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As an awkward introvert I can relate to it being difficult to figure out how to make friends. I would suggest joining something, for starters. Try to find something related to your interests whatever those might be: A knitting club, a gaming group, a book club, a local church, a pick up sports league, a karate dojo, CrossFit gym, hiking club, etc., etc. Meetup.com has lots of options, some you probably haven't even realized are a thing. Try something new.

For me personally, I found a really great community of people in my neighborhood through CrossFit. People I see around town on the street who recognize me and say hello. People I have hung out with outside of the gym. That's nice to have, and unfortunately getting rarer these days.

I don’t know much about this platform but it sound interesting and promising. Its called “Minds”, and according to the sight: “ A place to have open conversations and bring people together. Free your mind and get paid for creating content, driving traffic and referring friends. Minds is the anti-Facebook that pays you for your time.”

https://www.minds.com/

Prenatal hormones are very important in brain development and might be part of the communication differences.

You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007OWRBL8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_dmiNFbT078YNS

Your emotional shift sounds very much like the result of testosterone. The term ‘roid rage came about because even men get more angry and aggressive on steroids.

I was reading a memoir by someone who transitioned in the 80s(?) https://www.amazon.com/Crossing-Transgender-Deirdre-N-McCloskey/dp/022666256X

I guess back then gate keeping was more than just not giving people HRT, but actively locked them up in psychiatric hospitals. thus the fear against therapy.

My heart goes out to you. I developed gender dysphoria as a result of childhood sexual and psychological abuse. Here is an excellent journal article on Adult Manifestations of Childhood Sexual Abuse. Dr. Leonard Shengold's Soul Murder is a definitive resource on the effects of childhood trauma.

You are very welcome. Two key indications of DID are time and memory loss. Dr. Loenard Shengold's Soul Murder is a definitive resource on the effects of childhood trauma. Dr. Richard Kluft presents an excellent overview of DID in his Childhood Antecedents of Multiple Personality Disorders.

Men don't see you as lesser, they just see you as the opposite sex and so they can't treat you the way they treat other men. They can't tell the same jokes because women are more emotional and don't "get" certain things. They just express themselves differently and will act different when you're around. It's even worse if you don't identify as your real gender.

The whole progressive movement has done more harm to equality than good and that's a fact. Nowadays people will rather keep their mouth shut instead of offending someone because they got misunderstood. I've seen people flip out and bitch because a guy called someone a "dude" in a conversion as in "yeah dude". Seriously who wants to deal with that kind of shit? To have someone ruin the mood because of something stupid like that. That's why most people will just stay quiet instead of risking dealing with something they don't want.

Transitioning won't change you who really are how how people who know you perceive you. They'll still know your real gender and act appropriately even if you identify as a man. Men act differently around women and won't talk to you the same way and they do between themselves, even if they knew your since childhood.

The problem is that even though you identify as a man you have no idea how men really act between themselves. What you perceive as an "aggression" is usually just banter between guys who don't put too much thought into it.

> I’ve been with male friends who only shake other men’s hands when they meet new people and not the women’s like it’s the 1950s.

Some might be awkward while others do it because of what #metoo movement has become and how everything nowadays is sexual harassment.

I didn't mean to sound mean but that's the reality of the situation. There's a good video about this https://hooktube.com/watch?v=Ip7kP_dd6LU

I actually have a binder that I purchased off amazon that I occasionally wear when I want to wear button-downs or certain t-shirts. I'd recommend getting it here's the link: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQQVL2G/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_image_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 Since I'm only a b cup it definitely gives me the flat masculine look that I want it doesn't make my chest look bigger or anything. When I'm not wearing a binder I'm usually always wearing a tight sports bra or a big jacket, hoodie, sweatshirt, or an oversized t-shirt since they greatly decrease the appearance of my chest. I live in a place with four seasons mostly cold tbh so I can get away with this clothing style. But I've seen guys in hot weather outside wearing t-shirts who were overweight who had what some would call man boobs so it might not be a big deal in public but if you're a really skinny guy you might get stares. Now of course some women aren't going to be ok with your situation which is normal but there are some who might be ok with it if you explain your situation to them when dating etc. Is there a reason you won't consider the surgery option? I think you should also consider maybe decreasing your trips to hot places so you can wear bulky/oversized clothing more for your comfort.

Males with autogynephilic attraction are known to purge it all and then sometimes return to transitioning. However, most AGP's simply live normal heterosexual lives and engage in fetishistic cross dressing in private, or with their girlfriends who don't mind it. I recommend this book about it – the second half focuses on MTF.

I am just trying to help you.

https://www.semanticscholar.org/paper/Who-Is-This-About-An-Exploratory-Study-of-Erotic-Fertel/21205f4733a13460b8ca34c7312deb3eede51f28

Its other people that are lying to you becuase they are ideologically opposed to medical transition.

Honestly, you sound like you're about in the range that I am, and I've never been on hormones. I just have a low female voice. I made you a clip so that you can compare. https://www.speakpipe.com/voice-recorder/msg/v5pi959eyt3smiw6

I'm old (53) so you probably don't want to hear from me. Still, it's a vent, so I can say a bit, right?

When I was young in the 1980's androgynous was cool. Grace Jones, Prince, David Bowie (who wore a dress in the 70's ffs), Boy George, Annie Lennox, k.d. lang . . . I could go on. Now, not so much. I find it weird and sad that we seem to be moving backwards in terms of gender. In the 70's my mom felt compelled to sew lace and flowers onto my little sister's baby outfits because she kept getting misgendered. Baby clothes did not come in super-gendered pink and camo way back in the before times.

I found my husband on Match.com, with a profile that said men found me intimidating. (That allowed men to self-prune if they weren't up for an intelligent woman.) I've got a Master's Degree in addition to the M.D. and I'm scary smart. It worked best to just put that out first, since most men can't handle it.

I'm the breadwinner for our family and my husband has done more of the child raising (although we are both deeply involved). He had a hard time, especially in Wisconsin 13 yrs ago where a dad trying to set up playdates was thought to maybe be trying to set up an affair. My point is that atypical relationships exist.

When it comes to finding your partner and finding your tribe, nothing works like pursuing what you love. You do your thing, follow your fancy. It may work out and it may not, but at least it will be interesting!

Our culture today is TERRIBLE about teaching boys what it actually means to be a man. I am talking about divine masculinity, not this macho bullshit. We have no rituals or rites of passage anymore.

I recommend reading Iron John by Robert Bly, or Under Saturn's Shadow by James Hollis

https://www.amazon.com/Iron-John-Book-About-Men/dp/0306813769

I also recommend Martial Arts, as a physical and spiritual practice.

Also make a habit of getting out of your head and away from your computer and devices and get into your BODY more. Work out, lift, run, exercise, cycle, meditate, feel your body more, feel the sensations. Sex is sensual, it is about the feelings, not the thoughts. Try to stop living in your head and just get in touch more with your body without any concepts, just be present, be naked with actual flesh and blood humans and just feel. Avoid porn like the plague. Our libido is divine sexual energy meant for the purpose of connection to others, porn hijacks that energy and wastes it.

Absolutely, I’m constantly telling the non-mental health trained people I work with that many men express depression as anger and aggression. Also teenagers tend to have the angry version of depression as well.

Another cool book is Nymphomania: A History https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393322424/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_CIkNFb0Z4T81V It talks about female sexuality and how it’s been suppressed throughout history. Another example of how a ‘masculine’ trait was treated throughout history.

Hey there! I share your distaste for padded bras. I've completely switched over to bralettes (usually Aerie) because they're comfortable and fun, but I also cannot recommend these highly enough!! No bra AND no nips.

One day I'll get over myself and just own having nipples, but until then, these are my favorite things ever.

I threw out all of mine too and I regret it so bad 😂 especially since buying new clothes during this time has been a challenge haha! Everyone has been super supportive of me thank god, I think once people see you being more confident and happy (my attitude has changed so much I’ve really come out of my shell) they’ll also be happy for you 😁 I got my wig on amazon haha I didn’t want to fork out a lot of money since it’s just until my hair grows into a short bob (I’m in the ratchet ass bowl cut (almost mullet phase) Here’s the link FAELBATY Wavy Wig Short Bob Wigs... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S4FPG7S?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I have a pick of it in a post and the seller was amazing ❤️