AIDS, situation within the context of the bathhouse and free love subcultures of the 70s and 80s.
Most my gay friends (under 16) are on grinder and have been for years... I tell them to get off but they meet other 13-16 yr olds on there for a quick suck so doesn't look like they'll be stopping any time soon.
I know you said you don’t want advice, but take a look at The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World. You’re not only not alone, you’re surrounded by men just like you, dealing with the past.
Here’s a blurb: > The most important issue in a gay man’s life is not “coming out,” but coming to terms with the invalidating past. Despite the progress made in recent years, many gay men still wonder, “Are we better off?” The byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, rejection, and anger—a toxic cocktail that can lead to drug abuse, promiscuity, alcoholism, depression, and suicide.
Being gay is a lot like being Jewish.
You can be attracted to men and not 'culturally gay' e.g., Republicans chowing down on gay escort ass every CPAC.
You can be culturally gay and not attracted to men, e.g., the straight guys who were in my musical theater classes.
Now judging people on how culturally gay they are or are not is not cool.
But I also think it's weird to not discuss the history and socialogy that does attract gay cis men to drag and musicals as a higher rate than straight men.
Even historically there was terms for gay men that joined into culturally gay things and men that didn't: Queens and Trade.
Anyone more interested in this topic, I'm currently going through How To Be Gay by David M. Halperin.
When you read about why Victoria was fired, it seems more legit to protest. She was the one person most mods liked and trusted. She was resisting upper management pushes to make AMAs more commercial, so they abruptly fired her by removing her position. Seems like they're clearing the way to make Reddit all PR and "viral" marketing.
Edit: Some people requested a source on this, which one should. It's a bit of Silicon Valley insider baseball, but Marc Bodnick put up an answer on Quora saying that a reliable source told him as much yesterday. There's an anonymous source involved, so it requires trusting Bodnick. From my experience, he's a fairly outspoken, transparent guy that wouldn't give an answer unless he trusted it. Still requires trust in him and the perspective of the source. The Quora staff and Reddit folks overlap quite a bit in personal relationships.
When I went back to grab a link, the question Marc answered has been removed completely, which is rare for Quora. My hunch is that he was either completely right or completely wrong, but either way, a personal request got that question removed unless it violated some kind of Quora rumor-mongering rule that I don't know about.
There's still an image of his answer floating around Reddit, but I can't find it. Here's the link to the question about why Marc's answer was removed: https://www.quora.com/Why-was-Marc-Bodnicks-answer-to-Subreddits-Protest-Alleged-Firing-of-Reddit-Employee-July-2015-Why-is-Victoria-Taylor-no-longer-at-reddit-removed
Edit2: Going very far out on a limb, but part of me really wonders if Bodnick's source was Yishan. Yishan is active in the exact same circles. Impossible to know, but a rumor from that source would be more likely to cause the removal of the question itself and would also be high up enough for Bodnick to trust the information.
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Yes. And if you don't know there's /r/gaybrosbookclub which is about to start reading the really great novel Less by Andrew Sean Greer.
You fill it with water, shove the nozzle up your butthole and squeeze like you’re testing an avocado for ripeness. Don’t go crazy, it’s not a stress ball! Just clean out the immediate area. If it ends up taking your entire morning, you’ve douched your sigmoidal colon and you should basically just cancel your ~~hookup~~ entire day.
If you're interested there's a really good book about Achilles and Patroclus called The Song of Achilles
ETA: If written erotica is okay then you might want to check out Archive of Our Own - a quick search of Achilles pulled up 1600 stories (of course a lot of them are incomplete, irrelevant, or just not good, but there are bound to be some decent ones) with quite a few listed as explicit.
It's not really for dating, and it's not focused on being a place for underage people and as a not-underage person I can't directly vouch for those aspects of it. Disclaimers out of the way though, I've had a good time with Mochi (play store link cuz mochi is also the name of a food, don't know why they chose that for the name of the app but w/e). It's primarily anonymous and kinda just emulates reddit, but with emojis, but it's got a good community and has chat rooms for teens. It's kind of fledgling; dev is active and has some good plans for the app. The dev is on reddit but I cba to find their username atm x_x
This book I read is from a comedy writer who also has CP and is gay. If you want to try to find a laugh through this might be worth checking out!
Not in this case.
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They're a great company. I pay for their email services. There's absolutely no chance they'd sell any data because it would destroy their security-based business.
>A hate crime is a crime, it's already illegal. What does making it double illegal accomplish? Why do you think we deserve special treatment?
I was referring more to the fact that LGBT+ people are more likely than any other minority to suffer a hate crime than the whole legal aspect. What does it accomplish? Well, it recognizes the fact that gay people are a targeted minority and adds just a bit more discouragement.
>What's wrong with gay conversion? If you don't want to go then don't go. It's fairly simple.
I imagine that many gay minors don't want to go, but that isn't a problem in the vast, vast majority of states if their parents will it. That's what's wrong about it.
>Stop telling people what they can and cannot do with their own lives. It doesn't hurt you.
I want a child in my life. Why can't I adopt one?
What are some things you can do right now to take care of yourself? Are you at home? What about:
We don't always have other people around when we're lonely, but there are steps we can take to take care of ourselves.
Also, and this may sound silly but I stand by it, maybe get yourself a stuffed animal this weekend if you don't already have one. Given your username, maybe it'd be nice to have a stuffed bear, something to cuddle like this:
I hope you can take some concrete steps to soothe yourself and have more warmth and comfort in your evening. Take care buddy ����
Silicone takes forever to get out of sheets.
Here's my favorite lube. And it's water based.
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Lasts a long time, extremely slippery, very cheap, and won't stain sheets.
Highly recommend this book.
Drawn to Sex: The Basics https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1620105446/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_gypyCb6XQYYQK
The first volume in a planned, 3-volume, sex-education series.
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This is really horrific. It's hard to believe that your parents could be such awful parents, if they had been loving parents to you up until this point in your life. Here's the thing, though. You have had a long time to think about being gay, and took lots of time to process this in your own mind, and I'm sure there was some internal homophobia involved. Your parents didn't suspect you were gay, didn't process it well at all in the moment,and this is brand new to them and they reacted in shock and anger. Really terrible parenting, absolutely the worst.
I'd suggest you send them 2 books to read, hopefully they will not continue to act like 14 year olds. This will give them something to ponder, how 2 different parental reactions resulted in 2 decidedly different outcomes.
1 - Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son. It's the story of Bobby Griffith, who tragically jumped off an overpass into onrushing traffic, shortly after his religious mother reacted badly to his coming out. Bobby Griffith's mother ultimately became a gay activist, after she was wracked with guilt over having destroyed her son.
2 - The Family Heart : A Memoir of When Our Son Came Out. This is the life affirming story of parents who reacted amazingly to their gay son's coming out. Unconditional love all the way, and the author addressed directly the possibility of homophobia leading to suicide.
If your parents take the time to read these books with an open mind, it may help them realize the terrible mistake they just made. Do they really prefer having a dead son to a gay son? Because that does happen all too often.
I hope this helps you, and you are hanging in there.
A decent pair of boxer briefs (with a pouch for your big balls) should make you look hot without betraying your status as a top: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B016OE5PJQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_SFjxCbQWFVA42
That’s just an example, but I wouldn’t mind seeing you in those...
http://hubpages.com/relationships/Gay-Men-7-Places-to-Find-Your-Next-Boyfriend-thats-Not-a-Bar This article might help a little bit! Hope this helps you out a lil. The first one probably won't be great help but hopefully the others are.
I found that book to be a really good place to start and get the basic techniques down. It has a very strong focus on practicing getting unnecessary thoughts out of your head and getting back to focusing on what you want to focus on. That said, I don't like some of the goals the author has and don't agree with everything he says, so once you've got the basics down, look for books by other authors or seek in person instruction.
Thank you for sharing this, that's great news for you. For your parents, please do a little research and find the local PFLAG chapter. They have once a month meetings, where parents of gay kids meet to support each other in what amounts to a group therapy session. There are usually a wide variety of parents there, ones whose kids came out many years ago, just a few years ago, and newbies like your parents. The veterans share their experiences, and ask the new parents about their emotions, fears, hopes. Guidance and advice is offered, in a very welcoming atmosphere. Your parents don't need to go through these uncharted waters by themselves.
Also, I would highly recommend your parents read <em>The Family Heart</em>, a wonderful memoir written by the mom of a gay kid coming out. It's not recent, it goes back to the early 90's, but it is an excellent guide to parenting a gay kid. A good read for you, too.
Use a software program called Recuva to get the pictures back, and then slowly torture yourself jerking off to someone you know you'll never have.
Plan B would be to move on with your life, find the attainable, and forget about the guy you not only deceived, but can't have.
Plan C would be to offer the guy a blowjob and see if he's game to have a go. A lot of straight guys are willing to go that far, but don't expect him to return the favor, though he might.
As I applied elsewhere, Mississippi has places. Jackson has these groups. Literally google or search meetup.com for stuff in Jackson. And as someone who was stationed at in Biloxi, the Biloxi and Gulfport areas have stuff. Hell, you literally can drive from Biloxi to New Orleans in 90 minutes. Again, While you're situation is not ideal compared to other places, especially if in a rural area, you literally just have to look and you find somewhere to go to meet people.
I always use this to register new grindr accounts. Make sure to keep the page open for a while and possibly extend an extra 10mins in case grindr sends verification mails.
I do not trust grindr with my passwords because their IT is piss poor. Downside is when my phone died unexpectedly I have no idea what the email address was so I had to register a new one.
Race is not just an American thing. In fact Europeans came up with it and have continued to use to oppress not only PoC, but other groups like the Irish and Romani people. The History of White People is a book that talks about how whiteness and Race has evolved from Ancient Greece to today.
I am late to the party, this comes up all the time.
This study finds that there is a positive correlation between sexual "preferences" and racist attitudes
Please read it, it addresses many of the concerns about "racism" and "preferences" and "attractiveness"
I am going to the gym … exercise helps me a lot. Stay away from alcohol!
Please do not forget: sports might ease symptoms, but wont cure the underlying condition. With (chronic) depression you should seek professional help. There might be free counselling at a LGBT centre, public services, etc.
Mayo clinic: Depression and anxiety: Exercise eases symptoms
There was an article this morning on Reuters about LGBT life in Uganda. So it's still hitting the news and life is still just as bad.
The article was about a forthcoming lawsuit to try and make involuntary anal probes by police who suspect someone is gay, illegal.
Here's the link http://reuters.com/article/idUSKBN12X0WJ
larry kramer has written lots of stuff
see also https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Larry_Kramer ... in important ways he's responsible for helping ensure that people at risk for HIV infection haven't been left to die by the roadside.
yeah i want something subtle as well. I found this on amazon. pretty subtle to me and I am probably getting it.
My favorite water based lube is lynk anal lube.
It's slippery as fuck, lasts long, cheap as fuck, and doesn't stain your sheets like silicone or oil based lube does. It will come out in a single wash.
Here's the Amazon link:
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If I were an American citizen then I'd vote for Clinton. I still don't understand how people can take Trump seriously given his predilection for lying so frequently and dramatically. not to mention how much it would fuck up international relations.
as MrStilton said, nutritionist isn't a registered/protected term in many places. In Canada for instance, a dietician is a person registered federally and properly educated in dieting and foodstuffs.
It seems it could also benefit your son to actually meet an athlete and actually hear from them what their diets are like. He'd probably be surprised to learn how much Olympians can eat for instance.
Not to be that dude, but you may have to do male kegels to strengthen up your pelvic floor if you're having incontinence issues during sex. They are a thing, I'm not being cheeky. Just trying to help.
I don't think you're irrevocably broken, but dating sounds like a bad idea at the moment. From what you've described, I'm worried the types of relationships you would attract would be either abusive or codependent.
You need some friends. Strictly platonic friends. You can try looking on a site like meetup.com for LGBT social groups in your area. There's usually coffee meets, swim meets, gaming meets, whatever aligns with your interests.
Go back to therapy. If you weren't jiving with your therapist, try another. Sometimes it takes a while to find someone who understands you and can help you best.
Apparently they have a form you can use to get it taken down. There's a section about people posting your address under "personal harrassment"
I don't use cl so idk if it's effective or not but that's what google gave me.
Believe it or not this old book, How To Win Friends & Influence People, helps a lot of people to be able to make friends and be more confident in social settings, which is what it seems you need. At least give it a try. Reread it several times if you have to. Good luck with grad school!
<strong>There's a free PDF version here.</strong>
There are no hard and fast rules about anal penetration. It is extremely individual.
You have been experiencing damage, so my observation is that you find it quite difficult to relax. Male exercises to work the area are available and you should do them.
Also using some additional application of lubricant or types of lubricant should be investigated. (Since you aren't using a real person, a condom is unnecessary, but some people apply condoms to their toys for ease of cleaning and application of lube. NON-Safe Sex Lubricants that damage condoms may give you a lot more performance and help you relax)
Finally, check out poppers. They are a inhaled drug (Amaryl Nitrate) that relaxes the involuntary smooth muscle system (https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-poppers-22094)
Some of these and some real patience with your applications of lube might net a better result for your play time.
I think there's a sub where you can post request for videos but can't remember the name.
Anyways here's the video . Happy Fap Day Friday.
If you want a source here ya go as well: https://www.sutori.com/story/events-leading-up-to-the-crusades
The Seljuk Turks contolled the Jerusalem and advanced within 100 miles of Constantinople, the capital of the Byzantine Empire.
The growing power of the Seljuks was a threat to the Byzantine Empire. Christians in Europe also feared that they would not be able to safely travel to Jerusalem to visit sacred places in the Holy Land.
1095 - the Byzantine Emperor asks Pope Urban II for help. The Pope gives a famous speech at the Council of Clermont. He calls for a Christian crusade to stop the Muslims and take back Jerusalem.
If you're new to skin care, I would recommend getting a gentle, non-fussy routine. A basic universal face wash (like Cetaphil or even a store brand version), a basic toner like witch hazel, and an everyday moisturizer (you can't really go wrong). All three you could probably get for $20-25 total.
Everybody has different types of skin and will react to products differently, so I think very specific recommendations are arbitrary as far as skincare goes. Try some plain gentle stuff and see what happens first. Study your skin type and how it reacts to basic products. Are you dry? oily? Combination? From there you can expand.
Honestly the best anti-aging is sunscreen or SPF. Everyone should wear a facial sunscreen on the daily. I use Kiss My Face Face Factor Natural Sunscreen on my face as often as I can if I'm out in the sun at all. Whatever you get, get a sunscreen specific for faces, anything else will be greasy and will probably break you out. You can also just use a moisturizer with SPF and skip the sunscreen but it would have at least 30 SPF.
Also /r/SkincareAddiction probably has recommendations
> since homophobia doesn't exist anymore (outside of Islam) there's no need for these protections
Is the ex the one in charge of the account? Beyond the revenge porn law suggestion, Tumblr might have their own revenge porn rules that cover complaints against individual blogs. It would be worth complaining through their support links as well.
EDIT: Here's the link to their guidelines that say " Absolutely do not post non-consensual pornography—that is, private photos or videos taken or posted without the subject's consent." There's a link there to report violations: https://www.tumblr.com/abuse/privacy
EDIT 2: It's crazy how big a topic revenge porn is for sleezy tabloids. When you google Tumblr and revenge porn, the top links are NY Post and Breitbart.
Oh shit, there's an audiobook.
Currently it's Gregg Sulkin. He's a cutie patooty.
Also Colton Haynes, Grant Gustin, Darren Criss, & Neil Perry (from The Band Perry)
30-days after vaccine, with a 95% vaccine, should be good-to-go.
Still, wear a mask. Something like this could be fun: https://smile.amazon.com/TSWRK-Halloween-Costume-Protector-Studded/dp/B086PLVFC6
I read a book about cruise culture called cruise confidential
it's a big hookup scene. you might run into issues, but it's likely you'll be ok.
I can't say I have much advice for you, just empathy from someone in kind of the same situation. I'm not a fan of the apps, but for a different reason (I feel like everyone there has an agenda and it's really just a form of "selling" yourself). I'm also quite shy... which is funny because I also do a fair amount of public speaking and have zero anxiety speaking to large groups. When I tell people that away from the podium, I'm actually socially awkward and shy. If they've ever seen me doing a presentation, they refuse to believe it and assume I'm some "always-on" extrovert.
I posed a question like this a few days ago and didn't get much response, otherwise I'd share any gems of wisdom. One person suggested meetup.com but when I looked in my area, it seemed to be heavily weighted toward lesbians, and the gay groups were tiny or just didn't align with my interests. I don't know where you're located, but maybe that site would have more options for you.
I do look at my life and laugh. I grew up in Montana... basically an entirely rural state. I never had a hard time meeting guys back then. Now, I live in Honolulu. A city of nearly a million people, and I couldn't meet someone if my life depended on it. Strange how that works. Best of luck, bro.
The real question is why don't we mourn the loss of endangered species?
Human beings are rapacious, useless, hollow things. We shouldn't even be classified as mammals because every mammal on this planet instinctively develops a natural equilibrium with the surrounding environment but humans do not. We move to an area and multiply until every natural resource is consumed and the only way for us to survive is to spread to another area. There is another organism on this planet that follows the same pattern. A virus. Human beings are a disease, a cancer to this planet.
You may be able to find an app on the google/iOS App stores to do this for you, there are websites you can visit to do it such as http://ctrlq.org/google/images/ keep in mind that when you do use a reverse search it does upload their picture somewhere.
Alternatively, send the photo to your computer and do a reverse search from https://images.google.com/ as from a computer you can just click and drag the photo in the search bar and check but a phone does not allow it.
I'm no expert on this, by any means. Just passing along a suggestion as it worked very well recently for a friend, anecdotally. Your description is somewhat different, and sounds a little more intimidating, vs the Mayo Clinic's description, Transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) is a noninvasive procedure that uses magnetic fields to stimulate nerve cells in the brain to improve symptoms of depression. TMS is typically used when other depression treatments haven't been effective.
How it works
Repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation (rTMS) Repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation (rTMS) During a TMS session, an electromagnetic coil is placed against your scalp near your forehead. The electromagnet painlessly delivers a magnetic pulse that stimulates nerve cells in the region of your brain involved in mood control and depression. And it may activate regions of the brain that have decreased activity in people with depression.
Though the biology of why rTMS works isn't completely understood, the stimulation appears to affect how this part of the brain is working, which in turn seems to ease depression symptoms and improve mood.
Mayo Clinic psychiatrists have performed repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation (rTMS) treatments since 2002 as a part of nationwide research on this technology. Mayo Clinic was one of the first medical facilities in the U.S. to offer this treatment for depression after the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved the rTMS device in 2008.
This page also worth reading:
It's possible he just isn't aware of the mess or doesn't know how to tackle it. I'm that way - my husband has to give me directives in small, manageable chunks with a deadline (do the dishes by 6, sweep the floors before company comes, etc.). Otherwise I just don't recognize untidiness until it's really obvious, and by that point I lack the housekeeping skills to even know how to start fixing it. It's not ideal, but I'm worlds better today than I was when we met thanks to his patience and ability to understand and work with my weaknesses, rather than him just whacking me repeatedly with the nag bat. It's a good compromise for us.
I tend to be rather competitive and a bit of a gaming geek, and we did find one thing that worked well for a while: Chore Wars. We used to do a Friday night movie at home, and whoever earned the most points would get to pick. The problem was that because I had more free time and was so competitive, I always won - the house sparkled, until he got sick of watching horror movies every week. The game worked for me though because it reduced chores to small, manageable chunks.
Not yet! I've got my system down pretty well.
I hung this thingamabob next to my door and keep all of my clean masks on it (with my wallet, keys, and work ID lanyard on the shelf above)... when I'm leaving the house, I put my shoes on and grab my wallet, keys, and mask.
When I get home, I wash my hands in the first floor bathroom, take my mask off, and toss it in a bowl in the bathroom... On laundry day, I grab all the used masks from the bowl, wash them, and then hang them back up on the hooks.
Get into the mindset of polarising everyone you meet. You need to believe that they are going to be receptive or unreceptive no matter what you say or do. It's always either Fuck Yes or Fuck No from them which is decided before you even say Hi most of the time, and if it's a No it's usually their problem and only 20% of the time it's your problem.
Once you really get into this mindset, you can go up to absolutely anyone you want to meet and not give the slightest shit if they go for it or not. And when you actually do this, the amount of vulnerability you display by just putting yourself in the Accept/Reject situation so openly, is huge and will improve your attractiveness to people more than you can possibly know. Some would call it confidence but it's not, it's more than that.
Check out a book called Models by Mark Manson, I personally consider it a holy grail when it comes to dating.
Sudoku, we're also about to release a Wordsearch app and just started on Crosswords. Not the sexiest kinds of games (hence the "sort of"), but it's a living.
I'm watching a couple Thai ones that are excessively cutesy and although the main characters are very attractive, they seem very sexually aversive and even a hug doesn't happen until episode 15 etc. Here is one about the competitions between majors that I guess Thai colleges have.
On the other hand, I do enjoy many Korean dramas, although none of the primary (and very attractive) characters are gay. You can see many of these on Netflix, such as "Boys Over Flower." Many of the Korean dramas have the same themes, such as the girl likes one guy that doesn't like her but a second guy, that she likes only as a friend, does like her.
We all want happiness, but having him in your life is not the happiness I think you're looking for.
You can't rush happiness, just have to work towards it and be ready to accept it (and possibly adapt) when the opportunity comes.
Imagine a future you who's happy with his life.
Where are you?
What are you doing?
Who are you with?
Now start making goals that will help you move towards that ideal.
There's no deadline, so go at your own pace, don't rush.
Focus on accomplishing those tasks while also staying in a healthy, calm mindset.
If things come up, your ideals change, or your chosen path is stressing you out, stop, reevaluate, and work towards these newer goals.
I suggest a goal of finding supportive, trusting friends if you don't have a good group already (try meetup.com) so that you can talk about your feelings, get them out, accept them, and actively try to better your situation to put them behind you.
If you want to learn a bit of Russian, try Duolingo. It's free language learning online, and they have an app too.
It's very simple to use, and it's designed that you can jump right into it with no knowledge of the language whatsoever.
I commend you for wanting to help people in your community. You might try meetup.com to set up a group for guys in your area who want to get in shape but don't know how or where to start.
Seek people who share interests with you, often through clubs or organizations.
If you like board games, go to a board game meetup (check your local area's subreddit or search on meetup.com).
That way, you can more easily connect with people because you have something in common to talk about and they're most likely eager to hear what you have to say, even in depth.
As for meeting gay guys at these things, that's a little tougher.
There may be a queer meetup group near you or maybe start your own meetup group around an interest of yours and say the group is aimed at bringing local queer people together to foster a stronger gay community.
Possibly network your way into meeting friends of the group members.
🙏 no problems. lmk if you have any other questions.
i'm curious, do you like this guy? do you thin kyou have feelings for him? or is it just a fuck? do you ever hang out with him? whats it like hanging out with him? what's it like right after you guys finish? does he like nope tf out of there?
Why go there with no plan?
Never been to Yekaterinburg and Saransk so cannot tell. I suggest looking at sources like this https://weatherspark.com/y/103952/Average-Weather-in-Saransk-Russia-Year-Round
Sochi would be hot. It is almost subtropical climate if I recall correctly.
Check out a documentary called "For the Bible Tells Me So" if you haven't checked it out. It interviews the parents more than their gay kids and gives a really good perspective. Could be crushing to put in front of your parents though, since the Catholic mother featured lost her child to suicide and her story is really heavy. Either way, I think there's more to learn from the parent perspective there and it's really well done.
A site called http://www.snagfilms.com/ was where I found several documentaries that helped me through the thinking process as they featured the religion and gay thing. Emotional to work through, but really helped me reframe the big picture and get to the heart of what I really thought and believed about myself. Feel free to PM me for personal recommendations if it interests you.
Also, there's a gay guy that wrote a book called Torn that has been featured on NPR and stuff since it's trying to bridge the gap of understanding before getting to the parts we usually fight over. Haven't gone through it myself, but could have a lot of good vocabulary and ways to structure your case to your parents when you're ready to explain who you are to them. The same author also does a forum called Gay Christian Network and I think their private forums could have good specifics on your exact situations (For example, I'm not as familiar with Catholic parents).
The question really is, what is it about cuckold porn that excites you so much? If you could figure that out, your able to control it more. In the meantime:
Try FREEDOM for your phone and computer.
Email explaining the situation. I'd only provide links to the material if they say they will be happy to take it down. Their guidelines are pretty broad so I am sure your request for removal will be accepted.
Find a brand of plain psyllium husk and take it every day. Start with 1/2 tablespoon each day and see how your body reacts. Mix it with milk - or any other liquid you prefer - in the morning. I’ve been happy with Yerba Prima.
I'm all about practical functional gifts. Do you and your friends party at home together a lot? Have you thought about a speaker for home made karaoke parties? Maybe you could consider having a home karaoke party with his new gift.
Not sure if you have access to amazon, but me and my friends have gotten SO much life out of a speaker I bought and quiet drunk nights in with a laptop hooked up feeding into the speaker for youtube karaoke has been one of our favorite activities!
The one I bought was this one, but it's not in your range since I had to buy the microphone and stuff: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MX3OO1S/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Calvn Klein is your friend, and you can find a shit-ton of everything from them. Bright colours, dull monochromes, trunks, briefs or boxer-briefs, plain cotton or a specialised tech fabric, anything you like. Classic and stylish without being tacky
Maybe try their Customised Stretch range from Amazon. Currently a lot of good specials there as well, so maybe you'll find something which doesn't break the bank.
Otherwise, something from the cK Body range. Again, a wide variety of colours which can say something or be very reserved, whichever you choose. And made of modal, so it's like having your junk wrapped in baby ducks. and candy floss
I'd avoid the Steel if I were you - super soft but cut slim and the higher band will dig into you (speaking from experience with a bit of a belly).
First, read this infographic:
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r/bodyweightfitness routines app. This one. It's basically a guide with timers to follow some of their recommended routines.
Grindr gave their app a makeover. It has a darker theme now and on the Android version seems to have adopted some of the Material Design stylings. For example the whole grid now swipes to the side to show messages and favorites.
I'm assuming you're on iOS which might not have got the new version yet. You can see the screenshots on their Android page: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.grindrapp.android&hl=en
The point of her lawsuit was the coffee was unreasonably hot, wanted her bills covered and she was withheld that modicum of decency. Everyone knows coffee is "hot", but there is no reasonable expectation to be this "hot" (NSFL), blisters are expected damage, destroying your lap and crotch? Not so much. https://www.quora.com/How-did-McDonalds-lose-the-hot-coffee-lawsuit
Uh, if the minor produces and distributes sexually explicit photos of himself, he can certainly be prosecuted under CP laws. It has happened before. Minors on Grindr is bad news for everyone.
ALSO! You can sign up for Bing rewards! You get points for every search, get enough points and you can cash them in for gift cards.
You won't make a living, but I usually cash out $5 a month just for having it as my default search engine.
And yes, it's also good for porn.
Edit: Here you are - https://www.bing.com/rewards/dashboard
hey! in chicago, too, but city. try meetup.com and throw "lgbt" or "lgbtq" into the search. if you're @ all athletic, check out chicagomsa.org, the site of the gay city-wide sports league (bball, tennis, softball, soccer, etc.) even if you don't play, there's nothing to keep you from watching on the sidelines w/ your dogs and just chatting up anyone also watching w/in easy proximity. (i have a dog--a damned good looking and smart guy--and there's NOTHING to beat a dog for lending you social cred.) oh, and you know about the gay beach which is officially named "kathy osterman beach", right? gym bod or no, it's just a fun place to hang out in the sun; dogs are prohibited from memorial day to labor day on all city beaches. and don't forget to bring poop bags. have fun, and good luck.
Oh boy, the comments here are dismal. I've been giving this advice a lot lately: go to a meetup. (meetup.com) Force yourself to go to one. Compel yourself to go to one. You're not there to find a date. You're not there to change your life. You go to do something that interests YOU. While doing something that interests YOU, then you will meet other people, for whom the same activity is also interesting to them. That's how you'll make friends. The best relationships grow out of friendships.
As for being closeted. Ask yourself this: Do I want to be 40 and still closeted?
The meetup website has a whole section for lgbt meetups. Try one out. Maybe it'll be the first time you'll free and yourself. You won't know til you try.
I agree but help doesn't have to be expensive. I used to be a therapist at a University Psychology Clinic and we based our charge on the client's income. One of my clients paid $5/session. In addition (because drugs plus therapy work best), you can get generic Cymbalta or Fluoxitine for as little as $4/month.
Your city may have an events calendar where you might find something interesting to check out.
Try meetup.com or similar services bringing your local community together in platonic ways.
There is TONS of rejection for most of us because of how fast we can communicate with different people.
I feel like people suffer "the grass is always greener" syndrome on these apps and are just never satisfied until they get a perfect 10/10 guy, so if you're not what they're looking for, accept it and move on.
If it's affecting you this strongly, then take some time to rebalance your priorities.
Not saying you should stop seeking love entirely, just pull back and focus more on yourself.
Find someone or a group you can have fun with.
Maybe there's a meetup.com group you'd be interested in checking out.
> It may feel like the world is reaching a boil, but we actually live in the most peaceful and prosperous times in history. It's the business of news agencies to generate as many clicks and draw as many eyes to them as possible ...
This is it, a thousand percent.
I mean, are things perfect? Nope. There's plenty of drama around the world-- but there's also quite a bit to celebrate, too. A little bit of optimism goes a long way towards combating the constant wave of 'gloom and doom' that the twenty-four hour news pushes.
Likewise, I'd also like to add that, you might consider changing the channel or checking out other formats. NPR is an excellent news source, and they avoid the "shock" reporting that gets constant play on TV. Check them out sometime, you might find what you like.
Another article. When used regularly, PrEP reduced HSV 2 acquisition risk by about 36%. Pretty cool, if your already using PrEP to limit HIV risk.
That was a missed opportunity. According to GitLab's remote work guide:
> Having pets, children, significant others, friends and family visible during video chats is encouraged. If they are humans, ask them to wave at your remote team member to say ‘Hi’.
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Finally a person who answered the question.
Can you tell me what you see wherever your Rs333 status is shown? It's what you call 'mutation 1' AFAIK. I think it should be available at one of the below links.
I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure it's from [NSFW, obviously] Brad Kalvo fucking Mike Dozer
I remember somebody on /r/gaybros posting [NSFW] this pic from the scene so I decided to search for the video. I was actually pretty disappointed just because the bottom was way too vocal and it was unbelievably annoying. Hopefully you don't feel the same way.
There's a book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck that basically explains exactly what you've stated. It's a pretty good read if anyone's curious.
Crackers and jizz? What is this, a 70’s dinner party?
When you’re done serving the jellied salad and sliced-hotdog-and-pickle-on-toothpick hors d’œuvres, try upping your game.
This is the one I use. I don't bottom often at all so it's a game changer for me since douching is like my most hated activity and a primary reason why I don't bottom more often.
Dermalogica Total Eye Care SPF15 (0.5 Fl Oz) Eye Cream with SPF - Prevents UV Damage While Reducing Puffiness, Fine Lines, and Dark Circles https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000142AN0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_6L37FbD0F8DTY
All pubic hair grows really fast. Nair or Veet will burn like a mf because the tissues of the groin are "sensitive" to put it mildly.
I recommend this 110%. I use it fairly regularly and have no itching, no burning, nothing. It gets you completely smooth but is not a harsh chemical. Can get it for like 3 bucks at Walmart/amazon.
I don't remember if these were the exact ones but it was a similar box and they looked like this.
After searching "earplugs 200" on amazon it seems there are actually a number that are cheaper, as low as $16, but I haven't tried them.
As I said I recommend cutting off the back part. If you cut it at a bit of an angle it will leave a little tail to help you pull them out. Also if they are too quiet you can cut off a sliver lengthwise.
The set I got had 3 sizes. The one I wear the most is the medium which is 4" in length and ~4.5" in circumference at its widest. I got mine off amazon for like 25 bucks. Here's a link to the set I got if you're interested.
What size did you use? My guess is it's just way too small. The small size that I got was the exact same feeling (or lack thereof) that you described.
I use this one. It's 3.34 to 2.94" in circumference and And 4" inches long, according to amazon. Maybe I should try a bigger one.
This is a coincidence, my good friend also mentioned that a bracelet might make me more approachable lol
I just bought this off amazon like yesterday
Hamoery Men Women 8mm Lava Rock Chakra Beads Bracelet Braided Rope Natural Stone Yoga Bracelet Bangle(Lava Chakra) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B072LP4SZB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_2K3VAb4D587X6
I’m thinking it gets the point across but still looks nice and classy.
all of them are pretty good. I found this bulb on Amazon although I rarely ever have to use it.
Enema bottle with the laxative dumped out and filled with water works too. Fleet or off-brand, they're basically the same plastic bottle.
I started on the smallest size in the kit. And I got it at a sex shop in my city. But I just looked it up on Amazon
Now. I can bottom pretty well after practice and patience and getting used to things being in my ass. But that third size still doesn't go in my ass. I feel like they skip the large size and go to XL lol
So when doing something like your face you lay it flat.
When trimming a spot you do not want it to catch, lay it 90 degrees and just drag it. It has at most minorly caught my skin (not cut it) only a handful of times. You can get a close cut with it too. Same as no hair? no. But almost none.
One can always hope!
Here's an endearing (tho straight) sitcom about that. I can't hardly wait for season two.