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I disagree, the science and the numbers strongly support looking into the camera.
Anyone can quickly prove this hypothesis wrong by taking two photos and testing them against each over using https://www.photofeeler.com/
There ARE the situations where taking "candid" shots works well, like trying to pose for action and lifestyle shots but if you open with a profile shot where you're not looking into the camera, you've already earnt a left swipe by a large majority of people.
What are your photos saying about you?
Stop guessing, start testing. Choose your business, social, and dating photos using the world's #1 photo testing tool.
This is not as sleazy as "Hot or Not", but a kind of rating system where you can test various pics for how much attention they rate. You gotta take any rating or system with a grain of salt, because YMMV depending on what city you are in.
> On Bumble, women make the first move.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bumble.app&hl=en&gl=US
> but on Bumble, women always make the first move.
As I said, you're not engaged.
If you're not interested in sex in the beginning then it makes a huge difference to communicate that at the very beginning. Like literally just out and say it. If at that point, your date is turned off because they wanted to have sex right away, you dodged a bullet because clearly you never wanted to be with someone like that in the first place.
Remember that you're both adults who want a relationship, not two teenagers who are dropping hints and "trying to read the signs". You need to be really clear with what you want. It was what made all the difference to me when I was dating.
Actually, I was like you once too. When I was 25, I dated a guy that I crushed on in college. I spent more of it doing the thing where I dropped hints rather than just tell him what I wanted, and it really didn't work out. It confused him to no end. Now as a 30-something year old, I wrote a blog post about it. I'll share it with you here. I hope it can help you a bit.
It's really weird that Bumble hides an existing chat just because the user changed location.
Anyway, if you're using Android, you can try a fake GPS and relocate to SF to see if it shows the chat again. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.lexa.fakegps
Your bio is good, your prompts are decent but they don't exactly scream relationship material. I treat text as sneaky "relationship" material sales pitches, which works just like the age old "features vs benefits" in sales. It doesn't matter that the car has a V12 engine, it matters that driving feels like a dragon roaring and makes you the envy of your friends.
Your photos in my opinion are just super ordinary. Almost everyone is in the same boat of having ordinary/crappy/no photos (due to covid), so success really depends on getting out there and taking new ones.
If you throw your photos into https://www.photofeeler.com/ and get some ratings, I suspect the results will come back average <6 points. To do ok on OLD means photos with ratings of 7+, to WELL on OLD means having photos in the 8-10 range that capture you doing activities.
Your shots all make you look unhealthy and are extremely unflattering. Without good photos you'll never be successful in online dating sorry. Even the best prompts won't save your profile from bad photos.
Suggest you use https://www.photofeeler.com/ to upload shorts you're considering for your profile and having them rated, if they aren't 7+ (in everything) then they shouldn't be in your profile.
I use the app called "Fake GPS" for Android. It is this one: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.lexa.fakegps. I was using it to go into a city where I was travelling a few days in advance to meet people.
Ahh...well...you are young, so some of my advice/things really don't apply to you. lol Might able be why your pool is much smaller since you have a pretty limited age range I imagine.
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But, what does apply is just trying to get out there and learning conversation skills period. Talking to the opposite gender should feel the same as talking to the same gender - because we are all just people. The topics of conversation will be different eventually, but when you are getting to know someone, you would likely ask pretty similar questions. So join some mixed-gender groups based on some of your interests on meetup.com, talk to co-workers/schoolmates of all genders, even women you may not be interested in romantically, because learning how to be a good conversationalist is well worth the effort. And for some people, it is a natural skill, for some people, it is something you have to work on and acquire. You can also check out toast masters type programs, or try things like improv - public speaking is a little different, but a lot of the skills carry over.
This is the first really really positive comment I've gotten. That's appreciated. I took some advice and changed some stuff around which you could see here https://tinder.com/@devonmichael and you can feel free to tell me thoughts! I appreciate that once again!
My area isn't hugely populated, I'm in North East Wisconsin, so there just isn't a lot of people here compared with larger cities. With that said, I've been on the dating apps (all of them) for 9 months, almost 10 and my experience has the same as yours in terms of Bumble. Of all the dating apps I've used in the last months, Bumble has been the absolute least useful, I haven't had any dates, only 2 matches, both ghosted me or didn't talk at all.
My suggestion is, try Hinge, Okcupid, and Tinder.
Tinder - I get the most matches on Tinder, my profile is upfront about who I am and my goal of finding a relationship, I just swipe on women who sound interesting or I have something in common with and I get matches at 1000x the rate of Bumble, and sometimes they even talk to me!
Hinge - I have more conversations on Hinge, and a few video chats, but it's pretty slow in terms of matches.
Okcupid - I get the most unsolicited likes on Okcupid, but admittedly generally they haven't been likes I was interested in pursuing. I don't know
Oh yeah I'm match.com, it's worst then useless, sure you can search for women instead of the stupid swiping type design, but I never get any responses to any of my likes + messages. The user who said that online dating is awful for everyone is correct. For guys it's hard to get anyone to talk to you, and even harder to move it to a date. For women, the issue is too much attention, hundreds of low effort "Wanna bang?" messages, it must get absolutely exhausting.
Keep your head up, as it was suggested see if you can tweak your profile with some suggestions from other redditors, and branch out to some other apps to see if you have a different experience like I've had.
Actually i would make pic 5 your main, especially if you run it through
try to increase the saturation so you dont look pale. Ladies like the smirk and and the blue eyes. Vampire flesh i dunno. lol
29M. I'm getting 1 or 2 likes a day but unfortunately, I'm not reaching my 'preferred audience'. Any feedback is more than welcome.
https://www.loom.com/share/2c017bd5163545f8a2294a21fc146853
Thats what i'm kind of afraid of. I know my lack of wanting to pay may just come across as me not being dedicated enough, but i think i'm also a bit jaded. I've paid for other services (match.com, OKcupid) and nothing ever came of those, and the subscriptions are SO EXPENSIVE. Spending 40$ a month for a slight increase in match chance (doesnt even guarentee someone WILL like you) seems such a ripoff
Please number the photos so it's easier for us to list them in order of preference.
If you want to do some homework you can run them through https://www.photofeeler.com/ and get dozens of ratings to rank your best photos - from there it's just about the arrangement.
Great photo selection though.
In my opinion your photos and their arrangement currently aren't doing you any good. The hallmark of a good opening photo is something that's inviting and friendly, bonus points if it shows off a hobby/slice from your life. Your first photo is uncomfortably close and has you looking sad, a guarantied left swipe for some people.
Would also echo that your photo of you in pink shorts, outside, smiling and looking into your camera is a winning shot. Crop to your pecs and above and it'd be perfect profile photo.
Otherwise your photo selection is lacking, they look like they were taken all on the same day due to clothing. Honestly I don't like any of them as they're uncomfortable selfies with poor framing. Remember your photos are just as much about showing off your lifestyle and making people think "wow, I want to be part of this person's life!" I literally wouldn't use any of them as they're all kinda weak.
You can immediately get a better dog photo selfie, carry them, be outside during the sunset. Don't wear sunglasses, don't wear the same clothing.
Start working on a new selection of photos, a nice dressed up shot of you at a restaurant, one with friends and whatever else you can manage. Selfies are a killer in online dating apps.
You can use https://www.photofeeler.com/ to get people to rank/rate your photos, to work out your winning shots.
Don't listen to the haters on here. Your profile looks great, and I'm sure you get a lot of men swiping on you. I would be willing to guess that your single status has a lot more to do with who YOU are choosing to match with, and from those matches who you are choosing to go on a date with, and then who you are choosing to get a second date.
It's a big can of worms and a lot to think through, and perhaps it might enjoy this book.
I found a lot of great advice in this book, and am in a really happy relationship with my current partner who I met on Bumble a year or so back.
Can someone help me with my profile? I’m getting 1 like a day tops. What am I doing wrong??
My images used are the same as with tinder so I’ve linked that here - ignore the second pic
It's a phrase commonly used in the psychological realm. It means you're working on yourself. It's been popularized by Dr. Nicole LaPera
If you're using an android phone, there are apps that change your location. I use "Fake GPS."
On a computer, try a browser extension. I use "Location Guard" with the Brave browser.
I saw some at Walgreens (spermicidal gel). Also call your local pharmacy too, or your local sexual health clinic and they can let you know where it might be available.
The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01J16LJQ2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_D24Z3F9G290XDVYMYKVJ
He has several other books that are all pretty good.
So think about how you present yourself in photos. Are they taken with at least a newer phone, preferably even a nice camera? Are you dressed well in photos and looking your best? Is the lighting good? Are you smiling? If you like cooking a lot you should have a nice shot of you actually doing that, likewise with the gardening. Photo quality is so huge and so often dudes are just unwilling to put the time and effort into presenting themselves well. In my opinion it’s well worth it to go a bit outside your comfort zone and have a good friend take some planned, well posed shots so you have a better looking profile.
I’m 32, about to be 33. I have a pretty wide set of interests but I’ve met an absolute ton of incredibly interesting, smart, and impressive women. I probably get like…I don’t know 50ish matches a week at this point with pretty minimal input, out of those maybe one or two a week will actually be super interesting conversations. I stay pretty busy so I don’t really have a ton of time to go out on dates but I still manage to meet more interesting people than I really have time to talk to. The medium itself can be a little overwhelming, and I don’t love it for a lot of reasons, but it is amazing to have access to so many women I’d otherwise never get a chance to talk to. If I put more effort in I’m sure I could turn much better numbers and increase the odds of meeting someone I could actually date but at the moment I just prefer dedicating my time to myself.
The motor is now 5 (watts or horsepower or whatnot) vs 10 on the newer version so yeah thats 50% in my book
It’s just white American Greek (as in, frats and sororities) culture - life after college is just an extension of the latter; spend your weekends and vacations having fun in the sun and renting boats. Men trade opportunities for fun and possible long-term commitment for sex from the women who attend, and the game is open to any moderately attractive well-tanned white girl. Of course they don’t think every guy has a boat; they’re just aiming for the parasocio-economic-racial group that does - the all-American frat bros post-college.
American Hookup: The New Culture of Sex on Campus https://www.amazon.com/dp/039328509X/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_AZ59NSK0V9WQR1V80VEP
> I watch videos on pornhub to watch the plumber fix the sink
Wait that's not where you put the Ballcock Shank Nut
Match.com and a few others have a section: live alone, with roommates, with parents, with kids, with kids some of the time. Almost everyone fills this in. I would expect to get questions if not filled in.
If someone had previously used match and found this info useful, they might ask on apps like bumble. Or they might ask if it was something that had been an issue to them or someone they knew.
You're young. Ladies your age are exercising, adventuring, studying, exploring and getting outside. Do the same. Meet them where they are. Don't mostly rely on OLD simply because it's easy. Join a local community group that's focused on activities you enjoy. Meetup.com, NextDoor.com, community events, REI activities (they publish a calendar of events), etc.
BTW, personal development courses, yoga, spinning, dance and cooking classes are FULL of women! :-)
Have fun!
Yes, just use the TP to dry. Way less use of toilet paper. It’s better for your wallet, environment, and your ass. This is the one I use: SmarterFresh Luxury Handheld Bidet Sprayer for Toilet - Stainless Steel Shattaf - Superior Pressure Control and Quality https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0108GMCWY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QKKVVJWXD4X9BFAVDZH5?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1. I recommend this kind over the one that attaches to the seat (which I’ve had before) as it is much easier to keep the toilet seat clean.
His profile needs work. His photos are too "try-hard" or "model-like" if that makes any sense. He needs CANDID pics of him doing something fun or even having a good laugh.
Also, his bio and prompts are full of typos/run-on sentences and just aren't fun. They remind me of something you'd see on Match.com or Eharmony.
Bumble does this too. I'm seeing all the people I swiped left on 2, maybe 3 times now. And many of the ladies I'm seeing, I'm suspecting are very straight. And I'm not on bumble friends. So yeah, either their algorithm is shit, I broke their system (:D) or it's all a scam. I feel all dating sites eventually become this way... And Match.com owns most of the dating sites out there.
Oh yeah, Okcupid was founded by the people who founded Sparknotes. It all used to be one site - the spark. They hosted what kind of X are you? type quizzes, and of their most popular was the dating quiz. They also let you sign up and make your own quizzes. They initially had a little experimental dating site called spark match, but they quickly moved onto okcupid around 2004. Initially, all of the questions were user submitted, and all those quizzes, both official and user generated were a big piece of the site. There were tons of other features that have since been removed too.
Honestly, if someone just found the old source code for okcupid and released it under a different name, it would blow every other dating site out of the water, and then, of course, it would be purchased by match.com and ground back down to nothing.
It's one thing to put up with Bumble's "algorithm" for free and another to be paying for it. You can't know who they're showing your profile to or which profiles you are seeing vs how many men in your range are actually out there. Match.com doesn't play this stupid game so you can see everyone that meets your criterion in one search. The problem with Match is that it probably doesn't work for your age range. You can search for free and easily see if that's true so it might be worth trying.
not wanting to add rando you haven't met isn't really weird...I've actually dated women for a while before we even traded social media
for the image search: images.google.com on a computer (or phone set to "show desktop version" or whatever it's called), click the little camera icon and it will let you link a picture or upload one
Wow! That's crazy shit right there. I use Google Voice for conversations and send my best friend and mom a Glympse link extended to 2-4 hrs when I go out with a new guy (first 2-3 dates).
I like picture 3 and 7 with your friends, definitely use those but maybe blur out your friends. I used pixlr (https://pixlr.com/x/) and it was free to use.
I think the other ones you can keep are the picture with Brown and the crocodile.
That makes 4.. I think the other one you can bring back is the picture of you by the lake from last time.
That leaves you with the main profile picture that you want to have first. The portrait pictures from last time were nice but if you can try for a different portrait picture where you are smiling too, that would be great.
If you have windows 10 open the picture. It should have a decent picture editor. From there try to adjust it so the color of the wall doesnt match the color of your face.
Or go to https://pixlr.com/
It's exactly like Photoshop. Add some saturation for the same purpose mentioned above.
No offense but why are you wearing like 5 shirts? lol
Because the first site I tried was match.com and you can see what the women have set as search filters. Probably 70% have it set to 6'0" or taller and 15-20% have it set to 5'10" or taller.
Hah i'm just grateful I meet both requirements :) But I do feel for the guys, especially under 5'10"
100% This. Before I found out that match.com was a scam and left, I was shocked at the number of women that "Have kids - but they live away from home".
But to be honest, good on them for admitting it. When you talk about how often you drink, have kids that are under 18 that never live with you, we can both save time because we'd never be a fit anyway.
I can't find all the specifics right now but this is a good start:
>3. If you right-swipe on everyone, you’ll be punished. Some people have been speculating that if you’re too swipe-happy on Bumble, they will flag your profile and push you right to the back of the queue, where you’ll have a hard time being seen by any new profiles, if any at all.
Another link saying that it punishes your profile but with less detail
You're allowed one selfie per profile, any more and people will think you're a loser. Also agree that any other photos than your current profile will do better, because the most critical thing is being able to see your unobscured face and a smile.
Learn to use the timer on your camera to take a portrait looking into the camera and smiling. Be outside, smile, look into the camera, be well groomed. You can use https://www.photofeeler.com/ to gauge your shots or read their guides for amazing profile photos.
Just going to outright say I hate your opening photo, selfie, boring, lens distortion, no smile, etc.
I test my photos personally by running them through https://www.photofeeler.com/ usually only takes half a day or a day to get a result, which is better and faster than ruining your actual profile by direct testing.
Loving your photos, I would actually throw them into https://www.photofeeler.com/my-tests and getting a social vote on which ones are your best.
Photo of: you in cafe, you on boat, you snowboarding are fantastic, those are keepers.
Profile itself is kinda meh, instead of listing things write a short story/sentence or pull an anecdote from your life experience. Better to list less and have something interesting to say about it than list a bunch and come across as shallow.
"I've love to enjoy a read wine and discuss how to fix climate change or talk about places to visit before time takes them away"
Look at your profile as opportunities to create engagement and you'll ideally get more people interacting with you.
Try uploading your pictures on https://www.photofeeler.com/my-tests, you'll know if it's good enough or not. As far as I can critique, your pictures lack eye contact and 1st 3 are almost the same in blue suit. Click some casual photos and no offense, cut your hair to look good. Shorten your bio too... Women usually don't read that big thing. On other hand, online dating is exhausting.
How do you measure success? I met someone on there a couple of weeks ago, we had a good time together, went for a walk and a coffee, conversation was flowing on both sides but ultimately nothing came of it. This Sunday I have another date lined up too, again it will probably involve a walk not much more than that. If you measure success by actually meeting up for a date then yes I would say there is a measure of success on that score. If you measure success by actually getting into relationship using that site, from a personal perspective the jury is still out.
If you want an honest appraisal of your pictures try here...https://www.photofeeler.com/
Wrong thread, but I'd stick your pictures in www.photofeeler.com - I'm a hetro 39M, so not your target audience, but I suspect your initial picture may be a bad choice.
(My first picture does feature an animal - but my own dog.)
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For me, when I'm in London I note the average 'quality' of women is much higher on Bumble. But I believe the same is also true of men - I note women commenting on it being pretty common for men to be pictured with their new expensive top end cars and 6 packs on display, etc.
I have neither of those, alas (and a garage full of random competition motorbikes is only of interest to a much smaller demographic!)
You could try using https://www.photofeeler.com to judge your photos.
I barely get any matches - I'm more selective than the average bloke and shaved head is an easy "deal breaker" for a lot of women online, where it may not be "in real life".
There’s a website called ‘Photo Feeler’ that lets you have other people ‘vote’ on how Attractive, Trustworthy, and Smart you appear in each of your profile photos: https://www.photofeeler.com
It’s free if you vote on other people’s’ photos or you can pay to get a bunch of votes more quickly.
I’m just starting up on bumble again and would love your suggestions. Here’s my tinder profile for reference. Let me know what works or doesn’t:)
https://tinder.com/@asishthomas7794
Lol my bio is a bit more serious than tinder😂
About me: I’m true and honest as dirt. And I’m guaranteed to be more charming than dirt.
Thank you!!!
I’m not a guy, but the best way to prevent ingrowns is to exfoliate with something like this in the shower. If you shower and exfoliate regularly, it should help you avoid the majority of ingrowns
while I'm not a dude so can't speak about balls and their ingrowns, I do get waxed or sugared every 4 weeks and use this for ingrowns: Tend Skin and these Buzz Off Pads (the buzz off pads can also work for mask-acne)
If you're using an Android device, you can change your location with an app. I use FakeGPS.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.lexa.fakegps&hl=en_US
There is a pro version too which is what I have. Cannot remember the differences but for the feature when you are using a headset I figured I would pay the £1 for it. Oh it was to get rid of the ads.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bhkapps.proshouter
> name one that has it
https://www.amazon.com/Who-Gets-What-Why-Matchmaking/dp/0544705289
if you even googled his name, it comes up. is google too hard for you?
> Also extra LOL at citing "the reddingtonpost" as a credible source.
um, did you actually read the article? they took the image right out of the worldbanc report. and linked to it. something doesn't become false just because it doesn't fit your biases.
> [all the rest of the shit you said]
again, you did not present even a single counterpoint. all you did is complain about what i said.