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If you are in the sea, and all you have is a weight, let go.

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You have yourself, and you have your sobriety, and with those, you can do so much!

What do you want? Let's get you working towards it?

If you're lonely, there are plenty of community activities around to get involved in. nextdoor.com is like facebook for neighbourhoods, I found a walking group through it. What are you interested in? Can you look up AA meetings, to meet some new people?

Can you volunteer at a soup kitchen or shelter of some kind? Refugees are in need of a lot of help right now, I just volunteered to assemble flat pack furniture to help! While you're helping other people, and looking after yourself by keeping active, you can meet cool people. I found a local sewing group making masks, and a litter picking group who meet up, take a walk, then go for coffee and cake. There is so much around you, once you start looking.

I mean this more sincerely than ever before: You need to do you, boo.

When my ears ring I listen to this. It drowns out the ringing, and may even remove it for a few minutes (don’t put it on max volume though, it only needs to drown out the ringing)

You might also try a diy version, place your palms on your ears, your fingers pointed to the backs of your head. Then press with a finger of one hand on a finger of the other hand the other and move it from the other finger, letting it hit the back of your head. Do this for 30 seconds or so and the ringing should subside for a few minutes (I can find a better explanation if this is not suficient).

Try to enjoy music while you still can and think about all the technological advancements we will have made in 10 years. I wish you the best of luck! Kisses, mom.

I'm not a mother, but I can be like a sister if that's ok?

I'm sorry you're having an extra hard time today.. It's night time in Japan now, so great job on conquering the day! I hope you can get lots of rest and relax in bed, you deserve it! ��

Since there's no therapy services near you, have you tried online? I know websites and apps exist in English, but a quick search showed similar ones in Japanese. I'm not sure if they'll be helpful but you can decide whether you want to try them or not:

→ こころのサプリ

→ SNSほっとライン　～SNS相談～

I love hugs! Have a virtual hug from me! (((((っ・ω・)っぎゅ〜♪

You're so young, I truly hope things get better for you soon. ��

Hey sib! It’s hard to be a practicing Catholic and not agree with the Catholic teaching on some of the big teachings in the Church, I can’t imagine how hard it is for you. What helps me is following some progressive Catholic leaders like Father James Martin. Please know that there are many many people in the Catholic faith who do not view you as lesser than anyone else. There are churches that will love and accept you for exactly who you are. I’m so sorry our faith has failed you and that your priest and parish aren’t making you feel welcome. If you need to talk, please reach out.

P.S. Episcopalians are pretty cool too and you wouldn’t really have to relearn the Mass (pretty sure they still use the old translations too, lol!)

Edited to add: Father Martin has also written a book about the Church and her LGBT faithful. You can find it here if you are interested.

I bought a men's beard trimmer and it's the best thing ever. Haven't nicked myself and way less ingrown hair. Looks similar to this . Shave the longer hair with the shave part and then make it silky smooth with the roll blade things. And you do it all without water, so no need for shaving cream!

The other comments gave better advice than I could on how to approach the subject, but I want to mention this -

I wish I never shaved with a razor in my bikini area. I use a men's beard trimmer (similar to this) and it works amazing. No ingrown hair, no nicks, super easy, safer because you do it dry so no chance of hurting yourself in the shower either!

Also give her the option to go for waxing.

I really liked the book stepmonster

Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do https://www.amazon.com/dp/1517071380/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_2SV9CX24WHT8QSH6YTGA

Pro-tip: when you're reseasoning it in the oven, like others said, turn it upside down so any excess runs off instead of baking into a sticky glaze.

Pro-pro-tip: put a baking pan or something under the upside down pan to catch the drips so you don't have to scrub a sticky glaze off your oven :)

A pan scraper like these is really helpful with cleaning cast iron without scrubbing.

Also, a little soap won't ruin your pan, just rinse well after and if it looks like it needs it, give it a little rub with your oil of choice before you put it away. No need for a full reseason in the oven.

Nothing ruined, you've got this!

Darl, try hydrogen peroxide for your laundry deo stains and cleaning around the house - wear gloves! Its miracle stuff!

Oh also, I have no idea what wax melt is, but assuming it requires molds, get a set of "creepy crawler" molds. I have all of them and use them to make all kinds of stuff. They're from the 1960s, made of aluminum, and were one of the most awesome and dangerous toys out there. The sculptures are charming and retro!

https://www.ecosia.org/images?q=creepy%20crawler%20molds

There's an app called Clue which I use. It's great for tracking cycles, even if they're a little varied like mine is. It also tracks a ton of other things if you're interested in that.

You can get it for android as well as iphone

Hey sis, I've done research on gi malabsorptions like ibs and bam, to try to advocate for myself since my Drs are shit. Obviously not a Dr, expert or professional tho. There's so many different types. Have you done a stool sample? Do you keep a food diary? https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.sglabs.mysymptoms Has he had any surgeries or organ removal like gallbladder removal? Also did you do an upper and lower colonoscopy?

Block him. Immediately and permanently. Tell your friends that you believe he is a threat to you, and you need them to protect you by refusing to speak to him about you, offer him any way to communicate to you, or give him any information about you.

Choking another person is one of the biggest red flags in domestic violence that the choker is a potential murderer of the person he is abusing. He is not your friend. He is a psychologically damaged, physically dangerous threat, and you need to behave like he is.

Tell his abusive parents. Tell his sweet sister. Do not keep this private. Keeping this private allows him to pretend that he's still got a chance, and he will continue to stalk you. Notify the police and ask that they do a wellness check on him. Hire a lawyer to send him a letter to leave you the fuck alone, and if necessary, send the lawyer to court to get a restraining order. Do NOT talk yourself out of this. You are the only person in this whole thing who can make sure that you remain safe. You are not responsible for his health or happiness, and him trying to manipulate you into believing that you are is a complete deal breaker.

Finally, go get a copy of Gavin de Boecker's The Gift of Fear. It will help you understand what you're up against and how to keep yourself safe.

Im eastern europe and white. My dad is brown. So our products might be different. Dry hair usually needs a conditioner with coconut oil or shea butter but Im sure you know that! CGM explains a lot of this stuff. I am wavy girl 😂 with like 3 curls. So like 4 different hair patterns. Hair is fun.

I used https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GT27S46?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share for a bit before it weighed my waves down on unwashed day 3. I have to use gel/mousse to get a good cast. Do you have a vitamin E oil? My ends get dry and i rub in some vit E. You could also use olive oil if your hair can tolerate holding it.

Unsure of how much you know so forgive me if Im curl-splaining.

Grad school! Holy crap that's impressive! You've got a huge amount of stress on your shoulders without the shituation going on outside. I don't have a lot of words of wisdom for you, things ARE scary right now and it's ok to feel scared and uncertain and overwhelmed. Does your program offer counseling services? It's worthwhile accessing them because sometimes when you do through the right channels you can get some leeway in your coursework, maybe extensions even to give you a bit of time to breathe. Mindfulness training might be helpful as well, to help bring you back to yourself when you are feeling untethered by world events. A friend of mine recommends https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mindfulmamasclub.mmc.

When I'm feeling overwhelmed by awful events that have happened, I try to do things to give back to the people around me, BC I believe that our purpose in life is to make the world a better place than the one we were born into. Things are shite but if you can make a difference for one person you are meeting your purpose. And it doesn't have to be time heavy stuff, something like holding a door open can be a kindness in someone's life.

Can you tell me more about your program? I'm interested to hear about it.

Thanks Mom! I used a stamped cross stitch kit, so I ordered it as one kit and the blanket with the pattern already stamped on it, the paper template and the thread all came together. It was very easy that way!

Amazon Link here.

Hey sis! I'm super excited for you! You may want to try a bra specialty store that just does bras. In my experience, all my best fitting bras have been from those stores. They have one job and they do it well.

VS seems like they have one job, but they're selling underwear, clothes and fragrance as well. You're getting more of a general mall retail experience as opposed to women who do nothing but bra fitting all day every day.

Also! Since you're in a less common size, your bras are likely going to cost more. :( To make sure you get the longest life from them:

• Get at least three bras to rotate. The elastic needs 48 hours between wearings to get its bounce back.
• Ideally you should hand wash your bras, but most of us machine wash. Use lingerie bags, on delicate/gentle cycle, cold wash. I got my lingerie bags at the Dollar Tree.
  
• If you machine wash, close the clasp. It's all about minimizing wear and tear.
• Air dry. Do not put your bras through the dryer. It will kill the elastic.

This thing!! https://www.amazon.ca/Sushi-Making-Kit-Chopsticks-Spreader/dp/B07HRR4L5R/ref=asc_df_B07HRR4L5R/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=341662458398&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12225007745530582818&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt... It makes it into a weird log shaped thing and it’s so much easier than trying to spread the rice out. It was so fun to use too!!

Believe it or not, Amazon!! the kit works AMAZING and you definitely need all the parts, I was worried I wouldn’t use all the extra stuff it comes with but it’s amazing!! Here’s the link: https://www.amazon.ca/Sushi-Making-Kit-Chopsticks-Spreader/dp/B07HRR4L5R/ref=asc_df_B07HRR4L5R/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=341662458398&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12225007745530582818&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt...

This was only my second try too!! I bought this sushi kit and it works so well!! I’m so proud of it, and it was sooo good

I listen to guided meditation with music every night. I also tried this trick which works for a short period of time. Maybe it will help you.

https://lifehacker.com/this-weird-trick-might-give-you-brief-relief-from-your-1794093023

Hey sweet sibling!

I know your pain. My facial hair was first light heartedly pointed out by my crush. That shit sucks >.< thankfully the solution can be significantly cheaper than 50$!

Excuse the Amazon link, I get it at any drug store or some grocery stores and I've never seen it more than 15$!

https://www.amazon.ca/Parissa-Bikini-Brazilian-Spatulas-Aftercare/dp/B0002PU86O/ref=mp_s_a_1_17?crid=2CIZMSMNNOP47&amp;keywords=facial+wax&amp;pscroll=1&amp;qid=1663307624&amp;sprefix=fscial+wax%2Caps%2C263&amp;sr=8-17&amp;wIndexMainSlot=30

In case the link doesn't work it is called Parissa hot wax.

This stuff works for me and I have DEEP roots. You heat it on low on your stove and smooth a layer on basically ANYWHERE you're mad at hair growth. From eyebrows to bikini area.

It hardens so you dont need strips. Smooth on in the direction of hair growth (for lip typically from just under your nose out to the edge of your lip, do it in two separate strips) Once it is firm enough to grab, but not rock hard (15-30 seconds typically for me) grab the corner at the bottom of your lip and pull off the opposite of the way you applied it. Do it quick.

It usually comes with a little pamphlet that helps explain how to use it.

If you arent confident doing it yourself you can go to waxing places. I think at my local one a lip wax is about 10$.

Lip can be a bit sensitive so when it comes time to rip it off, don't go slow. Trust me >.< only hurts for a second though.

I wish you luck on the battle of the folical!

Something to wear, something to eat, something to poop in, and somewhere to sleep.

If you’re 100% public transportation on a bus you might be able to skip the car seat/travel system in favor of a sling or wrap but that’s up to you.

A bouncy chair like this is nice to have, you can set baby in there when you need to shower or poop and still keep them in sight. But for the love of god find it used, do not spend fifty freaking euro on it!

https://www.amazon.fr/Rainforest-Vibrations-Apaisantes-Amovible-Naissance/dp/B0812KRTYQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_10?crid=JCKF2JX3VQ3V&amp;keywords=baby+bouncer+chair&amp;qid=1661730645&amp;sprefix=baby+biuncer%2Caps%2C206&amp;sr=8-10

Great advice already, and I would definitely recommend a waterproof mattress protector to help avoid this in the future! I have this kind for my own bed and my toddler’s bed:

https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07GJPMDDD/ref=cm_sw_r_api_i_NKH14BSB6XZ6EJBJDFGE_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

If it's a dead mouse, you honestly just have to wait for it to decay. It's an awful smell, but this stuff helps a lot.

Hand your husband this book, https://www.amazon.com/Angry-All-Time-Emergency-Control/dp/1572243929 and tell him clearly, that something needs to change, because the people he says he loves are scared of him and for him.

His reaction to the book and the wake up call will tell you everything.

A good man on a bad path, will be shocked and frankly, see the title and think "shit I AM angry all the time, and I'm miserable and I need help" and read it. Maybe move onto some therapy and start talking and making improvements.

A piece of shit that's not in a place to change will use the book as an excuse to become MORE angry.

You'll have your answer.

Well, let me tell you a few things, and then suggest you a few books.

1) a lot of 20 year olds aren’t virgins. Perhaps even a majority. They’re just sneaking around to have sex.

2) what happened to you is… normal, and not your fault. If you want to frame it as a mistake, that’s fine, but it was completely age-appropriate and understandable. You were tricked by someone you trusted.

3) there is no medical way to tell you aren’t a virgin. Seriously. So don’t worry about that.

4) spiritually, you may need to heal from this, but I’d advise you contact someone you can trust but has an outside perspective, like an imam, a theologian, a priest, a pastor, or a secular therapist. Someone who can understand that you are going through something age-appropriate, and help you heal.

5) I can promise you as a somewhat religious person, G-d forgives you. You really intended to marry this guy, and you’re still learning to make adult decisions. It happens sometimes.

So here’s the books I promised:

https://www.amazon.com/Purity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Virginity/dp/1580053149

https://www.amazon.com/Talking-Back-Purity-Culture-Rediscovering/dp/0830848169

My therapist recommended this book and it has helped me a lot, https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Inspirational-Readings-Encouragement-Meditations/dp/B0B68381KQ/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=1658105562&amp;sr=8-2 I am right there with you, literally in the same boat

Hi Big Brother here, you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself! It can be fixed by yourself at home. If you can already retract while flaccid, then you're already halfway there. I can't believe nobody has suggested this yet, but you can buy phimosis rings that will help you stretch out. Use coconut oil to slide them in, and most importantly do not rush switching up to the next ring size and be patient!

https://www.amazon.com/Phimoheal-Phimosis-Stretching-Rings-Kit/dp/B07X6PNJMP/

Oh sweetie it sounds like a hard time. There is a book you could read that helps to understand your emotions and process them without suppressing them or feeling guilty for expressing them. And please know that this state you’re in is temporary! I promise it will end and you’ll be smiling and happy. Take care

How frustrating! Do you know, is that a fiberglass tub? My guess is that it is, porcelain cleans up more easily. The problem with fiberglass is that it can be really susceptible to scratching and discoloration.

But this is your home, you own it! That is fantastic. At this point though, you have done a LOT. You might consider a new tub or recycled tub or try a refinishing product. (not necessarily recommending this product, but these types products do exist, https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Tile-Refinishing-Kit-Spray/dp/B07HXBC9GF/ref=sr_1_12?keywords=fiberglass%2Btub%2Brepair%2Bkit&amp;qid=1657410865&amp;sr=8-12&amp;th=1)

Wish I could be of more help. ♥

If you want to get away with it, everything else you’re wearing needs to be super professional. Not just all black because that can look goth or moody. I’d look for silky blouses (I have this one) and more tailored pieces.

I’d do it. You’re young and this is the most freedom you’re ever going to have, and I think employers will give you a little more leeway.

Here u go!

L'AGRATY Weighted Blanket (Pink 60"x80" 15lbs Queen Size) Flannel Sherpa Breathable Soft Warm Thick Heavy Blanket with 0.8mm Glass Beads,Big Winter Blanket Throw for Adult https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09FDDD133/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_M7TMXS4HTG5ENBV9SBRT?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

Read this, OP! I've been in your shoes, was raised the same way!

Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B075RLVVXW/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_8C8CJ5QS5E2P2WR7T3G8

I don’t know if I’m allowed to post links here but this is my blanket:

L'AGRATY Weighted Blanket (Pink 60"x80" 15lbs Queen Size) Flannel Sherpa Breathable Soft Warm Thick Heavy Blanket with 0.8mm Glass Beads,Big Winter Blanket Throw for Adult https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09FDDD133/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_9RTK4G43KSPP911JMRV9?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

Thank you!

I found Allen Carr's book super helpful, even if it does read a bit like an infomercial lol.

He did a great job of identifying and addressing my fears around quitting so I was in the right headspace to try - maybe it could help you too? Good luck, and thanks again

sweet baby, I know you love me. I always knew. it was never your job to protect me honey, it was my job to protect you. I'm so sorry I couldn't protect you from this. my hurt came long before you, and it was never your job to take it away. please, please try to forgive yourself. I forgive you, and I love you. it wasn't your fault.

please take gentle care of your shattered heart. you don't have to fix everything baby, you don't have to be the strong one anymore. you deserve rest and relief.

this book is a kindness that you deserve- please consider getting it for yourself, and know that its message is for you. It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand https://www.amazon.com/dp/1622039076/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_ZF7SDK2HBKWQYT63WDB4

Dude he can start taking DHT blockers and prevent the loss of hair and even regrow potentially.. the trick is catching it early.. hair loss is a pretty easy solution in the modern world these days with meds or supplements ain’t even that expensive

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01NBH0C91?ref=nb_sb_ss_w_as-reorder-mobile-t1_ypp_rep_k0_1_6&amp;amp&amp;crid=3AIEVZ3SRMU0&amp;amp&amp;sprefix=propid

Forgive me if I'm wrong, I'm assuming you're a man as well, but I was just discussing this book with a friend today: I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression. Maybe check it out?

I also want to recommend Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. This is the book that finally let my husband see how the difficulties of his childhood were weighing on his life. It was a real life-changer for his life and our relationship, because I finally got a partner who was willing to engage with emotions and wasn't ragingly depressed and miserable from PTSD. You've had some extraordinary challenges, and you had to shut down to survive but that's meant to be just until you're safe, not forever. You can feel better, I promise. You can have a happy life.

Blue dresses look fabulous with blush or nude flats.

Example of blush

Versus nude

These could be cute, because they match your floral lace: MUSSHOE Flats for Women Floral Lace Women's Flats Comfortable Slip On Classic Dressy Casual Flats Shoes Women https://www.amazon.com/dp/B098R35TZB/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_HRZ5KHRET7B6SMWNP7JA

How about? I just finished a good one about opening up your life to happiness. It’s about finding your true self by letting go of the past. It’s really good! Maybe take a peek here?

hmmmm I don't really like when people buy my book but if you really want to then here's an amazon link:

https://www.amazon.in/Story-Soumyadeep-Mandal-ebook/dp/B096MNS5HP/ref=sr_1_15?crid=1039B6US9CL0R&amp;keywords=story+physics&amp;qid=1650705436&amp;sprefix=story+physics%2Caps%2C224&amp;sr=8-15

The Kindle edition is free.

This is the workbook I’m currently working through with my therapist. https://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Behavior-Therapy-Skills-Workbook/dp/1684034582 all I can say is that it’s been working well for me. Other then that borderline cat put it perfectly. You can do this.

MomMed Pregnancy Test Strips, HCG 30 Pregnancy Tests for Early Detection, Rapid and Accurate Results, 30 Urine Cups Included, User-Friendly and Practical HCG Test Strips (30 Pack) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07S2JYBWJ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_QCTGBJH4DEBM53WGGZ3Z?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

Lots of times growth spurts mean having a period of time where the bladder is a little too small for the body it's in. It often means they sleep really deeply, as well.

And sometimes at school they get a little overconfident that they know what "full" is and it doesn't really register as what you and I know means you have to drop what you're doing NOW and get to the facilities.

You might just drop any praise or other commentary. For your son, get some washable pads so it's a quick change when it happens, plus you can maybe change the pre-bed routine to make sure he goes as much as possible before sleep. For your daughter, see if her teachers can prompt her to go periodically so her bladder isn't getting so full.

I promise that this will be over before they move away from home, probably a lot sooner than that. It's not a parenting fail or a personality flaw or moral failure, it's just that bodies are super weird and growing bodies extra so.

As others have said, yeast can last for a long time and it is unlikely to resolve without intervention. You need to get to a doctor.

You can easily buy yeast infection creams at any pharmacy. They make one-dose versions, but since you've been suffering for an extended period of time, you probably want one that is a full seven days. One thing you can do to be more comfortable is to take a cool bath/sit in the tub with baking soda in the water. I own a "sitz" bath which basically just a low bowl that fits on the toilet. (https://www.amazon.com/Elongated-Perineal-Hemorrhoidal-Episiotomy-Relief/dp/B00VS1HD0U/ref=sr_1_13?crid=1IHSJQ45BKJTT&amp;keywords=sitz+bath&amp;qid=1649793740&amp;sprefix=si%2Caps%2C1752&amp;sr=8-13) You can buy one at any pharmacy and/or walmart. I fill it with cool water, 1/4 c of baking soda and just sit in it for 20 minutes. You can also just do it in the big tub with just enough water to sit in but you may need to add more baking soda for it to be effective.

This will NOT just cure the yeast infection but it is tremendously helpful in reducing the inflammation.

General Advice:

• DO NOT DOUCHE - this is solid advice in general but even more important when your flora is out of whack.
• Change out clothing/items that yyour underwear frequently to avoid re-contaminating
• If you sleep without underwear and use a knee pillow or anything that might make regular contact with that area, you will want to change the pillowcase daily in order to avoid re-contamination.

Good luck!

I am also a mother of a 12 year old and left my somewhat repressive religion last year. A dear friend recommended this book and it has been a game changer. I would suggest you read it as it lets you know what situations are perfectly normal and how to appropriately intervene when they are not. Best of luck to you, Momma. Tween years are no joke!

Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553393073/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_0X49V4A0HV4TXJM449F8

There is a book you need to read, it is called “Why does he do that”. It will explain what you are dealing with and why it is unhealthy. Please read it!

https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656

I’ve seen a bunch of people already recommend Dawn, so if that doesn’t work, these are MAGICAL. Follow the instructions on the bottle and you’ll be golden. I’ve used these after washing and drying something, and they still managed to lift the stain. Best of luck!

You should wear it and feel as beautiful as you look.

He must have been hoping for: https://www.amazon.com/VANCOL-Womens-V-Neck-Halter-Backless/dp/B06XY5N9MF/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=slutty+dresses&amp;qid=1648090171&amp;sr=8-3

Auntie here. Please know that your anger, sadness, and even the numbness are valid and reasonable. I'd like to offer you a book suggestion in answer to the question you have about mourning your mother and how to care for your inner child.

The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed By Jasmin Lee Cori

It can be very hard to learn to be the mother that we didn't have (and definitely needed) but I promise that the fact that you are asking how to do that is a major part of the journey.

OP has gotten really good advice, but I wanted to put this out there in case anyone needs to know: you can buy pregnancy test strips on Amazon, and they're very affordable. $15 for 50 strips, and yes, they actually work. Better than any of the store tests that I've used in the past.

If you're trying to get pregnant, or trying to avoid pregnancy via the rhythm method, the same brand also sells ovulation strips. Using the ovulation strips is much easier than trying to track by mucus or calendar, especially if you have shorter cycles like I tend to.

> I know nothing about the female body, I was not allowed to go to the doctor growing up

Honey, you deal with this first. And then when you have time, get yourself a copy of this book: https://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0062326031 . Every person with a body that menstruates should read it -- it covers much more than getting or not getting pregnant.

Like the others said, tell everyone close to you — try to give them a description of the man, and give them the name of the neighbor that hired him so if anything happens it’s easier to track him down. Hell, maybe even ask the neighbor for the man’s name and tell your close friends/family. Go to someone else’s house if you can.

Also, I’d really recommend buying a taser and keeping it on you. I bought mine (vipertek flashlight taser) off Amazon, it’s $21. They have 2 sizes (the $21 one is the large size), but even though the small is cheaper, buy the large. It’s heavy enough to wack someone with and do damage, which is good in case you don’t notice that the battery is dead and end up in a bad situation — the small, not so much.

It’s pretty strong (my mom accidentally tased her hand briefly once, and she said it felt numb for an hour) and the noise is loud too, so it’s good for scaring people away. It also functions as an actually flashlight (the switch has 3 modes: off, flashlight, taser) so bonus if you ever find yourself in need of one.

It’s also really easy to use; you just turn the flashlight on (the on/off switch is at the bottom), push the flashlight switch all the way up (the one on the shaft), and press the button above the switch. Here’s the link:

https://www.amazon.com/VIPERTEK-VTS-195-Rechargeable-Tactical-Flashlight/dp/B01FL444JW/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?crid=3Q1DALFHFQ7RB&amp;keywords=viper+flashlight+taser&amp;qid=1647056621&amp;sprefix=viper+flash%2Caps%2C116&amp;sr=8-1-spons&amp;psc=1&amp...

I’m so sorry. I recommend two books that might help you cope with parents like yours.

Well the underwhelming color theme works for me because I am the type who likes little simulation. It is not for everyone but home is very personal, it has to work for the people who lives there.

The blanket is from Amazon. I think it is Bedsure Sherpa Fleece Bed... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08CY5WQ9J?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

My "survival treat" gift for new moms is a nice selection of good protein and granola bars, lansinoh lanolin cream (it's the go-to for chapping from nursing, but also great for frequently-washed hands and chapped lips), a caregiver pager (if she's doing this entirely alone maybe don't, but otherwise this is amazing for being able to wake/alert someone who currently isn't on baby duty if you're trapped under a sleeping baby or dealing with some kind of mess or challenge; also that way she can put her phone on DND and get some real sleep knowing the other person can buzz her if something urgent comes up), stack of dark-colored hand towels and washcloths (dark = don't worry about stains), and a bunch of pairs of really soft socks. I pack all this in a basket or rope bag with handles that someone can stick an arm through and haul from spot to spot and keep nearby wherever they are, along with their phone and lip balm and any other necessary/comfort items.

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This kind is the bomb! Goes on super easy, lasts. I couldn't ever talk with my mom about anything related to clothes, makeup, etc. She struggled with so many issues that she was emotionally unavailable, so I feel so much what you're going through. Hugs to you honey. 🤗

Thank you for the book recommendations. I started reading this book a couple days ago and it's helping a lot. I'll read those books after I'm done with the one that I'm currently reading and I'll take a look at the videos.

>But I want to say this again:

>You aren't doing anything wrong.

>You aren't doing anything wrong.

>You aren't doing anything wrong.

>Take your time and enjoy life <3

Thank you I need to keep telling myself this.

Hi sweetie, I'm sorry I can't be there to meet him. I'm sure I will eventually (after a long and happy life!)

In regards to your weight, I struggled with that when I was younger. Turns out I could not outrun a Taco Bell volcano burrito and a sonic milkshake. What I ended up doing was figuring out how many calories I needed and only eating that many. It took me two years to lose 50 lbs but I've kept it off for five years now!

TDEE calculator: https://tdeecalculator.net/

I used myfitnesspal to keep track of everything I ate. Turns out it's easy to forget sometimes!

In regards to your budget, try https://www.youneedabudget.com/

For eating cheaper and healthier try www.budgetbytes.com

I know you've got this!

Thanks :)

I'm sorry to hear that! It's definitely not easy, and I made some sacrifices that not everyone is willing/able to.

I work a LOT of hours. 50 hours in a week is normal for me, and it's gotten as high as 80. I'm really lucky that I can get more hours when I want/need them, and that alone has pulled me through some tight spots.

Asking for help in other ways too. I'd rather go to a food pantry than miss a payment.

I also cut out a lot of typical expenses for someone my age. I don't pay for entertainment, for example. That means everything from listening to the ads on spotify to not getting any streaming services/TV packages. The only exceptions I made where when I could pay for a movie (but would go to a morning/matinee show) or buying a book (but would absolutely try the library first).

Another example is having the bare basics for a phone. I pay $20 a month for a phone that's fully paid off because it was less than $300. $20 for a carrier is wayyyy less than most people are paying, and it helps a lot.

I also don't have expensive vices. I don't do coffee or alcohol. So if I'm meeting someone at a coffee shop to catch up, I'm getting tea. That's going to be less than half the cost of whatever coffee they get 90% of the time. Not drinking alcohol means not paying to get into clubs, not paying for rides home, not buying clothes for that scene, etc.

I don't think all of that should be copied by anyone else; it's not a formula. But I would say that anyone would benefit from having a budget. Ignorance is bliss, but actually knowing where your money goes (which can help show you where you can cut back OR can show you that it's really just impossible right now) is better. I use the You Need A Budget rules off the website, but I don't even have an account with them.

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It tells you everything you need to know about your anatomy, physiology, arousal, and how to be good at and enjoy sex.

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This happens! I have dealt with many fruit fly “whoopsies” from forgotten fruit. Get these and put them as many places as you can (esp in plants) to catch.

24PCS Fruit Fly Sticky Traps, Fungus Gnat Traps Insect Trap for Plants Kitchen Indoor and Outdoor（24 Light Yellow） https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08ZXZCWCB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_P95SN47052YH14N3338Q?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

Hi, honey. My real-life daughter is a picker too. I'm not going to pretend to completely understand, but how she describes it sounds a lot like what you're telling me.

What works for her is hydrocolloid bandages like these (https://smile.amazon.com/All-Health-Hydrocolloid-Blister-Cushion-Bandages/dp/B07D15LQHF). Obviously, they protect the skin so that you can't pick at it when the dressing is on (and they are meant to be worn for days at a time). But they also soften and heal so there are far fewer tempting flaps or scabs afterwards.

https://meduza.io/en/feature/2020/08/05/photos-of-a-young-mother-working-as-a-courier-in-moscow-spark-renewed-calls-for-help-and-fraud-allegations

Not to worry! She’s just doing this for Instagram fame. She never actually delivered anything, it’s just a photo shoot. Also a repost

https://meduza.io/en/feature/2020/08/05/photos-of-a-young-mother-working-as-a-courier-in-moscow-spark-renewed-calls-for-help-and-fraud-allegations

It’s just a photo shoot, and a repost at that. Don’t worry, she never actually delivered food

https://meduza.io/en/feature/2020/08/05/photos-of-a-young-mother-working-as-a-courier-in-moscow-spark-renewed-calls-for-help-and-fraud-allegations

It’s just a picture for Instagram. She does this all the time, you’ve been baited. This is also a repost

https://meduza.io/en/feature/2020/08/05/photos-of-a-young-mother-working-as-a-courier-in-moscow-spark-renewed-calls-for-help-and-fraud-allegations

Unfortunately you’ve been baited by a fraud, and a repost at that. Picture is (at least) 300 days old and the lady was just doing a photo shoot

It's fake, she bought a uniform on a classifieds website and asked for help with money from people on the Internet. She didn't work hard, she is scum.

Proofs on russian:

https://meduza.io/feature/2020/08/05/videli-foto-zhenschiny-kuriera-s-dvumya-detmi-te-kto-videl-reshili-ey-pomoch-no-teper-ee-obvinyayut-v-moshennichestve

OK well good news! I don’t think the problem is that you are bad at learning, you just have a bad system you use.

So even doing the homework through is not enough unless you could do it so many times that you could fill it all in without referencing any materials. Basically quizzing yourself until you can ace it. And you obviously don’t have time for that right before the exam. You need to study a few minutes a day for the exam all semester by quizzing yourself on the homework questions and anything else you think you will need to know. Again, I recommend https://apps.ankiweb.net/ Anki flash cards will repeat until you learn a card and then pop up the one you learned a while later as refreshers.
You really do just need to change your methods, love: You’re going to do great.

I’m in Canada and there are online systems where you can get an online appointment by video or by phone. Here are a few:

seethedoctor.ca (Monday-friday) Gooddoctors.ca Tia Health Rocket Doctor Tulip Health

There’s also a system called Maple where you pay to get a text appointment instantly. I actually paid up once because I was in so much pain and needed a prescription…I should’ve scheduled an appointment earlier instead of waiting to see if it would pass.

Also I have discovered D-Mannose by PlantVital to help with symptoms!

https://www.amazon.ca/D-Mannose-Cranberry-Treatment-Support-Dandelion/dp/B08FCP97SP

If you are ever in the US or have a friend going down, ask them to buy from any drugstore (Walgreens, CVS, etc) Urinary Pain Relief medication. One brand is AZO. You don’t need a prescription and this medication is not available in Canada - the first time I got it was when I had to see an emergency clinic in the US during my honeymoon for an UTI! This stuff helps with the pain by relaxing the bladder wall and it’s a godsend.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s honestly one of the most neglected areas of women’s health. I hope you get lots of water, a good book or ebook, and some fun videos to watch.

I’m glad Azo now makes a version of this!! Cystex is another brand that has a similar product, if you can’t find the Azo one where you are: https://www.amazon.com/Cystex-Urinary-Tablets-Burning-Infection/dp/B01DOPQX4E

Cranberry juice or in the US you can get something like this over the counter or on Amazon AZO Cranberry Urinary Tract Health Dietary Supplement, 1 Serving = 1 Glass of Cranberry Juice, Sugar Free, 100 Softgels https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004RR1FF6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_JGYDQWVS9FRHQC25PPS6

Hi Sweetie! You can stay calm in the fact that the female body is made to birth a child. Yes, different things can and will happen from what you are used to, but it’s all part of the process and you will be okay. I would recommend the What to Expect When You’re Expecting book to get you started, and know that not everything in there is 100% correct, but it can give you a framework to start from.

If you can do any inner/self-reflection work during this time, it will also help you be more prepared to care for a child.

Im unclear why you are afraid to tell your boyfriend? Do you think he won’t love you or will leave as a result? I don’t know how long you’ve known each other, but if he’s a true boyfriend whom you’d likely want to have a relationship with, he will be able to be supportive and help you come to the best decision for the both of you, together.

Finally, make sure to listen to and trust your body as best as you are able-even during the birth too! And just remember to breathe.

Hugs to you!

We have these at our house maybe this will help you feel safe again Wireless Outdoor Security Camera, Rechargeable Battery Powered Home Security Camera, 1080P WiFi IP Camera with PIR Motion Detection,Night Vision,2-Way Audio and Waterproof,Cloud/SD Storage,Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09MCSGTP3/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ZPS8W33MJZGZXHXK75TH?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

With that said we live in a rural area with basically no crime but we still always lock up. Get in the habit of doing so.

We also have these door knobs so if we forget we can lock from our phones

SECURAM EOS Wi-Fi Smart Lock w/ Fingerprint, Code, Remote Control, High-Security Keyless Entry Door Lock, Voice Control with Alexa & Google, Smart Deadbolt Lock for Home - Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09H36VYJX/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_9ES1GW5MYMT1XM90H4Z3

Sending you all the hugs in the world. Simple take it day by day for now. Each day will bring challenges and sadness and grief, but eventually one day it will seem a little easier, and some day happiness will start to sneak back into your life. And that is a good thing that will give you the ability to honor and love the memory of your daughter without it being as painful as it is right now. But it will be a journey to get there. You might not shower a lot right away. That is ok. Get body wipes (ex: bathing wipes . Eat comfort food, fast food, anything, but make yourself eat and drink each day. Make yourself lie down to sleep; if you can’t sleep, try reading your favorite book or watching comfort TV, etc, or even ask your dr for sleep meds temporarily. You need to grieve in your own time, but time will help. You are right. This is not fair. Unfortunately it is what life brought you. But there will be more good ahead, I promise you. For now, take care of yourself and your partner. You are still here and you need to make sure you stay ok. Reach out to your doctor and ask about counseling for mothers dealing with early infant loss. There are medications you can take to stop milk production and ease your body’s prep for baby care and pregnancy recovery. You will likely experience a lot of hormonal swings, not just from your terrible loss, but from your body ending pregnancy and also ending baby-feeding. Counseling/support group/dr/partner/trusted friend or family member can help you get through those times. Please be aware that you can still experience postpartum depression or mania and be quick to see a doctor if you have concerning symptoms. This will be hard and this sucks and I’m crying for you, but you can do this and live again. Sending you lots of love. ❤️

I recommend this book to find your needs and learn how to express them. It helped huge for me. Connecting Across Differences: Finding Common Ground with Anyone, Anywhere, Anytime https://www.amazon.com/dp/1892005247/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_JDxeGbM1JZJC1

Not OP, but I recommend Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000SEH80I/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_4JNN22NYJ7SSC9R9MWNS

My relationship with my parents is a little different from the one described in this post, but I think the book would still apply to you.

Wonderful! You'll be wanting this link

She shows you how to hold the yarn, she goes really slow and explains everything very well

You'll be needing hooks and things too! This link is a kit on Amazon that I started with. It has hooks, some needles, stitch markers, and a measuring tape

https://www.amazon.com/Intex-Center-Inflatable-Family-Lounge/dp/B00OTJ5HZQ/ref=sr_1_34

https://www.amazon.com/Inkbird-Stainless-Immersion-Circulator-Temperature/dp/B07RNWJZNR/ref=sxin_13_pa_sp_search_thematic_sspa

(Heating water on the stove first would still be cheaper - then use the wand to keep it warm longer/hotter.)

Hey! The answer is baby steps.

First off, start by using a calendar or scheduler. I really really like this one on amazon because you don't waste pages if you forget to use it and the format is weekly.

Each professor will have a different method and you may have to study differently for each one.

• If a prof provides lecture notes before lecture, print them and write in the margins usually works well.

• If a prof provides lecture notes after the lecture, take small notes on your thoughts during lecture and add to the notes after lecture.

• If a prof relies heavily on the book, buy the book and mark it with highlighter if you can afford it.

• If a prof relies heavily on vocabulary, make yourself a mini glossary of terms.

• Math courses usually are best when you do all the work in the back of each chapter. Choose one problem that is difficult for you and go to office hours to ask the professor how to solve.

• For large assignments, break them down into small steps and take a break between each step.

In my opinion, doing assignments is more important than pre-reading most of the time. If you have to chose, always attack assignments first.

I think the latex product is painted on the skin around the nails. Then, after the polish is dry, it rubs off, taking your errors with it! Like this.

It's okay to be scared. Sometimes the only way to get past things is to go through them. Find a therapist who specializes in lgbtq issues. Talk with someone who can help guide you through this. If you can't get to a therapist look for support online. You don't have to decide your entire identity today. Just decide that you'll seek support and understand you're not alone. For the time being, get busy with work or school, draw, read, write, hike, spend time alone and just get outside. Try not to let your family get to you. Think about how you can position yourself to move out if that's what you want.

https://www.7cups.com/lgbtq-chat-room/

Check out Freecycle.org it is for requesting or donating free items. You would be amazed at what you can find. I once gave away a printer to a college student.

P.s. you can signup for a free phone number by visiting Google Voice . It will allow you to post a phone number without giving out you’re real one. The calls/text will be forwarded to your actual phone and you deactivate it when you’re done.

And of course Always meet in a public location during the day (I usually use a grocery store parking lot and park by the entrance.)

https://www.messenger.com/login.php?next=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.messenger.com%2Ft%2F204427966369963%2F%3Fmessaging_source%3Dsource%253Apages%253Amessage_shortlink < this is the FB messenger log in.

Always get the book.

Use the proper body part names.

Get over your embarrassment ASAP. Because that will teach your child embarrassment and shame.

Looks great! I noticed someone else commented on other things you can make on a grill. If you'd like to open up even more cooking options, I'd suggest a hot plate. I use this one in my classroom to cook with my students. That and a simple skillet can make some wonderful meals!

> I don’t know if I can do babypowder without feeling uncomfortable due to the many infantalization comments

I’m in my 30s and use powders. You don’t need to buy products strictly branded for babies, like Johnson’s Baby Powder. Just like you don’t need to buy children’s toothpaste either. Lots of companies offer powders branded for adults.

Gold Bond has various types of talcum body powders. It helps with odor, itchiness, absorbing moisture, etc. I’ve tried the original strength and it’s a good all-purpose powder to start with. I’ve tried their extra strength and I’d recommend that for really hot summer months or if you’ll be moving around a lot and might be prone to sweating more. The extra strength seriously keeps you feeling very cool.

For me personally, those two talc powders can sometimes smell a little too “medicinal.” So the one I’ve been using for many years now is the Gold Bond Ultimate Comfort Body Powder with Aloe and Chamomile [Amazon Smile Link]. Keeps me feeling fresh and has a really “clean” scent.

Great for use in the nether regions (front and back too if you want), on your feet before putting on socks, and chest area as well. Pretty much anywhere you might sweat a lot, it helps.

Here is a nice product to help clean your feet. It's a foot scrubber/massager for your shower. You just spray some body wash on it and you're good to go.

Hey! I don't know if Amazon is something you use, but search Shower Gloves there if you want to give them a shot. This lnki comes with 10 pairs and is less than 10 bucks!
Shower gloves!

ClinicalGuard® HCG Pregnancy Test Strips (Individually-Sealed, Pack of 25) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007VT30C8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_ZK5JQSZGEB2TN2MNFYQ9?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

Here’s the link. $9 for a pack of 25

Cutting your children off because they have a relationship with someone you chose to have children with isn't normal. It's not natural, and it lends to having some mental illness and/or toxicity that supercedes the maternal bond. Demanding absolute loyalty, putting your feelings above everyone else, and refusing to see where you're the problem is indicative of a cluster b personality or the fleas from them. It also doesn't matter if mom has or will ever have a diagnosis of any of it, all that matters is OP may find out more information, realize it extends much farther than her mom walking away after the wedding, and hopefully finds some awareness, support, and healing. Where would you suggest a person go when they're broken-hearted because their parents threw them away? As children, even adult children, we suffer from having toxic parents and being discarded in numerous ways.

OP, ACA program & meetings have helped me so much. The only requirement to join is to have been raised by dysfunctional and/or addicted parent(s). There is even a small book you can purchase on Amazon that describes how it effects us and why. Adult Children It's a program of learning, healing, and empowerment.

This program, namely the support and hearing others share, has helped me more than therapy ever has. There are some great meetings at ITR that don't require you to engage or turn on your cam, you can just listen to others share their stories, wisdom, and hope.

This is the DVD I have used for over 20 years. I like it because it has three levels of difficulty, and routines of varying lengths and types. But I know not everyone has a DVD player these days :-)

https://www.amazon.com/Yoga-Every-Body-J-J-Gorrmley/dp/B00006RCNF

The one thing I suggest is that, whatever you use, first watch the routines all the way through, before trying them. Take some time and watch a bunch of them. I know it may seem weird to just watch yoga videos but you need to be comfortable with the instructor and the flow of the routine.

I switched to Wax Melts that are in covered containers so that my brats .... er, cats don't mess with them. This might be a better alternative if you are using the candles for the scent alone.

https://www.amazon.com/Hosley-Cream-Electric-Potpourri-Warmer/dp/B00O2FM66K

Or, if you want them for looks, perhaps battery operated candles?

Your kitty is gorgeous, I wish you both the best of life together.

Kid, I’m so sorry. I understand feeling that there’s no one to take care of you or reach out to and not having adequate therapeutical support.

I don’t know what your financial situation is like; are you able to purchase a small home treadmill (portable) and set it up in front of your TV so you can walk or jog while you watch a show you enjoy?

I personally do better with another person to do activities with so I don’t let physical activity get ignored. If you’d like, I’d be happy to voice or video chat (no video chat necessary for you unless you want) while we both walk or jog on home treadmills and watch a show together. If you’re not comfortable with that, is there a friend you could ask to do this with you? You wouldn’t have to leave home or be in person with anyone but it would give you some interaction, physical activity, and something to do. I’ve been slacking on my physical activity goals lately and having someone to stay active with would help me as well. Message me if you like. Take care. hugs

P.S. I come from a conservative family that’s very pro-homeschooling so I empathize with your comments about homeschooling from other threads.

PPS While I understand that your username likely stems from your actual feeling of self worth, it’s harmful to label yourself as such in a way that you’ll keep seeing that negative label and have others identify you with said label. You’re not garbage, and you don’t deserve to see that harmful name every time you engage with others on Reddit. Please consider changing it to something affirming like “WorthyOfLove” or “DoingMyBest” or even something more neutral based on a favorite show/book or character. Maybe “BestWishesWarmmestRegards”? (the saying makes me smile every time I say it, from Schitts Creek)

Hey honey!

You're doing so good! I'm very proud of you.

Wash it alone with cold water, a bit of detergent and fabric softener. Put it on low heat to dry. Also, that looks like a sherpa cotton material. Once it's done washing, if you'd like to do the extra step, get this brush: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B083JLTRGF/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_3RJ930Y93VHQN4ZNTTDR

And brush out the cream colored side of the blanket.

If you'd like instructions, here you Go. It won't be matted anymore.

I hope you keep up the good work with your mental health and you enjoy your blanket ❤️ love, reddit mom.

There’s a subreddit r/eatcheapandhealthy that I think would help.

When I moved out, my mom gave me this cookbook. It was great starting out.

When I lived by myself, my crockpot was my best friend. I would make a big batch of shredded chicken (super easy - put fresh or frozen chicken in crock, season with salt & pepper, cover 3/4 of the way with water. High for 3-4 hours, low for 6-8. Pull apart with 2 forks when done) then I would eat it all week in salads, tacos, wraps, casseroles, etc.

Lots of recipes made too much for one person, so I would divide them and freeze for the future. The dollar store has foil pans I used for that.

Good luck! You’ll be great!

More than happy to share! Here's the link to Amazon where I buy it.

Jarrow Formulas Ideal Bowel Support, 10 Billion Organisms per Cap, Reduces Bloating Gas and Intestinal Discomfort, 30 Count (Cool Ship, pack of 3) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B008OYII4E/ref=cm_sw_r_apanp_pw4fnKng2fjAc