More info: we are working on the dating platform https://feeld.co This role would be for someone who has the experience working on the Backend and solid Haskell knowledge. Part of the backend is done in CoffeeScript, so it's added as the requirement for the job. However to know the CoffeeScript is not the absolute must.
It's possible (like somebody else suggested) that you've gone through the pool of folks who'd like to date you based on your profile and photos. You could also check out Feeld, though I'm not sure how popular it is. Looks like you're already on Fetlife, which you could also utilize.
Hoi! Ik ben man van 26 en ben zelf ook nog redelijk onervaren wat betreft poly dating, maar ik weet dat Feeld redelijk veel gebruikt wordt. Over het algemeen is het wel zo dat je als vrouw op datingapps nogal overweldigd wordt door berichten, en ook niet per se altijd de leukste, dus YMMV.
Er is trouwens ook /r/polyamory, mocht je daar nog niet bekend mee zijn. :) Die heeft mij nogal geholpen in begrijpen wat het is / hoe het werkt / wie ik ben.
Of poly iets is wat je bent of wat je doet: daar is, denk ik, geen goed antwoord op. Als jij jezelf poly vindt, dan ben je dat.
I know neither of these are non-strangers but 1) Would it be possible to hire a sex worker? 2) there are also apps for folks that are tailored towards non-monogamy ... or away from compulsory monogamy that could be an option 3) gay bars
Good luck and have fun :) So great to have such a supportive partner and for her to be open talking about her sexuality
It should be accessible in Canada! You can find a list of countries where Feeld is not currently available here, Canada should be just fine!
I urged my boyfriend to get on it for exactly that reason, it was difficult to meet new people who are like-minded for both of us but especially him. Before Feeld we were hooking up with friends or acquaintances, and Feeld has given us a less messy avenue of exploration. It really has been a great way for us to explore both separately and together.
Try https://feeld.co. We are also trying to find people for this kind of fun. It’s hard for sure. Does your community have any kind of swingers’ clubs? I’ve heard that pre-pandemic, that was a good avenue.
>Yeah but what you're measuring isn't really attraction or sexuality, it's just the human capacity for arousal.
SEXuality = human capacity for arousal. Even etymologically it would be literal indicator of what causes your body to want to prepare for sex and what your body enjoys as sex.
>I am asexual, I straight up find men and women hot all the time, and have a higher than zero libido, non of these things make me less asexual
This by definition makes you not asexual. By the word's very etymology and history.
>Asexuality first originated as a concept in the late 1890s. In his Sappho und Sokrates, German sexologist Magnus Hirschfeld made a reference to people without any sexual desire, referring to them as ‘anesthesia sexual’.
So weirdly Reddit keeps trying to advertise this dating service that might be up your alley to me?
It’s called Feeld I think. I’m monogamous so it’s not a good fit for me, but reading your comments I thought that maybe these adverts would have been better served in your direction!
Hello! So, what you're describing here isn't a threesome per se. The term "threesome" tends to refer to sex shared between three partners. With a live-in third, you're really describing polyamory. Polyamory is the act of engaging in sexual and romantic relationships with multiple people. You may even describe yourselves as a "throuple."
There are several ways to go about finding a "third" to complete your relationship triangle.
In general let your wife do most of the talking. Women tend to be more attractive to everyone, and ensuring your wife's comfort with the arrangement will likely be a major consideration for your third.
Hope this helps, and feel free to post with any more Qs.
Make sure you set clear boundaries before including someone in your relationship. I agree with another poster on here that you should do your research on how to add someone to your relationship in a healthy way to help prevent issues in the future because there are a lot of ways it can go awry.
Some potential websites:
I checked it out when I researched my Sex Ed for Bi Guys post on dating and hook-up apps (uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort; censored, SFW version). It was promising, but not very populated where I am in Montreal. It wasn't dead though, so you should at least give it a try I think.
Feeld is also in the same vein and it was more populated in my area. I had some troubles installing it though, so I don't know if they worked out their kinks.
Basically, you have nothing to lose but a bit of your time. I think what they're attempting should be supported, and you might end up connecting with some fun people in your area. Quality over quantity, sometimes.
Is that helpful?
Feeld - dating app, on a market for years, a good number of people around the world, mostly in big cities
3Fun - dating app, also for open-minded, but more sex oriented
Fantasy Match - more than a dating app, just launched, provides ideas of sexual fantasies, couples can see their mutual fantasies
First of all, are you single?
If so, there is a dating app for finding threesomes. You might find better advice about that on /r/bisexual. It is feeld. From what I understand, there are a lot of couples interested in threesomes and not a lot of single women interested in joining them. So if that is your interest, you should have a ton of offers for threesomes.
I'm fairly new to rope bondage too, but found this decent blog on Feeld on the basics of rope bondage, communication and safety precautions. It's really easy to follow...
https://feeld.co/blog/feeld-guides/bondage-basics-tying-someone
Gday guys
Assuming you’re both Navy deployed. The Best Bet for you is a dating site or app and a suggestion to cruise over to Tokyo
If you happen to be Japanese speakers you can also visit happening bars (swingers clubs)
Otherwise check out
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You might try couplesnextdoor.com and/or the feeld app.
I think you'll just need to be very explicit about what you're looking for: a couple for FWB. I imagine the reason you're having trouble finding what you want is that it's incredibly specific, and many people are looking for something else, either swinging or poly.
As for avoiding the couple who says they're looking for FWB just to fuck, it seems like you'd want to start with being friends first, establish that relationship, then work in the benefits after you've built a solid friendship.
Have you considered how you would handle a situation where someone involved in your relationship does develop feelings beyond friendship, either the two of you or the other couple? That is, you say you aren't looking for love beyond the two of you, but if it were to happen, would you be okay with that? Or would you shut the relationship down as a result? If it's the latter, that's a huge risk you're asking the other couple to take, which may again contribute to difficulty finding a compatible couple because they don't want to take the risk.