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I once got really high and thought it would be hilarious to make this profile. But when I created the profile, I fucked up and accidentally set gender to female.
So I had created a profile less than five minutes ago. I had put that robot picture in as my display picture. The username is Robert for fucks sake. But because I had an (F) in the gender field, I received 3 messages in the five minutes between creating the account and filling out the first text field on the profile.
As a man, I've maintained profiles for 8 years now, and I can count the number of inbound messages I've received on one hand. Three. And one was a spammer trying to phish me
Here are a few things that exist now that are awesome:
MUSIC
Start using Pandora and Grooveshark in tandem. Pandora allows you to find new music that is similar to music that you like on several different evolving "radio stations," and Grooveshark allows you to then find albums by those bands and save them online. It is not illegal because it is not downloading.
MOVIES
Instead of going to Blockbuster to rent movies, get Netflix. You will shit bricks.
PORN
purplepornstars.com
you're welcome
DATING
Do you like wading through a sea of girls with body-image or daddy issues until you find a smokin' hottie who totally digs everything about you? Then go to OKCupid. Just tell your story like it is and act like a normal person and you will be way ahead of the curve.
VIDEO GAMES
You just spent 6 years in prison. Why would you want to stay inside playing video games 24/7?
> I want to add a picture to my profile, but I'm worried people I know will come across my profile
GET OVER THIS. Looking for dates online is not something you need to be embarrassed about.
Are any of the people you know who might also:
- Have online dating profile
- Have a sexual/romantic interest in bigger dudes
- Would be interested in someone in your age range
really going to delve into your questions and care about the answers then tattle to your family about them??
You can actually lock down individual questions (there's a padlock icon) so that no one can read them, but the only way to totally control who can see your profile is to pay for incognito mode
>>Incognito will hide your account to everyone on and off OkCupid unless you specifically like them or send them a message. You can read more here.
Though of course that costs money.
> How can I take a decent looking photo of myself without making an ass of myself?
/u/Swedishfishslut's photo tutorial post
Do you know even know what feminism is? Unfortunately, people like you have this awful impression that we're crazy bitches who think men suck. In reality, feminism is just the belief in equality of all people, regardless of sex, gender, or sexuality. I'm an active feminist, and it's one of my core philosophies, but I think it ultimately makes me a better person who is easier for both men and women to get along with.
I don't mention feminism in my current profile, but I did in my last profile, back when I still lived in Salt Lake.
No matter where I live I always find a few interesting women on OkCupid. The site is definitely marketed towards, well, the kind of women who would probably read Reddit.
Answer questions, take quizzes, READ ENTIRE PROFILES BEFORE MESSAGING, DO NOT COMPLIMENT A GIRL'S LOOKS ON THE FIRST MESSAGES, put good quality pictures of you wearing decent looking clothes and hanging out with friends (without alcohol in your hands) and don't self deprecate nor brag.
If you do this you will get a date. I promise.
Hey dude, I pointed you in the direction of this sub!
> trying to live every day as happy as possible
I would cut this, since its kind of a cliche. Or at least reword it so it sounds less like a cliche.
I would also remove the references to reddit, and maybe limit yourself to one Star Wars reference.
Also I would nix the bit about being submissive. I know you meant that in more than a sexual way, but I think that it generally sounds like a sex thing and I wouldn't recommend putting sex stuff in your profile.
As general advice since it works for me, try to inject some humor into your profile, especially in regards to your disability. Here is a link to my profile for some potential cripple joke ideas.
Edit: also, I would consider changing your profile name to something original enough to not have numbers in it, or possibly something a bit more jokey.
Oh, and if you have any pictures of you in your cripple chariot, you should probably upload one.
Anyway, good luck buddy!
How to Find Local Groups and Partners.
Have you tried classifieds / personal ads on FetLife? If you want a local partner, search for groups using the name of your city or a nearby city.
You can try local events such as munches and play parties (with you can find out about on FetLife), but you should probably be going with the idea to make friends rather than just to find a partner (the former can lead to the latter).
A kink-friendly dating site like OKCupid also works.
There's also /r/BDSMpersonals, /r/LittlespacePersonals and /r/ABDLPersonals (if you're into that).
Of course a lot can be said about constructing that perfect profile (or message), but I'll leave that for others to get into.
I don't think I'm particularly attractive though people on the sub disagree at times. And I'm only half asian (filipino), so often I would be confused with latinos/hispanics.
My tinder game is awful. I meet very few people off it and I would put them mostly in the 5-6 range with the occasional 7.
It's hard for me to gauge equally attractive white friends, I will say if I were to compare myself to a white guy I knew who was active on okcupid, similar height/job etc though I worked out a lot more/had more hobbies etc, he was far far more successful dating than I was. Though most of the girls who ended up sleeping with me, thought I was by far the more attractive one though he was way more successful overall.
Conclusion, most people perceived him (a white guy) to be more attractive by a slight margin, but those who preferred me, preferred me by a much larger margin.
Bumble and CmB give too little results to be comparable.
My best shot by far was OkCupid. But again, my profile and my messages are much stronger than my general appearance so the more personality I can inject into an online dating profile, the better I can do. I would say OkCupid girls tended to fall much more in the 6-7 range.
My best experiences are IRL. Girls I met and dated IRL were mostly solid 8's, again this has to do with a lesser emphasis on my looks and more on personality.
tl;dr Women mostly prefer white men. There are some that prefer Asian/mixed race. The less of an emphasis on my looks, the better I tend to do.
Here's my OkCupid profile for context op
If you're vaguely tech savvy (can follow instructions) here's how you can bring them back.
- Go to your profile
- Open your browser console (F12 in Chrome, CTRL + Shift + J in Firefox I think)
- Paste the code provided below and hit return to submit
- Wait a few seconds
- Reload the page
Bring back "The first things people usually notice about me":
new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:3,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}});
Bring back "Most private thing I'm willing to admit"
new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:8,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}});
Alternatively if that's beyond your abilities, do the following:
- Go to your profile
- Right click in your menu bar to create a new bookmark ("Add Page" in Chrome)
- Set the Name as anything (eg: "Bring back fields")
Set the URL as:
javascript:new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:3,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}}); new Ajax.Request('/profileedit2',{parameters:{essay_body:".",essay_id:8,okc_api:1,authcode:AUTHCODE}});
Now from your profile click on the bookmark and wait a few seconds and reload the page!
Technical explanation: all they've done is hidden the forms, they haven't stopped you from submitting those essays, this method sends a request to their servers pretending you've submitted an essay.
Have fun!
Hi, I try my best to do right by myself and the rest of the universe.
Still part of the snapchat resistance. http://okcupid.com
500 feet of rope, a spear, a fire piston, and a water filter.
I'd end up naked and would look like the picture I last submitted in my reddit history.
Wow. Wasn't expecting anyone to even see this post.
Details? Ok: We actually met on OkCupid.com, which I now highly recommend. I build web apps for a living, and was using the app as research. I put up a photo of myself, and a few details. Filled out the minimum 50 questions, and went on with my life. This was over a year ago.
A couple weeks ago, she gets a hold of me via the free messaging system, asks me a few obscure & intriguing questions, and off we go! In order to get the online chit-chat out of the way, I asked her out to dinner. And well, the rest is history.
Oh, and she doesn't know my Reddit handle yet. I brought it up on the date because the photo of herself she sent me was hosted on imgur.
Nathan, software engineer for a defense contractor. Anything I can tell you is kinda boring, but the stuff I can't tell you... Is also really fucking boring.
Um, snaps at bigbadbyte if you want snaps of me and my dog
OkCupid is http://okcupid.com/profile/TrueNathan if you just want to see a terrible okcupid profile.
With 10k I'd hike the Pacific crest trail. The records just got set at 53 days. I'd probably shoot for 60 ish.
Here's my face http://imgur.com/wG7XZgW
What is the etiquette on messaging a person more than once if they didn't respond to my first message?
DON'T! Only in very rare circumstances should you ever message someone a second time. The second message, regardless of the content, can make you seem desperate and clingy.
Should I bother sending a message to a red dot (replies selectively)?
Absolutely! Never NOT send a message. There's no such thing as "out of my league" or "I'm not attractive enough." Everyone's view on attraction varies, and something great about you may completely overshadow what you dislike about yourself.
HOW DO I LINK MY PROFILE ON THIS SUBREDDIT? (I recommend reading up as much as you can before submitting)
Look for the button on the right hand side of the page that says, "Submit a Link." Enter your title (preferably with some basic information like age and gender, and if there is anything specific you'd like critically judged). Then, in the link/URL box, type in or copy/paste:
http ://okcupid.com/profile/ YOURNAMEHERE (delete the spaces).
Do NOT go to your profile and simply copy the URL. Make sure it has your name in it and not just http://okcupid.com/profile because you can see that it takes everyone to their own page if they have one.
Plays to my strengths, and it functions as a good hook.
I don't have a snazzy OkCupid staff medallion to show you, no. But you'll see in my replies on here that I know a lot about the site.
- edit: you can see my staff profile on the site here: http://okcupid.com/profile/alice
How to Find Local Groups and Partners.
There are local BDSM events such as munches and play parties, which are good for meeting people.
FetLife is a good place to find out about the above local events, along with local people and groups.
A kink-friendly dating site like OKCupid also works.
There's also /r/BDSMpersonals.
Hey! Captain Planet has a blog, check it out!
http://gocaptainplanet.com/
She also has an OkCupid profile "GoCaptainPlanet", which is how she found me :p
Okcupid does not work. I don't know why. Nobody can tell me why.
Seriously. Does it work for you? I'm currently at 43 messages sent since Feb 1 and 0 received. Zero. Not a single one.
Plus, for added insult: I paid for A-List (because I hate ads), and it lets you see read receipts. My messages did not get lost in a flood. Almost every one of them (37) got read.
I had much more reply success when I got really high and made an account pretending to be a robot. But of course, nobody expects a troll account to hit on them, so this isn't really relevant
- Hello, I'm, and I'm a.
- Snap & Instagram: for; and OKC
- 10k would go straight into my wardrobe. Ah the perils of being fancy and broke.
- [StillInBedFace]( ) - Can you tell she wants breakfast?
I am not stupid enough to break the first rule of fight club with a bumper sticker. Nor am I stupid enough to join any manospherian "movement" in any public non-anonymous way.
You're crazy, OP.
Just be honest about what you want, and the appropriate people will come to you. Women will want to know that you're not trying to hide something, as you would want the same from any woman you met. As long as you're forthcoming about what you're looking for, it's all about patience. Just be safe, don't be creepy, and don't over-think things.
I've had a one-nighter on those principles, and I had a FwB who is now my GF.
Suggestions:
I'm a straight lady, but I've had great success on OkCupid. There's a link to enable the new gender/sexual orientation options - I found it on Reddit recently, but I can't find it anymore. It was something to the effect of: http://okcupid.com/profile/YOURPROFILENAMEHERE?identity_options=true (EDIT: TRY THIS!! Thanks, /u/Dear-Ambellina)
Maybe someone else can post it, or you can have better luck than me searching and trying to find it.
Sometimes you just gotta look at yourself in the mirror and say "When in Rome."
There are tons of ways.
Don't move out by yourself, even if you can afford it. Get roommates, people who won't let you get all smelly and pathetic. People who you get along with, you meet their friends, they meet yours, etc.
Get some interests. Seriously, no more meetings or service, so start hiking, competing in video game tournaments, making money, something. You need to find your thing. Hell, you could even get in to going to sex clubs like I did for a couple years. Lots of nice people there!
http://meetup.com http://okcupid.com
I also recommend Tinder and http://fetlife.com
You need to build up a new circle of friends and do your best not to let your life slow down waiting for other people to come around. Some of them will, most of them won't barring some kind of earth shattering event like the governing body outright telling people it is all a sham.
So get out there, get going. You've got a lot of livin' to make up for and so little time.
I use OkCupid, which even comes with its own reddit community. I've met a lot of friends through it, including some which had benefits.
It's free, and the matching algorithm rocks.
Context:
Having just moved back to the area, apparently I showed up as a new profile to women, because I've gotten a ton of activity and a lot of women actually messaging me. I'm currently juggling four or five extended conversations, and being fed up with having too much on my plate for once, I tried this impulsive move yesterday.
You would think women would instantly shrug away from this, since it's basically the extended version of "hey baby sup" that seems so popular, but my guess is the little extra effort and sincerity changes their opinion from disgust to intrigued.
The second blacked-out bar is her name. And because it's probably inevitable, no, she isn't ugly at all. Her reply dot was "very selective" and I consider her an 8/10. My profile.
How do I get /u/chillraptor to critique my profile?
Edit: my lawyer advised me to place my profile link here, just in case chillraptor decides to generously take me up on my request.
I posted a thread a little while back that sort of touched on this. For me, my main obstacle that I'm working on is physical. At this point, I'd peg my effort at a 75%, mostly because my focus is partially divided by searching for a new contract right now. Basically, I've been working on weight loss for nearly two years (with a good 8 month lull, up until recently), and while I've clicked back into it, I could probably ramp it up a little more when other areas are a bit more settled.
Even so, based on the feedback I got in that original thread, I reactivated my profile to sort of casually/passively participate as I go through the process. The general consensus seemed to be to work on yourself, but don't remove yourself entirely as you do. Not bad advice, really - I just need to remind myself to stick to the casual part ;)
Edit: I suppose I should clarify, I'm mostly doing it for myself (and for pretty clothes), but I acknowledge the effect it will likely have on the dating situation.
Fellow softie checking in. The struggle to find a date is real :(
On that subject, not sure if this is a good place, but I feel more comfortable here that /r/OkCupid . If anyone could help with a critique of/suggestions for my OkCupid Profile, I'd really appreciate it. Not sure if it's my looks or what I've written. I just can't seem to find a match. :(
> http://okcupid.com/profile/dadjokesforever
The good: you have good taste in TV, good opening thing about being a bunch of cats in a human costume
The bad: came expecting infinite dad jokes, only found one dad joke
The ugly: got a strong feeling you're not actually a bunch of cats in a human costume
>* Appearance
6.5/10
>* Personality
7.5/10
>* Romance
6.5/10
>* Conversation
8.5/10
>* Banging skills
6.9/10
Haven't posted my profile in awhile, but you've all already seen it.
>Age
Aaaallmost 23.
> Where do you live?
In the middle of a desert surrounded by Mormons and mobsters.
>What do you do?
I beg people for money so I can keep my job and spam their mailboxes when they don't give in.
>Relationship status?
Alcoholic.
>What are your holiday plans?
Getting drunk for free at a casino surrounded by other wholesome losers.
> Post your profile (for us to decide how much we want to creep)
Thanks for all of the replies. Some of them were kind of brutal but a huge reality check. Anyway, my profile is sort of on hiatus (as of yesterday) so I don't have any pictures. I've tried a lot of different summary's, but for some reason get more messages when I'm vague (like the current). Enter: Dumbed Down Profile
It was impossible to out-shitty my old usernames on here and OkC. I'm pretty okay with my current choices for usernames, but I'm open to more dastardly suggestions.
> If that was your actual old username, I think you might have messaged me, haha.
Well, there were a few variations of smooth operators floating around. Of course, any time I found out about them through lady friends on the site, I messaged them and personally challenged them do a duel. Not one reply. Long story short, I'm technically undefeated. If I look familiar, then I guess it was me, after all.
Well, hey, then keep it. I know that keeping mine didn't do me a lick of good is all. Another thing you can do is reset your questions. That puts you on the activity feed quite a bit as you make your way through re-answering. Plus, you may find your opinions may have changed.
Hello,
I was in love with a girl from 17-24. I would have dumped any girl i was with at any moment to be with her between those ages. There was initial chemistry, but at 18 she was not ready to settle down, though I was. She wanted to play the field, be fuck different people. When the time was right, I confessed my feelings for her, how I really felt. She said no. I moved on, after all that time I moved the fuck on.
OP, do not wait a million years to confess your feelings. Confess them soon, if she says no, go to http://okcupid.com and meet someone in your area with your same interests and move on. Don't let this fester, 27 is still damn young.
If she says yes, figure out a way to make it work. If you're in love, you'll make it work. I built up a 100k in savings over 3 years to impress the girl I was in love with, if I can do that, surely you can find a job you can live with near her.
Don't ask what happened to my money. http://harkerresearch.typepad.com/.a/6a00d8351451c553ef014e892890aa970d-pi
It totally depends. If I am online for an hour a day, I will get around 15-20 messages. If I do not log on all day, I will get around 2-5. I guess people are searching by who's online.
When I first made the account, I received 50-100 messages a day. That combined with replies -- I filled up my max messages every two days. It was insane. I almost deleted my account because I couldn't handle it.
This is in Austin, TX. Back when I lived in SLC, UT, I received half that many messages probably.
EDIT Apparently I'm a liar. I just logged on for the first time since I woke up. My last login was about 8 hours ago. I've since received 16 messages.
> http://okcupid.com/profile/wombatmalarkey
The good: beard seems well organised
The bad: you keep talking about jokes and your sense of humour but you're not telling any jokes and your profile isn't funny anywhere
The ugly: The capitalisation and punctuation are killing me bro
I mostly lurk, so why not:
Who: aging Canadian whisk(e)y enthusiast
What I Do (professionally): Communications strategy
Where: lower left coast of Canada
When I Showed Up: April, I think?
Why You Should Like Me: I usually have whiskey in my purse. Really. Also, an owl gif for every occasion.
Profile Link - for that brief but sweet flare of hope when I see new visitors
Thanks! The old username in my flair would've redirected to my current one (Changed my username with A-List). If you still type in http://okcupid.com/profile/ottocorrect it'll redirect to my new name. So, while I did, technically, stealth flair-change, it made no difference.
I've been on and off okc since 2009. I'm at an interesting place in my poly life that I'm newly married, and have my needs meet to the point where dating isn't at the forefront of my priorities.
Teasing the previously street cred wielding snookums of a wife is highly entertaining, though.
My profile. Btw, if anybody wants to watch me strip this weekend in Philly in a drag and burlesque show, message me!
I've gotten a bunch of random (but welcome) FB adds from people on this sub, so I guess I can't be that bad.
Although, I'm sure I'll catch criticism for my profile pic. <em>As usual.</em>
Here is a non-mobile link: http://okcupid.com/profile/wonderfulmystery?cf=regular
^Sourcecode ^| ^Feedback?
I'm sitting in a very hipster cafe in the East Village. Please, show me the way out of this cloud of smug with your jokes. Laughing is something they don't much here.
Also I'm just gonna mention that I'm a snowboarder (just to annoy Brenna). How are you not already floored? :)
You sound very familiar. Back when I was an OkNewbie, about mid-to-late-2011, I was messaging with a girl that I figured out was a catfish. This was back when awards on profiles were a thing and I'd also been talking shop with a guy that gave her a "Good friend" award or something, since we had a rare interest in common. The same person was behind both of these profiles and once I called out the ring of fakes, the creator deleted them, ended up contacting me from a third, picture-less account named OkCreeper, and we ended up having a conversation for a couple of hours on the IM. They claimed to actually be a confused bisexual, possibly a STEM grad student(?), in California that was bored, but a good writer. Was that you? For context, this is me, if you'd remember. Albeit, it's a newer username/profile.
PLEASE: http://okcupid.com/profile/ImOnATacoBoat
I just got back from a first date where getting her to speak words was harder than finding an r/okc cj post that doesn't make me want to drink paint thinner. I upgraded from drinks to dinner because I was fucking starving after work, so it was just 45 minutes of pure unadulterated awkwardness. And then she had the nerve to text me that she "had a great time and we should do it again sometime!" WHY CANT I JUST BE GAY I KNOW PLENTY OF CONVERSATIONAL GAY GUYS
I'm Dutch. If you live in or close to a 'big' city (and it's hard not to be, with a small country like ours) online dating through OKCupid could work well for you.
There are also active Meetup groups in several cities, they tend to attract a lot of expats and expat-friendly people.
On average, I'd say Dutch people are pretty good at English.
Ask and you shall receive.
You have no idea the number of dates I've been on where a girl has asked me questions about me from information directly on my profile. From Karen O-esque art students, to Penn Grad students who analyze Joyce all day, it seems the only thing in conclusion I draw is that no one reads your profile in full.
This is why it's important to be interesting from the get go make your shots count.
I met my current girlfriend through OkCupid and we've been together for about a year now. I used that site for awhile and found that on the free sites as a male you have to put considerably more effort into the process than the girls do. They pretty much put up pictures and fill out their profiles and wait for us to bite.
An easy way to find redditors to date is through okcupid. If you mention reddit on your profile, anyone can search for redditors on okcupid. R4R is basically like a small - international craigslist that is pretty hard to filter and I much prefer using Okcupid to do the work. Instead of writing up a large wall of text here, I can make a profile and update it every once in a while.
Okcupid has these topics of interest on profiles for people to fill out which might help people making posts in r4r:
- self summary
- what I'm doing with my life
- I'm really good at
- the first thing people notice about me
- favorite books, movies, tv shows, music, food
- the six things I could never do without
- I spend a lot of time thinking about
- on a typical friday I am
- the most private thing I am willing to admit
- I'm looking for
- You should message me if
ps. okcupid also has it's own chat system, voluntary match-making quiz questions, and it's so much easier than using r4r. Please, ladies - if you want to find a redditor then put reddit as an interest or something in your okcupid profile so people can find redditors! Men, do the same!
I have a few questions and a suggestion :)
1) Do you have any problems speaking or expressing your thoughts verbally? I know a guy with Aspergers who does, just curious if it's part of the syndrome. 2) Are you more athletic or nerdy? 3) When it comes to your "obsessions," do you find that thinking about them flows more naturally than when you think about other things?
Suggestion: http://okcupid.com - I've met two of my best friends on here (both of which I dated for a while) and the people (girls and guys alike) tend to be much nicer than other places. Don't be afraid to try online dating; there are non-homicidal people doing it now =p
I was looking at it, and DoubleTake seems to have increased options, like choosing "Question Pros", which seems like a solid idea for avoiding 85%+ matches with people who've answered 10 questions.
But for the life of me, I can't find the browse button anymore, to hopefully see all the people in an area, sorted by match percentage. Seems like "top matches" is as close as it gets.
But, yeah, agreed that it's not as good as it was. I'm still sad that it seems to be aimed at the exact same things as all the other dating sites, rather than the scientific approach that set it apart from other sites.
>messages aren't showing but I'm getting an email saying that so and so sent a message.
Is this the sort of thing where the match is kinda buried, but if you go to okcupid.com/intros, it shows up fairly easily? But that link is severely buried, from what I can tell.
How to Find Local Groups and Partners.
Local events such as munches and play parties are good for meeting people.
FetLife is a good place to find out about the above local events, along with local people and groups.
A kink-friendly dating site like OKCupid also works.
There's also /r/BDSMpersonals.
Closest book to me right now is Beachbum Berry's Potions of the Caribbean. Here's me reading an excerpt.
I'm actually a bit self-conscious about my voice, as I think the nature of my hearing impairment makes me a bit...nasal-y? Meh. More than one date has mentioned they expected my voice to be considerably higher and more "girly". In any case, I'd love to hear my self summary read by others!
- I have never had a one night stand - women either want nothing to do with me or they try to lock me down
>False - I have had 4. In order they were: pretty fun, incredibly weird, fucking awesome, disappointing
- I wrote a fictitious song about catching feels for someone on Tinder, and then it came true about a month later
>True. The song is called The Way We Spend Our Nights and I wrote it shortly before meeting someone I caught feelings for.
- I got to see my ex's nipple piercings before her boyfriend did
>True. They had been done so recently that I wasn't allowed to touch them, which was... difficult. They are still fantastic though.
Example :
My english profile for games : http://okcupid.com/profile/haveyouseenagoat
What do I like to see in others profiles :
Spontanity and flow of consciouness profiles.
Nerdy references subtle or not.
Sprinkle of self depreciating humor
First, figure out what you want to program and how to do it regardless of the language you're using. One good start would be to figure OKCupid's query string format (which is not that obvious from what I can see). If you can do taht to some extent, then build a proper search string using your own parameters (something like "http://okcupid.com/search?age=20") then you can parse out the response using an HTML or XML Parsing library to get the names.
Hope this helps.
Added a post-Halloween pic to my profile (I'm on the left), with the caption:
> I found Jesus on Halloween (2015). The lord was easily startled.
Profile for context.
I have an upcoming interview here in 2 hours, and I'm more nervous about it than I should. Probably because I've been eyeing this position for 3 months, and my current supervisor is interviewing me for it (even though I won't be working with him while in this position... shit is weird).
Here is a non-mobile link: http://okcupid.com/profile/BryanA_A/
^Sourcecode ^| ^Feedback?
So once I got really high and thought that making a joke OKC profile would be hilarious. However I fucked up the registration and accidentally marked myself as F4M when I signed up.
I'm filling out the profile. I've uploaded a single picture (Mr Bott's current display pic) and have a completely blank profile. Before I wrote a single word into my profile i had already received two messages. Both were one-word: "Sup?" "Hi".
I have to imagine there's something going on if a dude responds to a profile of a "girl" named Robert. Do people script OKC with IFTTT or something?
http://okcupid.com/profile/paddlesinwny
I'm trying to find a "life partner" and I'm trying to present myself as fun, intelligent, and exciting. I can't figure out how to convey that I really want someone to just once in a while come over and let me cook a meal (if anyone here lives near Buffalo, the offer is open to you) and talk about our respective days and plan frequent backcountry adventures and plot our hasty retirement to the Pacific Northwest.
I'm not having the luck I thought I was. I got a few dates over the last few months, and set a new record (five dates before fade), but still nothing comes close to matching the instant chemistry and comfort that I had before my last big heartbreak.
This post has been removed because this is not a seeking subreddit. However you may want to check out /r/polyamoryR4R which is a new subreddit but growing. You may also want to check out http://meetup.com to find local poly groups or http://okcupid.com to find poly people looking to date.
I don't know if I'd trust daring you people to write something to help my profile. So, let's get the truth out, unless you'll leave my micropeen out of the dare content, obvi.
I'd give you a hug but you probably don't want a manly one right now. Check out these-links and follow their instructions.
You know what's better than finding that special someone who completes you? Understanding that you're complete within yourself, and sharing that with someone special (not in a pompous, i'm-so-perfect way, of course). Get your shit right man, you'll be fine. But be patient.
1) I did 1,000 pushups in one day.
2) All I ate today was a whole roasted chicken dipped in hot sauce.
3) I haven't used an ice scraper all winter.
You failed to link your profile. Edit your original post and copy-paste the whole block of text below into it, then substitute the capitalized portions with your relevant info. If you can't figure out how to edit, just do the same in a comment reply.
(http://okcupid.com/profile/sarah_bear16) 18, living in Ottawa, I'm a baby gay looking for friends and potential girlfriends in the area/in Ontario/in Québec. I have no idea what I'm doing, and I've seen some really cute girls on OKC but I have no idea how to start a conversation with them and I'm also really nervous (same goes for tinder. I matched with some total babes but I'm nervous about messaging them)
Mine's SmoothOperatorrr. I mean, isn't it obvious why?
Really, though...it was my nickname growing up because I'd often play my parents against each other to get what I want, so they dedicated the song to me.
1) 20/f/NYC
I've been lurking for a few months but I rarely comment. Just last year I'd never gone on a date or kissed anyone, now I'm trying to navigate the scary and confusing scene of lesbian dating and casual sex. girls are scary ;__;
2) I do nothing. I both love it and hate it. I'm taking the fall semester off to be a bum. I'm in college for art
3) http://okcupid.com/profile/OutIGo
(straight people can't see me)
I've had many run-ins with catfish but don't get legitimately emotionally involved until absolutely verifying their identity. One time in particular, I was catfished by two profiles working in tandem. After outing them, one person claimed responsibility for both profiles. Not feeling inclined to believe someone/people already living a lie, and the fact that you claim you do this with your boyfriend, do I look familiar to you?
It's a shame that many of my best conversations on OkCupid were had with catfish. It's gotten to the point where I sometimes purposely message obviously fake profiles because they often turn out to be interesting people to talk to.
I get no messages. The last few I got were "It's a match!", stuff about Walter Bishop and one correction to a spelling error.
So, what WOULD your topic be?
- Flair + Austin
- I haven't been lurking at all, been on since the beginning of the year.
- Power hour with friends.
- That all seems like English, but...
- Must be Friday
~~I'm on mobile, so I can't be arsed to get my main's URL.~~
Edit: I stopped being lazy and linked to my main pic.
http://okcupid.com/z/d8hb Arkansas, Alabama, Kentucky, Arizona, and Florida. My worst two were the state I live in (WA), and the only other state I'm interested in living in (Oregon).
What the heck is up with the Arkansas and Kentucky? :x
31/Male.
I live near Tampa and attend the University of South Florida (PhD candidate in Computer Science).
And I'm probably just going to stay local; I'll definitely visit my mom in Georgia, and probably hit Disney (my dad works there).
Well this is my profile and yeah we are biologically related however even a guy I was in bed with the same damn day he messaged her profile responded the way ALL guys respond to seeing her: "NO, that's your sister????!!!"
I think their mind is thinking, "fuck how did I happen to be so unlucky to get with the ugly one of the two of them?" But it comes from growing up having men talk to me only to finally drop their agenda so can you put in a word about me with your sister?
1) I'm looking for the love of my life, whom I imagine will be short, thin, the fun kind of crazy, and kinky. I have roughly 0 expectation of ever finding her though, so I'd settle for falling in love at all.
2) That I want a relationship and prefer short thin women who take it up the butt. No, seriously.
3) Male
4) 29
5) Straight, but I think trying to categorize sexuality is kind of a waste of time
Hopefully that works. It's Miles_ofHope
Yesterday I was thinking I should change it to be the real me which is witty and a little mean with the sarcasm and just making jokes a lot instead of how it stands now.
I've been told mines is short and sweet with a hint of confidence and wittiness.
Some stats: About 50 hits and 4 to 5 unsolicited messages a week in case anyone was wondering.
My profile has never been what I would call "Amazing". It has been various states of funny and ridiculous though. I think in my next revision I'm going to go for Too Much Honesty and see how that works. My guess is about as well as all the others considering I still look the same.
In fact... yeah, just updated. Fucks given: 0.
OkCupid! Message some girls, be realistic. I know a lot of people who just hook up OR there's always a relationship. You don't have to pay... but I hope you get more out of it. Ive been with the guy I met on here for almost two years.
Seriously, if you want some help with your profile or just how to talk to girls, I am studying to be a couples therapist. I consider myself fairly knowledgeable about how to get a girl considering I am a female. I know it is tough being a guy.
I had my first unsolicited message (in a long time) a few days ago. She wasn't bad looking and seemed interested but her profile said she was only interested in a casual thing. I really want more than that, but it was different getting the first message for once.
My OKCupid journey has been fraught with the typical stuff: lots of messages sent, few returned, hardly any received unsolicited. Several dates, most of them going nowhere, but none with women who had misrepresented themselves or were extremely crazy. Currently dating a girl who's really cool.
Nothing special really. What I've learned though is that almost nothing is a big a deal as I used to make it. There was a time when I was too paranoid to even put my picture online, let alone associate my visage with a bunch of sexual questions on a public profile. Hell, I even posted to /r/gonewild a few times (under an alternate account and not showing my face).
I used to downplay all the nerdy and 'abnormal' qualities of my personality but now I let them show in all their glory and interested girls are more genuinely interested and I don't feel like I have to act on a date. People will tell you all kinds of rules to follow when making a profile, what not to say, that sort of thing; Similarly for dates. But I've learned that, for the most part, none of that really matters.
I've learned to just take the world as it is, I guess.
http://okcupid.com/profile/bring_rad_back
2) This would be my first review
3) I'd like to find someone stable for a short/long term relationship but I'm pretty new to this so I'm still trying to figure out what I want.
Even as a Dane, my dating profile is written to explain my critical thinking, and scepticism.
Which really makes me undateable by 95% people in my region.
Since they find me too hostile and angry. :P
My English version so you may jugde.
I'm pretty arrogant so I could probably stand the criticism. Either way mine is getting there, I've posted a few times and I really didn't want to make a third post, but it still needs some work. I'm working on getting new photos, but I don't really want to take mirror photos because that seems tacky, correct me if I'm wrong.
Oh yeah, sorry, I'm ~a-list so I forgot to make myself show up in your visitors! I'm actually in FL. I think it's definitely worth reading over/editing, since your profile serves as your first impression on the girls you'll be messaging/receiving messages from. Also, forgot to mention, the link in the title doesn't work; you have to put http://okcupid.com/profile/Harmonic_Bliss.
My hooks? As in the things I mention in my profile that people talk about in their initial messages to me?
1) I start out with an anecdote, and ask if you'd like to hear another similar story.
2) I also drop a line about being kicked out of the house. I thought people would message me asking about that but I think it just scares people off instead.
3) I talk about climbing a lot. I definitely have attracted a lot of rock climbers.
4) I mention a number of fun activities, like collecting dandelions or dancing like crazy. These are hints for good first dates.
5) I mention that I'm looking for somebody to watch Dexter with.
I do a number of other things. I feel like my entire profile is hooks.
I have sent out so many messages it's unbelievable. I have gotten two non-responses. One was just a straight up no-response, which I don't quite understand because I thought he seemed most compatible of pretty much everybody. The other was a no-response who hasn't been online in a very, very long time.
So...I guess my reply rate would be like 98%.
I have met with somebody from okc almost every day that I've been in town, be it a first meeting or a second or further date.
Having flattering photos and writing engaging messages aren't mutually exclusive. Both help substantially. If you are concerned about your pictures MyBestFace can be a big help.