Here is a link because I don’t know how to describe what this masterpiece is:
A Pregnancy Pillow by Cozy Bump– The Best Pregnancy Pillow for Sleeping Prone, Pregnancy Body Pillow, Maternity Pillow, Pregnancy Bed, Pregnancy Gifts, Prone Pillow https://www.amazon.com/dp/B085W8YXZS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_QHHDRXST2B45APF41ERM?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Dunno bout your dress code at work but.. heres this thing.
BritTot Ladies Maternity T-Shirt Hands Off The Bump Please Do Not Touch Funny Pregnancy Gift Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XDX12D2/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_dxr-Cb4WA2EZH
Get your husband the baby book “waiting for baby.” It’s for big sisters and brothers. My favorite part is mom napping and dad making dinner bc that’s what literally happened every evening. waiting for baby
I’m about 5 weeks now (6th pregnancy, 3rd baby) and already fatigued. My husband asked if I’m going to milk the whole pregnancy. I said YES! Ans then he got me food and a drink and I took a nap. Lol
Glad to hear you feel like it’s worth it. To get around the “won’t use it that long” argument, we registered for and just received yesterday the “summer infant comfort height bathtub” on Amazon. It turns into a step stool baby can use later!! Multipurpose!! https://www.amazon.com/Summer-Infant-Comfort-Height-Bath/dp/B01MQNKPZC
Yeah... OP can’t only blame the partner here he knew she was irresponsible with birth control and still couldn’t be bothered to take precautions. What did he think would happen?
I wish you guys the best. Remember you are in control of your own actions, don’t leave it all up to your partner and hope they will make the right choices for you.
For the future- if your partner misses even one day of birth control you are supposed to use alternate/additional forms of contraception until she hits her next cycle. (I’m not a doc but this is generally what they tell you)
FAQ page for reference:
Welcome to the twin mom life!! I literally said “are you fucking kidding me” when the technician said congratulations you’re having twins. And my husband just sat there sweating... he later came home and had to have 2 scotch on the rocks.
I’m delivering them in 2 weeks. Everything has been going well. Best advice i can give you is DRINK A LOT OF WATER (2-3 liters a day).
Get this book: When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads 4th Edition: Proven Guidelines for a Healthy Multiple Pregnancy https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062379488/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_UR2fFbXA91PJC
It helped me soooo much while pregnant with all the twin questions.
And come join the other twin moms at r/parentsofmultiples
So excited for you!!
Cosleeping just seems dangerous. A few months ago my husband's cousin woke up to two screaming parents in the next apartment over. Apparently the wife got up for work and the husband rolled over in bed. He ended up suffocating their baby. Such a tragedy that could have been prevented.
We are planning to use something like this: Mika Micky Bedside Sleeper https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07J232RV4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_LtRMDb7DQA4PS
I cannot fathom why more people - not just pregnant people - don't have bidet's! This is the one I have!
Lmao my husband calls mine “the pool floaty” - but it’s not the same one you have. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N44MTLJ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_HH0M0F0HKXTFPST8WKCQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
But at 38 weeks, he’s sick of it being it the bed already. He wants to cuddle me again lol.
YES. A belly band has been my best friend on days where my belly feels so heavy. Doesn't make it 100% better, but I definitely get some relief. Here's the one I got off Amazon.
I would wait until you know exactly what your ring size will be after pregnancy. If you want to wear it in the meantime you could get something like this to make it fit well enough to wear. https://smile.amazon.com/Ring-Size-Adjuster-Loose-Rings/dp/B0757JLTY7/ref=mp_s_a_1_10?dchild=1&keywords=ring+sizer&qid=1614096608&sr=8-10
Medela Soothing Gel Pads for Breastfeeding, 4 Count Pack, Tender Care HydroGel Reusable Pads, Cooling Relief for Sore Nipples from Pumping or Nursing https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0011ECPA2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_5YH9G84MQKYBJTH0F4YC?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
You can get the graco pack n play, it comes with a bassinet and a changing thingy. Amazon link get the best of both worlds and it’s pretty cheap!
I didn’t necessarily look for brand as much as functionality. We bought one of the backpack style ones from Amazon and the thing is the bomb.
Bag Nation Diaper Bag Backpack... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0722W1WCT?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I’ve spilt a whole bottle in there before and it washes so easily. There’s pockets everywhere and you can fit so much stuff into it. We used this for a three month NICU stay and there’s not a single tear on the thing. It seems indestructible with endless storage.
Necessities include: diapers, wipes, hand sanitizer, ziplock bags to put dirty diapers in at doctors appointments <— no one tells you about that until you’ve got a poop diaper in your hand with nowhere to put it, change of clothes for baby, a blanket depending on the season, an extra paci or eight. I always kept a copy of baby’s birth certificate and insurance card in there too just in case. And snacks for me. : )
Go to crocs website, you will be surprised how nice their sandals and flats are. They make more than just holey clogs!! I wear these all the time
IG - Big Little Feelings, Mr. Chazz
Podcasts - Janet Lansbury
Emotional learning books for kids - In My Heart, Calm Down Little Monkey
There are several IG accounts that specialize on children books about diversity, but you’d have to look them up.
When your kid starts to interact with the world, notice what are the things you don’t notice. My 1 y o often made eye contact with diverse people, whom I would not have regarded as “diversity”. I learned from my kid as much as I thought her.
Teaching body autonomy and being ok how the kid expresses sexually. I don’t have any good resources on these issues, I went to a short toddler online course to learn about it, I had zero idea before hand.
Also, be prepared to be ok with your boy behaving as a “typical” boy. The first time my girl started playing with handbags and pearls, I was upset. She also absolutelly love the flashiest pink clothes she can find. It took me a while to be ok with it, I know it is silly but still. What I’ve learned to do is embrace her more as she is. This book really helped me to reconseptualise what my role ought to be in parenting generally, to raise a kind cooperative and respectful kid:
QORE LOGIQ Plus Size Abdominal Binder Post Surgery for larger Men + Women - Postpartum Belly Band - Compression Garment - Hernia Belt For Men + Woman - C Section Belly Binder - Adjustable (White 2XL) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B081RJXW9F/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_i_brCcGbTRW93DR?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
These are what helped me the most! Had my son in October so this is pretty fresh in my mind
I got this Posh Peanut robe. It's available at other retailers, but here is the Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ND4T7RZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_6D926B29BFV0FXKWV97E?psc=1
It's really soft, I love it. You can also get a matching swaddle for baby!
I went with the PharMeDoc pillow from Amazon because it has a removable portion to make it from a u shape to a c shape and has a flat part for my arm! That was part of the reason I waited so long with getting one too but this one is amazing !
PharMeDoc Pregnancy Pillow... https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B07JR3T1G6?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Lataly Womens Sleeping Nursing Bra Wirefree Breastfeeding Maternity Bralette Pack of 5 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0717922NK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_CY1A0M1H259DGDHK8D4Z?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Here’s the nursing bras I use. They’re super comfy and supportive
I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you about your MIL. But I come with fashion advice! I bought this dress for a wedding last year before covid hit. Naturally I didn't get to wear it. I ended up wearing it for a wedding this year. I was about 6.5 months pregnant and it fit perfectly still . Its super stretchy. I have a picture in my posts of me wearing it.
I bought this one back when I was pregnant. It's decent quality, good coverage, and was super comfy. Lots of different patterns to choose from, too. Loved that my ginormous pregnancy boobs weren't hanging out but I still felt cute in it
I had nearly the same experience (I’m 28w now, second pregnancy, first viable). If it sets your mind at ease at all, my midwife told me the intense symptoms were higher hormones and a stronger pregnancy.
My biggest advice would be to just do things. Don’t ask in advance, because if she’s like me, she will say no. The biggest help my partner ever did was just to do the laundry, or cook dinner, so there wasn’t anything for me to do. And try to be conscious of your mess making. For example, picking up dirty clothes, wipe down the counters, load the dishwasher immediately. Anything that cuts down on the need for deep cleaning. That was the biggest support my partner gave.
As for the crying, I promise a lot of it is just hormones. Give her a big hug and tell her how beautiful she is, and how strong and wonderful she is. If you feel like a broken record, say it a few more times and you should be close to enough. Kidding but serious. It’s really hard to be an independent lady and suddenly be nearly helpless. And it really does help to just hear it over and over and over again.
Offer endless foot and back rubs. I have a long job on my feet but I also would not want to ask so my partner ended up just giving up and rubbing me anyway without asking if I wanted him to.
I hope any of this helps but also hang in there! The sickness gets better (around week 22 for me) and so do the backaches. I also highly a belly support band, you can order them on amazon. It’s saved my back.
Best Maternity Belt - Breathable... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075NDZP3F?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf
This is the one I have and it saved me.
I highly recommend these ones. I can still wear some of my normal pre-pregnancy underwear but these ones are just more comfortable!
that's pretty surprising, but i wouldn't count on Sally in HR to necessarily be the end-all-be-all voice on the matter. here's the form to appeal to get the enrollment window opened in Michigan.
I agree with your list ! Although I would add nipple cream (I'm sore all the time and can't put a bra on without agony)
Yes! The entire time (even from the first trimester, when I had severe morning sickness) I was like, how TF am I expected to work? How are women just doing this like it's no big deal?
Not to mention these lovely attitudes I encountered:
And yeah, everything you said about how it's "YOUR CHOICE" :facepalm:. Meanwhile, everyone's like WhY ArenT MiLleNnials HavIng BaBies?!
Yes, I am angry and I am not going to suppress it for the comfort of others lol.
I got a birthing gown on Amazon that I really liked. this pne specifically. Be prepared for a bunch of "why would you want to do that instead of just wear a hospital gown? It'll get all bloody!" Comments. This is like the most controversial question besides "can I eat a turkey sandwich?" In this subreddit lol. I hate hospital gowns. Theyre huge. They leave your ass exposed. They are so COLD. I wound up having to wear one when I needed an emergency c section in labor and was too exhausted to change back into my own clothes until the next day. I got to wear my birthing gown for 23 hours though lol
Ugh body pillows...they make me feel claustrophobic. I bought a wedge pillow (Brentwood Home Zuma Therapeutic... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DTZVLTW?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share) and sleep with this behind me, with a bunch of pillows stacked on top so I can sleep on my back on an incline. Way more comfortable and easier to get up and out of bed when I go pee 500 times per night.
For those on a smaller budget:
Leggings- ($7-$14) time&tru Walmart maternity the $7 are so comfy and I haven’t had any issues!
Shirts - ($9-$15)time&tru Walmart maternity
Nursing bra 3 pack - ($20) Lataly Womens Seamless Nursing Bra Sleeping Maternity Bralette for Breastfeeding https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DLMVSLB/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabc_aleQFbRCFQ05C?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
Underwear: Walmart maternity I forget the price but still cheaper
So basically Walmart lol and for dresses old navy clearance! Just needs that stretchy back. The list given is great but I didn’t have that kind of money to drop on clothes. So this is what I did.
I bought my husband the book "the expectant father the ultimate guide for dads-to-be" it is available on Amazon and is really informative.
It is a little different in that it focuses on how the partner can help and not accidently cause a fight, as well as giving a perspective as to how she is feeling and what is happening with the baby. I got myself the book "day by day pregnancy" it is like a massive text book and let's me have a little to read each day with tips and ideas to make the experience more pleasant.
Good luck, most of all you need to let her know that you are in this together.
That's an unfortunate reaction from your husband. He probably doesn't understand that being supportive means being proactive.
I was browsing Amazon today for some journals and landed on this https://www.amazon.ca/Dude-Youre-Gonna-Be-Dad/dp/1440505365. I'm tempted to get it for my husband this Father's day, but I'm not gonna lie, it's a bit of a gamble, given his reaction so far, though I'm hoping the humorous tone will lessen the blow of the "lessons". The fact that the author is a man might help with that (husband dealt a lot better with the news after he spoke with a newly minted dad about it).
I'm in love with my ruched dresses from liu and qu on Amazon.
Liu & Qu Women's Maternity... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07FF1PFTD?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
They hug the curves, aren't too long or short (5'4", short torso, longer legs), and make me feel cute pregnant instead of frumpy pregnant.
Size reference: I'm a very big-bellied 27 weeks, 150 lbs, 32FF, and a medium fits quite comfortably with room to grow, and it comes to just above my knees.
I found the book Expecting Better to be very useful when I was deciding what do's and don'ts I would adhere to among the insane amount of contradictory information.
The author explains her methodology well, too, and while I didn't agree w/ all of her conclusions (drinking alcohol every day seems like a stupid thing to do, so even if I was a drinker I'd have opted to ignore her science on that one), the info was overall helpful. Now, my husband is super paranoid and I'm not huge on lunch meat to begin with, so I don't make a habit of ordering cold cuts (or I nuke 'em if that's all there is to eat)...but knowing the science and risks, I would personally be okay with the relatively small risk associated with most lunch meats.
I agreed with her (and a lot of you in this thread) about how women are basically told a bunch of seemingly random shit that they need to do and are not given a good explanation for it--even if we follow up on the doc's orders with "But why?"
Additionally I like the website Evidence Based Birth. I recently read about how eating dates from 36 weeks on can help ripen the cervix. I went to that website and found their article on dates, and while the evidence on that isn't super strong, there was enough for me to decide to purchase a bag of dates. :)
I did that a lot too until my friend who went through fertility troubles for some years finally asked me what the hell I was doing buying so many tests individually instead of in bulk 😂
Edit: These are the tests I used. I got a positive at exactly 4 weeks pregnant (only a few days after a missed period) but I didn’t test sooner so I have no idea how early they would have worked!
I got this for $18 on Amazon. Not the best quality but who cares. Got several compliments on it
Maternity Floral Dress Sleeveless Midi Bodycon Dress, Beige Flower, Size Small https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D26NT64/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_GaLeEb3PC83Q6
The monitor I have has a color bar on the side that gets more red the louder the baby gets. Maybe a monitor w this type of option would work for you. Visually seeing you’re baby on the screen combined with the color bar may help you determine if baby is upset/ hungry or just getting comfy.
Infant Optics DXR-8 Video Baby Monitor with Interchangeable Optical Lens https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00ECHYTBI/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_OsqQBbDM322HA
Edit: I’m not hearing impaired I just thought this feature could be helpful to you.
My ex had great luck with a book from Allen Carr.
Best of luck to you little mama! I don't know when you started but I know it's a bitch to kick, as I've seen several of my friends from our rebellious teen years quit. All of them started around age 12 and quit in late 20s/30s. Stupid tobacco companies. There's hope though, none of them smoke now!
I'm not an expert, but in the beginning of pregnancy it's normal to feel some cramp-like pains - it's supposed to be the embryo implanting into the uterine wall. However, mine were mild, not severe.
So, you have insurance, you're just waiting for the card to set up an appointment? What I would do is call the insurance company and request your member ID, group #, and any other pertinent information. You can schedule an appt with the numbers.
Also, there should/might be low-cost or free clinics for prenatal care in your area. If you don't know where to start, look up your local Health Bureau and see what's available - or call your doctor's office and simply explain what's going on.
Or you can start here if you're in the US : https://www.healthcare.gov/community-health-centers/
Get the pillow.
I am 40w + 4d and I was a most of the time stomach sleeper before this. The pillow definitely helps, but there are obviously a ton of options. My husband got the boppy one and it was awful- too hard.
I got a different one that a friend recommended to me here : Leachco Snoogle
If you’re willing to splurge or when you’re ready for a major upgrade from a basic bidet you should get a bio bidet!
Purrfectzone Two Mode Bidet Sprayer for Toilet and Baby Cloth Diaper Sprayer, Handheld Bidet Sprayer for Toilet, Hand Held Bidet https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07RSTY8R2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_F78ZKKFYT33F9BYM0CGG?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I was a 32F pre-pregnancy (preferred to wear a 34E because I hate bands around my chest). I bought a large in this from Amazon during the 2nd trimester and then bought them in an XL during third as they kept growing and my discomfort level with anything tight on me became increasingly worse. They have a crap ton of hook adjustment levels so you can make them as tight or loose as you want.
This is the one I got LUXE Bidet Neo 185 (Elite) Non-Electric Bidet Toilet Attachment w/ Self-cleaning Dual Nozzle and Easy Water Pressure Adjustment for Sanitary and Femin https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00P2XZIP2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_MYQH4MsfdIHjN
I also quit drinking 3 years ago. I used alcohol to numb the pain. If you haven't checked it out already, I highly recommend Quit Like a Woman. I read it during pregnancy because my cravings came back with a vengeance - I think it was because my body felt like it was under attack. It helped me remember why I got sober and gave me some new, updated thinking around sobriety. You got this!
OXO Tot Perfect Pull Wipes Dispenser, Teal https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0771HG9JS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_GVA8PXQX75FVD9PD4WVN?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
A small item, but we use this multiple times a day. I got so irritated trying to pull the wipes out and I’d need 2 hands.
Also a lawyer! I ordered this black dress with 3/4 length sleeves from Seraphine, as well as this cheaper short-sleeve one from Amazon. Both look great with pre-pregnancy colored blazers or colored cardigans (for days I’m not in court). So that’s like 10 different outfits right there. Besides those two dresses, I also ordered two more cheap knee-length dresses, from SHEIN I think, in other solid colors, and I wear those with my black blazers. I do not own any maternity pants, as I find they’re really difficult especially with online shopping, and it’s much easier for me to just do dresses.
I have the same set up as you and I got a few things to help make space!
Long boxes for pants/swaddles/diapers
Celled storage for onesies/socks/shoes/everything else
I kind of Konmari fold everything so I can see what’s there and it’s uniform.
I have been able to fit A LOT of clothes and stuff in her dresser this way! Good luck!
I recommend you to read this book. The author challenged all the recommendations given to pregnant women and this an analysis of the scientific papers behind the decision. Sometimes, recommendations are based on studies done like 40 years ago with different technology. It will give you a much better idea of what you can and can't. Her goal is to explain you the risks and let you decide. 2 persons can read this book and have different conclusions.
We registered for this bassinet to use in our bedroom at the beginning and will keep the door to the nursery closed when baby sleeps in the crib.
We have two cats and want to do our best to keep them fully included in our lives and baby's life. I do consider the possibility of a snuggly kitty smothering baby. Although I think it's very unlikely, it only takes one time. Cats are very smart and it sounds like yours is a little demanding (like mine!) and knows how to get attention. I think it would be best to let him in the room and have your baby in a protected bassinet or a crib with a cover. But, it may take some experimenting after baby arrives to see what works.
A timed electric feeder could also be an option, so kitty gets food on time no matter how your schedule changes.
I'm so excited for my fur babies to meet our baby! ☺️
I got a good one from Amazon. It wasn't listed as a maternity suit, but was designed to conceal a tummy. Being this is my last preganancy I didn't want to spend a lot.
Hilor Women's Retro Drawstring Paisley Tankini Two Piece SwimSuit Blue Paisley 10
They usually give you a tub of like 50 at the hospital but you use about 3 per pad at the beginning so I found the same ones on amazon:
BIRCHWOOD LABORATORIES A-E-R Pre-Moistened Witch Hazel Pads, 80 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005TM10YE/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_wyB6BbVXKFVR9
I got this board book called My Dad is Amazing from Amazon for my SO from baby. The illustrations are so cute! I got the matching mom version at my work baby shower, and I think it'll be cool to have the dad version for hubs since he would feel dumb buying it for himself haha.
My moms friend sent them to me when I told them I was pregnant. Im sure you can find them at a health or vitamin store but she just got them off Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00C7XSHJ4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_2JKVDbFXW63MS these have a mint kind of flavor, such a life saver.
I’m sorry you are so sore & tired, that is super crappy. May I suggest some earplugs? I don’t love them, but if they mean I get some sleep I use them, I have pair sitting by the bed for the nights my partner’s snoring is really bad. Also not your job to ask the dr about your husband’s sleep test - send your husband off to the doctor, that’s the least he can do. As for the laces issue, I wonder if you can find some suitable zip up shoes, they might be easier to do up? I had a quick google, Amazon have a few options, these ones are super cool, may need to get myself a pair!! https://www.amazon.com/Geox-Womens-BLOMIEE-Fashion-Sneaker/dp/B07FDHP7VY/ref=mp_s_a_1_6?c=ts&dchild=1&keywords=Women%27s+Fashion+Sneakers&qid=1600092412&refinements=p_n_size_five_browse-vebin%3A3232501011&sr=8-6&ts_id=67939...
I hope things get better for you soon. x
Hi, I'm glad you are looking into all the pros and cons and making an informed decision for your baby... Reddit generally disagrees with circumcision, so I am a little bit afraid of posting this... Circumcising has been found to reduce prostate cancer. I used to think it was barbaric, I am not so sure anymore. I have linked some articles so you can have a read. You have to make a choice you are comfortable with for your baby.
Get onto your Nextdoor.com site for your neighborhood and ask if one of the neighbors could help you get groceries. Or call your local church. They typically won't care if you don't attend. Neighbors in rural areas usually are incredibly willing to help if they know you need it.
Actually it sounds about right. Pregnancy adds only a little calories but since you are more on the heavy side your body basic calories requirements are higher. The more we weight the more we need calories. Also it's not about eating when you hungry but more about macro and micronutrients. Meeting minimum intakes of protein fiber etc. My friend that is a doctor recommended me this calorie calculator since is better than basic BMI but you would have to add to it more calories per trimester. It also has different calculators including macro and micronutrients. https://www.omnicalculator.com/health/bmr-harris-benedict-equation
The most useful of all my pregnancy pillows is this wedge thing (see link below) that is connected via velcro, so you can adjust the velcro for when you/your bump is skinnier or thicker, so that the wedge is right under you bump and back, helping it not pull and strain your back. Also helping you not inadvertently roll onto your back. And when you roll to the other side, there is another wedge waiting in place to support your bump on that side too.
If you are going to roll onto your stomach even a bit, this pillow may allow/help you do that comfortably 🤷🏻♀️ It also has a lower profile than some other pregnancy pillows, which is nice, esp if it ends up being all you need.
U-Shaped Pregnancy Pillow... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08QFGZR9V?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
Baby Bum Brush, Original Diaper Rash Cream Applicator, Soft Flexible Silicone, Unique Gift, [Blue] https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LYQ53JW/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_AJ5RZQWV682Z5G4BYEXH
Limited-time deal: Kasa Smart Light Bulb KL110, LED Wi-Fi smart bulb works with Alexa and Google Home, A19 Dimmable, 2.4Ghz, No Hub Required, 800LM Soft White (2700K), 9W (60W Equivalent) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07G1PH3JL/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_dl_RDE250VW6GTYCHXDHRC9
These compression socks are fabulous. The link I shared is good for 25% off. I also recommend these cold socks. I'm almost 38 weeks and am on my feet at work for 8 hours and walk over 5 miles a day on hard tile floors. This combo is a game changer!
I found that a U-shaped pillow does nothing for me in terms of side sleeping. What helped me is this: Boppy Side Sleeper Pregnancy Pillow, Gray Falling Leaves https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08MW644QP/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_KHYM6C07NEHN55Z124HP
I have found these charcoal bags to be extremely helpful. We keep them in our cars and our house. And you can “recharge” them by putting them outside in the sun!
12 Pack Bamboo Charcoal Air Purifying Bag, Activated Charcoal Bags Odor Absorber, Moisture Absorber, Natural Car Air Freshener, Shoe Deodorizer, Odor Eliminators For Home, Pet, Closet (6x50g, 6x150g) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B082KC4JT2/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_RBN0FVS8YDWBEVZ501JH
actually, you can!
Enjoy belly sleeping!
Hi there! It's a bit of a minefield, but the good news is that crib mattresses needn't be expensive.
Make sure your chosen mattress is the correct size. The crib manual will state the required dimensions. Check the fit of a mattress by pushing it tight to one corner of the crib; gaps should not exceed 1 inch between the mattress and crib walls.
Ensure that the mattress is firm, firmer than what might feel comfortable to you. The firmness is what makes it safe. Terms like "breathable" are marketing terms, so don't worry about that, they're meaningless when it comes to safety regulations. For example, some crib bumpers say they're breathable, but they're unsafe (all crib bumpers are unsafe!). The Newton mattress says it's breathable and it's safe. "Breathable" gives no information about safety. The Newton mattress is no safer than a cheap Costco crib mattress, it's just marketed at a different price point.
No memory foam: "Smothering can occur when an infant is placed to sleep or rolls into a prone position on a surface capable of conforming to the infant's body or face. The AAP states a soft sleeping surface (e.g. memory foam) can increase the risk of rebreathing or suffocation and can create a pocket/indentation increasing the risk of suffocation."
This mattress is a very popular choice and safe.
Buy whatever is within your budget, as long as it's from a trusted retailer. I would avoid buying a used crib mattress, for a number of reasons, but primarily because the safety cannot be guaranteed.
Hey there! I use to get yeast infections WITH a UTI every 4-6 weeks as soon as I got pregnant. The burning from Monistat 3 the first night is totally uncomfortable but totally normal. It burns because it is literally killing the infection you have. I know it sucks but you have to give it a few hours before it goes away. Also, putting a pillow between your legs may help! If the pain is too bad, try Monistat 7 - more mild and less harsh. Just takes 4 days longer.
Now, I no longer get yeast infections or UTI's because I do the following:
Laundry - use sensitive skin laundry detergent like ALL for your underwear and pajamas.
Soap - use sensitive skin dove soap ONLY when you are washing down there. Deodorants and smell goods don't help the yeast infection at all.
Take a break from shaving. If you can, go a week without shaving or trimming down there. Less irritation.
CRANBERRY JUICE - I drink 2 small 8 oz glasses a day (evening and morning).
Probiotic pill - 25 million CFU. Take this pill every night before you go to bed. I swear, this will change your life. Here is a link: Renew Life #1 Women's Probiotics 25 Billion CFU Guaranteed, 12 Strains, Shelf Stable, Gluten Dairy & Soy Free, 30 Capsules, Feminine Health, Ultimate Flora Women's Care-60 Day Money Back Guarantee https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004ZNDFIW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_CXZKTFKEQZQ7Y7HEB6Q7?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
NO SEX or foreplay of any kind until you're healed. Also, wipe front to back but be gentle. Don't irritate the infection worse!
All this has helped me soooo much! I am now 12 weeks without a yeast infection or UTI. If you have any more questions, feel free to message me and I'll be happy to help! I hope you feel better because I know exactly how you feel. Stupid hormones 😔😢
I got one of these water bottles and it had really helped me! I fill it up in the morning and make sure I finish it before I go to bed. I know others in the medical field who have it and just leave it at their desk or locker and try to fill up in breaks. I usually have water from other sources too throughout the day, but I know if I finish this I’m getting ore than enough! (The motivational phrases are kind of kitchy but the time markers are super helpful.)
Expecting Better by Emily Oster put A LOT of our worries at ease. I highly suggest! I also found Mayo Clinic Guide To A Healthy Pregnancy very helpful- we use this more as a reference guide. We try our best not to google because it just sends us down a scary rabbit hole!
I live in an absolutely tiny apartment. I think we have something like 400 square feet. Sadly enough it's an upgrade from our last living space.
Almost eveything we have either folds, collapses, stacks, or nests. Any baby stuff we made sure is adjustable for multiple stages of development. We also make sure to "build up" and utilize as much space up high as we can. We also use a lot of wire shelving units with shelf covers to build adjustable storage customized to our spaces. I've even made cloth covers for some of the shelving units to keep kids out and make it look nicer.
Beds we use shikibuton and tatami mats. Floor sleeping takes some adjustment, but I've had a fewer aches and pains this pregnancy with the added support. Also no longer have to worry about the little one rolling out of bed. It's so nice to be able to reclaim the floor space during the day.
Previously we used a bunk bed and put a piece of plywood across the top bunk to create a lofted storage space.
We use a pack'n'play with bassinet for early on, and transition to floor beds when they're old enough. Got an adjustable stroller that doubles as a high chair. We got a foldable bouncer that was adjustable. Completely skipped the baby bathtub and just bathed out little one in the sink while he fit (was so much easier on my back too).
But the biggest thing I've learned in my tiny space living: you really don't need half the stuff people buy especially when babies are little. First couple of months are spent sleeping and eating, then you only need something the size of a blanket for them for a while, then a bouncer.
We also have let grandparents and others know that if they want to get anything big or lots of extra, it's going to need to stay at their house.
In my experience, it’s better to have one earlier on in labor than after hours of labor. I had one due to fetal distress. The pain of the incision is there, take the pain killers. They also cut through the nerves so in the weeks/months following, you might be really sensitive on your tummy below your belly button and above your incision. It took about 2.5 weeks for my incision/uterus/nerves to not be causing me constant pain/discomfort.
I have these undies and would highly suggest them for 1.5wks-on after your csec (got my normal size) and high waisted jeans or leggings. (I loved the Fridamom undies after I got home from the hospital, they were more comforting than the hospital ones). You don’t bleed nearly that much! Light pads are all you need!
Take all the painkillers, stool softeners, and anti-nausea meds.
The actual process is quite quick! Don’t be scared, the OBs do these regularly so they are well oiled machines and you will be in great hands!
Maternity Band/Maternity Belly Band, Pregnancy Support Band https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B079SWJSYC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glc_fabc_5jH-FbEWYYBVH
This is the band that I used into my 2nd trimester (it helped to keep my maternity leggings/jeans up around my belly until my belly was big enough to hold them on their own).
I started with a moderate B belly and it really bummed me out, but this band in combination with an actual maternity shirt really helped to round things out until my belly did naturally.
Congrats! Yes AC saved me during my first pregnancy! Also dresses I LIVED in these Amazon dresses!
I plan on living in them again this time
Oh but there is! Well, in the U.K. anyway. I saw the first one below at the weekend.
You’re welcome 😇😇😇
I got a few cute non-maternity maxi dresses from Amazon for about $15 or so and they are perfect! Basically any kind of maxi dress can be worn during and after pregnancy so that is my new go to. So much better than pants!!
RBwinner Women's Short Sleeve Maxi Dress With Pockets Plain Loose Swing Casual Floor Length Long Dresses https://www.amazon.com/dp/B078X6JTNY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_Ni66AbMQVAEXA
Edited to add a link of one dress in particular I love! Wish I could buy in every color!
Get a 25 pack on Amazon! Tests at the drug store are massively overpriced!
My mom friends recommended getting some relatively cheap nursing bras on Amazon before making any larger purchases. I got a 3-pack for about $25 or something -- and I love them. They're supportive without a wire, but also think enough to keep me modest. :)
Here's the link to what I got, they've been great for me! https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B077X71SN1/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
There’s a whole lululemon subreddit that has an excel spreadsheet for dupes with material matches, cut and style, etc. The align dupes are https://www.amazon.ca/CRZ-YOGA-Lightweight-Workout-Leggings/dp/B07DCRH2PH/ref=mp_s_a_1_4?dchild=1&keywords=crz+yoga&qid=1600892325&sr=8-4
My husband gave me this robe. It’s comfy now, and will be useful postpartum for breastfeeding
I would also recommend a Hydroflask or other insulated water bottle. Lots of water to be drank during pregnancy and postpartum!
Ok just a tip: if the bottle looks like this (link below) TRUST ME it tastes gross and don’t buy it, find other black currant syrup... Ribena Blackcurrant Concentrate, 28.74 Fluid Ounce https://www.amazon.com/dp/B010R3MOU8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_xWGLEb1CS9RF7
I take this stuff very seriously, since I only found out about the recipe change after buying a huge bottle on amazon...I don’t want anyone else to get burned!
I have been using Nature Made - Multi + DHA. To read more on DHA, just do a quick Google search.
I also take:
Solgar - Gentle Iron, 25 MG, 180 Vegetable Capsules
Bronson Organic Folic Acid, USDA Certified & Vegetarian, Ultimate Prenatal Vitamin, 360 Tablets
Any product that has a warning like energy drinks
Limit the amount of tuna because of Mercury and cold cuts meats and hotdogs Listeria
Also unpasteurized dairy or product made from it
Raw milk(straight from the animal) like
Cheese : Brie, feta, Camembert, Roquefort, blue-veined, queso blanco, queso fresco, and queso Panela.
Make sure you are getting enough calories for both of you, and folic acid
But talk to you Gynecologist they will better understand your needs
You got this! It might delay it a little, but it will come in. You might need to pump in the beginning to help increase your supply and encourage it to come in. Since you’re having a c-section, you’ll be in the hospital longer, which will allow you to get more time with location consultants - big help! I had a c-section, and this was my experience. I was able to breastfeed for 22 months. Breastfeeding is tough in the beginning, so give it two weeks if you can, and it should get easier and easier as the weeks/months pass. I highly recommend buying some of these:
Put them in the fridge, and use them after baby feeds. Cooling relief as your body gets used to breastfeeding!
Vitron-C is what my doctor recommended as it’s supposed to not cause constipation. I had good results with MegaFood Blood Builder and didn’t experience any constipation. I felt much better once I started taking it.
I use these, they taste like strawberry popsicles when you burp them up!
Nordic Naturals Prenatal DHA, Strawberry - 830 mg Omega-3 + 400 IU Vitamin D3-120 Soft Gels - Supports Brain Development in Babies During Pregnancy & Lactation - Non-GMO - 60 Servings https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079J5YZSS/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_QKCGRGD0FVR9SPVMVVCP?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
I got this around 24 weeks because even though I’m typically a stomach/side sleeper I was ending up on my back. It’s a lifesaver and having the arms is a godsend. I basically cross one over under my waist and have the other between my knees and I can tell you if you haven’t had pelvic pain yet, you’ll want something similar when you do!
Wipeable changing pad. The actual padded ones are pricier but we use this on top of a standard changing pad. Cheaper, transportable, and saves me from doing laundry. 10/10
PREGMATE 50 Pregnancy Test Strips (50 Count) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01H7P9Q5A/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_9BTVJNM1EG9GF03R3Z00
I struggled with conception (no birth control since 2015, but only two pregnancies), and my periods are extremely erratic, as in 2 to 3 times a year erratic. I never know when I should test, so I got these Pregmate Test strips on Amazon. A 50-pack is only $15. That way, I could test whenever I felt "off" or if I was going to a party and was planning on having more than one glass of wine.
They are just the color changing dipstick part without the extremely.overpriced plastic handle.
I got a great haul recently from Motherhood, and I think the sale is much better now. I also scored THE BEST shorts from amazon. They have a nice big over the belly support section (could be a little tighter but these are for just lounging/errands), and they have this little button on them that you can move around that lengthens the elastic at the top of the support, so you can make it bigger as you grow.
I have a snoogle and I'm not impressed. I have a boppy one from my first pregnancy and it's not bad, was my saving grace 7 years ago. My current favorite is this monstrosity
I got this one: QUEEN ROSE 65in Pregnancy Body... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07Q79N9H4?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
I need to sleep on an incline (thanks, reflux) so I put a pillow on the U bend, tuck one arm up and across at waist height to support my belly, lay down and tuck the other arm between my knees. It’s glorious.
I love having my little one next to me at night, but I faced the same dilemma. So the solution my Fiancee and I came up with was getting a packnplay with the bassinet insert, and changing table topper. I leave just enough room between it and my bed to swing me legs between so I can get up, and sit on the edge of my bed to change him. And I put little felt sliders on the feet, so I can easily pull it back closer if need be. The model I have was under 200 dollars, and I think we got it on sale for 110ish. And obviously it can continue to be used in the future as a travel bed or play pen. It also came with one of those little sleeper dome things. Link below
Graco Pack ‘n Play Travel Dome LX Playard | Features Portable Bassinet, Diaper Changer, and More, Redmond, Amazon Exclusive https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08C7KMMBL/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glt_fabc_GESC755AK7KTBRE3T6GB?psc=1
A probiotic! I was pretty constipated early on and tried all the things - prunes, fiber, etc, but once I started taking this https://www.amazon.com/Garden-Life-Formulated-Probiotics-Guaranteed/dp/B00Y8MP4G6/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=probiotics+for+women&qid=1626758255&sprefix=probiotic&sr=8-3 each day, I haven’t been constipated once and I’m now 33 weeks.
Oof that’s frustrating. Especially if you’ve for a sensitive nose (shudder)
Possible good thing to invest in: an automatic kitty litter box.
There are some versions that have prepackaged litter trays and others that allow you to add your own litter. The actual unit itself is a smidge pricey though. We were thankfully gifted ours.
This is the one we have (prepackaged litter)
(He still needs to clean it though :)
My husband purchased Caring for your Baby and Young Child it's put out by the American Academy of Pediatrics. I wasn't overly interested when he ordered it but it starts in the "Preparing for a new baby" stage through toddler years and appears to cover everything I could think of. Seems like a thorough resource.
I bought them off of Amazon. They were cheap and comfy as my boobs grew bigger and bigger.
I’m two months PP now and I’m starting to get my milk supply back (baby in the NICU, pumping sucks) and I had to buy more bras in a bigger size. I didn’t wanna spend a lot of money on bras yet since my boobs just have not stopped growing.
Here’s the bras I got:
HOFISH 3PACK Full Bust Seamless Nursing Maternity Bras Bralette S-XXL with Extra Bra Extenders & Clips https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EFNPD7W/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_18K466R19X99F131DRAZ
I don’t have the baby bjorn bouncer, but I do have a cheaper, “baby trend ez bouncer” that retails for around $40. She has just started getting into it at 6mo so it does take some time and your baby is young.
And there are other folding “knock off” versions of the baby bjorn one that I hear are basically the same: example personally I don’t think $275 is worth it for anything they use for such a short time, especially if they can’t sleep/be unattended in it.
Try these!! I had terrible constipation that started in first trimester and these saved me, I think I started with 2-3 and drank 8-12oz of water when I took them at night before bed and I was able to go the next day, pretty sure the first time I took them I had to take them for 2 days before it helped me go, after that I would only take 1 at night if I felt like I needed a boost but I can finally go normally again!!
nbpure Mag O7 Oxygen Digestive System Cleanse and Detox Capsules, 90 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000PKEJR0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_RXHW0J2E07B614BG9K2K?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
These are the only thing that got me through the first 20 weeks! I had one or two in every room of the house, one in my purse and a couple in my car!
Also the dissolvable zofran was a life saver. I could take the regular tablets later in the day but if I tried to take it first thing in the morning I would throw it back up the second the water hit my stomach. I’m currently 37 weeks and I still have to take my zofran before I get out of bed in the morning.
YES! Magnesium helped but goodness I don’t miss that feeling lol
Here’s the ones I used: the good stuff