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If you have an android phone, an alternative to using a bluetooth clicker I used was Opencamera. It has a pretty nice timer, burst and white balance features that are better/more granular than the stock app that came with my phone. Typically I set the burst to back-to-back 50, timer to 10 seconds and adjusted my pose each shot to create a variety of shots. Each outing I probably took 800-1000 pictures which equated to 5 - 8 good enough to consider using for a profile. It was work but I got to take my time and I didn't have to burden my friends with the ol', "hey can we can get a few shots while we are out"🤷‍♂️

I've had a fair share of luck on Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Upward, OkCupid and even Plenty Of Fish and Match.com.

Hinge has remained elusive. I've gotten a few matches but none of them have materialized into an actual date.

I even matched with someone that I had matched on with a lot earlier on Coffee Meets Bagel, but I credit that match (and eventual date that we went on) to CMB.

I think the issue with Hinge is that, unless you pay, it is very slow-moving. Allowing you to message like 6 people per day?

Coffee Meets Bagel also limits you, but they at least give you 30 new matches per day in the free version, same with Bumble.

If I had to do a top 10 best dating apps list, Hinge would either land at the very bottom or not make the cut at all.

>I also find everything cringe and hate on everything so

That honestly sounds like depression. I've struggle with that on and off through my whole life when it feels like everything is awful, simultaneously nothing matters and yet everything matters. I know this is the wrong thread for getting onto these topics, but you should really read this when you get a chance, it really helped me when I went though those periods.

the highest quality light is free, it's right outside. you COULD go an extra mile and use a light reflector to bounce light from the sun as a fill light (and that would retain the high CRI of the sun), but it's not very necessary.

try to shoot in the shade, shoot during golden hours, and shoot on overcast days.

If you're like me (and many, many guys) and :
- You tense up whenever a camera comes out
- You always seem to have a weird pose or expression in photos
- Your friends rarely take photos of you

Here's a god-tier tip that really improved my results:

First off, buy this:
https://www.amazon.com/Adjustable-Upgraded-Ringlight-Photography-Compatible/dp/B086ZXS6K3/ref=sr\_1\_6?crid=2YEW2D30EH2KV&keywords=selfie%2Bring%2Blight%2Btripod&qid=1653106073&sprefix=selfie%2Bring%2Blight%2Btripod%2Caps%2C73&sr=8...

Then take hundreds to thousands pictures of yourself. If you can get a decently looking normal background in your home, you can get it to look just like it was a friend taking a pic of you at a party. Even better, hold a drink in your hand while doing it. This will only work for one, maybe two pictures, but having a great 1st picture makes such a big impact.

If you're like me, 99.9% of the 1000 pictures you'll take of yourself will look awkward and weird. However, you'll get some gems eventually.

Thanks 😊

Re: your feedback, someone else also mentioned the guess which one part so I changed it. Will take the other stuff into account as well. Appreciate the advice! Here’s the apron:

Don't Worry I Can Do This I... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0992PBG9Q?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1645488168&sr=8-3

This book is worth a read. It won't make everything feel magically better but it will allow you to understand why someone may act in such a contradictory manner. I got to the point in dating where I could almost predict the women who were going to get super intense and back away or ghost.

I only had one women kind of try and explain what was going on and I think she just confused herself with the mental gymnastics she was using.

What I will say is be happy that they ghost quickly instead of completely wrecking a relationship that you have invested 12+ months in.

iPhone 12 and this is the tripod: UBeesize 51" Extendable Tripod... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NWC3L95?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share I don’t use any attachments or anything beyond what came with the tripod

Giving you the benefit of the doubt that you won't be menace to hinge-society...

You can get a custom virtual creditcard here, but I don't know if that's enough to make a payment for Hinge.

The study looked at a large online dating website (4 million members, maybe it's match.com, but they don't say). They say they found the gender ratio 0ooo described based on the self-reported gender of the profiles as it was in 2014.

0ooo then said the ratio is the same for Hinge as it is for that website. But if that website is a paid website and/or one where you have to fill out a ton of stuff that will drastically limit the number of low-effort male users, who form the majority of users on free-to-use dating apps like Hinge. And things may have changed since 2014 with online dating becoming more mainstream and accessible.

Another study on tinder found 3 men for every woman, but didn't specify how many of those women were bots or inactive, and it was an average across all ages. Basically below 40 there will be even more men than that average 3-to-1 ratio. Nobody knows the ratio for Hinge.

Are you on other apps as well? I have seen people have diff luck elsewhere. I would try that. Also I just joined a few groups on meetup.com I have like six thinks I am going to between now and October and they keep on adding more events. There's a lot of girls in my groups and at any event from 8-25+ people are going so I will meet people. I hear you.. it's hard to not get caught up in it. But if you join social groups and ur busy having fun and meeting people that would change things for the better!

Sure! Unless you already have a Google phone (in which case, you're stuck with that number), you can create one via your Google account at https://voice.google.com/about and download the app to your phone. I actually made mine for an unrelated reason, but I kept it for dating apps because it's not listed on any websites with my face next to it or anything like that.

Thank you.

You should read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1643041438&sr=8-2

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Specifically about the people who have Avoidant Attachment styles. Which according to this book is about 25% of the population and for a number of reasons they probably make up a higher % of the OLD population. (When I thought it through it makes a lot of sense why.)

i have had very similar interactions with a number of women who came on very strong, made it very clear through actions and words that they were very interested in me, only to have them ghost or slowly "breadcrumb" away from contact. It almost always followed the same script. There are certainly a lot of people who have grass is always greener syndrome and I would also say that the grass is always greener is part of why people come on so strong and pull away.

Read a match.com survey about that marketing strat. It was a significant percentage of born attractive women's dating profiles used as thirst traps to gain IG followers for selling various products (including themselves).

I like cats also, but it's been said men + cats pic = less attractive to a significant percentage of women (I think it was a match.com study). Swap in a pic with dog IMO (unless this is not negotiable for you of course).

Meh. Not really a dick move. Just annoying for people who are using the app specifically because its marketed as a "dating" app rather than hookup app like Tinder etc. But I wouldn't worry about it. There's people paying for Match.com subscriptions just to find a hookup so its just a part of life lol. Just be upfront about your intentions. Most people are okay with a hookup while they wait to find "the one" or whatever.

https://www.photofeeler.com/ make an account at https://www.photofeeler.com and upload your photos and vote on other people’s photos and they vote on your photos, do that every day for a week or 2 and you will figure out which ones to use

I got a remote phone shutter for my dSLR.

However while it was useful for framing the picture, I ended up setting it to take a picture every second and trying lots of different poses, then choosing the best - could do with a phone camera (You can get really cheap bluetooth phone remotes too by the way).
Had a few people comment on 'professional photos' when asking for profile critique - pleased for a selfie, though may then be bad for that!

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You could upload your pics to https://www.photofeeler.com/ and see what they say - it helped me.

Go out and do something! Take a picture! If this seems daunting, get your social life together before you worry about dating. This book is an excellent resource re: how to get your life and personality to the point where women will want to be with you without you really having to convince them

https://www.amazon.com/What-Women-Want-Tucker-Max/dp/0316375330

Agree that every photo needs replacing.

Worst case scenario $25 tripod, spend a few hours on a weekend finding cool places to take pics somewhere interesting (park, tennis court, fucking chipotle - anywhere), all in different outfits, try to make it not look staged, maybe swing by the barber and get polished up if you're looking a little scruffy.

That few hours could change your life. You'll be drowning in ladies, they're all out there waiting to see the best you.

Your profile comes across as very authentic, which I think is something many struggle to achieve. As a fellow coffee/tea enthusiast myself, I'd like to recommend you look into teeth whitening kits. It could be the lighting, but I'm fairly certain your teeth are quite stained - which isn't a bad thing per say! But it's become a simple, safe, and effective DIY thing (something like this).

Agree with u/MiniMessage. Go for a brighter photo for that first pic, but you're on the right track! A good smile and more upright posture conveys confidence and approachability. I really wouldn't change much else :)

I got a remote system for my dSLR to use as a remote shutter. While it was useful for composing shots from further away without guesswork, I ended up just using the one a second option as it was easier than staying in a specific pose and pressing the button on my phone/tablet, then repeating. Following other picture suggestions, when I did a profile critque in another sub someone described them as 'pro photoshoot pictures' or something, was was nice as they were literal 'selfies'.

If you've got an android phone, you can use an app like open camera https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=net.sourceforge.opencamera&hl=en_GB to take a a picture every second I believe.

I'm not a woman, but if you're studying towards a job I'm sure that's a great start.