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No big deal. This is what i use. Put it near where they are coming out and they will find it. Then they will surge like crazy for it for 24-72 hrs depending on the size colony. Then they will all die. It kills the entire colony.

TERRO PreFilled Liquid Ant Killer II Baits, 3-Packs of 6 Baits Each https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JG77GUK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_9FeiBbDBQKRCQ

First of all, relax. You've got three grand in debt. Most people have tens of thousands. You're in such good shape it's kind of irritating...

You make three grand a month, and pay 20% of your income in rent. You should have have no problem whatsoever coming up with a budget that would have that debt paid off in under 2 years. Buy a copy of You Need A Budget, install it and follow the instructions. You'll be right as rain in no time.

In terms of freaking out about the world ending...grow up. Being an adult means staring potential disaster in the face on the daily. You think you are stressed out about news in North Korea; try keeping a toddler alive. Freaking out about the world ending is some emo teenager bullshit, so knock it off.

Now is a good time for you to learn Ring Theory. https://lifehacker.com/use-the-ring-theory-to-keep-from-saying-the-wrong-thi-1798540880

When my husband had cancer, I blocked anyone he didn't want to talk to right then. You are not the person protecting this person, you're in an outer ring.

Might want to go to a dentist and ask about mouthwash. Mine discouraged me from using it.

Brush and floss twice per day, once in the morning before you go outside and once before you go to bed.

Make sure to use soft toothbrushes. The softest you can find. Don't push too hard or you can damage your gums.

If you have trouble reaching into the back of your mouth to floss your molars, get one of these.

EDIT: One more thing, if you find that your teeth are really sensitive, especially when you eat cold food, try switching to sensodyne toothpaste or whatever the equivalent brand is where you live. I've been using it for 8 years now.

I'm 23 with a sister who turned 8 last month. I got her this stop motion kit from Amazon a while back ($50) and she's bananas for it. She'll send me a dumb little video every once in a while and it's a low pressure way for us to stay in touch, and gives her a creative outlet. She has to use a computer for it, I think, so it's possible that just the iPad might not work.

When she was a couple years younger she loved science kits (~$10 online) and art supplies. I also made up a letter writing kit for her (pens, paper, stickers, envelopes, markers, stamps, address book) and she LOVES writing letters and getting responses in the mail.

Our parents are pretty shit, so the biggest hits have been gifts that keep me and her in touch without them as a middle man, or things that help her feel independent of them. Hope that helps. Good luck gift shopping!

what is the law on "right to record" in your place of existence?

if its legal to record someone without consent, i would get the cheapest security camera or dash cam and have it set up in the room. out of his sight and have it record 24/7 and just overwrite itself. then when an outburst happens, you have evidence

if i was you, i would buy https://www.amazon.com/Dash-Cam-Mirror-Mount-KDLINKS/dp/B0102CK1BS/ (It will run off of a usb wall brick) and whatever the cheapest 16gb sd card you can find is. so you will probably be in it for about $16.

I highly recommend the book The Guide to Getting It On.

It is a huge book but covers everything you'd ever want to know, from anatomy to techniques to communication and even sex with disabilities.

A lot of people with CPTSD get to a healthy, stable place where they’re not controlled by emotional flashbacks and triggers. You can too. I recommend reading this book before making any life changing decisions. That link takes you to a PDF of the whole book if you’re unable to purchase a copy of your own. I’ve made leaps and bounds in my recovery journey bc of this book and I’m only a third of the way through.

Radical self love and self compassion will be your biggest tools for moving from surviving to thriving. Ignore any thoughts that aren’t kind and loving towards yourself. You didn’t deserve any of the painful experiences you had. You deserve love, compassion, kindness, peace, support, and encouragement. I hope you find a lot of ease, comfort, and relief really really soon OP.

Also head over to r/CPTSD if you haven’t already. It’s an incredible community, even if all you can do is lurk.

ETA to answer your question.. disability is a great option if it’s your only option, but like another commenter pointed out, it’s a poverty trap. Do what you gotta do but maybe read that book before deciding that you’re destined for a life of ptsd symptoms.

One thing I do with my kids is tell them "bed time stories" that are basically kiddie PSAs in narrative form. They start out with "This is a story about X who is $yourGender and $yourAge+1." I want them to identify with the kid but also want to be like them, a braver older child who does the right thing.

• They're playing at the park, and older kids knock them down while roughhousing.
• They're playing in the front yard, and a really nice man asks them to help find his missing puppies.
• They get lost while at the mall or a fair.
• Their parents get separated from them while camping.
• There's a fire in the house
• A really nice neighbor wants to play with them and have them keep secrets from their parents.
• While they're playing with their black friend, a mean kid comes up and says they shouldn't play together.

You can dial the spooky/scary parts up or down with the inclusion of details or the emotional reaction of the protagonist.

Your child is probably old enough for the "I Am..." series by Brad Meltzer, which have a very heavy emphasis on bravery, not so much on spooky. Here's a gift box as an example, but there's like a dozen books in the series now. It's an excellent series. For the ones that end with tragedy, like MLK, they typically omit that detail.

If you really want to find out, you can get a simple water test kit that will show you the amounts of chlorine and copper in your water (along with other stuff like lead, mercury, etc).

First, do not try to self-medicate with unregulated street drugs - pharmaceutical or recreational. That's just a recipe for disaster.

You should apply for health insurance through the government's Affordable Care Act websites. At your level of income I think you'd qualify for free coverage. Start at https://www.healthcare.gov.

Money's pretty tight for you, so I suggest that you make it a habit to check the clearance rack at whatever big-box store you usually shop at for something that will be tolerable.

Off-brand canvas sneakers don't last long, but you can often pick up a couple pair for $5-10 each. Wear the "good" shoes on days you're going to be most active and wear the cheapos to give them a chance to air out.

If you get a second device you may need to set up new accounts, new passwords. New user names. New email also so there are no connections between the services.

There are apps that let you create secret folders on your phone that are password protected. Folders can be given innocuous names and you can have safe stuff that initially shows with the password. But if you put a second password in it opens access to your secrets. You give your parents only the safe password. Pretty sure some work that way. You can even hide apps in the folder. Then get an app that creates an instant email address. Hide this app in folder. The addresses can added and deleted as you wish. Try this: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=air.kukulive.mailnow

Talk to tech savvy friends about camouflaging your phone.

Confirm that if you use the secret folder that it won't be visible to your parent's app when you open it.

Another year and you can get out.

Best.

S.

I'm not sure whether I would talk to the neighbors or not - I've seen times where the neighbors start being VERY rude after being asked about their smoking. Asking them to smoke outside is probably going to be a bust, tbh.

Can you close the vent? And/or buy a HEPA filter that claims to help with smoke (not all can handle it, so something like this one: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D52E2XG/ )

Yeah this, op. My place has casement windows with no screens and it drove me nuts not being able to open windows to get fresh air without inviting in all the bugs. I got this one and it's helped a lot. I even got my mom one for help with her allergies last mother's day and she said it has been an improvement. I did a lot of reading on air purifiers and it's pretty decent for the price before you start getting super expensive.

Good stuff. Getting to know the neighbors, especially. Security cameras are super cheap now and they work really well with phone apps.

Also OP, get a personal alarm like this one and a tactical pen.

I highly recommend a stun gun flashlight. They come in bunch of different colors. If you get one, make sure you practice how to weaponize it to protect yourself. If the shock noise is loud, all the better to scare off any potential attackers. Make sure you use the wrist strap so it doesn't fall. I'll walk home with it armed and in my hand.

I mean obviously, double check what your local laws are about carrying stun guns, but I'd rather deal with a weapons charge for defending myself than to be attacked or dead.

We got each of our kids the queen size of this mattress from Amazon for $249. Description: Mattress America Frost 13 Inch Hybrid Pocket Coil Pillow Top Mattress Gel Infused Memory Foam (Queen)

We find their mattresses comfy (and we have a new expensive mattress ourselves, lol). When one of the kids is sick or not feeling well, one of us parents either sleeps in their room with them or gets booted from our own bed. Honestly, it’s a really good mattress, and that’s before considering the price.

Absolutely second this, it is a great book for young women especially. Gavin de Becker will explain in more detail what I was trying to say in my comment above, about how our instincts work and what we need to pay attention to.

Amazon has a Look Inside on the book, so you can get a feel for what he can teach you:
https://www.amazon.com.au/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0440226198?asin=B0036Z9U2A&revisionId=b73b3628&format=1&depth=1

First make a budget and stick to it (don't go full Nazi, flexibility is important).

Then take your cards and order them from interest rate in decreasing order. Pay the one with the highest interest first while paying minimums on the rest. This is the Snowball Method, and it is the cheapest long term method.

Either increase you income or decrease some spending. That's where the budget comes in to play.

Also, read two books Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey and I Will Teach You to be Rich by Ramit Sethi. These two books are very good, but do differ in their advice (like how to paynpff cc debt), I personally prefer Sethi's book.

And above all, stay calm, take a deep breath and accept your screw ups.

NOTHING in the whole enormous world we live in? Nothing in common??!?!

No offense but you're both in HS and you have seen or experienced almost nothing so far in your lives. Pretty sure that if you triedyou could find things you have in common.

And, even if you don't, make your relationship about finding out what you each do or don't like by exploring new things together.

You don't have to end up liking the same things,you can just go on the journey itself together.

So for example:

Go to https://www.duolingo.com/courses and pick a language you know nothing about agree that you will both complete the first 5 lessons or so and you can talk about what you like/learned/didn't understand/found funny and just have some general fun practicing over skype with each other.

Go play some rounds of something like geoguessr.com and see some places in the world you would never otherwise see.

If one of you knows how to knit and the other one doesn't or whatever, try out teaching the other person something you know. They don't have to take up knitting forever but making a crappy scarf could be fun if they turn out to be all thumbs and the scarf wouldn't fit anyone but a hamster, so what.

In short, life is about shared experiences and growing and learning new things, not about "well this is the tiny list of things I like and therefore I must find another person who likes the things on my tiny list and boy, i better not talk to anyone at all who doesn't like my list." good lord, the world would be a really boring fucking place.

Once you grow up you will meet alllllll kinds of people and those people will be cave divers, and motorcyle riders and art historians, and if you both want to have a great life you'll learn how to engage with people of all kinds, who have interests that you can't even imagine "like, really, that's a thing? who knew!"

What keeps people going is resilience. The good news is that it's something you can develop (and I know that because I've gone from having none to being pretty healthy). To get started, you need to do cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT teaches you about cognitive errors that lead to the problems you've been having. For example, "all or nothing thinking" leads you to think that once you've failed at one thing, that you're not good at anything. Without the cognitive error, you can see what's really happened. Maybe you didn't prepare well enough--that's something you can fix. Maybe you chose an endeavor that isn't a good fit for you, and you can use this information to figure out better fit. Maybe you didn't have a key piece of information. There are lots of reasons for failure that don't mean "I'll never succeed at anything," and finding out those reasons gives you the resilience to try again. And again. Sometimes you'll fail, sometimes you'll succeed, and you'll always be learning.

As far as how to go about CBT, seeing a therapist is always an option. But CBT works really well in book form. I highly recommend "Feeling Good" by David Burns. It's cheap at Amazon. Go through the exercises, and you'll see an improvement in your depression, in your resilience, and in your relationships.

You mentioned in a comment that you interview well... Are you a good communicator in general? If so, a customer service job that allows you to telecommute (work from home) might be a really good match for you. I just generically searched "remote jobs in Texas" and got quite a few results for those types of positions. Might be a good place to start with the unemployment/no reliable transportation combo.

Edit: Also, you probably qualify for a discount on your energy bill. Click here to apply, or google "Lite-Up Texas" for more info. (The application page makes it sound like you have to be on social benefits to apply, but you don't. As long as you're currently making less than about $15,000 annually, you qualify for this year.)

In my experience, it will look better over time. Keep it clean. My mother always told me to use Mederna scar gel for healed scars, though.

I’m in the same boat as you. Just bought real pots and pans for the first time in March. I had the Rachel Ray set all through college and I basically destroyed it by using the dishwasher instead of hand washing it. I just threw it away.

But now I use my cast iron for most things that I want a good sear or crust on- like meat. For other things-like steaming broccoli or making pasta sauce- I use this stainless steel set.

Okay microfiber sheet great

Comforter and duvet. I bought my comforter on amazon and its amazing it was 30 bucks

My duvet was 80 bc I loved the pattern and its pottery barn on ebay. You can buy for less though

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00UXLH5JK/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

That is my comforter. I live in texas and the temps drop or rise without notice. I hate being cold or hot and I feel like it keeps me even

I haven't gotten Obamacare myself, but I know that Open Enrollment for 2018 is between Nov 1 - Dec 15, 2017. If you don't enroll then, you have to wait almost a year before the next open enrollment unless you qualify for a special enrollment period.

It's pretty normal for interest groups to already exist, you just have to find them and join them. Look at meetup.com and search for Facebook groups in your area for your interests. Or go to places where your interests are (craft stores, comic book shops, art supply shops, gaming stores, gyms, etc) and look for flyers for local groups. If your interest trends towards the outdoors, where there's no place for flyers, there are almost surely groups on Facebook for hiking/biking/climbing/whatever in your area. Theater, choir/choral groups, improv groups, etc all generally have online presences as well. Just do a google search for your interests in your area and you will probably find a group waiting for you to come check out! Even if your interests trend towards the more esoteric, you'll probably find an online group nearby with in-person meetups.

If you are paying rent you need to call your maintence person. It’s likely your unit is broken. Homeowners pay for maintenance requests, not you. I used to think I’d get in trouble by asking someone to come by, realized 3 years into my lease I was wrong.

If the home owner refuses I’d suggest going to the doctor and telling them their lack of care had caused them to make you sick. That might make them fix the issue faster.

If you still feel uncomfortable, I’d suggest purchasing a space heater. $25 on amazon can heat an entire flat.

Brightown Space Heater 750W/1500W ETL Listed Oscillating Quiet Ceramic Heater with Adjustable Thermostat, Portable Electric Heater Fan with Overheat Protection and Carrying Handle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0746KF1GH/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ofxrCbNV8Y1T4

> aside from professional sports players

Now I know what the pervasive “we’re a professional sports team, not a family” tech-company cliché that Netflix started actually means…

Loss of health coverage should be a "Qualifying Life Event" which would allow you to sign up for your employer's healthcare even though it is not during the open enrollment period.

If you really cannot, you can go to California's marketplace and see what is available. At your age and if your are generally healthy, you should look for a high-deductible plan that includes an HSA. Any money you put into the HSA is pre-tax. So put some money into it each time you get paid and then pay for all your medical expenses using the HSA. (You can also open an HSA on your own.)

Unfortunately an IUD and therapy sessions are likely not enough to hit your deductible for the year. So while you may get discounted rates, you will still be paying out of pocket to some extent.

I'd also go with this being good advice. its mostly about having complete control of your money and where it goes and knowing where its going to be spent before you spend it.

let me learn how to make a google doc and ill upload my excel budget spreadsheet. its not the prettiest thing but its pretty good for beginners.

edit: here is a link

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0Bx1e6f6Whu3UMllmN0RpTUQ3LVU/edit?usp=sharing

let me know if that works.

Google has a "flights" tab. https://www.google.com/flights

Round trip tickets are a thing.
Give yourself extra time to get lost etc. Take snaks, and empty bottles you can fill with water after you go through security. I like to bring flavoring to add. Or just pay $4/bottle at the airport stores.

read this: https://www.wikihow.com/Take-Flattering-Photos-of-Yourself

or any number of other articles that speak to this subject.

Pic the best one you can.

That said: I'm not sure that any women take strange men chatting them up on Facebook seriously.

I swear this is something the universe does. I am not afraid of spiders but I am terrified of bats. So you can guess what lived above the doorway in my first home. Find an old broom or a long stick and then just throw it all somewhere.

Also this exists; seems like would be good for you to have. There's different kinds.

My Critter Catcher - Spider and Insect Catcher (Pink) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M31XBV5/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_api_glt_fabc_KXH4RMWX3XNASR8D6FWG

First of all, I am sorry that this happened to you. No matter what happens, what people tell you, this is not your fault, it's the scumbag piece of shit's fault, and he should pay for the crime that he committed. Before you make the decision on whether you should attend the trial, you should be aware that during the trial the defendant's lawyers might do whatever they are allowed to to deflect the blame and sway the jury's judgement, and that might reopen some old wounds.

A while ago I read the book written by the victim of the the Stanford rape case. She described in detail the whole trial process, the challenges and difficulties that she and her family faced. You might find it useful. If the book is too long, you can read the letter that she read to the rapist in court, and was later published by Buzzfeed.

Remember, it's not your fault. We are rooting for you.

If you want a paper-book reference guide, this is really good:

https://www.amazon.com/Cooks-Illustrated-Cook-Library-step-ebook/dp/B001RF3U9U

If you'd rather learn from video, check out some of Rachel Ray's old "30 minute meals" videos. (There are probably a ton of youtubers now, but I learned all my cooking basics in the heyday of FoodTV.) Looks like they might be available on Amazon.

For a more comprehensive course, there is Alton Brown's Good Eats.

I had them pretty bad a few years ago. Homemade traps didn’t work for me, but Beapco traps from Amazon got rid of them completely right away.

Two things. One, 5 GHz networks offer higher max speed, but have trouble getting through walls and such compared to the older 2.4 GHz. Some routers only do 2.5; others provide two networks. If you're using a 5 GHz connection, try the 2.4 one.

Two: have you changed the channel your wifi broadcasts on? Wifi broadcasts on different frequencies called "channels", and most people leave them set to the default, meaning that a ton of people are on channel 6 or whatever. You can download an app like this one to find an unused channel to switch to, which may extend your range.

Otherwise, maybe buying a new router would do you good. If you're using one from your ISP, those are generally pretty crappy. There's also some business with which way it should be oriented; you might have it sideways or something.

Ditto the sheet suspenders! I have these ones and they work great: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M6E9JV8/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Np! Btw, I just checked and I have this Gold Bond stuff, not Arm and Hammer.

An excellent primer of Good Study Habits and Effective Learning Methods can be found here on Coursera. It's free, homeworkless, and super simple! https://www.coursera.org/learn/learning-how-to-learn/ Hope it helps. :)

> The whole insurance thing does not make any sense.

While I agree to some extent, I think OP is misstating something that is true: Open Enrollment for the ACA is closed for 2016. Nevertheless, this person may qualify for Medicade or other help.

The fee for not carrying insurance is 2.5% of your income or $695 per adult, whichever is higher. So roughly $60 a month, given that this person is making close to nothing, as OP implies.

The ACA also doesn't require you buy your employer's insurance, as OP says. It requires that employers of a certain size offer insurance to full time employees.

And I can't see how one's financial situation impacts one's eligibility for health insurance. I haven't heard of an instance where they did a credit check to determine what your health insurance rate would be.

All in all this post is littered with errors related to how health insurance "works" in the US.

This. And if you stay in front of the screen, use f.lux and try to avoid action movies/series. We need to wind down before sleeping. Reading is a great way to do so.

I'd suggest you to avoid drinking coffee or alcohol after 6 pm.

Mint is a free, reputable online tool that might help you with budgeting https://www.mint.com/ (made by the same company that makes TurboTax).

But otherwise, budgeting can be very simple: Write down everything you NEED to spend money on, estimating the things that aren't exactly the same each week like groceries (better to overestimate a little bit.) After a few months you should get a pretty good sense of what the minimum amount you can live on is. Since your income is inconsistent, you will have to estimate what you can reasonably pull in each month, and it will be more important for you to save a chunk of money to tide you over when your income is lower. If there is money left over, you can spend some of it for yourself. The hard part is usually just keeping really good track of everything you spend, which Mint or another software might be able to help you with. One strategy is to take out x$ of cash each month for fun spending--then it's really easy to keep track of how much of that part of your budget is left.

Good luck!

Is it dry-hot, or humid-hot?

If it's dry-hot, an evaporative cooler (also called a swamp cooler) can be extremely effective at cooling a small space, doesn't require an open window, and it will increase the humidity in the room so it may be easier on your dry eyes.

When I used to wear hats I had a couple ball cap washer things.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VV2TRY9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_AMZ3RCM6N5EYCMRRS8GV?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Then I'd just throw them in the dishwater without soap or the washing machine with half the soap depending on which was empty at the moment.

Portable door lock. $10 on Amazon.

Link : https://www.amazon.com/Drawstring-Unauthorized-Additional-Protection-Apartment/dp/B08LK7X33Z/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_sspa?adgrpid=56080104476&dchild=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI7JXBv43-8AIVgD2tBh31EQF-EAAYAiAAEgLFdfD_BwE&hvadid=274713296588&hvdev=m...

Is this the book? I'll probably grab it for my fiancé. We're definitely planning on him being as involved as possible, and it will be nice to have a book for him to look through.

Personally I use a Nivea Men shave gel(makes it super smooth and has a great smell) and Dorco razors from Amazon. You can go the Harry's/Dollar Shave Club option, but Dorco is a fantastic company with killer prices. This is the kit I bought.

If you don't want to mess with tinfoil, you can also buy disposable drip pan liners at any grocery store or big box store. Don't buy those ones on Amazon, that's not a good price for them.

If you can find a fine tooth comb and try comb the hair around your ears and in the neck and see if you can find any eggs/lice. If you cant find any after you been itchy for 3 weeks its probably not lice as you will be able to see them on the comb. (there are also special lice combs for this)

There are also the possibilty of eczema or that your scalp isnt happy with your shampoo/conditioner or even possibly fungus.

If you dont haved lice you might wanna stop by a dermatologist or doctor. Even a hairdresser might be able to tell you whats happening and how to fix it. Your scalp is just skin with extra hair so it can get itchy for a lot of diffrent reasons

No face shown - no way to ID you specifically. Don't worry about it. If you're gonna do stuff like this in the future, use Tor Browser and ProtonVPN. Both very simple to use.

Those are the condoms between you and the rest of the filthy Internet.

In college my major was interpersonal conflict analysis and resolution. We learned that you can't control the ways others feel or react but you can learn to communicate more effectively by using "I statements". You've probably heard about them in school but they really can help diffuse difficult situations. Google those to refresh yourself and try to use them as often as you can. Also, here is a good book to help you as well. Good luck!

https://www.amazon.com/Confronting-Conflict-First-Aid-Kit-Handling/dp/186989071X/ref=sr_1_13?dchild=1&keywords=interpersonal+conflict+i+statements&qid=1599000432&sr=8-13

You really don't need a large filing cabinet for the records of one person. Just a small portable file folder.

Apps like OneNote are great for organizing your notes and lists. You can also use it for storing digital copies (photos) of your important documents if you'd rather not keep physical copies. It is cloud storage based so if you lose your phone you won't lose your docs.

Don't bother keeping all your receipts. Just the ones from big purchases. Computers, power tools, appliances, etc. Throw them in the file folder along with the warranty info and maybe the manual (although it's getting pretty easy to find old manuals online nowadays as long as you have the model #).

I have severe eczema, including my scalp. There are 2 things I’ve done that have made a big difference:

1. Scalp massager/brush! I’m a girl with long curly hair and keep my nails a decent length (short, filed, but long enough to be able to scrub with) and discovered that my nails were tearing up my scalp while I was trying to remove loose/dead skin! I bought [this scalp massager ](www.amazon.com/dp/B074ZDXFL6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_uhgpFb6BK77DZ) on the recommendation of the r/curlyhair subreddit. I was a little skeptical, but the “bristles” are flexible silicone (not hard, pointed plastic like I had assumed) and it feels sooo good. I detangle my hair first so I can brush easily.

2. I started following the Curly Girl Method. r/curlyhair has been a huge help, but it made a difference for my scalp once I found the right products. No silicones, no parabens, no sulfates—those are the things that strip natural oils from the scalp/hair. I scrub my scalp with Trader Joe’s tea tree conditioner and condition with Tresemme coconut and aloe conditioner. Moisturizes the scalp, tea tree oil helps the itchiness. Once a week, I shampoo with one of the L’Oreal sulfate free shampoos. I have a prescription topical solution for outbreaks of eczema, but as long as I keep up the routine, wash every other day, I don’t usually need it!

FWIW, I added these

https://www.amazon.com/Soft-Picks-Dental-Picks-Advanced-Count/dp/B06ZZYMXMW/ref=sr_1_9?dchild=1&keywords=brush+pick&qid=1597791033&s=beauty&sr=1-9

at night. I never could stick to flossing with string, but these are so easy, and my dentist likes the results.

Couldn’t find the exact same offer, but this is pretty close. Glad someone is finally taking my advice lol! 48 towels for $26.99. Free shipping

I just searched "women's fitness app". This is the one I use, but I've used multiples. Just basically whatever's free and easy to use.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=loseweight.weightloss.workout.fitness

As others have said, it is very likely their policy is no piracy. If you feel you "have" to, you can use a VPN (I suggest Private Internet Access, but others work too). If the school closely monitors your activities they will see you are receiving and sending encrypted data, but can't know what the data is. Read their policy first to make sure VPNs are allowed. It seems very unlikely they would ban them, but it doesn't hurt to be 100% sure.

If you're an Android user I can't recommend Blacklist Plus enough (I am not affiliated with them in any way, just a happy user).

Most knitted items can be reshaped while they're wet.

If washing by hand, remove as much water as you can. You don't want to twist it as that can distort the garment's shape. Instead, roll and squish it to get the water out. If machine washing, use a gentle cycle.

Then, lay it on a flat drying rack or towels and pull the sweater to reshape the yarn as desired and let it dry in that shape. If you use towels you'll want to periodically flip them over and replace with fresh towels so the sweater dries.

1) It's about balance. Helping others and helping yourself are not mutually exclusive.

2) Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It has a very good section on this. I used to feel a bit similar, but I've realized that so much of that is simply outside of my sphere of influence. I do what good I can in my day to day, stay active in my community, and continue improving myself and my career. That's all we can do.

This is what I use: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.appxy.tinyscanner&hl=en

To get it to work right, you'll need to place the document on a surface with a contrasting colour and take the photo with the camera facing straight down (not at an angle). Similar to how you can deposit checks with online banking apps.

- a Chicago bears fleece blanket

- A Marvel or Star Wars daily calendar (the desktop kind with a new page each day)

- fancy cigarette lighter like https://www.amazon.com/BOLT-Lighter%C2%AE-Rechargeable-Windproof-Cigarette/dp/B01KBG43UA/

- Star Wars/Marvel mug or t-shirt. Etsy is a great place for stuff like that

Call a domestic violence help line. They will help give you tools to live beyond your mother's control without her finding out.

A huge part of getting out of abusive situations is keeping things secret until your entire plan is in place.

1. Apps on your phone or computer disguised as news apps or other things which are actually recording devices/domestic abuse outreach apps.

2. Secret temporary mailing address. Ask a friend if you can have mail sent to their place for a little while. No friend? Send it to care of your university. Some schools have student mailboxes available as well. At first you just need a one time use.

3. Secret credit card. Walmart and other big stores love to sign you up and they don't care about your age or credit history. I've signed up BY ACCIDENT before (damn you Home Depot). Use the temporary address.

4. Secret permanent mailing address - if you haven't secured a student box, you can now use your credit card to rent a box at the post office.

5. Secret bank account. Go to the bank and open a checking account. Use the secret address. Then ask about a student line of credit. Use the line of credit to pay off the credit card - the interest is lower.

6. Secret phone. Get a free phone that comes with a plan. There are special student deals. Do not leave this phone at home unattended ever. Keep it in a secret place in plain sight. You can hollow out an old school text book or get something like this https://www.amazon.ca/GoPong-Sunscreen-Diversion-Safes-Pack/dp/B08ZCT7WLK/ref=mp_s_a_1_6?crid=3GW7YXK5B9M1R&keywords=secret+hiding+spot&qid=1668014153&qu=eyJxc2MiOiI0LjQ5IiwicXNhIjoiMi44NCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMDAifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=secret+h...

7. Secret job. Now that you have a device she isn't monitoring you can earn some cash. Look for jobs tutoring high school students, ply skills online... get paid via paypal.

OP an alternative you could get a steering wheel lock so that your car can not be stolen, not just by your sister - but by anyone. Especially as it seems you have to park your car on the street.

Other advice? When your sister starts throwing her temper tantrum - walk away. Don't try to justify, make excuses, or placate her. Simply state, "you are no longer allowed to drive my car. If you take it again, I will report it to the police as stolen."

Then walk away. Seriously, you don't have to put up with your sister. You dont! IF she stays in your face? Drive away! You can do that now! You dont have to stand around and take abuse from your sister anymore.

Best of luck OP!

Having support is pretty important, but if nothing else youve always got the internet. You can always see if anyone in your local subreddit is interested in talking with you. Meetup.com usually has small business social groups. Keep reaching out, its essential. Thats one great thing youve done to make progress.

Might be better to go with a thin mattress topper until you can afford one https://www.amazon.ca/Zinus-AZ-GTFT-150T-Memory-Mattress-Topper/dp/B071JGCB18/ref=asc_df_B071JGCB18/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312756463847&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13367034979032962170&hvpone=&hvptwo=&...

I swear by gel deodorant. It can stain the armpits over time, and I'm not really sure how to fix that, but it's better than smelling terrible. I personally use Gillette, but that's just what I've settled on because Speed Stick discontinued my favorite scent.

Also, if you're super hairy like me, don't be afraid to trim that hair back a bit so you get better coverage when applying.

https://www.amazon.com/Gillette-Endurance-Antiperspirant-Deodorant-Clear/dp/B01LTI0IVW

This kind of comb has little spirals in the teeth that trap the nits. It’s the easiest ai have found to comb through your own hair. https://www.amazon.com/Nit-Free-Terminator-Lice-Comb/dp/B000HIBPV8/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=145R1CVRWAMMQ&keywords=assy+comb+lice&qid=1666171369&sprefix=assy+comb+lice%2Caps%2C350&sr=8-3

Keep combing every day over the sink until you no longer find nits. As long as you find one, you need to comb the next day. This will ensure no more lice will hatch in your hair.

The shampoos don’t work great, combing is the best method.

Good luck!

Get a decent cleaning scrub brush this has a cheap example Itll make cleaning stubborn stains way easier and because of the natural bu of on the floors of most showers and tubs now it's harder to do with just a rag. Secondly using a bleach based cleaner makes it a lot easier. Always try to leave the bathroom door open and ventilator on when using bleach and if possible try to open a window. I usually drizzle some cleaner zig zapping across the tub floor, think less totally overlapped and more like the icing on toaster strudel where it's got gaps. With problem areas like that you can put some directly on it. Most cleaners you let it sit a bit, some you scrub first and then let sit a bit, but ince you've scrubbed and sprayed it out there shouldn't be a stain to worry about!

If they got into this account they might have gotten into others if you used the same password other places. Check out https://haveibeenpwned.com/ to see if you've been in any breaches. Also, get yourself a password manager and give every account a unique password.

I'mma go ahead and recommend "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents".

Other commentators are giving you great methods, tips, and things to say. But this problem goes a lot deeper than you likely realize, and it is SO, SO liberating to see it more clearly and be able to emotionally distance yourself from it. It made a huge difference in my life.

It's a simple read (it's got deep insights but it's written in a very direct, manner-of-fact way) and not super long.

I'm not in the states but you've given so many names and you're being so detailed I might ask. :)

So this should be a microfiber cloth correct?

Terry cloth rags seem cool, but I don't think I have that available here, or I'm not googling correctly (and unfortunately I don't know how to recognize terrycloth). Can we wash microfiber cloths in the washer? Is the washer the laundry machine or the dishwasher?

For scrubby pads is this sponge a scrubby pad?

I also unfortunately am not acquaintanced with what is a swiffer head, but I guess that can be investigated after. So much nomenclature I don't know! lol

I get this from time to time. This is something that can be handled in a Wal Mart clinic appointment. Or you can get someone to do for you. Basically, what's going on is that the ear wax it built up and blocking your hearing. You just need to clear out your ears. I first got it done at Wal Mart's Walkin Clinic. And eventually we bought our own ear cleaning machine from Amazon. Every once in a while when I get clogged up, my wife clears me out, and I can hear again!

Happy to! Lord knows I spent several hours (while watching tv) comparing models. I’m glad to save anyone else the time.

This is the one I went with after all that. It has a ‘night light’ but that can be turned off.

A dad here.

I would recommend you read this book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

Your parents, among other things, sound like they are emotionally children. You are still young and I am glad (and proud!) that you are already taking steps to grow and mature. It is not easy. Being emotionally unavailable is really hard on you, and please be aware it can impact you and your current/future relationships in unhealthy ways.

Apart from the food issues this resonates with me and my upbringing. You are already aware that this is not normal so you have a head start on fixing it.

I wish you well. Find mature adults that help guide you along the way - may be family, may be friends family, neighbors, etc. It will help. Knowledge is power and you will be fine. Take care.

I really like this book:

https://smile.amazon.com/Questions-Getting-Know-Anyone-Everyone/dp/0375426248/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=4000+questions+for+getting+to+know+anyone+and+everyone&qid=1657676836&sr=8-3

Ah, I don't think I can build a box over it since it needs to be in the open air to suck up the moisture. But I could perhaps put it on top of soundproofing material to soak up some of the vibration? Something like this?

So first of all, I either wear my pantyhose all the way up to just below the bra line, making it harder to get them down than if they were worn at my lower waist, or I have some sort of shaper on over top (usually this thing). Secondly, I actually don't have any issues with holding it in; I just remember one or two occasions when I barely made it to the toilet in time. If I'd been wearing one of those outfits, I'm not sure if I would have been as lucky. Hence, the Honest Co.

Etymotics makes some fantastic earplugs that are barely noticeable, allow you to hear normal sounds and speech well enough, yet subdue most noise. I really love them. Super affordable as well.

Headphones generally aren't good at reducing sound. Sound bothers me too. I tried shooting headphones, construction headphones (these grip your head hard, but you get used to it). I like these the best:

Decibullz - Custom Molded Earplugs, 31dB Highest NRR, Comfortable Hearing Protection for Shooting, Travel, Work and Concerts https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00WIXL46Q/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_E8RZRPHNN73Q8JSAMM06?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

You can use shooting or construction headphones over them too. Active sound cancelling headphones are another option, but I've always liked passive sound cancelling better.

You won't poison yourself , so relax.

Don't put metal in a microwave. Just don't Small amounts can rarely be ok, but better to say no. If you do it can create sparks and potentially start a fire.

Bulk meal prep can be a HUGE time saver. Store your leftovers in microwave safe storage containers. Many such containers can be stained by foods, especially by tomato sauces. Buy some plastic food storage containers that won't get stained by tomato, OR spray a little cooking oil in a regular container before putting in tomato sauces, OR just ignore it and let the containers get stained. No big deal.

Loosely cover food you are reheating in the microwave, especially liquids. This limits splattering and makes cleaning the microwave easier. DO NOT put a tightly sealed container in the microwave to heat. Steam will form in the container and blow the lid off which will probably make a HUGE mess inside the microwave. An egg in its shell counts as a tightly sealed container for this warning. By sister tried to make a hard boiled egg in the microwave. The explosion broke the door.

Learn to use the lower power settings. Sometimes foods cook or reheat more evenly if you use lower power for a longer time.

And practice. Heat. Stop. Stir the food. Heat some more if it wasn't warm enough.

Please check this out <em>Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving</em> by Pete Walker

> Pete is a "general practitioner" who specializes in helping adults recovering from growing up in traumatizing families, especially those whose repeated exposure to childhood abuse and/or neglect left them with symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder [Cptsd]. He has a great deal of recovery from his own Cptsd, and his professional approach is highly enriched by his own 40 year journey of recovering. 

Good job!

Tip: If you like grilled vegetable, I find a grill pan or basket to be way easier to use than skewers.

I like this one:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000WEIIOE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_2QGHVDN59ZS7ZC4A84DM

Honestly, I never understood how people tolerated that thing. It smells terrible amd I can only imagine it tastes just as bad. Anyway, if you want to help your dad, you can get this book for him. It's borderline magic, how effective it is.

I can't help but feel like this book might be good for a part of what yo'ure dealing with, but it's on preorder and doesn't have reviews yet. I'm curious about it myself but just going to put it here in case it resonates.

https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Exhausted-Woman-Feeling-Depleted-ebook/dp/B09PZXN8QN/ref=sr_1_5?qid=1649790255&amp;refinements=p_27%3ANancy+Colier&amp;s=books&amp;sr=1-5

It's scary how close our situations are. I have ADHD too and I also have a chronic skin condition(Palmoplantar Keratoderma if you're curious). It feels like I'm looking at a younger version of myself haha. I started failing classes from the 2nd semester, I am still retaking them right now. I guess the best advice I can give is to let your tools help your brain. We have hindered executive functions, but thankfully we live in a time that's full of technology.

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what to do:

1. Take notes: Notes are VERY important when you don't have a solid working memory. think of it as a 2nd brain. if you like graphs and linking notes together, something like Obsidian.md might help
2. Make a schedule: If you block out your day with set times to do work, have a break, etc. you'll be able to keep track of what you're doing much easier(at least for me) because you'll know what you're supposed to be doing at any given time
3. Get medicated and get therapy: I know it's a no-brainer, but I can't recommend this enough. It doesn't have to be now, but if you do eventually get medicated, it'll give you a whole new perspective and (at least for me) get some semblance of that "successful kid" life back.
4. Contact Disability services: as some other redditors have pointed out, your university might have a program that can help you out. things such as lighter deadlines, a note-taking buddy, or other accommodations can help a lot.
5. Surround yourself with wholesome friends: Living with a disorder can be tough. Be it depression, anxiety, or ADHD. We struggle with the most basic of stuff, stuff that other people might take for granted. But it doesn't mean we have to get through it alone. If you have problems scheduling something or noting something down, or maybe even having trouble staying accountable, a friend could help you out with that.

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I hope this helps!

A recording device (like a watch or bracelet https://www.amazon.com/BestRec-Recording-Activated-Rechargeable-Microphone/dp/B07K69V8DX) to take orders is helpful. Then you can write them down at your leisure. If a couple comes in always give your main attention to the woman.

You may have missed the part about sealing it in plastic (or not knowing what they meant, it just didn't register).

You can get something like this and 'seal' the windows. You're basically adding an extra layer of protection to keep the heat in and the cold out. They make these in a ton of different sizes. It might be possible to DIY something similar, but, it's a cheapish solution.

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Depending on how your management responds, it might be worth just getting some expanding foam and sealing up those big holes you were mentioning. This gets tricky though since the foam would basically be permanent, so, I'd strongly suggest getting permission, if at all possible.

• Seal the windows with shrink wrap plastic like this: https://www.amazon.com/Duck-10-Window-Insulator-420-Inch-286216/dp/B002GKC2GW (available locally at all big box hardware stores).

• Heat your bed with a heated mattress pad or heated blanket like this: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Sunbeam-Heated-Mattress-Pad-Queen/48932960?athbdg=L1700

If a steam cleaner and professional cleaning is out of the question, you do get some canned foam cleaners, you spray on the foam, scrub lightly with a brush, then vacuum when dry (check the can directions and be sure to test on an unobtrusive spot first)

I've also found it to be very helpful to call the ACA directly for help at 1-800-318-2596. They were able to walk me through the process and provide an overview of the plans I'd be eligible for, including whether or not I'd likely qualify for Medicaid.

Additional resources on the ACA website: https://www.healthcare.gov/contact-us/

Actually, opting in to "Overdraft protection" is what allows them to let that charge go through and then charge the $35. Overdraft "protection" doesn't protect you from overdrafting. It allows you to overdraft instead of having your card declined.

Opt-out of overdraft protection and your card will be declined instead.

Here's a consumer reports article about it: http://www.consumerreports.org/cro/magazine/2012/06/don-t-get-dinged-by-overdraft-fees/index.htm

It’s okay to be a lesbian, and it’s okay to be Bi! It’s sometimes hard to figure out where you fit in. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. maybe read through this and see if anything applies to you? am I a lesbian master docYou remind me a lot of myself, I wish you the best and hope things get clearer for you soon ❤️

This! I’ve never seen a car my husband couldn’t fix, and he’s not a mechanic by trade. He replaced a tranny in my 2001 Oddessy, which is similar, but from reading the manual and looking things up on car forums. When we buy cars, if it doesn’t come with a manual, he buys it. It’s pretty easy to find online options too.

https://www.slideshare.net/mobile/jkejdkm/2010-dodge-caravan-service-repair-manual

Cut him off. And I'd recommend reading a book called Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft - this guy does not sound like a 'friend'.

Oh for sure!!!! Link!!! It’s a bunch of cute little starter size bottles, 18 of them! It’s almost $30, but $30 is nothing compared to if you buy spices individually. I also found this spice rack + full size spices for only like $5 more, but you can’t choose the individual spices and for me personally I couldn’t go for this one because it’s shipping times go into March, and we’ll have moved by then. If it comes earlier by surprise and I ship it to my new address I’d be screwed lol

As a fellow CBT hater, I endorse DBT. CBT always felt like so much "make lists and force yourself to do whatever it is you're struggling with," and that didn't work for me. They also seemed overly strict, and that pushed me in the opposite direction too. Seeing that your responses are primarily oppositional, I'm guessing you don't like to be sternly told what to do. DBT is similar to a college course, and usually consists of a group, individual therapy, and a psychiatrist if prescriptions are merited. If you're not willing to go back to therapy (understandably after a creep hit on you), look up some of the course materials online. You can find groups here on Reddit or FB if you want to discuss it with others. Here's a good book to start with. DBT® Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572307811/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_FS4MMQ6B71JB288ZYH67