You should check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series ((sexually-explicit version on Pillowfort / censored version on Tumblr), it's in big part the reason it exists. It talks about sex and dating with partners of various genders, and coming out and mental health when you're a bi guy (including dealing with internalized homophobia and biphobia).
And you're really not to only 30-year-old bi guy who's never done anything with another guy. I've chatted with plenty of people who only figured out or accepted their orientation in their 30s, 40s or older and are just starting to explore that side of their sexuality. I know it can feel like you missed out on a lot, but a lot of people find they're a happier person in their 30s than in their 20s, and it's surprising how much time you actually have to make up for it.
Is any of that helpful?
I'm really only aware of one book on the subject. It's kind of pricy, since it's an academic work not intended for popular reading.
The author did do an interview with Vice about the book, though, for a summary of some of the basic findings.
I've just started exploring being bi and it's confusing as fuck. One thing that helped was reading this article. I'm in a similar situation as you in only really thinking about sexually interacting with another man but not romantically right now.
I don't have time today for a longer answer, but check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info on dating and having sex with partners of various genders - in particular for someone's first time with another guy - as well as on mental health when you're a bi+ man.
Hey man, it's okay to be nervous if you've never hooked-up with a guy - we've all been there at some point. Does he know you've never done this? How comfortable do you feel with him (I guess it might be hard to tell if you've never met in person)? It's okay to try something uncomfortable that makes you nervous, but it should be with someone with whom you're comfortable, with whom you can talk, allow yourself to be vulnerable, and who you know will respect your pace and your boundaries.
My first time with a guy was terrible because we were both trashed and we had no fucking clue what we were doing. So do yourself a favor and don't do that. :P It's only a few years later that I had sex with a guy again, and this time it was much, much better, even though I was a nervous wreck and I was shaking like a leaf. He was a friend I was having over for a sleepover, and it took a lot just to get to the point of asking him if he was down (hence why I was so nervous) - and I was a bit startled when he enthusiastically said 'yeah, of course!' :P But it was a lot of fun: hugged naked, made out, swapped BJs, that sort of thing.
You should check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info for exploring your sexuality with partners of various genders. I think you should give it a good read before you end up hooking up with a guy, it will help you feel better prepared.
Is any of that helpful?
Hey, it's great your out to your wife and that she's up for it! You should have an okay time finding a guy to do something with with all the apps.
You may want to check out my (very NSFW) Sex Ed for Bi Guys series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it'll be good prep for a potential hook-up with a guy. I also have a censored, SFW version on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles. Is that helpful?
Hey man, I'm glad it went well and that you had a great time!
Since you're new to being with guys, you may want to check out my (very NSFW) [Sex Ed for Bi Guys](https://www.pillowfort.social/sexedforbiguys/tagged/sex%20ed%20for%20bi%20guys) series on Pillowfort. A lot of guys found it useful, and it's definitely not your typical high school sex ed! I also have a [censored, SFW version](https://sexedforbiguys.tumblr.com/tagged/sex-ed-for-bi-guys) on Tumblr, although it's missing a couple of the articles. Is that helpful?
Hey man, I come from where you come from. There’s plenty of good theology out there that’s LGBT-positive. Here’s a really short read called “For The Bible Tells Me So” that gives a fifty-page-or-so rundown on why the Bible not only doesn’t really oppose LGBT folks but actually encourages their inclusion.
I understand where you are coming from, I first came out the closet as bisexual and later as gay, which I can attribute to the lack of representation, I've never felt more at my place that being bi (now at my 26yo) even when I look for a long term relationship with a man only since my sexual and romantic attraction only happens towards men and women only romantic. You asked an important question and what I can observe is that you are looking for validation externally (or an external solution), and that can only come from the inside, more precisely by changing your subconscious mind into a more positive framework for your existence, what happens out there would be completely unimportant as long as you are accepted and love from your unconscious mind. In doing such inner work is how I stopped permanently having the so called bi-cycle, now I understand myself, and I don't need other people to be a certain way to feel happy about my self . I've used since I was 21 Psych-K and the letting go (book) technique from David Hawkins.
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On a side note I enjoy talking with you this is my second time doing so
if you actually want to have the conversation about nonmonagmy with your wife, i recommend the book Opening up (it talks about more forms of nonmonogamy than polyamory or swinging). It sounds like you broached this subject before, and it may have ways of talking about it that allow you and your wife to discuss shared expectatons/boundaries and ways that an open relationship to allow you to get some dick could work for you (not that it necessarily will end in that, but articulating your desires is better than repressing your feelings, which only grow resentments imo)
my girlfriend (primary partner) and i are both polyamorous and it's been working well so far. I also have a boyfriend who's in a nearby city and will date around when i'm not particularly busy (she's dating people too, and we do group stuff together). Polyamory is pretty great, but it's not for everyone; we went into the relationship knowing that neither of us wanted to be monogamous (in large part bc we're both bi) but converting an existing monogamous relationship to an nonmonogamous one can be a challenge. I've seen a lot of people do this without really having strong communication skills and ability to talk around boundaries, needs etc. and it cause a lot of heartbreak for all involved (including myself).
Opening up is a pretty good resource on open relationships. Also, polyamory is just one form of ethical nonmonogamy. "Having a stable relationship with a woman but hooking up with guys when you're craving men" isn't really polyamory.
I would ask her if she'd want to read opening up and talk about it with you. It's pretty comprehensive about this kind of thing and talking through potential issues/what it would look like etc. instead of you just winging it.
Here's the wristband I wear now.
I've had to point it out to some of my non-hetero friends who didn't recognize the colors.
I've also started painting my nails.
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Posting personal information such as a phone number is against Reddit rules. Also, many of your comments so far have been request for chats, at least one of them with a strong sexual undertone. This is against our rules: this sub is not a cruising spot. If you continue engaging this way, we will issue a ban.
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The server is mainly a social space, not a hook-up space. We have some more sensitive NSFW channels where some members share nudes or sext with each other, but you need to have been on the server for at least a week to gain access to those. If you're looking for hook-ups, there are many apps that can help you with that, and they're more likely to give you what you want than our Discord. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
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In you're up for some serious Chinese fantasy, I would highly recommend The Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation. The main character is bi, but he doesn't actually have any relationships with women.
(You can buy the English book on amazon/Barnes and nobles) link on amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Grandmaster-Demonic-Cultivation-Novel-Vol/dp/1648279198
If you aren't familiar with wuxia novels/shows, it will be a wild ride! There is an animated version but the book is much more detailed. If you want to see if the genre is a good fit, check out the very first epsidoe of the show on YouTube. (https://youtu.be/m346FShZ5Dc)
This book is probably my favorite of all time. It's not supposed to be an allegory for the lgbt experience, but the back bone of the plot feels that way.
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I could not approve your post because the title is NSFW (rule #6: all titles must be appropriate for workplaces and for minors) and because we do not allow requests for hook-ups (rule #3); you did not tag the post as NSFW either even though the story is sexually-explicit. You are welcome to share your story in another post as long as the title is SFW and as long as it's not framed as a request for a hook-up either. Please tag the post as NSFW if you do.
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I posted about this kit a few times: https://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-LE776-Shower-Enema-System/dp/B002FCN7Y2/ref=sr_1_5?crid=1ID4K2X7ZEJP6&keywords=shower+enema+nozzle+for+men&qid=1641222070&sprefix=shower+ene%2Caps%2C97&sr=8-5
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Basically hook it up in the shower (I use the bigger attachment cause the small one was too strong) insert and clench your abs for a few seconds then release. Repeat that for a few minutes and you will be cleaned out for the rest of the day.
I use this every time I am going to bottom or just go to town on myself with dildos and never had an issue before.
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I've been married to a wonderful woman for nearly thirteen years. And we were friends for almost ten years before getting together. I may not have accepted my Bisexuality until recently, but I know that I would still have been with this person if they were a different gender. Why? Because she's my best friend.
Also, if you haven't already read it, I'd suggest the book <em>Recognize: Voices of Bisexual Men</em>.
I only just got it for Christmas, but reading some of the essays by different Bisexual men has really helped me to start understanding the community better.
No well... what I meant was this dude was an awesome dude and flamingly gay and out and he was NOT into the butts*x at all. There are a LOT of guys like that. Probably more bi guys who are "oral only" than gay guys even.
The challenge is finding people you are sexually compatible with. Gay hookup apps make it simple, you can say what you want or even check boxes for your preferences. This guy I dated I had met on Match.com I think, there was no way to list sexual prefs on such a mainstream dating site... even though for gay and bi men those can be very important for compatibility.
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Mit exactly about being bi but its about how a lot of bi men see their masculinity and stuff I guess.
I'm still working through what is and isn't any good. Amazon has a few targeted at family, but they tend to be generic, blanket coverage for LGBT+ in general.
The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate looks pretty good, but can't personally say I've read it yet. Might be worth checking out. It looks like it has great talking points for both of you.
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Some people will perceive it as obnoxious, but they're not the people whose opinion you should take into account (because if you prod further, it's probably you coming out at all except in the most private of ways that's obnoxious to them). Plenty of people come out to their broader entourage through a social media post these days and you're right: it can help people around you (in my experience it did, but it can take a long time sometimes before you realize that impact you had).
I don't have time for a long explanation, but you should read my post on the power dynamics of coming out (NSFW version from my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series)). What some people might call "obnoxious" or "attention-seeking" is just you taking the same space that all straight people enjoy and that most gay people do as well. And that's your fucking right.
Is that helpful?
Your post comes across as a request for sexting / a hook-up, and it has an overly sexualized title. These go against our rules #3 and 6.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Hi! Your post was removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up or people to chat with in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
I've had to remove your post because as per our rule #3, we don't allow requests for sexual encounters. I'm glad your wife is open to you exploring your sexuality though! You can maybe try r/bipersonals. There are many apps that can help you with finding people to explore with in your area. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Your post was removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos. r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that. If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
r/bipersonals, r/BiGoneWild and r/BiBoners are better places for that.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Removed as per rule #3. NO requests for hook-ups or sexting, and NO NSFW selfies, pics, or videos.
If you are looking for a hook-up in your area, there are many apps that can help you with that. Here's a handy guide (NSFW version / SFW version) of the ones that are more interesting for bi men.
Congrats on coming to terms with your sexuality! I'm glad your wife is supportive and that you have the opportunity to explore.
If you want, check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info on dating and having sex with partners of various genders, meeting people to explore with, as well as mental health when you're a bi+ man. Is that helpful?
Honestly, if you just showed him this post it would say pretty much everything that needs to be said right there. Just make it clear that it's okay if he's not into doing that with you and that you're still going to be best friends.
Option 2 involves a sleepover and escalating sex talk. That's how a lot of guys end up hooking up.
But clear communication is often preferable. A lot of people have happy and fulfilling sexual relationships with friends, assuming you both have decent emotional maturity. Typically, it makes friends much closer even if it's not a romantic connection. Sure it sometimes goes wrong, but research on the topic shows people are usually very satisfied with their FWB experiences.
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EDIT: I can't believe I forgot to put this in... If you want, check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info for exploring your sexuality with partners of various genders.
Hey man! Scruff lets guys tag themselves as bi and you can filter results through that tag. There are also other apps that make it easier to find bi guys. You should check out the post on hook-up and dating apps (uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort; censored, SFW version on Tumblr) from my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. It will introduce you to many online options you might not know existed for meeting people.
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You just realized you have a much bigger realm of possibilities to explore, so it's understandable you'd feel that way. We were all at the point once, and it's okay to be inexperiences - we all start somewhere, and some of us are late bloomers (raises hand). No one like feeling like a fish out of water, and even more so when it comes to sex and romantic relationships. But make sure it's not tied to a misplaced conception of masculinity that says you have to be sexually experienced to be manly either (not saying that's your case, but a lot of guys carry that). Also, your inexperience doesn't matter as much as the quality of people with whom and the quality of relationship in which you end up having those first experiences. People who are a good fit for you will be fine with your inexperience, because it's with you they'll want to be and experience these things. Be honest about your inexperience, allow yourself a chance to be vulnerable with someone, and give each other the opportunity to be present with the other as you learn. Sometimes it won't work, and you might get hurt. But the times that you will have that true intimacy with someone else who accepts you as you are will more than make up for it. Does any of that make sense?
Also, if you want, check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info for exploring your sexuality with partners of various genders. You might be inexperienced, but it doesn't mean you have to be uninformed.
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It's for my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. The @ is for Twitter.
You're welcome!
You might also want to check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info for exploring your sexuality with partners of various genders.
Hey, it's hard when you're struggling with those feelings. Many of us internalized that two guys together should be gross or weird, and it takes a while to unlearn that. The first time I ever saw two guys kiss (it was in the 90s :P ), I was weirded - even though I had already made out with a dude in the past.
Do you have any queer male friends? Maybe meeting other queer guys in a context that is not a date or a potential hook-up would help ease the pressure. If you get comfortable with these guys, it'll help normalize everything - plus if you make friends with someone before you hook up with them, you'll be more comfortable than with someone you've just met on the Internet. Are there LGBTQ groups or social activities in your area? Maybe the local college as a LGBTQ group, and you can probably hang out even if you're not a student. Does any of that make sense?
Also, if you want, check out my Sex Ed for Bi Guys series, since you're new to exploring things with guys. There is an uncensored, very NSFW version on Pillowfort, and a censored, SFW version on Tumblr. A lot of guys found it useful, and you'll get good info for exploring your sexuality with partners of various genders.
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