I'll say don't settle (too much, compromise is needed to a certain extent. She's not perfect, and neither am I). As an ENTJ, eventually some personality traits that I purposely overlooked in the beginning, eventually eat me and I'm always the one to end the relationship. I know I'm not good at compromise, so the less amount of compromise I'll need from the get go the better chance at a successful relationship. As for finding the one... I would concentrate on hobbies/projects/goals that are core to you. As an ENTJ you're relishing in accomplishing things, and if you find someone like-minded along the way for a relationship, that's just gravy. I use meetup.com as a good example. If I join a few hiking groups, I'm out there hiking with like minded people. If I get to know someone along the way that fits other hobbies/projects/goals of mine, saweet! GL.
I have a wide range of emotions, including empathy. I can often be self-involved and forget to consider others if I'm in a goal-oriented mindset. Emotions are fine, but I try to push certain ones away if they're ineffective or hinder decision making. Logical thinking takes some priority. Read "Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman. I will use my slow system a lot. It still requires emotions to be processed, but only as data and I won't show them outwardly much. And. I can hit my leg with an ax and laugh the way to the ER. Make me a little sentimental, and I'll tear up a bit...
Well, work, make things better. Optimize system.
give my best to make something useful to other people(in my case, through my software company(I'm entrepreneur), mostly) optimize systems (such as this one). I love this things.
ooh! you should put up a link to a doodle poll or when2meet!
I would do it, but lately I'm a bit busy and don't want to go AWOL while coordinating for others.
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Written by a man who survived a nazi concentration camp--enough said.
The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday. Inspired by the Ancient Greek stoics, teaches you how to ignore panic and doubt and power through.
The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss. If you're the entrepreneurial type.
>As an ENTJ
Quoted twice. Deterministic much? ENTJ does not define you. You're neither constricted nor empowered by 4 letters. This level of thinking is low-level. "As an Irishman I like to drink." Same way of thinking.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People gets mentioned often in NT threads it seems. I highly recommend checking that book out, you'll see exactly what I mean.
After some digging I think I may have found the chair or at least one that is similar. Here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/IWR1-IMPERATORWORKS-Gaming-Computer-Monitors/dp/B07BKT53K7
Also, OP I love your set up! I’m curious about how comfortable the chair actually is? And how close you are to total world domination? Lol
https://trello.com/ & Google Calendar.
Do not abuse the calendar. The unexpected also happens. Unless you are a student or a pilot of work a repetitive job, you cannot know exactly how long something will take or what problems may arise.
Trello is near damn perfect for piling up and sorting your todos.
Try the Pomodoro technique (and take it seriously) to increase your efficiency throughout the day.
Allow yourself some slack coefficient though. Things do not always go as planned.
Some more buzzwords at ya (look them up): "use systems, not goals".
If you have to fail, then "loose small, win big". This implies that on the day that you are feeling great and full of energy, try to do more than just the norm, and on the days when you feel like shit, try to get some things done anyway.
Be strategic about your fitness and diet and sleep. This is kind of self-evident. It takes long time to get in a great shape but also a somewhat long time to learn a lot of good info about diet & exercise. Maybe spend 1 hour per week on that sort of improvement? Try mini-experiments on yourself and see what kind of diet works best for you. There are many competing / overlapping schools of thought.
There is something to Keto; intermittent fasting is probably good, but this stuff looks like it is based on science: nutritionfacts.org
Swimming was fun. A hot shower is so fkn nice after I've been soaking wet and cold for half an hour or more.
Starting a fire and sittng around can be a lot of fun despite what Sam Harris might say. Best done with a single match -> birch bark -> dry pine twigs -> bigger branches and sticks.
I also think harvest is a special time of the year. I like a couple of holidays in a year.
And I am addicted to Youtube.
I also kind of like brushing my teeth, taking a dump, falling asleep, peeing 10 seconds before my bladder raptures, and this therapy: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00N24PK6A/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
With the caveat that it is absolutely best to work through these issues with a professional, I realize that's not always a feasible or comfortable option. This workbook is one of the tools I'm using with my therapist that might be helpful.
The book that has made the biggest impact on me is Mindset by Carol Dweck. Absolutely incredible, has changed how I see myself and the world. Teaches you the difference between growth mindset and fixed mindset. Even if you think you know all about that, you should still read that book. After reading it, I felt like I can do anything, because it changed me attitude towards learning and failure, and changed what I thought I could and couldn't do. Tangible example: before the book, I thought I was bad at math and science, and stayed away from it. After reading, I dove into math and developed a new found enthusiasm and passion for math and science (statistics, neuro and biochem, to name specifics). It changed my life. I'm pursuing career paths I never would have dreamed of beforehand. Could not recommend it more strongly.
Hitchhiker's guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams ---humorous and lovable
Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman -- I will never forget how this book made me feel
Wuthering heights -- read this when I was 8 I now own atleast 5 copies of it I just collect it cause I love it so much.
Anything by HP Lovecraft
Nietszche is cool and I love him
Emanuel Kant
The Prince by Macchiaveli
The Republic by Plato
The three musketeers by Alexander Dumas
Crime and punishment
I mostly read children's fiction so I do not have anything better I think
> I read a lot.
I totally agree about the books. What do you read?
I'm slowly working through The Shock Doctrine, Alan Turing The Enigma, The Selfish Gene and Ghost in the Wires - Should finish them all in a month or something.
One thing I'm trying to do atm is actually build a Radar. Some of the electronics are a little beyond me, but I'm going to keep hitting it until I put it all together. I have a feeling I'm better off building a Radio first, seems a lot easier and shares the same principles.
An ENTJ in his helmet is head-strong.
> I like people to show me respect, the same way I see men in my industry expect respect from their subordinates. I mean this is capitalism? This is competitive, if I won, I won right? Kiss the ring. Jk. But I’ve been wondering if maybe there’s something to be said about her approach - let’s call it the Nancy Pelosi.
This is dumb. You need the respect of the peers or your team will be inefficient. Your plane will go down. Your platoon will die. Why should I follow you? If I get paid less than you and do crappier work the last thing I need is for you to act like you have a ring that needs to be kissed. How about some positive reinforcement for a change?
At the beginning of my young career I worked for an even younger ENTJ. He got promoted because another manager quit. Someone was needed. I did not respect the new guy's skills. I did not see it as him winning. I saw it as working for an impostor.
We do not work together anymore and needless to say we do not keep in touch. I simply do not give a fuck about his level of "success". I checked his Twitter - he is such a clueless normie. I could not write something more banal and mainstream than that. If I am to tolerate you, you at least need to be competent. I don't have to like you but know your shit damn it!
Why should others be happy that you won? What's in it for them? A good leader needs to ... lead. You need to learn about leadership https://www.startpage.com/do/dsearch?query=jocko+leadership&cat=web&pl=opensearch&language=english
And about psychology. This woman seemingly has fine-tuned soft skills that you can learn a lot from.
Also not true. There is so much genetic variability of people even within the same race of people that it’s even hard for the genetic ancestry sites to get it right.
Do you know something they don’t?
https://www.23andme.com/ancestry-composition-guide/
I sometimes forget I’m on reddit, and then comments like these remind me.
It is a very important award in Japan, but for the first time overseas contestants can join. This award enables famous mangakas like Takeshi Obata is become famous. Here is the link to the contest if you are interested l: https://medibang.com/contest/jumptezuka100th/?locale=en
I use Workflowy.com.
Started about 6 years ago when I did a yearly to do list. Now I do monthly, weekly, and sometimes daily lists. It really just depends upon how productive I need to be. I'm very pragmatic, everything I do is typically solution to a problem, or that's how I think about it.
Things that might be one there are usually work related, but I will put personal thing on there if they need to: write this thing, send this notification to these people, extract this from that, and so on.
hate the existence of money? dude, money is just a tool, you exchange items by money because it's the most liquid asset and that's exchanges are everything, the bread, meat, fruits and so on. Without that we would just have harder time exchanging items. You would like to buy apples but what you got is some shoes, you need to go around with those shoes to find specifically someone that want to exchange apple by shoes. That's not scalable in a big society with lots of people. Now, having alot of money in a free market (in the way we didn't find pretty much anyhwere) is just result of meeting the market's supply and demand. Also, nothing wrong about that. You got X to sell and N people bought (in a free market, voluntary) so you get the money as reward. That's just it. Don't hate capitalism, do hate crony capitalism. You can hate the government too, that's the source of most of the problems in society.
ISFPs are an awesome kind of presence. I was born on the Pisces-Aries cusp, but I'm an Aries for sure. Astrology is fascinating, even if I have no real exercised faith in it. Here's a holistic book on the topic that really impressed me (if it's possible to add science to the field, that's what this book does).
Where are you from? What is your art? What is the most important thing in your life to improve right now?
You can try Focus app, it's the best I have found. You set a timer and it practically blocks everything and there's just a timer telling you the time. You can take x seconds (max 30) break for x time (max 5) for the time period. I usually put my focus on for long hours (2-4), by customising its settings, it blocks all notifications except for incoming calls and then I use my laptop on focus mode with earphones listening to a 3 hr something duration noise, not particularly white but just a noise to block any other noise. With all that, I throw/keep my phone out of my sight till my work is done, I usually forget that I even have a phone or something until it rings on its own telling me the time over.
If you have read Atomic Habits by James Clear, you would realise that the noise and the focus are basically clues to my mind which puts in action that I need to do work, kinda training/habituating it do so.
Here's the app link https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.lazygeniouz.focus
Here's the noise/music link https://open.spotify.com/episode/2z6mgjVZ0nsONx2wjK9OMg?si=6neChok_Qh6-3CGLs-mzSQ&utm_source=copy-link&dl_branch=1
Thoughtful analysis, OP. I went through a similar progression years ago. I always related to much of the pulpy MBTI sites' descriptions of an ENTJ, but I felt I was either mistyped or (and this certainly turned out to be true) cognitive type is more nuanced than Myers and Briggs accounted for in their test. Learning the functions themselves helped a lot.
Then I discovered Enneagram. After two or three years of casual study and reading Beatrice Chestnut's The Complete Enneagram, I conclude I am an 8w9 which isn't the most common type and wing for an ENTJ if my perception serves. Sounds like you may have some 9 in you.
> It's second-degree humor, and healthy self-awareness of your own sense of pride.
I see. I am starting to understand his thought process now. He has stated on numerous occasions that he is the humblest person he ever met.
(INTP Gandalf to your Théoden, perhaps) When you start to feel disconnected, take some time to search through this app to find a guide to help redirect your thoughts. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.spotlightsix.zentimerlite2&hl=en_US
This is what worked for me with good results: focus on slow breathing patterns to clam your mind.
Even better is this app that worked for me. It basically restructures mind bias to always see positive aspects in everyday life and ignore the negative ones. It works like a charm. It can replace psychologists and psychiatrists. I am not kidding. All you have to do is click on smiling faces and ignore neutral or negative ones. Few minutes on this app are better than years of CBT therapy: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tyrske.cbm
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Nationality: American (parents immigrated from South Asia in the 1980s)
Sexual Orientation: Straight
Religion: Hindu (formerly agnostic; change happened over the past few years)
Age: 24
Marriage and Children: Absolutely, once I've finished training; I'm going to be focusing on work/money/creating something for the rest of my life, so I'll be looking for someone who works 9-5 or the kids won't have parents growing up
Political Ideology: Classical Liberalism
Role Model: None; I shy away from them, as it seems to detract from trying to create something new rather than following in another's footsteps. The closest thing would be someone who started his own private orthopaedic practice, contracted with a university, and is now one of the leading ortho groups in the nation in both research and patient care. He's a model of efficiency and excellence.
Favorite Books: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The 48 Laws of Power, Bartimaeus Trilogy (a favorite of mine from childhood)
Enneagram: 8w7. Just took it - never heard about it till now.
Physical structure: 5'7" 160 lbs, decently built, but it takes a lot of effort to stay that way
Job: Medical student; before that, manager and administrator of a private medical practice
I'm in fundraising as well, and it is indeed largely nonsense. Re: your desire for interesting predictions of the universe, have you read So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport? He has a very interesting methodology for getting to the career you want.
Naha dude you're a gem :] I always recommend Think and Grow Rich to redditors. It's the first time some one on Reddit referee me to Hill. I absolutely love the man. It's crazy because I have a lot of things going on for me right now, which is super recent still, and I give lots of thanks to hill and his words.
I swear the book is unimaginably realistic.
> this is a quote
> this is how you format a quote
You can also select some text in a comment and click reply.
More Reddit tricks:
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Try pickup soccer games (look on meetup.com) or just about any other activity (tennis, softball, golf, chess)... just try to get out there interacting with people while doing something interesting/fun.
Lol it comes with practice
Honestly, at one point in your life it'll become evident that when you say ""I understand why you're upset, I'd be upset too." isn't about whether you do or do not actually believe what you are saying - but more about that you said it.
And I encourage all my brethren of this subreddit to read or skim Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Dr. Paul Bloom
It depends
For instance, I do like a vast, majority of things I have on a Google Calendar and my "bullet journal" in Todoist
But for my self studying I need a visual cue. It's like the concept of eating more fruit ((or healthy in general)). In my kitchen the fruit bowl is at eye level as a constant reminder and setting my priorities. So, for my self studying I use a physical notebook/tracker that I see everyday
Intellectual Property, the government in general, old people are any wiser, most people saying they are saving the world are just parasites willing to control it, sometimes people are dead wrong but you unlikely are going to change them, parents wants the best for their kids (on average is true but not all the time), most people willing to help you are more likely to mess up than do any help, unless they fit well the scheme. Good intentions doesn't matter if it doesn't fit the plan, reading alot of books make you automatically to use glasses
> en donde aprendiste italiano?
https://www.duolingo.com/learn
Aún aprendiendo. Por ejemplo:
Le doy plátano al mono.
Un tigre está en el zoológico.
El color de los zapatos de mi madre es sospechoso.
Mi gato está en el congelador al lado del helado.
Le damos el perro al cocodrilo.
Ese tipo de cosas ... espero que el traductor funcione bien.
Depends on the type of anxiety. If it's from say an argument, then I like to get outside, take a walk or play soccer or something active. I find soccer also helps with loneliness as you're around lots of people. I found some pick up games on meetup.com.
If you can find a relative or friend to talk to that helps a bit.
If it's work-related stress, I find it's best just to try chipping away at whatever it is that's bothering you. Write it down. Try to make a plan of attack, and just take small steps to address whatever it is.
start off with Anatomy of the state
Maybe I am actually ENTJ. Psychotherapists are scammers, not much different than the Nigerian Royalty.
They waste my time with false hope and their stupid platitudes advocating why the status quo is god with books like Perfect Present, which demonstrates to me that they have no idea how to solve anyone's problems and that no one should be paying them to solve any problems. In fact we should ask the to model their "perfection" for us so us mere mortals can understand it without turning into an entropic soup.
Yes, I been listening to a lot of Bernardo Kastrup.
For sure, a hundred percent.
Just don't let them get your back
Reflux esophagitis is significantly associated with psychosocial stress, and the severity of reflux esophagitis correlates with the degree of stress.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3576549/
In general I searched for "gerd caused by stress" using https://www.startpage.com/ and found plenty of results that seemed to validate my clam. Of course, not everyone gets GERD from stress. That was my mistake.
Recessions come every 10 years or so but not for a Random reason. The last one was in 2008. They happen because the Federal Reserve blows an artificial bubble with low interest rates and that creates the illusion of prosperity but that serotonin hit wears off and the reality sets in.
Trump put his own guy as a chairman of the FED and that guys does take orders from him even though technically the FED has no oversight. Those orders are: help me get reelected. So pump that bitch up! Make me look good on the economy. And pump that bitch up they did.
For example: https://www.marketwatch.com/story/the-federal-reserve-is-in-stealth-intervention-mode-2019-10-25
But market demand for overnight repo operations has far exceeded even the $75 billion the Fed has allocated, suggesting a lot more liquidity demand. Hence, on Wednesday the Fed suddenly announced a $45 billion increase on top of the $75 billion repo facility for a daily total of $120 billion. Here’s the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, the branch involved in such actions:
Did you catch that??? What do you get when you multiply 120 billion by 365 days? I got 43.8 motherfucking Trillion bucks!!!
That is not at all healthy. Also there is a ton of [pre-] foreclosures and auctions on Zillow.com - many more than 1 year ago. I do not have the numbers but it just looks rotten. This is like the 5th time that the FED has created a bubble except that this time it is bigger than in 2008.
Starting is usually the hardest part.
Have you tried the Pomodoro technique?
Hmm ok. Well is it possible you might just need to maintain professional boundaries too?
Just saw this article, could that apply?
There is such a thing as too honest. I very occasionally value blunt honesty when it’s respectful and constructive, but to be fair I consider myself a mild anomaly. Most people are looking to maintain niceness in relationships, personal and professional.
I was in the physics department at school, now there was a few people who were a little too honest... and well, arrogant lol. As a former rugby player I was also a little too honest on occasion in response :). Still wasn’t cool even if it was a response.
So humility counts. We all have to eat that pie on occasion. Jokes help too. Say something appropriately ridiculous with a smile.... 😁
Definitely agree on learning tech skills. I surpassed many of my business school classmates by learning SQL and Python. Coding is an amazing mental exercise. Datacamp.com is a great place to start.
I use a task management app. The one I use is called Todoist, but there are loads of different ones out there, many of them are free or have a free version, so if you're looking for something a bit more than a standard to do list on pen and paper (or in some "notes" application you have on your phone) then it's worth researching them.
I would try and find one that works across different platforms, that sync together nicely. That was the thing that attracted me to Todoist to be honest. I'm a PhD student, so sometimes I'm in the office, and sometimes I work from home. It's super useful to know that when I open the app in one place, it will sync with the other platforms.
This link has an overview of some of the many that are available: https://zapier.com/blog/best-todo-list-apps/
You might find the app, Habitica, to be right up your alley: https://habitica.com/
It's basically a gamified productivity app that rewards you for accomplishing tasks, kind of like the way you've described it!
I use habitica.com (formerly Habit RPG). It gives me a reason to do things I might otherwise neglect without running the risk of anyone else seeing some of the things I have to remind myself to do (ex: eat something). They aren't really short-term goals, though. The closest I have to that right now is "get a job" but when I don't have a "submit x applications" in order to guarantee a job, it's a bit difficult to break that down into smaller pieces. But Habitica helps me overall because it has a party system and we do quests so it keeps me accountable to other people (without letting them know exactly what it is that I'm doing).
I guess I'd love too would be hell of fun. I tend to love INTPs. I would hand you right away this short book and ask your thoughts (maybe refute?) on the book.
Failed God in the sense that people seems to believe democracy is going to solve their problems like God would. That's also the title of this book
> Thus, all is not well among the emerging adults who inherited the sexual revolution launched by their parents and grandparents in the 1960s and '70s. A lot, though not all, of emerging adults today are confused, hurting, and sometimes ashamed because of their sexual experiences played out in a culture that told them to simply to go for it and feel good.
> The truth that emerging adults in the current cultural regime of easy sex within fluid and amorphous relationships do not seem to grasp is that sex is not only often pleasurable, sex is also definitely powerful - often in ways beyond individual control. Whether youth and emerging adults realize or accept it, sexual intimacy has an immense power to bond, to make vulnerable, to complicate, to bind. Failing to see this, two young lives can, without quite realizing it, quickly be bonded together so intimately and profoundly that the wrenching that happens when they pull apart is more distressing, difficult, and debilitating than either ever expected. Emerging adults can jump into intimate relationships assuming that sex is just another consumer item, recreational thrill, or lifestyle commodity. But many of them soon discover the hard way that sex is much more profound and precious than that. But then it is too late. They feel they have lost a part of themselves that they cannot recover. They nurse wounds that are slow to heal. Some have difficulty trusting in new relationships. Others become indifferent or hardened to their own feelings or those of others.
So - uh - pretty bad. But it was the only way I felt anything so it took awhile before I stopped
yeah I expected that too later on I realized most are rather super "calm" and not that willing to engage in such big competitions and hash environment and extract most out this. I watched movies and documentaries as kid about traders and CEO in big corporations just getting shit done, in a super competitive environment and people pushing things forward, faster and faster and super excited just wanted to be like that. Someone are really like that. That "you can't live do that, that's toxic and bla bla" is just shit. I also thought we were all capitalism but also free market oriented. What's up in believing the government can do shit efficiently? pushing people down so the system can control and rob you. C'mon! It's so fucking obvious it doesn't work and without a free market, they are just preventing us to push things forward faster and more efficiently
I think the education system backed by the government is harmful in many, many ways. There's this wonderful book about this. One of the reason it's do exist is to support their own bad system.
> Many habits of people causes damage
This is hand-wavey. 2 hours of sleep per night is not the same as 6 hours per night. Two hours is a heart attack waiting to happen. One can't even function as they normally would under these conditions.
> all types have their inefficiencies
This is vague
> the love and die mentality
What is that?
> is what makes us successful.
Successful means different things to different people. You will never be as rich as Bill Gates. If you define success as whatever that means to you, then this definition becomes circular. As soon as another person, and let alone a child is strung along, everything changes. EVERYTHING. That guy cannot afford to die for the sake of his child, so letting an autoimmune disorder fuck him up at the same time as only sleeping 2 hours per night - that looks like an unconscious wish to die. So selfish.
> It’s not that we don’t care it’s because we want to max out how far we can go.
Well, you are only doing for your own pleasure. Pretty much nobody else is impressed or unimpressed. The universe is indifferent after all. That said, you can't even go that far on 2 hours of sleep. You would get more done if you slept more.
Look through some links here:
Some world class athletes sleep 12 hours per day. Sleep is so effective, it can be compared to a performance enhancing drug.
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I recently published this book so I can give you some tips.
First of all, spend a day or two talking to yourself in your room. Drink some coffee and do nothing but talk out loud all the ideas and theories you have. Then I think you will have a clear vision of what needs to be written.
Once this has been accomplished and your mind is fertile, write down some paragraphs. Never write more than 20 lines in each paragraph and try to make things flow coherently.
Divide your book into chapters and it’s always best to have some idea what chapters you need to write. Now as an ENTJ you are more likely to wing it but some preparation can help.
I am thankful of your tips so I think I need to do the favor back
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btw i am just joking.
Its more so their intentional waiting and lack of contribution that belies an envious, apathetical dullard. Their sense of justice will result in undoing and retard your progress. I call them schmucks.
And on another note give us your notes before I must stab you slowly with a dull spoon. I'm hunting wikipedia entries. google lens
Oh this one lol
Btw, there's a lot of contextual or additional info to GTD that is not always found in general perusing. So it may take some time to truly figure it out and have less mess ups
Paper has its perks :)
Good for you for asking.
Touching, Staring at women’s breasts make men live longer, healthier — Study
That's a tough one. I was going to say show him your tits over Skype but then you are not showing your tits just to him. In addition, sys admins at your internet service provider, at Microsot (it owns Skype) as well as NSA contractors and some Chinese spies (if the CPU was made in China) are going to jerk of to you. So I do not necessarily recommend sharing your niples. Save them for now.
I would however recommend getting him this ancient torture device called bed of nails for only $16. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00N24PK6A/
Good luck.
> I work out for a role.
What are your goals?
I thin it is important to learn how to cook healthy food quickly and how to store it. Obviously fitness and taking care of health. Check your skin moles, teeth periodically. Visit a doctor or a general check-up from time to time. Does not hurt to "establish a baseline EKG" if your health insurance / govt will pay for it. If your heart valves aren't functioning properly - some people are born with it, then while I would not get a surgery asap given that you are young, I would track it.
Good sleeping habits are important - make sure that your bed is comortable, that the bedroom is quiet and dark. Keep a good posture. Look up online how to set up the monitor height and depth properly and the keyboard. Learn to avoid carpal tunnel by not over-exerting ingers and orearms and other muscles.
Stretch. Swimming is great or breathing, cardio but personally I hate chlorine and goggles.
First aid skills pay off. If you feel like donating blood, watch the entire thing. You need to be comfortable with a sight o a pint of blood leaving your body. Might keep you from passing out in the future once you get your first period.
I recommend this wonder: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00N24PK6A/
You need to practice speaking in front of people, even i to get something done a a bank. To persist and in general to learn to problem-solve. If you get a bullshit bill or credit card charge or a ban transaction that you did not make, do you now how to tae care of it like a boss? You should.
You also want to learn how to kick somebody's ass. It will pay dividends.
Also, clean your room, wash your penis and all that good stuff.
Ignore my flair. How old are you now? Are you sure? Are you planning to transition? I ask this because while being trans kind of became fashionable, there is often serous regret post transition. Some of the people who at one point considered themselves trans were: young boys who are not above average in masculinity, gay guys, depressed men and women, boulemic girls. Transitioning is not something that you can undo.
Two months ago Joe Rogan had episode Joe Rogan Experience #1509 - Abigail Shrier which had 2.2 million views on Youtube alone.
Abigail Shrier is an author, journalist, and writer for the Wall Street Journal. Her new book "Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters" is available now. https://www.amazon.com/Irreversible-Damage-Transgender-Seducing-Daughters/dp/1684510317
hopefully this is more helpful than hurtful. I obviously don't know wha you think ad how you feel.
Are you attracted to biological men? Women? Both? Not a hint, just curious.
Pick the best teacher you can.
Thomas Sowell's books will be relevant 10,000 years from now, just like we cherish some of the now long dead Greek philosophers. You can find video clips of him demolishing the "wage gap" back in the 70s.
This book is great. Maybe you can find a way to download it free of charge.
https://www.amazon.com/Black-Rednecks-Liberals-Thomas-Sowell/dp/1594031436
He went deeeeep.
You're an adult. And you're the one that has to live with your decisions.
That said, you might want to read Cal Newport's "So Good They Can't Ignore You". Passion for a career is in large part a function of getting good enough at it to have autonomy and respect. Not an inherent function of it being the thing you're magically destined to so. That said there are definitely careers that don't match well with any given person and it may just not be for you; but don't allow a lack of passion for it to be the primary deciding factor. Passion can develop out of proficiency.
None of the above.
I buy them a set of drill bits on Amazon and add a custom message there.
I would recommend this book, maybe for both you and him to read:
Searching for Meaning: Idealism, Bright Minds, Disillusionment, and Hope by James Webb.
>Many bright idealists find themselves disillusioned in today's world, and they may experience existential depression as they examine their lives and search for meaningfulness. This book will help such individuals to understand themselves and their struggles. It also includes helpful information and suggestions for actions that disillusioned idealists can use to better manage their feelings and thoughts in ways that will nurture their idealism and provide a sense of satisfaction and contentment. People with existential depression need more than medications. It is fundamentally more important for those with existential depression to become aware that others have had similar experiences and to realize that someone truly understands their idealism, disillusionment, and anger that things are not as they"should be." Searching for Meaning bridges this gap and provides a safety net of sorts for those floating in the abyss of concentrated disillusionment. This book offers guidance and support in taking the first steps toward renewed perspective and helps to promote a solid foundation to prevent future relapses.
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>https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1935067222/
I've gone through something like this in the last little while. Each person is different, has different circumstances, and different expectations. So I can't really say much in the general realm besides that he's probably feeling like he has to "keep up with the Joneses" without realizing that sometimes luck has a big part to play in the people you meet and the business situations you are offered. Your own efforts can increase the chances but by no means guarantee an outcome.
Good to know, thanks. A good idea.
Have you tried an Acupressure mat? You can get one for 20-40 bucks on Amazon.
It creates the best kind of pain I ever felt. I am so used to these by now that I fell asleep on one of these a couple of times.
It totally relaxes everything that it comes in contact with and increase blood flow.
From what I read about you, I think you are an INTJ. Introverted Intuition is, might say, your first nature. But for ENTJs, it's their second nature.
If you have an Android device, you may use this app: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.aadi.personalitytraittest
Or this website: Truity.com (recommended option).
Let me know the result.
Also, take a look at Sorted!: The Good Psychopath's Guide to Bossing Your Life, you may not be a psychopath, but all psychopaths are narcissists, and there is great advice on how to manage your life with this not caring about people stuff ... good luck!
Favorite books ����
Start with Why - Simon Sinek The 12 week year - Brian P. Moran Delivering Happiness - Tony Hsieh The Lean Startup - Eric Ries Mastering the Rockefeller Habits - Verne Harnish The Four Hour Workweek - Timothy Ferris The Four Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz The Miracle Morning - Hal Elrod
Sexual orientation? Nor... Hetero.
Religion? Not sure, split between Christianity and Heathenry.
Age? 23
view on marriage and kids? - Unless you are rich as fuck and can take a divorce and 18 years of alimony, shitty deal.
Political view? -No idea. I agree and disagree with many ideologies. I guess I swing with Libertarians mostly.
Role model? - Arnold Schwarzenegger, Feynman, Napoleon Bonaparte, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Steve Wozniak, John F. Kennedy, list goes on.
three favorite books? Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, No More Mr. Nice Guy and How To Win and Influence Friends by Dale, Carnegie.
physical structure? 6ft5, athletic build, 210 lbs 14% body fat.
Job? Law student and computer science student
Nationality: Canadian
Sexual orientation: Hetero
Religion: Iiiit's complicated but for simplicity's sake let's say agnostic leaning atheistic.
Age: 22
View on marriage and kids: I want both, but not for a while yet!
Political view: Social Democrat for now. Given enough time and technology I think we will need to move to something more technocratic. But for right now there is no better established model of governance.
Role models: Socrates, Tommy Douglas, or MLK
Three favorite books: The Republic, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime, The Shock Doctrine (off the top of my head)
Enneagram: TBH I've never heard of this, and when I saw that the test was delivered in dichotomous lines of questioning (instead of a spectrum like a likert scale) I became uninterested
Physical Structure: 6'0, 195 lbs, muscular but not lean
Job: Weekend bartender, activist, and student of political science
Nationality: Filipino (Half-Japanese)
Sexual Orientation: Heterosexual
Religion: Pastafarianism (Agnostic Deism, was raised Christian)
Age: Early 20s
View on marriage and kids: Don't care too much about it, would rather not marry until I'm ready for it, would not have kids until I'm ready for it.
Political View: Center with a slight Libertarian left
Role Model: Napoleon Bonaparte
Three Favorite Books: The Intelligent Investor, Animal Farm, Man's Search for Meaning
Enneagram: 1w9
Physical Structure: 5.7 Stocky, a bit overweight right now because I'm unemployed.
Job: I resigned around four months ago so unemployed for the time being. Hoping to get the relevant skills to get the job I want through certifications.
It's a long road, but try meditation. I think it will probably be the best path to where you want to go. Meditation teaches us not to identify with our ego, thereby lessening our attachment on it and giving us a more universal perspective. When we begin to see that the self we have been with our whole lives is a myth, we automatically become more compassionate towards others. This is just one of the benefits, of course, but a significant one. I suggest Waking Up by Sam Harris, if you want to know more.
I actually already have The Art of War. I read it out of curiosity and because I'm kind of ancient military/strategy enthusiast. At that time I wasn't aiming to use those tips in social interactions, but now that you reminded me, I will read it again.
I know what the deal was in my INFP case. He is very protective of himself. He won't reveal much information if he doesn't know you. I asked him a bit too personal stuff and he wasn't really sure if it is good to share that much stuff with me. I believe it was not that big of a deal. INFP's are just very sensitive and protective (at least those I know).
Thank you again.
Thank you! We all learn from each other. :)
I just started reading the same book right now, actually! I also recommend "The Art of War." It tends to appeal very much to ENTJs because it is cut-and-dry military tactics applied to philosophy, but you never know if you like it until you try. It is a short read available in audio-book form.
I am not sure what her deal was; perhaps it even had nothing to do with being INFP and more with general cynicism.
Hope it goes well for you, OP. You got this.
Book suggestions that have made meaningful impacts to me!
"So Good They Can't Ignore You" by Cal Newport
"Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up" By Marie Kondo
"Getting Things Done" By Dave Allen (But honestly just read an online summary of this one, he is so wordy it drives me up the wall. He could shorten the book to a single chapter or two and it would have the same effect)
Yeah! These are all pretty much about efficiency and productivity, finding happiness/satisfaction. I'm reading "Flow" now as well and it is a good addition to these so far I think. I realize these might not be right up the 'social skills' bit, but organizing your own life and understanding your own motivations can help us in our interactions with others.
Robert Greene - 48 Laws of Power Robert Greene - Mastery Robert Greene - 33 Strategies of War
Ryan Holiday - The Obstacle is The Way
Sun Tzu - The Art of War
Graham Hancock - Fingerprints of the Gods Graham Hancock - Magicians of the Gods
Will Durant - The Story of Civilization
Rollo Tomassi - The Rational Male Rollo Tomassi - The Rational Male Pt,2 Preventative Medicine
Tim Ferris - The Four Hour Chef Tim Ferris - The Four Hour Body
Paul Carter - Don't Tell Mum I Work On The Rigs, She Thinks I'm A Piano Player In A Whorehouse
Malcom Gladwell - Outliers
But I guess that's enough if my narcissism lol, to give you advice (luckily I was raised by a family of bankers so I do know a fair amount when it comes to this kind of stuff). And simple terms save your money. If you save you will have way more freedom then you ever thought. Also read this book (I actually haven't read it myself the only reason being my brother read it and took it with him while he moved put so I didn't get a chance to read it that bastard lol.) https://www.amazon.ca/Wealthy-Barber-Successful-Financial-Planning/dp/0773762167 but from what I have heard is that this book is great. And going back to what I was saying in longer terms make your money work for you, which the book I linked goes very deep into.
Inferior Fi users "in the grip"/under extreme stress can be highly emotional, irrational, and prone to blow-ups. Basically, the opposite of what they consider to be normal behavior. I can relate.
When I was younger I had a lot of stress things happening and would blow up at people that were close to me all the time. I changed my diet (long story - it's related to sugar intake, etc) and realized that I was so on edge all the time, I didn't even know I could feel "normal". I didn't even know what normal was.
This book, Was That Really Me? by Naomi Quenk (here's the amazon link), does a great job of discussing inferior functions and their role in extreme stress situations. It definitely made a lot of sense to what I was feeling.
So it's possible he may just be an ENTJ in the grip. of course, he could also just be an asshole :(
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we could hook up the cucumber mister to a drone. I've never operated a drone before but I bet I'd be great at it, it wouldnt go crazy and chase her around or anything.
Also I have been waiting for an opportunity to present itself where wearing a wine bra would be appropriate. This seems like just such an occasion.
Dario Nardi did some research on the neocortex, which not only controls personality but also part of our senses. I wouldn't be surprised if there is a correlation between certain types and synesthesia, as certain types have been proven to use specific regions and patterns. For example, ESTPs tend to show a lot of activity in the region that controls athleticism, while INFJs tend to not. But I don't think there would be a causation.
You can read about it here: http://www.amazon.com/Neuroscience-Personality-Brain-Insights-People/dp/0979868475