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ProtonVPN has a decent free version. I'd suggest trying that and then upgrade if and when you need more features. So far, the free version works great for me.

First of all you must realize that a good portion of anal porn shoots are done with the help of amyl nitrate to relax the muscles. For the ones that aren't, it takes a lot of practice.

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A few people will recommend anal numbing lube, but don't do it as it may numb you to the point you can't feel your body telling you to stop. This being said, use A LOT of lube. Preferably one that works for you and doesn't get that weird sticky feeling too quick. Despite some guides claiming coconut oil etc are the best to use, don't use them as they will damage condoms.

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Start with toys, easy small straight dildos (or buttplugs if you want), relax and take it slow. I know most porn shows anal in doggy style, although try a few different positions as well. Personally doggy style anal is really really painful for me but i can do it missionary or cowgirl style perfectly fine.

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Shape is probably the biggest factor, followed by size. Mushroom head cocks are the absolute worst for anal. Some buttplugs are also pretty bad. I recently got this set and even the middle size (which is a lot smaller than my bulb shaped stainless steel buttplug) hurts due shape. Once you learn to relax then size is a relatively easy barrier to overcome

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Take it nice and slow (I can't stress this enough)! It can take up to 20mins for someone who is inexperienced to be able to relax enough for their butt to be able to take a toy or penis. It's normal.

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Look into Anti-Spy Hidden Camera Detectors x

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...and I straight up would pull this detector thing out in the beginning of the session with no shame to make sure oh dude isn't hiding sinister evil little cameras all around

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Intermittent fasting has worked pretty well for me as long as my diet has been super high-fat or full-blown keto. If it isn’t fat heavy then I just get too hungry/irritable too fast to maintain it.

If you eat out one meal a day and make it a steak or a fish entree with lots of butter and a low carb veg, then supplement with some preplanned snacks or meals the rest of the day, you could pull it off!

Most hotels will have a mini fridge and a microwave, right? Plus you can totally bring a can opener with you. So you can keep eggs, avocados, peanut butter, canned tuna (in oil rather than water), and some fresh low carb veggies on hand. You could potentially bring one of these on tour with you (it’s quite small), so you can make and eat hard boiled eggs with butter or oil. You can get MCT oil and coconut oil and full fat coconut milk to mix into your coffee - that’ll definitely help sustain you. You can use lettuce as cups/wraps to put canned tuna with lotsa mayo and avocado. I can also suggest a keto oatmeal recipe I’m obsessed with that you could pre-mix the dry ingredients for in sandwich baggies, pull out at your hotel to put in a bowl with coconut milk and peanut butter, then microwave. It’s sooo filling and keeps you full for so long - and tons of fibre.

I really think there’s plenty you can do with all these restrictions, you just have to put in a ton of work to research and plan, plan, plan.

Tend skin.

https://www.amazon.com/Tend-Skin-Solution-Unsightly-Ingrown/dp/B001ECQ7G4

Buy on amazon or at target. You apply it every night over the area you shaved and it eliminates razor bumps. I have can’t live without it at this point as I shave completely as well.

Protonmail because its encrypted and it tells you the location of the person emailing you.

Its based in Switzerland so all user data and info is protected by Swiss law. As well, only the user has permission to access to messages unlike other services like Gmail where a gmail employee can access your messages and other private info.

From their blog:

ProtonMail does not fall under the jurisdiction of intrusive US laws (such as the Foreign Intelligence Surveillance Act), and cannot be coerced into working for the NSA 

Our encryption ensures that our users have complete ownership of their data. We don’t have the ability to read it or sell it, even if we wanted to

On the other hand, Gmail can and does read every single one of your emails. If you are not comfortable giving Google unlimited access to all of your intimate communications, then ProtonMail’s approach to data privacy provides more security

https://protonmail.com/blog/protonmail-vs-gmail-security/

I use the round flat ones, wet them and squeeze the excess water out, apply a little lube if needed. I push them in from the center of the sponge with two fingers (so it’s kind of an upside down cup shape going in). Make sure it’s pretty far up there. Never have issues or complaints.

There are also menstrual discs which are flat period cups, I’ve not used but I see other providers have and they work well.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000X29GY6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_2J8XVHAE3QV53DPPQ181

Looks like they ran an update on the app you suggested and it wiped out bad date info for users, I would probably look for something else. I personally just have two phones, I keep an iphone so it backs up to my icloud and haven't lost any client contact cards, notes and blacklists.

From experience it does seem like your website design is gone.
You do still legally own the domain though, its your property.

Wordpress.com and Wordpress are two different "worlds" and you should look at just Wordpress hosting somewhere else.
You can get Wordpress hosting for <5$ a month basically everywhere and they don't do content moderation. The only reason they would shut you down would be reports but they're hard to issue and most hosts don't actually care. Namecheap is a good alternative.
Happy to help if you need it.

Lola Davina address this particular concern in her book Thriving in Sex Work. There's a discount code for the book here. Davina is also in the process of recording her chapters as an audio book, which you can listen to for free here.

If you can afford to spend $30 on a phone tripod, it’s worth the investment. I think the pics I’ve been able to take with my tripod have turned out much better than traditional selfies. Here is a link to the one I use. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D49QTVC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_q9sPCbA3307SC

There is another one on amazon that is cheaper ($17,) well-reviewed and I believe it’s listed as the best-seller. However, I purchased it and it’s a total piece of crap. Couldn’t get it to lock in place so my phone kept tipping forward. So frustrating. So I would recommend just getting the $30 option that is much better quality. I’m mad I wasted $17 on the shitty one.

If you can’t afford a tripod, I think selfie sticks are like $10 or less and you can kind of use them as a makeshift tripod with your phone’s delay photo feature.

CCbill is well known for adult. I bet you can sign up call and they will set it all up. if not you might have to hire someone. However, it would easily be worth the $50-$100 bucks on upwork.com

I would stay away from anything that doesn't allow adult content. You would take a pretty decent hit on subscription numbers and income if you got shut down. Then you would have to deal with merging people over.

try sending DMCA takedown notices via their host, which is Cloudflare: Abuse &amp; DMCA

if that doesn't help, try reporting the ad as fake. o.o

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if that doesn't help either, you can use Copyrighted's DMCA Removal service

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B07N2M72SV/ref=ox_sc_saved_title_10?smid=A2TM8HEDGCIWQA&amp;psc=1

These wax earplugs are what musicians in orchestra pits use. My partner has sleep apnea and only got a c-pap machine a few years ago but for like 2 years we struggled with his earth shaking snoring keeping me up. We even had to sleep in separate rooms when we really wanted to be together. Then I started using these, and it became a non issue. A while later he got medical intervention for his sleep apnea and it's a whole different world, his whole life has been so much better now that he can be truly asleep and truly awake instead of narcoleptic, but all that aside, the orchestra earplugs are a solve on your end.

Here is one on Amazon

Beauty Molly Anal Douche Superior Medical Materials Douche for Women Men enemas Bulbs, 7 Ounce https://www.amazon.com/dp/B016Q1EQ24/ref=cm_sw_r_sm_apa_fabc_K41693E7YMWM0QR3F2HY?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

If you don’t have time to wait on them to get back to an email, you can try to make another account. That worked for me once.. when it flagged again it just flagged my IP address. So I wasn’t able to use that phone for it. Some people have said to use a VPN when you make a new one. Not sure myself if that works. It does say a VPN will flag it. I stopped using it, so I can’t say for sure on that part. There are some free VPNs though.. like ProtonVPN.

No problem! Always happy to help.

I take Renew Life Women's Probiotic - Ultimate Flora Women's Care, 90 Billion CFU I get it off amazon and it's "shelf-stable" so it doesn't need to be refrigerated. This stuff has changed my life, my skin cleared up and my stomach problems are basically gone and I have an immune system of steel, it also helps keep the lady bits healthy. If that one is too pricy they have a similar one with fewer cultures and strains +click here+ I used to take that but I'd say "upgrading" was totally worth it!

Let me know if you want any more info :) stay healthy and happy!

Shave down in the direction of the hair growth. It’ll still get you smooth. If clients start rubbing your groin against the direction of your hair growth, tell them to stop or gently move their hand away. Every single night before bed (unless I’ve stopped shaving), I use Tend Skin.

https://www.amazon.com/Tend-Skin-Solution-Unsightly-Ingrown/dp/B001ECQ7G4

No more bumps or irritation, period.

Generously apply it in the direction of the hair growth with a cotton ball.

I use Amosan and it works reeeeally well for any mouth sores I get (canker sores etc). It apparently works well for all kind of mouth issues! Highly recommend it, plus brushing, flossing, and mouth wash of course 😊

Leolist allows credit car payment again now as of like 2 days ago?

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BUT what I did - coinbase.com you can buy bitcoin there. I needed to use a debit card to buy the bitcoins through coinbase because TD doesn't allow you to buy bitcoin with credit card. Then you copy and paste the link from leolist and send to the link.

Paul is really great!! He does free initial consults and also appeared on the @TheEscort_Pod (twitter handle)

Here’s a link to the podcast episode:https://www.buzzsprout.com/520450/1864849-financial-planning-with-escortcpa

Honestly, my designer shoes are made to be worn and admired on my feet. But just do like I do and keep some cheap black ballet flats for walking around in your purse. No man should be making you walk around much in high heels. The more expensive the more delicate they are, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't wear them and enjoy their beauty. Also, if you are buying terribly uncomfortable heels, I recommend you look into better styles. I refuse to purchase So Kate model of Louboutins bc I can't walk. But....there are plenty of styles that are comfy. I love my pairs of 200mm New Very Prive.

Here are some ballet flats you can keep in your purse: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZMN5C58/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_XZW0T25S544Y2ZFQ1CYG?psc=1

They also make a “super keep” eyeliner

https://www.amazon.com/Kiss-Me-Heroine-Waterproof-Eyeliner/dp/B00RWME3MU

Never tried it! But I trust the brand If you get it plz let me know how it is !!

Lola Davina's book Thriving In Sex Work is a must read for sex workers of every facet, be they straight, gay, trans, online, or in strip clubs. So much insight from the author who was in the biz for 20 years!

Softdisk menstrual disc. They have no idea. It's perfect. I always worked on my cycle. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;source=web&amp;rct=j&amp;url=https://www.amazon.com/Softcup-14-Disposable-Menstrual-Discs/dp/B000X29GY6&amp;ved=2ahUKEwiX3ZnFzIDsAhVOhq0KHfWRDv0QFjAKegQICxAC&amp;usg=AOvVaw2eL9SFCLXQT7-PJ0xfKvmV

Lola Davina, author of Thriving In Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice For Staying Sane in the Sex Industry, writes: "...the toll sex work takes, the heavy lifting it requires is emotional. Our job is managing stress, anxiety, anguish, loneliness, lust and rage--other people's and our own...That makes for a whole lot of crazy, no way around it..."

The best advice I can give you for dealing with the "crazy" that we all experience is to read Lola's wonderful book, which is entirely focused on self-care for all sex workers.

I started with the cheapest cameras I could find with decent quality in Wal-Mart. Camera with a screen that face you brand name was "Onn" worked pretty good. I stepped up to action cameras like knock off go-pro types. Definitely didnt regret buying it for like 30-40 bucks from Wal-Mart.

P.s. walmart is budget friendly for starting anything as a SW in my opinion.

Eventually I made enough to buy a 400 camera, bluetooth and WiFi capable. But I barely use it. Bottom line research camera types and the quality. If your serious about making ypur own digital content it takes a bit of leg work.

I have dragon touch vision 5 from Amazon, they're great I got two for angles really crisp pictures and video. Dragontouchcamera

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Digestive enzymes can aid digestion.

Ginger helps with digestion too, and they also come in pills.

Have you thought about seeing a specialist such as a gastroenterologist?

I will link one of my favourites https://www.amazon.de/-/en/London-condoms-Red-Pack-100/dp/B000V6BUKC

I stick to it for period and a level since i am an sw very red, strawberry flavour, bigger size very durable.

For smaller size, masculan has a good pink one as well

Re: filming without consent, be aware of keychain cameras. If they're messing with putting their keys on the nightstand right near the bed, they might have one of these:
https://www.amazon.com/Detection-2560X1920-Surveillance-Security-Cameras/dp/B09YMLKN9K

If they really want to film you and outfit their place with secret cameras there's nothing you can really do to prevent. I had a whale who outfitted his bedroom with spycams and I only found out one day when he was adjusting all the settings on his house security cameras and the bedroom with three angles came up as one of the views. I was so pissed at him for never telling me.

As for being robbed, check the cash to ensure it's legit. There are fake bills going around these days.

Listen to your gut feeling. That generally is always right, you should check out the book The Gift of Fear (it's free online) about learning how to listen to that instinct:

https://fb2bookfree.com/education/1124-the-gift-of-fear.html

Привет. Не знаю, читаете ли вы ещё это, но, может быть, эти попробуете?

Вы в этом паблике в вк есть? Там есть вкладка «помощь в трудной ситуации»: https://vk.com/take_my_hand_girl

Если это не пойдёт, можно это попробовать: https://alternative.help/help (читала про них статьи)

Если ничего из этого не подойдёт, то, может, попробуете из роддома сбежать или сказать медсёстрам? Надеюсь, вам дадут родить в роддоме все-таки, а не дома.

If you were afraid then it is 100% valid and your partner is an asshole for not supporting you. It sounds like you were sort of kidnapped and held against your will. That’s the only detail that is important. Trying to gaslight you is not healthy. Your fear was real. Your fear is valid. I’d honestly take a real hard look in how your partner treats you if they didn’t do everything in their power to make you feel better. Telling you to get past it or it’s not a big deal is gaslighting.
I’m guessing your SO is male and hasn’t lived in a world where they are a little bit afraid of the things that can happen by just walking alone.

Verbally Abusive Relationship Book

Highly unlikely your life is over.

Lock down your privacy choices.

Separate phones.

Work number not connected to you (use pay as you go).

Use burner number app.

Work and personal accounts completely separate (NO SHARED DEVICES)

ProtonVPN

Block anyone you know personally on your work accounts so they can't find you

Face in

Be mindful of the backgrounds of pictures

Be mindful of tattoos or unique identifiers

Buy a payasyougo phone and phone plan, such as an iphone with MintMobile

Use a burner app such as Burner or TextNow

NEVER log in to or view anything personal from your work device

You could also use ProtonVPN

I usually buy brand London bulk, it can be bought in 100 or more, it’s a bigger size and really red

https://www.amazon.de/-/en/LONDON-Strawberry-Flavoured-Condoms-Pack/dp/B08WQR8Q9G Masculan also has strawberry flavoured ones, they are smaller and more like a light pink

I use these little skin colored* patches on every tiny open wound I can. They’re meant for acne, but I use them everywhere around clients, even my face (not for acne, but animal scratches, lol).

I’ve tried a dozen different brands, and these are pricey but the most imperceptible I’ve found. Super tapered edges. No one seems to care or notice.

They stick really well, but can only do so much if you’re really sweating, though.

I highly recommend them -

https://smile.amazon.com/Blemish-Treatment-Hydrocolloid-Waterproof-Absorbing/dp/B00KXB1C6C/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?keywords=ollie+belle+cover+dot+acne+care&amp;qid=1658464185&amp;sr=8-1-spons&amp;psc=1&amp;smid=A1JO1ZW2AEP2HJ

I use bigger hydrocolloid band aids for bigger breaks in skin. I try to reduce my risk as much as possible (which for me, also including complete laser and electrolysis everywhere to reduce cuts and skin breaks from shaving or waxing).

So sorry OP! Thank goodness it’s curable and you caught it early!

For rug burn like that, I've found this to be very useful:
https://www.amazon.com/5466000041EA-Flexifix-Transparent-Adhesive-Dressing/dp/B001SIQCRI

It's transparent--nearly invisible--and sticks tenaciously. Can be left on for days.

Clean skin before application, peel the paper side off first and stick it on, THEN peel the plastic carrier (green grid) off. Do not apply on open wounds.

You can set up alerts on IFTT (If This, Then That) for your stage name. Don’t use this shady guy’s application. As a rule people who try to solicit you for management or a service or whatever on here are untrustworthy. IFTT is an automation application you can do all sorts of cool shit with and you get the cool bonus of telling parasitic men to fuck off!

https://ifttt.com/applets/Us3pjHdu

My personal favorites are the 🍓 ones made by Lifestyles. I can get them in bulk on Amazon. They also have a variety pack if you're not a 🍓 kinda girl.

https://smile.amazon.com/Lifestyles-Luscious-Flavors-100-Pack-Condoms/dp/B004W3VQDQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=3K6ZMVHHSQM6X&amp;keywords=flavored+condoms+bulk+strawberry+lifestyles&amp;qid=1654116844&amp;sprefix=flavored+condoms+bulk+strawberry+lifestyl...

Amaxon actually has a pretty decent selection of flavored condoms that can be bought in large quantities.

For a long while, I used these. They're okay - the flavor isn't as strong on them though & I don't like the chocolate or vanilla ones at all so I always used those on toys instead. https://smile.amazon.com/Fantasy-Flavored-Condoms-Pack-Strawberry/dp/B00WKX53MU/ref=mp_s_a_1_7?crid=2F8MBDUNZRY8P&amp;keywords=flavored+condoms+bulk&amp;qid=1654116588&amp;sprefix=flavor+condoms+bulk%2Caps%2C192&amp;sr=8-7

Note: I included smile.amazon.com links bc I encourage use of smile since it donates to charity & doesn't cost extra. Wish more people were aware of that. If you need though, you can remove the word smile & it will rake you to the regular amazon page.

There's a lot of stuff written about NOLA but the guy who wrote Gangs Of New York has a good old timey one about Storeyville and the French Quarter sws and such

"most men aren't like that."

*Most men you've been around.

There are tons of healthy men out there that would love a woman with a sexual history and men who are okay with open relationships. Realize in this industry you're exposed to a lot of unhealthy men(as in many industries), and there are tons of healthy ones out there that would love you for who you are.

One final book rec that helped me realize this(not my book, just a fave of mine): https://www.amazon.com/Not-price-admission-relationships-childhood-ebook/dp/B019GIVB3Q/ref=sr\_1\_1?crid=GZHZ4EIUTYWB&amp;keywords=not+the+price+of+admission+by+laura+brown&amp;qid=1649691244&amp;sprefix=not+the+price%2Caps%2C110&amp;sr=8-1

You should consider what would happen if he dumped you. Could you still support yourself if this happened? It's nice to want to negotiate and accommodate our partners, but realistically negotiating a career change is incredibly complex and has to be something you want. Think it out logically. Is he willing to throw in money if your career change goes thru? How is he going to keep to that promise? etc.

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Read, Facing Love Addiction(not my book, just a good rec): https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=love+addiction&amp;qid=1649691059&amp;sr=8-3

Escort Must haves: Burner app, Speedify VPN app, and the Signal app. Use all 3 interdependently. Keep your VPN on at all times times. Used for 4 years plus now and works like a charm to hide your ip location and protect you from phishing attempts to geolocate you, as well as to hide your digital footprint and maintaining anonymity as much as possible to frustrate any potential criminal investigations. Youtube Hacking/Hustling and or find their internet provider safety video trainings with community speakers in the industry sharing tips.

You can open a private email account with ProtonMail. It offers a basic free email account, but with very little storage space so if you get one of their free accounts, you'll need to keep your inbox cleared out on a regular basis.

It's hosted/governed by Swiss privacy laws, so is more secure for SW than U.S. based email providers. Gmail is not recommended for SW as they harvest all of your data and email content to use for their own marketing (they sell your data, too) and Google is known for cooperating with U.S. federal agencies. Avoid it.

https://protonmail.com/

> Do you think its a waste if I see only one client a day..maybe 2?

NOT a waste! That's the best to take in a day for Airbnb. Make sure guests are allowed.

Hidden cameras are prohibited, but always take precautions...

• How to scan your Airbnb for hidden cameras
• 4 Ways To Tell If There Are Hidden Cameras In Your Airbnb

At most, it's definitely best to take 2 clients a day in Airbnb

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>(I'm a bit of a netsec nut)

woowoo! opsec geeks unite! fistbump share share!

>secure texting apps

• which? whatsapp? wire? telegram? wickr me? all of above?

>For security, I use tor/vpn

• tor over vpn? or either tor or vpn depending on situation?
• vpn how? third party? or vpn with personal colo or vps as endpoint?
• what os? separate thumbdrive like tails, linux, or mac/win?

>2 factor authentication

• authenticator, yubikey, or sms?

>file encryption

• fulldisk? luks? or individual gpg/pgp?

https://wordpress.com/forums/topic/what-is-allowed-on-an-adult-website-on-wordpress-com/

Third down from someone representing wp says it violates the tos to offer adult services. If that was your business page then sadly you won't get it back I don't think. Sorry.

I’m a cam-girl but I have agreed to meet some online friends/members at times in the past and fuck I swear U go on spider senses at some points even without feeling threatened necessarily. Would anyone here maybe want to check out my podcast? Heh...https://anchor.fm/webcamgirlzoo/episodes/N-TO-DICK-PICS---YES-to-lovely-people-and-their-call-ins-e3b1o1

$24 a month is nice for them given that they don't seem to do any work apart from providing the platform.

If you don't want to go down the WordPress route - either via wordpress.com or someone (including you) who's got the software from wordpress.org and hosting it somewhere - then there are plenty of simpler site builders than Dreamwidth.

One I was going to mention, Serif's WebPlus, doesn't look to be still available, but other 'visual design to html site' programs exist and html hosting is basically free.

https://wallet.bitcoin.com/

cryptocurrency cannot be "charged back". If you need to pay bills or something, you'd want to sign up for coinbase or bitpay so they can exchange it to USD into your bank account.

No such thing as 1 site for best hotel prices. Today the best price might be on Hotels.com, tomorrow on Booking, in a week on Expedia, a month down the road on Agoda etc.
For that reason , just book your hotel with free cancellation and send it to Pruvo

If they find a better price for the room you ALREADY BOOKED, they will notify you so that you can rebook the same room at a cheaper price and then cancel the original, more expensive booking.

I don't know about existing artwork/quotes, but I highly recommend Canva.com for creating that sort of thing. No design ability required because they provide all the cute templates. You could just add your text.

I asked my ex who is a internet security professional and hacker and he said that it likely will not matter if you're using Wordpress.com or wordpress.org.

Yeah it was when I first started SW and didn’t have the money to live in city on my own yet. I only signed a six month lease with her and then got my own place but it was extremely stressful. I put a lock on my door, and hid money all around the room. Using fake objects like this. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B8W9P8P/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_R2MXD2AZ039NBZ5B2QRJ

So this doesn't help now, but I HIGHLY suggest some sort of eye mask or headband with speakers in it.

I use an eye mask that has small, flat speakers in it. I can play YouTube through them and fall asleep without damaging my ears with earphones. You can get a version that's just a headband, too. The speakers are removable so you can wash the mask or band.

There is a brand called Sleep Phones, but I searched amazon for that term and bought the product I have now.

This isn't the same as the one I have, but it's really similar

> Yes I struggle with mental health/depression/anxiety

So, I just recommended these in another thread, but you might want to check them out- the two books that helped me so much are The Depression Cure by Steven Ilardi and Feeling Good by David Burns:

https://www.amazon.com/Depression-Cure-6-Step-Program-without/dp/0738213888

https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380731762

If you only have time to read one, I'd start with The Depression Cure.

Well this thread inspired me to order some of these: 😆

Rainleaf Microfiber Towel Perfect Travel & Sports https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07Z1MN695/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_YM23RGA7HNFRC48JQE4H?psc=1

Bought this for my dungeon and it has been amazing. Bars give you something to hold on and it's been good even with multiple people on it

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08744GFSD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_EN9FYWFPV2100P662F7G?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1

GO YOU! YES!

He could have just bought commissioned content from you to reach a similar goal. His thrill there was the fact of you being non-consenting.

I have wondered about buying something like this, a hidden cam/bug detector:https://www.amazon.com/Detector-Surveillance-Detectors-Excursions-Bathrooms/dp/B07WDBCM5W/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&amp;keywords=detector+for+hidden+camera&amp;qid=1606517083&amp;sr=8-5

Does anyone use these for a sweep on customers or their location?

First, definitely don’t use concealer until they’re healed. It’ll hurt like hell and you don’t want any risk of infection.

If this is an ongoing issue (big big hugs), look at bralette styles that go up around your neck. Unsure the proper name but this is the style I mean:

https://www.amazon.com/DotVol-High-Neck-Bralette-Racerback-Floral/dp/B087JL7ZLD

The extra fabric can hide your marks.

Also, keep in mind that men are...rather thick. I’ve had a similar issue in the past and was very anxious about it, but it’s surprisingly easy to redirect their attention wherever you’d like it to go. I have faith in you :)

I've been using IWC for so long and its the best place for me to sell my findom/femdom clips and my highest earning site. I would recommend building your twitter audience, as that will help with sales. you can also reach out to them and they're always happy to make you a featured store or even promote you in their blog if you have some professional photos.

I've been trying to put more hours into nitefirt, but it's really a hit or miss for me because the men are just to annoying. I don't have much experience on it, but I do know that using their featured bids will bring you more clients. AmberlyPSO sells a great book about everything on niteflirt and you can buy the ebook on amazon for a couple bucks. https://www.amazon.com/How-Made-Month-Phone-Operator-ebook/dp/B0798H4S5X/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1544497650&amp;sr=8-1-fkmr0&amp;keywords=how+to+make+10%2C000+as+a+phone+sex+operator

Omg now Amazon staff has infiltrated our space? What will they think of next? Kidding. I take a a little cool mist humidifier with me, because dry heat pisses me off and is terrible for your skin. This is the one I use: Cool Mist Ultrasonic Humidifier Portable - Personal 180ML and 7 Colors LED Night Light with USB - Whisper Quiet Operation Automatic Shut-Off https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07L3F67LS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apap_5Zceo1AbAZ7BW

Your photos aren't bad but the way you've created albums on your website is strange, you would be better off not diving them by month you took them or at all. Having one fluid gallery section without that paid album separately would be better, people resent having to pay for photos on escort websites and often they're not special enough to warrant the extra money. If those paid ones are your better ones you should have them out for every potential client to see.

To take better selfies you can get on amazon and buy some things like this and this, along with a bluetooth remote.

If you can't live off outcalls and can't sort through setting up an incall I'd recommend interviewing with local agencies and seeing if you'd find a better fit there for the time being. It sounds like you went straight to Indy from some of your posts which can be overwhelming for some people, it might be easier to have an agency booking your calls while you get some more savings to transition to independent again and having an incall.

Okay here’s a quick rundown -Always use a VPN/Proxy(NordVPN has been my fave but there’s a ton of others, I personally would stay clear from the free ones but always do ur research) -When signing up for accounts, make sure u have a completely separate email account, don’t use ur real name on those either. -with PayPal I’d also be a bit careful because 1. Once the person sends u money, they can see ur name so make sure it’s not attached to that either and 2. PayPal HATES sex workers and will terminate ur account with any given reason -if ur choosing not to share ur real identity, when streaming, taking photos: be sure to blur or stay away from things in the background that can identify u lol sounds weird but just make sure no personal pictures/items can be seen.

Ok, I know this might sound a little crazy lol but I bought a waterproof blanket that’s supposed to be for your pet, but I’ve found it works really well! Just spread it out on the bed. Here’s the link for the one I purchased: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BHYP9BR/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_hI2wLlpO6bitv

Good tips! About taking calls at home I wonder if a white noise machine would help. The place I go to therapy has multiple rooms/therapists and they put them at their doors so no one can hear the conversation. She can say she’s sensitive to noise or something.

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It’s a bit more expensive now and from the German amazon, but this one is good 👌🏻

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Soft menstrual cups can be worn during sex. I used a different brand but they look like this: Intimina Ziggy Cup - Extra-Thin Reusable Menstrual Cup with Flat-fit Design https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079JYJBF2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_87aKDb58T0VYM

Okamoto Crown brand the blue one. Read reviews, I’ve never had one break or any other issues. Doesn’t taste nasty. Reputable company from Japan. The best �� Cheaper if you buy in bulk.

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One that is completely anonymous with no logs or device limits, all you have to do is send em cash in the mail

Mullvad, $6 a month

Been using em for a few months. They have instructions on how to set it up, it's quite easy, if you need any help, I can assist.

I went through a lot of effort and a lot of research & trying different VPNs

Many that are supposed to be anonymous or no log actually are not. You don't want anything based out of the USA or the UK