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This ridiculous dress: https://www.amazon.com/BOMBAX-Sparkly-Cocktail-Bridesmaid-Colorful/dp/B07NSQZSSZ?ref_=ast_bbp_dp&th=1&psc=1

It's been a dumpster fire of a year and I want to look as fabulous as possible while I watch it die.

So much, hot damn. Right now I'm looking into a nice robe to wear around the house in the morning and my heart is set on a floor length feathered monstrosity ala Lady Gaga in AHS.

I've been using an UTO Backpack Amazon for approximately 6 months straight for work. I did a ton of searching around before buying this. I wanted something affordable that didn't stand out too much (easy to coordinate with outfits).

The bag withstood Ireland's nonstop rain and LA's extreme heat. It's still holding up great! Soon it'll be experiencing Canada's frigid winters. It has plenty of compartments and zippers; even one on the back which is where I stored my passport. It comes with a shoulder strap option too which comes in handy when I need to open it and grab something.

Edit: Forgot to say, it costs less than $50 and comes in a variety of colours!

Edit2: In case anyone is still reading and wondering, I'm not overly cautious with my bag. I over stuff it with my make up bag, water bottle and lunch on a daily basis. I've never had an issue with the zippers or straps. It sits on the floor under my desk as I work.

I am a recovering shopping addict (typing this makes it sound so odd but it's true). At one point of my life, I was getting 3-4 packages in the mail weekly and had an endless cycle of returning and buying things. It never affected my finances, however, shopping took up so much of my time that I began to lose sight of who I really was.

The best thing that I did for my mental sanity was to read To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop. This book is literally the definition of a therapist on paper. Not only does it explain where shopping addiction stems from, but each chapter has exercises you have to complete. These exercises allowed me to really look at myself and explain why I over shop. While it doesn't tell you "do X,Y,Z to stop shopping," it does make you realize how each purchase decision affects you. I'm a much more mindful shopper now!

My husband & I are doing our first real valentines dinner date ever. We’re military so things have always come up that prevent us from livin our best valentine’s life. We’re having dinner at a relatively nice restaurant (the same one he proposed to me) so I decided to dress up a bit.

I’ll be wearing this. It’s out of my comfort zone a bit but he’s always wanted to see me in something like this so I decided to go for it.

Edit: For this who requested it, here it is in all its glory.

The San Francisco hoodie. Yes, calendar says May/June/July/August/whatever. Yes, it is cloudy as fuck, windy, foggy and it looks like it's about to rain. People come wonderfully underprepared and then spent a little fortune outfitting their whole family in large touristy hoodies because in the summer San Francisco is COLD!

Anything ridiculously costume-y, historial and over the top in a regal way looks like it was made for me. I was shopping with my BF in tow for a blazer I could wear to interviews about 2 years ago. I wanted to get something a little unusual and with a slight twist---maybe tweed with fringe or something. I stopped in Free People to see if maybe they had a fun military style jacket left over from their winter stock and as a joke I tried on this item. It's a floor length robe with a faux fur color and it's laughably theatrical.

My BF was like "um, actually you look amazing in that?" I'm 5'10" with a medium-large frame and an overall "Kween" vibe so items like this are 1000% my balliwick despite me wishing I was the Netherlands minimal architect student type!

I’m going to a Gatsby/roaring 20s themed party, so I bought this dress from amazon and I couldn’t be happier with it. Fits like a glove and is surprisingly super comfortable!

Worst:

These white combat boots.

In white. They look like legit clown shoes, very cheap plastic that buckles, shoddy construction.

Best:

Mesh laundry bags. They saved so many of my clothes and I'm no longer too lazy to hand wash~

I work in a business casual office and comfort is one of my essential factors in buying clothes too. Personally, I really love these pull-on slacks I've gotten from HyBrid & Company on Amazon. They're form-fitting, but not suffocatingly so, and have a bit of stretch to them. I find them very flattering and slimming too. They can be perfectly paired with boots because of their skinny fit as well.

This will be buried. Mom's family is old money that lost it in the depression. This is how GGMa and Grandma faked it (Grandma got rich and then went broke again.)

Get a cheap trench coat, and then go to home depot and get a length of ball chain (this stuff https://www.amazon.com/Ball-Chain-Spool-Aluminum-Feet/dp/B005FM92HK) and sew it to the inside of your hems. It's what Chanel jackets have to make them hang/move better, and if you make little loops often it makes no noise.

Then replace the buttons. Anything plastic has to go. Likely the buckle on the trench must go, other than that all belts that come with clothing should be considered a cruel joke and discarded immediately.

You can make a $5 thrift-ed trench coat look and move like a $500 coat with those two steps.

I have hot pink trench coat that I love that I need to do this to, for the black skinny jeans/simple blouse/color pop coat combo. It is from Lane Bryant, though, and it's got cheap shitty buttons and hangs like hell but with half an hour and a minor amount of work, it'll look like a million bucks.

I don't trust any of the cheap fast-fashion on Amazon, but I love it for stalking quality bras. I've gotten some Panache and Freya ones for under $20 with enough patience. I've also found that sometimes 6PM lists their items on Amazon as well, which can get me that sweet Prime shipping as a bonus. (The same also applies with stock on Fabric.com, though you can only by the whole yard!)

I do also love Amazon for clothing storage though! Some of my many favorites include a really solid scarf rack and the savior of my sock and underwear drawers.

I recommend this high-neck bralette! I find that it's a cute but comfy alternative to a full blown camisole.

I bought some of these and hung them at the top of my shower so that I can turn off the overhead lights, but not be in the pitch black, and it's SO lovely!

I definitely use clip-on stirrups when I want pants so sit correctly in boots. Don't know how people make them cooperate otherwise.

I got this dress as a gift and love it. It is really flattering and comfortable. It's very light weight (I live in a hot climate). I'm looking forward to being able to wear it all spring.

I haven't watched this documentary yet but I strongly discourage using Marie Kondo's methods as a way to curb compulsive shopping. An addiction to shopping is often a mental struggle and simply donating/selling one's things and going through one's closet does not help. I had a period in my life that I was addicted to shopping, and I found the book "To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop" to be the only successful method in breaking the cycle. The book is a bit tedious because it involves a lot of exercises, but totally worth it if you're looking to get more insight into your addiction and want to break it.

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I got this awesome dress on Amazon and it was only $25 plus free shipping

I love that it has flow-y sleeves (I don’t feel comfortable going sleeveless at work). I liked it so much, I got another one in a different color. It’s a bitch to do all the buttons up, but because there’s a little stretch in the waistband, I can easily slip it over my head without doing the buttons.

Regarding the antiperspirant, you should actually be applying it at night for maximum effectiveness. If you apply it at night, you can wash it off in the morning and it will still be as effective.

It has personally been a game changer for me - I don't even wash it off in the morning (I'm a night shower-er) and my clothes never have any residue and don't get any stains.

This Fossil purse from Amazon in black. I've had it for about a year, and it does fit most of my essentials (non work/school). But I am getting a little bored with it haha.

You should read “Bringing home the Birkin.” The chapters on retail sales people archetypes are especially hilarious.

https://www.amazon.com/Bringing-Home-Birkin-Pursuit-Coveted-ebook/dp/B0010SGR26

Holy shit. I would never have expected to see Paul Fussell's name pop up on this subreddit, however I was unaware he wrote Class.

Fussell wrote literally the best book on WW2 I've ever had the pleasure of reading: Wartime: Behavior and Understanding in the Second World War. He does a fine job of illustrating a very accurate depiction of what life was like for your average soldier, and what was going through their head during the conflict, while scraping away the decades of patriotic fog and "TIME/History Channel rah-rah do-gooder" bullshit that tends to permeate the public perception of the conflict. (For those who don't know, he served in combat in WW2, then later became a cultural and literary historian) Cannot recommend it enough.

He also wrote The Great War and Modern Memory, which explores how WW1 altered how societies collectively look at and remember global and national events in a manner not seen before. Very fascinating read too.

Not sure if you've heard of these, but my mom just bought one and is pretty excited about it. Limited Mobility Button Hook

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Also, there are some heavier poncho-style sweaters that are on sale at Banana Republic that might be good.

I bought these cheap Amazon d'orsay flats because I saw these out-of-my-budget amazing d'orsay Oxfords that I think are pretty cute/summery. They aren't comfy at all though!

This skirt is surprisingly awesome, given the cost. It's good, heavy fabric and has a partial lining. Sizing on the small was accurate. It also looks delightfully retro but not like a costume. And when worn over good tights, it's much warmer than a pair of dress pants. The only downside is that the fabric picks up any lint or car hair it comes near. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M0335I1/_encoding=UTF8?coliid=I2P6JW9HB68FOB&colid=1F9KZWJZ3PI1E&psc=1

I work in customer service for an online retailer, and we do price matching - but only to legit websites. I have found so many good indicators of whether you should order from something or not.

• Go to the Contact page. Unless it's an indie company, if it is a form rather than phone number and email address, that's a bad sign.
• Check out the Returns and About pages. Is there a physical address for the company? No? Bad. Yes? Google maps it!
• Check the shipping page/terms. What happens if the package is lost in transit? Genuine People says you're fucked once they give it to the shipping company. Not a good sign.
• Google "Website Name Legit Scam Review" and see what comes up. Some bad reviews here
• Check out the Press page. I saw a bunch of links to Vogue, so I looked at one. It mentioned the company being based in "Shanghai and San Francisco."

Just parking this here to spark conversation.. https://bbc.in/2xhtxA5

Wax prints have a complicated and colonialist history.. they aren’t “African” and Africa is not a monolith..

The Indonesian, Dutch and now Chinese (!) influence on patterns and fabric creation is well documented.

There are many prints from different African nations that are specific and meaningful to the region, but researching and knowing what you’re wearing and where it’s from is important..

The bogolonfini “mud cloths” from Mail for example all have storiesmeanings behind the lines, dots and circles and have been transmuted into a million ready to wear and mass accessible home goods..

Buy wearing any type of “African” wax print you aren’t necessarily culturally appropriating, and there are tons more articles explaining the history of wax prints..

But knowing what you’re wearing and why is how it becomes cultural appreciation and not appropriation.

These are my go to pants- much dressier and comfier than they even look in the picture

They are actually from Costco

32 DEGREES Ladies' Soft Comfort Pant, Variety (Black, Small) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GC7N1CG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_Cw6RDbQSGZ8GE

This! These pumps by Clarks are the most comfortable heels I've ever worn. They're even more comfortable than most of my flats. I have them in two colors. I wish they made more colors!

For those who are lazy like me and want to wear earrings but never actually end up doing it, sleeper hoops are fantastic. They are essentially hoop earrings that close in on themselves, so you never have the awkward poking behind your ear and you don't need to take them out. I have a pair of 3/8" hoops that I got on Amazon (hopefully okay to link?) that I wear in my main piercings. I also have a pair of screw back earrings from etsy that I wear in my second piercings. I've had both of these sets for over a year without any issues with tarnishing or signs of wear, and I don't even really notice that I'm wearing them.

I seriously feel like having a small hoop + cute crystal stud has made me look so much more put together than having empty lobes. Only problem is that now I rarely change my earrings into anything more fun. Still, it's encouraged me to not purchase more earrings since I know I'll never wear them, so I guess that's a plus?

I’m a working mom. During the week, I need my bag to hold my laptop. On the weekend, it has to get me through shopping trips and goldfish spills. And then it has to look good if I go out on a date. I’m not into having multiple bags.

I got this Sherpani Convertible Backpack and it is perfect for me. I can wear it as a backpack or as a purse/tote. I’ve even turned it into a crossbody when I’ve needed to.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01J5GO9GU/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_MKpOBbYVWZAD6

Edit: So I know this one isn't leather. It isn't even faux leather. But the sealed canvas is super durable and looks really great.

Well, the best I can do is point you to the "Ask a Clean Person" column "My boyfriend barfed in my handbag".

(This ultimately got turned into a book, which lives in my linen closet next to all my cleaning supplies.)

I looooove this dress I always get compliments on it. It is so cute and easy to wear! I love the maxi dresses from this brand in general.

I also just spotted this on one of my daily walks and had to go back to get it... not sure where to even find it online :( but it is wonderful, and it has pockets!

I have these and so far they're great. They're super comfy, and obscenely warm. I've been living in them for the past few weeks while it's been incredibly chilly in my city. I don't operate under the belief they'll last forever, but I wanted to see if I could fit combat boots into my wardrobe before purchasing a higher quality pair and so far I'm a big fan.

FLEECE LINED TIGHTS.

the issue w dress pants in winter isnt just your cold ankles, its the wind whippin' through the thin fabric around your legs.

I live in SoCal and I still keep a couple of pairs for when I travel in the colder months. They are the best.

This dress with black tights in the winter. For some reason it fits me in a ridiculously flattering way but it is literally a giant sweatshirt. I got it as a Christmas gift a few years ago.

This is mine! I actually bought it last year because someone on here recommended it, lol. I will say it might work better if you're a little shorter - I'm 5'6" and it is really pushing maxi length on me lmao. I would guess it would be best on women around 5'4"-5'5". It's VERY fun to swish around in but it also kind of feels like pajamas on so that's a win in my book.

I have a holographic backpack like this that I'm pretty sure was sold for kids here in Denmark. I usually pair it with my usual office wear when headed to Copenhagen, hopefully my low quality sketch isn't too blurry, and the mix of more adult clothing with it keeps it from reading full on kid from the 90s (which is a great aesthetic, but not really my fashion goals atm).

i bought this down puffer 4 years ago. hands down, the best amazon purchase i have ever made. this thing is WARM, much warmer than any down coat under $250 that i've tried on at dept stores. it's been in the teens over here, and i've been fine.

I’ve just realized the exact same thing happened to me. I bought a Japanese lingerie drying rack like this one (can’t find the exact one anymore but https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01I017SIM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_oVa8CbV8SC30M) for $8 off Amazon a few months ago, and started using it and no more bra squeak. Hadn’t made that association before!

So, this is a kind of tangential answer to your question but I hope it helps. Some studies show when people get something new, if they choose to "save" it for later, rather than use it / wear it right away, that item starts to be perceived as more special, and eventually no occasion is ever good enough.

There are some great examples here about people doing this with notebooks and bottles of wine: https://getpocket.com/explore/item/psychological-specialness-spirals-can-make-ordinary-items-feel-like-treasures-and-may-explain-how

Source: https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/10.1086/714363

I found these. I haven't tried them but they have great reviews so I might order a pair!

Romastory Winter Warm Women Velvet Elastic Leggings Pants (Skin) One Size https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M4JIUL3/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_SXFcEb7AR2K6G

I'll probably wear this one, but I'm absolutely considering buying and wearing this dress to all the holiday parties.

As much as I love to hate Amazon, I just ordered these and I'm a fan. They have tons of colors and a V-neck option too. Quality fabric, washes/dries nicely. I'm tall-ish (5'8") and they're a good length for my long torso. Not tight around the neckline. And the price is right!

Also, GAP.

I love this slip for a little extra coverage, if it isn't too long to go under the dress. You can wear it two ways, for a straight or v-neck layer. I love the look of the bralettes others posted, but as a fellow large busted lady, I have sadly never found one of those that works for me! I prefer this slip rather than a cami under a dress because it lays well and I don't have to tug it into place as much.

Anuschka Rees of into-mind has written a thourough blog post on this topic, for the record.

Personally, my local library and my university library both have tons of books about fashion. There is a range from light and fluffy how-to guides to glossy photo books to critical academic works on fashion and culture. I like learning more about the history of fashion and production of it, it helps me understand quality and appreciate fashion as an art.

Some fashion books/publications that I like:

• Back issues of Vogue (most libraries will have this one)
• Fashion Theory: The Journal of Dress, Body & Culture from the Fashion Institute of Technology (available through most university libraries)
• Savage Beauty by Alexander McQueen
• The Beautiful Fall: Lagerfeld, Saint Laurent, and Glorious Excess in 1970s Paris by Alicia Drake
• Classic Hollywood Style by Caroline Young
• Bespoke: Savile Row Ripped and Smoothed
• It by Alexa Chung
• Paradise Kiss by Ai Yazawa
• 100 Unforgettable Dresses by Hal Rubenstein/The Hundred Dresses: The Most Iconic Styles of Our Time by Erin McKean
• The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo
• Luca Turin's books on perfume
• Subculture: The Meaning of Style by Dick Hebdige
• I'm also a big fan of Pierre Niney Yves Saint Laurent film

ZUOBAO Stainless Steel Bracelet Grooved Cuff Bangle for Women Girls (Silver+Rose Gold) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LCCMFIY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_tsGKBbZ4NNPR9

It’s not this exact one but similar. There’s a ton on amazon! (Sorry for the lack of formatting, I’m on my phone.)

This cape blazer makes me feel like a bawse. The plus is you can dress it up or make it super casual. ASMAX HaoDuoYi Women Casual Open Front Cape Trench Duster Coat Longline Blazer(S,Black)

I’m super excited since this is my daughter’s first Halloween. I’m going to be Princess Buttercup (red dress from Amazon, gold ribbon for the belt, and wig from amazon), my husband is Westley, and my daughter is our R.O.U.S. I found the cutest freakin’ mouse costume for her.

Love this! I just bought a red pleated skirt for an upcoming holiday party and have been trying to figure out what top to pair it with. Black crew neck and shiny black boots might be the way to go, with gold jewelry...

This is the skirt, in wine red, if anyone’s interested. The quality is about what you’d expect for the price, but it does look quite nice on.

So a long time ago, I was approached by a really amazing photography studio in London about doing a photoshoot with them..they have spun their boudoir business off into a new company, and are offering new styles of boudoir shoots, and one of them is burlesque boudoir and they wanted me to be the model in exchange for a free (usually £1000+!) photoshoot. Obviously I was like YES WHEN PLEASE I AM YOURS FOREVER. And since I kept mentioning it here I thought I should share some of the results.

So these are a few of them. (There is no nudity or near nudity so I think you workin' girls are safe to click...but obvs you know your offices better than I!)

This is my everything hat for the summer. I've worn it with tea dresses for garden parties and with flared jeans and a fitted tshirt.

I’ve got politics, and almost only politics, on my mind. This is the last weekend before midterm elections on Tuesday. I am feeling a little freaked out.

I think many people are placing all of their hope on a blue wave. I know I am! But I’m worried we’ve been lulled into this false sense of security about how realistic a blue wave is. When in reality, voter suppression and gerrymandering and general lack of political involvement is going to make it REALLY hard for progressive candidates to actually win.

I think it’s really important to spread the word about voting, but merely telling people to vote can quickly turn into gaslighting for minorities (see: voter suppression, gerrymandering). A lot of people are touting the old sentiment that if you don’t vote you can’t complain, which totally glosses over the fact that for a lot of people, it’s really hard to vote. Progressive candidates are often working for those minority groups that face high levels of voter suppression, so I’m worried... We need the votes of the people that have a difficult time voting.

I really encourage everyone to take some active steps this weekend to engage in the election. I signed up to phonebank. I hate talking on the phone but it’s too important to sit back and let others do the work, so I’m making calls on behalf of Beto all day Saturday. If anyone else wants to take action, I suggest connecting with indivisible. I’m a person who posts political articles and memes on social media but is otherwise kind of quiet about politics... but moving into the last few days of the election, that feels like it is nowhere near enough.

Also I am currently reading this book and omg, I want every white person I know to read it. I am learning so much.

I'm a sucker for these cheap leggings off of Amazon. They're super soft, don't pill, come in LOTS of colors, don't sag, and aren't see-through. They also don't have seams on the outside of the legs. (I've had multiple leg surgeries, and I find seams really aggravating sometimes, so that's a huge plus for me!) The only con is that they may not be thick enough "winter leggings" depending where you live, but I really like them as layering pieces.

i just bought these in "wandering soul" and i'm SUPER into them. the print is so cool and weird! i wish they were a little higher quality -- they're sewn from multiple pieces so the print gets interrupted a lot -- but they're really comfortable and such a good price.

Trustpilot usually offers reviews of brands, and r/FrugalFemaleFashion has a weekly thread where you can ask about people's experiences with a brand and whether it's a scam or not. I've also seen people ask in the daily threads on this sub.

I normally use boxers and a tshirt at my boyfriends house (same issues with roommates) but I had to switch to a nightgown after spending some time with my leg in a cast--getting any sort of pants on was too much of a process for a bathroom trip. I bought this one off Amazon because it was cheap, cute, and getting to the store with crutches wasn't going to happen. I really like it. The quality is good for the price, and it fits true to size. I'm still wearing it even though I can wear pants easily now!

Victoria's Secret is having their annual sale, so they might have some options on a deep discount.

I’m hosting a roaring 20s themed party too! Here is my dress with the headband and all. So excited to wear it. The fringe is so fun!

I have the same problem; boyshorts, especially, are pretty much just thongs for me. I just bought these and they don't give me wedgies. They're not 'pretty' but they're comfortable. Having a smaller leg opening seems to help.

I love wearing this dress. I bought it last summer for a black tie wedding, and then decided it was too casual for that particular event. But I kept it, and I've worn it probably 5 times since. It's the perfect length on me in either flats or heels, I can wear it with a bra or without, the deep v is sexy but not too revealing, I love the look of the waist on me, and the skirt is two layers of fabric so it's really flowy. I look for any excuse to wear it -- it's a long dress but the pattern is summery, so I even wore it to the farmer's market once.

I also own this swimsuit that I've only gotten to wear once but it made me feel so glamorous.

this jumpsuit and it's only slightly smaller than normal sizing (I normally wear a medium, and I bought a large and it's perfect)

My workhorse piece is absolutely this pair of loafers from Sam Edelman. I bought them a little over a year ago and have worn them non-stop, everywhere — at the office, to conferences, on casual weekends, traveling in Europe and Asia (with lots of walking!)... They go with every outfit and just make me feel much more pulled-together/elevated than a regular flat or sandal. They're also shockingly sturdy — a bit of leather moisturizer/wax every month or so and they're still looking great, and the soles are showing no signs of giving through anytime soon. Absolutely worth the purchase IMO, especially if you're a fan of the ubiquitous Gucci ones but don't want to sacrifice your firstborn to get the look.

FWIW, I did just check the Sam Edelman website and it looks like they've made some minor updates to the style (mainly with the horsebit detail on the top of the shoe), which makes me nervous that the quality has also changed. The version I linked to on Amazon is last year's version and is exactly what I've got.

I LOVE this idea. I don't have any yet but I'm going to start creating side by sides like you did.

Everyone should own a steamer! Totally revolutionized my life when I used one four years ago.

My thighs have always rubbed together - I have narrow hips. So I've tried a few things:

• Bandelettes get good reviews, but they don't stay up on certain leg shapes. Sizing is kinda weird. I was really disappointed that they didn't work for me, but I still recommend trying them if you haven't already.
• Generic stretchy shapewear like this works very well, but it's hell to wear in summer. So sweaty. They're also transparent (why?).
• Pettipants are less hot, but for me they're pointless since they are either loose enough to ride up and allow my thighs to chafe or short enough that the part of my thighs that touch isn't even covered.
• Creams, deodorants, overpriced chafing shit... never did anything for me.

Tbh I solved most of my thigh problems by jumping on the wide leg pants train years ago. I don't bother with skirts/dresses unless it's cold enough to comfortably wear tights underneath them.

As someone who screencapped every single outfit of S1, she's never worn a dress above the knee or shown actual, boob-squishing cleavage.

Edited to add album: The shitty quality pics are mine, the rest are stolen. There is one black dress that shows a cleavage shadow, but she wore it specifically to get someone to want to sleep with her, so...

There's a lot of neck, but as a member of the IBTC, she never actually exposes cleavage.

These loafers are my go-to comfy dressy-cazh shoe. Took a sec to break in (the ankle rubbed a little, nothing a bit of footglide couldn't fix), but they are so buttery soft and look great with everything.

Edit: Foot Glide! I love this stuff. Great for breaking in shoes and applying to rub spots. Band-Aid used to make a similar product, but they discontinued it.

I bought a travelon backpack for a trip last year because I'm paranoid about pickpockets and it came with a little light! It's on a keychain so you can move it around from bag to bag.

you can find alot of options on amazon.

this is what I got- https://www.amazon.com/Backpacks-Fashion-Leather-Anti-theft-Shoulder/dp/B07F7XBLHP/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=cluci+backpack+purse&qid=1578442891&sr=8-1

I used to wear these puppies out dancing and oh boy they would kill my feet. I thought they looked fabulous, but my toes/balls of my feet would literally get numb and I'd be achy for a couple days. Plus, dancing + alcohol + these shoes = a few instances of a rolled ankle.

I can't even remember the last time I wore heels, it's been at least a couple years. Now I pretty much live in Birks/Docs/sneakers and wouldn't want it any other way. Just earlier I was wearing these beauties with some bright blue socks and thought I wouldn't be caught dead in these in my early 20's, but now I happily embrace funkiness and comfort. Plus I have flexible flat feet and am on my feet a lot and could really use the support.

I told my parents I'd rather have a piece of "grown up" jewelry to commemorate my graduation, and they got me a beautiful little diamond pendant that I still wear today. Maybe something like small diamond studs or classic pearl earrings?

Here, I just searched for “cocktail dress” on amazon, filtered by prime items and this is the first one that popped up. It’s pretty and would work perfectly and only $20. It took all of 15 seconds, this doesn’t have to be that hard

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N1WFB1F/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_3vjsDbKNYWRXM

I bought this dress in red last year for any upcoming special occasions, and ended up wearing it to an awards ceremony. Here's a pic of it on. I found the sizing pretty accurate, and while it's by no means high quality, it definitely impressed me for what it is. For $15, I thought it was a great deal! I don't go to enough "fancy" events that would make me feel comfortable justifying buying an expensive dress at this point in my life, so Amazon works perfect for me. I actually liked this dress so much that I bought it last week in green—tried to wear it for NYE but it was too damn cold! I'm hoping to pull it out for Valentine's Day or anniversary later this spring :)

OMG that shirt! I have taught from that text. Not my favorite - a classic, but somewhat dry. But the shirt is fun!

These shoes. I buy like, everything on Amazon because I never want to go out and shop but these were a complete delight. They're $7, but surprisingly comfortable, cute, very right now, and a totally dig them. A little hard to buckle on but for $7 it needs to have something wrong. Even the material feels nicer than it should- they're plastic but a nice feeling, kind of durable plastic. They're my slightly chicer crocs.

I have plantar fasciitis and went through a really bad bout of if s few years ago.

Flat shoes are pretty much the devil. About at all costs. It is extremely rare that I wear anything flat. 2" is the ideal heel according to my podiatrist, so I tend to buy boots with that kind if heel. I was a flight attendant when it first started and I was honestly miserable, though some Dansko loafers helped. I honestly never saw any relief until I had 3 cortisone shots about a month apart and started wearing these insoles. I stick to Nikes and heeled boots in the winter, and birks in the summer.

Oh and never go barefoot, ever. I have a pair of birks specifically for wearing around the house and it helped tremendously.

Boogie Board. Good for grocery lists, notes, or just random doodles.

These headbands are great! They are completely bendy so you can shape them to your head (Apparently my head is sort of square...)

I found, and recently posted, this coat which can be found for $25 on Amazon. I absolutely love it, although admittedly it's only 6/10 on keeping you warm. The scarf and gloves are separate.

You guys, SHIRT STAYS. https://www.walmart.com/ip/Jelinda-Shirt-Stays-Garter-Belts-for-Men-and-Women/150395485 You will never feel like a bigger dork, but your shirt actually stays reliably tucked in and neat.

I just posted a comment but I live in SoCal too and just got this modern looking cloak and it's nice and light weight.

Yes! I desperately wanted a medium sized, convertible backpack tote bag, and searched for years. It’s hard to find one that’s durable, comfortable, practical in its convertible-ness, and in my price range. But I found one! And I love it. Its so much more convenient then any purse or tote no matter what size or features it had. Too hot and don’t want to wear my coat? Fits in my bag! Going out all day and need to bring lunch? Conveniently fits with ease! Need a small cross body purse to carry while shopping? Lucky me it rolls in half and converts to crossbody!

I’m also keep my wallet inside a smaller purse inside my backpack to grab when I need something super small, I can just take it out and go.

I feel like this is exactly what "athleisure" is for. Flowy yoga tanks and comfy sports bras and running shorts. I like Athleta, although I don't like paying for it. They have lots of stuff that's feminine but comfy, plus cute sports bras to contain the girls.

Or t-shirt dresses are pretty big right now, and they're just big comfy t-shirts but with short girly sleeves so you look less schlumpy than you would in an oversized men's t-shirt or whatever. Many super cheap on amazon, I have this one and I quite like it (pockets!) even though it shrunk in the dryer on me >:[ I just wear it with cropped leggings now, whatever. So maybe hang that bad boy to dry, if you like your butt covered.

On a similar note, I am also as bra-free as possible, but find myself using silicon nude-colored pasties (something like this) when I really want to wear a certain shirt and it's not socially/professionally appropriate to show my nipples. Highly recommend!! None of the constraint and looks entirely like you're wearing a bra. Stick incredibly well. A+

It is a very well known thing. You take the well known isolating effects of working remotely, add in a culture of 24/7 bro-ness, and add a bunch of bright, highly perfectionistic people who don't like anything getting in their way at work, and it's a fucking disaster.

My husband went through 5 jobs in under 3 years (not all of them remote). We had a newborn at the time. I had to create a series of rules. It was not good. My sympathies to you. He's very happy right now because he's at a company that understands the challenges of a remote workforce and they have regular retreats and attend a bunch of conferences together. Good project management of any workforce is essential but it's even more so when you have people who have high expectations of themselves and who burn out easily. Now it's his first question in interviews: how do you cater to the needs of your team?

Minnesotan checking in - I own like 10 pairs of fleece lined leggings, and 1 merino wool pair of leggings for those polar vortex days. Two layers of leggings is pretty typical come December/January/February. I pair this with winter boots, A-line skirts/dresses layered with cardigans and oversized sweaters, giant scarves, and knee-length wool or down jackets. Love the silhouette, and all the layers makes for a very practical cold climate wardrobe. You can get packs of 6-8 fleece leggings on Amazon. like this

Big fan of this from Amazon, I tend to cover up a bit more on top because of the sun and I think it is still breezy and light enough that it doesn't bother me. I threw it on over jeans once and it worked as an oversized top too.

I ordered [this dress](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G72KS6D/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00__o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) in red. We're going to a nice restaurant, and it's our first married Valentine's Day!

I just started a job. Well technically not even started yet, (my first day is on monday) and my boss sent me an invite to their holiday party next friday. $50 yankee swap gift. Ordered the Amazon bundle! Fire stick and Alexa speaker for $40 ! Theres a lot of guys in the office so hopefully it's a good gift.

I just got these socks from Costco, and honestly I am VERY impressed. Softer than my smartwool hiking socks and a little lighter than my medium weight hiking socks. The price is great and I love that this pack comes with two "normal" colors and two fun striped pairs.

Okay, before we all start losing our shit, it looks like their cashmere sweaters are 10-20% cashmere.

Mens Cashmere 10%

Womens Cashmere 20%

I bought this Jack&Chris leather purse from Amazon and it's wonderful. The leather is soft and didn't have any smell when I got it. It fits all of my stuff perfectly and the crossbody strap makes it super versatile.

A face mask, you say? May I recommend this one?

...I just had to share that link...

29 / Chicago /musician

Today's brunch fit - trying to look cute in 100* weather

Ray Ban sunglasses / Ulla Johnson top / Zara skirt

Just got back from Europe, and I'm rediscovering all the stuff that I haven't seen for three weeks! Unfortunately, my SO took this picture and didn't get my shoes... sigh. So hard to find good help ;) But I wore these shoes, if you all can picture it. CCW!

Really depends on your location & the club itself--I would suggest googling the venue & seeing what snapshots people have posted on social media; go off that.

I find that standards change a lot between locations. What works in LA is considered trashy in DC. What works in DC is considered drab in Miami. Even within the same city--same neighborhood, even--different venues will cater to different demographics, and this reflects in the dress code.

But! Since you asked, here are favorite club dresses:

1. Bodycon
2. Free People lace slip
3. Crop top+anything high waisted

Thigh high boots+short dress+clutch purse is my winning formula (but I love an excuse to wear as little as possible, and it sounds like I'm in the minority here).

Here's mine

Not pictured is a small ikea dresser of underthings and band tees. I've spent the last 7 months really paring down and cultivating a wearable wardrobe. I bought 100 of those velvet hangers which have helped organize my closet while forcing me to be extra choosy when adding clothes as I love it too much to add a plastic hanger. Here's my clothes album that FFA has helped immensely with improving quality and versatility.

Fashion tip!!! If you have inexpensive "gold tone" jewelry or fixtures on accessories which have deteriorated over time so they are no longer gold, you can refresh them with a gold paint pen. I have been using the Krylon 18k Gold Leafing Pen.

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Search "button cami" on amazon to see other dupes as well!

Is it thinning all over, or are there just patches missing? My good friend goes through phases where she loses patches of hair, but she is able to wear her hair up in a bun or ponytail and it's not noticeable at all. However, I wouldn't suggest this if your hair is thinning all over - putting your hair up causes extra stress on it that you don't need.

There is also this hair powder filler I saw that may be good if you want to wear your hair down - it's kind of like eyebrow filler but for your scalp. You may also want to look into something called "hair fibers." I tried googling these but you may just want to check out the hair section in your drugstore or grocery store. I remember seeing these there and at the mall. Something kind of like this but you should do your own research. I don't know how gimmicky these are.

Otherwise it kind of looks like hats/headbands/scarves for the short term or wigs for the long term, like what other people are saying. I'm not really familiar with wigs but they sound kind of itchy :/ If it were me I would probably wear a knit hat or something unless I was pretty sure this was going to be like a six months+ of continuing thinning hair. I want to suggest like a cute fedora but those have gotten a bad rep in the last few years. Or you could just go full on Sinead O'Connor, shave your head, and wear a bow to feminize it. Or pretend it's 1999 and wear a handkerchief headband thing.

I spent nearly $100 on these Tom Ford Saskia sunglasses. I needed some new sunglasses as my old ones were pretty scratched up, and I finally had a "real" job after graduating from college, and was also inspired by listening to a Tom Ford interview...it's a long story. But I bought the glasses as a reminder to not be a doormat and to not take any crap from anyone. :) I still have them, although one night getting out of the car they fell on the driveway and I stepped on them and now they have two big scratches on each lens.

I find Franco Sarto shoes really comfortable while also looking nice and professional at the same time.

Old Navy, despite being cheap I've got some really nice clothes from there that look more expensive.

These leggings. Literally the most comfortable leggings ever made and they are also very affordable.