What are Reddit's favorite Dating Apps?

And it was developed by Match Group, which owned Match.com. It was an entrepreneurial offshoot of the company, hence the 'tinder.'

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It really is a very clever name.

It's okay though, this happens often and there are loads of sites where you can rehome them.

I suggest putting her profile on Match.com, tinder, and OKCupid to start with. If there's no interest, you can set profiles up on other sites and apps.

Don't worry, we'll find your GF a new forever home in no time.

I met a guy through match.com. After countless exchanges, we went on a date. He showed up handsome, well dressed and successful. We went to a beautiful French restaurant. During dinner he claimed to feel bad and asked if we could not talk then proceeded to ask for the check right after the entrees arrived. I asked for the waiter to box my meal. When we got into his car he said let's go my my house; have coffee and listen to music. I said, no thank you and please take me home. He drove in the opposite direction. After a five minute argument, we went to starbucks for coffee and he yelled at me because he couldn't smoke in the cafe. Just then a friend texted and invited me to her party a few miles away. I figured this was my out, I asked him to go with me. We were there for about an hour and he said he was ready to leave...I told him I was staying. He said, "You're not leaving with me?" I told him no. He then slapped me across the face in a room full of my friends and no one saw it. I was shocked. He leaned in an inch from my face and said, "What's wrong, cat got your tongue?" He turned around and walked out. He then continued to leave me harassing messages calling me names and stalked me for the next three months. He'd show up at places he knew I would be. He would call me from other numbers and cry and ask me to go to counseling with him. He finally stopped. It ruined online dating for me forever.

I met my husband on Match.com almost 15 years ago.

ETA: back then you also lied about it haha. Only a loser needed to use the internet for dating. We used to tell people we met at the bar where we had our first date rather than talk about the couple weeks before that when we were talking online.

You'd be surprised how many women have hats and/or big sunglasses in every photo (in my search results (the 40-somethings), I would estimate that 50% of all photos have sunglasses). There are plenty of profiles where in every photo she's wearing a mask, too!

It's like Match.com is sponsored by the witness-protection program.

...Aaaaand this is why we don't use OLD apps.

I couldn't believe how many men on OLD would do things like:

• Ask me out ("how about we go out Friday night?") and then not make any plan at all, and then text me Monday as if Friday night was never discussed and was never supposed to happen
• Ask me out - ("how about we go out Friday night?") and then not make any plan until the day before, and then text me less than 24 hours prior to tell me what the plan was, leaving me to wonder if he was going to do the above, and I was spending Friday night alone
• - Ask me out - ("how about we go out Friday night?") and then not make any plan at all for a reservation, when he knows that we live in a big city where if you don't have a reservation by Wednesday, you are not getting a table, anywhere, on a Friday or a Saturday
• Ask me out to a place that he knows does not have reservations, and the wait is customarily up to an hour, so I get to stand there in heels, outside whilst waiting. I refused this date, and never heard from him again.

Please, stop using these apps. You will get the trash men, with the occasional gem thrown in, and waste a lot of time and mental energy swiping, swiping, and answering inane messages from men who can't be arsed to actually have a conversation with you.

Fact you need to know: These apps -- all of them -- are being abandoned by women. As recently as March 2021, Match.com active users were 81.6% male. This is not "easy pickings" for the women. Women are abandoning OLD sites. It's because we're sick of being sexually harassed by LVM who have nothing to offer but the audacity.

Boycott dating apps, restore your sanity.

I was on match.com a few years back and went out with this girl. On that site, you can pick your body type (slender, average, a bunch of stupid ass euphemisms for "fat", etc) , and she picked "slender". She posted several full-body pics where she is definitely slender.

I beat her to the restaurant, and am waiting at the bar, drinking a beer. She shows up and says my name. I turn around and see this girl who is at least two hundred pounds. I finished my beer and left. Not because I wasn't attracted to her, but that was some serious fraud and a big red flag to me. I wasn't rude about it (I didn't even directly mention it to her), but she definitely wasn't going to waste my time.

They have an interesting meet-cute. Neither was looking for a relationship but they met on some site (Match.com?) and then in real life for a one-night stand. They really hit it off and have been together ever since. They just knew.

match.com. My thought is that it's a paid app so maybe dudes are more serious? Not sure about that yet. I got it before I found FDS and have it paid through Nov, decided to experiment and see what will happen after applying my new FDS skill set.

Gabby looks/dresses/acts like a newly divorced woman in her mid-forties who is trying really hard to relate to and impress her teenaged daughters, and who is also getting really in to motorcycles because her new boyfriend from match.com rides them.

I met my wife on Match.com when I was an assistant prof, although I was quite a bit older than you (36). I liked Match because it costs money to do much of anything on it, which sort of filters out people who are just screwing around and most students, they'll largely just use Tinder/Bumble for free. So long story short I suggest Match!

I'm married, but I just heard about Bristlr. Never tried it. Not endorsing it. Just sayin'. It's there.

That said, shaving can be cathartic. I lopped off a two-yeard with a strop razor barber shave on my wedding day as a sort of new-beginnings thing. So, I can see how keeping or shaving it could both be fun decisions. Just make sure whatever you end up doing is your decision and not out of some sense of obligation or mourning or "who's going to want me now?" pity party.

Beard, like strength, comes from within.

I once got really high and thought it would be hilarious to make this profile. But when I created the profile, I fucked up and accidentally set gender to female.

So I had created a profile less than five minutes ago. I had put that robot picture in as my display picture. The username is Robert for fucks sake. But because I had an (F) in the gender field, I received 3 messages in the five minutes between creating the account and filling out the first text field on the profile.

As a man, I've maintained profiles for 8 years now, and I can count the number of inbound messages I've received on one hand. Three. And one was a spammer trying to phish me

Mic tip pentru cei de pe tinder:

1. https://tinder.com/app/recs
2. Apesi acolo unde scrie x+ like-uri
3. Click dreapta > inspect element pe o poza blurata
4. Cauti ::after de la o poza blurata. De obicei apare in inspect dupa ce ai dat expand (sageata mica din fata de la <div>) la elementul curent.
5. Debifezi -webkit-filter: blur(12px); si filter: blur(12px); sau adaugi display:none;
6. Vezi cine ti-a dat like fara Tinder Gold.

Btw, un mic tip:

1. https://tinder.com/app/recs
2. Apesi acolo unde scrie x+ like-uri
3. Click dreapta > inspect element pe o poza blurata
4. Cauti ::after de la o poza blurata. De obicei apare in inspect dupa ce ai dat expand la elementul curent.
5. Debifezi -webkit-filter: blur(12px); si filter: blur(12px); sau adaugi display:none;
6. Vezi cine ti-a dat like fara Tinder Gold.

I Matched with a woman who turned out to be prettier in person than her picture. A great start. On our first (and only) date, she said, "You seem like the kind of guy who would run toward a woman in distress, instead of running away." I wasn't sure where this was leading, but she confessed that she wasn't "technically" divorced from her husband, oh and he's a federal agent (with a gun and badge) who sometimes got rough with her. He just learned about her Match.com profile that morning and was pretty angry, so she had been hiding all day at her sister's.

So there I sat with my back to the door at an Italian restaurant, wearing a mussel bib, and waiting for a bullet to the back of the head.

She turned out to be really nice and I would have loved to get to know her, but I had a rule about not dating married women. I walked her to her car (parked in a nearly empty parking garage with bad lighting of course) and kissed her goodnight.

2 thoughts here -

1. There are actually a large number of companies started by former consultants of which you may just not be aware e.g., Bonobos, Riot Games, Gillette, Match.com, CarMax, etc.
2. Consultants are typically trained as and have the temperament for being managers of a business which is usually quite different from the "move fast and break things" personalities that make great entrepreneurs. That is why you see many consultants go on to be great c-suite managers at some of the biggest companies in the world such as Sundar Pachi at Google, and Sharyl Sandburg at Facebook.

I'm not going to get into your DH's issues - that's for the JustNoSO board.

He needs to see this as not just an issue affecting HIM - that it affects YOU, and the two of you as a couple. So the two of you, as a couple, need to agree on a strategy to deal with this, and issues going forward. (Marital counseling might help to get you both on the same page regarding his mother.) This was a pointed jab clearly aimed at you, and your marriage. She could have "gifted" the Match.com membership to her darling boy, but no, she chose your birthday to shoot this barb at YOU.

And DO NOT, for one minute, let her try to laugh this off as a "prank" or "joke."

"If it were a joke, we'd all be laughing."

This was just a warning shot, to see what she can get away with. Shut it down now, and hard. If you can't get DH on the same page, deal with it yourself, and haul him into therapy so the two of you can present a united front in the future.

I once met a girl in a bar and asked for her phone number. She gave me "a" number, no idea if it was hers as i never got a text back.

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Fast forward a few weeks, she "liked" me on match.com. We stated messaging. Eventually she asked "were you at [event me met at prior]". I made the mistake of remembering and recounting too many details from that night. Yeah, she probably already knew, but until that point maybe she was willing to let first impressions slide.

Online dating is a place all MGTOW need to go, its the next hurdle, or the final blow to fully go MGTOW.

All men need to check online dating, for what it is, pure crap, if you are older my age bracket used to be 35-45, and you can not believe how full of themselves those old cunts are.

What there standards are, they are asking for, and what they have to offer in return, and see how men blue pill white knight cucks throw themselves at those horrors just for a chance to get a piece of sour pie.

I have met a few and i can honestly tell you they never ever look like there profile picture, they lie about everything, the place themselves so there fat ass does not show etc.

I just open a free account on match.com and i am laughing my ass off reading those over the hill profile, i don't send emails, i been approach by 4 women this week but since i don't pay i can't reply and i am not gonna pay one cent for this shit.

I am 5 feet 11 with 30y of training i keep fit, and i am not bad looking yet like you said with women impossible standards online i failed hahaha.

Online dating just shows how stupid women are, when a 47 years old skinny grey hair hag with 3 kids modifies her profile saying, listen i been online for 3 years now and i am tired of wasting my time, if you are not at least 6 feet tall, handsome, i don't want a balding fat man, don't waste my time and i know the difference between 5 feet 11 and 6 feet.

This women was a 3 on plenty of fish and i sent her an email, i actually got banned after this, i told her hey princess, why would any men with a brain want to even talk to you, when he can go to Cuba and pick up 22y old super hot women, you have nothing special, you have hit the wall solid many years ago 3 kids your only requirement would be that a man is breathing, keep living in your dream world and make sure to have rechargeable batteries for that big fat dildo of yours.

Everyone recommendations here are right.

1. Consider therapists
2. Consider a psycadelic experience
3. STOP READING THIS ANALYTICAL DATING BULLSHIT FROM THE INTERNET. IT IS GOING TO LEAD YOU DOWN A DARK HOLE. KEEP TREATING PEOPLE LIKE FULL FLEDGED PEOPLE.

I want to add. I know it is painful but you are WAY too much in pain and concern and failing yourself.

Two tinder dates is not enough.

Honestly, you should consider going to match.com and just saying YES to EVERY SINGLE person for like 30 dates (Coffee only). Whether or not you are attracted to them or they are your type.

There are lots of good women, who are nerds and may just be nerds about other things, but you are relying on a lot of internet abstraction to inform your behavior, your looks, and your reaction.

Also when people are shitty to you and its over, just tell them hey that was pretty shitty behavior. Some of those people are just flakes, but some of those people are like you so guarded they are pushing away.

You don't have to be confident, but maybe it makes you more confident if you are aware that EVERYONE is struggling and uncertain and it isn't insane to share those doubts with people.

Also I recommend you work on EMPATHY. You seem to be very concerned about your thoughts and how you are being perceived and not how other people feel.

Honestly, go to https://www.photofeeler.com/ and do a few tests on your photos. It lets you put a photo up and random people rate your photos based on the context you ask (dating, social and business). People can even leave stock comments (so there is no chance of bullying). It can cost money if you are lazy but if not you can earn credits (so your photo appears to others more) by voting on other people. I found that a lot of my photos that I thought were good were good social photos but not good dating photos which i found by putting the same photo up, once in dating context and the other in social. Changed the photos up a bit and I'm getting a pretty good match rate now. Just need to work on the next part.

Mystery solved - it's been lifted word-for-word from this guide on how to write a successful bio. see the section from "FunLovin 36"

I agree, the ones that worked ok sold out and nobody really has the means or desire to compete when match.com owns a big monopoly on most of the dating sites/apps.

Also our culture just sucks more. We all kinda suck.

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Like if covid happened 5-10 years ago I'd have no problem at least finding potential matches to talk to at least that could hold a conversation.

There ARE "Farmer only" and "Conservative Only" dating apps. They all generally fail for good reason.

Also, laughing at the guy who says he got kicked from match.com for "advocating conservative values". $10 says he started attacking gay people and/or yelling at women who wanted a casual relationship or who weren't interested in children.

He was in a Match.com commercial and got paid barely anything. Then the commercial was shown everywhere for months. He decided to troll them by taking his footage from the original commercial and cutting it together with new footage he shot himself.

Tinder doesn't advertise itself as a "hookup app" - nothing on its website mentions hookups. It's society that's placed the label of "hookup app" on Tinder, and Bumble, OKCupid, or any other free dating site.

Tinder is used by people not looking for hookups because they need a place to find love and Tinder is free. Why should they be forced onto another site?

it's a cult. For some reason we pay them to isolate from society and to tell us what they come up with.

We let them tell our children what to think about us.

Why these institutions still exist is a scam, not a mystery. Google and Walmart could do a better job, but the "elite" like to buy into labels with fancy crest that sound old - the 'ivy league' is a glorified match.com for rich kids. 'elite' schools are just the tool of the wealthy to preserve their privileged connections and status above you.

If these institutions vanished it wouldn't be a loss.

Throw on there that online dating is just... it's not a great game, unless you're willing to pay the service for the more quality profiles, and even then it's tough.

I paid for Tinder premium and the full Match.com profile, and at best, I get a bunch of matches from people who never respond to the thoughtful messages I send. It's not even a matter of not responding, they just aren't being read either.

Hi Reddit, Alex Parish here - founder of Tastebuds. We've been matching people since 2010 and have created many happy couples through music - I even met my girlfriend on the site.

Any questions, please ask!

I hope they get more servers soon, I would like to try it.

But it sounds like it's not a very good test. There's already a lot of great MBTI tests that figure out if you're one of 16 personality types.

And maybe you could also link your Spotify or Last.fm accounts to find similar music tastes (TasteBuds.fm does this), and Netflix / IMDB / Facebook for movies and TV shows. And even your Reddit account, to compare similar subreddits.

I actually started building a user subreddit matching site where you could chat with similar Reddit users, after working on this: http://www.youshouldbuythese.com/ Didn't end up finishing it, but I always thought it would be interesting to talk to other people who are extremely similar to me.

Unhappiness takes a while to recognize and usually it's dealing with a lot of denial surrounding it. I was in a long relationship and for the last year of it was extremely unhappy with everything.

However every day it was, "what can I do to make things better?" but that slowly turned into going to into work early and staying late a lot to not be home.

In the end it turned into we were just two people sharing a bed and a house. We barely talked or interacted. She wanted TV in the bedroom, me in the living room. I was miserable.

All it took was one long illuminating conversation with someone who then asked me out to jog me out of that funk (we didn't even talk about relationships). I turned her down as I was in a relationship (Looking back I should have taken her up on it as I wasn't really in a relationship at that point - it was just an empty husk), but I was flattered and once again felt I had potential value to someone.

I went home and ended things. She revealed that she had been sleeping around with randoms from match.com for the last 18 months. I breathed a sign of relief after freaking out and being tested and declared clean (even though we hadn't had sex in over a year) and she had gonorrhea and later rumors of herpes.

A friend of mine in college once told me that while she didn't have a problem sleeping with a guy on a first date, if she did there wouldn't be a second date.

For some reason that stuck with me, so when I met my now wife on our first date after connecting on match.com (yeah, I'm old) I refused to have sex with her just on the off chance she had the same rule.

We made up for it on the second date the next night. Married 12 years this Sept.

Tinder on kyllä ärsyttävän ulkonäkökeskeinen paikka, mutta sitä voi kompensoida esim. tällä työkalulla: https://www.photofeeler.com/ Jos ei osaa hymyillä kuvissa (kuten minä en osaa), auttaa siihen se että pyytää kaveria kertomaan jonkun vitsin samalla kun ottaa kuvaa.

Huomautan myös, että ei 30 vuotta ole vielä mikään paha ikä, koska aina voi hommata kymmenen vuotta nuoremman naisen. Eivätkä kaikki nuoret naiset mitään bimboja ole, siellä on paljon sellaisia jotka ovat fisumpia kuin mitä toiset ikinä pystyvät olemaan.

You can actually get your real stats by typing in tinder.com/data I think or tinder.com/stats and they'll send you an email with the total amount of people you swiped on, how many matched you and so forth.

My older brother found his third (and last) wife off Match.com. He had filed for bankruptcy for a failed business. His second ex was running him through the wringer financially. He has a two B.S. from MIT, M.S. from USC and a MBA from Boston U. She was a preschool teacher with a modest home. He was living in an apartment with a 12 year old car. They are happily married.

I'm still not done with her as she fired her attorney and has hired a real MFer. Oh well.

It's funny in retrospect how much I really dislike her as a person now that I'm gone. For 20 years, I was subsciously suppressing basic urges and reactions to her BS.

What really has her tit in a ringer is that she really doesn't have me under control anymore. It infuriates her that I've moved on so quickly.

She finally got on match.com and had a date Saturday (she oh so subtlely dropped enough hints...she's sooo clever....LMFAO).

I know her so well I'm almost able to plot everything she does. And the buttons she pushed on me before no longer work -- though she keeps trying.

And although I'm not a button pusher, I do jab her occasionally for sport. (childish I know).

A couple of years ago I went out on a date with someone I met off of Plenty of Fish. We agreed to meet up for a drink at Chili's one night and things went well enough so we decided to walk over to the movie theater and see what was playing. She was really, really cute and the date was going pretty well. I was definitely into her.

About 30 minutes into the movie her phone rang and she actually answered it. I've never seen anyone do that before and she ended up having a heated conversation with whoever was on the other end. She was actually yelling at the person. People kept turning around to look at us and yelling for her to shut up but, wanting to see where things went, I decided my best play was to stay silent. After about two or three minutes I leaned over and asked if she wanted to take the call outside and she completely flipped out on me. She made a HUGE scene in the theater, cursing me out, where people were literally standing up to see what was going on, then stormed off. Someone from the theater showed up a couple of minutes after she left to see what was going on.

For the life of me I can't remember what the movie was but I figured I paid for two tickets so I might as well stay and watch. About 15 minutes later she came back, sat down next to me, put her head on my shoulder, and watched the rest of the movie.

I walked her back to the car when the movie ended and said goodnight. She went in for a kiss but I opted for an ass-out-hug instead. Later that night she texted me saying what a good time she had and she hopes we go out again soon. I responded back by basically asking her what made her think the date went well then she cursed me out, again, over texts.

Do you know even know what feminism is? Unfortunately, people like you have this awful impression that we're crazy bitches who think men suck. In reality, feminism is just the belief in equality of all people, regardless of sex, gender, or sexuality. I'm an active feminist, and it's one of my core philosophies, but I think it ultimately makes me a better person who is easier for both men and women to get along with.

I don't mention feminism in my current profile, but I did in my last profile, back when I still lived in Salt Lake.

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So here's the thing: I've been using Tinder for a while, and I'm better looking than this guy, and I have a better sense of style, and I'm white (for those who think that matters), and I've never gotten "a woman to meet up for sex." What I have done is gotten a woman to meet up for a date, and then I've had sex. Guess what? Sometimes you may have to get a woman to meet up for three dates!

The entire premise of this challenge makes me wonder if some incels' problem with Tinder is just that they're saying, "Let's fuck," and they're hearing, "Uh, no, I'm unmatching you now." That's not how it works, Amy.

Related: I hear a lot of incels complain that they swiped for weeks and only got a few matches. Guess what, #metoo, and I still get laid. What the hell are you looking for anyway, sex or validation? Wait, forget I asked that.

Also related: Why don't incels realize there are dating sites/apps other than Tinder? Tinder, Tinder, Tinder! I know it's popular! There are also other sites! Is OkCupid too sexy for you? Match.com is a thing! Fuckin' eHarmony is a thing and you'll find loads of prudes just like you! It's almost like they want to use the most appearance-centric dating app just so they'll fail!

My accountant (and one of my best friends) said a while ago that in four years she'll be in credit card debt again.

But this thing with her new attorney could be really bad.

Sadly, she'll need someone to bail her out of that. Hopefully, she can meet someone.

Funny but she created a match.com profile using the email account we share -- one neither one of us has touched much in over 6 months. Obviously, she was hoping I'd see it.

There's this website where you can upload a picture of yourself and people vote on, based on that picture, whether you are smart, thrustworthy, attractive or not.

I did forget what the website was though, I found this on 4Chan.

But as you can see, some people have shit taste in men and decided to vote Sam as not attractive nor trustworthy nor smart.

All 3 of which are wrong.

Edit: I found the website again. It's https://www.photofeeler.com/

My friend really wants to be a mom and she's late 30's. She got a fertility test and says she's fertile but her doctor told her she has a timeline. She's kind of in the same phase where she keep finding people that don't want the same thing. I would suggest online dating like match.com, because my friends that do online dating said that people on there are more serious in regards to a relationship. I had two guy friends that found their wives on that site and they had their first child about a few months apart from each other (funny bc they are best friends too). Their wives had the children late 30's too. One was a widower with a son already and one was her first child.

My other friend set a timeline that she wanted kids by a certain age with or without a partner. She went to a sperm clinic and got inseminated and now has a lovely one year old daughter. If you don't mind doing it alone then you should too.

I go for walks, I read, I ride my motorcycle. I flip the script when I feel alone. Whenever I was in a relationship (or married). After a while she didn't like any of the movies or shows I liked. We stopped going to the movies. We wound up watching something stupid if she was going to watch it with me. If we were talking it was about what she wanted to do or her family (who usually didn't like me). If we went on vacation it was where she wanted to go. Most of the time I was by myself even when she was around. My mind then slowly starts to realize what a terrible investment most relationships are and how they almost always end tragically. I did everything they wanted, didn't cheat, didn't lie, thought I knew them and they still ended it. And there I was alone again. Today it is easier to be alone than get myself alone. I can get on match.com and get a date anytime I want. If I spend enough or kiss enough ass they will always stick around (or put me in their orbit). But, even if they really do like me...I know how this movie is going to end eventually. All that money and time I can't get it back. Having a woman around in my 50's with all her family and friends is just too much work. I'm happy I'm alone. I think I'm going to Holland, smoke some weed and bang out a really young hooker. You only live once. Learn to laugh at yourself.

No matter where I live I always find a few interesting women on OkCupid. The site is definitely marketed towards, well, the kind of women who would probably read Reddit.

Answer questions, take quizzes, READ ENTIRE PROFILES BEFORE MESSAGING, DO NOT COMPLIMENT A GIRL'S LOOKS ON THE FIRST MESSAGES, put good quality pictures of you wearing decent looking clothes and hanging out with friends (without alcohol in your hands) and don't self deprecate nor brag.

If you do this you will get a date. I promise.

Don't face reveal on reddit where the paranoia of being one day doxxed will crush you. Do it on Photofeeler where you can remain anonymous and can be reduced to a set of numbers.

The numbers will not lie to you.

Hey dude, I pointed you in the direction of this sub!

> trying to live every day as happy as possible

I would cut this, since its kind of a cliche. Or at least reword it so it sounds less like a cliche.

I would also remove the references to reddit, and maybe limit yourself to one Star Wars reference.

Also I would nix the bit about being submissive. I know you meant that in more than a sexual way, but I think that it generally sounds like a sex thing and I wouldn't recommend putting sex stuff in your profile.

As general advice since it works for me, try to inject some humor into your profile, especially in regards to your disability. Here is a link to my profile for some potential cripple joke ideas.

Edit: also, I would consider changing your profile name to something original enough to not have numbers in it, or possibly something a bit more jokey.

Oh, and if you have any pictures of you in your cripple chariot, you should probably upload one.

Anyway, good luck buddy!

I see a lot of folks in this thread met on okcupid. It's a curious thing because I'm still single, and have had a consistently abysmal experience with the site the past couple of years. I know some people on a few dating subs say that okc has gone down quite a bit in quality and usability in recent years. (I've since focused more on match.com and bumble)

But based on your experience and others, I imagine okc must but have been much better previously. But happy for you nonetheless!

I also have been avoiding almost everyone. My son is immune compromised and my parents are in their 80s. My son who normally lives with my ex-wife in Boston came to visit me for a few months because we thought he would be safer with me. My daughter also visited me for a couple of weeks. I have visited my parents twice since February because they were having problems. Other than that, I almost never saw or spoke in person with anyone until May this year.

Starting in May this year, I stared meeting my friends weekly at local parks to toss a frisbee around. I would use hand sanitizer before and after frisbee sessions and I would wear a mask whenever we were closer than 15 feet apart. Up until mid August, we were seeing about 30 new cases per week of covid 19 in our county of 150,000, so I thought that this type of long distance socializing was rather safe as long as I used a mask and hand sanitizer. Two weeks ago, the students returned to our local college and we are seeing around 150 new cases per week among the students, so I may have to stop meeting my friends soon.

I do still attend church virtually which is nice. At the end of the zoom service, they break us up into groups of six and we talk for 15 to 30 minutes. I am acquainted with most of the people at our church, so I really enjoy these sessions.

I have not gone out on a date since January. I have been considering joining Match.com or some other dating service. I was thinking that we could go hiking if my date agreed to wear a mask during the "hiking date" or maybe we could have a "frisbee date". Those ideas for dates seem odd to me, but maybe there are others like me who hunger for safe social contact.

Maybe others have ideas for safe in person socializing. Camping? Fishing? Tennis?

TLDR: Try safe frisbee for socializing at local parks.

I thought they were back together, he posted a pic for her birthday a couple weeks ago and had a recent IG post I think like two days about how he found his match as an ad for match.com or something. I hope they got back together, I like them as a couple. Kelsey literally cheats on everyone as soon as she can, I hated them together. #teamgbaby

More info: we are working on the dating platform https://feeld.co This role would be for someone who has the experience working on the Backend and solid Haskell knowledge. Part of the backend is done in CoffeeScript, so it's added as the requirement for the job. However to know the CoffeeScript is not the absolute must.

>People have pointed out that the okcupid study would automatically match you with someone if rated them too high, which played a role in why some women may have rated harsher.

This trend goes far beyond OkCupid. Match.com, Tinder, Hinge... on top of numerous studies posted on PPD. 80/20 is probably a bit of an exageration, maybe closer to 75/25. But what is clear is that on looks alone, women are not interested in dating most men.

> Even if you want to ignore the dating message distribution because hur dur women don’t message, the study also showed that less attractive women were less likely to respond to message from attractive men which contradicts the hypergamy narrative that guys on here push:

It doesn't at all.

>There are a ton of options. Do you want to spend money? Or only want free? Do you want a relationship? Casual dating? Hookups? What are you looking for? Off the top of my head,

> Match.com.,

The trash one that ruined online dating?

> eharmony,

Creepy Christian guy?

> Hinge

Apparently decent ish. Still based on swipes and shows matches hours away.

>Bumble,

Tinder but even less chance you'll match

> Zoosk,

No idea

> Tinder,

The horrible thing OKC failed to clone. Owned by match

> Facebook Dating,

Not available near you.

> Elite Singles, OurTime,

These sound like escort sites.

> Christian Mingle, JSwipe, JDate,

....

> Badoo, Clover, Pure, HUD, Pickable, POF, etc.

Did you actually try any of these?

>I find it funny when people complain about how bad OkCupid is. Bad results doesn't mean the app is terrible.

The app is objectively terrible.

I read somewhere that the people at Match.com etc figured out that in any heterosexual dating app, they can make the experience as bad as possible for men and get away with it.

So the truth is, there is no 'fixing' this issue. There's no financial incentive for dating apps to be made more equitable, as long as men continue to be suckers and pay for terrible experiences.

I remember reading somewhere that OKC lost thousands of subs when they went all, Tinder-like. There is really no one on there anymore. I can remember when the place was jumping with people. Now you are lucky if 5 or 10 people local to you are on at any given time. Here in Ga, prime time was between 8 pm and 11 pm most nights. At least a couple of 100 women would be on within 50 miles of me. Now, there is no prime time anymore. I'm lucky if 5 women are on within 100 miles of me. I can tell that there are a lot of dead profiles. Women that just gave up and left the site. The reason I know, I finally clicked like on 4 or 5 women that were actually too far away but had liked me anyway. I can see their profiles. They never show up as being signed in. It looks like they abandoned their profiles and just left. OKC is dead.

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All that is left is POF. But, the problem with POF, there are too many people there. Many women get over 100 messages in a day. For others a week. They get so many that many men who do write, get buried. Some women delete everything and start all over again. Most women are not going to sit and look through 100 or more messages just looking for one guy to date. POF is overcrowded. When OKC bit the dust, many went from OKC to POF not knowing that the same Match.com now owns POF. Dating sites are just not worth the time anymore. Match has it all cornered. You may as well join Match and be done with it. They own it all just about. I'm surprised that they haven't bought out Eharmoney.

HTTPS is not vulnerable.

The issue is that when you type in "match.com" as the demo video did, the site is configured to redirect you to https://match.com. If an attacker can intercept that redirect (or if the site serves traffic on both HTTP and HTTPS), then you can be sending data unencrypted over HTTP.

When the demo video mentions a "properly configured website", that means setting the HSTS header (and ideally adding the domain to the preload list). That means that your browser knows to go straight to HTTPS for that domain, so no data is sent unencrypted and you start with the TLS handshake. If a site is not encrypted in such a way, you can protect yourself using something like HTTPS Everywhere or manually prefixing https:// when entering a URL.

If you are ever curious of your standing on the scale, here is a place you can upload a photo of yourself and have it statistically tested for.

Edit: enter at your own risk.. I apologize in advance

i joined match.com after my wife died. it is by far the best service for finding a match. i went thru 10 meet ups, and then found the right one. very happy to find someone to love who loves me. you have to be willing to take a chance on pandemic protocols to date . hard to hold hands and walk from 6 feet away.

The early days of online dating were pretty great, say late 2000s, into the early 2010s. It was still work but there were other people out there doing the work too and periodically you'd find those people. Fucking Match.com ruined the whole thing. And people who don't use computers, and use their cell phones for everything, also helped to ruin it.

/u/ff42 posted the site. It's actually a service and not an individual guy/lady. So I guess it's like match.com but for mormons who are millionaires? That seems like such a niche market, but at $9k for each matchup, i guess they make a profit?

he said HE found her on fb after the gas station. tbh idk why a as station meetup is more far fetched than a dating website... You think anyone but Germy puts their ass on tinder? She didn't/wasn't desperate enough to sign up to match.com in her early twenties. come on. she pushed for Adumb for just about the entire haul to the gas station

Welcome to the wonderful world of parents that don't plan. You are smart to plan early. I think a lot of people in her situation are stubborn and won't let on that they have no idea how to manage money. My parents were the same way. Now my mom (80) doesn't have anything, but her SS which is a pittance and my siblings and I are paying the price. You need to coordinate with your sister and talk to your mom until you guys can make a plan together. Maybe go to SS website and calculate her expected SS payment and show it to her and start your work from there. You can do a budget and show her how she isn't going to make it by herself on SS alone. Chances are good she won't listen the first, second or third time. Just keep hammering the message home. She needs to live small (money wise).

Don't let shoring up your mom financially affect your life or marriage. Take care of yourself first and your mom second.

She is only 51 and that 's pretty young relationship wise. She may find her life partner yet. Maybe don't invest in an IRA for her, but buy her a gym membership and a Match.com account!

I would NOT open an IRA for her. Save for yourself in a 401k, Roth 401k, IRA, pay off your debts, put money in other investment vehicles, etc.

Was she married to your dad for 10 years or more? If so she will be entitled to some of his SS. It will not affect his payments.

I disagree, the science and the numbers strongly support looking into the camera.

Anyone can quickly prove this hypothesis wrong by taking two photos and testing them against each over using https://www.photofeeler.com/

There ARE the situations where taking "candid" shots works well, like trying to pose for action and lifestyle shots but if you open with a profile shot where you're not looking into the camera, you've already earnt a left swipe by a large majority of people.

How to Find Local Groups and Partners.

Have you tried classifieds / personal ads on FetLife? If you want a local partner, search for groups using the name of your city or a nearby city.

You can try local events such as munches and play parties (with you can find out about on FetLife), but you should probably be going with the idea to make friends rather than just to find a partner (the former can lead to the latter).

A kink-friendly dating site like OKCupid also works.

There's also /r/BDSMpersonals, /r/LittlespacePersonals and /r/ABDLPersonals (if you're into that).

Of course a lot can be said about constructing that perfect profile (or message), but I'll leave that for others to get into.

I don't think I'm particularly attractive though people on the sub disagree at times. And I'm only half asian (filipino), so often I would be confused with latinos/hispanics.

My tinder game is awful. I meet very few people off it and I would put them mostly in the 5-6 range with the occasional 7.

It's hard for me to gauge equally attractive white friends, I will say if I were to compare myself to a white guy I knew who was active on okcupid, similar height/job etc though I worked out a lot more/had more hobbies etc, he was far far more successful dating than I was. Though most of the girls who ended up sleeping with me, thought I was by far the more attractive one though he was way more successful overall.

Conclusion, most people perceived him (a white guy) to be more attractive by a slight margin, but those who preferred me, preferred me by a much larger margin.

Bumble and CmB give too little results to be comparable.

My best shot by far was OkCupid. But again, my profile and my messages are much stronger than my general appearance so the more personality I can inject into an online dating profile, the better I can do. I would say OkCupid girls tended to fall much more in the 6-7 range.

My best experiences are IRL. Girls I met and dated IRL were mostly solid 8's, again this has to do with a lesser emphasis on my looks and more on personality.

tl;dr Women mostly prefer white men. There are some that prefer Asian/mixed race. The less of an emphasis on my looks, the better I tend to do.

Here's my OkCupid profile for context op

If you're vaguely tech savvy (can follow instructions) here's how you can bring them back.

1. Go to your profile
2. Open your browser console (F12 in Chrome, CTRL + Shift + J in Firefox I think)
3. Paste the code provided below and hit return to submit
4. Wait a few seconds
5. Reload the page

Bring back "The first things people usually notice about me":

new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:3,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}});

Bring back "Most private thing I'm willing to admit"

new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:8,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}});

Alternatively if that's beyond your abilities, do the following:

1. Go to your profile
2. Right click in your menu bar to create a new bookmark ("Add Page" in Chrome)
3. Set the Name as anything (eg: "Bring back fields")

4. Set the URL as:

   javascript:new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:3,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}}); new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:8,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}});

Now from your profile click on the bookmark and wait a few seconds and reload the page!

Technical explanation: all they've done is hidden the forms, they haven't stopped you from submitting those essays, this method sends a request to their servers pretending you've submitted an essay.

Have fun!

Hi, I try my best to do right by myself and the rest of the universe.

Still part of the snapchat resistance. http://okcupid.com

500 feet of rope, a spear, a fire piston, and a water filter.

I'd end up naked and would look like the picture I last submitted in my reddit history.

Wow. Wasn't expecting anyone to even see this post.

Details? Ok: We actually met on OkCupid.com, which I now highly recommend. I build web apps for a living, and was using the app as research. I put up a photo of myself, and a few details. Filled out the minimum 50 questions, and went on with my life. This was over a year ago.

A couple weeks ago, she gets a hold of me via the free messaging system, asks me a few obscure & intriguing questions, and off we go! In order to get the online chit-chat out of the way, I asked her out to dinner. And well, the rest is history.

Oh, and she doesn't know my Reddit handle yet. I brought it up on the date because the photo of herself she sent me was hosted on imgur.

I've paid for Grindr to get rid of ads. Stopped doing that. I've paid for Scruff to get better search. Helps, but still single. In the past I've paid for Match.com which is a complete and total waste with endless outdated and recycled postings. Pretty dismal out there. Just a big scam industry.

Go to whatever the Dutch match.com is and count how many girls have a a listed min height of 170cm or less compared to the ones that list 180cm and up.

Most of the time it doesn't need to be mentioned. If you are shorter than the girl you have no chance and most prefer 7-8cm height differential. Makes them feel small and girly. Course guys are the same wanting girls that make them feel big and manly...

There's /r/Datemybeard but it's pretty deserted...perhaps this is a resource we should be looking into.

There's also Bristlr for hooking up beard strokers with strokees. The Internet is beautiful.

Well, I won't ever say that what we go through compares to what the trans or gay community goes through on a daily basis, but there have been quantitative studies that have displayed an overall discrimination towards us.

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On smaller scale, we don't even have a place to put our identity on major websites like match.com or eharmony really. We're viewed as less human overall, because we're not sexual like the rest. Some stories of potential dating partners trying to convert us into being sexual, as if they want to fix us as broken have been overall cited again and again. In my current state, consummation laws can be cited as a reason for divorce, which can put the asexual partner at fault for dissolution. So, there's that. There is some like that. I am not comparing in any way to what any trans person or gay person goes through. That's not me. I'm just saying what aces sometimes face.

Not me, but my mom.

Found out her partner of 5 years or so had made a dating profile while they were still together and he was living with us. On top of this, he was constantly taking advantage of her and generally being absolutely insane and abusive. Because she put hours into helping him rebuild his business asking for nothing in return, she had access to his website, his domains, etc.

She attached his dating profile to his professional business domain so when you typed it in, his match.com account would pop right up.

This is the new work environment. They have to hire women and productivity standards cannot be lowered if that company trades on the stock market. It doesn't matter what industry you are in. I work in health care and had a female colleague keep giving me her patients so she could sit around and act intelligent (like a boss). I didn't say anything, I'm not going to argue with a woman. I just started putting in over time. I'm not going to be super productive so a female can sit on her ass and maintain productivity levels! He got on me and I quit. Soon he had a department full of females on Facebook and Match.com, calling out sick instead of treating patients. He started to write them up and wouldn't ya know...the sexual harassment charges came out and he was fired. Lol. As a man in this gynocentric world you have to GYOW with employers too.

Nathan, software engineer for a defense contractor. Anything I can tell you is kinda boring, but the stuff I can't tell you... Is also really fucking boring.

Um, snaps at bigbadbyte if you want snaps of me and my dog

OkCupid is http://okcupid.com/profile/TrueNathan if you just want to see a terrible okcupid profile.

With 10k I'd hike the Pacific crest trail. The records just got set at 53 days. I'd probably shoot for 60 ish.

Here's my face http://imgur.com/wG7XZgW

What is the etiquette on messaging a person more than once if they didn't respond to my first message?

DON'T! Only in very rare circumstances should you ever message someone a second time. The second message, regardless of the content, can make you seem desperate and clingy.

Should I bother sending a message to a red dot (replies selectively)?

Absolutely! Never NOT send a message. There's no such thing as "out of my league" or "I'm not attractive enough." Everyone's view on attraction varies, and something great about you may completely overshadow what you dislike about yourself.

HOW DO I LINK MY PROFILE ON THIS SUBREDDIT? (I recommend reading up as much as you can before submitting)

Look for the button on the right hand side of the page that says, "Submit a Link." Enter your title (preferably with some basic information like age and gender, and if there is anything specific you'd like critically judged). Then, in the link/URL box, type in or copy/paste:

http ://okcupid.com/profile/ YOURNAMEHERE (delete the spaces).

Do NOT go to your profile and simply copy the URL. Make sure it has your name in it and not just http://okcupid.com/profile because you can see that it takes everyone to their own page if they have one.

Well, the Love Story snippet we heard in the Match.com commercial sounded basically identical to the original, but some have speculated that she'll only make her most popular songs carbon copies - and the deep cuts she might change up a bit. But at the same time, I feel like if she changed them up too much, people would still seek out the originals if they miss the original vibe, and that would kinda defeat her intention of making the re-recordings a replacement for the originals.

They can be, used to work with someone who was at one time an executive at Match.com. You could sign up online and just type in your credit card to get started. But to leave, to end your relationship as a customer, you had to call.

Not only is calling into a corporation a major pain in the ass in the first place, who wants to call and say "hey, I keep dating people but it just isn't working out for me, I'm not getting laid and the girls don't want 2nd dates."

On the other hand, calling to say "I don't need it anymore I'm getting married." Either way, making customers call reduced churn in their consumer base.

Every platform is different. Anyone here ever have Sling.tv? It's a convoluted mess trying to figure out how to leave that dumpster fire, you can do it online, but they intentionally obscure where the door is to leave. I wonder why?

As a side note, apparently 40% or so of the women on Match.com say they'd never date a guy who owns a cat. So it's not simply a bias against women.

While there isn't a general bias against dog owners, there are stereotypes about and biases against women who own small dogs. Maybe everyone is just too afraid to make fun of people with large dogs. :^)

I agree that someone who fosters a large number of stray or abandoned animals should be held in esteem rather than ridiculed.

I found my wife on match.com after i prayed for her. She hit every detail i asked God for even the ones I was joking to him about but not really. He knew my heart and gave me everything. She even went to the church i was planning on going. Church isn't the only place you'll find your soul mate. God isn't that limited you know. Talk to people. Your wife or husband starts as a friend first.

Since it's her in the pic, I can say... I was matched with Brett on match.com a couple of years ago.

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:)

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For some reason she had the worst picture possible in her profile. And no, I didnt reach out to her.

The real question is: When will "Seeking" reach the breaking point where no real SD forks out money to see profiles of women seeking love outside their league.

They choose to compete with match.com and similar sites. They are losing their USP.

I hope they have done their homework and will be able to attract enough paying millionaires looking for real love and significant others on "Seeking". Good luck.

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The site to match like minded people looking for an arrangement is no more.

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Edit: Changed "SA" to "Seeking".

Match.com over all others (POF is just nasty). Met soooo many women on Match. I've gotten two hookups from Tinder and dozens from Match. Just remember that when they say "I'm not here for sex" they usually mean "I'm not here for sex unless it is with the right guy, which may be you today but not tomorrow". I once was on the way to a restaurant, while on travel, by myself, got an interest notification from Match, messaged her where I was going for dinner, invited her, she met me there, banged within three hours. I freaking love match.

wanna laugh even more check her fat ass back in 3y and see how her profile will have change to frustration cause she will never get that and over estimating her market value which is close to ZEROWWWWW

also she looks like a tranny. Now you know why i created an account on match.com to read stuff like this and laugh it out loud.

While meeting on-line is the #1 method, it isn't winning relative to the concept of "meeting off-line".

19% of relationships that result in marriage started online.

17% Meeting through Friends

15% Met in College

12% Met at Work

Source : https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/online-dating-statistics-dating-stats-2017/

So while 20% is certainly nothing to scoff at, it is nowhere near 100%. Even if we scale it to take out the "at college" percentage, you only get around 24%.

Edit: That said, the perception that the online realm, is the only game in town, is also very real. Also from the same article:

Half of British Singles Have Never Asked Someone on a Date Face to Face In some ways, online dating is a crutch for singles who feel uncomfortable or fearful about talking to their crushes in person. It’s much less intimidating to communicate with a date online because you don’t have to look the person in the eye and put your heart on the line. Over half of British single adults surveyed by The Sun admitted they’ve never asked a date out in person, and 46% said they’ve never dumped anyone in person. While online communication can make those tough conversations feel more pleasant, at some point, you’re going to have to talk to your date in person.

So there is very much so a population which FEELS like on-line is the only game in town, when really, on-line dating only accounts for 20% of marriages.

I can probably make your favorite baked good better than your favorite version of it. Flour whisperer.

Plays to my strengths, and it functions as a good hook.

I don't have a snazzy OkCupid staff medallion to show you, no. But you'll see in my replies on here that I know a lot about the site.

• edit: you can see my staff profile on the site here: http://okcupid.com/profile/alice

I've been around the block a few times and I hear the stories from people around me and these hit and run relationships are ruining it for a lot of people.

I can't even look at match.com because all my matches looks like liars, fakers, and I'm going to leave you laterers.

And to be honest with you, I'm not even a bad guy. Maybe I should go out do drugs, or drink at the bar and then maybe I might find someone that wont leave me.

#bs

I used Okcupid and Match.com for about ten years. The only "success" was one guy who love-bombed me for six weeks and then abruptly got sucked into the alt-right and got emotionally abusive. Okcupid seems to work better for polyamorous people. I used hinge for a year, dated one nice guy for a month who wasn't for me since I can't have kids and Hinge seems to be more like eHarmony, a lot of religious people who want kids. I used Bumble and Tinder for several years, no luck. Met several men on Bumble who were leading complete double lives. One guy faked a whole persona about being a old-rich Westlake kid who needed me to fit into high society and demanded I buy a nicer condo/car/wear expensive outfits and eventually dumped me for using public transportation once in Chicago because that was for "poor people", but in reality was actually himself lower middle class with lower middle class parents who had mostly worked stocking shelves at food co-ops. Met at least couple of men lying about having live in girlfriends on Bumble and Tinder. One guy who was a successful "executive" but his company was actually a shell company involved in a healthcare government embezzling scheme that was about to go to jail for five years and who had just had a boat, car and house repossessed for fraud. Anyway, 9.5 years into being single in Austin, I made an account on Facebook dating and the first hit was my wonderful now-boyfriend. We just moved into a huge house together in South Austin and are approaching our one year anniversary.

Yeah I doubt the homeless are using match.com or other paid services due to lack of funds. Then again who knows if the barrier of entry isn't low enough for them. Probably an unpopular opinion but if you can't afford to live on your own you shouldn't be dating.

I hate to play devil's advocate here, but clearly you are looking in the wrong place. I would go for match.com. What were you hoping to get with a site like that? You will only get the bottom of the barrel.

i mean they're always gonna use an algorithm this is apparently how they do it now , not very clear apparently. Still its always gonna be designed to be against you (sort of like how facebook killed the organic reach to get people to pay more for promotion)

> Are they actually questioning it

Yes. And for good reason. Turns out it's exactly the same as one of the examples in this how-to guide

<strong>Photofeeler</strong>

What are your photos saying about you?

Stop guessing, start testing. Choose your business, social, and dating photos using the world's #1 photo testing tool.

This is not as sleazy as "Hot or Not", but a kind of rating system where you can test various pics for how much attention they rate. You gotta take any rating or system with a grain of salt, because YMMV depending on what city you are in.

Hey! Captain Planet has a blog, check it out!
http://gocaptainplanet.com/

She also has an OkCupid profile "GoCaptainPlanet", which is how she found me :p

As a black man constantly seeing: "No blacks", "Only into white guys", and if race is category in their preferences it would be just white or everything but black.

In my college years around 2009, my friend had a match.com account, and when we were hungover in the morning we would play a game of which women would include black men in their preferences. The % was very low.....

"She constantly ranted on about how she hates all men and how she likes to use men. Her goal in life was to find a rich guy who she can live off of. She seemed really unstable and honestly seemed somewhat psychotic."

The perfect profile for Match.com. Going once; going twice; sold to the sucker in a seersucker suit!

I haven't had feelings for a woman in almost 8 years. I haven't had sex in about 5. Today women are a vague thought in the back of my mind. I'm to busy concentrating on my own survival. If I had a woman I would have to worry about hers too or lose her to the competition (someone who wants to pay for her). Not having a woman is a hell of a lot easier than having one. I'm easy to take care of and satisfy. A woman is not. It sounds to me like you really want the love of a woman (which doesn't exist). To that extent your thinking of checking out. Seek help for this issue first. While your getting help go on match.com and get a girlfriend. Take her out to dinners and on vacations, buy her and her family gifts. Then notice how she spends nickels on your dollar to finance the relationship. You mention this to her and she's back on match fucking somebody else. You do this enough times and you will come running back to MGTOW. Because you will have what alcoholics like to call...a moment of clarity...circa Samuel Jackson in Pulp Fiction.

It's been covered repeatedly on PPD. OkCupid data, Tinder data, Match.com data, speed dating studies, attractiveness studies, anecdotal stories (just off the top of my head).

Sorry but I don't want to sum up 12 months of PPD arguments in a single response.

I use Match.com because it requires close to zero effort on my end. Only go in to see who messaged me. No time spent on swiping.

I've used the free apps in the past. My take is that the paid apps give you the worst of the worst and the best the best. Worst: they get no matches on the free apps and think paying for it will do the trick. Best: they're new to online dating and just stumbled in.