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To orgasm, you need to know your own anatomy, including your brain. This book has helped me a bunch: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476762090?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
It explains how we orgasm and it has completely changed how I masturbate.
I saw a post on 8/31/20 on one of these sex or women's subs about the perfect showerheads... I know the date because I added one to my Amazon lists haha... this is one mentioned... I also found a 10' hose!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FT7FTVY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_kfodGbRA4NQBH?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Hope you don't mind if someone who isn't really a woman comments here. One thing that worked for me and my girlfriend was to get her "ready" by using several dildos of increasing sizes, starting with the small one and working our way up. The specific set we use is this one, which works quite well for us, although the largest one is still a little small.
You should have him try a supplement called Bromelain! Its concentrated pineapple extract. It truly works wonders from experience.
And then he can also skip drinking tons of pineapple juice.
Just have him mix up a fruity drink like pinapple juice, cranberry juice, etc. And just drink that along with taking the supplement as needed and voila!
Obviously its not perfect and the taste will still be there, but its much sweeter and way easier to handle.
This is what I've used!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07N7QDPK1/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_tUvhFbJH73ZHF
Good luck on your spermalicious endeavors
I suggest you call an ask a nurse hotline or your local planned parenthood. Nobody here is going to be able to give you medical advice.
According to the Mayo Clinic what you’re experiencing sounds normal, but if you’re truly concerned and worried you should talk to a medical professional
https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/morning-after-pill/about/pac-20394730
>Our opinions are different. A guy who is straight would never want a dick or something shaped as a dick to be shoved inside him. If he's bisexual that's different but no straight guy would want something shaped as a dick inside him. No one!
This is simply not true. Straight men who only have sex with straight women but like being pegged exist. Being penetrated doesn't make you gay, this isn't ancient rome.
Throughout history what is "gay" has literally always changed with time and/or culture, varying greatly. Go check out Sex and Punishment for the history, I think it does a fantastic job illustrating this by reviewing what was made law when and where regarding sex through human history.
I did it and it said after I press submit it would take me to a page to be able to sign up for the draw, but I after I pressed submit it just took me to the Survey Monkey 'thank you' page.
Honestly I really wanted a Tushy but I found this simple one from Amazon for less than $50. I, a mechanically inept person, installed it in literally 8 mins (timed myself) and never looked back. (Ba dum tssst)
I want to recommend a book to you. It's called "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. (which you can buy on Amazon for like $12).
I read this book last year and it's been hugely beneficial to me in discovering/exploring my sexuality. The author is incredibly knowledgeable and has the science to back it up.
Specifically, there's a part in this book that I thought of when I read your post. The author talks in depth about how women and men have different means of arousal. For a man, the idea of sex is enough to turn him on. Women, however, require a little more. Simply thinking about having sex isn't enough to get them totally prepared/in the mood. Instead, women have more of a "responsive desire" where there needs to be some foreplay for them to respond to, then the desire is there.
I'm probably doing a terrible job summarizing the key points she hits but I seriously can't recommend this book enough to you. Here's an interview she did with NPR. If you find it interesting then I think her book would be enormously helpful.
This is what I'd suggest for the genuinely curious. It's a book length treatment summarizing hundreds of anthropological studies of foraging, horticultural, and matrilineal societies over the years, before those societies got colonized and "christianized" by europeans.
Remote Controlled Vibrators are truly LOTS of FUN!
My BF gave me the Lovense Lush 2 a few yrs ago and we have a lot of fun with it: While hanging out on sundays in our appartment or outside taking a walk or in a restaurant or in the movies (pre corona times - remember?). Its also nice in Bondage / Edging Session where he really owns me :-)
I wrote an extensive review on the Lovense Lush 2 here. Check it out, its written in german but the DeepL Translator works way better than the one from Google.
Lovense made an Update on the Toy. The Lush 3 is promoted as stronger und quiter, but sue i dont tested this one, i cant tell if its true.
But in general the Lovense Toys are really good! Stable Blutooth Connection, strong and rumbly vibrations a a lot of features: Control it by your favorite Songs in your Playlists, choose one of the hundreds of patterns or let it be voice controlled.
Yes you can invite people from around the world to control your Vibrator. You simply need the Lovense App and connect it with the Lush.
Anxiety around sex is completely normal, but it may be worth speaking with a therapist about if you feel like it’s really interfering with your life. I definitely would also give the book “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski a read (https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090) I just finished it last month and I found a lot of the things she talked about and suggested really helpful. You might find something helpful in it too!!
There's plenty of innocuous back/neck massagers you could get and use as an external vibrator even if the shapes don't work for penetration. I went through a few of these in high school. If you're not able to buy online, similar items are often available in places like Walmart.
Be careful picking household items for internal use! I definitely hurt myself a few times as a teenager trying to use things with plastic seams that were sharper than they seemed on my external skin. I second the advice to get condoms, but if you can't then at least make sure you're using something washable.
If you're not able to purchase personal items autonomously at all, perhaps you suddenly need a new hairbrush that just happens to have a thick handle? Just be careful that whatever you're using for personal time isn't an item that's being used for anything else and ESPECIALLY not an item anyone would ask to borrow unexpectedly.
I like this one.
I use it with the black guard. Gets close. No nicks or pulled skin.
Secret is to move it back and forth slowly.
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Coochy Cream! The frosted cake one smells seriously SO GOOD! You can get it on Amazon!
I’m glad to hear your comfortable in your body! A lot of people also really like the NJOY wand and you can read amazing reviews online from women. Nothing is a guarantee but here’s a cheaper version. It stimulates the g spot!
And I get what you mean now! It’s not so much about the sex but about connecting with your friends. I know that sucks a lot and I felt behind as a teen too. I don’t know what really to recommend besides connecting to them in other ways. There’s so much time for you to have that experience and then be able to connect!
You’re very normal. I can’t recommend this book enough Untrue
There is obviously a spectrum of how we all experience this, but learning this and how to incorporate ways to experience novelty in my relationship benefited both my partner and I and made us closer. Good luck!
There is a silicone lube called “penchant premium” that I like to buy off Amazon. It’s the only lube that hasn’t caused me to break out in a yeast infection or BV. It has a very light scent and is affordable. There are only about 4/5 ingredients in the whole bottle!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00UO1R7XI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_rqedGbNW0DE3N
Edit: link
Vaginal dilators don't have to be expensive! I got this exact set from Amazon when I was 18/19, and it was the first time I was able to get anything inside my vagina ever. I'm 21 now and occasionally still have problems but if I am turned on and relaxed, it's totally fine.
Have you considered putting the condom on for him, making it part of foreplay?
Not suggesting this as a replacement for a professional, but a bit of a distraction might help, as well as a larger condom. My husband is well endowed and will technically fit a normal condom, but they're fiddly, not really comfortable, and tend to come off. Skyn Large non latex are what we've used, they're comfortable and compatible with more lubricants.
https://www.amazon.com/Moral-Animal-Science-Evolutionary-Psychology-ebook/dp/B00486U8N6
This is a nice read that touches a bit on the differences on how males and females, rather, men and women, express sexuality under a Darwinian basis.
Females have just as much of an incentive to fuck as males, but as in nature the female does have the burden of carrying the young, it is important that she chooses her mate accordingly to her needs. The male is always eager, while the female is coy, paraphrasing Wright.
We are animals before we are people, I think it's important to acknowledge what our animal needs are to be okay in our personhood, and realization that these impulses bred into instinct over millenia of generations do no longer apply in the modern era, allows for sexual liberation if you see yourself as the user, rather than the passive character.
Depends on what kind of “sex” you like. I bought https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00A52GCJG/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B00A52GCJG&linkCode=as2&tag=pleasurebet07-20&linkId=bfae987eab4cbc3f74cac14bfbc2be2f my favorite experience was when using something like this https://m.bestvibe.com/wireless-big-black-dildo.html?spm=m.c_6.g with clit stim.
Maybe ask yourself what it is you are trying to replace? Intimacy? Or just orgasm? Those can be achieved in many ways and in fact might be more fun to explore….good luck!
Here are the ones I use! Raspberry capsules
So I take a double dose and then when I’m not trying to move my cycle, I’ll still take the normal dose as it does help.
My SO and I use a blanket from Amazon (it's right here) We have 4, washed them multiple times, they are soft and have never leaked on us. She's not a copious squirter though She does squirt.
In case the OP is watching this and for anyone else who might need it. You can buy and use pads which are waterproof and washable. this means your bed remains dry if this is happening to you.
Read this book, please. It's written by a plastic surgeon who realized most people who get plastic surgery have a mental hang-up they think can only be solved by going under the knife.
https://www.amazon.com/Psycho-Cybernetics-Updated-Expanded-Maxwell-Maltz-ebook/dp/B00SI02BW4
https://www.amazon.com/Mucogyne-Non-Hormonal-Genital-Gel-40ml/dp/B008IT0MUS this is the one, maybe you can look at the formulation and ask your pharmacist if they have a similar one. I know before that even water based lube used to really hurt and sting my v. Good luck!
Also I would be down for a meetup. I'm going to be traveling across country from Ohio to Washington state, so if you're in between and know some other people who'd like to go, I'll see if I can stop. If you're on a budget, you can make a bleach t with an old shirt as well.
I too hate condoms for this reason. Latex condoms have a texture that seems to grab or stick to me, like how a balloon does when you run your fingers across it. Lube helps but not enough. The first thing is to use a high quality lube. The water based ones can get sticky fast sometimes. I’ve been using this one for years and it doesn’t get sticky on me.
Second thing is you may not have a latex allergy but that doesn’t mean you can’t try latex free condoms. For me they are much more comfortable and as someone else said you can use silicone lube with them. I don’t have a latex allergy but I only use non latex condoms.
You should get your Hemoglobin A1c levels checked out in case that’s contributing.
You can try Boric Acid and OTC anti-fungals, but anecdotally, the best success I’ve seen has been from probiotic suppositories.
This supplement has come highly recommended by an OBGYN colleague with whom I worked.
Link: https://www.amazon.com/Jarrow-Formulas-Fem-Dophilus-Capsules/dp/B0013OUK3E
The one I have isn't for sale anymore but it's like THIS. It's only $32 and rechargeable. but that is the US site UK AMAZON but I can't tell the price. Honestly, I just search clitoral and thrusting, and personally, I enjoy the wearable which is the C shape but if you are doing it for sho they do have some with handles. :)
This is basically what I have and use. I use the big mist setting for my vulva cleaning and the massage for vulva fun 🤭 https://www.amazon.ca/Handheld-Showerheads-Settings-Pressure-Bracket/dp/B082W9Y746/ref=asc_df_B082W9Y746/?tag=googlemobshop-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=341832521470&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16931307329205048757&hvpone=&hvptwo=...
If your bf is insecure about a vibrator, you need a different bf lol. I have something kinda like this
It’s good enough for me but some ladies in this sub may have better recommendations.
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No need to be scared. It’s normal to not bleed. To help with peace of mind you can buy inexpensive pregnancy tests in bulk like these on Amazon.
I have this one. It's not the greatest build quality, but it has two types of jets that's fantastic, plus you can take out the water saver plug for even more power. I have to turn down the flow to use the single jet on the back, but it's pinpoint accurate lol.
Maybe you can do it by trying couple sex toys, I was in the same situation as you before, and my friend told me to try this. And I went and bought it, it made my man last longer and made both of us happier https://www.amazon.com/Vibrator-Stimulator-Vibration-Rechargeable-Waterproof/dp/B09YR557BB
Get this book it answers a lot of questions.
i was in the same boat! i had bought everything from rabbit vibrators, regular dildos, etc. and nothing really brought me to the edge. until i bought a wand, and it actually, seriously changed my life. i highly recommend one!! i didn't get any pleasure from my clit until i got this, and i saw in one of your comments that you do get pleasure from your clit, so i think a wand would work great for you! good luck!!
It’s always possible. But hard to tell in the early days.
If you want an extension to your sex Ed, I recommend Taking Charge of Your Fertility (book) by Toni Weschler. (Amazon link )
I was a college-educated women who was very sure she knew where babies come from, but trying for our first just wasn’t working. This book got us baby number 1 in two tries and prevented any other babies after baby number 2.
Get one of these remote dimmer switches to plug it in to. Gives you complete control. I recommend the wand on low, dimmer at about 75%.
Lutron Credenza Plug-In Dimmer for Halogen and Incandescent Bulbs, TT-300H-WH, White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0000BYEF6/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_i_F13N315JJMQFMPABXVED?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
if you are interested, check out the book 'come as you are' by emily nagoski. she will assure you that you are, in fact, completely normal. :)
So I bought my first vibrator off AmazonAmazon when I was in high school. It was super easy to buy and the added bonus of not having to do the exchange in person is a plus. There are several options on Amazon to choose from just remember to read the reviews and you can’t go wrong.
I personally have this and it’s The Amazing Toy
Also there’s the Rose Toy that is TO DIE FOR!!! So many sellers had it on Amazon but there are other places to but the rose.
Order on Amazon and have it delivered to one of their lockboxes. By the lush or Nora. Great quality and can ge controlled remotely by you or anyone else in the world through the app. You send a link to the other person and they control the intensity of your toy. You can also use it manually on yourself or on somebody else. There are many videos of people using it. Don’t use it in school you will get caught.
LOVENSE Lush 3 Bullet Vibrator, Redesigned Powerful & Quiet Stimulator, Improved Long Distance Bluetooth Remote Reach with Music Sync, Partner & App ControlLOVENSE Nora Rabbit Vibrator with APP Control, Powerful Stimulator with Rotating Head and Vibrating Arm, Rechargeable and Waterproof with Smartphone Wireless Bluetooth
Boric Life on Amazon is what I use. Not the cheapest but I also have a pack of “the killer” also from Amazon that I keep in my purse for when I sleep over my bf’s place. Those are more expensive.
NutraBlast Boric Acid Vaginal Suppositories - 100% Pure Made in USA - Boric Life Intimate Health Support (60 Count) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B3WG26H/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_56DYK0GBKWHDGWJR87MQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Try https://feeld.co. We are also trying to find people for this kind of fun. It’s hard for sure. Does your community have any kind of swingers’ clubs? I’ve heard that pre-pandemic, that was a good avenue.
When I was a teenager I wasn't aroused at all as well and I didn't have any orgasms or was interested in touching myself. It all felt unnecessary and sometimes even gross. I thought I was a a-sexual.
My sexuality grow with my age. I felt aroused first time in my early twenties and had my first orgasm when I was 22 with a guy who I really liked and who gave me a lot of time and forplay. We were just enjoying ourselves and orgasm would be just a cherry on a top so without a pressure to have a orgasm I finally had it.
I brought my first sex toy when I was 25 and started to touch myself since then I felt more aroused.
For me I think it was all mental and I needed time to become a woman. To feel that is OK to feel aroused and sex is good for me. I think as a teenager I felt that sex is a adult thing and kind of forbidden and I'm still just a girl so I fully couldn't enjoy it because sex and being aroused is so much realted to mentality, for me at least and I have heard for many other women as well.
I just wasn't ready for sex and feeling aroused then but now I'm so much more a woman and independent and not living with my parents or needing their help in my everyday life, now I feel that I'm an adult and there came also my sexuality.
So maybe give it time and hope for the best? :)
Otherwise, I can also recommend the best sex toy I have used that has given me orgasm fast and blowed my mind:
I was in the exact same situation and I bought this one: ZINUS Wood and Metal Bedframe
It's been great, super sturdy and doesn't move around or squeak at all.
You could also invest in some flavored lube or oral gels? My husband likes going down on me normally but I got this gel and he absolutely loves it! Have you tried suggesting or using something similar yet?
Yeah definitely don’t get anything too big. Maybe something like this.
Or even smaller something that is labeled for anal would probably be good. Lots of lube. And yes it is much different on the other side, I found it rather exhausting, depending on who was doing the work.
I think my post (above) ‘hit’ wrong. My screed about hormone release was an attempt to say while there is a physiological reason for a drop in desire immediately following male orgasm, there is, and that’s, no excuse for being a selfish, inconsiderate lover.
This phenomenon should be the reason your partner, or future partners, read Kenner’s She Comes First.
As I recommended, you need a new BF. But let him know exactly why you’re dumping his ass…if not for you, perhaps he’ll change for someone else.
Sorry for my poor initial communication.
You might consider getting a set of dilators and practice inserting them before considering any type of surgery. A lot of ladies over at r/vaginismus used to swear by the Inspire dilator set made by CalExotics, but I don't see it available on Amazon anymore. Here is a set that looks virtually identical. Probably made by the same manufacturer, just sold under a different brand name. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08HCT7DSY/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_751ZPECZ5E8CDVNWDBTB
I feel like I've read so many stories from women that have vaginismus who were misdiagnosed (bravo for this community knowing that word and understanding what it means!!) that say that the hymen surgery didn't solve the problem. In fact, I think someone just posted about it on the vaginismus subbreddit today. Not saying to rule it out altogether, just saying that it's a good idea to try some less difficult and permanent options first and see if they help.
I know you came here looking for a simple answer but there isn't one. I strongly recommend reading this book. It's an eye opener and full of great info that I think will help you.
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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
Yes. I ordered mine from Amazon, a reputable supplement company called Klare Labs.
Klaire Labs D-Mannose Plus Powder - Hypoallergenic Urinary Tract Support Drink Mix Formula with Cranberry & Vitamin C in Natural Berry Flavor (30 Servings, 144 Grams) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00AH6QRQS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_6G33MEM5XHHEED34DCFE?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07G6Z6L9H/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_J2Q86YQKMC2JF6S9BESF
It was this one, I don’t think the top comes off. It’s only $10 though, so I think getting a new one is just the best option.
My advice, grab one or two of these bad boys.
Defender Security U 9887 Flip Action Door Lock – Reversible Brass Privacy Lock with Anti-Lock Out Screw for Child Safe Mode, 2-3/4” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000LNMXPG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_AGRHHQAFKQFVW41V174A?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Hi, I have been having anxiety issues the last couple years. Some full blown crazy panic attacks and a few where I had no idea what was going on. They are so debilitating and not fun at all. One thing that helps me with my panic attacks is to chew gum. I know that sounds weird but it really helps. Why does it help me? I believe it is activating my fight or flight response. It’s giving me a tool to fight back or run from the anxiety. It works within minutes and every time to decrease my anxiety.
You might give this book a read. I’ve been reading it with my wife. She is having some getting in the mode issues. This has been an excellent source for understanding a woman’s mental health about sex. If also helped me understand why chewing gum helped me with my anxiety problem. https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/B08CPVQT5M/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?adgrpid=57603526033&dchild=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw3riIBhAwEiwAzD3TidVUS9HOCHOnVVEShvW_9YBxoCpurqZacueZFDWAFD4lMMAnJhc15hoC9IIQAvD_BwE&hvadid=274724203331&am...
I wish you the best of luck with your anxiety. It’s definitely not a fun problem to have.
Process of elimination. You need to cut down the number of chemicals that you're introducing into your body. I gave you a number of suggestions to use, the reasoning is to try them in sequence, or in combinations.
- Drop the hand soap (fragrance and extra chems)
- Use 7th Generation Dish Soap
- Ask Babeland, She-Vibe, et al for lube suggestions
- Where are you sourcing your toys? What is their quality like?
- Wash them with filtered water
- As a last resort, if nothing works, switch to adding condoms
- Get your plumbing checked out
> When I try to even trim my hair with scissors, my pubic area gets very irritated.
From personal experience, I suggest getting a beard trimmer and experiment with the different guard sizes until you find one that doesn't cause irritation.
Check out The Penis Book by Aaron Spitz MD.
I have this stretchy tank top. I’m not particularly insecure about my belly, but either way sometimes it’s easier to just pull the tank top down and give him access to the boobies that way!
These are the exact ones I own: icyzone Workout Tank Tops for Women - Racerback Athletic Yoga Tops, Running Exercise Gym Shirts(Pack of 3) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073RF579G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_BXCZZ9YVQHGZMP1SB9NG?psc=1
Women are complicated, we need the exact right conditions to cum. Its def not "fair". But I love sex, even if I don't orgasm. PIV is great when its someone you are into, feel safe with, and care about. I dont finger myself as it does nothing for me, but I love when a man does.
This is a good book - https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/1476762090/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
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And I'd also kindly encourage you to consider seeing a counsellor, as it sounds like there might be more going on here than you just worrying that women don't feel as much pleasure as men during sex.
I tend to use tea tree oil or salicylic acid after shaving(chemical exfoliant) which helps exfoliate the skin. I've heard good things about Remedy Soap but it's not available in the UK afaik.
Please please please check out this book. Trust me. I'd recommend it to anyone, but I think it could have some great info for you even in the first chapter.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_FVX724SFFJJHYFJB1A37
I can highly recommend the Doc Johnson vibrating c-ring for exactly this. 100% hands-free, you just get on top and grind away. Honestly we have some way more expensive toys than this, including the We-vibe Chorus, but this little baby is still my go-to. You can also just use it as a vibe on yourself for other positions.
I just bought this set , decent price, come with a classy velvet style bag and the outer texture is so smooth. They feel like quality toys to me. Definitely recommend even though I found them on amazon.
Have you tried using PFB vanish after shaving? It also works after waxing. Just don't use too much or too often. Once a week a single layer should be enough to keep the bumps gone.
Most people cannot orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone - most of us who have a vagina climax from stimulating the clitoris, primarily!
Have you been able to get yourself to orgasm before? If not that's okay! My first time was by aiming a shower head at myself when I was younger. If you want some more ideas, Girl Sex 101 is my favorite resource. It is visual without being pornographic, and explains a lot while still being approachable, divided into chapters by topic. It's all about general sexual wellness for female-identified people.
This is fantastic for exfoliating which helps you avoid ingrown hairs. Dermasuri Deep Exfoliating Body Scrub Mitt Chemical Free Exfoliation https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EL11LW0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_D9WJP1BTFT9EME18G3EH?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I don't shave every 3 days, I used to get a hollywood wax before lockdown and I do miss my eastern European waxer trying to make small talk. God love her.
Anyway, I use hair conditioner on my pubic hair prior to shaving as this softens it and the blade glides. My waxer recommended using tea tree oil/salicylic acid after waxing to exfoliate (be careful that this does not make contact with your vagina as it really does sting!) I do this for 2/3 days after shaving and I haven't had any issues with ingrown hair since. I've heard good things about the Remedy soap aswell but again, I'd be extra mindful.
Ok, I'm following now. What about a vibrating cockring not for the vibration, but for a firm, solid surface to grind on? The "appendage" on top of the shaft can be as much as 2" long. Here's one my wife and I use:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01KA1R29A/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Also, if you're looking to get a little more intense with your breaking down of barriers, check out this book: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Sexual-Ecstasy-Sexuality-Western/dp/0874775817
So sorry I’m so late but here’s the link to the one I have waxing kit
Absorbing but it doesn’t go through bottom layer. So, if I lay it on top of my bedspread, my bedspread and sheets are spared and all I have to do it throw it in the wash after a session. It’s also convenient to take to other room or vacation and stuff.
Here’s the one I have: PETMAKER Waterproof Pet Blanket –... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07MCYFSWT?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Yes, it is super quiet! It's a rechargeable mini nubby wand (I think) from PinkCherry. I believe I paid about $17ish for it. Similar to this one (https://www.amazon.com/Wand-Massager-Women-Waterproof-Massager-Mini/dp/B08LKC7WRC/ref=sr_1_16_sspa?dchild=1&keywords=mini+wand+rechargeable&qid=1607635375&sr=8-16-spons&psc=1&smid=A3UYXI3ZU7LTV8&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWV...) , but mine has a flat head, is smaller and a bendy little neck.
BTW, I cannot recommend PinkCherry enough!! Such amazing prices and great merchandise. Also, their loyalty points rack up fast and are super helpful on their already low prices. (No, I don't work there. LOL)
I recommend this for clit stimulation. Kegel Balls for Women, 360° Flexible Silicone Kegel Exercise Weights Product for Pelvic Floor Exercises, Tightening & Bladder Control Ben Wa Balls for Beginners & Advanced https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07X587H5Z/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_rVM0FbB6RZ4CR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
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Like this. One of my favorite styles.
Thin rubber strips between the joints help too. My husband used this...apart from reducing sounds it's better for the bed as well.
Luckily this post has a book towards this for women, not an article, but thanks for the headups.
Many of the points in this post are out-dated and not based on fact. The idea of man with many wives protect woman, other man kill babies has been proven not to be true. For more info on the subject of women's evolution & how it relates to monogamy I'd recommend 'Sex at Dawn' by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. https://www.amazon.ca/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/1491512407
Ive skimmed through this thread and everyone here has fantastic advice and you seem to be doing all the right things. Ive totally been here before and did everything you've done/been doing, dealt with being afraid/uncomfortable with sex for over three years because of it, it was awful and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
The one thing that changed my freaking life was getting a probiotic called Physioflor. They make a few different products, the one I used was a 2 pack with only lactobacillus crispatus strain. It's inserted vaginally. I purchased mine off Amazon which was a pain in the ass since it's sold out a lot.
I can only find this link, and its seemed to have gone up in price since I got mine like 8 months ago. Which is annoying...
Anyways, it might be worth a try. I know they're a French company and you might be able to find this product elsewhere on the internet.
Keep doing what you've been doing, though. Also try using coconut oil s lube because it's antifungul/antibacterial it definitely helps.
Also, I’m going to put this as a warning: I’ve tried my fair share of cheaper, womanizer knock-offs on amazon. They usually just have the clitoral suction head and have a few basic functions. Whenever I used them, I found that they don’t use suction, but rather there is a pulsating bit in the head that taps and vibrates against your clit. While it gave me really great orgasms, I saw when cleaning afterwards that it made me bleed?! The pulsating head isn’t body safe, especially not clit-safe. If you want mind-blowing orgasms, go with a womanizer or a cheaper, reliable brand that’s similar, like the Satisfyer. They’re not the same, but they’re safe. And soooo worth the price tags. And they also don’t result in numbness or tolerance. Sometimes using vibrators can make it more difficult to come manually or during sex, because it can desensitize you. The womanizer works differently with pleasure air technology. This is the first “Womanizer” I ever owned. I’m pretty sure it’s a knock-off, but if it is, it’s hella convincing and I remember feeling as though I found the lost city of Atlantis after using it. Link It’s the only one on Amazon I’d recommend
I dont think you are allergic to semen I think you are suffering from a PH imbalance!!! Give your vagina some time to rest, and definitely look into taking a vaginal probiotic suppository.
I suffered from vaginal discomfort and infections for 2 years. Even if I didn't have an infection, my vagina would get red, swollen and irritated after I had sex. Semen is acidic and the introduction of it into my ecosystem would throw me off... Just about every single time.
I went to several gyno's before I found one who was like, "you're fine, stop taking antibiotics/antifungals and buy this probiotic off of amazon for $20. THE END"
THOSE WERE HER LAST WORDS and I've never ever EVER had an issue since.
https://www.amazon.com/Purfem-Vaginal-Probiotic-10-Suppositories/dp/B079X3BFGQ
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Ever tried botox?
BTW much more affordable night guard - it does help me. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00V54UX2A/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1 this one is not available so take a look at the related products.
Sure! Mine isn’t exactly like this but it’s very similar.
You're a self-proclaimed feminist and don't acknowledge your animal needs as a female, how can you even claim that you can examine your needs as a woman?
You are not a feminist, you're just antipatriarchical.
On top of it, if someone says they like something, who are you to take that from them? Do you tell a religious person that God is not real? Do you tell someone who enjoys trains that their enjoyment of trains is only there because of their upbringing? Does that make the enjoyment any less valid? No, of course not.
Regarding your animal needs, I recommend starting here. https://www.amazon.com/The-Moral-Animal-Robert-Wright-audiobook/dp/B003VXI8DO/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&qid=1598248982&refinements=p_lbr_one_browse-bin%3ARobert+Wright&s=books&sr=1-2
I personally like smaller ones, like the bullet and find that larger vibrators can be pretty intrusive and limit the positions you can be in. I basically don't have sex without it.
I am kinda cheap. I hate spending money on anything that seems superfluous or that I could buy for less. I am a thick girl with a very thick pussy. Plus I’m tall, 6’3, so it’s very hard to find things that fit. And I don’t wear underwear. I just don’t like it and haven’t worn it in years. I use some high waisted ones off Amazon.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07X6L2BSV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_WZS4Eb9037AQW
They aren’t see through even when my big ass bends over. Plus they are thin enough I can double them up in winter and be extra cozy.
Yes!! I've had amazing success with this brand. I usually buy n Amazon but it is out of stock. https://feelgoodnatural.com/shop/women/feminine-hygiene/purfem-probiotic-product-expiry-date-is-feb-29-2020/?c=e6574c964bd7
There is another brand on amazon that is a tad more expensive that also has good reviews. https://www.amazon.com/Biom-Probiotics-Vaginal-Probiotic-Suppository/dp/B07DGN1ZFH/ref=sr_1_17?dchild=1&keywords=vaginal+probiotic&qid=1585939707&sr=8-17
You can also take oral probiotics for vaginal health, but I have found them only to be effective for maintenance rather than treatment.
Also rinse off after sex, drink a ton of water, and avoid sugar and alcohol! Good luck!!
Try something with methenamine!! Azo Urinary Tract Defense is a seriously slept on over-the-counter antiseptic. It‘s not a traditional ‘systemic antibacterial’ because the active metabolite isn’t produced until the medicine reaches your bladder, and bacteria don’t generally adapt to antiseptics and become resistant to them. It makes it much safer than other classes of antibiotics to take often.
$8 bucks on amazon for 24 tabs. My best friend had the same exact problem you’re dealing with and we figured out that if she took one in anticipation of sex and then once after, she could prevent almost all of them.
Good luck!! I hope this stops for you soon.
Consider the fact that the situation of bacterial vaginosis occurs when the preferred ratio of both good and harmful bacterias become imbalanced. Instead of applying medicative cream which causes the smell, consume multivitamin supplement which is proven for safe BV treatment and cures all the issues internally.
I just bought this for my wife the other week. So far she loves it!!
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00HIM5DG4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 i've had this bad boy for a few years and it gets the job done and is quiet enough if used under covers to muffle the noise. btw i've used this in dorms with thin walls and now live with roommates and no one has ever mentioned anything to me about noise.
My original pocket rocket died �� so I ordered this; Uniclife Portable Mini Massagers with 4 Heads Pocket Personal Vibrating Pen for Body & Face, Purple, Battery Operated https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XQXB3NG?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf
It was cheap and arrived quickly!
Maybe get him a cock ring that has a clit stimulator on it?
Amazon link so maybe open it in incognito if you don't want to ruin your shopping preferences.