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I really think you should check out the meetup app in the play store. There are many meetups of different interests & you can use the app to find out about them and find upcoming group meet ups to meet others. Then exchange numbers when you meet people at your local meetup groups. I've had really good luck with this. Good luck to you!
Honestly, you're going to hear this a lot but just get out there and do stuff. Social anxiety sucks, it's tough to break. The only way to break it is to put yourself out there.
Check out the app Meet Up and find some groups/activities youre into and go out to do them.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
In my area there's a free game night at a local library. Sometimes they have board games other nights it's old school Nintendo and Sega. Then on the other end of the spectrum there's a group that plans all these out door gatherings. Stuff like football games, kayaking, ect. Some are free some are $20-30. Either way there's a ton of stuff you can do for free/cheap and you'll meet new people that are into the same stuff.
If you're worried about transportation, you'll really just need to figure that out for the first few times you go. Bus, train, ride from your folks whatever works. I bet after a few times going you'll make friends who will be willing to drive you in the future.
Best of luck!
Eka steppi onnellisuuteen on lopettaa itsensä vertailu muihin ja muistaa, että se somepresenssi ei ole välttämättä totuus niiden muidenkaan elämästä. Aktiivinen yhteydenpito kavereihin ja ystäviin on itse pidettävä yllä eikä voi vain odottaa, että muut niin tekevät. Aikuisiällä uusien ystävien löytäminen on vaikeaa, se on totta. Seuraa kaipaavia ja yksinäisyyttä tuntevia on tällä hetkellä kuitenkin todella paljon kun some antaa todella valheellisen kuvan toisten elämästä ja etätyöt ja eristäytyminen aiheuttaa lisää yksinäisyyttä. Parhaiten seuraa löytyy harrastuksista ja niiden ihmisten joukosta joilla on samanhenkiset intressit.
Korona ei todellakaan helpota kenenkään elämää, eikä seuran löytämistä. Itse ajattelin viime vuonna kokeilla MeetUp appia jonkun r/suomen käyttäjän suosituksesta.... Ja sitten iski korona. Appi vaikuttaa ihan lupaavalta kyllä kun tapahtumia alkaa taas tulla. (https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup)
Tsemppiä!
Its an app where you form groups and host events (you can invite people from the group to these activities).
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup&hl=en_CA
Look at this guy, with a local comic book and game store.
In all seriousness though, if you're ALSO in a stupidly rural area without such a fancy shop, try apps like Meetup, your local library/community center, or local community college boards. Or Kijiji/Craigslist, if you're into that kind of thing!
If you are in the United States then download the app Meetup and search for buddhist group meetups in your local area.
Also search online for buddhist groups and temples in your local area. Put yourself out there.
I guess that you are already here but quick tips.. You can find english groups with the app Meetup, https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup&hl=en I usually attend to english boardgaming on wednesdays for example. Movies: In Yelmo Ideal all the films are original versión with spanish subtitles, If you have some questions or need comthing PM me.
There's an app called "Meetup" that may host events like these. If not, and you think that there's a demand for it, you can start your own.
I think there's quite an active community on there but never quite got involved myself. (I moved to Lund a year ago from the UK).
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup&hl=en
If you are up to meeting other people you could try Meetup. "Meetup makes community real. Our app helps you find groups of people meeting up in real life who share your interests." https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
Download and try an app called Meet-up. I will put the Google Play (Android) download link below:
Android:
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
This is a great app to find new friends according to the hobbies you like and it can definitely help with confidence because some of these groups meet up regularly so naturally it will build your confidence. This app actually has speed dating and singles night groups with people your age as well as other social groups to help you meet potential girls and friends. I hope this helps!
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
It's just called Meetup. Been doing Board games, Kayaking, Kick ball and such. Tomorrow I got Cedar Point meet up and I'm driving 2 with two strangers for 2 hrs. Nobody really serious, however, I am starting to see the same faces. Might be something.
Tjena! Vill du gå ut och ta en öl så går jag ut varje Tisday med en grupp genom MeetUp. Hämta appen och gå med gruppen som heter Göteborg Socials And Afterwork Group. Några dagar innan Tisdag kommer det finnas som ett event att acceptera.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
When I had ro move out of town for school, this was an absolute game changer, feel free to dm me too! Maybe we could go to a meet up together!
I'd really recommend the Meetup app. There's tonnes of groups for 20s and 30s around Christchurch, along with several more for specific activities.
You might want to use the "Meetup" app as well:
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You can greate groups, events etc. You could greate a group/event once a week for some sort of fitness meetup, talk to people in your group about your interests, etc.
For example, recently I saw a group that wanted to meet up in café's and talk, trying to find the best beers or something...
Hi, I'm sorry you've had to go through this. Definitely take some time to heal before jumping back into dating. I'm going to PM you a few links that might be helpful.
If you're looking to connect with me people, I'd suggest the meetup app.
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
Also Facebook has an events section where you can find in person and virtual events in your area.
Check out Meetup. Name any topic you're interested in (video games, sports, movies, whatever) and you'll find groups that meet to talk about it or do it
You can try using Meetup to find activities to do in a group. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
You can join groups that do things interesting to you. Most good ones have events usually on a weekly or monthly basis.
An alternative approach might be to take a look at the Meetup app or website.
There you should be able to find a boardgame group local to you. At the moment the group is likely to be meeting online so you can join in with that. When face to face gaming meetups resume you'll be able to start gaming in person with them.
This approach prioritises the finding of a group over finding the ideal game - something that you can do over time whilst playing a variety of games with your group.
Good luck.
Just an app to check out random groups in Pune which Meetup to hold activities based on common interests, in this case, play football.
Here's the link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
I talked to my son about it, and he's somewhat hesitant to invite a new person into his d&d group. They've struggled for years to get the right mix and don't want to jeapordize it.
He's really shy, and I don't want to force him into anything. All I can do at this point is tell him how disappointed I am that he refuses to be a good samaritan, but I understand his point of view.
The best recommendation I can offer is to use the Meetup app to find like-minded groups in the valley.
I wish you all the best and hope you end up with lots of good friends in the next few months
Try this app here. The whole thing is meant to meet new friends in your area. It is a site where a leader makes a plan, and you can sign up to go. Everyone is there with the intention to meet new people
Get involved in tech community meet ups ( https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup ). Can't find any tech meetups in your local area? Can't find any in your area of expertise, then join one that helps expand your experience to something new. Or start your own group in your area of expertise.
Go to seminars/conferences. Meet new people. Talk with them. Tell them that you are looking for a job. Tell friends, ask your friends to tell their friends and family that you are looking for a job. Network with people as much as you can.
Good luck!
By the way, what tech/programming skills do you have?
> doing it on my own is intimidating
This is a hurdle you need to jump over if you want literally anything to improve in your life. I'm not kidding when I say that - you need to be able to enjoy your own company before you can expect anyone else to do the same. It doesn't matter if you think you're nice or fun or funny - if you're uncomfortable going out and doing events by yourself, then other people will sense that. To put it simply: you are the person you spend 100% of your time with, so you should be good company.
I say all that since it's the paradox of relationships - in order to find a relationship, you need to want to be single instead, meaning you need to enjoy being single. If you're happy, you'll attract happy people, and the more people you attract, the more likely you'll find someone who likes you (dating is a numbers game - more attempts means more chances at success).
Of course, enjoying your own company is just one part of it. The other part is putting yourself out there - you actually have to go out and do things by yourself. Honestly, I struggled with this myself. I couldn't even go to a movie by myself without feeling like a pathetic loser. But then one day I said fuck it and just did it.. and it wasn't so bad. Then I did it again, and it wasn't that bad. Then I did it more often, and I learned to see the appeal - to recognize and enjoy the benefits of it.
You can do the same thing. Start small with doing things by yourself and work your way up. I'd recommend trying meetup.org (or an app called Meetup). It shows you events going on nearby that anyone can attend. The goal is to get strangers to gather and do something fun together and also meet each other and maybe make friends. The frequency and variety of events is highly dependent on location, but I'd say it's worth a shot.
And, for the record, I didn't have my first date (or kiss or boob touch) till age 22. So you're really not falling behind - you're doing just fine. The only way to lose is if you give up.
Try Meetup to meet new people
Lookup UVPM group on the meetup app. Solid group. Great support. With lots of people who have gone through what you’re going through. Great place to safely ask for advice.
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Here is the app for iOS.
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/meetup-local-groups-events/id375990038
App for google play https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
You can try Meetup. It finds lots of local groups and activities, even lgbtq ones.
Danke, ich habe den Android version gefunden!
Here. The group is called Colmbus Sports on Social
MeetUp does this.
Check out "Meetup" https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
People put together DnD games in my area using this app
There's an app too. Someone linked it in another comment.
Download the Meetup app and search for VR, virtual reality, Unity3D, Rift, or Oculus or in those cities.
Yes it's a downloaded app. I think you can use it on a computer too. Here's the Android version link.
Check out the Tuesday afterwork events on Meetup. A lot of people using it are also new to Gothenburg, and we are all super friendly :D
Thanks for sharing this experience you're living in.
When you are ready, you will have to make some heavy decisions that will be both beneficial and painful. In the meantime, can I recommend a few alternatives to help you cope with living in an environment you cannot change?
Walking as recommended earlier is a great start. If you need help with motivation, there's a bunch of apps and the r/fitness group on Reddit that can also support you, or maybe other people from the Haitian community who are close to your age with similar interests? There's also the MeetUp app where there are many groups of regular people doing so many different things like group walking tours to the Toasters club for public speaking to people who share and discuss rocks.
Get yourself a pair of noise cancelling earbuds or headset. This should help while you're working on finding your peace while at home.
Also try to get some shaded glasses to wear in the house and to avoid more conflict you might not be able to face at this time.
If and when you have the capacity for it, help your mother organise all the items she collects to make room for you all to navigate with more freedom in your space. It also possible that some items need to be discarded or repacked, depending on how long ago they were purchased or if they're stacked to high and too heavy. That might also be a bit of physical exercise.
Another if you have the capacity for, the mold might exist for lots of reasons, like for instance having too much humidity in the air. Keep some windows open more often, see if it changes anything... Does the mold dry up or stay moist? This might help to find out more about this.
Another thing to be mindful of is your mother's health. As a newly retired person, there might be a challenge to adjust. So as this is happening, she is older and even though she's your mother, you might want to start seeing her as an elderly person. She needs you to be patient, and understanding. It's hard, but doable. Also ask your sister to help you with your mom even from Haiti, she might have a different relationship with her being away where she might have some other way to communicate and help you with your experience at home.
As for school, considering how costly it is to go to a 4year program abroad in the US, I would STRONGLY RECOMMEND applying to a Canadian university in Montreal (biggest Haitian community in Canada) or in Nova Scotia ( strong black community) where you can afford more for the same price and often even less. You can also apply to programs in Europe where I'm 100% sure you will live a healthier lifestyle, since it's much older, most major cities have a great public transportation network and walking or biking in these cities is really a blast.
And lastly, as someone who experiences challenges as a first born immigrant, you have the power to come out of this stronger and be able to handle much more than your peers. My siblings and I worked through it by being able to talk about it and also finding activities outside of work and school to keep us busy and discovering your other opportunities and meeting new people. You're doing great!
This was a long message, hope it's helpful and may your current challenges be accomplished with ease.
Yo de igual manera uso esos dos. Yo agregaría Meetup a la lista. Si tienes Android este es el link de descarga:
Heard this works: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup
Don't worry MagickGurl, it gets better over time! One of the best ways to get over shyness is to start talking to others about the things you already are passionate and knowledgeable about. I'll list some ideas below and please let me know if there are any issues with some of the Android links listed (my device may have different access).
Local Events:
Meetup.com (as many here have stated.)
Lean In Circles (female-centric)
Talks:
Multicultural & Social Justice:
Federation of the Islamic Associations of New Zealand - FIANZ's Islamic Centres Directory
Auckland Unitarian Church - Calendar of Events (a progressive and welcoming faith community.)
Traveling:
Platonic/Language Exchange:
Tandem (can be filtered to location.)
Dating:
> looks like a torrent at the link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.meetup