My dude, Good confession I'm sure you have feelings across the board about this. Has she tried noom? For people in her position this little app works wonders. https://www.noom.com/
As you know being married for 17years, our spouses need us to fight for them when they can't. I don't know your wife or what she needs. I do know that it's possible she feels broken, worthless and undeserving of anything in life. If she is in a dark place you will have to help her out. It will mean focusing only on the positive despite wanting to make comments, basically you will have sacrifice hard for her until she feels safe enough to give something a try. Then you will have to work your ass off to help her reach whatever goal she has the way that works for her.
Being physically attracted to someone is a biological response. Chiseling to love someone when we don't want to and doing it fully. That's what the promise you made 17years ago was about. Be the man you promised, be the partner she needs now. Hell yeah it sux, hell yeah its hard. Do it anyways, or give up and pretend it's about her issues when the reality is you could have stepped up and loved her through it.
I'm no expert, I have been married 16 years this year. She and I have both had to fight each other's demons to hell and back.
This was the link I was given in my chat with customer service a while back to get a full year purchase option, and I was able to put in the coupon code for 90% off and pay like 77 dollars for the whole year
https://www.noom.com/purchase/en/option\_j\_20171222/?route=\_direct&ipt=false#/account
I don't log my food...yet. I've been losing 10-12lbs a month for the past 3 months by eyeballing and guestimating. I hate having to count, measure, and weigh my food, but I know that the closer I get to goal, the harder it will be to continue progressing if I don't. I've been looking at an app called NOOM. The app is free, which supposedly, you can still use to log food and exercise even if you don't purchase the personal coaching. I haven't checked it out personally because I'm procrastinating until I absolutely have to, but all the reviews I've read about it have been pretty positive. I may even purchase the coaching once I finally rejoin the working world.
The most important rule to remember is that you simply cannot outrun your fork. Nutrition is 95% of weight-loss. Make sure you're eating healthy, that you limit your calorie intake, etc. (A great app I used to lose weight is Noom. It's gotten pretty expensive, but I lost 50kgs /110 lbs on it so I very highly recommend it).
There is no "optimal weight loss exercise". You should definitely be doing cardio, but it doesn't really matter what cardio you do. (Walking, running, cycling, elliptical, swimming, etc.). As long as you're burning calories, good - mission accomplished. (But, again, you can eat more calories in 5 minutes than you can burn in an hour - don't fool yourself). The important thing is to do something you enjoy - because that's what you'll stick to.
Good luck, you can do it!
Okay, so I signed up today. For context; Canadian (not sure if it matters), 16lbs to lose, Noom says that should be reached by November.
-If I go through their pricing plans here: ttps://www.noom.com/#/ ; it gives me a 2 week trial period for $1, then 2 months for $129CAD.
-If i go through their pricing plans here: https://web2.noom.com/support/support-question-topic/my-account/2018/03/noom-subscription-pricing/ and I choose 12 months, it offers me 12 months at the end of the questionnaire (or 6 or whatever I chose). For 12 months it says $249CAD. With discount codes; $149.25 (both progress80 and email99).
I contacted support to enquire about why the price is so high for the 80% off and they said because the 80% applies to the original price of $796USD, not the $199USD. Multiple support people told me this part (from both billing and registration). They also keep saying there is only 20% off.
I tried signing up, then going to change my subscription, but because I signed up for 12 months support told me that I can't downgrade to other plans without going through them (at the regular prices) and that I would lose my trial if I chose to do so. They also keep saying there is only 20% off. When I tried to do it in my account (through change my plan) it told me there are no other plans for me.
So I cancelled the subscription, but now it won't let me re-enroll. Support keeps saying I can re-enrol without paying for another trial but then provides a link where I still have to pay for another trial.
Does anyone have suggestions on how to get the 80% off of $199USD? or maybe where I went wrong?
I started counting calories in December 2020. Limited calories based on my typical activity level. This helped me see how much food I was eating and understand what a reasonable amount was.
Learned about the benefits of different food and the relation across food, psychology, and lifestyle. I found foods that were less calorie dense like soup that make me full without the calories of a burger.
I like the approach the program Noom takes. Take it with a grain of salt but it has some helpful long-term information. And I lost 20 pounds over 6 months that I'm likely to keep off because there were no extreme lifestyle changes. I don't do much more exercise than before and I didn't cut out any food long-term. Most of the change was the amount of food.
As long as you are eating less than you need you will loose weight. Is a thermodynamic law
Being honest of how much you are eating is a hard step to take.
Buy a food scale and start tracking.
Thermodynamics: as long as you are ingesting less energy than you need you WILL loose weight. But you have to be precise and honest at tracking.
Noom program is amazing. Personalized program and coaching. Helped me with the emotional part of weight also. I lost 15 kgs in 6 months on it
Communities here that are really useful: r/looseit and r/cico
https://www.noom.com/ noom program
There's this organization Noom that offers very high quality, researched-based counseling for food addiction. I might start there.
Meditating and getting regular exercise will also help.
This is just a shot in the dark but have a look at the phone app called Noom.
My wife used it to lose some weight and she loved it. You'll need to log your food, but it's all about giving you tools for modifying your behavior. My wife never ate vegetables before and was really hooked on sugar. Once she got into Noom she changed her diet and her cravings too. I think that shifting your microbiome is really about shifting your diet - and it takes time and effort. You can't just do it willy nilly. So, really, give it a shot. I do not work for them or get money from them. I just really saw it work.
Getting with a naturopath is good, but at the end of the day, you will only see change by doing it yourself... and it is so HARD to just try random stuff. Noom will give you a program to stick with and learn.
Also on Whoop and also lost about 20 lbs and also still have more to go.
I've been using Noom. Be forewarned it is a paid app. That said, it has helped me track my food and given me the guidelines to stay accountable. Mindful eating is one of the suggestions so you are on the right track there.
If you don't end up going with Noom, I strongly suggest you chose another food tracking app or method. I think that is the single best way you can set yourself up for future weight loss success. Congrats and good luck going forward.
i asked them to cancel my subscription and clear the coupon code off my account. they did that immediately and i got an email confirming.
Then I clicked this link (provided by them) to sign up for the 1yr plan and entered the coupon code once I was on the right screen. I just entered the same name/email address as my trial account
https://www.noom.com/purchase/en/option_j_20201022/?route=_direct&ipt=false#/account
Salads don’t make you lose weight.
Sorry but you’re going to die if you don’t end your love affair with food.
If you’re eating four meals a day it’s no Great miracle of science as to why you’re gaining weight.
Try Noom. It’s a smart phone app that helps you to track your caloric intake and also track your weight loss. I know several people who have lost a lot of weight with it.
I was actually sent an 80% off code, but they set it as recurring every 4 months, so wasn't actually 80% off and I hadn't seen the option anywhere when registering to pick something else. I contacted support asking about it and they explained I needed a 12-month plan to get the full 80% , and that I could cancel and re-start my trial to pick a different option. I used HOLIDAY90 at that point and selected the 12-month option. I think this link will default to 12 months, it's what the support agent sent me to reactivate. https://www.noom.com/purchase/en/option_j_20201022/?route=_direct&ipt=false#/account
Try Noom! https://www.noom.com/
Cost varies depending on how many months you sign up for but I think they still do a 2 week free trial. It helped me establish better habits and lose 10 pounds in 2 months.
It creates accountability by making you weigh in everyday, log your food, read daily articles and talk to a coach.
So I struggle with this and recently downloaded the Noom app. It’s a holistic approach to logging what you eat and much more. Focuses on the “why’s” of your eating habits and how to create new healthy habits. Psychology based and pairs you with a Goal Specialist. So far I’m liking it and am already noticing changes in how I think about food. Worth a two week trial to see if it’s something that’s work for you.
I've been getting ad-spammed for Noom lately so I finally checked it out today. I didn't actually sign up for it personally but did go through the whole process of filling out the profile form that leads to them building out your weight loss plan. It honestly seems exactly the type of service that you'd benefit a lot from.
It's not free (free 14-day trial though), but is much cheaper than going to a traditional nutritionist and it seems to put a big focus on the psychological aspects surrounding eating habits. Seeing as you already have the right mindset to get started making longterm lifestyle changes, it strikes me as a good fit.
It took about a month to hit all my areas, I gotta say. It's about 95% effective. Still a bit of extra skin growth/flaking here and there, but no redness, itchiness or inflammation anymore. A couple parts of my body (inside my ears, the skin on the cartilage... probably hard to reach) are still only about 80% gone, might take even longer for those. My scalp is pretty much normal, which is amazing for the first time since I was about 16 (note, I'm 47, so this is quite amazeballs for me!)
I was previously on Otezla, which was about 80% or so effective, and I had to take it morning and night. The shot is a lot more convenient, and supports my personal "Pill Zero" movement (I'm trying to get to taking 0 pills a day; at one point I was up to 6 and it's been a long hard health slog; the last remaining two are Allegra-D because my allergy shot treatment takes A LOOOONG TIME, and a sleep aid sometimes at bedtime)
Also, not sure if related but I've noticed that stress, lack of fitness and extra weight contribute to the inflammation regardless of what treatment you use (and the docs agree)... I've made quite some headway in those areas too (joined Orangetheory in October, go at least 3x/week M-W-F morning, it's so worth it, mentally and physically, I gotta say as a naturally-nonathletic person), and am using Noom to finally (FINALLY... hopefully) get back down to 200lbs (I'm 6'3"), which has been a multi-year struggle.
Good luck!
If you are really lost on where to start and need nutritional guidance backed up by science, psych tricks and motivation, I strongly recommend trying out the Noom program (https://www.noom.com/)
It's a 16 week CICO based program and it teaches you about all the aspects of weight loss. It's absolutely not restrictive and will work on what works for you. No crazy dieting plan, workout routine, etc. It focus on nutrition and mentality.
I'm currently finishing the program and have lost 20 pounds. But, even better than that, I have changed my mentally regarding food, have changed my habits and many psychological aspects that where related to my poor eating habits.