I use a Norelco Body Groomer 7000.
Works wonderfully on pubes and body hair in general (including hair around your hole) Can be used wet or dry. I use it dry with no shaving cream and I've never had an issue. Provides a nice clean shave.
A good rimming, some fingers, dirty talk and making sure he's relaxed and enjoying himself are the best approach, as you acknowledge. You can also try using a lube launcher, which will make sure you're following the old adage "you can never use too much lube."
I really like “wet”.
Like. Really really!
This tube is bigger than it looks btw. And all of them I have ever had have leaked. So store upright or you will find yourself very aroused, naked, staring at an unfixable stain on your carpet, then just disappointed and lonely; I assume anyway. Definitely wouldn’t know from experience. Heh heh.
I have a BIG collection of toys. They all have their pros and cons. My absolute favorite is the most recent one I got. It's from the Blush Novelties' Real Nude toy line. It's called the Helio. The downward curve on it points right to my spot when I have it against the wall in the shower. Unlike many toys, this one is dual density. It's not too hard, and has some give to it like a real cock. This one is reasonably flexible so if you're really going to town, I don't think you're gonna hurt yourself. Oh yeah.. The suction cup on this has got to be one of the strongest one's I've had on a toy yet. This thing will stay attached to the damn wall, floor, or anything else you can imagine. Take a look at it on youtube. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this toy.
It's a messy procedure, start with this guide.
Then buy this,
Perfect Fit ErgoFlo 18" Rubber Deep Clean Nozzle https://www.amazon.com/dp/B016S13NJ4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_xH.gDb7D8ZY3A
This nozzle will allow you to flush everything out of you from much higher, you can even let the water build up deep inside of you and then release. It allows for a quicker and more thorough cleaning. My cleanup used to take upwards to an hour, now I can get it done in 20 minutes if I'm in a rush.
No, I only wash linens once a week. I found these to be awesome sex blankets, so I just bought a few of those. I leave one as the top layer of my bedding because they look and feel fantastic.
For all the naysayers it is 100% possible for the anus to have a discharge. OP may just happen to notice it when he's aroused. Your large intestine is lined with mucus and produces it all the time.
And to the person who commented about reverse ejaculating? That's really a thing.
I dug up my amazon account and this was the product I bought in 2015 that worked so well https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lifeplan-Acidophilus-Rhamnosus-Vegicap-Capsules/dp/B004RA1Q3Y/
When I tried other probiotics, they had no effect. If anyone tries and this works, tell me or other people so more people know lol
[NSFW]These are the example I can think of where the bottom takes charge.
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I bought this and although I don’t usually recommend buying things like this on amazon I think this one is safe: 3Pcs Vibrating Butt Plug Set Anal... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MJFSF8R?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
one of my favorite twinks to watch is brazilian Riu Melo. its amazing watching his short, tight body take huge cocks.
here's one of him:
I'm a top.
But my ex got a bidet/hose thing that attaches to my toilet. I use it all the time post poop. It saves a lot of toilet paper. Plus, never had a problem with him being 'dirty'.
I highly recommend. It was like $30 on Amazon.
This thing. It's also for babies.
It’s just your garden-variety smelly silicone dildo. It was kinda an impulse buy for me, and I got it at a local sex shop. I also paid a lot more than Amazon sold it for, but that’s ok.
It was a little bit of a size step-up for me, and I wanted to try out a couple sizes before I shell out $100 for a truly quality dildo.
This one is a nice size and felt fucking amazing, but I’m probably going to go slightly bigger for my next one. I used some smaller toys to work up to this one, but I was going at it like an old pro before long!
Like saline but these were specifically to not irritate moist tissues (like the inside of your nose) while cleaning them. I linked the one I use. Isotonic rinse
You should start with something that feels good but that you can work your way up from. My very first toy (aside from stuff around the house like pencils) was a butt plug training kit. This isn't the exact set but it's close, and it's not very expensive.
Once you work your way up to the biggest one, you can move on to other toys like dildos or rimming plugs.
I found this body stocking to work quite well. The first style I tried was closed in the butt so I had to alter it somewhat 😉
try this https://www.amazon.com/Master-Grand-Mamba-Sheath-X-Large/dp/B018IYXN1M/ref=sr_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=Mamba+Cock+Sheath&qid=1617646133&s=hpc&sr=1-12
Hismith Fuck Machine
If you can afford it, get the app controlled version. There are patterns you can "play" that aren't just one speed.
It was a tapered and training kit, was like $20. It didn’t hurt at all and was able to train quickly and without pain.
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Congrats! I dont know why being filled feels so good, but it really does make life worth living for me!
I'm currently mulling over buying this toy:
I really want to try it, but I'm a strict silicone lube user because I have yet to find anything water based that doesn't burn, or sting, or dry out in a few thrusts.
These have been my favorite of the few I've gotten over the years. Nice smooth fabric, and really really good looking.
Get the white colored ones, the other ones are a different fabric and don't feel as nice in my opinion.
I just order the plain/pure pysllium husk powder on Amazon: https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B002RWUNYM
It does have a very earthy taste to it, like dirt mixed with wood, so I usually have a chaser drink nearby.
You could also go the MetaMucil (or whatever generic your store has) route if you'd prefer it flavored, but I used to find that I still needed a chaser drink after that as well, and since the pure powder tends to be cheaper I just deal with the bad taste.
I take a couple of these psyllium husk capsules as a supplement most days https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001TH7K0G/
I douched a couple days ago and was happy that I came out basically clean first round.
Sometimes I’ll really mess my stomach up (e.g. about a week ago I drunk beer and shots with a friend going through a break up and was really gassy and bloated for a couple days after) and find that a probiotic can help in cases like that too.
What about in the bathtub? I love sticking my veiny dildo to the end of the tub and riding it in doggy while I'm in the shower. This isn't the exact one I have but it's almost identical
A shower kit gets the job done quick, if you have privacy.
Pure for Men (not True, sorry!)
PURE for Men
Zero for Him
I used this recently: Fake GPS Location (Android app)
Install it, go into Developer Settings. If you don't have Developer Settings unlocked,
Depending on the Android version, there'll either be a checkbox called "Allow Mock Locations" or, on Android 6.0, "Mock Location App" (which you tap and choose Fake GPS Location as the mock location provider).
Now you can set any location on Fake GPS Location, and apps like Grindr will see the new location (also works with Tinder, Hornet, etc.; but probably not with Google Maps, and definitely not with Ingress; some apps use more than just your GPS to find your location, for example local wifi networks, etc.)
If the location gets "stuck" when you're done messing around, you can go back into Developer Settings and disable the mock locations setting (worked for me). Otherwise check the description on the fake GPS app for other advice.
Ninja edit: I should also mention, this doesn't require root, and it worked on my stock Nexus 5X (the instructions for Developer Mode and such are also from the POV of a Nexus ROM; other Android makers like Samsung may have moved things around, so you may need to Google for specifics).
Poppers can be dangerous. Train your body and you won't need help to bottom. You can have enjoyable sex sober and without potentially fucking up your heart. Using a large plug or inflatable on a regular basis can help you take larger things without pain.
depends on how much your ass can take. The Aneros Vice 2 is nice but expensive. Otherwise check out just the regular selection of vibrating buttplugs/dildos at your local sex shop.
It's hard to feel comfortable with someone who you haven't ever interacted with when you're not confident of what you like. A lot of people need some kind of emotional connection component too (and a lot of others don't) and that's hard to do online. For a lot of people, freaking out when things move to fast or there are too many unknowns is normal.
And you'd probably be better off experimenting with someone who themselves is also experimenting and not sure of things (just guessing but guys who are curious and want someone more experienced to take control and lead them usually know that that's what they want and if you're inclined that way, you didn't say so).
There's an /r/meetlgbt sub. meetup.com has lots of gay group activity things like hiking and board games, in major cities. Campuses have campus groups. Lots of other activities are traditionally gay friendly, like Rocky Horror screenings. The apps can help you identify you already know who are gay or bi.
Often we spend so long waiting for people we like to make the first move that we forget that we're waiting. Even if you're both closeted, expressing extra interest in someone and their life and what they're about can go a long way in getting things going. If they start to return interest in you and you just kind of slowly gently keep that going, eventually maybe you actually get somewhere.
Or maybe I'm misreading you. I can generalize about things but what's true for some or even most other people isn't necessary true for you. But if experimenting with guys is a big turn on for you, one way or another, figure out how reconcile your lust with your hesitations and figure how you're comfortable experimenting.
As a top I want to make my (future) king feel safe, protected and loved everyday. Me 28 male. I think the only thing to be fixed maybe internalized homophobia or bifobia depending on your sexual orientation, I recommend this book. It’s title sounds cheesy but it was written by a happily married psychologist man who has dedicated his entire career working with gay men. Also I recommend Psych-K. For working at a subconscious level, to forgive and accept those negative feelings. You are totally okay pal, allow yourself to explore with an open mind your sexuality since it is such an important part of your identity and who you are.
Omg bro this post was meant for me lol. I legit just bought some travel sized bottles of Überlube and here is a copy of the review I just wrote on Amazon:
Überlube already makes the best lube in town but these travel sizes are everything! Perfect for bringing along to a friend's house, and I know I'll have more than enough because you only need a few pumps to get the party started. I always feel confident when my hosts see me pull out such a nice-looking and well-packaged product, and they always seem thrilled when I show them what's inside. The aluminum case looks sleek and discreet and it ensures I won't get any surprise lube stains in my bag or back pocket while en route.
It’s definitely a pricier lube but it’s worth it, you can get one for like $15 USD and it lasts ages
Überlube on Amazon
If she is into it she can be dominant penetrate you (pegging). The fact that she no only accepts you but is consensual and motivates you to be who you are is outstanding. Allow yourself to be confused, read a lot I recommend you r/askbibros also this book (don’t let the cheesy name it has distract you is well worthy. Is intended for gay men but I fluctuated among straight gay bi so much also my gender identity. Now I know who I am and it’s all cool and smooth as silk.
Get a small bulb douche like this one. For some reason shops are filled with larger ones when one this size is enough. It takes me 3-4 squirt and release cycles to get clean using a small douche.
I say this every time I see these posts but fiber supplements are a magical thing. I take Metamucil Psyllium Husk Fiber and am able to have spontaneous anal pretty much whenever I want unless I have an upset stomach. 3 pills once a day is enough for me but some may need more. If I ever were to call something a ‘magic pill’ this would be it!
hismith is the gold standard but you can find the same design features for half the $$$ on amazon. I got this one and very pleased. Getting ready to use it in a bit today !
Sounds very hot.
I wouldn't advise eating any burritos or other heavy meals, lol. And you might want to invest in something like this to make sure you can stay lubed up. Coconut oil is a good choice (if you're not using condoms, although condoms are always a good choice, IJS).
Also, just to set your expectations correctly, without heavy drugs most guys can only be in the mood for so long. Unless you get a houseful of tops, don't expect marathon sex. And if you do get a houseful of tops, you lucky little slut, be prepared that your own interest might wane at some point. That's fine. Soldier on if necessary, and practice self-care.
- 7x7, fat mushroom cockhead and thick all the way down. Bi silverdaddy, married to a woman, open relationship. Breeds me on his marital bed. We're both on PrEP and talked for years before meeting up.
- 12x9.25, docjohnson the really big dildo. Managed to get the head and upper shaft inside of me. It was at my pain tolerance, so i couldn't go much further down the shaft, or keep it in me for long. It's also a flexy dildo, so it's hard to push down on without it moving. It's a very humbling experience for me. #goals
Learning how to bottom is all about learning how to focus on the appropriate sensations and filter out the adverse ones. Its a delicate balance, because you really shouldn't filter out pain, because you don't want to injure yourself. But eventually you can strike that balance.
Imagine that you are covered in lice or fleas, they are biting you and you itch, your head itched, your arms itch.....its a nightmare.
Now back to reality, did any of your skin actually start to itch? But you don't really have lice, so why?
Your skin constantly has mild itching sensations on it, and your brain simply filters them out as irrelevant. As a matter of fact, the brain filters out upwards of 90% of all sensations it experiences.
However, when you focused on the itching sensation, your brain began to interpret them as relevant, and therefore you began to feel itching.
This is true for a HUGE array of sensations, anger, hunger, being cold/hot, having to go to the bathroom. All of those become much worse if you focus on them.
Learning how to bottom is all about learning how to focus on the appropriate sensations and filter out the adverse ones. Its a delicate balance, because you really shouldn't filter out pain, because you don't want to injure yourself. But eventually you can srike that balance.
The other guys give good advice, practice with toys.
I personally like this book, its only about 100 pgs long and goes in-depth of the anatomy of bottoming.
Is this it? https://www.amazon.es/Young21-Limpiador-Silicona-Boquilla-Limpieza/dp/B086X1FRGH/ref=mp_s_a_1_24?crid=31LYB7GRAPSTK&keywords=douche&qid=1649954922&sprefix=douche%2Caps%2C116&sr=8-24
I can't recommend this book highly enough. https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B06XQ3723K/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_d_asin_title_o05?ie=UTF8&psc=1
The author goes through the - excuse the pun - in and outs of an open or closed relationship.
I know it's a huge cliche, but communication really is the main thing. Talk about your fantasies, talk about what you wank over and want to do, and then if you do hook up without your partner, tell them about it and be honest. If you're in an open relationship, you want your partner to have great sexual experiences, just like he wants you to. It doesn't mean you can't have them together either. Love sex is the best sex, but sometimes you just want something down and dirty, and that's absolutely fine. But please do talk about it with each other.
One, 2 if the first one moves something, of a bulb enema at most and I'm good to go. https://www.amazon.com/Beauty-Molly-Superior-Medical-Materials/dp/B016Q1EQ24/ref=psdc_3760941_t2_B002SKG8GU 10 minutes at most. Truth is, shit happens, literally. Especially when it's spontaneous sex. Anyone phobic about a little shit on their dick probably shouldn't be having anal sex. Been having butt sex for 40+ years and even a little poop hasn't happened that often.
Yes of course, If it doesn't feel good you're doing it wrong.
Look if you Google, "how to bottom" You're going to find a lot of different guides.
But If that's too intimidating I'll go ahead and give you the best one.
How To Bottom Like A Porn Star https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GG16XZ8/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_K7Q8G05HTF3H4SW6D2KF
Passion Lubes Maximum Strength Anal Desensitizing Lube, 8.25 fl oz https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00EF8OL0S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_T37Q7BGREZ1XSDE0HETM?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
It comes in a regular lube bottle 😉👉
Can you like ignore all the super experienced bottoms telling you to just go for it? You will hurt yourself lmao.
Things I wish I knew taking a cock like the one you’re describing: lube lube LLLUUUBBEEE. Lots and lots of lube. On your hole, in your hole (by way of fingering or a lube shooter),and on your tops cock. Secondly, slow and steady wins the race. You can’t shove the hotdog into the bun, you will rip it. It will hurt. Patience. Having a patient top helps. Thirdly, as a bottom you have all the power (unless you’re like super submissive, but even then you still do). Don’t be afraid to speak up, say it hurts, tell him to slow down, or pull out a bit if he’s too deep. Fourth, douche good, essentially the length of your top. Had a nasty session one when the top was longer than how deep I douched and he knocked some shit loose (literally; pun intended). Fifth, start small in diameter when it comes to toys. If you do anal stretching, that’s fine, but you can’t jump straight an XL toy. Work your way up. I have a toy that I’ve trained my hole to take, a little arousal and lube and it’s in right away. You should also work with depth, using long skinny toys to get used to being fucked deeply, and work your way up to girth. Lastly, lube. Use liberally to begin with and keep adding as you need to. I like this brand (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KFMJVMN/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_XQNFY3CXGB712QQC07H1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1) it comes with a pump that you can screw on (and it locks to prevent spills). Makes for easy application mid-intercourse, and you also use a bit less cause it doesn’t take much to get a nice slip N slide going. If you’re using water-based you may need to apply a bit more frequently than if you are using silicone-based. I’ve also seen people use like cum lube and things like that🤷♀️
Note: I’m no expert; just a bitter bottom lol take this with a grain of salt. Speaking from experience.
I ask for this all the time. Hoping to get links to grow my sexy undies arsenal. But no one ever links 🤷
Here are my two fav:
the biggest size is too small for me to wear in a practical sense. Its made in Asia and meant for much smaller guys. Its an Asian XXL but US L. hardly contains my bulge. If I move too fast, they'll squish the goods.
A long time ago somebody wrote a desktop Grindr client called Fuckr, but it seems not to work anymore - Grindr changed their API.
Another option to look into may be running Android x86 in a virtual machine like VirtualBox if BlueStacks doesn't work out.
http://www.dudesnude.com/members/573059 Here you go.
If you're interested in guys with pussies, trans guys are probably your better bet though. (Yes, I am totally repping for my people here.) Here's a great video of a totally hot trans dude jerking off (he is not "Joe Mangina" despite the title, he's a trans guy). Joe is very good looking, but vaginoplasty isn't perfect if you're into dudes with pussies, and his surgeon didn't do the best job (I've dated trans ladies who are post-op before, I've seen some good surgery!). T enhances the clitoris and very often makes a mini-penis out of it too, so there is that. :D
I have this thing; it fits on a standard shower hose size and I just swap out my hand shower. Its looks huge, but the extra length makes it far easier to maneuver. Obviously you don't have to stick the entire thing up your ass. It's far less hassle than using a bulb - wish I would've bought one sooner.
Turn it on full blast (not while it's inside you) and adjust the water temperature, then reduce the water pressure so that water is coming out maybe an inch when you're pointing it straight up. Lukewarm is best. Generally for the first flush or two, I get out of the shower and empty into the toilet to make life easier.
You need way less water, both in amount and pressure, than you think. You also don't need to go deep, an inch is more than enough. Bluntly, there's a bit of trial/error involved - I wouldn't recommend using it for the first time when you're in a rush. After the first few times you use it, you'll get a feel for your own body. Always err on the side of taking it easy. A little dab of silicone lube on your asshole helps a lot; the water won't wash it away (use some dish soap to clean both your shower and the shower shot afterwords, otherwise it will be very slippery).
The "how to clean your ass" infographic is pretty good, if you haven't seen it.
It's becoming annoying because of the wet zone it is... you need to use a healing cream, for example:
And talcum powder too.
I personally use this trimmer I got off amazon:
I imagine it's not as close a shave as if I used a razor, but I've never had to worry too much about cutting myself. It's really easy and quick once you get the hang of it, which is nice especially if you'd keeping smooth on the regular. It just takes some time to perfect the technique.
Bonus tip: Always be sure to remember to exfoliate afterwards with a wet rag or a loofah to prevent yourself from getting ingrown hairs.
Definitely not a designed hollow strapon so most guys can’t fit inside. But I’m small enough to go inside with a little bit of squeezing when I get hard.
Practice makes perfect! Start with a thin dildo, preferably fairly soft and with a tapered tip for easier entry. I love the Pipedream King Cock triple density which feel like real flesh:
They come with or without balls too, and in either case the base suction cup allows for it to attach to the shower wall.
It takes time, practice and patience. When you can take a smaller dildo easily, move up to a thicker one.
>3.bidet at home
On the go as well.
I recommend the Colt anal training kit. It’s 3 buttplugs each a different size and they are silicone and firm with a little give. I have one in right now.
I’ve been using this for years (multiple generations of this): Norelco Bodygroom. This newest version has an upgraded battery, which has been the only downfall of prior generations (the older ones died after a couple years because the battery wouldn’t take a charge).
It’s made specifically for manscaping. It’s great and never cuts you. I use it everywhere, including my hole, crack, cheeks, scrotum, dick shaft, and more. It’s not as close as using harsh chemicals, like Nair, but it is so fast that you can do it as often as needed. And I don’t have any visible hair left.
There's a lot of prep and practice you need to in order to bottom successfully. It's very difficult to do well right off the back.
I recommend reading "How To Bottom Like A Porn Star". It's a great breakdown off all of the parts, how they work, and how you get those parts ready to take a cock. And now its illustrated!
It's not like in the movies. You have to practice at it. Your anal sphincter is a muscle. Like any muscle, you have to train it. You also have to understand it.
Depending on your age, for the last several decades it has been working very hard and without thanks to keep waste in until you are ready take a dump. Now you are asking it to to open up when there's no waste there for Happy-Happy-Fun-Time. It has no clue what you are talking about.
Homework if you want it? Go get a copy of "How To Bottom Like A Porn Star." It'll explain your anatomy, how to bottom, and how to improve as a bottom. It's an excellent book.
I've seen shower hose adapters for traveling that convert a sink or bathtub faucet into a shower, they are sort of huge rubber things that just fit over the faucet
here are some versions of that I found on Amazon (looks like you can remove their shower head, install your shower shot device)
Ive been looking at clear ones like : https://www.amazon.com/Clear-Non-Toxic-Enema-Bulb-Constipation/dp/B06XNWDDG6?th=1
id feel much more comfortable knowing what's going on just in case i have too
The Vixen Outlaw. Silicone dual density. It’s not a real cock, but it’s the closest toy I’ve found to the real thing.
I have IBS but am off meds now. I eat better since I moved to Thailand and there’s no chemicals in the food.
Anywho, this is all I need. I used the black nozzle and go in to the sigmoid. It all flushes out.
Bathroom Handheld Inches Shower Hose with Enema Showerhead Vaginal and Anal Cleaning Kit Colonic System Cleaner https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077RXHSC9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_S23BEP7EJT2B00VZQXYG
8 Inch Dildo Lifelike Silicone Realistic Dual Density Men's Penis Cock Dong Anal Sex Toys for Masturbation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0746HXLV9/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_38BQMXRJJ5W3687HQ8YM?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
This was the step up from a 1” diameter toy, and helped me transition to my 2” diameter Vixskin Outlaw. I’m sure it’s Chinese made, so I can’t actually vouch for the safety of the materials, but I’ve bought jelly, PVC, and silicone toys in the past and this one feels like silicone. Poppers always help too.
I've been using albolene for a few years. Doesn't get sticky, cleans fairly easily, and it good for the skin!!
You want the silicone end. It will go past the 2nd spinchter and go right to the sigmoid.
All in One 4 Tip Shower Enema System https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MWB5I9S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_DDXDJJG7GRMAXFB2F65Y
Damn! How do they feel against the skin?
I found these waterproof blankets that is meant to be used for pets on beds:
I use moving blankets. They're cheap, large, washable, and one will last you a good long time.
It’s a Silentnight mattress topper, it’s comfy and works great... I checked this morning and although my sheets are stained with all the semen that’s leaked out of my bum while I’ve been sleeping, none of it has made it to the mattress....
here’s the Amazon link....
Silentnight Hollowfibre Supreme Mattress Quilted Topper with Secure Fit - King https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00NGRRX4U/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabc_1ud6FbG94E3X9?psc=1
Truth. Last thing you want to do is have to go to the ER and get something removed. May I recommend something like this
Different sizes to work up to and I personally own this exact kit and it great material. Doesnt have to be this kit but something like it is great for beginners. Plus it comes with an enema bulb and some lube.
First thing I'd recommend is getting a trainer set of butt plugs. Usually have three or 4, with the biggest being around 1.5 inches or something, and maybe 4 or 5 long. https://www.amazon.com/Plugs-Trainer-Silicone-Beginners-Starter/dp/B07YHMQQQW/ref=zg_bs_17891898011_28?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=P4D73B11CV906MX1E2H3
Here's a quick one I found on Amazon, I'd prefer one that doesn't have a curved taper, and just goes straight from the top to the bulge, but a lot of people like that style. Next is to make sure you know how to clean out a bit, there's plenty of articles online about it. You can go out and buy a douche bulb, or if you're cheap you can even use something like a disposable water bottle. Cleaning out isn't necessary all the time, but it's goode for peace of mind until you get your butt figured out.
Fingering and massaging your hole for a bit before you try to insert anything is always important, because you're literally trying to stretch a muscle. So go slow, get warmed up, and if it hurts, slow down. Other than that, kind of just start having fun.
You may need to give dimensions on what you think is 'bigger'. My current favorite is the Jason Luv 10" dildo.
I also like knotted toys like Rex from Bad Dragon
I have this hitachi wand attachment. Slide your penis in, turn on, and the vibration will do the rest. No need to stroke.
Massager Attachments, Accessories Massage Attachment Silicone Accessory (Clear-A)
There is a desensitizing spray. Never tried it though.
Yeah basically this. I bought this set on Amazon myself
The smallest of three quickly lost it's use but I still use the other two to warm up to my larger/wider dildos. It indeed does help.
They seem to have changed the sizes since I bought it however. The largest was about 1.8 inches wide but now it's 2.0 inches. Either way there are a ton of kits like this in body-safe silicone that you can search for on Amazon
No problem 👍
I'd go for a few plugs to start, then move up to dildos. Start small and work up. Also try a prostate massager.
I don’t have it any more, but this 12incher could get all the way in. So much fullness, it was an ordeal every time getting it in , but a fun ordeal
I wanted it to be soundproofed in a large piece of rolling luggage, so I built a simple wood frame for the machine itself and cut-to-fit pieces of heavy cardboard for the soundproof enclosure (it has acoustic panels glued onto the inside walls). The cardboard cuts down on the weight considerably.
Paul with orgasmalley did a great job with helping me select the right motor for my type of play: I like a good, hard, sustained pounding with heavy, 10"-12" dildos, which requires a robust motor that can run for hours at a time without overheating in an enclosed space.
He also was a great help in locating a reliable, high-quality refurbished motor, in my case an American-made Bodine. That thing is a beast and is built to last a lifetime. IIRC correctly he does some of the reconditioning himself, to ensure the quality of the motor. Saved me quite a bit of money vs a new Bodine. Finally, he was a great help with wiring the control box correctly to the motor.
The whole thing cost me around $600, about half of what I would have spent on a sturdy machine with a quality motor. For instance, his pre-built "monster" machines are all in the $1300-$1600 range.
I'll just leave this here for you though it may be hard to find for a reasonable price.
As a total top that has found pleasure in being versatile now with my boyfriend this was a GOD SEND. However do not insert it inside just use it on the outside and wait a few minutes.
It says not to get this in the inside but that is to make sure that nothing tears and you're not getting topped and bleeding all over.
Plus, like someone else previously mentioned make sure that you are not allergic to chemicals in certain lubes.
Most first time chastity users start off with an imitation HolyTrainer V3 cage. It comes with different ring sizes so you can figure out which fits best, it's pretty comfortable, easy to clean, and for around $20 you won't feel bad about it ending up in a box somewhere if you decide it's not your thing.
If you do get it, start off with a ring that is tight enough to keep you from getting out of it, then after a few days, try the next size down. Choosing the right size ring is key to comfort.
Take an Imodium then use a shower douche a couple times.
This is what you need and use the black hose. Make sure you go past the 2nd spinchter.
All in One 4 Tip Shower Enema System https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MWB5I9S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_yPerFb0VWDF1S
This is what you need and use the black tube. Get it past the second spinchter and you will be super clean. Get it past the sigmoid and you can clean out your whole large intestine.
All in One 4 Tip Shower Enema System https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00MWB5I9S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_vyeoFb56EQYGN
This is the one I have and I really like it. The bulb is clear so you can see it’s clean inside, no mold growing or anything. The tip is steel which is more hygienic and it’s not at all sharp or uncomfortable. Overall just seems much higher quality than any others I have tried.
I'd recommend one of the Holy Trainer V2 or V3 cages. They come with 5 different ring sizes so you can figure out which size works best, they are comfortable and don't make too much of a noticeable bulge in clothing, and if you buy one from Amazon, it's going to be cheap enough that you won't feel bad about the money you spent if you decide chastity is not for you.
Also, I'd avoid hinged rings due to the pinch point and what it can pinch based on where it sits against your body.
Click around the similar products on this page, they have different colors, and some, like the one linked, have stock in the US making shipping time short.
You picked the perfect day to ask, hi there, burner account, also a beginner, and I just got my starter cock in today.
This very strange looking dildo is a knockoff of a popular kink brand called Bad Dragon, only about a quarter of the price. It's about 5 usable inches long, relatively girthy for a beginner, but it's very gradual, and can be enjoyed without taking the full length, as you work yourself up to it. It's got a nice curve to it, and a suction base for wall mounting, and ridges for additional stimulation. The packaging is SUPER discrete. It came in a large Amazon envelope, and the box itself was unidentifiable. No writing, no logo, nothing, just plain cardboard. I had my first experience with it today, and let me just say that I regret absolutely nothing. It took me around 20 minutes of careful lubricating, toying, and teasing to work myself comfortably to the base, but once I got there, the ride was incredible. I got very hard with no visual stimulation, which is pretty rare for me, and the sensation was overwhelming. I finished (manually) in just a few minutes, also rare, and it was one of the most intense orgasms I've ever experienced. I cannot recommend this one highly enough.
You should use this product from Amazon. It's amazing and hooks up directly to your toilet. It will run as long as needed and will circulate water while pumping out the waste. No need to fill up, push out and repeat.
I feel exactly the same as you when I'm douching the old fashion way (fill up, push out, rinse and repeat). It's too time consuming and doesn't feel that productive. But with this douche it's so little work! Takes a while to get used to but it's worth it.
it's pretty big, but I got it from amazon and it's the "King Cock" brand 9" dildo with suction cup base.
Get a variation of the Holy Trainer which is the most comfortable. Here's a knockoff on Amazon that is $20. https://www.amazon.com/FYJENNICC-Lightweight-Premium-Chastity-Transparent/dp/B07QW2H7QC/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&qid=1588682717&refinements=p_36%3A1253518011&s=hpc&sr=1-3
I can't recommend this (and the companion book for bottoming) enough.
Butt plugs. It really is about butt plugs.
If you fall asleep, it should stay in all night. If it keeps popping out -- and you really are into playing -- then get a butt plug harness like in the link below. That will definitely help.
Oh, and if you are -really- into it, get the butt plug / harness and have him put several loads into you during a weekend, inserting the butt plug in after each load. If you can make it a day or so like this, you'll be ready to take a load in the morning and carry it all day at work. :-)
Not technically a plug but I have this and really enjoy it
I have these Fun Factory plugs. and really like them. I only use the large one now that I'm more in control of my relaxation.
The book 'The Multi-Orgasmic Male' has some great information. (Plus, the practice is fun).
Once you're comfortable and find one that you enjoy, you can easily go a full day with zero issues. Just listen to your body. This is a nice 'all-dayer'. I have done a countless amount with it.
Thanks so much for this article! I'm gonna try the Durex Tropical Flavors Flavored Premium Condoms. We'll see whether they're big enough. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00HL5HISE/ref=ox_sc_act_title_1?smid=AH9Z7IIIU8O9I&psc=1
Make an oath to not cum unless you are fucking someone. Find a fuck buddy to do that with.
You can get a chastity. Lock it up and give your fuck buddy the keys. So only when you are with him, you can unlock and cum.
Try explore anal orgasm while you are locked in chastity.
"How to Bottom Like a Porn Star."
Awesome little book. Really walks you through the ins and outs of bottoming, preparing to bottom, and getting better at bottoming.
I've owned this one for about a year. Love it. It's platinum cured silicone (no smell, cleans up easily). It's pretty firm
I'm not a bottom (or gay for that matter) but I use something like this for cleaning out before prostate play. I squat over it and spray forcefully up. It helps really clean you out and it isn't too much. Just draw a sink of warm water (bleach afterward if you have to double dip).
Thanks. I noticed that this item is bought along with that enema. What is that item for? Is it just lube?