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For those who dont know, this is from a beautiful book called "Loving". It is full of pictures like this.

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>When it comes to intimacy and stuff, don’t really mention it.
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>If you want to be more educated then that’s cool but talking about it with your kid is a bit weird haha.

Hard disagree. I'm totally with you on offering an environment with affirmative support and love, but we're also talking about parenting, and sometimes parenting is about having awkward conversations that are still important.

Gay kids don't get sex ed. By and large, their issues aren't addressed at school or any other environment in an honest, factual way. These kids find out by experimenting, sometimes by making stupid mistakes, and occasionally by making mistakes that they'll have to deal with for the rest of their lives.

Dad, it's time to read up. You don't need to completely re-do the talk, but you need to reinforce the most important parts (condoms always) from a new perspective, and reiterate that you're available to answer questions now that y'all have a better understanding of each other. Also, consider getting some books! Even if your son isn't super excited to come to you with a particularly . . . graphic question, a good book might have the answer. There're lots of great books, like maybe this one. And consider getting this one for yourself! You don't need to know everything, but you need to be prepared to learn anything -- sounds like it'll be a great journey for the both of you!

Old fart here to tell you that you are looking at history through rose tinted glasses. You couldn't be more wrong. It is understandable because there's a lot of history you (I'm speaking to just about everybody here) don't even know about. It has been ignored, glossed over, revised.

Just for example, there was a LOT of animosity between gay men and lesbians

The LGB community was in great conflict back in the day, when we were arguing - often heatedly and angrily - about "whether to add the 'T'.

There has always been a divide between "just gay guys" and drag queens that only in recent years has been bridged.

It's a fine sentiment, what you said, but it is unfortunately just not true.

I'm not a guy, but I can't imagine any of this is magically different because we're enby queerdos instead of dudes. I am in an over 5 year long relationship that's as strong as it's ever been, even though we're both on hard times right now, so I'm feeling qualified to comment at the moment.

Whether or not you choose to be monogamous, read the The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy and get to the point of really understanding that you do not own each other. Act like it. You may ask for anything you want. You may not demand anything. You are not owed anything. Be grateful for each other, and the things they do for you. Appreciate each other. Express your appreciation. Encourage them in their vibrant life, even (especially?) where it doesn't include you. Encourage them in their personal growth. All of this needs to cut both ways.

Last, and most importantly, COMMUNICATE. Read Nonviolent Communication. Do NOT turn it in to a religious book. It is a tool. Use it when appropriate. Learn the difference between feelings, needs, stories, and desires. Name them all. Name them for what they are. Talk about the little shit that shouldn't matter, but it's bugging you. Acknowledge that it's silly. Talk about it anyway. Name your feelings. Acknowledge when they're absurd, but name them anyway.

Talk about sex. This is so important I'm giving it its own section. Talk about what you like, what you don't like, and the things that you like, but only because your partner likes them and you like it when your partner likes things. Talk about how you're feeling about the dynamics of who's initiating, how, and how often. Talk about fantasies and desires. Talk about what makes you want them.

You can buy it on the amazon cloud reader or kindle here If this is the one Op's talking about.

I just found a perma-vinyl on amazon and decided to give it a shot. Dunno if it will hold up in rain but was worth the $15, plus I have a ton of extra now. This is what I got: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07CXT6L3H/ref=ppx\_yo\_dt\_b\_asin\_title\_o02\_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

For getting a better butt legit download this app

Its a garbage app and the ads are annoying but it helped me have a clear goal each day, its what got me started and i now do 100 squats, 75 bridges, and 75 lunges every other day (no weights) and have a pretty nice bubble butt (my boyfriend agrees)

this guide is fucking amazing for douching. (you should only need a fast clean) using a water bottle works fine, id say only squeeze in <1 cup of water at a time. Also i douche into the toilet personally.

In my experience any pain from anal is usually because I'm simply too tense. its really something you just need to get comfortable with over time. Also lube helps.

I just recently downloaded Lavendr. It's relatively new and takes a lot of cues from Tinder.

App Store

Play Store

Here's an interesting NY Times article you can read. You can believe he's in support of it or not. Given the republican party has been officially in favor of it, given Pence's other anti-gay positions and policies, and given the language he used, I think it is clear he absolutely meant conversion therapy.

The organizations receiving funding already advocated condom use. I'm quite sure that the "types of behaviors" he is talking about are any gay sex and that "institutions which provide assistance to those seeking to change their behavior" are conversion therapy clinics.

There are all kinds of gay bars. Some are basically dance clubs. A lot are just kind of a neighborhood pub atmosphere where almost everyone is a regular and people know each other and they often go there just to be social and waste time. Those often have pool and darts. Some are kind of a meat market where people go to look good.

If you go to a neighorhood pub type place alone and order a soda, you'll stand out. If you're the designated driver for a group, soda are often free. You'll probably stand out for age too and get attention that may be more than you want.

Dance club type places tend to have a younger crowds and no one will notice or care what you're drinking.

Fancier places where you go to be seen will happily make you an expensive drink "virgin" (non-alcoholic). And at places like this, most of the people there are watching their weight and avoiding alcohol anyway.

All types of gay bars may or may not have drag shows, stripper nights, free pool, or other events.

Burlesque shows often have drinks, usually have reserved seating for the show but not always, and can almost be considered a kind of queer friendly bar, if you live in a big city that has those. Those are kind of close to the historic origins of gay bars. That might be more interesting if sitting around at a bar or playing darts or dancing while guys hit on you isn't your idea of fun.

meetup.com has LGBTQAI+ events in most large cities for other things like hiking and indoor rock climbing and stuff. A long time ago, I was doing a gaymers night that was a lot of fun. A lot of people don't enjoy going to bars unless they're going with friends, and I like having some kind of activity to do. Anywhere you go will be welcoming though.

Have fun!

You can buy one here

Edit: also

I find that moralism rarely if ever stems from actual morality. It's almost always a convenient tool to claim to be better than someone else. Good people don't need to trumpet it.

Here's a good article about homosexuality and the bible. Hint: the spin is way off base.

https://web.archive.org/web/20131614011000/http://www.soulforce.org/resources/what-the-bible-says-and-doesnt-say-about-homosexuality/

Good luck to you and your son...

Waterbased for toys and condoms (I like https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DGM7QBZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_C4HZY45J7K6RPHNA3EKX?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1 ) Silicone for bareback if you find someone you trust... Or if you like jerking slick

Get some toys, and play around. Something like these https://www.amazon.com/Comfortable-Long-Term-Silicone-Training-Beginners/dp/B07RK98NH6/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&amp;keywords=butt+plug+trainer+kit&amp;qid=1611907747&amp;s=hpc&amp;sr=1-1

and a dildo. And some lube, but not silicone lube.

In case anyone wanted to check it out :)

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Hey guys I introduced myself and the book on this sub a week or two ago. I just wanted to stop back by and share this article.

Thanks for all your support in this! You can find more info at isisalovestory.com and pages on most major social media.

The book is available on Amazon. Reading/sharing/reviewing is all really appreciated!

Thanks again!

This is so great whats happening in India. Now they can wear really cool shirts like this one. https://teespring.com/be-proud-and-shout-it-loud I hope you guys like it.

The terrorist just killed as many as he could. Hes sohoot as many as 100. in the 90 mins he was hunting the kids on that small island. Here is an article about a survivor, who also happes to be gay. Link

Here is where I got the idea that reddit's users are primarily American, but it may well not be accurate.

Okay, so I'm a stupid American who made an unfair assumption and I apologize. I cannot comment on OP's problem if he's not an American. I find this part of this discussion sort of tiresome -- I was trying to acknowledge (and, I admit, justify) this problem in my last post but I'm kind of over it.

However, I'm genuinely curious -- are you, in fact, suggesting that it still means unpleasant woman in other countries, or that people are calling each other chopped liver and bundles of sticks over in England or Australia? Is there some other slur that actual homophobes use? Are homophobes so rare that there's just never any question of what people mean by it? You brought up the etymology without ever really elaborating on why, and I'd love to know more.

I used to be quite religious and I tortured myself for 25 years over my sexuality. I spent years in dedicated Hinduism, Christianity, Mormonism, Buddhism, gay conversion therapy, various permutations of the new age movement, meditation, incredibly intense, heartfelt prayer, celibacy and a lot of self directed loathing. They were wasted and very deeply damaging years and they didn't change shit.

Don't make the same mistake I did. Similarly to yourself I just didn't see other people like me in the gay community and didn't see where I fit in so had no home either there or in a religious community. In the end I just had to realise there was nothing I could do to change my sexuality so I had to make peace with it (still, an ongoing process though in a much better place now).

I'm not sure what part of the world you are living in but I think it would really help to think about moving to a bigger town where you can see and take part in a gay community that is way more diverse than the media or even the apps and clubs would have you believe. You may not have found your gay people in the community in which you live now, but trust me they are out there.

Try meetup.com. Most cities have religious and other LGBTQI groups that organise themselves on that website and are not in any way about just hooking up. Gay J-Date is apparently a thing so there's no need to sacrifice your religion necessarily to explore your sexuality. And honestly in bigger cities you just meet cool gay people in your day to day life in places you would never expect and if you like you can just live your life as you normally would, fully assimilated into straight culture if that's where you see yourself and still be in committed relationship with a man and have kids.

Brothers by Ted Van Lieshout (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2320259.Brothers) is really beautiful. It relates the story of 2 brothers, both being gay, after the death of one of them. (no incest, but quite moving)

It's hard to respond to this because even though you talk about how upset and stressed out you, you don't talk about what you're afraid of.

You didn't say where you're from. From reading this group for far too long, it sounds like people from the deep south of the US have a lot harder time than most people. They just absorb a lot of biases and prejudices. Then when they come to grips with their sexuality, they have to figure out whether or not they're this really bad thing that everyone was talking about (hint: the bigots are wrong).

Is it guilt because of religion? https://web.archive.org/web/20131614011000/http://www.soulforce.org/resources/what-the-bible-says-and-doesnt-say-about-homosexuality/ might help. When Paul's passages were translated, we didn't what some of the Greek words meant, but we do now.

Is it because you don't know any gay people? Join the GBLT group on campus. It always feel strange when you're different from everyone else. Well, you aren't actually different from everyone else, you just don't know anyone like you. Making GBLT friends makes it a lot easier to feel okay about yourself and your sexuality. Please do this. There are some really cool people out there.

Gay isn't bad. It's just different. You're going to have to accept yourself. You've taken the first steps there, but you need to work to get rid of the biases and prejudices you've soaked up. You can't do that alone. You can be exactly the kind of person that you want to be but only if you stop beating yourself up. Life will be a little bit more difficult in some ways (someone wrote an awesome article explaining that straight white male is basically "easy mode") but nothing so bad or difficult that you should stress out about it.

I am so sorry. I remember your post. Sniffies is not a dating website. Sniffies makes grindr seem like match.com.

I went through a pretty heavy breakup a year ago. I tried anonymous sex, food, friends, moving across the country and none of it really helps. Sadly the only thing that helps is time. Time to grieve and be angry. Let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. Even if you dont like the emotions. Lean into your friends. let them support and love you while you make the journey to healing.

And this is NOT your fault. NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT. You need to just be who you are and if that isn't good enough for someone, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. With each heartbreak, romantic or otherwise, you will grow and learn. i would encourage you to listen to a podcast called Monica and Jess Love Boys. I gained a TON of insight into myself as a potential partner and clarified a TON about what i want and need in a partner to help reduce the chances of getting hurt.

The best revenge is living a great life. So focus on yourself and Karma will take care of the rest.

I'm not going to answer your direct question but my piece of advice is that you seem to be conflicted yourself with where you are in your mental health journey and you should consider talking to a professional (or keep talking to professionals). I can emphasize, I've been diagnosed with some mental issues that have kept me out of relationships. It's very lonely, but sometimes it's best to figure out who you are before attaching yourselves to others. Your burden becomes theirs (and visa versa) when things get serious.

That said, you shouldn't blame yourself or him. I think he was being sincere. And his reply was not rude, if a little unclear (maybe you were unclear? I can't judge). You didn't make a "mistake" so don't beat yourself up, but there are many people who can't - for many, non, judgmental reasons - be around people who are going through a tough time. Maybe they are looking for an escape from their own issues, maybe they grew up with parents who have mental issues, maybe they are just mean-spirited folks, who knows...

I stay away from apps though. I'm 40+, so I really don't get the whole app landscape, but I feel that in our community it has an association with hookups and the like. I'm not looking for a hookup, I'm looking for a partner-in-crime so I largely stay away from that kind of stuff. Get involved in some LGBT-friendly charities and meet people in person through word of mouth. Or Meetup.com, meet groups in person. Less pressure that way. I live in the northwest so I realize this is a bit of a privilege in my area, but I thought I'd say it anyway.

But at the end of the day, you should focus on making yourself as healthy as possible for a relationship. It sounds like that's what you are doing, just keep working on it. :)

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I liked this book. It had a ton of photos in there.

That’s another great book.

There is a lot of excellent fiction/literature about gay men in World War I. Very fertile territory. Here are two standouts set in war:

https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/books/reviews/absolutist-john-boyne-2293826.html

And a stellar book set in WW2. Insanely good. Not porn in spite of cover.

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Excellent! If you're an Aussie there's groups in both Melbourne and Sydney. If nothing else, contact the guys from the Sydney Silverbacks. They're a GREAT group of guys, and they can probably help point you in the right direction. There's also a PHENOMENAL Aussie documentary on Amazon Prime (https://www.amazon.com/Scrum-Aki-Mizutani/dp/B071RPPPB5/ref=pd_ys_iyr6) called 'Scrum.' It's about a guy who joins a gay rugby league. I highly recommend it.

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i find them on amazon..and i am a boy here the link for them

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I suggest a depilatory cream. Something like this or this. (Definitely do a skin test first, though!) If you must use a razor, use one marketed for for women - they are made for body hair instead of facial hair.

Okay I actually found this amazing thing. Doesn’t stain, looks like cologne, not sticky, lasts a long time—it simply is the best.

Try this stuff if you are shy of razors...so smoooov after using it. Read the directions and don't leave it on too long or you could burn your skin.

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It is indeed very toxic, but what exactly are you looking for? You haven’t said anything on your post. It’s very shallow that community is and I it’s dependant on whether you are hot or not etc

Have a read of this where Thomas Mortimer is very critical of the things that you are mentioning

City Of Woke: The Six-Part Anthology https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BG9194FP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_VW5W2JWFCWF1HSHQPGGH

I would have couples on there rather than pervs; i agree with a lot of people on here though — Grindr for dating is not a good idea; just hook ups. What did you expect?

There is a book that I think you will like.

City Of Woke: The Six-Part Anthology https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BG9194FP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_ZZ4JA2X4QBB0EW6G6M71

I don’t like labels. You are who you say you are; play with the ideas. We don’t have to play with the idea of sexual fluidity; we can just be...

I think you would like this book anyway

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sth like that? The font aren't really right. The search words are "LED Neon Letters"

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Yes. It's presented at length in my cousin Ken Setterington's book "Branded by the Pink Triangle." https://www.amazon.ca/Branded-Pink-Triangle-Ken-Setterington/dp/1926920961/ref=sr\_1\_1?crid=38NLP82WZ7V1S&amp;keywords=ken+setterington&amp;qid=1644994069&amp;sprefix=ken+setterington%2Caps%2C302&amp;sr=8-1

That particular term of endearment will always and forever remind me of Clue, what Professor Plum mutters to Mrs. Peacock when they get paired up to search the house, despite utterly hating each other: “It’s you and me, honeyBUNCH.” (or with sound)

I'm just like this! I find men aesthetically attractive, but I would never date them or have sex with them. But with women, I am attracted to them in every way possible. I just identify as lesbian because I would only date women. I suggest reading the lesbian masterdoc to see if you would rather identify as lesbian or bisexual. It really helped me.

You're fine dude. There's nothing wrong with appreciating another person's physique. Ask yourself this, when you look at straight porn, who are you looking at--the man or the woman? If you can be honest with yourself about that answer, then the rest will be natural.

It's okay to not have had sex at 22. But if you would like a romantic relationship, let me suggest that you move slowly. You'll be dating people who probably have more experience than you, so it's best that you don't dive head first into a dating app. Try going to a meetup (meetup.com) and making friends who have the same interests as you. The best romantic relationships are grown from friendships.

Because everything Jimenez claimed is true, he has the interviews ON CAMERA that back him up, and MM is left with an empty sack of an argument.

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You reminded me of this one book I've been wanting to get from Amazon... Loving: A Photographic History of Men in Love 1850s-1950s https://www.amazon.com/dp/8874399286/ I'm not sure if links are ok but it's Amazon so it should be fine? It's pretty pricey but since it's photographs it makes sense.

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Ah, here’s a list of the best pop soul music from the 1960s then. (You’ve also just turned me onto a goldmine of a genre era, so thanks for that!)

^Edit Oh and of course, you can dig through Motown Records’s catalog.

According to this article (by a researcher in that field), the womb is, ironically, about the most hostile place: https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-evolutionary-benefit-or-purpose-of-having-periods

I'm not a biologist, so I can't comment on the question beyond offering a related link. OP, try /r/askscience?

If you are genuinely interested in love and not just hookups, I've heard good things about Match.com - this Quora answer, for example :) Good luck!

They make a thing for getting lube in deep, maybe that'd help? Here's a link, they're disposable, but cheap.

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I put it on my private amazon wishlist years and years ago, in hopes that one day I'd need it. Never have for myself, but maybe it'll help you?

Link

<em>Happy Together</em>, a dramatic gay-themed movie about the end of an abusive relationship. It’s a very little-known movie with unbelievably believable acting and an interesting way of telling it's story. Hardly anything like it.

<em>Openly Straight</em>, a YA novel about gay identity and two best friends. It isn’t hugely forward-thinking, but it tries to be with an engrossing story and funny characters. Probably my most favorite gay-themed novel yet.

Cucumber, a drama-comedy television series about gay sex(uality) and the hilarious end to a long-term relationship. It blew me out of the water at how original and well-written it is, and it sets the bar for gay-themed television.

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when it's fully downloaded you will have all the original video files from the first season, you may also need a compatible video player if it doesnt play on your current media player.

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I don't think you are. I don't exactly have vast experience, but as a white person I've found that the black people I've contacted have been more open to discussion and intelligent conversation. I've also found they tend to be more open to LTR. In fact, I have a second date scheduled with a black guy I met on Grindr (he's so hot) for a couple of Saturdays from now.

I've found that white guys are way more into hooking up right away. Of course, where I live, white guys are a huge percentage of the population, so this could just be a numbers thing.

Point it, be who you are. Looking for dates isn't a bad thing at all. Maybe you should look into other solutions like Match.com, Eharmony, etc. I've thought about doing it, but my availability for dates is like months per month.

Good choice on leaving Grindr out at least for now. I was thinking of Tinder. I am not in the UK so I am not sure how helpful I can be, but I have heard of Chappy as well so that seems like that might be a good idea. Maybe Match.com or OkCupid, not sure how popular they are in the UK.

Like this. Page B5 (issuu page 12-13). See "Spilling long kept secret brings relief." I also wrote a follow-up the next year, but I don't really feel like finding it.

EDIT: clarity

Look, I had dinner yesterday with a friend I've known for (I'm not kidding) 40 years. (I gave her a ruby pendant for the occasion.) The day before I had dinner with a friend I've known for about 17 years. In the last 2 years I've made 0 new friends. The year before that, 1.

As we get older it's not like when we were in school. In school there are a bunch of young people who want to make friends to have someone to spend free time with or study with... particularly in freshman years, because they don't know so many people and they want to make an instant social life. Once you're out of school, you're working with people who don't want to think about work outside work, so they often don't socialize with coworkers out of work. (There are jobs where everyone ends up friends. I am friends with coworkers from over 10 years ago. Just not many. There's one entire team of 10-ish people of whom I used to be the boss 4 years ago, who still all socialize regularly. That's very rare.) So if you want to meet people you have to find them, and hookup apps are not the answer. As an adult you meet people more slowly, but if you actually click with them you have a long lasting friend. And they may introduce you to people. I met one guy here who introduced me to people, who introduced me to people, and in the end like 80&#37; of my social network is in one way or another attributable to him. (And yes, we're still friends, after 27 years.)

If you want to find someone to *date*, try okcupid.com . If you want to just meet people with similar interests, try meetup.com . Or find subreddits here for local to you topics, get involved, and suggest that people meet for coffee or tea to be social. Or find subreddits here for topics that you like in general, get involved, and after a while post to say "hey, is anyone here in London? Let's all meet for coffee or tea!" and see who replies.

Going through your history you posted a similar question about 6 months ago.

The negative self talk is often our own worst enemy. My therapist told me to read this book which actually helped a ton in how to stop bringing myself down and build confidence.

It sucks to be ghosted and I’m sorry it happened. But if you present yourself the way you present these posts, it comes across as very self conscious, and people could see that.

And I only mean all this in a constructive way, because I struggle with everything I just mentioned.

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What do you think of these? I have difficulties deciding on the dog breed. :P

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No problem. A good book on this is college apologetics by Fr Anthony Alexander. It was written in the 1940s and some of its arguments for God are a bit outdated but it does a really good job explaining the historicity and reliability of the New Testament. It’s written at a decently high reading level but not one that’s too hard for those in college or late high school to grasp.

College Apologetics: Proof of the Truth of the Catholic Faith https://www.amazon.com/dp/0895554453/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_SBRFNXFYN5NMVVZF2JN5

Obviously you're free to hang any flag you like in support of the LGBTQ+ community (and thank you for your support!!) There is a straight ally flag, however; should you be interested in showing your support but not being mistaken for being LGBTQ+ yourself. You can find it on Amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Straight-Ally-Flag-3x5ft-banner/dp/B01FBLS1US

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This is a fab book of pictures like this from the 1850s to the 1950s. Obviously there is no way of knowing the true relationships, but some of the pictures of the roomates/close friends are lovely.

Loving: A Photographic History of Men in Love 1850s-1950s: Amazon.co.uk: Hugh Nini, Neal Treadwell: Books

I think I am going to go with this maybe

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Fiber supplements are usually for those who are with chronic constipation.

Change your Diet, adding more greens with high fiber so you don't have to rely on diet supplements.

If you want to take a shortcut, then yes, do the fiber supplements combined with water enemas

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https://www.amazon.com/What-Jesus-said-about-Homosexuality/dp/B08LNN5BG2/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&amp;keywords=what+jesus+said+about+homosexuality&amp;qid=1603994079&amp;sprefix=what+jesus+said+about+&amp;sr=8-3

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Oh shit, I dunno where I got Jay Birrell from - I just checked and it's Jesse Bering. Here's the Amazon link bud.

Before 1953? That’s a big topic... one I’m ill equipped to add any depth to. But suffice to say, many turns and phrases were used to describe different things. I think one even used a word insinuating prostitution? Context is also huge and that is an element that adds significant bulk (and complexity) to the topic.

Going to arsenokotai- it’s used in only 2 places in the original Latin Bible. Looking at the time period when the word would be commonly used, it was still rare. As such, researchers don’t have much to go on in knowing how it was used in everyday speech, and how connotations could have transformed into formalized scripture. Hence the vagueness I described.

Also, the verse that word is used in are similar except talking about some broad sexual topic. So context is relied on heavily by examining the prior and following passages.

I highly recommend reading Goad and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines. He’s really the force behind the theory I am posing here and he obviously will do it much better than myself. Amazon link below. It’s $14.

God and the Gay Christian

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Not to mention trying to set up extra access points or doing a mesh wifi system because your apartment is old and has brick or stucco walls and you wanna snapchat on the toilet. Mesh wifi systems are so hot right now... check out this sexy shit doesn't it just make your signal stronger in your pants just looking at it.

Don't get me started on getting a separate wired router, something with a little NAS storage and ad blocking firewall rules. Yummy.

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I wish self-published writers weren't basically forced to use Amazon, but such is the state of our reality. Here's a link for anyone interested, along with the back blurb for the book:

Points of Origin, by E. S. Fein

"Amero wakes from an eerily familiar dream in an unfamiliar bed.

Within hours, he is forced onto an experimental craft and jettisoned across the galaxy alongside a mysterious, potentially homicidal man named Hann.

Finding themselves in a strange yet familiar spacetime, the men are told by suspicious entities to hunt for Points, strange objects no larger than one's thumb, which are spread across the cosmos by unknown means.

The purpose of the hunt is unknown. The purpose of the Points is unknown.

All Amero wants is to return to his dead-end life. All Hann wants is to hunt down and destroy those responsible for his predicament.

It will take a journey to the end of time itself and beyond the boundaries of every universe to know the truth--to witness the light behind the veil...for better or worse."

So there is this app called "Mochi" https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=io.mochi.bemochi

Just had a random thought that it might be cool if your idea would be incorporated with this already existing app and maybe you guys could work together on this

seconded that you should try to suck it up for a moment and introduce yourself to people (yes it sucks, but you'll survive) - a few of the most helpful books I've ever read in my life were on small talk (How to Talk to Anyone https://www.amazon.com/dp/007141858X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_yKc2Cb9TWNKGA) search "small talk books" and breeze through one of two. it will dramatically improve your social life, work life, friend life! (whether you go and chat them up, or if they come and talk to you :) it has made my work life 100x better.

Just clear your internet cache regularly, including history and temporary files.

Of if you want to overkill, get a non-logging VPN such as Private Internet Access and set it up with AES-256. You will still need to clear your internet cache though, but everything between your computer and the website will be encrypted (and your IP will also be masked). Even your ISP won't be able to see what you do on the web.

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You are correct that it is not the same, but it's not just the prostate. There are lots of nerve endings in that area to be stimulated too. And some women do find it enjoyable. But men and women need to be very relaxed and comfortable with it in order for it to be enjoyable. The natural reaction is to tense up all your muscles when something tries to enter there, often involuntarily. You have to be able to relax those muscles before it can be a comfortable and enjoyable experience. It's best to practice this on your own before bottoming with a partner.

Here's a book (for men and women) that discusses all the &quot;ins and outs&quot; of anal activities (pun intended).

I got one, but it was so strong that I could only use it for 10 seconds before it was all over. Get one that has adjustable speed settings :-)

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Oh, and I don't know how much looking around you've done but I found a couple of books that were really helpful: Fashionably Late and When Opposites No Longer Attract

If you are referring to the link in my thread, that is not the link to the book itself, just to the "article" about it. You can buy it here ie. https://www.amazon.com/Something-Like-Summer-Book-ebook/dp/B004I6DKPY

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This book I just read called True Letters From A Fictional Life was so phenomenal. It's about high school kids, so I don't know what age you're looking for but I really liked it.

A friend of mine published a book about prostate play last year - take a look at his website, it may help answer some of your questions.

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My favorite gay romance books are probably "The Other Guy" by Cary Attwell and "Tell Me It's Real" by TJ Klune. Both are pretty light-hearted and funny and for a "gay romance" pretty well-written in my opinion. They aren't teen-focused so they might interest you.