This works pretty good to hold things in place. Speaking from experience. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07GYV1K4X/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I haven’t used one myself, but something like this might work https://cults3d.com/en/3d-model/gadget/chastity-lock-pin-for-all-of-our-chastity-devices
Holy trainers and their knockoffs do have a small hole that goes all the way through, I suppose in theory you could find an appropriately sized nail and drill a small hole through the end that protrudes and put a padlock/plastic lock through that.
You could also upgrade the lock to a burg-wachter ME/2. They fit perfectly and are higher quality than the knockoff locks.
You can buy the original here:
If regardless of who makes the lock, if you are bathing with your device on, make sure you lubricate the lock on a regular basis.
Check this out. I got one, it's pretty ideal for your situation. Not only will your wife have control of the key but will be able to show you access in an emergency if needed.
This was my favorite Amazon one. You will have to bend the end bars closer together so your head can’t poke out but that’s easy with pliers. They make different versions of this one. Some have magic locks not a pad lock. I just put a bandaid around the padlock to keep it quiet. There are also multiple cage sizes.....you will just have to search on Amazon for the different lengths
Happygo Male Chastity Device Hypoallergenic Stainless Steel Cock Cage Penis Ring M Size Virginity Lock Chastity Belt Adult Game Sex Toy (1.77 inch/ 4.5cm) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01GQBWENW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_aOY-Fb8BH6FRE
I'm an inch shorter and I went with the ht v3 (although now it's the v4) nano, which works well for me. Currently I'm in the cage at the below link, which is much smaller and more satisfying, but could take some getting used to if you want to wear it long term. With everything though always go with the smallest ring size you can comfortably fit first one ball through then the other. There's a strategy to it haha but idk if everyone does it the same way.
The colander style opening on the front will also hurt the head of your penis when it sticks through, which it will. I am fairly small, and the one I have is a bit longer with that style of tip.
The link I posted is one I am considering ordering. Would be better for both hygiene as well as not having the pain of the link you posted.
This was my first, and I would recommend it
Bantie Adjustable Chastity Cage with 4 Rings, Medical Grade Resin Cock Cage Sex Toy for Men https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VYQYP8S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ZQXKJVX9NA4PS6QV2Q4Y?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
My Dom keeps one of my keys with him and the other I keep in a small plastic keybox that has a resettable 3-digit combo. That why when he's away if I have a problem I can call or text to get the code and if it's an emergency I could just break the safe open. Of course if I break it I'll have to explain it to him and buy a new one too.
If it's the one with a brass lock cylinder that goes into the cage itself, a Dremel and some careful grinding should work. If it has a padlock, a pair of wire cutters should work just fine. In don't mean electricians wire cutters. I mean Klein 9" tie wire cutters. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0009ZAT1G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_DDDVEYR3B0C77VKPQKWA
Here's what I've done
If the opening at the front of the cage is big enough I find I can usually get a soapy little finger in and under my foreskin.
Alternatively I've tried a squeezy wash bottle (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Squeeze-Plastic-Economy-Natural-Condiment/dp/B07HH3XCBZ)
If the front opening is pretty narrow I've had good success with a soaped cotton bud
Something like Aqueous Cream is better than soaps/detergents if you can't rinse very thoroughly too
This book is amazing, especially if she is unsure of what Femdom is all about and you (the male sub) really would like to have a Female Led Relationship.
I read it years ago and it really cleared up a lot of misconceptions I had about the mindset behind a sustainable FLR.
And of course somewhere in there is stuff about orgasm control, chastity, etc.
I've gone through many iterations. This is what you want right here:
Is one option I also can supply a guy who makes custom staps to your exact dimensions
I've been playing with it for a while, and it can be whatever you and your husband want it to be. There is no right or wrong way to play.
Personally, I love the idea of being locked from the perspective of teasing and denial, bondage, and power exchange. The more extreme fantasies like permanent locks, cuckoldry, forced bi or forced fem are actually a turn-off for me.
It took me a long time to find a device that is comfortable and fits right, so be patient and understand that there will be some trial and error. Look at it as a journey.
I really like the Cherry Keeper. They're not super expensive, they're 3D printed, and there are plenty of options for different size cages and rings so it's relatively cheap if you think a different size cage or ring might work better. And it's the most comfortable design I've worn.
I would advise you to try it with an open mind. No need to take it too seriously or rush anything. Let him get used to wearing it; you may want to start with a Holy Trainer or CB6000...IMO they're not the best, but they usually come with a variety of ring sizes to try out.
Chafing can be a problem; I recommend Aquaphor (someone else suggested it, and I've found that it works wonders). Personally I need to unlock at least every one to two weeks for a good cleaning, but others claim that even that isn't necessary with the right device...
Another great book on the subject was written by Sarah Jameson, and it's called "Be Careful What You Wish For..."
She writes from the perspective of a woman who had the same reaction that you're having when her husband came to her with the same request.
Good luck, and have fun!
Try this one. I haven't worn it as it is too big for me but I believe it is a fairly popular one.
It is kind of hit or miss on what cage is best for any one person. The cages on Amazon are cheap so you can try a few and get an idea of what cage you like best. Once you know your ring size you can try some metal cages as well.
Need some sort of container you can seal a key in with a tie. I like a small length of pvc, longer than the key, that the key fits inside, drill a radial hole all the way through, big enough for the serialized tag to fit through, put key in, pass the tag through the hole you made, going through the key's keyring hole, so that the tag is holding the key inside the pvc pipe. Just break the tag if you need the key.
$20 and you can get 100 tags and some sort of container.
Yeah, seems similar. Interesting that one of the suggestions was to order a bigger ring. Maybe I should have done that instead of buying the smaller ring. Here's a link to my cage: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FQ3NCFD/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_SemcGbB6X4YKP
I got these briefs that are amazing and have a pouch. They have a thong version I think too. I can’t do boxers because I find I need support! Here’s the link
Hey there! I bought a cheap one on Amazon about a year ago and it’s still going strong!
Handheld Massager Cordless Therapeutic Waterproof Rechargeable Vibrating Massage 7 Patterns 4 Intense Speeds, Magic Recovery on Back,Legs,Shoulder,Hand Pains Recovery, Purple https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07K2SWDHB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_jQQ2Fb2J0SJXX?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I was using one the plastic CB line. It tended to pinch, which maybe was the issue.
I suppose it's a cheap knock off, but it works for me. It is comfortable enough for me to sleep in without issue, if it is put on well.
I usually recommend people try a Holy Trainer clone. The only real downside of the clones is you will want some sand paper to clean up some of the sharp edges. The upside is they are cheap and you can find out what size rings, etc works for you without spending a bundle. If you end up enjoying it the real ones I think are worth the price. I have worn these for over a month at a time.
I went ahead and bought myself some replacement locks when the original cheap Chinese one started being moody. They're relatively cheap so I forego the oil trick. When it starts to malfunction again, ill just toss it and put a new one in.
If you order from Amazon, they have lockers that you can get your package delivered to. I don't know if they're available everywhere, but if there's one near you, they're sure convenient, and your package will be safe from package thieves, too. You just pick a nearby locker under the shipping options when you check out, and they email you a code for the locker when it arrives.
I got a pink one of these and it's very comfortable. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B072J44NYF/ref=twister_B071VTWXQK?_encoding=UTF8&th=1
Yeah I've tried a tube one before and it was an absolute mess. Two days and it was time to take it off and scrub everything. As far as light activity I've found underwear like these make a big difference:
For more strenuous things like running I use a jock strap. The only thing I've had much problem with is certain lifts that tend to stretch that area.
The cage style can make all the difference. I tried exercising with the tube one on once and it was pretty uncomfortable. I've had much better luck with the more open metal designs. The silicon ones might be better for exercise, but I've found hygiene in those is also an issue. Fortunately I got lucky and one of the cages on Amazon ended up fitting me perfectly, eventually I want to go for the Jailbird though.
This is the one I'm using that I bought from Amazon. It comes with one ring that's a bit bigger than 2". I'm using the short version, but there's a long as well if you're a bit bigger flaccid.
FYJ Lightweight Premium Medical Grade Resin Chastity Device Male Briefs With Discreet Packing (Short, Transparent) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077J36SS8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apap_XrZFYeMwbakH9
Hope it helps!
Alright...you're a bit...bigger than most. It depends if you want a tube type like the one above, or a cage one like This. It's probably the best I could find on amazon, size wise, and for comfort, probably. That ring looks odd with the hinge.
as for pink ones...I'm personally not a fan of padlocks, as i find they're too bulky, but this is around your size and has a positive review.
Not a lot of guys around here have packages as big as you. Most of the market is around the 50mm length for flaccid.
Thank you for this post, it's exactly what I needed! I've been trying a cheap metal cage from Amazon off and on for the past few months. The problem I was having is that my balls would inevitably slip back through the ring at some point during the day.
You helped me realize the problem is the gap between the cage and the bottom of the ring. By bending the cage downward, I've made that gap smaller so that I can't slip back through so easily. It really seems to have made the difference.
Since yours is plastic, I don't think it'll work for you, but I hope you figure it out soon. Good luck!
this one off amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01JHV2BRC/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01__o00_s01?ie=UTF8&th=1
it's really comfortable overall
The two books I recommend are:
The Keyholder's Handbook
The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Domination
That's exactly what I was talking about. They are very rigid, with a good bit of padding on the edges that go against skin to protect. I found this on Amazon, I'm thinking that the tube could be removed.
Get a time lock from Amazon.
Then put the key on the lock and lock it somewhere too high to reach... Like a cabinet handle or to a fixxed structure in your home that you can't get to until it's unlocked at the time you set.
I also have this one:
TERNENCE Metal Male Chastity... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07F7TL9LS?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I got the steel urethral tube with it. I gave muself a UTI playing with my sounds and dildo at the same time. I did manage to get it in when I 1st got it and it was very interesting to wear. I wore it all day at work and slept in it. It definetly lets you know its there. For me it kinda mildly vibrates around the tube. Not painful at all in fact it felt good in a different way than any good feelings I've ever had down there. When you pee through it, all I can say is, "wow". Take a hit of poppers then pee, insane. Such a strange but pleasant vibration. I've worn it a few times without the tube. It's kind of hard to pee out of but comfortable enough. My UTI is gone now. Can't wait to try it again.
I've had several and this is the best so far. Only 30 bucks on Amazon. I have hardly taken it off for 2 weeks now. Sometimes you get lucky. Steel is the way to go.
TERNENCE Stainless Steel Small... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GLB124Z?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
If you're in the UK I'd recommend:
Or anything in amazon's "sex and sensuality" section from Bondage Locker, Bondage Masters or FYJENNIC
You'll get next day delivery with prime, they're cheap knock offs (good to experiment with), they are delivered in plain amazon packages and you're protected by amazon's customer service.
We had similar discussions and went with the "cheap option":
KH has a key hidden in the house at all times (the emergency key). If something comes up and I MUST remove the cage, I call her, get the key, unlock, and address the issue. (Hey, it happens). We have one of these little boxes. Where the key for the box is, I have no idea. But after addressing the issue, I return home, put the cage back on, and drop the key on the coin slot of this little box, which she can retrieve at any time. I then call her and tell her I am locked. She will "verify" ( either asks for a photo, or maybe a quick peek on face time. She decides, and likes to have fun with it).
This was our solution. Might work for you.
Timer lockbox or
Wifi key lockbox
Or just be good and leave it out.
This one has a few options for how serious the lock out is and can do 30 days - timed lockbox
Ooh yes, you could also get one of these (https://www.amazon.com/Kitchen-Safe-Locking-Container-Height/dp/B00JGFQTYQ/ref=asc_df_B00JGFQTYQ/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=194842526382&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=9696040803301834092&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&...)
These do work wonders, and you can definitely find cheaper ones than this
There a flat cages out there, which actually require you to push your testicles in. They usually use the empty sack to attach but also require your penis to be pushed inside, so the usability also depends on penis size. The only one i could find right now is this one
https://www.amazon.de/dp/B0BFX3L41N/?coliid=I1JYPQCM7IJRBU&colid=185ZFM7SMZ8N3&psc=1&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it (dont know if its visible internationally)
but you should be able to find similar ones, maybe on amazaon or etsy, if you have a 3d-printer you could also print one yourself
This is basically what i wear now. Very open and easy to keep clean.
These work well, but definitely use the size chart.
Thats the one I have. They have more in the store. They're nice because they come with multiple rings.
I'm currently wearing this one: https://www.amazon.com/FYJENNICC-Chastity-Medical-Breathable-Underwear/dp/B087NWKBYQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_26?keywords=chastity%2Bcage&qid=1662067923&sr=8-26&th=1&psc=1
Cheap, and of good quality in my opinion. I'd recommend it. You get various ring sizes so this should be what you're looking for.
Something like that for example
I've been very impressed with the quality of these from Leadseals:
The similar looking Chinese knockoffs are worthless.
the app " time lock for images" on Android offer the same functionality with a movable square which will hide the combination while you take a picture.
It’s a cobra knock-off. The cage won’t go on enough for the plastic things to fit in the groove.
Nub size is the one I have and I’m using the largest ring.
This is the one I wear while jogging, it works great. I really don't need one except when I'm jogging, though in my tighter jeans it might be a benefit, I just usually deal with it. https://www.amazon.com/SKYSPER-Jockstraps-Underwear-Supporter-S-JOCK07/dp/B09GM6DJ81
Most of the Chinese locks are pretty low quality. If you want the original it's the Burg Wachter ME/2 originally designed to secure furniture mortise locks.
https://www.amazon.de/gp/product/B07MM59HJT/ref=ppx\_yo\_dt\_b\_asin\_title\_o05\_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 I'm wearing this one for more than 8 months. it is a small metal one. It has a urethral-tube which I don't use because (as you probably know) a urethral-tube isn't safe for long term wear. If you have questions about it ask right away
Probably this one (one size down from what you shared a link to). You don't want free room at the tip.
First of all, you buy something like this:
The parts start at 3mm and then stop at 18mm, which is already very large and allows the insertion of a finger!
Now you train your urethra with these Hegar dilators until you can insert 7/8 mm without problems. Then you cover with it well and gladly 99% of all dilators on the market for chastity cages (whether brand or China).
Note: It will burn, this is normal, it will go away with time and frequency.
Work sterile (even lubricant!) and drink a lot, really a lot that you have to pee often afterwards. This flushes the urethra free again and prevents infections.
The rest is then perseverance and will to do it.
Other commenters gave good suggestions.
I would recommend considering a cheap metal cage from Amazon. This one is reasonably priced and decent quirky.
Also, on the subject of “He has an average cock (and it should stay this way)”, shrinkage is a myth. Being locked in chastity for extended periods of time does not cause a penis to shrink.
You are entering to my current state of this kink. I would recommend this guide:
It is one of the better guides and books out there to discuss this with your wife. As of right now, my wife and I are just beginning to get more into chastity play with the game "the boss says" (like Simon says, except my wife is the boss) and it has made the most progress in terms of getting her into it.
She still prefers me being assertive/dominate, so there is some give and take in terms of how our play is but she notices that I am much happier being locked up with the idea of her holding the key and try other forms of pleasure. For example, we cuddled partially naked with me locked and giving her a massage. It was a good start and we discussed the other day and came up with the game the boss says (and she notices it really turns me on). Needless to say the game is easy and we can do chastity play off and on as we both desire.
It is win-win in terms of where we were in the past, where before she was completely turned off by the cage. Now I can wear it but just have boxers on and she seems to be growing more into the idea of keyholder.
So take it slow and make some games with your wife. Simple the boss says is fun because its just game and not some weird dom thing in her mind (just an example from my personal experience). Give it a shot and let us know how it goes. Good luck!
Its not silly. I almost newer have access to a toilet where I work and now use a Urination Device.
Works very well so I don't have to sit down.
something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Urination-Antimicrobial-Portable-Activities-Silicone/dp/B003BEDURW
Something like this. You can also find them at a hardware store. Some may be in the electrical section, others may be in the plumbing section where you find tubing for stuff like fish tanks.
Yes, with these. They covered my device perfectly. Of course it depends on the device, your anatomy, and your BMI...
I’m self locked as well. I use a time lock box as kh. You can set it from 1 minute to 1000 hours. https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Purpose-Kitchen-Containers-Addiction-Excessive/dp/B07XP2ZP6P/ref=mp_s_a_1_18?crid=22FN28QT5VNHM&keywords=time+locking+container&qid=1660938992&sprefix=time+lock%2Caps%2C215&sr=8-18
I bought a timed lock box (one of these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PWNCWJ2?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details) and I set it for 1 day intervals (my SO also has a backup key, but I don't know where it is and would have to ask for it). Once the timer is up I simply set it to 1 day again (sometimes less if there's an event or something I want to do that would be hard with the cage on).
This prevents me from impulsively unlocking myself, which is where I find I tend to fail the most. Usually when the timer is up I'm in a place where I'm happy to reset the timer and continue (or, perhaps take a break).
I usually wear my custom from Red Chili, but my wife likes this one because it let's me grow. It ought to work for a bigger dick.
> Mostly concerned about migration and if there's a cage that you guys would recommend. Will it happen either way?
For piercing we always recommend cages of this type:
However, you should have the cage made so that it really fits well.
Alternatively, a "normal" cage can be used at the beginning and a piercing lock inserted. This is as effective as the models shown above.
The rest is to get used to it and let it heal before you start.
I don't have a keyholder so I bought a lockable box like https://www.amazon.com/Sheffield-12630-Tamper-Proof-Resistant-Stackable/dp/B07MNMDGV3/ref=mp_s_a_1_27?crid=3T5IIR3VSLQ83&keywords=padlock%2Bbox&qid=1658506755&sprefix=padlock%2Bbox%2Caps%2C148&sr=8-27&th=1&psc=1 and a timed padlock like this to lock up my keys https://www.amazon.com/Display-Multi-Function-Electronic-Rechargeable-Padlock/dp/B07PXW5843/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?crid=71P0T0BDZO35&keywords=timer+lock&qid=1658506876&sprefix=timer+lock%2Caps%2C152&sr=8-8
The locks for sliding in are often, in the case of the Chinese locks, quite poorly declawed.
The easiest way here, not because we come from Germany, is to take a German manufacturer for the locks, they put more emphasis on such final work.
The company Burgwächter has originally created this design:
Their furniture locks can be purchased, are of course more expensive than the replicas, but you notice the quality, accuracy of fit and especially the final work, that there was more emphasis on quality.
It I mostly like this one. But without strap and so on. Also I changed the screws. Mine have a smaler tip and do hurt a little more
I will always refer to this book every time:
Chastity: A Guide for Vanilla Wives https://www.amazon.com/dp/B094D1CQKN/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_YFQTP3S7C6RKA5ZKCDKV
My wife is very vanilla and this book at least got her into being a key holder from time to time. It gives you both topics to discuss and what your archetypes are (e. g. My wife is a Queen/Mistress and I am more of a suitor/knight). It is an excellent book to get started on your journey with your wife. Good luck 🤞
Simple answer: Do it!
At the beginning we had also ordered a cage with a ring and were " certain" that the ring would fit in circumference and diameter and, like everyone else, we fell flat on our faces :)
After that we ordered an inexpensive set which offered ring sizes from 35mm to 52mm and scaled in 4mm steps.
You can also find such sets "today" on Amazon: https://www.amazon.de/M%C3%A4nnliche-Keuschheit-Penisring-Erwachsene-spielzeug/dp/B08Q7S3TJP/ref=sr_1_4?__mk_de_DE=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&crid=1LR2J3IHT44EP&keywords=Chastity+different+ring+sizes&qid=1656998778&sprefix=cha...
There are different ring sizes included and this will help you to find the right size.
In the end, the cage length, diameter and ring shape are the crucial points, but with an inexpensive set you can really test first and then see which size fits best.
These "cages" try to imitate full belt.
So "cages" of this kind:
The downside to these systems is always:
The advantage is always, besides the known of a cage:
The balls become more difficult to access
However, the waistbands are missing and therefore you do not gain any security, which is many times better with a full belt than with a cage.
Nevertheless, I would not recommend such systems and then go directly to a full belt.
I didn't find it on Swedish Amazon. Just looked on the German one and found this https://www.amazon.de/-/en/Jinqian-Stainless-Chastity-Testicle-Diameter/dp/B08BJ26K11/. I guess just have to figure out the correct size now lol.
That looks like it uses the usual "magic locker" type of lock. Try either inserting the key all the way and then pull back slightly before turning, or pushing the key in all the way and turning. Don't force it or you can snap the key off, in which case we can move this discussion to r/permanentchastity. 😱
BTW, the manufacturers of those "magic locker" devices are on a "race to the bottom" to cut costs and quality to the bare minimum. The real product these companies are badly cloning is the Burg Wachter ME/2: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07P6HQV5T You may want to get one of these as they're a lot more reliable, work in all "magic locker" type locks, and actually have individual unique keys.
Well tiny cages always is a mess. I use one similar to this
And wet toilet paper packet very useful.
So our first cage we used before we bought a custom cage was this one:
Is unfortunately no longer available from this vendor but was selling for around 30 euros (so about $30) at the time.
You can still easily get this model from other sellers.
This also went along with piercing apply when we had the piercing done and were still looking for an appropriate custom cage provider.
Inexpensive and quite suitable for 24/7. We got by with opening this once every 10-12 days to clean.
Of course, only if one was used without urehtra insertion and spikes.
It gets suggested around here now and againt but "Chastity; A Guide for vanilla wives" is apparently a decent intro for someone who doesn't "get" this kink
The Book "Chastity: A Guide For Vanilla Wives" comes up as a suggestion here now and again.
I did buy it a while ago to find out what the fuss was about. It's not the longest book but it does a good job of introducing chastity and some related bits and pieces (denial, teasing) from the perspective of someone who isn't vanilla.
I will say though trying chastity play does not require you get in to other kinks. By all means investigate other kinks but you really don't have to do everything, pick and choose the things you like the look of and let go of anything that doesn't seem fun.
Yes, what you forgot is the advice we always give when working with numbing creams.
Get a Urehtra dilator tool.
Something like this:
Rub the dilator and insert it as deeply as possible into the urethra, using numbing cream as a lubricant.
Then rub it in on the outside and let it soak in.
This will numb the inside and outside. Then no more pressing hard or using a fleshlight will help. The penis is numb and can hardly be brought to orgasm!
The combination of a flat cage and then wearing a vagina prosthesis over it can probably be intriguing for transwomen in the transition phase.
Worn over the micro cage something like this: https://www.amazon.de/-/en/Camel-Vagina-Silicone-Crossdresser-Transgender/dp/B07QXVXT82
should then give a good look.
Plastics are like little princesses and react differently to oils and other substances.
Furthermore, creams and lotions often contain mineral oils that cause additional damage to the material.
That is why the first rule for plastics: Keep your fingers away from all skin lotions, oils, etc.
It needs lubricating creams, which are intended for "sex" and "sex toys".
We have had very good experiences with this:
The stuff attacks neither toys, nor latex, nor other plastics and glides like hell.
Maybe you can try it with the next cage, because the lubricating effect also remains for a long time.
Which allows multiple timers. There's another one but I forgot what it was called that does charts of how many events per day which I used for tasks like edging and whatnot.
> How do I help her understand how chastity play is supposed to work?
There isn't actually "a way" that chastity is supposed to work. There are all sorts of ways and the only way it can work is if you both negotiate TOGETHER how you both want it to work. However it is possible to give you girlfriend some reading material that can explain some things and give her ideas. And after that if she is interested in it then you can sit down together and negotiate which of those ideas will or won't work for both of you.
I will say that Chastity: A Guide for Vanilla Wive is a pretty decent intro and not too long
Here's one that you can cinch down really tight to prevent the base ring from pushing away from your body: https://www.amazon.com/Strict-Leather-Premium-Strap-Harness/dp/B007YUWZ3E
The first issue I had with long term wear when using a non-elastic strap was the strap would dig into the sides of my hips. The second issue is that when an erection eventually occurs, it becomes extremely uncomfortable because there is no where for the blood to go. Your cock doesn't start at the base ring and will expand behind the base ring.
An elastic strap or tight fitting underwear will allow for some expansion to occur during an erection without it becoming too bad.
Since you said you have a replica Kink3D, you could take another replica first:
Alternatively, you could buy the original from Kink3D including the anatomical ring.
While a keyholder is the best solution, take the decision out of your hands completely, I know it isn’t an option for everyone. You could try freezing the key in a late block of ice, you can get it out but it will take a bit of work. Or try leaving the key somewhere outside your house, at work or another safe place far away from home forcing you to stay locked until you can go get the key. There are also small lock boxes like this
You could buy to lock the key away for a specific time.
A little smaller.
(I have one. It's tiny. I rarely wear it. I have the slightly larger size for normal wear.)
Flat cage is really small.
what should we do to figure out the perfect sizing? Measure frequently and accurately! Also try to find a cage that comes with several ring sizes. I had more probs with my rinf than the cage.
One of my first cages was this Birdcage knockoff, looks good, comfortable and lightweight but bulky.
I've heard good things about lockthecock.com . They've got a Cobra knock off that's $50.
I'd try as many cheap cages as possible before you spend big bucks. If you decided you want to pursue chastity long term I'm a Kink3d man. Very frustrating, turns my horny meter up to a 10 every time I'm locked.
And go slow when you start out. Be nice to your dick. He might not inderstand why he's caged. Give him time to adjust!
would you like metal or plastic?
i had fun with this cage. it is light. real stainless steel so no rust. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01JWH6500/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Bondage-Masters-Chastity-Removable-Air-Flow/dp/B08FZVYYCQ/ref=pd_aw_vtp_sccl_21/261-7962436-3351767?pd_rd_w=0zf7r&content-id=amzn1.sym.18f4f7d2-a05a-476f-8bdc-6ebc2dc09ac4&pf_rd_p=18f4f7d2-a05a-476f-8bdc-6ebc2dc09a... I have this one. It is good for peeing and for multiple days locked and it's cheap.
https://www.amazon.com/Printing-Resin-Chastity-Device-Sleeve/dp/B096BCXC9M?th=1&psc=1 this is the knockoff. It looks exactly like a genuine cobra cage, but this one only comes with a max ring size of 52mm, unlike the genuine that has 60mm. Because of that, there's fear that it won't fit right
Thank you. This is more the kind you mean right?
You mean what type of cage? I got this one: FYJENNICC Healthy Resin Male Cage Health Care Equipment Supplies Small Transparent https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07QXQGX3B/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_03S48J16Y4VRF2Q7PCD0
You may want to try jockstrap with hard cup. It will keep everything contained and even add to the anticipation since you cant easily adjust yourself. Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Shock-Doctor-Ultra-Supporter-Large/dp/B00Q9ML4RG/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=shock%2Bdoctor%2Bcup%2Bsupporter&qid=1653676775&sprefix=shock%2Bdoctor%2Bcup%2Bsu%2Caps%2C97&sr=8-6&th=1&psc=1
Well the first time we went from single weeks to 4 weeks. Whether it is difficult or not depends I guess. My KH and I do a lot of teasing and fucking, just with orgasm denial rolled in, so I certainly don't feel deprived of sexual contact.
> Any advice there for restricting access so I don’t just let myself out?
You definitely need a key available for emergency access. Consider something like the kitchen safe. You can set it to lock for multiple days, but it is only plastic so if you really need access it would be easy to break
Superglues and all glues that are not meant for the body are never a good idea if you plan to use them on the body!
Furthermore, superglues are nowadays constructed in such a way that they contain less solvent and therefore fall off the skin after 2 - 3 days, because the natural desquamation of the skin removes the adhesive from the "skin", i.e. the old skin particles fall off and the adhesive also falls off.
The glue itself can be dissolved by lemon juice, margarine or olive oil, detergent and simply soap and warm water.
So by "simply" showering, you would destroy the effect you are trying to achieve.
If you take a look at this video, it is possible because the adhesive can be removed so easily:
Respectively, because after 2 - 3 days everything comes off again and if you stick it in such a way that you can pee, this is "no" problem at first.
However, I strongly advise you not to do it yourself with glues and to use glues that are intended for handicraft and construction work.
There are skin adhesives you could try, but they are not long-lasting either.
The classic for this is mastic:
A glue for theatrical use that can relatively reliably fix latex to the skin for at least several hours up to a day.
But if you want a good and permanent backup, you won't get around a piercing.
That one works pretty well, but I found that the material it’s made out of was very cheap, it started ripping almost immediately despite fitting well. Also the clasps were a pain in the ass to deal with, especially ‘in the moment’.
I have this one, which is a little bit pricier but seems better quality, and looks and works like a normal pair of underwear when not in use: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07P5CF6N5
If you end up getting the one I linked, order a size down, with a strap on you want it to fit extra tightly so that the dildo stays upright.
I use this one! It really is mind-blowingly powerful. I bought it for the naughty reasons but the thing is so powerful that I've used it plenty of times to legit take care of a sore muscles and such. 😆 Also, the battery lasts for ages!
Everyone can have same varied opinions. But I say to try it out get a cheap one that comes with a variety of ring sizes. Helps figure it out easy and less that $30. Here is a place to go through a different sizes and colors for cheap. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09ZY889YM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_89P7R47E7CKF0QGWG19Z?psc=1
I've had the below cage for over a year now. I get about 6.5 inches and even though this is a small cage, it works great. It's super easy to keep clean for long periods of time; my wife has kept me locked for 4 weeks at a time, currently at 21 days. Also, I find that sleeping is quite easy in this one, where erections are not painful at all. Some think that this is part of the kink, but after a while, I wanted something that I could wear and forget about. I highly recommend.
Also, after some time, I ordered the 40 mm ring, but this was too small and caused a lot of discomfort.
TERNENCE Stainless Steel Small Male Chastity Device Ergonomic Design Stealth Lock for Adults Solitary Extreme Confinement Cage S045 (1.77 inch / 45mm)
Then leave out the cage, the material is not suitable for you. I'm just going to assume that you took a plastic cage instead of a metal one.
Otherwise, buy a metal cage.
Buy the following for it:
After that comes the craftsmanship. Sand the cage with coarse sandpaper. Then pack it in the electroplating and coat it with gold or silver.
In 99.9% of cases, people do not react to these two precious metals and you can use them to transform the cage into something usable for yourself, so that you can prevent the metal combination of China cages from releasing allergens into the body.