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Thanks for the heads up, but I've had it for a while so wasn't in danger.

Apparently a hacker got a hold of a dev's password and uploaded a version with malware on August 3rd. But they noticed it within a few hours and replaced it.

http://www.audacityteam.org/compromised-download-partner/

Alright. I'll admit it's a bit murky here, but it sounds like you're at least a biromantic parosexual. You could be allo for women and iamvano for men.

However, it's also possible you may be sapphic, a biromantic lesbian, or just a lesbian.

Regarding intimacy, Girl Sex 101 is a great resource. I also recommend checking out r/latebloomerlesbians, r/actuallesbians, and r/WLW to see if anything resonates with you.

You know you don't want to harm yourself, correct? That's exactly why trans people transition. Living as a cis person hurts them. Sometimes to the point of death. The know they're right because it's leads to greater happiness and, subsequently better health.

If you're curious the dig deeper, I recommend reading Everything You Wanted to Know About Trans (But Were Too Afraid to Ask) for a deeper dive on the trans experience.

One document I have found helpful is the Gender Dysphoria Bible. It gave me the language I was missing to sort through how I feel.

If you prefer a more traditional book, I am reading How to Understand Your Gender and so far it is well written and useful.

I hope these help a bit. Much love 💕

Bi woman here- I didn't realize it until I was 22. As a scientist, I got curious when I came out and started looking for data [and haven't stopped since, admittedly]...

This particular data set is far from complete, but according to a chapter from a book that looked at nine different studies [a total of 874 bisexual women], the average age for identifying as bisexual was found to be 23.6 years of age. For bisexual men [sample size of 632 across 7 studies] the average age for identifying as bisexual was found to be 24.5 years of age. So I wouldn't be too worried about it.

Source cited: Fox, Ronald C. "Bisexual Identities". Psychological Perspectives on Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Experiences. 2nd Edition. Eds. Linda Garnets, & Douglas C. Kimmel. Columbia University Press, 2002. Pp. 86-118. Retrieved from <https://books.google.com/books?id=Cr77KRy3QSkC> on 2/3/15.

Yep! This article also mentions other brands who makes these.

It sounds like you're a biromantic demisexual to me. I'm not sure whether you have a low sex drive though. You may want to look into new position and new types of foreplay with your boyfriend though if orgasms are very important for full satisfaction.

Regarding sex for queer women, I find this to be a good guide. If you are, indeed, only into penises, that's fine. Bi people can have genital preferences too.

As a side note, you can get pregnant while having a girlfriend/wife. If she doesn't have any viable sperm, you can look into sperm donors together. If she does produce sperm or has frozen some prior to any bottom surgeries (as with some trans women), you can carry a pregnancy that way.

I'm not sure whether you're lesbian or not, but there are other lesbian bottoms out there. I'd say they're less common than switches but more common than tops.

I think Girl Sex 101 is a good guide for queer sex.

Working with a gender therapist is widely recommended, and I'll throw in my experiences.

In addition to Thrilledwfrills' comments, one of the main benefits is the knowledge and experience a therapist has with gender journeys. They can help point out things that are common so you don't feel alone; they can point out perspectives that have been useful for other clients (this in particular really helped me).

I've been lucky to work with a really good gender therapist, and am fortunate that I can afford it. If finding a good therapist or affording it is a problem, one thing that might help is resources put out by gender therapists. There are several that have YouTube channels, and I recommend this book: You and Your Gender Identity

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Very similar boat here. My egg cracked in April, and over the last 5 months, I've at least figured out that I'm definitely not a cis male.

I can't define myself by what I am not. So what am I?

First, I'll recommend this book, which was very helpful to me, and I should review it again:
You and Your Gender Identity, by Dara Hoffman-Fox

Second, something to watch out for:
Early on, I figured "If I'm not a cis man, I'm a trans woman, right?" and had a lot of preconceived notions of what that meant. My partner noticed that I seemed to be struggling to squeeze myself into facets that didn't necessarily seem to fit. I've found more peace with trying on different gender attributes and behaviors, and letting that lead me to what my gender identity should be.

I can almost guarantee that patience will be necessary. I will also highly recommend working with a gender-specialized therapist if that's an option for you. I wish you the best of luck in your gender journey. <3

Sounds like you might be bi. I recommend reading this book. It's also okay to let a girl you're with know it's your first time having lesbian sex. Every sapphist has been in your shoes at one point.

So then, if you were born male, that means you're are already a biological man.

I'm sorry you're experiencing dysphoria, but both of your conditions can be medically treated.

For your chest, you can undergo the same procedure cis men do for gynecomastia. In the meantime, you can wear a binder.

For you genitalia, you can get a metoidioplasty or a phalloplasty. In the meantime, you can wear a packer.

I also think reading this book and checking out in r/ftm, r/FTMfemininity, r/femboy, r/feminineboys, r/FTM_SELFIES, r/transadorable, and r/transpositive.

Do you also have a gender therapist? They can help you set up a plan to get through this.

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I'm still in the whole figuring-things-out stage of things (although I'm leaning towards "genderfluid"), but I've been enjoying these in terms of underwear. They're cut for folks with penises, but especially the pastel-colored ones make me feel more girly. http://www.amazon.com/Fruit-Loom-Wardrobe-Bikini-Briefs/dp/B005CW07S6/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1452701342&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=fruit+of+the+loom+bikini+men