I bought these pads from amazon initially to put a pad in my car in case my water would break in the car, ended up ordering a big pack of them for changing the baby out in public. They are not that expensive and will absorb the leaks perfectly: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005FGN4ZC/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Omg so handsome 😭 this is what I’m getting for my little guy’s first. Hope you get a great list of ideas!!Step2 Rain Showers Splash Pond Water Table | Kids Water Play Table with 13-Pc Accessory Set https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01K1K0K6M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_5-EhFbYYXEARN
I got this one from Amazon. It’s great and has good reviews!
YGJT Baby Balance Bikes Bicycle Baby Walker Rides Toys for 1 Year Boys Girls 10 Months-24 Months Baby's First Bike First Birthday Gift Blue (Blue) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0776RHXXP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_TVEhFb9MJBBF6
If you are breastfeeding/pumping I LOVED this pumping bra. I would pump at night while washing dishes or bottles. Lol. Made life easy. I also agree with the above comments- nose frida snot sucker is amazing and I LOVE my ergo!
Simple Wishes Hands-Free Breastpump Bra, Pink, XS-L https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00295MQLU/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_0.ayub008Y9KQ
I've been using this on and off for about two years, I can make about 10-15 dollars a day, during the school year when the Universities need test subjects. The work will be slow at first, but once you get your numbers up, and depending on what quals you get you can make so much more than that.
good resource page.
I also highly recommend It's not the Stork. It is a basic into to sex book that explains everything at a 3-6 year old level.
It includes basic anatomy, proper names for parts, how babies are made, and safety. It talks about how families come in all shapes and sizes, and much more.
I also recommend the other books, It's So Amazing for 7 year olds to puberty and "It's Perfectly Normal" for puberty age kids.
My daughter loves the book and it still catches me a bit off guard when she picks it for bedtime stories (we'll just do a chapter or two). Oh great, impromptu sex talk tonight I see. I do my best to make it no big deal.
I got some stuff to increase my sensitivity, mine is made by KY sorry not trojan. It took me about 15months PP to "get there" it turns out what I want has completely changed. I also tried watching a little bit of porn a few hours before hand to help jump start my battery. Usually something where the woman is treated like a goddess or being massaged. I rarely watched the actual sex parts. It helped a bit. Things aren't how they used to but its certainly better.
Edit: K-Y Intense Arousal Gel https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01G7MXO9I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_0yGiDb3ERC5KW
So it sounds like there are a few different separate issues here.
First, the "my baby" thing, and the crying thing, would sort of freak me out too. I don't know how you can change it, but it sounds almost like she might be unable to control her emotions with regards to your son or something.
Second, the ignoring your style of parenting/your rules thing is something you can (and should) address. Lay down the law--if she wants to watch him, she has to be consistent with how you have decided to raise him.
Third, why do you think baby talk will promote poor language development? Most researchers actually believe the opposite--that infant-directed speech plays an important role in an infant's development of language or understanding of language. I'm not saying that choosing to not use baby talk will hurt him, but your MIL using baby talk will almost certainly not hurt him either (and many people think it's a good thing). Here are some general articles on infant-directed speech.
We use this feelings poster: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0147I4IHG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Whenever kiddo is upset, like when yours growls to indicate he has big feelings, refer to the feelings poster to name the feeling. The more he can name his feelings, the more power he will have over them. Right now, he just has a feeling and doesn't know what to call it or how to express it.
Next, work on expressing the feelings. Give him reasonable outlets for those feelings. If he's mad or sad, he can say "I need a hug" or "I need to be alone for 5 min" or "I need to go outside and get some sunshine" or "I need to snuggle my dog". If he's happy he can jump for joy, make a happy scream, call a family member to tell them his happy feeling, etc.
I've learned a lot about my ability to name feelings too. Turns out there's a whole spectrum beyond "frustrated".
Babies seriously don't need daily bath time. You might work against a healthy self regulation. Only sponge baths for the first two weeks anyway. If you don't believe us, maybe the Mayo clinic clinic is a reliable source. Please look it up.
Don't force right-handedness on your child.
It disrupts normal brain development
It may cause lesions in the brain
There are also studies that are being conducted to see if there are links between forcing right-handedness and depression and anxiety.
I was forced to be right-handed due to religious practice and I now have very poor dexterity in both hands. I'm clumsy, my writing is sloppy, cutting foods is a challenge, and I have difficulty catching and throwing objects. It's very difficult to deal with.
Tell your husband to let his child just be himself. There is nothing wrong with left-handedness and the world is not just for right-handed people.
It's not required to bring for any age. I've never used one on the plane, but if you're going to need them at the destination, might be just as easy to sit in them on the way rather than checking.
You should be able to find seat measurements and then compare to your seats, and don't forget the narrowness of the aisles. Keep in mind some are heavy and awkward while you're handling your kids too.
My friend recently posted abut these. She liked them. plane harness
Definitely sunscreen and plenty of formula/breastmilk. He will be thirsty from being warm. Also, bring a packable half tent. I included a link below.
Here is one of them. They are rip, bite, and water proof. Apparently they can be washed, never done so, just wiped down with water. They're very simple books, so my toddler likes them for independent reading.
You can buy it off Amazon https://www.amazon.ca/Fun-World-Unisex-Children-Raccoon-Multicolor/dp/B00YVIKH5A/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1537906333&sr=8-2&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=raccoon+costume+baby&dpPl=1&dpID=415V9rO66WL&ref=plSrch#
Or we went to spirit Halloween and bought the same costume there! That was kind of our theme for her nursery! Who doesn't love a cute trash panda lol!
I don’t know if you realize how scary it is that a total stranger, who has zero interest and is just proving a point, just found out what city this woman and her family live in in a matter of MINUTES. From just a picture and a username. That’s pretty terrifying. She didn’t claim to be some cyber security expert or have above average computer skills, just a regular person who knows how to use google, as we all do. What if she did have malicious intent, and now she has all that information?? Information that the kid’s parent gave away, online, to strangers. Thankfully, she was just proving a point to show how easy OP made it to get information on her family.
And there’s no reason to be disrespectful, especially if you genuinely don’t believe this is something we should be concerned with.
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Here’s a book you may find interesting, highly recommend it.
You can always search Google Scholar to read up on research on any topic. Here's a search for breastfeeding, but you could try some other keywords, like breastmilk, lactation, etc.
I've never heard of any research about breastmilk not being the best food for babies. The only negatives I've heard are that breastmilk can require more frequent feedings because it is digested faster-- but this is a convenience issue, not a nutrition issue.
There's also the issue of Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex, a pretty rare phenomena in which some women feel sad or upset in the few minutes while their milk lets down.
If your baby will sleep beside you, I would go with one of these:
The problem I had with my first was that he just wanted to sleep on my chest, which meant I got no sleep at all. I’m hoping my second will sleep in the co-sleeper.
There are other options as well for co-sleepers. Co-sleeping without the right gear is really quite dangerous.
Stroller fan, I was so hot and they had to keep the rooms warm for the baby and the fan saved me and then we get to use it now for the stroller!
Thermometer accuracy from most to least accurate: rectal, temporal(forehead), oral, tympanic(ear). I’m a paramedic, at work we use tympanic thermometers because of the convenience factor but we’re mainly looking for the presence of a fever and not the exact number. It’s consistently 1-2 degrees off. I get a lot of 96 degrees. In the hospital, they use a $300 Exergen temporal thermometer and with kids with high fevers they get a rectal. At home, I use a $26 Exergen temporal thermometer I bought on Amazon.
Are you me??
But seriously, this is the exact situation I was in a few months ago. I lived my life on the floor with the baby right next to me just so I wouldn't have to hold her, while my 4 year old pretty much ran the house. I couldn't put the baby down to go to the bathroom without her screaming bloody murder, let alone clean or cook or anything. Thankfully, my husband was working swing at the time, so that at least gave me mornings to shower and take care of the house a little.
This went on for 8 months. 8. Freaking. Months. Then something happened, like a switch just flipped in her brain. I put her down to get something from the kitchen, and she was fine with it. She happily sat and played with a toy in the living room while waving to me. Now she's a completely different baby!!
A few things that helped me so much were 1. Babywearing and 2. Getting a high chair like this one to put on the kitchen counter while I made dinner/washed dishes. Of course, make sure the baby is far away from anything hot or dangerous if you do that, and make sure you're standing right there so they don't tumble off the counter.
You'll get through this, I promise!!
We have a super tiny kitchen. We have this hanging over our pantry door because we don't have any extra counter/cabinet space. The top pocket are tall bottles, the next is different flange sizes and the straw things that go in the Dr. Brown's bottles, the next is for the short bottles, and the bottom pocket is for nipples, pacis, and caps. If you don't have a door in your kitchen, I'm sure it would be easy to pin up on the wall.
Wasn't sure if you are aware of the high arsenic content of brown rice. Per this consumer reports article, "Brown rice has 80 percent more inorganic arsenic on average than white rice of the same type."
We recently started buying house cleaning from Handy off a groupon. We're paying $160 a month and I felt deeply guilty spending that money on something I could so easily do myself for free.
But the thing is I never did find enough time to clean the way I'd like. I was burdened with a terrible level of guilt at how our house looked.
After the first 4 or 5 bi-weekly visits my husband came to me and said "yknow....it really is nice to have the house clean"
Seriously, it is. The level of stress off my back vs the cost, it was a good choice for us.
Yes, I came to suggest her too! She has a YouTube channel and an Instagram too (but I find her TikToks the most helpful), she wrote a book, and her [website](strugglecare.com) has lots of templates and a workbook that look great.
Thanks for the suggestion. I bought it and amazon then suggested What Makes a Baby. Slow down there, amazon!
We got a "security camera" instead of a baby monitor. I found them to be cheaper but better quality on Amazon. The one we got uses an app on our phones instead of a screen piece so I don't have to worry about misplacing it with my mom brain.
Eta: my SO can open the app when he's miles away at work and it works great.
YI Home Camera Wireless IP Security Surveillance System (US Edition) White https://www.amazon.com/dp/B016F3M7OM/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_ySbAzb9Z0AHC1
Honestly, I don't think this bag can do more than your pram, and this nappy wallet in your handbag can't do 🤷🏼♀️
Personally, I'd hate travelling with so much bulky stuff.
We have a tub, but Grandma's house has only showers. When my daughter was younger, she disliked the shower. Now (1.5 yrs), while she is dubious initially, once she's in she finds the spray from the detachable shower head very ticklish, and giggles through most of the shower! Maybe you can find a shower sprayer that's quieter and/or gentler? One thing I'd considered for Grandma's but never tried, was using an inflatable pool like this: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000I9RZOW/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_UEaWub0SH89D5
Hope that helps!
What about a portable booster seat instead? Could strap it to the seat, and kiddo could be strapped down with a tray to play on.
Research Research Research please! No fear tactics! For example:
edit: I should clarify this is what helps me decide what is allowed in the home, choose one thing over another, etc.
Do it!! I gave up underwire bras during lockdown in 2020 and I am never looking back. I’m not wearing nursing bras, but all bras are wireless and my chest is much happier. Warner’s Cloud 9 Wire-Free Contour Bra doesn’t have every size unfortunately, but if they have your size I highly recommend it!
I couldn't find the exact one I bought but this one looks very similar and is also similarly priced. Way easier than learning to use those super long wraps lol
Your comment made me cry! We've gotten a lot of crazy news the last couple weeks, good and bad, and I've been tearing my hair out trying to keep all these new fires going. Thank you so much for being so kind. I'd give you the biggest hug right now if I could!! 💗
You need a baby washing hat! I wish I would’ve known about these when my kids were toddlers!
There’s no minimum weight, they sell an infant insert (I got mine for $20 on marketplace) to help secure the head and make the straps fit better. You just tilt the seat back a little extra. Hope this helps!
Edit: called Snug Seat UPPAbaby Infant SnugSeat https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0051Y1L1W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_T63E87CP1EXFWS6ZT78K?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Not exactly what you asked for but I love this swim dress from Amazon:
COCOSHIP Vintage Sailor Pin Up Swimsuit Retro One Piece Skirtini Cover Up Swimdress(FBA) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01F6M5NK8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_XXW5D1J0MVJ744BNXREG?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
It holds the boobs in and since it has the skirt and shorts I can sprint after the toddler without worrying about giving everyone a show at either end. 🤣 The skirt will camouflage the Mom pouch well and it’s a classic silhouette that I find flattering and subtly sexy. I always get compliments on this suit!
I have one very similar to this. It has the ruched tummy area, and since it's a speedo, it really pulls everything in and up. It's a little tight getting it over my hips, but once it's on, it stays put.
I had a C-section with my 2.5 year old. She’s still jealous, but Mom and Dad taking her out for individual time together each week really helps. (Plus it gives me an excuse to take a break from the baby and go eat frozen yogurt.)
She also enjoys fetching diapers, showing the baby her toys, singing the baby a song, anything to help out and get involved.
Just generally having chores around the house helps her feel like a part of the family. She feeds the cats, waters the flowers, mixes the oatmeal for breakfast, puts away her own laundry (if I open the correct drawers for her). Anything that can make her feel like she contributes and earns her praise.
Now that I’m feeling better, I’ve started doing a “cleaning party” when the house needs tidying. I put on upbeat music like “Happy” by Pharrell Williams and we dance around the room as we clean.
Another commenter mentioned underwear, and I’m living in these: Frida Mom Disposable High Waist C-Section Postpartum Underwear | Super Soft, Stretchy, Breathable, Wicking, Latex-Free, Regular (8 Count) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07TXDBMD5/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_XMN91BYG4CMTE4D72XH3?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Take as many home from the hospital as you can get your hands on, and maybe buy extras from Amazon. So far they’re looking pretty raggedy but are surviving 3-4 washes, so they’ll last until I’m brave enough to switch to a normal waistband.
The hospital also gave me a belly binder. I couldn’t figure out how to make it work for me, but you should ask for one and try it out.
We have a buckle whale and also a peg hedgehog that would probably be good for your little: https://www.amazon.com/Learning-Resources-Spike-Hedgehog-Sensory/dp/B078WM314M/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=porcupine+learning+toy&qid=1607449098&sprefix=porcupine+le&sr=8-3
You might consider trying a HALO SleepSack. That one is cotton and allows you to swaddle their arms in, or one can leave the arms out and just wrap the "wings" around his belly. For a lighter cover, you can consider a muslin sleep sack like this one. To be clear, I'm not advocating for HALO; I really like the Aden and Anais muslin sleep sack, and there are several other brands available via Amazon, Jet, Google, etc. As for camping, it's the same as anywhere else (unless he's under 8lbs - if I recall that weight correctly). Dress him as you'd dress yourself. If you need an extra layer to stay warm, so does baby. I'm not sure that's what you were asking, though; did I address your concerns?
I highly recommend Oh Crap by Jamie Glowacki. She dedicates an entire chapter to poop! It was really enlightening and super helpful. I even got it from my local library just 8n case it wasn't helpful I wouldn't have to buy it. It was, and when it was due, I returned it and immediately bought it on Amazon so I could make notes and reread my own copy.
As someone else said, fisher price is better for hip development. I used it for baby #1, and honestly, we could have done without it. We didn’t use it that much.
I had a hand me down bumbo with tray (like the first one pictured) and we used it as a place to eat away from home. We’d take it to friends or my parents house and strap it to a chair so she could eat while there. We now remove the foam part and she can still sit in it to eat (19 months old, almost 30 lbs, chunky thighs) but she has almost maxed it out.
If I could do it again, I’d buy a different, more portable high chair system and skip the others. Maybe one like this.
Your kiddo is so adorable!!!
I second suggestions of a water table, little people farm, and LEGO duplo or mega blocks. But we got a fantastic deal on this Melissa and Doug diner set and I think it will be a favorite for my daughter for years to come!
The only toys that my kids play with consistently are magna-tiles and mag forms. Basically any magnetic building toys. I have 3 boys ages 6, 3, and 3. We have tons of toys and the magnet toys are the only ones that get played with pretty much daily. Here is a link of what I'm talking about:
Have a great 1st birthday with your little one :)
Try a wubbanub or a dr brown lovey (dr brown loveys are better imo because you can remove and replace the pacifier). It’s a small stuffed animal that attaches to the paci...makes it a million times easier to find them.
Here’s a link
Your baby will only sleep in the bassinet area for such a short time before they are rolling. You will be carrying a diaper bag until potty training and possibly beyond (toddlers needs extra clothes and snacks).
I suggest getting one with less bells and whistles.
I got one that looks similar 5 years ago. It doesn’t have the diaper changing area or bassinet. It’s great. I use it with my second kid now too. Zippers still work, it’s in decent condition for daily use.
This is what I had (I am poor), I'm sure there's better ones out there but I adore this! It was amassing, super smooth when running, worked from new born to 2. At 2 she figured out how to escape :| so...
But anyways, for the price I was so impressed. The only thing was my kiddo hated the car seat part, but she hated back facing seats so I kinda feel like it wouldn't have mattered if I had a different seat.
I'm a wee bit introverted, so I like working out at home. Normally I hoop, which helped me a lot! But for something free and easy at home I did the pop Pilates work outs on YouTube :)
Someone on here just posted this baby-led weaning PDF cookbook for me the other day and it's chock full of interesting-looking recipes. I have only tried one so far, and it's been a hit (bananas dipped in yogurt and whey powder, then frozen).
I love our City Mini GT - it's really easy to maneuver, incredibly easy to fold, has the quick snap car seat adapters for Britax car seats, and is not too heavy for travel. We also use the Manito Elegance Alpha rain cover ( Manito Elegance Plus Stroller Weather Shield / Rain Cover (Blue - 5 Available Colors) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007IVMPCK/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_dd4Pub1BA8HRE) to help keep out the cold. It's not cheap, but works amazingly well (both for the cold of New York and the rain of Seattle). Between that and the baby sleeping bag (similar to the JJ Cole BundleMe) we were given by a friend, our little one stays very warm on winter outings.
That is very scary. I used a Snuza with my son for his entire first year. It gave me so much peace of mind. The best part about it was that you could use it anywhere not just in the crib. Worth every penny.
twoX is a great resource when facing this decision. there are a ton of stories on there of women who went through with an abortion and women who didn't. reading through can help you prepare, know what to expect, and what resources are available to you.
while at Planned Parenthood, you should definitely talk to them about an IUD. it will be much cheaper than buying the pill out of pocket each month and is much more effective than the pill. and while we're at it, pregnant or not, you should look into whether or not you qualify for Medicaid
We did this and it does work. We don't often use time outs though, only for serious things like hitting. Hitting and biting are automatic time outs (ame number of minutes as child's age). We use loss of privileges instead (loss of tv or game time, toys not being cleaned up are put away where they can't get them, etc)
1, 2, 3 magic is basically a way to warn them. For us, it's usually "You need to start/stop doing what Mommy asked you or <insert privilege lost>" Then the 1... 2... 3 starts. If you get to 3, you must follow through and it must be something they value losing. It will be hard and you may get whining and tantrums. Your kid will get over it. My daughter will now reluctantly comply, even whilst complaining, once the 1 and 2 come out. She's almost 4. My almost 2 year old has heard it enough now that she recognizes it too.
Haha too funny. For the future-
These are our favorite! We're also doing blw, but yogurt is just so much easier in these. Reusable, dishwasher and freezer safe. :-)
My heart goes out to you. The love for your son radiates, and the fight you have for him is so moving!
I recently came across a TED Talk by Dr Aditi Shankardass, a pediatric neurologist. No words I could provide will give it justice, but I strongly suggest checking it out. Here is her website: https://sites.google.com/site/aditishankardass/
Another one I'd like to share has inspired a good friend with an autistic son: http://tedxteen.com/talks/tedxteen-2012/111-jacob-barnett-forget-what-you-know
I'm sending you love rays and a virtual hug :)
I have a cozy cover for my car seat (got it at Walmart) and it's great. It stretches over and has a little flap you can pull up to see baby and close it to keep baby warm. https://jet.com/product/detail/1f202eafd908434bb3c5b3518052e438?jcmp=pla:ggl:cwin_baby_toddler_a3:baby_transport_accessories_baby_toddler_car_seat_accessories_a3_other:na:na:na:na:na:2&code=PLA15&k_clickid=3f090e38-c48e-4b22-906f-dc6b5aa55...
I loved my kelty kangaroo. (front carrier) I had one for my first son, and then i bought the same one used on ebay after I misplaced it in a move (or perhaps i gave it away) it was just like this:
Yup. Several years ago I made hand made gifts for everyone and they loved them. I did a variation of the photo coaster tiles that everyone was doing back in 2011. But instead of using smooth tiles and regular paper, I used the natural stone tiles and printed photos on tissue paper. The kind you wrap gifts in.
I taped tissue wrapping paper to regular printer paper, printed out the picture and then lightly dabbed watercolors onto them. It was very tricky to do because the tissue paper tears and folds up easily, but I did it. After the painting was dry, I slathered mod podge onto the tile and covered it with the tissue. Again, it was tricky not to tear the tissue, but even with a few mistakes, they turned out incredible. I found that layering photos on photos made a cool effect, too.
Here are some ideas.
It should help you feel better that it's not personal against your husband. This isn't a sign that he's a bad Daddy.
Your baby sounds healthy and normal and his instincts are wanting to be near you.
The more time and care he gets from Daddy, the sooner he will recognize him as another safe person. I know it sounds corny, but diaper changes really are bonding. I used to nurse the baby, and then DH would burp the baby if he was home. Our son didn't burp easily, so he'd often spend 30 minutes eating and then 15-20 minutes getting burped!
This article on normal newborn behavior may help, too: https://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=101949363196728&id=134844053221572
Read about this in a book called <em>The Happiness Project</em> by Grechen Ruben. I have tried to concentrate on rewarding my kids with experiences instead of stuff since then.
My kids each have a marble jar where they can earn marbles for doing extra chores, getting ready on time, being good listeners, etc. Then they can use their marbles to buy experiences like a trip to the park, a trip to grandma's house, frozen yogurt at the DIY yogurt place, out to dinner with just mom or dad. We've been doing it for a few months and they LOVE it. So far, it's worked longer than any other "system" that I've tried to implement.
Try getting him more stimulating toys, maybe ones that are a little advanced? At 6 months, my daughter loved this Einstein kids music toy that flashed lights and her bouncer. I definitely recommend a bouncer and a swing. Babies like movement.
Between these two things (linked below) baby was never bored. Sorry for the crazy long urls!
Good luck. I honestly sympathize with you. Sleep training my son was a nightmare! I sat sat outside his room for 45 minutes (popping in at the appropriate intervals) and felt like a horrible mother. He wont co-sleep, he wont be rocked to sleep, so I just have to listen to him scream. The biggest thing to remember when sleep training is that your goal is for you and baby to get the best night sleep possible. It doesn't matter if that is achieved by co-sleeping, or crib, or whatever, as long as it works for everyone.
That aside, here are somethings we tired that might work for you.
*Firmly establish and stick to a strict bedtime routine. This applies to naps as well *Try white noise. You can get white noise machine, or this website is free and sounds lovely. *Look into The Happiest Baby on the Block series if you haven't already. I was able to check out the DVD at my local library. *Here is a method that is a little different than the CIO method. While I don't agree with everything on it, it is worth trying if your kid is that miserable.
Again good luck! <3
This isn't you. This is a stock photo available on Shutterstock.
If you're looking for something online, Cozi has a great meal planner/shared family calender (you can set appointments or other obligations into the calendar so everyone knows what's going on for everyone else.
I also have a meal planner that I made that works great for us... The pocket holds slips of paper with common meals that we enjoy (including pizza night, date night, fend-for-yourself night, and special events) that I sort onto the daily magnets. The yellow note pad is used to make my shopping list each week. I do my shopping one night a week (usually Sunday after church) and pick up things that won't hold the day of (garlic bread for instance). This gets Hubby involved in the meal planning, we all know what is going on for the week, and everyone knows where the shopping list is so we can easily add to it.
There is this vibrating strawberry teether that my two babies loved! Got it at local grocery store. Similar to this one but it was a strawberry. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0013FCBJO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_AT5XTPQEFJWTFB51AEG7
You’re welcome! It’s really hard to give 1:1 attention when neither kiddo wants to be away from you! Full disclosure, I’m a child psychologist (and mom of only one now!) and would recommend reading or listening to The Incredible Years: A Trouble-Shooting Guide for Parents of Children Aged 2-8 Years https://www.amazon.com/dp/1892222043/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_navT_a_2NCKK4JK36WZ3V4B9S48 it’s evidence-based and gives practical advice for handing tantrum behaviors. You’ve got this mama!
I had twins, c-section, born at 28 weeks! We bought a double frame stroller while I was pregnant, but ended up buying a single frame after they were born, since there were so many appointments that only one baby needed to go to. I liked this frame stroller: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00838BNK2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_0MPHJW9PB382W26QTJHS?psc=1
I have this one and I love it. Diaper Bag Backpack, RUVALINO Multifunction Travel Back Pack Maternity Baby Changing Bags, Large Capacity, Waterproof and Stylish, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07HL6FV5F/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_9T0A8CCC0MCGPJPZRWSH
I got this diaper bag on Amazon and have really loved it so far. It had lots of compartments and ample storage. It’s not bad looking either.
Leather Diaper Bag Backpack by Miss Fong,Baby Registry Search,Backpack Diaper Bag with Changing Pad,Wipes Pouch,Diaper Bag Organizer,Stroller Straps and Insulated Pockets (Black Convertible) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0764KDSR6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_84HKGZ36BSA2B95HB2ET?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
[HD] Video Baby Monitor, AXVUE... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B086MT23ZB?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I got this one on Amazon after a lot of research. I like that it can be split screen and doesn’t toggle back and forth. You can also have it on one room or the other but I usually have it up on both rooms. We are a one story house though so make sure it would work for 2 if you go that route
I got this exact belt when I was pregnant, and I couldn't have made it without it! This thing was a life saver! I highly recommend some kind of support belt. They may be a small hassle to get on and off, but the relief of the back pain was well worth it.
P.S. this high backed version is perfect for long work shifts on your feet.
Prince Lionheart Squish Booster Seat, Gumball Green, 3-Point Harness and Dual-Strap System, Easy to Wipe Clean, and Lightweight https://www.amazon.com/dp/B073579L6M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_VPwOUGfRAekbe
I personally hated the dang FP booster. Which sucked because on paper, I loved everything about it. In reality it didn’t have enough for for chonk thighs, it didn’t sit at our table properly. It was too tall for our shorter table, even on the small setting, and it was too tall AND too short for our (now) tall table.
It was just a PITA all around.
Admittedly, I have no clue about how to keep food or of the woven part, but this little guy fits on any chair and converts to a booster seat later.
Plus the pad and buckles are removable and machine washable
Definitely have a talk!
I’d also drop a few books in the bookcase that she can access that are she appropriate and informative. I really like it’s perfectly normal by Robbie H. Harris but there are loads out there
Having the talk is also helpful, but kids this age also don’t know what they don’t know so it’s nice to have a comprehensive book that they can peruse
To be fair, I have really loved the age gap. We really prepped our oldest for being a big brother and he takes it very seriously.
What threw us off is the fact that we moved to a new city at the beginning of April and no daycare wanted to take my son for just a couple months before he starts kindergarten. So this kid, who has been around other kids since he was 13 months old, aside from 6 weeks due to covid before the center put in a bunch of new protocols, has been home with us for 2.5 months. He's finally started camp this week but it's only a half day and he honestly needs so much more. It's just been nuts.
Good luck to you with your little one. Oh, if your oldest is interested in some sciency things, we read the book 9 months before baby is born and he really liked following along with the baby's development. https://www.amazon.com/Nine-Months-Before-Baby-Born/dp/0823449386/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=9+months+book&qid=1624461462&sr=8-3
I have these in a bunch of different colors and they’re pretty affordable. Very soft and comfy too.
I haven’t gone through the postpartum hair loss yet (currently 5.5 mos pregnant and dreading the inevitable) but - I went through a pretty stressful period of time last year that caused quite a bit of hair loss. My doctor suggested I use Nioxin products to help it grow back. Been on it since September 2020 and have seen a huuuge difference in hair growth as well as the overall health/vitality of my hair. I use the shampoo, conditioner/scalp treatment and a hair mask once a week or so. I noticed a huge difference prior to my pregnancy too.
I use system 4 but you can go to their website to help determine which is best for you! Good luck, hair loss is the worst.
Nioxin Full-Size System Kits 2, 4, & 6, 3-Pc Hair Loss Shampoo, Conditioner & Scalp Treatment, For Progressed to Advanced Thinning Hair, 3 Month Supply https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0794F14V6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_B4MJJJEJKTTT8HMSB4Z6?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
We used ‘oh crap’ and I know others have had success with it. We waited until he was a little older, because the 1 year old room at daycare didn’t have a toilet but I think he would have been ready then if we wanted to.
Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right (1) (Oh Crap Parenting) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1501122983/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_TN3NY4F8VV7ZE80X4D47
I bought these and looooved them. So comfy and not too tight on the belly. Terramed Maternity Leggings Active Wear Over The Bump Pants Pregnancy Shaping Over The Belly Postpartum Breastfeeding https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GFI53XK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_W3D77S2Z1SE2T02MCAGC?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Seriously go on Amazon and buy the 5 pack of double zipper onsies. My twins lived in those for the first two months. They don’t need ruffles and crap. I also don’t need ruffles and crap. Also, who thought about putting giant button on the back of the dresses? How is this kid suppose to sit in a car seat with those things jabbing their back?
Function over fluff.
My motto anyway.
Here is the link (not sure if it’s allowed. I’m not affiliate or anything. Just live these onsies. Double zipper for easy diaper change and built in mittens )
Gerber Baby Girls' 4 Pack Sleep 'N Play Footie, Cloudy, Newborn https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GFTV58Z/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_BSK9K1VWEWB80AYH7EGS
Mustela makes a wide stick balm that's perfect for wiggly little faces. It's much smaller than it looks in the picture.
I bought a kit off of Amazon that has a piece you attack to the furniture and a piece that goes on the wall. They’re attached to each other with a zip tie that you can loosen in case you want to move the furniture for cleaning or whatever. I highly recommend something like that. It makes it so much easier to retrieve toys that have fallen behind or cleaning.
I bought this book dont lick this book
It’s a fun story... you follow a germ and she shows you things in her world
I just got this for my 1yo, but her sister (3yo) also is really enjoying them! You can use it to make shapes, link them together, talk through them like a phone...very versatile and makes sounds despite not being electric. BunMo Pop Tubes Sensory Fidget Toys 8pk https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07M758NZV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_VS8ZFb6HTGP4Y?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Super helpful for me was the Big Book of Organic Baby Food. You can find it on Amazon. We also have an instant pot which I used to steam food, and a small little Ninja food processor for pureeing. Finally, these silicone freezer molds are great for making a big batch and storing.
The Big Book of Organic Baby Food: Baby Purées, Finger Foods, and Toddler Meals For Every Stage https://www.amazon.com/dp/1943451524/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabt1_ynTQFb2VA43MJ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
WeeSprout Silicone Baby Food Freezer Tray with Clip-on Lid by WeeSprout - Perfect Storage Container for Homemade Baby Food, Vegetable & Fruit Purees and Breast Milk - BPA Free https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LZI32UV/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabt1_doTQFbFCHAJPA
I am currently undergoing pelvic floor pt for POP (grade 2 cystocele). I'm 29 and have had 3 kids (2 were twins). I do really like the PT bc of the biofeedback machine as others posters have mentioned. But if you cannot afford it then I think you could definitely find a way to exercise on your own without PT. I currently perform my kegel exercises this way: laying down, 10 squeezes I hold for 10 seconds each. Then 10 squeezes that I only hold for a second or 2 ("quick flicks"). Then sitting up and then standing up the same things. I do this 3 times a day. I have PT once a week and I do these exercises while attached to the biofeedback machine. And then she hooks up electro stimulation therapy for 15 minutes. It feels weird but doesn't hurt. Also, go to Amazon and search for "Hab It: Pelvic Floor". (Link below). I find these workouts to be extremely helpful for pelvic floor muscles! Anyway, HTH!
Hab It: Pelvic Floor https://www.amazon.com/dp/0510539610/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_ysO8ub1ZT1FBE https://www.amazon.com/dp/0510539610/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_ysO8ub1ZT1FBE
I got the cheapest umbrella stroller I could find from the Amazon equivalent of the country we were living in at the time and used it when I was studying, but also on vacation for a month in Thailand. That was when my son was almost 2 (2014) and he would fall asleep in it. Now we're using it with baby #2. The style is similar to this:
Amazon Link for those looking for it.
I have the hospital abd binder, But it rides up and pinches above my incision. So a few days ago I gave up wearing it. Are the knockoff Amazon binders worth it?
Chongerfei 3 in 1 Postpartum Support Recovery Belly Wrap Waist/Pelvis Belt Body Shaper https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EVH6WQS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_.DNdBbYR6118Y
Also swallowing my pride and ordered high waisted, mild compression underwear to avoid friction on my scar. The same kind I made fun of my mom for wearing. Lol.
I’m going to just throw this out there. I got a $40 carrier on amazon. I just read a bunch of reviews online and people really liked it. It’s called a Vouska carrier. It’s been great for my back and it can also be worn forward facing or on the back. I use it for my 4 month old but it will hold him well into the toddler years. One of the best features is that you can change out the belt strap for a chair. This was very handy when I went to travel with him last week. I can sit down and he still has a seat. Just another option to check out.
My daughter went through this as well. The ONLY way she would take a bottle was using latex nipples. They are hard to come by but are available on Amazon. The silicone ones don’t feel natural to breastfed babies. Gerber First Essential 6 Pack Latex Nipples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000GCL4O8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_7cGWBbWE6YGZB
Hatch. Can be controlled by app and has multiple customizable pre-set options.
Hatch Baby Rest Sound Machine, Night Light and Time-to-Rise https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XMRCC94/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_xVmLFbVF19WMJ
I second this. I use nail scissors with blunted "O" ends and they work so well and I've never even come close to cutting his hands. Even when he's moving and shaking.
I'm reading a young adult fantasy series to my baby and we just listen to my alt rock music, because at this age, she can't tell the difference between baby music and books and stuff. I also have a set of high contrast cards i hold up in front of her and talk to her about a little bit. But mostly we're still doing survival tasks - feeding, sleeping, changing, soothing..
I looooove these magic wand kaleidoscopes for toddler gifts
You can get them in different sizes and colors and the wand part comes out and can be used for pretend play too.
I want to piggyback your comment and add the kellymoms website as an excellent place for information on breastfeeding. The link is for alcohol and BF but it’s a wealth of information!
Also you can get test strips that measure the alcohol in your milk- when I used them they were VERY sensitive! But I would typically feed baby, pump a bit and then have my drink and then test about 2 hours later.
https://www.amazon.com/Guidecraft-Classic-Kitchen-Helper-Write/dp/B000SQNAQC. This is the one we have and it shows it folded up. A little pricey but so worth it and we feel like it’s very safe. We fold it up and set it next to our microwave stand so it stays out of the way when not using it. It’s a sturdy stand but I have a pretty easy time moving it into place. You open it up and latch the sides so they stay open, then fold down the piece they stand on and it locks into place. We like it because he and climb up on his own, but it’s not something he can tip backwards out of.
Thanks for sharing this! I have been looking at stools to get my LO for Christmas or her 1st birthday and found this one.....of course it’s unavailable now. But I like this one better because it’s multi purpose!
Simplay3 Toddler Tower Childrens Step Stool with Three Adjustable Heights, Gray https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07JN77PM3/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_.7SqFbEYA1ZNR
I second the Dimpl. I got the Simpl Dimpl as a freebie with a cloth diaper order and it has a handy clip on it. I put the clip on the zipper pull of my LO's jacket and it kept her busy on the go without the fear of dropping it!
Also, This has been a hit at my house: https://www.amazon.ca/Fisher-Price-Wooden-Toys-Sea-Stacker/dp/B01D8J2VHE
It's kind of loud but a piece of tape over the speaker helps.