What are
/r/Swingers'
favorite Products & Services?
From 3.5 billion Reddit comments
The most popular Products mentioned in /r/Swingers:
![Swingtown: Season 1 [DVD]](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/51xheHHcjKL._SL500_.jpg)
The most popular Services mentioned in /r/Swingers:
Buzzsprout
Feeld
Match.com
Meetup
TripAdvisor
Zoom
Wire
Have I been pwned?
Lightworks
Player FM
Creative Market
Airbnb
Hotels.com
Cronometer
WebMD
The most popular Android Apps mentioned in /r/Swingers:
Feeld Dating
Fake GPS location
Kegel Trainer - Exercises
ObscuraCam
Swing Party
The most popular reviews in /r/Swingers:
I think the book “She Comes First” should be required reading to get your Lifestyle card…..just saying……
The lemon scented hand wipes that you can buy for about a buck or two in the travel section. Other wipes are built for babies and have that meh-scent.
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Wet-Ones-Citrus-Scent-Antibacterial-Hand-Wipes-20-sheets/50346192
I'm all for net neutrality, but the ship has sailed on internet privacy WRT ISP's.
Back in march, the FCC relaxed privacy rules for ISP's, so technically they can already do this.
https://www.npr.org/2017/03/28/521831393/congress-overturns-internet-privacy-regulation
I had an AFF account years ago. Apparently those careless idiots kept deleted accounts around still. So stupid of them.
I'm also really glad that I used a throwaway email address and a prepaid credit card.
This is a good site to use once in a while too:
keeps track of breeches like this and will inform you if your email shows up in a hacked database.
this, statistically the risk is low. We use our judgment in risk/ reward to decide if we do or dont want to use condoms in a swap. We actually talk about this in our podcast The Kinky Pineapple podcast
Are you looking for feature films or simply movie clips? A quick search on Pornhub turned up a few. It's a bit of a pain in the ass to dig deep for exactly what you're looking for but that can be found. Download and install youtubedownloader http://download.cnet.com/ytd-video-downloader/ and you can download pornhub and various other sites content to your computer. xnxx also has some decent videos like https://www.xnxx.com/video-i8s45f2/step_sister_orgy_with_lana_rhoades_and_adriana_chechik
There is no risk of cancer with HSV-2, you are thinking of Human papillomavirus (HPV). Which is the most common STI and unless you are using condoms and dental dams for oral, you have already had it at some point or another.
Edit: I need to correct myself > > Nov. 5, 2002 -- Genital herpes increases the risk of cervical cancer -- which kills thousands of women every year -- by acting as an "accomplice" to another common virus that commonly causes this cancer. > > Herpes simplex virus-2, the cause of genital herpes, was detected in nearly half of women with invasive cervical cancer -- nearly twice as often as in women without signs of cancer, researches report in a study published in the Nov. 6 issue of the Journal of the National Cancer Institute. > > But this doesn't mean that all women with herpes simplex-2 (HSV-2) are at increased risk. In fact, those diagnosed with HSV-2 face no additional risk if they are not also infected with human papillomavirus (HPV). > > "The message of this study is to reinforce the importance of getting regular Pap smear screenings at good laboratories, which detect the presence of papillomavirus," says Mark Schiffman, MD, of the National Cancer Institute, who was not involved in the study.
This comes from this site https://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/news/20021105/herpes-virus-linked-to-cervical-cancer#1
So it looks like it can increase your chances of getting cervical cancer if you ALSO have HPV
You might enjoy this podcast episode. Although she is poly she talks a lot about dating or seeing people casually. Not sure of any groups sorry!
Amazon is a godsend. You can order a lot of affordable options and easily return what doesn’t work. I wore this to my last party:
STYLEWORD Women's V Neck Floral Spaghetti Strap Summer Casual Swing Dress with Pocket https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07PLPZQ7R/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_FRZGQCH33FQVH7G4QWTP?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
My husband and I are going in Masquerade (think Eyes Wide Shut) and Amazon has tons of mask options. You can dress as you’d like, we are thinking black tie. Here’s just one men’s mask option...
Coxeer Mens Masquerade Mask Greek Party Mask Black Mardi Gras Halloween Mask https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01GE4RP5S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_25DRBbMN92Y3A
Amazon sells these chucs style pads like they use at hospital for post delivery. https://www.amazon.com/Saddle-Style-Reusable-Waterproof-Bed/dp/B0001YIB1A/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?keywords=waterproof+pads+for+bed&qid=1558227333&s=gateway&sprefix=waterproof+oads&sr=8-8. Definitely a great investment and easy to just wash and use and you need.
We put these bulbs in our master bedroom for playtime and picture time. They are fantastic for quickly transforming a space. Our 4 year old loves these bulbs so much that I got some for the ceiling fan in his room. He loves the remote and started calling himself the light fairy. 😹
RGB LED Light Bulb, Color Changing Light Bulb, 40W Equivalent, 450LM Dimmable 5W E26 Screw Base RGBW, Mood Light Flood Light Bulb - 12 Color Choices - Timing Infrared Remote Control Included (4 Pack) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XX3K36V/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_UJYoFbFD312W3
We have a couple of these in our bedroom and living room for some additional mood lighting.
TaoTronics LED String Lights 33 ft with 100 LEDs, Waterproof Decorative Lights for Bedroom, Patio, Parties (Copper Wire Lights, Warm White)-2pack https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R9XMJFX/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_yLYoFbK6F51PF
We also have a dance pole and yoga trapeze. You know, for fitness. 🤓
Holy crap, the exact thing happened to us several years ago. My wife and I were at our favorite local Irish pub for drinks on the patio, and next think you know, we were part of a mixer of local swingers.
We found out they were a MeetUp group.
Go to MeetUp.com, type in the name of your city and the word "swingers" and I promise you that you'll find several local lifestyle groups who have mixers and parties on a regular basis.
There's loads - https://player.fm/podcasts/Swinging
I've listened to most at least once, but the ones that we subscribe to are 'Into the Lifestyle', 'Normalizing Non Monogamy', 'Spiritual Swingers', 'That Couple Next Door', 'Swinging Out West', and 'Swingercast'.
I wish there was more UK/European podcasts out there. I tried Bed Hoppers, but just couldn't get into it. The couple seem really nice, but just too many pop culture references for our liking.
A browser plugin I like:
But it won't stop you from showing up on other people's feed.
When you see someone you don't like in the "suggestions", just block them. It doesn't have to be a swinger either. I've done that with people I know in real life whom I can't stand. I wish I could block them from seeing me in person, too.
I actually built an app just for this. The original game was Jenga with 2 rules on either side of the block but we digitized it into a card game with different packs for different levels of "naughtiness". It's only available for Android at the moment but there is a swinger's pack available.
Link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=io.xennex.gamenight
Get a sexy question game book like this one. It's completely "non-threatening" and makes for a great date night at home. It's what started my partner and I down the road years ago. (Any books by this author are pretty good for starting conversations. Lots of questions about swinging and such)
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08411T29L/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_qSI.Fb2XXMVHX
We have been waxing for years...we usually shave the front daily because our hair is fine and not thick, besides we dont want to grow hair anyway...
But razor stubble around your ass just hurts....so waxing is the way to go...but you do need to either have someone do it for you or go to a salon that does mens Brazilian waxing....
> Yes, very straightforward writing style
Thanks! Elmore Leonard's rules for writing are great. So is John Trimble, On Writing Well. Great writing is practice.
Simple statement. “No means no”. If he’s forcing or manipulating you into doing something you don’t want to do that’s called sexual coercion. If he can’t respect your boundaries then that’s called assault and verbal-emotional abuse.
You have multiple options... I think some you can create your own... mix and match with other sets.... go to a sex shop... or you can also hop online and find a randomizer... I think there's also apps.
Also, please note... Fireball burns vaginas... Skrewball is safe though.
Dildo companies lie also, 8" on the box usually includes the balls. Is it 8" total or 8" insertable? This is where men learned their measuring skills from, lying dildo manufacturers.
Like this 7" dildo that's beside a 4.5" soda can that measures 8.5" in length with only 6.25" of actual insertable dick.
So just like regular dicks whatever they say the size is, you have to subtract at least an inch.
And everyone wonders why people can't tell what size dick they are dealing with by just looking at it.
"naughty1" has been found 23,549 times on https://haveibeenpwned.com/Passwords
Don't use personal info like street address because you never know how the site stores the password. It could be in plain text and you don't want somethings released to the public.
Get a password manager and give every account a unique password. A password manager is the only way to go forward, don't over think it.
The battery operated candles cab be great lighting also. An Airbnb we stayed at had these and they were amazing
I agree. I tried Nair and NAD, but Magic smells much better (and smell dissapates faster). It may take several treatments, but it works great. Hair does grow back, but I can "maintain" a lot easier. Available on Amazon. I use the extra Strength version:
Just try 4 minutes, then increase the time before you rinse. Dirrctions say don't use soap afterwards. Rinse thoroughly, then use a heavy moisturizing cream. For me, any irritation goes away in a couple of hours.
for squirters and really just to protect the bedding in general we have two of these, worth every penny.
We almost always host, I prefer it actually. I've always had the party house so I'm comfortable hosting. Treat it like you would having a vanilla couple over. Offer drinks, maybe some snacks. We definitely avoid a heavier meal. We use our bed but rather than getting under the covers we have a squirt blanket we throw down on top. That takes care of any fluids and at the end of the night we toss it in the wash. Easy peasy. We'll also have lube bottles on the night stands.
As far as the flow of the night it varies, usually some small talk, a couple of drinks (not too many). In the summer we might hop in the pools, a good reason to get naked. In spring or fall we might sit outside if the weather is nice, or play a game like cards against humanity. We play a version where the winner of each hand removes an article of clothing. In the winter there's always the hot tub. At some point someone (usually my gal) will suggest moving to the bedroom, people are usually grateful that someone took the lead.
For anyone interested here's the squirt blanket, you can dump a gallon of water on it and it won't soak through:
I have done it several times in clubs and at hotel take over
It really depends on the ladies. The ladies who love anal will get cleaned and ready for anal for LS events. You usually don’t improvise anal.
I have a regular play partner that does anal/dp/DVP. That is her kink.
But your phrasing is a little off. There is nothing “normal” or “taboo” in the LS. You like what you like.
I bought this thing to use it as a sex swing stand for parties and just a normal swing for normal day time use - G TALECO GEAR Hammock Chair... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MZNQR2Q?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
This is the swing attached to it - BELSIANG Adult Sex Swing and 360... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08GP11Q5P?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
So your saying it’s a 50/50 pattern?? You see this happening at every club, resort, and house party with equal number parts of women?
And you think this happens just because? That there’s not a root reason?
Need a book recommendation? Here’s one for you. You’re welcome. https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Knot-Unraveling-Patriarchal-Legacy/dp/1439911843
My wife has used these before and they’ve been amazing. A couple times they have leaked, but usually they did well. I could feel it with a finger, but not with my dick during PIV sex. (Maybe someone lengthier would?) Probably worth a try though.
Softdisc Menstrual Discs |... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000X29GY6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Once I allowed myself to let go, and owned being a squirter; we now travel with water proof blanket. It works well, but can get u overly hot during intense sessions due to non-breathable material. Oft switching of positions recommended.
Waterproof Blanket Cover 80”x90”... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087MW793R?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Ok this story has a lot of elements that do not add up, but I'm going to treat it like an earnest cry for help.
Bruh, I do not read this as a man who is living life on his own terms. There are a lot of people in this world who do not know what they want, and they hope that a partner will act as a unit of emotions and desires that you are dissociated from. I have been one of those people and it's not a happy existance.
Your wife says you should go to therapy, and that's a good idea. However, you shouldn't go to "fix your marriage," you should go to help you get in touch with your own desires for your marriage. Because I have read about what you do to meet her desires, but unless your desires come to the table, there can only be half a marriage.
I also reccomend the book No More Mr. Niceguy, it's a great book about men's emotional health and development.
No they make actual Blindfolded Twister! The spaces have shapes so you feel for the unique shape!
Blindfolded Twister Game https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0771XDT1T/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_27M5YC1A5V05F0X8M0VR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I have a really great dispenser for soap in my kitchen that works well even with thicker soaps…never had I thought about using it for lube but I’m certain it would work. Best part about it is that it’s hands free but also that you can adjust how much it dispenses each time.
https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0758B1S5X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_4T79YFGXCPNYD42TBRQ9
"Act Naturally" kind-of swinger-adjacent, and rather not mainstream, but lighthearted & positive. https://www.amazon.com/Act-Naturally-Liz-Lytle/dp/B08HPD9222/ AFAIK, the teased follow-ons didn't happen.
The app is being rebranded, currently, and this is the placeholder
Interestingly, the SLS app is still available on iStuff devices, but not Android.
I have two sizes of this and have washed them numerous times already. Highly recommend.
We really like the water based Jo H2O lubes because they’re compatible with silicone toys. Comes in small 2oz sizes.
JO H2O Lubricant - Original ( 2 oz ) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B002R5BE0G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_Y2QE4CEMTYM5QDVE3TRE?psc=1
My wife and I are in our 50s, and have been in the lifestyle for almost six years. Over time, we have come to realize that we have finally "found our tribe". (Sorry for the cliche, but it does describe our view.)
Pre-lifestyle, as our kids grew older and more independent, and we found ourselves with more free time, we tried to expand our circle of friends. And that did not go well. We simply did not find people that we clicked with. We didn't really enjoy the people we met in our suburban town. (We probably made a mistake moving there. And in fact, we have moved out of it since becoming empty nesters, and are really enjoying our new urban life.) We tried various groups on meetup.com, and spent many evenings at dull dinners. It was as if there was a prescribed way that people were supposed to interact, and nobody would color outside the lines.
After starting in the lifestyle, we started making friends easily. We met people who were more interesting, more open (about all sorts of things), and just generally, people we really enjoyed spending time with. We are enjoying both the social and sexual parts of the lifestyle. We now have friends with whom we have scorching hot sex. In other cases, the sex is less frequent but the friendship remains. One couple has left the lifestyle, but are still good friends.
Find a really well fitting cock ring (order a multipack like the one below) and maybe double down with some sildenafil. Getroman.com is my go to but there are plenty of others.
https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B01J84E5OK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_TRNVSPWKE7G31CETZQQ9
I needed an outfit for an upscale steakhouse, so I typed "velvet bodycon dress" into Amazon and got this one from Guberry. I'm very happy with it and will probably wear it to the next lifestyle event.
Might be too late to get this buy I highly recommend reading The Threesome Handbook by Vicki Vantoch.
It is extremely helpful with all aspects of navigating extra people.
Have fun!!
Hey friend, I can give you a few tips. I was an amateur bodybuilder for some years, then I started travelling around Latin America and quit the gym & lost a lot of muscle mass but always stayed healthy and normal weight. I've been working out with just a barbell for a few months and it has made a lot of difference. My muscles have gotten a lot bigger and I feel so much better.
My tips: Do it everyday. Or at least, 6 times a week. Make it a habit. Start slowly; do 100 push-ups, squats, planks, abs, every day. Don't need to get a barbell if you don't want to. Do dynamic exercises that work several areas of your body at the same time. You can get really fit with just your bodyweight and without a gym membership.
Consistency is key. And what you eat is also extremely important. You can work out 5hrs a day but if you eat like shit, you'll quit because your body will not take it. Now, I'm vegan, and I eat only whole-foods. My staples are beans, lentils, chikpeas, brown rice, oatmeal, veggies and fruit. If you eat animal products, they might make it harder to lose weight because they have so much fat and so little fiber (When you eat a lot of fiber, your body feels full for a longer time) but find a diet that suits you and eat enough. You can track your dietary intake in cronometer.com.
The path to a fit, healthy body only requires consistency, work, and discipline. Anybody can get fit.
I would definitely wear this. Too bad we will still be out of town on the 14th. We would definitely go.
ohyeah Lingerie for Women Lace Kimono Robe Sheer Gown Feather Bridal Robe Nightgown Bathrobe Robe with Fur https://www.amazon.com/dp/B081TNLGX2/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_CSV9R1ZF389B7RYZNDMX
Fur trimmed Lingerie, small fake fur coats or real fur coats. Panties with fur tails. Fur cuffs.
SOLY HUX Women's Contrast Faux Fur Leopard Mesh Split Lingerie Babydoll Chemise Sleepwear https://www.amazon.com/dp/B099X1B3NX/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_5ZH3MAMPJ0MZMBWK8B33?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I bought couplicious for the wife for christmas!
We used it one time to set the mood with a couple... we only got halfway into it and the other wife drew a card that said "everyone has to please you for 60 seconds."
Well... needless to say, we never finished the game... lol.
I don't remember what all the cards said but a couple cards ended up having us:
- his wife had to pick up a tissue from my face without using her hands
- he got a double bj
- roll for 2 partners and take them to the other room for 5 minutes... at that time we were same room only so they f'd with my wife for a bit
It's in stock on Amazon!!!
https://www.amazon.com/Couplicious-Sex-Game-Couples-Group/dp/B01GIVWE1C
Just don’t go into a glory hole situation? Or have you “monitoring” on the other end? I’ve never even seen a glory hole at a LS event haha.
This really isn’t the issue you think it will be. No one has to have sex with anyone they don’t want to have sex with, for any reason.
This reminds me of the “How to Avoid Huge Ships” book on Amazon lol: https://www.amazon.com/Avoid-Huge-Ships-John-Trimmer/dp/0870334336
It just organically happened for us, neither of us suggested it.
Truly by accident we dropped by a small lifestyle resort, Sea Mountain Inn near Palm Springs, when it first opened and we were staying at another hotel right nearby. We watched couples playing and it kinda blew our minds. We both got interested. We started going there every month or two, became increasingly open to the idea of playing with others, and eventually found a couple we clicked with.
Eventually we thought hey, I wonder if we could just stay home and meet people online? Duh. We were a little slow but in retrospect that was probably a good thing.
You can join my Zoom meeting. I have an unlimited plan. Today will be an experiment and I'll leave it on until 12:00 midnight central time:
Get as dirty and funky as you like and have a good time, but NOTHING ILLEGAL (kids, horse fucking, common sense stuff.
It's just life. When you're on match.com you get rejected for your looks. When you're on SLS, you also get rejected for your looks. The great thing about the LS is no matter how it goes at the end of the day, you're still with each other so there's really nothing to lose.
Target upper shelf of feminine products look for a pink and green box that says soft Disk.
Softdisc Menstrual Discs | Disposable Period Discs | Tampon, Pad, and Cup Alternative | Capacity of 3 Super Tampons | HSA or FSA Eligible | 14 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000X29GY6/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_Z8YASCCZGASKS3MF9ZW1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I resorted to a different comment, but we have this one and love it. It’s a blanket and doesn’t look or feel like a waterproof blanket. My wife SQUIRTS and we have never leaked through.
We have this and love it. Honestly for my wife the puppy pads are too small anyway. This allows us to throw it down in our bed and use the whole bed without having to move it around or feel restricted to a single area of the bed.
fuguitex Waterproof Dog Blanket Bed Cover Dog Crystal Velvet Moroccan Fuzzy Cozy Plush Pet Blanket Throw Blanket for Couch Sofa https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08GK86ZVS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_3N4XNNF74X4RAC2Y8BYD?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
We have tried 4 different brands of water absorbent blankets on Amazon. This one by far is the best. Catalonia Waterproof Blanket,Liquid Pee Proof Blanket for Bed Couch Sofa,Protector Cover for Baby,Cozy Sherpa Lining Throws and Blankets for Camping B https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZRPX8WP/ref=cm_sw_r_apanp_cSEm5jgUNQr8p
The other ones either do not absorb as well or do not feel as good on the skin. Yes I do have a sensitive ass and do not like sandpapery fabric rubbing on it.
The threesome handbook has really good advice about navigating jealousy and other people. While it's technically geared for threesomes it definitely crosses over very well.
The Ethical Slut is the Bible though.
This is a deeper issue than can be solved with a Reddit post. It stems from personal insecurities, but is a normal reaction for some people. You might not be ready for swinging.
There is a book called The Threesome Handbook by Vicki Vantoch. It has an excellent chapter on navigating insecurities and jealousy in non monogamous situations. I highly recommend you start there.
We do events every month, but here are our next 3 hotel takeovers. Any should be good parties. We had 512 guests for our last party in October, April should shape up to be a big event as well; it was last year.
Show me a website or company in the last 25 years that didn't rebrand in hopes of making more profit off of it; Google is now Alphabet, Siemans Healthcare crashed, burned, and ate the dead when it went to the cringe-worthy 'Healthineers' , and there are a host of companies that have wished they'd never done it - including Yahoo.
Now I hope that this isn't a move that way but recent history indicates that rebranding is another way to try squeeze another penny of mindshare out of users and consumers.
It is for PC, but blurring faces in video is a pain in the ass, because people move and you have to do it frame by frame, it is best to put her in positions you can just crop her head off, or film from the back with the face in pillows and low on the guys and avoid face shots. But I assume you want to watch for your own pleasure, so think of cropping positions.
Food for thought. When I met my wife (Jamaican/Black) I didn't even have black women on my match.com search. A friend set us up and after I saw pics, I was like "Sure, why not?". 8 years later I am very attracted to black women (actually women of any race). Sure opens up the pool of folks we would consider playing with! :D
I know this won't be everyone's experience, but my advice would be to stay open to it.
Why choose for such tools that doesn't seem to care about their users and their privacy? Chatting should be done with privacy in your mind. Most people don't want to expose themselves more than needed.
I would like to recommend Wire. An open source (and thus free) app that's available on every platform. Encryption, voice, chat, options to delete texts/images after they have been seen, no phone-number required, etcetera.
I’m in a sharing mood so here’s a link to some playing cards we have. Get them dude. There’s a million games you can play w them (go fish, black jack, hold em,etc). Great to have on car trips or whenever. I can go into some of the rules we use for our games if you want but here’s the link https://www.amazon.com/Win-Lose-52-Playing-Newlyweds/dp/B07CGSHNJL
Do a search for "party lights" on Amazon.
For example, this is under $40
Stage Party DJ Disco Revel Lights, Bietrun Wide Range Sound Activated LED Projection Effects RGB Flash Projector Laser Strobe Light Show With Remote, For Karaoke, Birthday, Holiday(USB Powered) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08C5CTYZ8/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_S8T3731TZ8X6837NGFP3
My good friend is a squirter and she discovered these waterproof sheets that are amazing for bringing to the hotel.
Amazon has a fair amount of shirts that would make it pretty obvious to other LS folks but wouldn’t give you away to very many vanilla people. One example…
Funny Swinging Pineapple Swinger T-Shirt https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07THQ1W7L/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_C4B3G4CK5RRJEW9T7TXD
Buy an upsidedown pineapple t-shirt and hat. Swingers on the cruise will get it.
This is the one I bought.
My wife has this:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0843SDY3Y/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_JPWXN2ABBCBK3MKHB4D2
Summary: A few friends and I made an app out of a drinking game that we’ve been playing for years. It’s just been released on Android and we have plans to release for iOS as well. Game Night - The Adult Card Game is a party game in which users pick between 2 randomly drawn cards and act out the rules. We have a multitude of card packs catered for different occasions but we think you guys will like the naughty/swinger packs.
Link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=io.xennex.gamenight
Monetization: The app contains no ads but it does contain in-app purchases for different card packs (the base game is free to play and plenty fun on it’s own). I know in-app purchases aren’t optimal but building apps, paying designers, and maintaining servers aren’t cheap.
Swinger Expansion: We currently already have a naughty pack and a swingers pack made for the sex-positive adult community however we’d like to make a concerted effort to expand the game with more rules and features to better serve the communities enjoying the app. Down below we’ll drop a temporary promo code to unlock the swinger’s pack for free to 100 individuals so you guys can try it out and give us your feedback/new rules/features/etc. Absolutely any feedback is welcome (hopefully it’s constructive), because we don’t plan on just releasing it and walking away. Feel free to post below or DM me any info/comments/suggestions we’ll do our best to respond to all of them. We hope you guys really enjoy it.
Promo: As promised, please navigate to the promo page, Settings Menu -> promo and use the code: R_SWINGERS_BETA, the first 100 people will receive the swingers pack for free.
You can try my app, Game Night. It's a digital version of the jenga drinking game people on here talk about alot but it's currently only available for Android. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=io.xennex.gamenight
Second the boric acid pills. I’ve gotten bacterial vaginosis twice since we started swinging and having to go on antibiotics was such a pain. The antibiotics can also cause yeast infections, so now I just use a suppository after play dates.
link to pills I use. will need to get the applicators too which are sold separately.
We play Catchphrase a lot. It's fun and very easy to play while sitting around hahazardly on couches in a living room or outside. Pitting the men vs women is always good for fun and comraderie, and it requires everyone to sit boy-girl-boy-girl. There's even an 'uncensored' version:
https://www.amazon.com/Hasbro-C2986-Catch-Phrase-Uncensored/dp/B06XKSY61C/
Summary: A few friends and I made an app out of a drinking game that we’ve been playing for years. It’s just been released on Android and we have plans to release for iOS as well. Game Night - The Adult Card Game is a party game in which users pick between 2 randomly drawn cards and act out the rules. We have a multitude of card packs catered for different occasions but we think you guys will like the naughty/swinger packs.
Link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=io.xennex.gamenight
Monetization: The app contains no ads but it does contain in-app purchases for different card packs (the base game is free to play and plenty fun on it’s own). I know in-app purchases aren’t optimal but building apps, paying designers, and maintaining servers aren’t cheap.
Swinger Expansion: We currently already have a naughty pack and a swingers pack made for the sex-positive adult community however we’d like to make a concerted effort to expand the game with more rules and features to better serve the communities enjoying the app. Down below we’ll drop a temporary promo code to unlock the swinger’s pack for free to 100 individuals so you guys can try it out and give us your feedback/new rules/features/etc. Absolutely any feedback is welcome (hopefully it’s constructive), because we don’t plan on just releasing it and walking away. Feel free to post below or DM me any info/comments/suggestions we’ll do our best to respond to all of them. We hope you guys really enjoy it.
Promo: As promised, please navigate to the promo page, Settings Menu -> promo and use the code: R_SWINGERS_BETA, the first 100 people will receive the swingers pack for free.
Read this book. It's a quick read...shouldn't take more than 30 minutes or an hour.
Have fun and good luck! 🍀
I’ve been experimenting with this Chinese balm and I don’t know how it works but it’s amazing. Problem is it works too good to the point you can’t cum so experiment before using it with swinging partners as some will be insulted if you can’t finish. As long as you don’t have problems getting and staying hard you don’t need viagra and it has side effects worth worrying about.
I love clothes that reveal hints. A cute pair of lacy panties (I prefer cheeky or crotchless to thongs), matching bra & a tiny skirt will take you far. A sheer dress (think beach coverup) is also an easy way to show & tell
I use this and it works wonders!!
pjur Med Repair Glide Water Based Personal Lubricant, Sex Lube for Men, Women & Couples, 3.4 oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0844MBN68/ref=cm_sw_r_u_apa_glt_fabc_NMYYW59QPE8ZVKM8SVM9
I think "moody" comes with a lot of baggage / judgement. In Come As You Are, Nagoski calls it "responsive desire" which I think has a more positive and frankly more accurate connotation. The opposite is "spontaneous desire". Knowing that spontaneous desire is always ready to go and response desire takes some stimuli (both accelerators and the removal of brakes) to build up helps understand how to approach each. Also people aren't always one or the other. It's a bit of a spectrum and can change.
You could drill some holes through the deck and put something like this in them. Or add some sort of sleeve to the outside of the deck for the stakes to go through.
Edit: Just wanted to add, that this would be removable when you don't need it.
Go read the book “She comes first”. Then read it again. Then take a highlighter and review it like it’s a college course. My wife learned things from that book that even she didn’t know. I think it’s the cunnilingus bible.
The other aspect that I know my wife likes is just a guy that enthusiastically wants to perform oral. If it’s obvious you are enjoying yourself that can help make the woman comfortable enough to enjoy it more. If it’s obvious you aren’t into it, my wife will never come.
And yes every women is different. There are some basics that need to be understood but then to get really good it’s going to require the woman explaining exactly what she likes and doesn’t like.
It sounds to me that more guys than not just do something “wrong” meaning something that the woman doesn’t like at all. Avoid that and you are ahead of the pack.
Go buy that book.
there is one that goes around it all that is kind of like a bolo tie, haven't tried that
https://www.amazon.com/Crimson-Tide-Lasso-Adjustable-Constriction/dp/B00XLWQ1ES
Male half here. I've yet to find a purpose-made hair trimmer for pubes (although, I haven't looked that hard). There's absolutely nothing wrong with using a traditional beard trimmer with a short guard.
One thing I will add: Body powder is your best friend. Apply some in your crotch and in your shoes/socks. Keeps those areas fresher for longer. I use Chassis, but you could certainly use something cheaper, like Gold Bond.
If she wants to rest comfortably without having that extreme bend in her back you may want a doggy style bench instead. Doggy tends to strain my back too so I get it.
Amazon has this [Liberator Equus Wave Convertible Lounge and Bedside Bench, Espresso ](www.amazon.com/dp/B01MTB046K/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_KCRWH1NPYX2XBH0JXXF5)
We also use Wet brand. I buy bottles and caps, and get the lube by the gallon:
It's more what is on the anklet that matters:
An anklet with a queen of spades on it...
An anklet with MFM or MFF symbols...
An anklet with a pineapple...
Ok, probably not the last one.
The only theme more common in swinging than "Glow" is "School Girl", so if you get this stuff it will at least be useful for a long time... too long... so sick of glow night.. but anyways..
Before my wife had her tummy tuck mommy make over she had the same issue and found some stuff on Amazon. The only down side is that Amazon is where everyone else is finding their stuff, and you will probably see whatever you pick out on at least one other person. On a Cruise once they had "red night" and it became a game of who wore it better as there were so many of the same few handful of "sexy/slutty" red dresses on Amazon.
When we wanted to try something different we ordered from a Rave Party site, but just be warned that the crowd is usually 20 somethings and very low midriff for most things.
Hell lets go to the amazon search right now..
Which was ok for her pre-tummy tuck despite the low cut look, once she was at a good weight, but everyone is going to be different there. We've also seen this exact skirt on people at... several... glow parties. Several. Like almost every.
Since I don't know your body type I can't get specific, but something like this looks like it would help cover that tummy bulge. Before her surgery my wife would look for the type of cut that would hide it so I get it.
If you're really curious about that, this book probably has the answer. It's based on research looking at 5,000 people and their fantasies. Frankly I was surprised that 79% of men and 62% of women had some form of fantasy around "multiple partners." So not just swinging, but other stuff (mostly threesomes I think). Now keep in mind these are category #1 fantasies. A small fraction of these people move them to category #3.
Bottom line, group play is a SUPER common fantasy.
Try reading Ethical Slut. It's mostly about poly but does talk about swinging and the LS quite a bit. There is a whole chapter on jealousy and it's a big topic throughout the book. It's too much to cover in a Reddit comment, but my biggest take away is a metaphor...it's that jealousy is like waves in an ocean...relax...you can't stop them...the biggest risk is your fear of the wave...the best thing is to let them come...feel them, experience them...dive over, under or around them depending upon the wave, your experience, and how you feel...and then on the other side you'll be fine.
I wear a rainbow watch band & a Bi Pride Flag T shirt when acceptable to dress that casually to try to advertise.
Most parties & clubs in our area seem to be segregated. Parties are either “Bi by Default” or “Straight Play Only”, then clubs have “Bi Night”. Happy to hear people are more comfortable in your neck of the woods.
You can't buy them directly in the USA due to FDA size regulations but if you are girthy I strongly recommend these.
They also have a sizing app on their website as well which actually worked. You can order internationally if you are in the US but it takes a while to get them.
My wife is hooked on DVP so we have a collection of suction cup dildo when it is just the two of us
We found them all on Amazon. They are inexpensive .The best one we have is this one https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07C97X4KH?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
She loves the stretch and she can take the above dildo fully + my Cock without issue. Orgasms are quick to arrive
We have recently been playing with a 12” monster dildo from Amazon and she loves it. We tried DVP with that one but the stretch was a little to much.
I would recommend finding the right size for your wife. I started with 7” but they are too small so we just use them for anal. Regarding material, avoid TPM and pick silicone based dildos. Make sure you buy a cleaner and only use water based lube (silicone based lube will ruin your silicone dildo)
The one above is her favorite and she told me she can’t tell the difference between a real cock and this dildo when it is inside.
Have fun!
Hey I created an app call fallscreamer xD Basically makes your phone scream when it falls jajaj xD
https://www.amazon.com/GNEGKLEAN-Bathroom-Handheld-Shower-Cleaning/dp/B07PKB2TYC/ref=pd_sbs_121_1/133-2108605-7719824?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B07PKB2TYC&pd_rd_r=5c683f56-f1c6-43a5-a23a-f4934d2b260c&pd_rd_w=HBf8o&pd_rd_wg=mWdrm&p... something like this on a tub spout valve for the shower
Have you considered that the other wife might have responsive desire and needs to have a longer warm up period? Read Come As You Are if you haven't and you're not familiar with the term. There might be things the other wife could do to get in the mood. Maybe some vibe play before hand? Or some 4-way sexting? You might discuss you "starting early" with the other wife but perhaps with some rules like "no penetration" until the others arrive. Good luck!
One book my wife and I read in the early stages of swinging was The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers. For those interested, it provides a nice historical overview of swinging.
Renew Life Women's Care 90 Billion. Sometimes they are on sale but normally they are basically over a dollar per capsule.